Why are covert narcs so dangerous (male or female)

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  • čas přidán 13. 04. 2022
  • Female and male covet narcissists can be very dangerous because you don’t see them coming. You don’t realize what they are until you are already hooked or trauma bonded. They are wolves in sheeps clothing.

Komentáře • 23

  • @filsed
    @filsed Před 2 lety +4

    Totally. She was showing anger with a smile. My brain could not comprehend it.

  • @andre1987eph
    @andre1987eph Před 2 lety +8

    what u learned with your ex, applies to all of life. there are 2 Kingdoms. Kingdom of light and kingdom of darkness. likewise it's very difficult to discern the Kingdom of darkness in everyday life just as it takes many years or decades to understand covert narcissists

  • @shadowmoses0022
    @shadowmoses0022 Před 2 lety +5

    I am a survivor of a narcissistic relationship. Was discarded last 2 years ago from a 2 year relationship with a covert narc ex. Your videos were one of the few i found that helped me. Especially awareness on neglectful narc and narcs during sex.
    I genuinely felt i owe you and your channel to thank you for the content that you do and the knowledge you shared and for being you. 2 years ago was dark place, brain washed even as my psychotherapist said. I was not myself and lost myself from the conditioning and emotional/sexual abuse enduring from a narc ex. Before i got in to actual therapy/cbt.. your videos and information were my crutch in those times i cannot trust my perception of myself, love, trust of self/others and the world.
    2 years later.. after therapy and binging content like yours. I can function and live in normalcy. No longer having to prove someones projection of me to justice. No more fights out of nowhere. No more put downs. No more devaluing me sexually and physically. No more gaslighting. No more having to deal with inconsistent truths and inauthentic characters.
    Thank you, coach Kat. I can trust reality now. My sub indefinitely. Greetings and mabuhay from the the Philippines.

  • @monteblazilla7776
    @monteblazilla7776 Před 3 měsíci

    She had me thinking we was soul mates before I knew it I was caught up in her web for 5 years. All of what you’re saying is so true!!!

  • @collie8
    @collie8 Před 2 lety +3

    even overts play this game of appearance of being harmless and cooperative. Like a spiders, once they get you in the net … 🍄

  • @newman7910
    @newman7910 Před 2 lety +3

    You just literally described my relationship with a covert for 3 decades.

  • @coreyanderson7424
    @coreyanderson7424 Před rokem +2

    I want to say that there are some Vulnerable Narcissists who are not shy. Some can be outgoing at times, and I think it's because introversion itself probably exists on a scale, so some introverts are more or less introverted than others. For example, I have run into both. But something I've learned is that probably the earliest red flag of a Narcissist, including Vulnerable Narcissists, is unhealthy boundaries. For example, overdisclosing, being over eager to present herself (or maybe himself) as a really nice, friendly, "empathetic " person. Maybe some lovebombing, though it may be more subtle with Vulnerable types. So watch out for that. If someone challenges the Vulnerable Narcissist in any way, then the Vulnerable Narcissist may start to show her true colors more.

  • @1984musicman
    @1984musicman Před 2 lety +3

    Holy smokes we dated the same person. J can't get over the accuracy of your content. Thank you!!

  • @Lunabren1
    @Lunabren1 Před rokem +1

    I was in a 2 yr relationship with a Narc. Discarded 2 months ago. I caught him cheating broke up with him and immediately went into no contact. I didn't even know anything about NPD. You decibed him to a T in this video. I thought he was on the spectrum too and that he was coming out of a toxic relationship that he just didn't know how to open up. So my response was to be more patient and giving to him smh ...I wouldn't have known if it wasn't for the women he cheated on me with. She told me he was a Narc. Now she is his second supply. He is good a covert narc, had me and is now fooling her too. But that is no longer my business if she chose to believe his lies.
    I look back at my relationship and realized it was not real. Even found out after the discard that he is still legally married to who he called " his crazy ,loser ex". I have dived completely into learning as much as I can about NPD. Been actively working on me and healing myself. Jammed packed my schedule with activities I love to do. I have joined a dance company and met a lot of like minded individuals. My faith is strong and I know I will get through this. I have been watching all your videos and I just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and validating our experiences, because I have to be honest sometimes I question my reality.

  • @donnas.1576
    @donnas.1576 Před rokem +1

    Spot on. It's uncanny. Ended a 35-year marriage with the person you described. My reaction to him was similar as well. Your insight is so validating. Thank you!

  • @Eleniexp
    @Eleniexp Před rokem +2

    I THOUGHT MINE HAD AUTISM TOO I EVEN TOLD HIM THAT. NOPE WAS NOT THAT OMGG

    • @Eleniexp
      @Eleniexp Před rokem

      These type of covert narcissists need to be STUDIED

  • @mykedoes4099
    @mykedoes4099 Před 2 lety +5

    People or persons have empathy , it is symantecly incorrect to call a NARC a person.

  • @Vxruxxss
    @Vxruxxss Před 2 měsíci

    This is exactly what happened to my ex bestfriend of 17 years. Evil serpent. I knew something was wrong but I thought it was because of her abuse

  • @meloneymoore8856
    @meloneymoore8856 Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you for pointing this out and explaining this ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon

  • @isabellepersic4396
    @isabellepersic4396 Před 11 měsíci +2

    that higher Power is Jesus...God bless you sweetie

  • @dineend8335
    @dineend8335 Před rokem

    Your videos are excellent. Good info, and you explain it in a clear easy to understand way.

  • @Hopper11
    @Hopper11 Před měsícem

    Very helpful. Thank you🤗

  • @mykedoes4099
    @mykedoes4099 Před 2 lety +2

    call them sapient

  • @jessluck6583
    @jessluck6583 Před rokem +2

    I thought mine had autism too.

    • @Theloversconjure
      @Theloversconjure Před rokem

      Same thing here. I actually asked a psychologist I know if there was a link between narcissism and autism because I thought for sure he was autistic. Turns out he’s just a demon.

  • @breakpad9876
    @breakpad9876 Před 2 lety +1

    👍