Why results come when you stop caring
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- čas přidán 29. 04. 2020
- This is a phenomenon that I see come up repeatedly with my clients and viewers. Does not caring really make the results come more? I explain and talk about what the fundamental principle at work here is.
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If you stop chasing but still expect results you don't stop caring. To truly stop caring is to not expect any results and be happy with your state of being whether what you want comes, or not.
Exactly
Agree
Great one
Every girl wants what she can't have. Girls can tell when a guy has better things to do or doesn't care that much, and they love it.
True shit they start coming back and saying shit like “why don’t you text anymore” or “I miss you 🥺” and shit like that but it’s starts to get annoying because they’re the ones who seem to stop caring first so I just don’t either 😂
That never works for me. I only get success when I’m trying to make something happen. If I don’t reach out to her they disappear. “Oh I thought you weren’t interested so I moved on” is what I hear. Acting like I don’t care never ever works for me. I would die a virgin at the age of 102 if I acted like I don’t care.
David Álvarez that just means they were never interested in the first place because if she really liked you she would’ve came back wanting your attention
But that's the point she had her chance now it's too late she cant have it no more.. Bye
@@Jambuc829 I think you got it wrong. No body is asking a man to avoid women entirely. No contact means you stop chasing all the time and allow her to chase you as well. Of course, in most of the cases you have to make the first move and start the relationship with the girl. If a woman is interested in you, she will contact you if you take a break in your communication with her. If she is not interested in the first place, then too much contact from your side won't change it. On the other hand, even a woman who has some interest in you might get bored if you are reaching out too much.
This does not only apply to women, but social relationships in general.
To sum up, Confirmation bias disappears when you're not too focused on individual results, having passion and drive beyond getting a girls attention will bring the attention, and being relaxed and in the flow state will prevent overthinking. Good advice. Thanks Lloyd
This is so accurate. Met a girl on Tinder and we talked a lot. Almost too much. I blame that on this quarantine, but we were really into each other. Then... it just fizzled. I think we knew each other too much before we met.
A dating coach by the name Locario, spoke about tinder because of the epidemic. In a nutshell have each other contact info, so when the epidemic goes, you two get to plan and meet. A lot of women are on Tinder to get attention, too much of it makes them fizzle out.
Maybe she will be back. Does she show you any kind of social media attention right now?
She’ll be back
@@damien4v3 do you think so?
T984e37 S yeah as long as you don’t chase her . What was the last messages sent ?
What’s also helpful about not caring is that it can help you realise sometimes they didn’t give a crap about you anyway.
The only issue is that when I stop caring, I become invisible. And the shitty thing is that I bet a lot of ppl don't know what I'm talking about.
You missed the point then, you still care, it seems :)
You still care.
Don't worry man, I know where you're coming from. This "stop caring" thing is not like turning on a switch, just focus on yourself ( I know, it sounds cliché) but little by little you start focusing on the important things that REALLY matter in life.
Keep it up.
Stop caring means you put your energy into other things. If you just withdraw that energy and don't put it into something else then u won't get results.
Well you didn't watch the whole video. You want to show that you care, but you need to have things in your life that you care more about than her. You want to be an erect dick that has better stuff to do than a limp dick. Get my drift?
@LEO2001 it's true that these games work. It's a shame but the manipulation works.
It shows that you have options and more women want you - preselection and being a desirable man
Absolutely bro
🙏🙏 yup
What's bugging me is this :
You have someone that really cares for you and your well being. Why would someone not like this?
Like let's be honest. There's a reason I chose you and I do not seek anything else. Why would you seek me when I find another option? This seems to me just a mind game that only makes things complicated. Why can't it be more simple? More direct.
Right if you care about there well being and think they are a cool person people should be like faltered even if they only like you has a friend not a bf type of thing.
Men run on logic. Women run on emotion. Men go for what they want women by what they feel
It's kinda like this. Too much of you and they loose interest. It's like when you only eat chicken for weeks. You get sick of it. You want some beef for a while. Basically I'm saying it's too much too quick, too good too quickly. You don't want whipped cream on every dessert, just maybe twice a week. And once you're gone and they realise other guys are more boring, or they've had time away from you and allowed their feelings and thoughts to settle, they start to remember how good you were. Just like the song they played on repeat and overdone it. Then they realise after a few weeks how crap modern songs are and come back to their old favourite.
@@OffGridInvestor best comment
It’s so funny how tables turn on women when you mirror their actions, like naw don’t act like your interested now i already have a 4-5 girl rotation
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Amazingly said bro... especially the last thing about short term & long term people was lit! Nailed it❤️🔥
Keep up the videos. You obviously have a lot of experience with girls and you're trying to spread the knowledge you've acquired over the years. You're an awesome guy
Short and effective videos! Thank you, I am learning attraction myself too; you are a big inspiration for me.
this is accurate 100%, this happened to me when I'm choosing to not caring with them anymore
The real key is not caring about the outcome but if you act aloof towards the girl then that's a problem
Bang on bro! Killed this one. 🤟💯
David the chief 😎🤙🏽.Jesus loves u all
That art of being detached! You’re in the best place when you’re happy with the outcome either way. It’s not just in dating but in other areas too! It’s just women and men don’t want someone who’s needy at least not from the word get go. Not caring about the outcome doesn’t mean you’re not compassionate or caring. Be happy and just go with the flow.
Being detached as a man is an abdication of your inmate power as a man. Please don't be fooled, if you're detached as a man, than this woman is not the one for you. No man that has been in love or deeply desired a woman for himself has ever been satisfied with being detached about where she ended up with in love. You abandon your instinct this way. If you as a man really don't care who this woman belongs to, you do not feel in love with her. Absolutely no man that has been in love with a woman found that acceptable to allow her to be with someone else and have that be remotely okay for him. Where is your instinct sir I would ask. Men Hunt and men capture. They don't manipulate emotionally but they lead the direction of the relationship. It's so strange as a lady to hear such confusion. When have women been your competition!? Or love been a game!?? Love has never been a game and you speak of women as if they are competitors rather than other men your competition. No other place is this the case. In nature you don't have rams competing and challenging the lady ram. Or battling her for her affections! They are competing with other male rams! How confusing is your statement for sure. Lions are not fighting the lioness for her. He's fighting other lions for her. Bring attached to outcomes is exactly a masculine trait. No achievements have been accomplished by being unattached to the outcome at all. No sports games won, no establishment built, no invention created, nothing men have ever done in history has occurred by being unattached to the outcome. For men to accomplish anything, they have always had an attachment to the outcome that has driven it forward. And moving forward is highly masculine. It's the very opposite of feminine. I'm not sure where it got confusing but I truly hope there is some resonance with this. Because it's truth. Being unattached has not created a win for any man ever in life. No corporate worker has gotten there being unattached. He would likely be ruled out for those with more drive and intention as in any competition or any other arena in life where hierarchical ways of being drove the outcome. To any reading this, I hope this helps some. Unattached is and will be the death of you. As it is any area where competing requires all of you. Good luck to you all in love. May you discover real bliss
Spot on. They want to be involved in that something more
This is so true. I feel like this girl I’m trying to go after is losing interest in me and I can tell that I have been really needy and pushy in our relationship. I’m going to take things slow and focus on myself and my goals and let everything else play out thank u so much
How'd it go?
I had a girl I was into and was investing more into her than she was into me. We went on a first date and it was ok but nothing exciting and she gave me the cheek. I asked her on a second date and she said yes but blew me off so I just backed off and stopped all contact. Ive been on my purpose and busy doing my own thing and have been posting the stuff Ive been doing on fbook and now shes been hitting me up and watching all my stories and liking my stuff lol. Not interested in her anymore though
Did she reach back out
@@halo091 no but shes always the first to watch my stories and liking stuff on my facebook. Totally weird
It's so funny!
Imo she just wants you to hit her back..But you know the answer.. don't do that.. She's not the best for you 👌🏻
Good job brother.honestly, u just gotta focus on u and all the bitches will notice and respect it.💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Every time I “stop caring”, anyone I was talking to stops talking to me and forgets about me and I don’t take the initiative to reach out to new people and I end up totally alone.
Same
This is about girls who are partially into you, or totally into you but haven't committed themselves yet.
If you "don't care" about a girl who doesn't care about you, she won't even know you exist in first place.
Same, i try that don't give a fuck attitude but i end up being alone more even, like i lack of charisma or something.
Gotta work on being more interesting or having a higher value.
Not caring means, going out and expressing yourself freely without giving a fuck what people think about you.
I would also say that if you stop caring just to get her back or to chase you, then it won’t work as expected. You have to genuinely focus on something else, something to improve your life, then things will happen naturally.
Indifference, always i intriguing, big love men, stay up and ALWAYS IMPROVING
Glad to have this phenomenon explained thanks bro
Thank You for this.. :) i needed it even your advice about being cautious about these kinds of girls.
Great advice my man you’re so helpful
I recently started watching your videos again, and i'm happy to see that you finally dropped that cringey wink you used to use in your outros. Whatever friend you have that finally woke you up, you owe him a drink and a nice lunch.
Thanks for clarifying between not caring and not caring as much. Rn I'm upset I didn't speak to a girl who was showing interest but I just didn't put much care into her. Next time
These videos are golden. Keep it up ✊🏻💯
This is why I’m choosing when it comes to being friends with some lady’s.
Appreciate the advice bro u the man...
I think similar thing actually applies to life generally, not just women. From what I've read and from my own experience I think that not caring much about the results, but loving the process makes you best performer at anything.
I think balance is a better word, not too much not too less.
Great video bro!
Useful information !!
Yes, show interest but not desperate interest. Desperation=EW!
so when can you love someone and give her all your time? lol wtf is wrong with women, don't like men who love them? just half love?
When the feeling is mutal. Pretty much anyone whether it is the guy or girl putting way too much into something, too early is a turn off. Give it time, get to know a person, make sure you two genuinely match and you’re not trying to “love” someone to fill a void. Loving someone and giving your all in my opinion should be done when it is received and reciprocated. If someone is not reciprocating your affection, you risk coming off as desperate. Have your own life, of course you should care... but this is a fine line that men should learn to balance. Don’t create a toxic dynamic, but don’t be too available. It’s just the theory that everyone wants what they can’t have.
This guy gives great advice ngl
Instead of saying
not caring,
when you have your own life, and working on yourself the best, everyone starts wanting you
Every Girl is looking for the guy with the most resources so she can use them long term.
If you have money, car, house, own a company, have a lot of friends, have a lot of females stare at you outside. She will be yours but she is looking to use you..
Waqas Ahmed so all girls are prostitutes ?
@@NoName-lm7nk yes all girls are ..
They want you too spend on them in order to sexually please you...
Woman want you to spend on them for them to cook for you, do your laundry, clean your house..
The list goes on..
Why you think theres a high divorce rate..
? Its because once a man realize a woman is only using him he finds sex elsewhere ... and the cycle never ends..
How you explain woman being with men close to their fathers age and not with a man their own age..? Its money she wants it for sex and her time...
you have to get them "hooked" to you first. by just not-caring, only thing is gonna happen is you're just gonna ghost her away.
What is an indication that they're hooked if they dont message first or for a while?
@@halo091simply if they're showing interest.
If we, males and females both stopped playing games we would be in a much better place.
We have a winner !!!!!
My guess would be that guys are going all in and there is no challenge for the girl is why she loses interest. Make her qualify herself, and she will start to chase . Girls seem to get turned on to guys their not sure they can get.
Can the interest be regained
Yes, but you kinda got do a fresh start.
@@allmenanswers4208 no contact?
Yes, it should be on my channel.
Yeah there needs to be a mindset shift of not being easily impressed
great content you have
Hi, boy.
You're our boy Loyd.
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Loyd you are amazing. The way you described is just so soothing and easily understood. Love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩
Hi bro i am from India 🇮🇳
Hello brother. How everything is going in India?
@@md.rifatrahamatullah4754 going pretty bad 70000 cases so far and learning to be alpha male now don't want to be nice guy.
And glad we watch this channel no south asian watch such channel and fail to get gf they watch Desi channel instead with crap
@@the_unconventional_Indian77 yup got it. In Bangladesh it's also getting bad to worse day by day. Now it is over 16000 in my country. Yes may be we are very few persons who are from South East Asia in these sort channels. I think these channels are far more effective and informative than other South Asian channels.
Stay Safe Brother 🙂.
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I want to care though. Im tired of not caring.
move with passion, but not neediness.
Not caring is key. Last year I meet with I girl I knew back in hs. We started chatting a lot through text because we we live in different countries, two months after she wasn’t as responsive like in the beginning and that attraction she had for me I guess faded. I went back to her country and she seemed interested in hanging out but when I asked to set up a date to go and have fun she’d refuse. After that I didn’t text her again for months except in her birthday. One year later now she’s the one texting me first, or at least the last 7 times we had a conversation was bc she texted first or commented my snap stories. Now I keep chatting light and don’t make many questions or disclosing much info, she’s the on doing all that, and when I say something like “oh nah you don’t wanna know about that”, she replies with “oh, now I’m interested!”. I realized snap streaks is an attraction killer since you talk every single fing day, so in trying to kill that 5 day streak, I just mentioned to her I had this long business assignment and later that night I said “well gotta go do some more work on this thing, night” and left it there, she said night too and now it’s just a matter of time till she texts first again, cuz now she’ll be wondering if I’m done with homework or wth is going in my life that I didn’t text her again, but its fine cuz I made it very clear that I has stuff to do.
If you don't care then she doesn't care. It's as simple as that.
All so worked
Good advice. Seems women need to be validated when a man doesn't show interest. They perceive his indifference as strength and disrespects him if he demonstrates a need to share his life....well at least in the early stages of romance.
I gotta watch one of ur friend zone vids lmao , some girl was all over me for the first few days then she slowly became worse and said today be mates as she don’t want anything for a while , that attraction she had can’t just go so maybe over time I’ll win her back by accident lol
Should come natural...its not a game. Self love.. is important.
What a fun game 😅
Because you are not validating her anymore
whatever i do. im still do all those wrong
When I care: She's completely disinterested, annoyed and doesn't reply.
When I don't care: She seems relieved that I'm not talking to her and is hoping I gave up.
When I don't care that she doesn't care: I don't meet anyone because unless I'm doing the approaching, nothing is gonna happen and I'm not going to meet anyone.
Honestly, the whole "attract her by not caring" thing might as well be "arrive at your destination by not moving". It makes no sense. I've never had a girl approach me or show interest in me unless I approach her. But just by approaching, you're showing interest, and when you approach and show interest, she's turned off and not interested. So the action that gets you two talking by definition makes her not interested.
I think there's some kind of glitch in the code that governs my life, can I get the code that all these other guys have, where girls approach them and show interest in them? Thanks.
Pay them just enough attention to keep them interested. Though women in 2020 are ignorant anyways. Headaches.
I just split with a girl after almost a year. Already in a relationship 3 weeks later. Was no talking, said I been done for awhile like WTF.
Jhon Wayne Females leave the relationship mentally and emotionally way before they leave physically. That’s why knowing how to read body language is important when dealing with women. If you get a feeling that your girl is cheating, more than likely she is, or getting ready to. Always go with your gut feeling
@@nicekix3038 so true
Hi, Can you make a video about what exactly to do if she reach out to you after no contact coz it works for me and i have no idea what to do, tnx more video soon
I wonder if this applies to the opener though.
This works for tests and exams too right?
Gold Experience Requiem I care more about video games
@@nergigante. no wonder I suck at videogames
I wish 🤣
Ya shouda get more like
Lol
👁👄👁
I got a girlfriend by not caring.
Robert Carswell that’s a wrong way to look at it.
Rich Sun it’s really not. They desire a busy man.
Robert Carswell no
Dallasmed65 that’s what my original point is.
It makes zero sense it really does. If someone seems to not care with me I am going to truly think they are just not into me at all. If I like someone I care and I suck at hiding it. The only thing that will make me not care is if I meet someone else or if I am not around the current person. If I meet someone else so I am then not caring then well I am with someone else so its to late. I hate these stupid mind games.
So accurate I put in more attention towards her and was treated like I wasn't important.. as soon as I stopped all communication then she started showing me more interest so I agree . If u show her too much or act needy you will ruin all the sex and all the intimacy between each other this was my issue with my ex. We would have sex on a regular as soon I started acting somewhat needy all the things started to disappear 🤷
There's nothing wrong with desiring women and wanting to be with someone, it's human nature. You don't have to be on some grand purpose. There are tons of average looking dudes with regular ass jobs with beautiful women. Value is conveyed by your inner game. Boundaries. Set boundaries and act on them and be willing to walk away from someone that has any negative behavior.
The key to being in a healthy relationship is FIRST be completely happy and content being alone. That feeling will make the other person feel desired and happy.
But someone can feel when you need them. It's alot of unwanted pressure. Put yourself in their shoes. Do you want someone that constantly needs your attention? Of course not.
Being high value is not about money, status or looks. Its just the opposite. It's about your secure mindset. The unwavering believe you're the prize. Confidence in yourself and your decisions. When you truly stop caring about what the girl you like thinks about you, it's like a super power. You don't need her or anyone's approval. This allows you to demonstrate how much you like yourself. This allows your to be your most attractive self.
Emotional connection and most importantly, vulnerability. Women are addicted to a strong but vulnerable man. It makes her realize you're human, make mistakes, and your own your own journey in life. You really don't care what others think. When you truly demonstrate emotional vulnerability (in a positive and humorous way) oh man they fall for that. You have to know women function off of feelings and emotions, and only care about the way you make her feel. I'm not talking about doing favors, flattery, or all these main stream nonsense. She needs to feel a connection to you. You can do this by telling small emotional anecdotes, being vulnerable, etc. Anything you do that conveys you're a playful guy, can't be tamed, and don't brag will work.
Oh my god...
He’s right women freak out if a man is focusing his attention on something else 😆
Hi Loyd. Would you make a video about how to date a celebrity? Do I sound delusional
How do you know if she's in it for the long term/ good for long term?
Is it working even when you are dating with the girl?
What is that song at the end ??
I don’t want to pester or chase her but I don’t want to not put in any effort what shall I do?
Also gentlemen, lovingly I say this. Learn how to create quality emotional connection with feminity. If you even imagine having a marriage or even family texting is such a small scale matter in the relationship. Texting truly should be reserved for making plans and short thoughts here and there. You are not committed or invested in someone from a text relationship. It's not sustainable
Make a MasterClass Lloyd
I care about my career more 😏😏😏
Is it possible to regain attraction after investment? I was having some amazing dates with this woman including sex, etc, but you know, I already had interested in her before and then I started to invest a bit more then her and she said that didn't wanted that "now", unfortunately I touch this subject but with zero exigencies. Yes she started to get distance and we are not talking since the day she was talking short. I just wanted that we have fun again.
Simple her first option flaked
A man who has built his life is very attractive. It shows a lot about a man's character along with other things as well. Women are always looking for stability. And if you're not in a steady and stable place as a man a woman that is wife material will not usually go for a man that is still building and not in a secure place in life. A mature feminine woman seeking a husband wouldn't do this. She'd be open to man that is more established. A women would seek out a man that is everything she wanted right now. Not a man that she might be tempted to fix or change later on.
Hey lloyd love the advices you give . I knew a girl she was very interested and i was also but whenever i call her on her phone i find her occupied i said that i didnt like it and i repeated that to her nearly 3 times the last time i said to her that i wont call you again . And i didnt contact her and start talking to other persons on the phone and she starts calling and she finds me occupied
She said she is ready to make everything right this time . Should i continue talking to others or should i give her a chance
Update?
How about Realtionship? How can i care less
So I've dated this girl for a year and we have hit a huge dip in the road so to speak. We have both expressed we have no desire to remarry. We are trying to get a home together and unfortunately that might fall through the cracks which I'm thinking is causing stress on our relationship. Should I stop caring so much and walk away?
Bro I'm also starting no contact rule and not caring does it work??
Well the elephant in the room to me is how do you let a girl know you are interested and show that you don't care at the same time? If you just pass her by like she's nobody, unless your a total golden boy, she's not going to run up and be amazed with you. So do you actually mean stop caring once they lose interest? Also, how do you stop caring when you actually do care allot? Just fake like you don't care?
Loyd help me please ... my ex gf of 3 years just went to the dumps she said she loves two men me and her baby daddy who’s a ex con and just got out ... she’s been talking to him more and more I did no contact for a week and she broke it and said she wants to be friends and see where it goes but she does bring up the fact that she’s trying to work on herself but she’s still thinking of him we have always been open with each other and been honest .. we also had plans of getting a marriage and a house I don’t want to walk away I have to much into this relationship how do I handle this.
I find it hard to 'chase' whilst still playing it 'cool' ?
A man building his life is very attractive. It shows a lot about a man's character along with other things as well. Women are always looking for stability. And if you're not in a steady and stable place as a man a woman that is wife material will not usually go for a man that is still building and not in a secure place in life. A mature feminine woman seeking a husband wouldn't do this. She'd be open to man that is more established. A women would seek out a man that is everything she wanted right now. Not a man that she might be tempted to fix or change later on.
The girl I was seeing moved back home a over a month ago. She told a friend she doesn’t see us working out bc we can’t see each other for months. So when I heard that I started focusing on my self & haven’t heard from her in 2 weeks. Really been working on my self & got a job, etc. She said she wanted to continue things when she comes back (to a friend) but should I keep my hopes up ?
Bro she said all that to a friend and not to you.. You're better than that. Keep on working on yourself
Robert Carswell I wish that were true for me. I invested in myself and haven been with a girl in any way in over a year.
NEVER waste time living in hope (coz I have). Do your own thing, get on with stuff that helps YOU, start finding other nice girls. If she comes back and it works out, good. Otherwise you haven't lost any time. Ultimately if she starts seeing social media posts of you with other girls, even just a group of them, if there WAS ANY underlying attraction in her that hadn't risen to the surface, it now will. They get attracted to a guy doing their own thing, not some guy hoping and begging and hanging on for her. If you have your OWN path, that's what is attractive. Of course don't actively push her away but be chill.
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I will text once or twice to a woman and then ignore her texts for a few hours. I find that if you instantly text back they get demanding and think they own you. But if you hold off they get are happy to hear from you.
Im so tired
I hope 'caring less' doesn't come out as breadcrumbing. Cuz only unhealthy girls would be attracted and stick around a guy who breadcrumbs.
You have to breadcrumb with everyone to a certain degree to make your personal moments more meaningful
4:45 absolute fire. Woman can be really selfish, they would cry for your attention when you become more attractive, and some times be angry towards you, that when you were with them you were "not this cool".
Here is a question Loyd!: how can I be in an abundance mindset, while being in a relationship or a non-oficial monogamist relationship?
i was thinking of about, showing interest towards the girl you like but not losing this attractive thing going on of not being too available
Im in situation right now, where i texted with this girl almost a month and half, asked her out she said she is busy, maybe other time, so i stopped texting her, she texted me last night, asked how am i, i answered and asked same qs, she said she is really good and i replied with, super with smiley face, she just left me od read. Any advice? Should i text her?
move on and have respect for yourself, shes wasting your time
Stringing you on my friend. Just checking to see if she still go you on the hook. It will be time wasted perusing anything. On to the next delete her number.
Go build your rotation g
From the sounds of things, she was probably just bored. I've known girls like this who will start conversations with the assumption that they don't have to put any effort in because they expect YOU to carry the conversation, and if you don't you're the boring one.
Never put a female before yourself, she only a queen if chosen by a king. Remember that kings
At what point is flip flop really a problem. In the first few dates, before investment starts up I could see some flip flop just as they aren’t fully bought in…?
Im the first like
I met a girl from tinder like that she did it twice and I blocked her and switched my number
Very less subscriber i thought the channel hve more than 2 3 million
And, love and relationship are modeled a certain way. Real men attract real women. What works is a self replicating system. I say this very lovingly, real feminity attracts real and true masculinity. This natural design of how things work, is not going to change to fit your level of understanding. It's easy and normal to assume that an experience is everyone's experience but, that's just not true. Rather than stay in your level of understanding, learn what truly works for healthy and lasting love. You have to match to attach to something this is a universal principle. True feminity will always match true masculinity. They are opposites yet equal compliments. Some key Hallmark characteristics of masculinity are wealth/abundance, generosity, fortitude, wisdom, honor, selflessness, authority and power. The root of all criticism is selfishness. The main issue in men that keeps them from living out manhood to the full is this-selfishness. Selflessness is the essence of manhood. Selfishness is the opposite. Narcissism is self love at the expense of others and is the kryptonite of manhood. If a group of boys gather outside, you can be sure that something will be broken and somebody will get hurt-boys use their power to destroy. If a group of men gather outside, they will put on hard hats, roll out blueprints, and something is going to get built and many will be helped-men use their power to build. What is the difference? Maturity-that is the difference! Immature men misuse their power. Where you go comes from what you know. Everyone deserves love. You just need to understand what you really are and truth to get you to where you want to be