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  • 3 years of dating in LA, documented.
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Komentáře • 609

  • @zoeunlimited
    @zoeunlimited  Před 14 dny +684

    Hope your day is filled with love.❤‍🩹🌹p.s. ILY. Thank you for existing.

    • @Wonyyy_stan
      @Wonyyy_stan Před 14 dny +4

      I love your videos girl keep being real and yourself I love you💕💕

    • @splatz4669
      @splatz4669 Před 14 dny +1

      Love you!! 🫶✨

    • @Daemon1995_
      @Daemon1995_ Před 14 dny +1

      hoping to see an update from this story

    • @europaexpress4757
      @europaexpress4757 Před 14 dny

      you literally described my current situationship… i need to break out of it. thank you zoe❤️

    • @emilyshepherd8544
      @emilyshepherd8544 Před 14 dny

      You have a beautiful heart ❤️ This really made my day

  • @puffii_
    @puffii_ Před 14 dny +2902

    Girlies we need platonic relationships to be normalized to be just as important as romantic ones, love is so much more than a partner❤️

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 14 dny +10

      bein aro+ace is a choice

    • @Dean_Winchester__
      @Dean_Winchester__ Před 14 dny +42

      Right! People overrate sex. What if I love all people as a whole? Why I should minimize it just to regular-degular sexual relationship with a man which will be over anyways (when the sexual attraction is over?)

    • @h35biznez
      @h35biznez Před 14 dny +7

      you mean friendzone ? XD BYE funny

    • @cityremade
      @cityremade Před 14 dny +28

      Agree. This world suffers from making everything about sex 😓

    • @puffii_
      @puffii_ Před 14 dny +31

      @@h35biznezit's so sad how someone not wanting to be in a romantic relationship has gained a negative connotation:/

  • @ChickenDipsaucy
    @ChickenDipsaucy Před 11 dny +612

    If a guy ever makes you feel desperate… that’s when you know something is wrong.

  • @gradzia3453
    @gradzia3453 Před 14 dny +1833

    "i just want someone to love me. Is that too much to ask?"
    are the exact same words I wrote in my own diary litteraly 1 week ago... Hits different

    • @zoeunlimited
      @zoeunlimited  Před 14 dny +157

      🫂❤‍🩹

    • @chocolateunicorn1883
      @chocolateunicorn1883 Před 14 dny +61

      Don't worry, God will send you someone who will love you and respect you and be there for you, that is why you are single. I felt exactly like you, then i met my boyfriend 3 years ago. We are still together and we plan to get married. He is my first boyfriend and my true and only love

    • @tanyuhkleck8368
      @tanyuhkleck8368 Před 13 dny +5

      Well love is not smth can be earned or deserved. So basically...yes. It is like "I just want the rain now, is that too much for ask?". I mean, it doesn't make you a bad person, if it doesn't rain)

    • @canaldamomonique
      @canaldamomonique Před 12 dny +3

      If you change a little. "I want someone to love and i want to be loved and respected"

    • @jasonfanclub4267
      @jasonfanclub4267 Před 11 dny

      🫶

  • @blankriff
    @blankriff Před 14 dny +1104

    Tldr: dont fall in love with an idea of a person, and love thyself.

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 13 dny +1

      bein aro+ace is a choice

    • @trajectoryunown
      @trajectoryunown Před 13 dny +3

      How about "be willing to change and grow into your spouse's ideal"?
      What ever happened to building each other up?
      Why's everybody so selfish nowadays?

    • @blankriff
      @blankriff Před 13 dny +6

      @@trajectoryunown eryones delusional?

    • @martijnkoning3354
      @martijnkoning3354 Před 12 dny +12

      ​@trajectoryunown ah yes it's def not selfish to want your partner to grow into the dream version YOU want them to be. That's not growing together.

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 12 dny

      Why is this actually a universal experience though?

  • @hehekiki6767
    @hehekiki6767 Před 14 dny +1177

    Why is this actually a universal experience though?

    • @Daemon1995_
      @Daemon1995_ Před 14 dny +23

      because you're human and human nature doesn''t always know better?

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 13 dny +1

      bein aro+ace is a choice

    • @abbytheredwolf174
      @abbytheredwolf174 Před 11 dny +7

      @@ville__ I mean it is and it isn’t. Some people are “late bloomers” and some people just have no care for the matter. And doing personal things and not exactly a sensual feeling. Ace people can still be intimate but it doesn’t mean they do it for themselves, but rather for their partner which is a choice to be In that relationship.

    • @marbleb33s
      @marbleb33s Před 11 dny

      ​​@@ville__are you stupid? I thought we where over this. Being queer isn't a choice. That's like saying you chose to be born with blue eyes, or with a dark skin tone.

    • @nobodythenobody9779
      @nobodythenobody9779 Před 10 dny +6

      Movies warped your idea of men
      Sounds like most of you need to lower your expectations
      She even said there were cute and nice guys but she just wanted more lol

  • @keliksa5825
    @keliksa5825 Před 14 dny +933

    My dream was to experience teenage love, but it's too late for that. I'm still waiting to feel something extraordinary

    • @naonaokao
      @naonaokao Před 14 dny +58

      I think one day you’ll make a true connection with someone special. And when you fall in love, it will make you feel youthful!

    • @Daemon1995_
      @Daemon1995_ Před 14 dny +34

      its never too late, feelings are feelings regardless of age, its better when you're older period

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 13 dny +2

      bein aro+ace is a choice

    • @martijnkoning3354
      @martijnkoning3354 Před 12 dny +7

      You cant wait. Its about trying and failing and trying again until it works.
      Ofc I cant judge since I don't know if you are passive or not. Best of luck tho

    • @cakeandcats5860
      @cakeandcats5860 Před 12 dny

      Trust me, if it were, I've had a crush ​:( @ville__

  • @Aaron-ob2sl
    @Aaron-ob2sl Před 14 dny +619

    It’s the “hyperfantasization” of love and romance from growing up in such a media exposed age that’s lead to unrealistic expectations for our love lives. It works in tandem with our unrealistic expectations for ourselves.
    Thankfully, our generation values friendships deeply, and with such support from relationships with people that accept us for who we are, we can work towards recontextualizing what it means to love and be loved.

    • @Snickers4Kawaii
      @Snickers4Kawaii Před 14 dny +6

      Yes!!!

    • @nobodythenobody9779
      @nobodythenobody9779 Před 10 dny

      Yeah society really has crazy warped ideas of men
      We aren’t perfect and we’re definitely not interested in doing all the crap that’s demanded of us

    • @LovelyLittleLillies
      @LovelyLittleLillies Před dnem

      Nah. Men are just failing to meet women's needs and interests (like being romantic instead of explicit) - you act like the world wasn't just a little more romance-focused and had more romantic gestures more commonly in the 50's and earlier. The era when men acted a gentleman. It's reflected in how pg13 the lyrics in pop music were. Now it's just explicit degrading sht in rap videos. Women don't have unrealistic expectations - and some women's lives _are_ filled with romance. It could just be that Zoe is not socializing with enough men to have those opportunities (any woman who's a pure homebody is gonna complain that no man ever approaches her). Apart from living LA and LA culture - what's affecting her chances?
      Mind you, women are delivering on their end (satisfying men's need for s#x) for men of this generation to feel like they're in paradise: how common is non-committal s#x in this hook up culture? Men are sleeping with new women on the regular. But since many men are selfish they're not interested in satisfying women's needs, which is romance and romantic gestures.
      But if you were speaking of m e d I a that's degrading women rather the stereotypical romcoms then my bad and I misunderstood you.

  • @cocoxu
    @cocoxu Před 14 dny +248

    It took me 23 years to learn that relationships are sometimes about make something work rather than running into the perfect person. So instead of sitting around waiting for the romantic love I've always craved, I started taking myself on dates and showering myself with love 💜(From someone who is also chronically single and obsessed over the idea of a perfect partner)

    • @watchtheworldburn6908
      @watchtheworldburn6908 Před 13 dny +4

      Same

    • @kajjafeeluv__775
      @kajjafeeluv__775 Před 11 dny +12

      yea i realise that spark and butterflies only last for a while, you know you find the one when both of you make the effort to make it work. emphasis on BOTH

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Před 7 dny +1

      that's it that's the answer

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @subarnachakraborty7611
    @subarnachakraborty7611 Před 14 dny +686

    Feels illegal to be this early... But this is super relatable... Never had a boyfriend but tbh I never felt a need to have one. After a point, I started feeling FOMO and wanted to have a lover too... Now I realise that I never really had a desire to date but wanted to feel included in the society. I'm actually willing to wait for THE ONE even if it's gonna take a while...

    • @shirag.rkarun9578
      @shirag.rkarun9578 Před 13 dny +6

      good job dont give in to the people trying to change your mind

    • @duskybear-rq7of
      @duskybear-rq7of Před 13 dny +4

      same, had the realization like yesterday after journalling and today she posts this jbcjhdb

    • @v1rzen
      @v1rzen Před 12 dny +3

      are you, by chance, asexual and or aromantic? not feeling a desire to date is valid and perfectly fine

    • @MarijaDjordjevic8
      @MarijaDjordjevic8 Před 11 dny +4

      I think like you. But sometimes i wish I had a boyfriend, so that I can travel and share my love for anime😅

    • @tomaszbogucki1582
      @tomaszbogucki1582 Před 11 dny +1

      I've never had my other half, i.e. a girlfriend. I guess they didn't take me seriously. I think they took me seriously.

  • @reii12345
    @reii12345 Před 14 dny +407

    i feel like all girls have gona through this phase at least once in their lifetime when u fantasize a relationship with someone who is not worth it but at the end u realise its yourself who u need to pour the love. The feeling after u realise is unreal and truly amazing ❤

    • @allisonkim934
      @allisonkim934 Před 14 dny +3

      Real.

    • @tatiana-bi5fq
      @tatiana-bi5fq Před 11 dny +1

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @nobodythenobody9779
      @nobodythenobody9779 Před 10 dny +2

      Not just girls 😂🎉

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Před 7 dny +1

      a crush is a projection of animus

    • @whitemakesright2177
      @whitemakesright2177 Před 2 dny

      I disagree. I think self-love is massively overrated. Yes, it's important, but it totally pales in comparison to giving love to and receiving love from another person. Interdependence >>>> independence.

  • @lmcb8447
    @lmcb8447 Před 8 dny +28

    People need to understand that not having a patner is not a tragedy in life, same like it was before with not having children

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @sofiatoribio4601
    @sofiatoribio4601 Před 13 dny +139

    This video literally made me tear up. As a girl in her early 20s that has never experience romantic love but wants to so badly (and also doesn't want to at the same time) I felt so understood. I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship, but what I do know is that I'm so lucky to have truly experience the love of friendship being this young 💕

    • @gwenbar8144
      @gwenbar8144 Před 11 dny +5

      I feel like we want to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons, it's mostly because we want to do just like the others or because we're so drowned out by romance in series, books, and even in real life, that we feel like we're not normal because we haven't yet experienced love. So we pressure ourselves and even sometimes get scared thinking about the fact that maybe we would never find love. But everybody do, one day or another. I mean I don't know any adult who has never been in a relationship. But the older you get, the more pressure you put on yourself. And it's, let's be honest, only because of the societal scenery that only emphasizes love, marriage and children. That's why it's for the wrong reasons, cause we don't really want it (as you said it yourself), we do it unconsciously for others.

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

    • @gwenbar8144
      @gwenbar8144 Před 4 hodinami

      @@rachael5611 creepy

  • @maybhle2317
    @maybhle2317 Před 14 dny +103

    I’m in a domestic violence relationship. Let me say one thing. When you see red flags in the early stages walk away. It’s better to leave and be alone and try again. Once you’re fully in the abusive relationship and the cycles of abuse start, it’s almost impossible to get out. I have been trying to leave for a year now. Please please please make sure you pay attention. If you’re in the UK, you can call the police using Clare’s law to find out if the person you are interested in has any dv charges.

    • @NA-vh1ny
      @NA-vh1ny Před 10 dny +11

      Good luck

    • @GorgieClarissa
      @GorgieClarissa Před 9 dny +5

      are you CURRENTLY in a dv relationship????

    • @Natalie-vr2rt
      @Natalie-vr2rt Před 8 dny +1

      I know you feel trapped but you aren’t, you can leave it is just going to be very very hard. Do you have a supportive family? If so pls tell them. Once you admit you partners behaviour it’s a step forward

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Před 7 dny +1

      what were the signs?

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @jeszlyn16
    @jeszlyn16 Před 11 dny +86

    “It turns out the healing relationship that I longed for was the relationship I needed with myself” oof 😫😮‍💨😮‍💨 that hit hard 13:53

    • @AinhoaPerez-nk1cr
      @AinhoaPerez-nk1cr Před 10 dny

      Literally the perfect selection of words

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @hebsworks
    @hebsworks Před 12 dny +87

    the format, structure and storytelling here is masterpiece.

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @rockwood7595
    @rockwood7595 Před 13 dny +64

    Not so long ago, I really thought that I finally fell in love with a boy... Turns out I was actually just in love with the fact to be with someone that loved me, giving me the illusion to love myself through him.

    • @seabreeze4559
      @seabreeze4559 Před 7 dny +1

      that's all love though, it's a verb

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @MBB874
    @MBB874 Před 14 dny +119

    Thank you ❤
    As a 24 years old "forever single" it felt so good to hear all of this. Even if my "why" is not the same, I needed those words

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @Thistrueone
    @Thistrueone Před 14 dny +145

    zoe I love your current editing style! I feel like you have gone away from the overstimulating editing to a more aesthetic, calm one and I really love the vibe

    • @rachael5611
      @rachael5611 Před 4 hodinami

      God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him.

  • @barbarasmith7432
    @barbarasmith7432 Před 14 dny +109

    You don't have to earn love. It is given.

    • @infj4w511
      @infj4w511 Před 13 dny +8

      You have to invest in it, though

    • @cream....
      @cream.... Před 12 dny

      ​​@@infj4w511One has to invest in all of their relationships (type of relationship does not matter). Relationships are two way streets. All sides put something into the middle.

    • @nobodythenobody9779
      @nobodythenobody9779 Před 10 dny

      What a terrible entitled attitude

    • @nobodythenobody9779
      @nobodythenobody9779 Před 10 dny

      What a terrible entitled attitude

    • @cream....
      @cream.... Před 10 dny

      @@infj4w511 You have to invest to all of your relationships.

  • @Camelia_Ihrin
    @Camelia_Ihrin Před 14 dny +75

    When I met my fiancée, both of us didn't love each other at the beginning 😂 We met, because we both were dedicated to find a partner for life. We both were hurt too many times, so at the first date we discussed kids, family and plans for furure. I wold say, I startedd have a "feelings" to him after a week of us dating? My point is, true love not alway start with a "crush" or "he/she has perfect looks". Sometimes it starts with logical thinking, and you know what? It is okay ❤ All our love stories are unique and that was it makes them special. For all the girls out there, don't follow your heart or mind, follow both. Wish you all love ❤

    • @ruthnacht
      @ruthnacht Před 12 dny +3

      you say it started with logical thinking but you said you discussed family and kids on the first date? Jumping to end game conversations when you guys have literally no temporal connection in eachother seems very hastey and illogical. I dont know how long you guys have known eachother, but typically after 2 years the honeymoon phase neurochemicals run out. Hopefully your perception of him is real, because it sounds like you guys both did alot of fantasization (judging by the fact you rushed). Try listing out the positive attributes your partner has, but critically ask how unique those attributes are to him? is he really that special? Are those the things you fell in love with?

    • @Camelia_Ihrin
      @Camelia_Ihrin Před 11 dny +9

      @ruthnacht well, none of us is "special." We both are awarage people with awarage jobs that were seeking companionship and found each other attractive enough to start a conversation. The reason why we discussed life goals on a first date, mostly in order not to waste each other's time. Over time, we fell in love. All I'm saying is that sometimes love story doesn't start with "crush."

    • @kK-iv3hc
      @kK-iv3hc Před 10 dny +9

      ​​@@ruthnachtyou make no sense. Getting the important things out of the way first to ensure you're not wasting your time with someone incompatible is not fantasizing. Does it make more sense to date someone for months and then find out you guys do not want the same things out of the relationship or life? You sound childish

    • @ruthnacht
      @ruthnacht Před 10 dny

      @@kK-iv3hc Because when two people 'are hurt so many times' and then talk about the 'important things first' it implies that it was the priority. Successful relationships (prolonged state of bliss) require connecting on a deeper level. NON of those relationships start from burnt out people settling down. That typically is just people with mediocre chemistry but similar ideals just hedging their bets. Its most of the time honeymoon phase neurochemicals giving the facade of love in that case. No where did they talk about unique characteristics of the individual they fell in love with. I cant stress enough how important it is. Peoples words are just a fragment of the time they said it, its immensly common for things to start off big but then fizzle out with time. Its also similar to how most of my friends parents met, and their parents are all divorced

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN Před 10 dny

      If you don’t love each other and don’t have chemistry and attraction all the marriage plans will blow up when one of the two falls head over heals with somebody else.
      Make sure you are both in love and attracted as well

  • @AD-rl4jv
    @AD-rl4jv Před 14 dny +42

    Stay away from playing games and people who play games, those types of relationships don't last. Remember there is no perfect guy or girl, everyone has flaws. Just be yourself, if a man does not like this then it won't work out anyway. You are stuck on a guy who is not interested in anything other than a hookup, if they ghost and ignore you like that move on you are just wasting time.

    • @atie3218
      @atie3218 Před 14 dny

      That’s just not true about games. If you had bad experience don’t discourage other people. If you love playing games and meet other people online it’s totally fine

    • @cherie..cherry
      @cherie..cherry Před 14 dny +13

      ⁠@@atie3218you misunderstood lol. They’re not talking about online/video games. They’re talking about people who “play games” with others by being inconsistent, manipulative or wishy-washy in their behaviour.

  • @minab9667
    @minab9667 Před 12 dny +30

    Posting this was reaaally brave, thank you so much for just showing the truth.
    I think the ones who have the most difficulties with dating are the ones who need to have strong emotional links with other people to truly want to be with them. It takes a while to find those people, but I swear there are so many amazing, beautiful people out there

    • @laseryzuo487
      @laseryzuo487 Před 3 dny

      Your words encouraged me, may I ask how old did you meet with your significant other, thanks

  • @lalaonsixthh1809
    @lalaonsixthh1809 Před 14 dny +57

    The "dont google it dont google it don't google it...... Agh" I felt that so hard 😂 at least from the past but still

  • @laomedeia5957
    @laomedeia5957 Před 14 dny +66

    I'm 20 and I feel this topic relatable. I have been since 15 waiting for falling in love and it hasn't happened yet

  • @ghostie7790
    @ghostie7790 Před 14 dny +25

    Yeah.. I’m 30, and same. I feel so inexperienced with this. Yet I’m so successful in other parts of my life. Being single is easier but it’s hard going on trips by myself ALL the time. Sometimes I want a male friend for.. stress relief 😂 it’s hard being a girl boss.

  • @raniaspinou
    @raniaspinou Před 14 dny +31

    Something that applies to me is that I like when my boyfriend is my boy best friend. At the moment everyone things that my boyfriend is my brother (we look alike) or my best friend because we have such a vibrant vibe with each other. It's so much fun when you can express yourself to your bf the way you express urself with your friends. I think it's importants because you don't feel anxious or self-conscious at all!!

  • @Sun.Shine-
    @Sun.Shine- Před 14 dny +16

    I waited for 28 years, only to get married, arranged by my parents. 4 months later, i am filing for divorce (he's a gambling addict in huge debt).
    I realize that the beauty of love we create in our heads is more comforting that expecting that from a real person. But i do believe that there are people who found that living amongst us. I am not looking for it, but i do have hope & wish for it. Cheers, to the lucky ones ✨

  • @annaaa4477
    @annaaa4477 Před 14 dny +71

    just knowing that i am not alone is this makes me feel better already, i am too desolved by the idea that only love can complete me, so weird that you can have toxic relationship with the idea of love and not the actual person sometimes

  • @naonaokao
    @naonaokao Před 14 dny +34

    Waiting for the right one is a form of self love & respect. It’s how others know how you love by seeing how you treat yourself.
    Also, the perfect person doesn’t exist but the one for you will do their best!

  • @U_quintessential.K
    @U_quintessential.K Před 14 dny +75

    Zeo!! I like a guy in my class he confessed to my best friend, Even though I act like I'm happy for her (I actually am) but I'm still hurt

    • @friendlyblue5344
      @friendlyblue5344 Před 14 dny +16

      awh, I hope everything turns out okay for you and your bestie's relationship! here for internet hugs if you need em

    • @zoeunlimited
      @zoeunlimited  Před 14 dny +34

      Sending you the biggest hug🫂❤️‍🩹 Feeling is the first step to healing. Here for you!

    • @U_quintessential.K
      @U_quintessential.K Před 14 dny +1

      @@friendlyblue5344 Thanks dude! I appreciate it

    • @U_quintessential.K
      @U_quintessential.K Před 14 dny +1

      @@zoeunlimited Thanks Zoe!

  • @tellercamille8080
    @tellercamille8080 Před 13 dny +3

    never change yourself for a guy. he should love you the way you are. if a guy is trying to make me work hard to be his girlfriend, i move on to the next boy instantly

  • @friendlyblue5344
    @friendlyblue5344 Před 14 dny +61

    love the documenting style! it looks AWESOME, no jokes!

  • @user-bo3rv2vb4i
    @user-bo3rv2vb4i Před 14 dny +28

    I think the biggest thing i wanted was to experience teenage love but it turns out that I only have trust issues with people and my biggest fear is now loving the wrong person fully. I once liked a guy so blindly that all I did was imagine and idolize him for nothing but now i have realised that I was just stupid and wanted to loved by someone 🎀btw thanks for making such a helpful videos💗

  • @juliapolicheva2061
    @juliapolicheva2061 Před 14 dny +3

    I’ve recently started my healing journey as well… and it’s hard. Loving yourself.. Your video touched something in me. I felt seen, so thank you. I’m really looking forward to seeing more episodes in this format. Sending lots of love your way ❤️‍🩹🌸🌼

  • @okbetter9476
    @okbetter9476 Před 14 dny +8

    I usually never really comment on videos... but this one is definitly special. I suppose this is the kind of videos I would rewatch when in need of a reminder that selflove is what I should ALWAYS seek for in the first place. As someone who used to search for so long for validation from men, peers, and even family, I would really like to thank you very much for your work and content :)

  • @thaismoreno2583
    @thaismoreno2583 Před 13 dny +2

    Hey Zoe, I really missed this kind of video, in which you show us your vulnerability and we see ourselves in you and your experiences inspire us all. Thank you for that. I loved it 💕

  • @emilyshepherd8544
    @emilyshepherd8544 Před 14 dny +5

    This was one of the few videos I will always remember. You really outdid yourself this time.

  • @shwiee
    @shwiee Před 14 dny +10

    It's like watching a short movie 💗💗loved it!!!!

  • @fireflysunset
    @fireflysunset Před 13 dny +3

    I love you omg this is amazing. Like I have felt growing up with all of my friends in relationships has forced me to think that I need to have one. Which is false! I hate that society tells us that waiting or not loving like that isn’t allowed

  • @dianaa8125
    @dianaa8125 Před 9 dny +2

    😢im crying. This was so beautiful. I couldn’t have predicted the end. My god. You have hit on perfection.

  • @jess-so6ee
    @jess-so6ee Před 13 dny +2

    this touched my heart ❤️ you are so loved zoe

  • @SpringNitee15
    @SpringNitee15 Před 13 dny +6

    You don’t even understand how much this video meant to me, just finished it. I did get teary eyed, but You made me realize a lot. I’ve grown to love myself but not fully. I’ve been hurt many times too many to count, and I’m still pretty cautious when it comes to being with someone. I’ve been single for about four years now, and it sucks but I’ve learned to live with it. Thank you so much, I really needed this video ❤❤

  • @taherakhan2111
    @taherakhan2111 Před 12 dny +4

    Maybe because as a child I was so devoid of love as a daughter or a friend, and only saw cases of heartbreaks everywhere, I started to love myself in my teens way earlier than anyone of my age normally does... I loved being with myself and cherished Platonic friendship more than anything in my life... I still do... I accept myself as I am, I love the little gestures shows my friends care about me and love me... just love this life without a fear of heartbreak

  • @hisimsim
    @hisimsim Před 11 dny +4

    the video editing is insane! You're so talented, Zoe!

  • @Celeste-cc3hu
    @Celeste-cc3hu Před 14 dny +55

    The pandora hearts references brought so many memories back from my teenage years...
    Girl, you are not alone. 22 here and never been loved romantically. I am learning to see my value and my worth. The one advice that I can give you: do not chase after love.
    Romantic love and relationships are not achievements to show off as people like to think. There is so much more to life, so much more to explore and experience, than sitting around thinking why it doesn't happen with the one guy who obviously is not interested in you. You are loved! You are very very loved.

  • @i.am.charlotte
    @i.am.charlotte Před 8 dny +4

    I’ve never been in a relationship. I feel like I could pretty easily be in one if I wanted to, but that’s not what I desire. I want to be with someone I truly love and vibe with, and in my opinion this is different, and more difficult to archive.
    My moments of solitude are both something precious and a curse. I enjoy being by myself, but sometimes it kinda hurts. But overall I don’t think it hurts me enough to let someone enter easily this little place of peace I built for myself.

  • @tsundoku97
    @tsundoku97 Před 14 dny +6

    Spent all Christmas with every cousin and every friend in happy and fulfilled relationships. Binge ate and threw up constantly all holidays because I was overcome with such self-hatred. Thanks for making this video Zoe ! Guess I’m not alone.

  • @estherandherlittleworld7821

    Thank God we have our besties! Having a friend is definitely a great blessing. ❤️

  • @saram.g.4819
    @saram.g.4819 Před 8 dny +2

    This video is a masterpiece; the editing, the thoughts you shared, the structure of the video,…

  • @carambolez
    @carambolez Před 14 dny +3

    Hi Zoe! Loved and watched all of your videos, but these kinds of really personnal, "journal" videos really are my favorites of you! You have a unique voice and story and I can't wait for the next one!

  • @chamomile3976
    @chamomile3976 Před 14 dny +4

    Just wanted to say, I'm very thankful you decided to put this part your life out there for the Internet to see 💕 it can be really helpful to someone who is living through something similar

  • @isabelletenorio2911
    @isabelletenorio2911 Před 11 dny +3

    This video is visually amazing, Zoe!

  • @Emilie-bv8cq
    @Emilie-bv8cq Před 14 dny +13

    Thank you so much Zoe
    This comes at a time where I need to focus on myself, and it helps a lot
    Can't wait to see ep2!

  • @btsforever9771
    @btsforever9771 Před 13 dny +1

    Lin is seriously a blessing 🤍

  • @heyitslu7595
    @heyitslu7595 Před 14 dny +1

    You, Zoe, never dissapoint! Even for someone in a healthy relationship, I feel like every girl in the 2020s has felt this at some point.

  • @inesc39
    @inesc39 Před 14 dny

    I cant even tell you how much i related to all of this. Thank you so much

  • @BethanyBauerlein
    @BethanyBauerlein Před 10 dny

    this is truly so beautiful and a message that so many people need to hear!! amazing job

  • @Liviaa_23
    @Liviaa_23 Před 14 dny +31

    I remember watching your videos when you were only at 5k followers, but still love ur videos ❤

    • @zoeunlimited
      @zoeunlimited  Před 14 dny +7

      🥹❣️ appreciate you so much

    • @Liviaa_23
      @Liviaa_23 Před 14 dny +1

      I appreciate you too my queen❤

  • @returnoftheromans6726
    @returnoftheromans6726 Před 12 dny +9

    In a situationship, which has been like living in a stupid echo chamber; wanting to give it my all, but also not feeling like it will be reciprocated and wasting my time. I have a healthy friend group, and hobbies. Felt like texting him, but didn't want to emotionally spiral, so did something useful with my time instead. You girlies got this! Try to have a fulfilled life without a partner. Good friends are a MUST! Also, I fell you when you say there are no "feelings" for said person. I always fall for the ones that are unattainable. 😩

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN Před 10 dny

      Why do girls nowadays do “situationships”? Why?
      Simply don’t interact at all with men after they make it clear they don’t want to be official with you.

    • @thingymajig7604
      @thingymajig7604 Před 9 dny

      @@FoundSheep-AN I think the same reason men do. Hope. People hope that if they try hard enough and keep pleasing the other person, eventually the other person will see they are partner material and make it official. There is also fear; fear of never being able to find something again if you let it go. Abusers use this all the time and it can have a powerful hold on people, because at the end of the day, lots of people are illogical when it comes to the emotions and so what may seem as simple as leaving to some, may not be to the people trapped there.

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 6 dny

      who cares..

    • @returnoftheromans6726
      @returnoftheromans6726 Před 4 dny

      @@ville__
      U R? . . . .

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 4 dny

      I think the same reason men do. Hope. People hope that if they try hard enough and keep pleasing the other person, eventually the other person will see they are partner material and make it official. There is also fear; fear of never being able to find something again if you let it go. Abusers use this all the time and it can have a powerful hold on people, because at the end of the day, lots of people are illogical when it comes to the emotions and so what may seem as simple as leaving to some, may not be to the people trapped there.

  • @screweddevelopment12
    @screweddevelopment12 Před 11 dny +4

    i read an essay ab how love is less ab liking someone and more ab having ur lives inextricably linked (memories, kids, family, etc).
    my bar is just someone i can yap with.

  • @hel_loves_flowers
    @hel_loves_flowers Před 9 dny

    This video is so helpful to a lot of people, including me. It's like you're showing my life as well. Thank you so much Zoe! ❤

  • @edwardlovrr
    @edwardlovrr Před dnem +1

    Was in my first ever relationship at 25 last year... I was dumped and felt so broken, I cried for weeks barely ate. My friends were even telling me to not mess things up to play it cool when I started dating him. As soon as I brought up something that bothered me, boom dumped in less than a day and this was after I was so vulnerable with this man. First boyfriend, first kiss, first love and he has literally destroyed the confidence and self esteem I worked on. Now I haven't been taking dating seriously, went on a few hinge dates and all of them went nowhere. Till to this day I think of him, how breaking and shattering my heart was just so easy for him and how he moved on so quickly and blocked me. I moved cities I made some new friends rekindled with other older friends and working on myself. I am still working on self love its hard but I am trying. I still wish him the best and I hope he finds a woman he wants.

  • @bubbletea5431
    @bubbletea5431 Před 14 dny +7

    LOVE YOU ZOE ❤️

  • @sohpie710
    @sohpie710 Před 14 dny +3

    You made me cry . This is so relatable.

  • @MayuKira
    @MayuKira Před 4 dny

    Love the honesty, humor, and heart in this video

  • @the_day_you_try388
    @the_day_you_try388 Před 8 dny +2

    hey! this showed up in my recommended and i felt sending a little love to all you guys. from a dude who has spent years looking for a queen, i will tell you all that finding your person certainly isn't as easy and simple as we wish it could be sometimes, but there's no need to worry :) go with the flow and work on being the best version of yourself personally, and i promise you that your soul mate will come eventually. i've spent a good long time working on myself physically, mentally, going to therapy, and making sure i'm making enough income to support whomever comes into my life, because in order to find a queen, i need to be a king first. i'm rooting for all of you guys!! best of luck with the journey :)

  • @veronice_ronnie
    @veronice_ronnie Před 14 dny +1

    I'm only five minutes in and the flow of the videos so satisfying❤

  • @itsDARLAsChannel
    @itsDARLAsChannel Před 9 dny

    Very immersive watch, I enjoyed it. We all have our lessons to learn but I fully agree that: other people cannot fill the void inside of you that only self-love and self-respect can fill. The person who stays by your side, no matter what, for your whole life, is YOU. Even if others come and go (relationships ending in peace or conflict, friends moving away, death), you will always have yourself.

  • @marhoranghe2430
    @marhoranghe2430 Před 6 dny +4

    I believe falling in love is a blessing and some people are not blessed with that, and its okay i'm blessed with other stuff

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 6 dny

      who cares

    • @seal3081
      @seal3081 Před 2 dny

      I think it's more like people confuse love for infatuation. And to find a partner can take 100 times more work than you think it will. I've known so many people who expect life to come to them but that's not how life works.

  • @jesslytomorrow
    @jesslytomorrow Před 13 dny +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. And BTW your friend Lynn is a genius and she is absolutely right. You can only love someone else, if you love YOURSELF first. When you really meet the ONE, you do not have to think about, how to behave. You can just be yourself and will be loved unconditionally. That’s real love. I wish you the best of luck! You deserve an awesome partner, who cherish you for who you are. Do not give up! You are a precious human being and perfect just the way you are. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise ❤

  • @pomegranate3601
    @pomegranate3601 Před 14 dny +1

    thank you for sharing this.

  • @phizzy123
    @phizzy123 Před 4 hodinami

    this was such a visually pleasing video to watch, but also a completely relatable feeling that i’m sure most of us have come to terms with at some point in our lives. 😊

  • @adaurey8520
    @adaurey8520 Před 13 dny

    Zoe, thank you so much!!! I loooove your vlogs and personal videos. ❤ Can’t wait to see what happens next omg!

  • @queenie1010
    @queenie1010 Před 14 dny +3

    Honestly same also I loove the documentary style❤❤❤

  • @Snickers4Kawaii
    @Snickers4Kawaii Před 14 dny +1

    Beautiful message zoe ❤️

  • @VivaciousLyla
    @VivaciousLyla Před 8 dny

    you’re an incredible storyteller

  • @Ayumi_xo
    @Ayumi_xo Před 14 dny

    the diaries are so prettyyy

  • @CYPHERZ-gz3bp
    @CYPHERZ-gz3bp Před 7 dny

    Having a friend like Lynn is a true blessing.

  • @tanealiawizzard6291
    @tanealiawizzard6291 Před dnem +1

    This video is so well made

  • @dhayapooranee.s1401
    @dhayapooranee.s1401 Před 13 dny +1

    yeeeah, THANK YOU for being so RELATABLE.

  • @chocolateunicorn1883
    @chocolateunicorn1883 Před 14 dny +26

    In this day and age i honestly admire you. It's better to stay single and a virgin, than to hook up with all type of men. It just shows that you respect yourself

  • @belleisangl
    @belleisangl Před 4 hodinami

    I think people wo don't edit videos themselves do not understand how much work and skill this video holds! much love and appreciation💌

  • @azalprins
    @azalprins Před 14 dny +2

    Zoe I love your videos, but this one touch me the most, I watch you from El Salvador and even if you are on a different context you are speaking to me right now. Thank you❤

  • @NRA2127
    @NRA2127 Před 14 dny +2

    I LOVED the way this video is made

  • @ju999X
    @ju999X Před 3 dny +1

    Oh my god . if feels so good to know others relate to this. what a great video

  • @selita1232
    @selita1232 Před 14 dny

    The Pandora Hearts clips throughout the video made me so so happy! One of my favorite series ever 🫶🫶🫶

  • @otakujuna2120
    @otakujuna2120 Před 13 dny

    Thank you for this video ❤ I’ve been through a similar situation a few months ago so video is so relatable!

  • @juanna4104
    @juanna4104 Před 14 dny +1

    Thank you for sharing this video! That helps me much! I wish you all the best, Zoe! your man will come one day, you are amazing!❤ I'm so glad you learned this important lesson! I am currently trying to learn this too.

  • @sarahxbrownie
    @sarahxbrownie Před 14 dny +8

    exited for the vid!

  • @kayleighdriessen
    @kayleighdriessen Před 13 dny +18

    If people weren't obsessing over romance and sex so much, we would all be more loving towards one another in general and platonic and familial relationships would be equally appreciated instead of treated as just insignificant placeholders. Growing into true healthy long-lasting love is way more important than "falling" in love and then act confused that your heart is in shambles.

  • @iwantyourluv111
    @iwantyourluv111 Před 5 dny +1

    "i just want someone to love me, is it too much to ask?" hits home.
    honestly, i've always wanted to experience the "perfect love", I've always wanted to fall in love and to live things, to experience new relationships, to get to know a person so much that i know how to love them properly.
    but instead, I've never had a lover nor a flirt.
    but recently i started to open my eyes : i already am surrounded by love. i have my bestfriends, i have both my parents and my siblings, i have my pets... in fact, it's really simple to find love everywhere. and that's why i don't feel the need to be in a relationship anymore. i still want to experience having a lover, but it isn't in my priorities anymore.
    this video literally screams girlhood 😭💞

    • @ville__
      @ville__ Před 5 dny +1

      "i just want someone to love me, is it too much to ask?" hits home.
      honestly, i've always wanted to experience the "perfect love", I've always wanted to fall in love and to live things, to experience new relationships, to get to know a person so much that i know how to love them properly.
      but instead, I've never had a lover nor a flirt.
      but recently i started to open my eyes : i already am surrounded by love. i have my bestfriends, i have both my parents and my siblings, i have my pets... in fact, it's really simple to find love everywhere. and that's why i don't feel the need to be in a relationship anymore. i still want to experience having a lover, but it isn't in my priorities anymore.
      this video literally screams girlhood

  • @overthinkingkpop
    @overthinkingkpop Před 14 dny +12

    Vulnerability is magic. I feel so fortunate to be tagging along on your journey. I'm so grateful you found the support you've been lacking.

  • @fairylivee
    @fairylivee Před 13 dny

    Thank you for this video grl❤️❤️❤️

  • @hirxch134
    @hirxch134 Před 2 dny

    I wish i had a friend throughout everything i went through... but ig i wasnt lucky enough. Or perhaps i was looking no where.
    You put the experience and articulate it so beautifully in words.

  • @formywellbeing
    @formywellbeing Před 14 dny +14

    I felt that I am not alone in this situation after watching this video.Thank you for sharing such meaningful content❤

  • @lumalah9144
    @lumalah9144 Před 14 dny +1

    Honestly this is a pretty good and finally ORIGINAL VIDEO(I mean it’s been done before but I haven’t seen this kind of video now a days) , but ima give it a like :)))

  • @kam-vt9xj
    @kam-vt9xj Před 14 dny

    god i loved this so much

  • @AlyssaEastman
    @AlyssaEastman Před 13 dny

    I just watched the full video. This is one of my favorites on your channel! The girl you were talking to in 10:03 looks like the girl from “glowing up ruined my life” CZcams video

  • @bubbletea5431
    @bubbletea5431 Před 14 dny +8

    I LOVE YOU ZOE

    • @bubbletea5431
      @bubbletea5431 Před 14 dny

      Ur like an internet older sister for me :)