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0:00 Intro
0:08 Accidental engagement
2:10 Step out then
4:21 Terrible dude
5:44 Comment
6:20 Ghosted
10:58 Top comment
12:02 Farted on a date guys side
14:01 Girls perspective
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I (F) accidentally got engaged. He asked indirectly if I wanted to get engaged. After clarifying “You want to get engaged?” He nodded. I was going to say, “I can agree to consider it.” He heard “I can agree,” then jumped up and said, “Let’s go get some rings.” We got married 8 months later. Married six years now. 🤷🏻♀️ I guess that’s how two introverts get married.
Yall came to a mutual understanding lmao
My husband got on one knee and didn't say anything 😂 I just took the ring and cried yes
Do you regret being married to one another in your lives?
@@paxhumana2015 No regrets. He’s the sweetest 😊
"how two introverts get married."... THIS IS ADORABLE. I'm so glad you're both happy, and congrats on the marriage.
He technically didn't accidentally marry her tho. He accidentally proposed to her but intentionally married her.
That's so much more adorable when it's phrased that way. He should have used that sentence when talking to her about it lol.
@@Amarianee Yup.
"You're married, now what?"
OP probably: "I don't know, I never thought I'd get this far."
Lol
True
Me: "It was all a part of my plan all along".
Read that in Plankton's voice
He just went with the flow for the next 15 years.
The lesbian woman should RUN from that creep.
I am a woman, I have male friends but we never kiss, touch, hug. It is inappropriate. hell I don't do those things even with the girls. Because it is weird to have your friend be like "were are my hugs and kisses?"
It's odd for both men and women friends to do that. I'm a woman and I had a frienmmy who would flirt with me and make inappropriate comments towards me. I never asked her if she was flirting with me because I was young and couldn't tell when someone was flirting with me.
Looking back, I know she was flirting with me. Also I'm not a lesbian.....
Where*
My friend group does occasional hugging but yeah, she needs to GTFO
@@Richard_Nickersonare you my sixth grade math teacher?
I think that's just a cultural difference, in Brasil (and if I'm not mistaken in other Latin countries too) kissing and hugging your friends and family is quite common and socially acceptable, expected even
I don't like touching cause of my autism, so I'm usually the one out that doesn't hug or kiss others, but I understand it's just a cultural thing and it's not cause I don't like it that it suddenly becomes inappropriate
Ps: male friends do hug and depending on the friend circle they might even kiss, although the latter is more uncommon
Last OP: "I'd been having gas problems all day for some reason."
Also OP: *orders bean soup as part of the meal*
Hmm.
Not only is he lying to the girl, but he's lying to himself and lying in this post to us.
@@GoinBand2yeah I’m not sure what happened I had some beans and toast for dinner because i didn’t want to cook after work, and suddenly I kept hearing random fart sounds the next day, it was so odd.
The only issue here was that the guy panicked and lied. For fs it’s a fart. I’m sure that a large number of people fart accidentally. At least he wasn’t purposely hotboxed with a massive stinker of a fart (which legitimately traumatized me) 😆
@@e.anthony9779 I think it would have been understandable if he denied it was him and left it at that, but he went on and on and made a giant dlck of himself. He sounds uncouth and unable to read a room.
@@It-is-me...Melsie he was screaming "it wasn't me!" so loud that the whole room was looking at him. like jesus dude, stop please.
I thought first story was something that happened recently but fact it was 15 years and they're still married makes it even funnier
Vaguely reminds me of those jokes where stories go on, seems to start to wrap up before suddenly ending with “we now have kids”
Accidents like these make the best marrages haha
Guy: so what made you propose?
OP: She said YES! The restaurant clapped, we got champagne
Guy: no not what happened when you proposed. Why and how?
Guy: no that’s why.
Wow
The "Ghosted" story. Pretty sure the dude got himself an affair opportunity, went for it, tried for a couple of weeks, didn't work out as he imagined, and crawled back home.
Also the fact he isn't on talking terms with the friend that arranged him the job. Bet how much he screwed up on the job big time, hence why he was fired, and the friend is mad at him because he very likely vouched for him to get the job, and got in trouble himself?
Yeah and he only went to see OP and try to get back together because he didn't have anyone else
Yeah, he thought the grass would be greener elsewhere. He'll do it again given the opportunity.
if i was OP i wouldn't get back together with him. what happens if they get married and have kids and he panics again? is he going to ghost her again? he didn't contact her once in over a month, that is just not done. she should dump him and move on.
Plus, if everything he's saying is true, then he probably went to his ex-friend first and asked him what to do, and then his ex-friend gaslit him into doing everything he said.
I’m a lesbian! My best friends are a married couple- a straight man and a bi woman. My straight male best friend and I are super physically affectionate- lots of hugs and I love to give him kisses on the top of his head because I love him! Basically, I give him similar physical affection to what I give my little brother, if that helps contextualize it. However, this came after YEARS of discussing boundaries of physical affection and building our friendship and even living together. I also treat his wife the exact same way- hugs and head/cheek kisses bc i love my homies. There is a MASSIVE difference between mutual physical affection between friends and unwanted advances. Your average first grader knows that.
Exactly. If she's uncomfortable with the level of affection he's putting out, he should stop. Regardless of the context. She doesn't have to "get used to it". That bothers me.
You kiss your brother? Okay, Leia.
As a straight male, I treat my best male friend the same way I treat my gf (outside of sex). Kiss touch... it is funny how lot of people look when you lip kiss 2 personnes in less than 5s in public. But no homo (and true story)
Yeah, it’s about how little respect he had for her boundaries and how he tried to justify it all. I’m straight and wouldn’t be a bit happier if some guy I wasn’t interested in decided he had the right to put his hands on me, much less his lips. He’s into her and can’t accept reality, and it would be true even if she was straight. And if she really was cutting herself off from men, he’s gotta be one reason why.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa not all kissess need to be lip kissess, weirdo
"I was already feeling gassy, so I ordered bean soup. I obviously farted and obviously lied about it. Why did she leave the date!?"
Self-awareness level: that awful Chip 'N Dale movie.
I think we can say the guy blew it.
Yeah, it's not like there's anything you can buy at literally any store for gassiness. His being extra idiotic by getting bean soup of all things, just shows how much he's not ready to date.
I don’t blame him. Gastric intenstinal functions happen.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa
I'm not 5, so I haven't seen it
Story 3: Speaking from my own anecdotal experience as a woman with many men as friends, they barely touch me and never kiss me. Any physical contact more than a touch to get my attention is always initiated by me, and I know my friends well enough to know when they are receptive to it.
This guy is just a creep.
This guy is just a rapist waiting to happen. He obviously doesnt respect boundaries and gives less than two shits about consent.
yeah that gave me icky vibes too
I don't understand how he thinks that what he's doing is ok. I really hope she ends up decking his creepy ass.
Yep. I've got two lesbian friends myself. I get hugs, but they initiate them. Part of being a good friend is respect.
I mean if she said she is uncomfortable with it then I agree but kissing and hugging is very common in some cultures like mine
On story 1 and the comment of “who wouldn’t think they’re proposing with a ring?”
My husband (28m) and I (32f) have been friends for over a decade. We started dating in April 2020.
One day, six months later, my (then boyfriend) husband sat me down and told me he got me something but it hadn’t arrived so he was going to show me a picture. He showed me a picture of an engagement ring and asked what I thought.
I, oblivious, said “oh that’s pretty! Thank you!!” He asked me if I knew what it was and I said “yeah…. It’s a really pretty ring.”
He, confused, kept asking if I knew what it was and what it meant. We argued for a few minutes before he finally grabbed my hands and said “WOMAN. That’s an engagement ring!! I’m proposing!!” To which I replied “…no you’re not!! This isn’t funny!! If this is a joke I swear to god I’ll kill you!!”
He looked me in the eyes and said it wasn’t a joke and asked me to marry him. I said yes.
Three weeks later, he calls me to ask if he can come over because he lost some medicine at my apartment. We looked all over before he finally said he didn’t lose it, got on one knee and properly proposed with the ring… my response was “ wtf we already did this, I said yes!! I can’t believe you lied to me about your meds!!”
We’ve been happily married for almost three years😂😂😂😂
I too would think it's just a nice gift and not assume proposal. You know what they say about assuming, you accidentally get married that way. 😅
You dense avocado, I hope during the wedding (if that's what you ended up doing) he brought up along the lines "I loved my wife so much I proposed twice to make sure she understood my feelings."
/Lh
You sound like an absolutely hilarious and adorable couple.
I went "six months? Whoa." but then reread the "friends for a decade" part, and I can relate. My partner and I became a couple after being friends for two years, and turns out various people already thought we were dating. We started saying "I love you" almost immediately. When he first said it to me I went "wait. That's illegal." _We're in eleventh grade! How can something sound so wrong but feel so right?_ Turns out I was completely wrong; kids CAN fall in love and it CAN be real. In hindsight, it was right because we had done the falling in love part already. We fell in love and then realized we should start dating, not the other way around.
3:47 Rslash: "We've been married for eight years, together for two."
Me: ... ??? /pauses video/
Text: "married for 8 years, together for 12." Ahhh, more better. lol
Someone tried to convince me that Slashy does retakes... I'm like, if _these_ are the retakes? But seriously, it's not like he makes unforgivable mistakes every sentence, he just makes a few, like anyone would.
He should do retakes.
WhenI I read a story to someone and read something wrong that just puts things in a different order I keep it. But crucial information? In a format that most people just listen? At least say - err, sorry, 12 years - continue.
I'm ashamed to admit I used to think like the guy in the lesbian story. This dude is trying to gaslight her into thinking she's not actually gay so that she'll sleep with him. What a creep.
Exactly. Sure, the mindset and behavior are shameful. But you’ve clearly grown and matured as a person. And that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I feel like many men don’t outgrow that mindset unfortunately.
Yeah, it sounds to me like he wants to "convert a lesbian" and he is "the right guy" who can do it especially as he keeps talking about wanting to "help" her somehow.
I myself have had to unlearn a lot of subconscious bigotry (Christian conservative family unfortunately) and accept my bisexuality. But it has made me a genuinely better person.
"I'd never give a diamond that small and upgraded for a modern engagement" Always get a kick out of people putting so much importance on the size of a rock or cost of the ring.
Rocks that actually don't have the value we've given them. They are NOT rare. They should NOT cost so much. And the very idea of an engagement ring is only about 100 years old to begin with! It's not even the tradition people think it is!
The "tradition" of paying two months' salary for an engagement ring was made up out of thin air by DeBeers.
Actually, IIRC, the entire concept of engagement rings was made up out of thin air by DeBeers.
I don't want a diamond when I get engaged! I want black tourmaline for my ring. It's less expensive and very pretty!
Mine is sterling silver with lab-grown emerald and white sapphire. I helped choose it and it was definitely not expensive. I ❤ it.
My wife wanted me to save up our money for a house not a diamond. With the first income tax refund check after buying a house we went to a customer (diamo d broker) of hers business and although the near 1 carat ring it is very high quality. I have heard stories of a 4 carat diamond so full of impurities that hitting against a table could break it.
Hey rSlash, I'm a polyamorous person and that's just normal relationship talk. Asking your partners what your future together will look like should be included in every relationship
True, but there are guys who are not raised that way. Like, they were babied or whatever to the point they gets scared by basic idea of more maturity or more responsibility...
I think this is anxiety striking hard. For some people, anxiety is when they knew exactly what is right or wrong or legal or illegal, but when hit by anxiety, idiocy triumps and most cases you just do it without thinking or realizing what you did...
I think that girl and boy need to go to a therapy, it'll be difficult if they are just gonna move on after what happened. The guy deserves the chance to prove if he is willing to change or he is just a pure childish ah...
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Story 2: OP sounded like a creep RIGHT OFF THE BAT. "I kiss her, touch her, hug her" OP KNOWS she isn't comfortable with that. What a disgusting take from that guy.
As someone who's ACE, if anyone tried this with me, thinking, "I can cure your sexuality," I'd be calling them out for sexual harassment. This guy seems to make it like he's trying to turn the friend straight.
I'm disgusted by this story. That OP is an AH. Also, using the period? WTFH do some men not understand biology at all!?
That was story three
That’s story 3, friend 😑 that said, you’re correct in your assessment
He's so gross and so full of himself. He seems to think that just because she's rejecting him she is rejecting half the population.
I'm sorry that guy who never had a job did not move halfway across the country to a job and then fail at it.... he was cheating....
Yup. And now that no one else will deal with his nonsense, he'll cling to her like a barnacle.
Ghosted: Communication is important for anything, if he felt that things were moving too fast for him with OP's questions, then he could've just said so instead of leaving without a warning and making OP fear the worst.
And yeah I agree that he would have never come back had his job succeeded, so it pretty much is a break-up.
As for the friend, assuming OP's should-be-ex BF is telling the truth, shame on them
The ghosted story makes me so mad on her behalf but she seemed so desperate to get him back in the first half, I hope she leaves him bc if you think talking abt marriage is too fast after being together for 7 years then it’s not too fast he just doesn’t want to
@@iridescentsolace Yes, I don't think she realises yet that he's just not a good person and doesn't really care about her feelings. He just does what he does for himself and thought the grass would be greener elsewhere, and didn't even look back nor wonder how she'd be feeling.
He will do it again and even if he's with her he'll never really be there for her.
Story 3 100% comes across as him trying to train the "lesbianism" out of her. Him feeling entitled to touching and kissing her when shes expressed she doesn't like it, insisting she NEEDS a male presence in her life for vague reasons, talking about "her opinion" being wrong without really stating what opinion is wrong to him, a sprinkle of anti-feminism and then that period msinformation. All hes missing is "lesbian relationships are actually more likely to be abusive than straight ones!" and he'd have checked all the boxes for an incel that thinks sexuality is a choice and he can "cure" her.
The "opinion" is most likely not about her clearly established boundaries but whether or not being LGBTQ+ is a choice. Hes just trying to be sneaky and dog whistling in the hopes of getting advice on how to gaslight her so he can continue this conditioning behavior.
The dude is a weirdo
And the infantilisation of "I know better, she doesn't know she needs me so I won't listen to her denials and persist until she settles down" as if she were a feral cat that doesn't want to be pet and doesn't know you mean well. She's a grown adult that *he* can't decide a thing for, including that she _needs_ his touch for her "health". Barf.
My sister got accidently married also! One night on a date her and hubby were joking around with onion rings. I think they'd only been dating a few months at this point. Well she snapped a pic of an OINON RING on her finger and jokingly posted it to fb! EVERY ONE stared to congratulate them! So they decided why not? they were happy! and so soon after she received a real ring and they've been happily married for almost 8 years now? They have 2 beautiful kids and are still very much in love! also they had onion rings served as an appetizer at the weeding since it WAS the reason they got hitched! 🤣
Yet another thing the Simpsons successfully predicted.
Incel story: Wow,thats some top tier r/incel,alpha male BS, or r/niceguy. I met a woman who is a lesbian,I just said cool and kept being friends.
My dad tried to give my mom a promise ring, intending to buy her an expensive engagement ring when he saved up enough money. My mom, knowing he wasn't from a rich family and didn't have a lot of money, purposefully "misunderstood" and said she would marry him. They are still happily married over 25 years later, with 6 kids
that last story, to answer his question: yes, you should've taken ownership of the fart. i won't deny ripping a gnarly toot here and there the stench of which rivals animal corpses at the farthest back reaches of our property. however, being so insecure about flatulence that you leave voicemails trying to say it was the chair? i cannot blame that gal for leaving.
Lol
I don’t blame bro. He was embarrassed.
@@IamtheSpy2005 I think they both lying for real
A lesbian here! I don't have any close male friends, haven't had since I was a teenager, and I'm doing very well. I don't want my female friends kissing me, and I definitely don't want ANY men kissing me. That's kinda the point of being a lesbian. To be clear, I'm not avoiding "half the population", and I could have male friends, just don't happen to have them.
As a girl, i do kiss my female friends on their cheeks n stuff. Bc i lowkey wanna date them but theyre straight so i cant. (Theyre fine with it)
I really really cant imagine a friendship so strong that a guy would kiss their women friends in a platonic way? Siblings sure, but are we for sure certain he doesnt have a thing for lesbian women..??
@@LuciusLucius As a Finn I could never imagine kissing my family members 😂 And that's how it feels with my friends: it would be like kissing a sister.
@@j3ssijee i kiss my brothers n stuff on the cheek or forehead. Obviously not on the lips or anywhere intimate 😭😭
@@LuciusLucius We peeps in the Nordic countries barely do that 😅
@@Ikajo and thats totally fine !
Story 3:OP,you are 100% down bad for that woman,Leave her alone or stop touching her in any way
She should react and stop allowing him to act that way.
A joke about hearing farts is we say the noise is an Arkansas barking spider. We laugh about how many spiders are sometimes.
I've heard the barking spider thing way up here in MA
It's spread as far as CO. My dad would blame the barking spiders for his alcohol induced gas 😂
I heard it a few times in SC too. We had a friend from Illinois so I guess it came from there.
In Germany it's the infamous Trumpet bug...and then you make some tapping with your foot, as if you step onto the bug.😂🦶🐞💥
Down in Australia we blame the ducks or frogs.
Guy version of last story: “One of her aforementioned pet peeves had surfaced.”
What is it lying?
Girl version: “I don’t like dishonesty.”
Oh what a shock! I can see being nervous in that situation, but don’t double down and do weird things to get out of it.
Ghosting story: I feel her pain. My best friend of over 15 years ghosted me out of the blue. That was 3 years ago and I still have no answers.
"We never broke up." Yet also, "I want to get back together."
Agreed.
Also, I recently stopped reading a mystery series in part because the protagonist/narrator kept claiming 'it wasn't lying because I had my fingers crossed.' It was just so irritating the an adult author wrote an adult protagonist that behaved like a six year old.
The guy in the ghosting story apparently also never grew out of the 'but I had my fingers crossed' stage of development. I hope OP has the good sense to not let him back in her life.
What you said about the discussion of marriage is spot on. It does NOT take a guy SEVEN YEARS to decide to commit to you. He clearly was just using her as a placeholder until he found the girl he actually wants, and as a means to an end.
Yeah, it's a first month thing, so you don't waste each others' time.
Story 3: Jeez. I'm not a feminist by any means, but as a straight woman myself, what OP says at the end of the post and what he's doing overall is creepy. I think we can all agree there. If a guy I was friends with but wasn’t into came up and did that to me, I'd be VERY creeped out. Especially since it apunds like he does this in PUBLIC! Why would anyone do this in public? My friends will sometimes act like this, but only in a private setting. That’s not how they act when we're at the mall or something. This is just weird. The wording is weird and I'm just very grossed out by it. Especially since it sounds like she doesn’t care for it herself. He's giving very heavy "I can fix her" energy for sure.
Sounds like the guy in the 2nd story is trying to "turn her straight", so he can sleep w/ her. If I tried to "turn him gay", he'd lose it. She needs to RUN away from him
Perfect point! These people always think it’s a choice or something you can change until you ask if they chose to be straight or suggest they “just try” being gay/queer.
that was story 3
The second story needs to have both parties going to therapy before things get out of control, and, if that poor little one gets involved in the situation, then it will make things a whole lot worse, and the poor OP literally is innocent in this situation, as is the child that he had with his wife.
Think you got the comment section of the wrong video there were no kids mentioned in any of these stories.
"i ran away because you wanted me to be an adult at 24😢"
"He had no money snd had nowhere else to go" ah there it is. Freeloader
Story 1:Morale of the story:Just get a ring and say nothing
Moral*
Morale = mood
Moral = lesson
Schrödinger's proposal... I guess it could potentially save one the embarrassment of rejection in some circumstances 🤷♂️
Of course, R/. We all kiss the homies goodnight. You don't?
😂😂😂
Never forget to buy chapstick before meeting up with the homies.
@@Connor-ONeill Frfr winter is coming
I touch my friends both male and female. I kiss my friends too. I’m a straight woman. I just love hugging people and getting and giving friendly kisses.
He doesn't have any.
Story 1: To be fair you can see where she could have gotten the idea of a proposal from based on your actions, right? Like I just wanna make sure you’re aware of why she thought this was a proposal, or to be more accurate make sure you understand why you were proposing but didn’t know it yet.
Story 4: OP he’s a manchild that didn’t want to phase any kind of commitment or becoming an adult so we ran away like a child and never looked back.
But after ruining the job, his friend got him went out of his way to get him probably making friend look bad, which is why they had a falling out because I’m assuming this guy didn’t even try to do any work. He was there for weeks, how didn’t he get paid unless he didn’t do it job?
He came crying to you with BS half ass sod story blaming his friend and not taking responsibility. Because on the option, he actually fulfills any of these promises it’s better than getting a job and growing up. If you have to help him, give him bus fair to go back to his parents, let him be their problem.
After all of the trash could take itself while we wouldn’t invited back in. Also, if the two of you weren’t technically broken up, then he probably was technically cheating on you.
For the OP whose boyfriend ghosted, who a man was is great. Remember and care about that man. But when it comes to dating and marriage, who a man is now matters more
He doesnt work, take care of himself, and is willing to make promises he won't keep (cause he wont, he will make excuses and stop)
You can still care about him, thank him for his help. But its time to move on and find who you need forever
Hmm
@bigjalapeno7061 oh no, Jalapeños gain sentience if they grow too big and judge us mildly on the internet!
If only my parents had warned me!
Words of wisdom. I too hope OP comes to the same conclusions.
Married for 8 years together for 2 how does that work out 🤣🤣
12, it was 12. He misread again.
Story said 12, rSlash can't read.
It's not an rSlash video if he doesn't completely misread something that changes the meaning of the sentence at least once.
lol "he would not let it go" um yes, yes he certainly did let it go 😂
the last story is hilarious. he was so terrified of her correctly thinking he farted, to the point he made a fool of himself trying to pretend he didn't.
but also?? good on her for leaving and not giving him another chance. if he'll lie about an obvious fart, imagine what else he'd lie about!
That sounds kind of a weird standpoint that I think would basically leave anyone who uses it lonely. Lying about a fart is not a step.
That's absurd! He was just lonely and a little desperate. Clearly she overracted, I believe his story.
@@TK--cv1uz I’m with ya, bro. That story sounds like a load of shit.
@@TK--cv1uz I think he's just really awkward and socially inept. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt that he could grow past the immature habit of trying to lie his way out of embarrassment. But hey, in the girl's defense, that's not her job to put up with... unfortunately for him 😅
@@SkitsyCat her story didn’t make that much sense at all. Why would anyone in the right mind do that?
In regards to the last story: I love how the first thing he did was try to shift the blame on her "pet peeves" when they were discussing what would be considered normal on a first date. And how he didn't mention he ordered BEAN SOUP on a date while he was already feeling gassy. Just shows she dodged a bullet.
Let's not forget that he said the farts didn't smell, and she debunked that as well.
3 months into my husband and I dating he said “I see this ending in marriage”. I responded that “we could wait until I was done with college, or he could pay for it”. He said “we could wait”. We got married in August.
Let me fix those timestamps for you, rSlash.
Start of story 1 - 1:37
Start of story 2 - 3:37
Start of story 3 - 5:48
Comment for Story 3 - 7:11
Start of story 4 - 7:46
Comment for Story 4 - 12:23
Start of story 5 - 13:20
Dude, just freaking say “Excuse me.”
If anyone makes a big deal of it beyond that, that’s a “them” problem.
'Ghosted' story: They obviously talked about the future together before, and that was just the most ready-made excuse he could find. The 'friend' probably fed him a fantasy for quite a while, and he went for it. The grass felt greener on the other side, so he went without a word in order to keep the 'option' open. Then the fantasy didn't live up to reality and the money ran dry so he felt betrayed by the 'friend', remembered how good he had it with OP and used EVERY excuse, trick and dumb excuse he could to try to deflect blame and love-bomb OP into getting his old, more comfy life back by any means. I bet he also tried to sleep around when he was away but either failed or was unimpressed with the other partner(s) prowess.
It was ALL his choice and now he regrets listening. He went because HE wanted to live a fantasy, he cut off his friend because HE felt betrayed that the fantasy wasn't real, HE messed up the job he was basically handed freely and HE ran out of money, all before he returned. He did NOT return for OP, he returned for himself. I hope OP doesn't take him back, she'll find out everything he promised was all lies.
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Last story: Dude. Just own the fart! People fart! It's normal! Yeah it's not exactly polite to just let 'em rip in public, especially at a nice restaurant, but a simple "Oh! Excuse me, I'm sorry!" and then moving on from it would have sufficed. The old "chair fart" thing just NEVER works, even if it genuinely WAS the chair that made a weird sound.
The story where op got ghosted and the ex comes crawling back reminds of one saying: “let the trash take itself out.” He’s not your problem, Op. you deserve better than him
The last dude complains about "gastric misfortune" then slurps up a bean soup 😆
Beans, beans, the magical fruit...
The more you eat, the more you toot. The more you toot, the more you traumitize your date 😆
Story 4:Mega fax,Had the job worked out,He wouldn't have returned.
Don't take him back,OP
Story 1. While it is a pretty big mistake to make I'd be stoked to know that the woman I loved wanted to be married to me, even if the proposal was unintentional. I think OP played it right considering the circumstances. Letting her know in any way that he didn't intend to propose would've embarrassed and hurt her a lot while they were engaged.
I am so sorry about that I'm so nervous and sometimes when I get nervous... own the fart... it's better than lying.
The man who Is Not An Expert is gonna be real surprised and upset when the internet confirms it. I bet you he’s going to whine and takes his things and go home to a corner of the internet that will stroke his ego.
Story 5 man side:Well,That's unfortunate,but you shouldn't have lied,OP
Story 5 woman side:Well,Even more confirmation that guy was wrong
For me it is very important to speak about children in the beginning of a relationship, cos I don't want them and lots of guys do.
That guy in the feminist story should have been in the "am i the devil" subreddit. Way too creepy. And I'm not even a feminist.
As a pansexual woman, I'm a mom engaged to a straight man. He's sexually assaulting her and using his own beliefs to do so. You hit the nail on the head. I bet you he thinks he can "fix" her. She still interacts with men. He's not the only man in her life. She's not cutting off 50% of society. And saying 50% of society are men is wrong.
First story... who gets a beautiful and expensive ring, giving it to their gf and NOT expect her to think it's a proposal?! 😂 Like, he could have gotten her ANYTHING else like a necklace or earrings etc. But glad it worked out for him :)
.... I'd be annoyed to if I was his wife eventually finding out that it actually wasn't a proposal and how he just went along with it 😂
The moral of that last story is that there are always at least two sides to every story. It was refreshing to hear another side this time, something we don't get a lot.
OP in the first story should set up a romantic dinner and ask her to marry to show her that he really meant it. It will make her incredibly happy and will wipe out any doubts she has.
I saw that post about the guy with the lesbian friend and just- ew. As a lesbian, it feels more like a blessing than anything that I can get through most of my everyday life without having to deal with men. Yeah I still interact with them because they are my family, friends, etc. but the RELIEF of not having to date men, be with or around men if I just stay home all day is so relaxing. Between being somewhat fem presenting and a lesbian, I always feel somewhat on edge out in public and my partner (who is VERY fem presenting) is so wary of men that if she sees any of them looking at her for more than a second she scowls at them. Is it great? No. But is it a necessary paranoia and safety measure? Clearly bc there are guys like the OP just walking around.
I am Ace and I get the same on edge feeling around some guys. It is really uncomfortable (and usually not as well hidden as they think) when a person just sees someone as an opportunity for sex and is pushy about it. I have been hit on by some women but once I hint/say that I am not interested they have never pushed or gotten offended (embarrassed but not mean). I guess it just feels safer.
That's 100% a problem of where you live. The OP is a creep in that case but it's true that avoiding half of the world population is unhealthy. Maybe making gay/married friends could help. But what you think is so horribly sexist. If a guy said exactly the same word by word you'd get mad 100%
@@Yumao420 I am sorry if it came off that way but to be clear am not going out of my way to avoid men. My point was just that not having to expose myself to them in my everyday life can just be easier on my mind. I still talk to them, am around them have them as my friends. It’s about fear more than anything, and I mostly mean when out in public. But as someone who grew up around men and still participate in society with men, small things like being able to walk around my own home knowing they aren’t there puts me at ease.
My husband and I have been married for 27 years. This is how we got married within 3 months of meeting: he came over to my apartment one evening and asked when I was moving in with him. I told him ‘when you marry me, buy the cow because this milk is not free!’! He then asked when I wanted to get married? Fast forward 3 weeks and I’m at the table with the calendar paying my bills, he’s on the sofa watching telly. I said ‘hey, how does the 21st sound for you?’, he immediately responded ‘brilliant!’. The following week we were at the Courthouse getting married. Not a single time did either of us say anything about getting married during that conversation, he just knew what I was talking about. We are finally having a Nuptial Mass in August at our church 😂. He tried to buy me an engagement ring while we were picking out wedding bands but I said ‘no thank you, a band is enough for me!’! The person helping us was shocked as was my husband, it was fabulous.
Story 1 reminds me of my parents engagement. They were only dating for about 3-4 months when one day my dad made a comment along the lines of “you know I’d marry you” and my mom took that as a proposal. My dad went with it and 4 kids later, he told my mom that he was planning an actual proposal.
They’re celebrating 35 years of marriage this month.
first story is so wholesome! me and my husband just looked at each other and asked if we wanna get married. 17 years and 4 kids later we are still married! heres to many more years!
Why are the time stamps not accurate at all XD
I think he forgot to take the ad into account
6:30 What OP says here is actually worse than how Rslash reads it. Rslash says OP is pushing her to see there’s nothing wrong with having “relationships” with men. That’s not what OP says. What he actually wrote in the post is that he’s pushing her to see there’s nothing wrong with having _relations_ with men, meaning sex. That is SO MUCH WORSE.
“She is under the impression she can’t really be friend with a straight man because he will try to have sex.” GEE I WONDER WHY???
“I’m personally very pro monogamy and pro marriage.” Wow, what a shock, could never have guessed that based on your commentary 😂
The ghosted story: Guy is a coward. I hate, hate, hate ghosters with a passion, precisely because of the lack of closure they leave you with you.
And "we never technically broke up"? What a piece of crap.
Netflix and chill for 40 years sounds like the best relationship ever
lol not the sponsorship saying "lost Ark isn't avaliable in the US" when it's been here for well over a year at this point
I mean... do I think some friends kiss? Sure, my best friend kisses me on the cheek sometimes when she's drunk lol. I'm demi, she's bi, we both understand that even though that's cool to me like I personally don't mind specific friends of mine kissing me on the cheek, it definitely not considered a "normal" behavior to most and we're aware of that. I think 2 friends can decide what their friendship looks like with one another, that's fine. But the thing is that BOTH people need to be in agreement. Clearly, OP's friend is not comfortable at all with that dynamic, and OP himself is not respecting the fact that she is a lesbian. Like there's a diff between not befriending someone because of their gender and not wanting to be with someone because you literally do not find them attractive. Dude's grossly overstepping and undermining, very "I know what's best". Idk, it's sorta the same stuff that a lot of us queers gotta go through with some "friends" because they think they're "helping us" cuz there's "something wrong with us" in their eyes. Big yikes.
Two solution to the fart problem: own it. Let the embarrassment show, then ask “can we just pretend this is our… 50th date?”
Or claim it was a frog, that stepped on a duck, who was covering a Dizzy Gillespie tune
“My lesbian friend” and “kissing and touching her” don’t belong in the same sentence EVER holy shittttt dude
The "go see a hooker" story is just a typical case of a woman getting mad at her man for having emotions. If he's upset she HAS to make it about her and play the victim. He didn't even complain to her, but she picked up on him being sad and immediately got mad at him for it.
I know, right? Sex is not the only way to show love and intimacy, but it's clear that OP was not treating her like a sex doll or anything like that. She's in the wrong here. OP is entitled to his feelings, and she really needs to see a sex therapist.
Story 2: One of the biggest misconceptions a lot of women have about passionate hugging is thinking it's just about the physical release for a man, when that's the furthest thing from the truth. It's more a physical way of telling your partner how much you need them, especially for those of us who rank pretty highly on physical touch as our love language.
The accident engagement story and the fart story from both sides cracked me up! 🤣
Got engaged a week after Valentines Day, surprised him with a ring and set a date for Halloween. He ended up postponing the wedding for "financial reasons" then broke it off with me a month after our wedding was set for. Not always a happy ending 😅
"YOU'RE A FARTING LIAR!!!" 😂😂😂😂😂 I can't, I laughed way too hard at thst situation.
So glad I have notifications on, your videos always pop up when I’m eating my breakfast, perfect timing
Wait what? Lost Ark has been released in west for a couple of years already
The last story, before I even heard her take, was that he lied rather than apologizing. I mean I would give him a pass (pun may or may not have been intended 😂) if he had just said, “sorry I guess I shouldn’t have had the bean soup”
As a woman with hormone issues. I get my period more often when im with other hormone normal women than with my husband. I spend alot of time with post menopausal women so i know that has contributed to my cycle. I do wayy better with my younger friends when they are on their time of the month.
Also at girls camp most girls would sync up with each other. Its true.
As bob ross would say. “We make happy accidents”
the woman with the runaway bf: RUN RUN RUN! don't take him back. ever.
this guy is in his twenties had a relationship of seven years and he ran away because his GF wanted him to think of their future get a degree and to get a job so he can stop mooching off his parents and he thought it meant his life would be over then blamed his friend influencing him and then tried to back track...OP you dodged a bullet you are only 24 you've got plenty of time to find someone better
Third story op do hug kiss and touch your male friends in platonically normal way I don't think so don't touch people without their consent you are not that close honestly I don't even think she sees you as a friend
"Can't be friends with a straight man" maybe if you stop trying to touch her in an unwanted affectioned way she wouldn't have to think that
For the ghosted story, it makes complete sense why they hadn't discussed marriage/kids before then. They are a young couple, they got together when they were 17, therefore they were figuring out what to do with their lives, how to be adults, and obviously a lot of family trauma from OP's side. Their minds weren't on it until they got a bit older and that, that was the next step in their relationship.
I'm 24 now, same age as OP, and discussing marriage/kids as a viewpoint we both align on is important. No one wants to really waste 1+yrs of their life with someone only to realise we don't have the same views on it. Meanwhile, when I was 16-22 when I started dating, I wasn't seriously thinking about that. I was focusing on adulthood and getting to the places I thought I should be.
Story 3: Nice Guy(tm) has entered the chat
I bought a ring to my gf for Christmas, we were dating for about 2-3 months only, but I still had to be sure to tell everyone, "no that's just a ring, that's just a gift". I was a "cheap" ring, not good enough to be an engagement ring, but still something that is nice to not buy yourself (I think it cost like 250$ or something). It's been 17 years now and she actually lost the ring recently and she was pretty bummed about it, since it was one of the first gift I ever gave her, even tho I was pretty open about the fact that it wasn't really expensive.
dude, fact check. Lost ark has been out in NA/EU for several years now
I felt doxxed by that hanekawa clip
The ghosting story: OP, he cheated on you, likely with that friend.
Last story. That is hilarious!!! The dude didn't accidentally fart, he did it on purpose and admitted it in the story. Lying about it, when it's that obvious is pretty lame. The lady would have probably moved past it if he apologized or said he didn't mean to do it. Lying to her and pretending it's the chair is pretty immature. She did the right thing by leaving.
I'm so glad that I rewound the story 2 because I was so confused when I heard "married for 8 years, together for 2"
I agree with the commtaty for the 4th story!
In all my relationship ships thoses topics come up 4-6 months in.
I can't express how important those conversation are so 7 years and it wasn't talked about onces is really strange.
First story: That reminds me of one of the dumbest things I did for my girlfriend at the time was give her a ring for her birthday and she was upset it wasn't an engagement ring 🤦♂️
I always find it funny that couples live together for 7, 10, 15, etc. years and panic about marriage when common law marriage is a thing.