r/Bestof Are My Parents Grooming Me?
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Parents
10:08 Step siblings
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I think it's obvious that the landlord couple wanted op to break up with her bf, and be their 3rd, made more obvious when he mentioned their dead bedroom life.
Yeah and like another commenter said they most likely paid op’s parents to “buy” her from them which is why their reaction was so visceral
Bruh, they tweaking!
Yeah they've got some sick obsession with OP.
Maybe, but that doesn't explain the parents behavior
If I offered you the same option would u accept?
The Scotts are business partners with OPs parents, so i bet they were holding financials over their heads
Thought so too. My guess is, the Scotts "bought" OP for whatever reason.
Massive Cult vibes
@@darko-man8549 That's what I thought too, trying to isolate OP to teach her "their ways"
They probably think they own OP and her family.
Where did you get this information?
That first story is really unsettling, theres several parts that sound very culty. Mainly because their have literally been cults where devote parents have "given" the old cult leader their teen and young adult daughters to be amongst his wives and "honor" the family. Theres just a lot of weird little things that give that vibe, like the "he can't be intelligent because he has no royal or noble blood". How much you wanna bet the Scotts made up some storyline of them being descendants of some kind of royal, prophet or higher power? The way the parents venerate the Scotts just screams early stage cult.
I did not consider that but it would actually explain some of the odder stuff the parents criticized, why they seem so hostile to her effectively being independent and dating, and why the go to move is to punish OP’s brothers.
I think they were depending on op to keep the old pervert sweet, and are upset she won't toe the line. It's either a cult or there was a business deal.
I hadn't thought of that either, but it seems like a solid explanation for what is happening in this story.
I hope the younger brothers manage to separate themselves and find safety and security before the parents get in too deep, and it sounds like they are in pretty deep already.
It's either this, or a drug addiction. By which I mean, OP's parents are on something and the Scotts are their dealers.
I was absolutely getting a "church" vibe from the whole thing.
The second story gave me WHIPLASH
I’m so used to stories like that getting worse and worse but to have the step family immediately recognize their toxic behaviour and work to fix it is so refreshing
I guess the reddit comments must have absolutely reamed them for being unfair parents, good on reddit for once
They needed to read (and hear) his perspective to realize they were unfair to OP. Allowance thing felt a bit odd to bring up but tbf it seems the allowance is age dependent (ish)
So glad that it had a wholesome ending. Now to teach those little kids how boundaries work, lol
EDIT: corrections were made
@@11epicnoobop is a guy.
It really isn’t hard to do. It really, really isn’t hard to stand down and know when you’re the problem.
So many of these incidents are at LEAST forgivable if people knew when to stand down and accept fault. Instead they will scream and scream and battle to the end to preserve this illusion of do no wrong, at the increasing expense of everyone around them.
It’s horrible.
@@Simipourfangirl oh... point still stands though, glad it ended on a good note
OP's parents *accuses fiance's family of grooming OP*
Charlotte Dobre: "Introducing my friend. Her name is Projection."
😂
Yes!
Not really since there was no grooming.
@@DrunkSamurai Well, they tried to, so....close enough
@@fanfictiondreamer7836 No because you can't groom an adult.
@@DrunkSamurai Maybe not, but knowing these people and their massive egos, they probably believe that they could still have their daughter groomed, even if she is an adult.
Story 1: At first, I thought, like Rslash, that it was about her marrying the Scott's sons. But Mr Scott talking about his sex life changed things. That is quintessential cheater grooming behavior. That also gives with his comments at the end about "supporting her" and "won't be there to help after the divorce."
Why not both? I wouldn’t put it past Mr Scott to have groomed his sons into thinking that him having his way with their wives was perfectly normal…
Why not both? I could see the father being manipulative enough to [convince[ his sons that their wives are [open]. (Attempt 3 posting this.)
@@Tustin2121 it could be both, but the facts of the story seem to indicate Mr Scott wanted her as his gilly.
Is grooming the right term for an adult?
@@radhiadeedou8286Conditioning maybe, or brainwashing?
The last one always makes me have hope that there are parents out there who do listen, especially when it’s important.
Exactly because what would’ve happened to OP if they didn’t listen and continued to neglect OP?
I hope as well.
@@lorilancaster5917I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but in a universe where nothing would've changed (or got worse), it would just turn into another case of a child cutting of the parents. And I think you understand why that's a negative.
It’s easy to reflexively think they are just toxic but it also makes sense that they were trying their best to help the 3 new kids in the house adjust and got tunnel vision. Their reaction to the Reddit post and comments is so refreshing. Sometimes people just need a reality check
@@lorilancaster5917 I too am unsure if you're being sarcastic or not, but there was a fairly good chance of OP unaliving himself if the situation didn't improve.
Story 2: OP is only a year younger than his step sister, but was forced to share a room with his step brothers who are 5 years younger than him while getting an allowance that's $5 more than the brothers and $40 less than the sister... And the parents didn't see their blatant favoritism?
EXACTLY! I JUST posted about this. Honestly it's STILL not fair. And yes, they DEFINITELY saw their favoritism, they just didn't expect op to have noticed. They were likely only concerned with their poor, neglectful treatment of op getting out, which is the reason why they hurriedly tried to "fix" things. 😩
@@Rose_Bride It isn't fair. I think they only chose the new allowance structure because it's what a commentor suggested, and I think they only feel bad now because they were exposed to a bunch of internet strangers. As hopeful as I am that things got better for OP, fact is, OP's dad cared more about what everyone else thought than about his own son. That's a crying shame.
In my opinion I think they just made it a priority to make the kids moving into the new house more comfortable and just didn't consider that just because OP didn't move houses this would still have a huge affect on him, also OP sounds like someone who rarely speaks up about issues, considering he posted on Reddit and let them read it rather than telling them.
I'm glad that the parents took this as a learning experience, rather than double down.
I think it's just oversight and assumptions made by the parents, not necessarily favoritism, there isn't any real signs of malicious intent from the parents so I think ignorance is a better explanation.
Sounds like they just got tunnel vision focusing on the 3 incoming children. If they didn’t realize their mistakes it’s one thing but once they saw the light they made solid efforts to remedy it. It was obvious to everyone but them but they were willing to be wrong and change. I give them credit for that.
Another family situation, where the parent and step family treats OP like "Cinderella", except it ACTUALLY has a happy ending for OP!
The toxic family REALIZES their actions against OP ARE bad, and they actually fixed it!
Story 1: I think the comment’s theory is a pretty safe bet, why else would a 70-year-old man go up to a girl he knew since she was a child talk about his sex life?
And I think the parents might be in on it, like when these freaks found out about the wedding and OP cut them off, so they took away something that hurt their family’s business so they took out all their anger on their daughter. Even going as far to try and force her back into control to make her be around these people. Which would also explained the weird comment about her husband not having royal or blue.
Maybe it was a marriage to one of their sons. I don’t know, either way it’s a safe bed that her parents tried to sell her off and got mad they couldn’t get a payday.
I think they were hoping op would become his sugar baby to keep him sweet. Makes me wonder whether there was some deal that depended on her cooperation. If they wanted her to marry one of their sons then he really wouldn't have been making sexual comments.
There's a lot of things that have to be left out in all of this. What exactly, unsure. Clearly the parents are being financially abused and pressured by the business partner and the father is likely a massive control freak and monster
In fairness, old men open up once they feel safe. I know your generation only likes talking to people your own age and judge other generations, but this is true. There isn't always motive. But based upon some of Op's comments in her reddit, the Scott's invest a lot in her parent's business. My guess is they feel they own OP and her family, like they are little play things to control.
@@dudeorduuude5211 there are no good intentions when a older person tells a minor about their sexual desires while knowing better
Story 1: Wow, OP is showing massive restraint by not screaming back at them for being so hostile and uncaring of her feelings. If I were her, the moment the dad says f*ck my feelings, I would end the call, block him, and treat them as a lost cause already. They FLEW off the handle over something so small. The only bonker ones are the parents and the Scotts.
Same, but I think it was one of the brother’s phone that had that call.
@@audreynothepburn7663lol
When you cry to your dad and say that you just want basic respect, only to be told 'You think I give a shit about you or your feelings? F*** you!'
These people are just insane. Leave them all in the gutter, OP.
Oh I would kick the shit out of my mother and father if they spoke to me the way ops genetic donors did. What they said was fucking monstrous. To clarify I love my parents more than life itself but if they said those things that would be the kind of betrayal that's unforgivable.
Here's the thing. They want OP to fight back. Because that proves they still have some control over her. Blocking them and just going no contact is the best thing she can do, because it denies them any hold over her.
Ive heard stories of older couples trying to isolate and groom younger women into being the husbands mistress.
And since they're business partners with the parents, something tells me there was promise of money and prestige.
I don't know if money and prestige alone would explain how volatile and contradictory the parents acted. I think the Scotts are the parents source for a drug habit.
The Scott’s were DEFINITELY grooming OP.
they don't know how to groom, your supposed to make the target feel safe and happy with you...i think, thats what i get of successful cases of grooming in reddit stories
@@dinlupus3196as an expert in grooming, I can confirm, they are absolute amateurs.
@@dinlupus3196 I was a victim of grooming, man. Sometimes it’s abuse rather than the other stuff.
@@dinlupus3196Not every groomer is good at it
@@roryqpotter8242 im sorry, i didn't know that, thank you for the clarity and hope you doing better
"My mother uninvited me to X-mas...threatened to expose me if i didnt show up to X-mas."
[Cue Jackie Chan wtf face meme]
*Make it make sense*
Also, it kinda makes sense that its the dad that wants OP as a mistresses since it was *him* that was bitching and moaning about *his* sex life. Cause wtf else would he be telling anyone that shit? 🤢🤮☠️
Angry parents will do contradictory BS.
It's not actually that hard to break down, she's uninvited to Xmas unless she calls off the engagement but if she doesn't come to Xmas mom will "expose" her. Ergo, if you don't call off the engagement and rejoin the "family" mom will "expose" you. It's a roundabout threat with an ultimatum.
Here's how it makes sense: drug addicts having their supply held over their head.
I think the mother was saying, "Leave him, or you can't attend Christmas. If you do not attend Christmas, I will humiliate you."
The first story goes as follows if one reads between the lines.
The "noble blood" and the "Uncle from Russia" are two pretty big clues. When the Bolsheviks took over Russia, most of the nobility fled west and it is possible that some even moved to the US, while many of those who remained in Europe, moved back to Russia after the regime fell. It is within the rules of the Aristocracy that the kids must marry into either money or nobility. It is likely that OP's parents had some arrangement with the Scotts behind OP's back, that she was most likely going to be married to a Scott and, when she chose her boyfriend instead, her family went bonkers, because their plans were screwed.
The second story is such a breath of fresh air. Those parents screwed up but they really turned their shit around when they realized it.
I went looking into the first story and it looks like there's a possible reason? OP mentioned that her parents are Russian immigrants and the Scotts are also Russian. So chances are they're super wild about 'purity' or something super vain like that, considering their last few comments.
I kept wondering what culture they're from that selling their daughter (and not even telling her) would be acceptable or even conscionable. Not sure this one checks out, but for business advantages? Who knows.
Made me wonder if Mr Scott is Bratva.
@@asmith8692that could definitely be possible. OP and her husband should watch their backs just at in case there’s any retaliation.
I was wondering about that! I know that some Russian religions or cultural traditions can be super conservative, especially when it comes to outsiders like OPs fiancé. But I don’t know much more than that. Also Russia is huge so I imagine different practices are common in different places. To me it seemed very cult-ish with a dash of shady business dealings. So that is quite a mix!
Scott is Russian?
Story 1: Yeah no it was def to be the mistress. I was on the same thought train as rSlash (trying to get her with one of their kids) *until* OP said Mr. Scott was trying to tell her about their dead bedroom. Also I just saw another comment that pointed out that the Scotts had more money and might have 'bought' OP in a way, or were trying to.
Story 1: wow…why on God’s green earth and heavenly paradise was story 1?! OP’s parents basically had crazy “friends” who say OP as a young woman who they could control cuz they probably had a son or male relative (or rather r. Scott wanted to get with OP) who they wanted to set OP up with but was mad OP had a partner that she wouldn’t leave. Happy OP got away when she did because if she stayed, her life would have been miserable. But the Scotts are….unnervingly influential over OP’s parents. Like in a way that seems like they “drank the kool aid”. And the fact the parents would willing abandon their own kids out just cuz they want to attend OP’s wedding? Something seriously is off. Like if OP’s parents were normal then they went crazy after meeting the Scotts…what the heck happened?!
One theory, especially with the royal/noble blood comment, is that this is the sign of an early cult. In some cults, devout families give their daughters to the leader(s) to become a mistress in exchange for good will or whatever. The Scotts probably lied about being descended of an ancient royal/prophet and OP's parents drank the kool-aid
My guess is that the Scotts are her parents dealers. And I don't mean for cards.
Just my theory it sounds like they are in some sort of cult and the Scott's are the leaders and maybe they wanted her for one of their sons or maybe Mr. Scott wanted her for himself as a second wife or something
Other commenters theorized that Scott was lying about being descended of some prophet or king, and OP’s family drank the kool aid by “giving” their daughter to him as a mistress. Other cults did similar things where the more devout families gave daughters to the leader’s harem
Story 2: I think I applaud Jenny the most in this. Understanding her anger and how she was using it to cudgel OP, and then making the changes to apologize and do better, is a gigantic step, especially at her age. There are thousands of adults who can't do that. Really glad to see a healing family!
I remember the day I made my mom’s boyfriend cry cause I’ve beeb cold to him consistently and openly.
I remember my mom telling me I actually made him cry and even as a 12 year old who should of known better it felt like a fog cleared in sense and I had been so mean to a person who was just doing their best.
I called and apologized. I have no idea how that man was so patient with me...
I am grateful though. Last year him and my mom celebrated their 10 year anniversary and I’m proud he’s a part of my family, he’s a great guy.
Never would’ve expected the stepmom to step up and actually take her stepsons experiences into account and do something about it. It’s very refreshing
Story 2: Im sorry, they moved in to a place OP already lived and they required HIM to move rooms? Talk about a Cinderella syndrome
Story 1: in the wise words of Iron Maiden, "RUN TO THE HILLS! RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!"
It's really nice to occasionally have a story where the parents are actually decent people
Especially stepparents. Glad he didn’t have Cinderellas stepfamily
A good old "we talked it out and all is good now" story is just the best. :)
Oh the creepy Scotts for sure were trying to force OP into the role of mistress.
Ick.
I was really worried about the dad/stepmother/stepkids story for OP, at first. But I'm relieved to see that things worked out a lot better. Both parents realised their mistakes and turned things around as needed. Plus, there's now mutual peace between all members of the story, even between OP and the stepsiblings.
Story 1: Well, why not both? Maybe they were going to get her to marry one of their children and then the dad would basically have his “share” now that she’s “in the family”. I could see him being so manipulative as to convince his sons into allowing him whatever with their wives. (Attempt 6 posting this.)
Do the parents in the first story not realize that this is how you end up in one of those BAD nursing homes with no visitors? Because this is how that happens.
The parents must’ve not liked OP to begin with, so when the Scott’s started lying about OP it made them hate her even more…
Or OP’s family hated OP and told the Scott’s how “awful” she was so they started treating her badly/thought they could “fix her”…
At least this is what I could come up with. It did kinda seem like Mr. Scott wanted to sleep with her at one point but that didn’t seem to go anywhere so I’m not sure.
1. The Scotts were trying to control who the OP had a relationship with. It's up for debate whether they wanted her to join them, or matchmake her with one of their sons and the dad was just being a creep. Seems like the latter, since both would approach the OP if they wanted her to join them, having just the dad hint at it seems like he wanted covert action. Either way, they likely planned this before the OP moved in and used their influence over the OP's parents to try to isolate OP to let them attempt to control her more. Thankfully, their attempts failed to do more than allow OP to cut out the gullible, toxic parents.
2. Since when is it okay to give a girl a big room and make 3 boys share a smaller room? What I think happened is the classic case of dad following his nether region's advice, focusing on his new bedwarmer's feelings and his own desires above all. They likely promised the girl a big room to try to placate her instead of taking their relationship slower and getting her consent or letting her grow up and move out as an adult before taking the next step. Good that they got a spotlight thrown on their behavior and actually altered the situation to be better. The entire family could still use therapy. Together and separate.
Man, I was NOT expecting Story 3 to have such a wholesome ending. The fact that there was no toxicity at all, just family struggling to adapt to new circumstances was actually refreshing. I’m glad OP ended up with a good family instead of losing one.
Holy hell, Story 2... Parents that get it? That listened and actually took things in? Actually made steps to change?
What the hell did I just listen to? And the step sister apologized too!?
Actual intelligent human conversation and compromises?
So shines a good deed in a weary world…
@@JamesDavy2009 *Cap America vouce* I got that reference.
I think him writing it out, and very well too, gave them everything all at once and together. Really respect that they took the time to digest the information and talk together. Respect.
"Listen to your big brother."
I felt a lump in my throat.
Wow. Last story was super wholesome at the end. ❤
I'm willing to bet the scotts gave the parents money if they got the daughter to marry someone from the scotts family or became mr. Scotts mistress. Seen that a few times, it's more common in places like russia (not saying it's common, just more common) and apparently her uncle lives in russia, so I'm guessing her parents are russian.
I just went no contact with some of the closest family that I have left. I had to in order to keep my sanity. It took years for me to finally decide to just cut contact but I’m already feeling lighter.
Man I am so glad that the parents in that last story read the post, thought about it, admitted fault and made genuine effort to fix things. And the step sister! Who also reflected on herself and why she was behaving that way, and not only apologised but came to an accord with OP as, at least, allies in the household and backed that up with action! Feels so rare and beautiful.
Story 2: I certainly hope the change of heart was genuine and not just something brought about because the parents were embarrassed into compliance by the Reddit post. Not only were they publicly shamed, but if a Redditor had suggested it, OP could have gone to CPS (or someone would on his behalf) for very clear neglect. I know I sound cynical, but that's typically how these posts play out
This is what I felt too. It felt like a very strong turn around from everyone. Especially the sister. And while they seem to be doing better the solution still feels kind of unfair to me why do the youngest brothers only a year apart get the same allowance but OP and the sister have such a big gap? Why not have the little brothers move into the bigger room or basement if that’s bigger. Why are they still expected to share the smaller room? Also the way the sister is now telling her little brothers to listen to their “big brother” feels off to me. I can’t explain it but I can’t imagine she views him as a brother so why does she expect her brothers to?
Since USA is only 248 yo, it’s gonna be extremely difficult to find a man with royal blood 🤣🤣
Nah. Royals and Nobles had a lot of Kids and since the US has people from all over the world there are probably a lot of people who can trace their bloodline back to royals and nobles
@@natanoj16 True. But i assume that her parents meant direct royal bloodline. They’re crazy after all so they might as well have crazy standards🤣.
Also they (the US) fought a war because they no longer wished to be part of a monarchy, so having 'royal/noble blood' has been frowned upon there pretty much from the country's start.
Now if the person is rich and/or famous then that might be another story...
I’d be a lot more concerned about marrying someone who thinks that sort of thing is important as a post to a guy who finds snowboarding and entertaining hobby.
I’d be a lot more concerned about marrying someone who thinks that sort of thing is important as a post to a guy who finds snowboarding and entertaining hobby.
Dam that last story started out as with all the other stories where when a single parent gets married the other parent only focuses on their kids and starts abusing the other parent's kid and then at kids bio-parent doesn't help them.
Then the story had a happy ending unlike all the other stories.
Damn Rslash, you have a dedicated audience. Less than a minute in and youve already got likes and comments... kudos my guy. You worked hard to earn your audience.
And he worked harder to lose them!
right? the guy is a legend among redditers and youtuber viewers alike
@destinedtogame found the rslash hater.
Whyre you here? If you hate him just leave.
Dudes got 2 comments on each video mocking rslash.
One of his own comments
And another at the start of a comment thread
@@michaeljenkins178 SocialBlade shows that Dabney is currently losing over a thousand subs per month, at an average of 332 a day. Dabney was at almost 3 million subs a bit over a year ago. He's under 2 million now. Calling someone a "hater" doesn't change the fact that there are a significant, noticeable number of people growing tired of Dabney and his little shills like you. Dabney's audience is increasingly becoming younger, meaning you're the same group of kids who will watch garbage like the Ace Family. You can have your opinion, but it doesn't change the fact that Dabney is slipping, and we have verifiable proof.
@@SkunkApe407 I'm so sorry that this is what gets your jollies off. You may want to take a good link in the mirror and try to figure out why you're like this. It's genuinely amusing to me. But what a sad existence for you.
The day that Rslash retires from CZcams will forever change my morning routine, I love starting my day with these
same but it's the evenings for me - his videos come out at 4pm for me and that means my workday is almost over
He's married. Quit simpin.
@@clevergray8754 you okay?
@@clevergray8754 Reading little too hard into it dude. Listening about his family and the love he has for his kid is one of the many reasons I personally enjoy his videos
@@clevergray8754 not seeming very clever there gray
In the last story, my bet is that once the basement is finished Jenny tries to move in instead of allowing op to do so
Well it’s been 8 years so either that didn’t happen or she killed him.
I can be a team player, but trying to make me play for a specific team is unacceptable
So glad that last story had a happy ending. You see so many Reddit stories where kids get pushed aside when their parent remarries and it's like a total Cinderella situation where the stepparent and step siblings are abusive and the parent just doesn't see it or excuses it. So it's good to see that the dad and stepmom didn't get defensive when they read the OP's post and actually made changes so that everyone could be happy. The biggest surprise was Jenny apologizing, honestly did not see that one coming.
Jesus god golly Christ…..
Story one is absolutely crazy? Those parents should be in therapy (and/or prison), what losers. I hope OP is okay and safe now.
And story two reminds me of mt own situation years ago , it’s not a nice feeling. And I’m glad OPs situation got better! (Makes me lowkey jealous but ohs well no use trauma dumping things happened years ago),
Well, people do trauma dump a lot, mostly on Reddit.
Story 1: I think I heard a similar story, and no, I highly doubt OP was being groomed or anything. It's more like the family friends have a hard-on for control, and since OP is living under their roof, they must have taken it upon themselves to be OP's second set of parents. As for why OP's parents took their side, I have a hunch this "business partnership" is an unequal one, with the family friends obviously having the leverage, hence why they are capable of influencing the parents to do their bidding. The fact that these family friends still think they have power over OP with the "don't come to me when you get divorced" remark, it confirms they are delusional narcissists, and I really hope this is the last OP will ever hear from them, cause if I know anything about narcissists, they will not let this go.
Yep that's what I was thinking. well said
Story 1: I don’t have ANY basis for this…but i’m guessing Op’s toxic family and their creepy friends are religious fanatics…
Anyone else get that feeling…?
I’m getting some Fox News vibes with the part about being cancelled and not respecting his “values.” If the friends are 70ish, the parents are probably older, too, which makes them the right demographic. (Not saying all Boomers are right wingers.) This whole story is just nuts, though.
Words cannot describe the sigh of relief I breathed at the 2nd story having a positive outcome.
The last story surprised me. I like how the parents actually listened. It makes me happy that they didn't blow up and actually listened.
Story 2:Dad is not doing a good job of balancing
Update:So Jenny was the biggest jerk all along for doing all of this because "she wanted her mom back with her dad"
In the 1st story when I heard how the parents back tracked after supporting the engagement all I could think was “the Scotts are spinning lies to get OP into a relationship with their son” especially because of the context before when she lived with them… Also those darn onion ninjas struck me in the 2nd story 😭
Those darn ninjas!
Story 3: After the first two, it was nice to end on something wholesome. A+ on the parents for adapting the circumstances when faced with the difficulties for both children. Blending a family is hard, and parents are not infallible. We have heard so many stories from R/slash where the parents could have defensively blown up about the post when being confronted, but they took it in and showed their kid communication is rewarded in their family.
In regards to the story of the narcissistic parents of the Russian persuasion, I'm not surprised. I was born in former USSR and parents trying to control their children in most of their life decisions was a common practice. It's a little different now, but former immigrants are stuck with old world values.
the thing that baffles me about the first story is that this couple decided to put their "family friends" before ALL of their children
The second story was a pleasant surprise. I thought the minute he showed his parents the post they were going to get angry at him for some stupid reason, and I thought it was going to end with him staying with a friend. I’m glad it didn’t take that turn.
Last story: Sometimes writing your thoughts out is the best start for communication. You don’t get interrupted or frustrated by the other person interrupting. Also since it was a Reddit post there was some advice; among the crazy comments. The fact that the adults took the time to think about it was also very important. This is a sign of people who have good heads on their shoulders. Will everything be perfect, no perfect doesn’t exist. But I can see it being a good place to finish growing up. So wonderful to hear a story about reasonable people who try to do good. 😀💗
The last story shows that not all abuse and neglect is on purpose, sometimes people genuinely do not see how they affect other people. Im happy for op that he is find his place at home and in the family again I really hope things keep going in this direction for him❤
R slash it’s so much more interesting when you just read everything instead of paraphrasing it.
no one:
kids:
*breaks everything*
i feel like if you have to ask that question, then the answer is yes
1st story: my response to the parents if I were OP “Alright. If you are going to act like a child throwing a tantrum at the Scotts not being invited, then you are hereby uninvited and I am cutting all contact with you.” No negotiations. Parents should not dictate who is invited if they aren’t paying for the wedding (sounds like OP’s inlaws are helping foot the bill? Unless I missed something).
Story 2: It's so refreshing to have a blended family story that seems like it's going to end in disaster, but then doesn't.
Best of is BY FAR my fav Reddit for rslash
Thanks for making my day to day life boring things awesome for years! 🥰
I'm thinking of making a post that goes into more detail about this, but as someone who technically has a step sibling, I can understand a little about the frustration of your parent choosing somoen else over the other parent. We never lived together with my mom's new husband since they married couple of years since my younger sibling turned to adult, so that part I have hard time imagining. I'm a little numb in terms of my feelings in general, but I manage to live by.
I havent decided if I'm going to post the full package somewhere in reddit since I know it isn't really an interesting story. I'm not planning on dying any time soon, so there is still time to decide.
Story 1: I think RSlash's theory is close enough, because I can't imagine any other reason for them wanting to break up OP's relationship.
The parents' behavior is absolutely from being manipulated. I think the reason why they suddenly allowed the wedding initially is so the Scotts can come and object the wedding for humiliation.
Edit: On a second thought, with the mentions of a s3x life, the commenters' theory might also be the correct one, either way this is messed up
Blended family story is heart wrenching. Such a good ending
Story 1: maybe the Scott(')s(') teen son is gay/infertile & his parents planned on marrying him to OP & using Mr to *carry on the bloodline"/"try again for a 'proper' son". Could also be Mrs & Mr have an open (& possibly swingers with OP's parents) marriage in addition to scenario above. 😕
It's crazy seeing people say the second story was a "breath of fresh air" and the like, while OP was neglected/abused by 5 people in his house for months and a reddit post is what managed to make a difference. The dad is horrible for letting his junk make a decision that was completely unsustainable, that was then perpetuated by the new "family". I'm amazed OP didn't go nuclear.
Crazy parents story sounds exactly like my girlfriends parents, right down to saying they wish they had punched me in the face. Congrats to OP for going no contact.
I'm so happy that last story ended well!! I've heard too many stories that don't, one in particular that was similar to this but the op's basement room was forcibly used as a secondary living room at one point? I'm very happy that the parents took a hard look at their situation and admitted that they messed up, then took corrective action. This is a great outcome to strive for!!
The dad confessing his issues could go towards either theory but he was probably confessing his issues hoping she’d instinctively confess her relationship issues back so he’d have ammo, blackmail and make her drop her guard all in one.
glad i am so early! i love listening to you while i go on runs... could you make more ask reddit and lets not meet videos?
I'm so happy i wasn't raised by narcissists
I'm glad that last story ended so well! It could have gone so poorly, but the parents admitting that they were humans led to the two older kids realizing it too. This is how blended families work out for the better.
Story 1: Definitely sounds like OP's parents and the Scotts were planning an arranged marriage for OP, possibly to 'keep the business in the family.' Glad OP's brothers turned out sane.
Story 2: It’s always really disgusting when a widowed or separated parent chooses their new partner and their kids over their actual child. They’re so desperate to be in a relationship that they willingly sacrifice their child’s happiness and security to make their new partner happy. Just horrible.
Thank god that we got a "it can't all be hopeless bullshit" story today
Personally I think either option is likely in Story 1, but I think the parents are more likely. Why the hell would Scott be talking about his dead bedroom otherwise? Her parents are probably in on it too tbh, given their reaction to all this bs.
In the beginning, we learned that OP's dad and Mr. Scott are in business together. My thoughts are that Mr. Scott probably tried to blackmail OP's parents into making OP invite them to the wedding by saying that he refuses to be in business anymore unless they get invited to the wedding. Maybe OP's parents rely heavily on the Scotts for income. No right-minded father would do that to their child and the siblings.
While i do love the first story, The second one was better imo, The parents freaking LISTENED, in a situation where they could easily choose not to. Its so refreshing, so many times we hear stories about a kid being neglected after a marriage and it usually doesnt end as well as this one.
Yaaaaay. Communication and understanding! I'm so glad that last story went the right direction. If only all families were like that. Still nice to hear them resolve peacefully at all
I love that you upload just before I start making breakfast at work xD
If your ancestors were from Europe, there's a good chance you have royal or noble blood in you.
Coming from a background of no family relations what's so ever... The last story made me cry. ❤
Lol can you imagine having a discussion with your parents and just bust out with a notebook and pen like, ok let's begin. Hot Fuzz style.
nah. the way mr. scott started talking about his bedroom life and how hostile everyone was towards op’s husband, the parents and the scott’s were 100% trying to groom oo to be their mistress and buy her from the parents
My mom tried to play that game, too. But the problem is she kept forgetting about her action plan and would go back and forth so like one day its "you need to come home" and the next day its "if you step foot on my property I'll call the police!" She even helped my sister to try to get adult custodianship of me (to take away my own legal/financial control of my life by force) under false pretenses. She couldn't do it directly because her licensing board had already seen evidence that she had abused me, and said that basically allthough they couldn't stop my mom from trying to take custody of me, they could refuse to renew her license to practice medicine next year, which she has already almost lost several times because of abusing me, with video evidence. These two goons worked together to fake a string of text messages to make it look like I was actively attempting to gameover myself and had sent them goodbye messages. IDK why mom thought it was a good idea to show me this in progress including showing me a message from my sister literally saying, "if I am served anything (a protective order), then I will just tell the police she is suicidal". Mom said it was, "to show (me) what to expect if (I) keep disrespecting (her and my sister)." but all it did was serve as further evidence of why I needed a protective order against my sister.
Now my sister has a bench warrant in the state I live in (she fled the state when I filed a protective order against her lol) and my mom's license to practice medicine is on probation for the 6th time.
I think they forgot I'm married, so even if I was determined to be mentally incompetent, my wife would be the one to make decisions for me and have control of my assets/life. I don't even have enough to buy a new car, so IDK why my sister and mom want my bank account and medical authorization so badly. I'd give them the money if it meant a total relinquish of social obligations for the rest of my life lol but I know them, they'll just come back again whining for more because they didn't actually want money, they just want their favorite chew toy back under their control (aka, me).
Story 1: OMG …. Some parents don’t deserve their children..
Last story: WHAT??? Parents that aren’t lunatics? Well, that’s a change!
Good for those parents, it's a reminder that sometimes people are clueless (or even stupid) not malicious!
Wow. That first story their greed is showing. It’s obvious they had a payday from that creepy “friend”.
The first story with parents is freaking wild. Scotts needs to have some serious dirt on OP's parents to make them go this wild trying to separate her from her bf.
Story 2: It's stories like these that give me hope for humanity
Story 2: What a mess, but I'm glad everything's getting better. It's just a case of favoritism and resentment, both of which are getting resolved
The OP who has to share a small bedroom with 2 younger step brothers; why do the 3 boys get the small room and the 1 girl gets the larger bedroom? it doesn't make any sense.
Hey rslash!! This is kinda random but I felt the need to comment :) i don’t remember exactly when I found your content, maybe around 2019? I kinda fell in love with it, and have been watching/listening ever since. I think it’s been since the tenth grade that I’ve listened every single morning/afternoon! Today was my final day of highschool, and I just wanted to thank you for being a part of my everyday routine. It’s been kinda wild to hear little snippets about your life here and there and realize that your family is growing alongside mine. Anyways sorry if this is kinda weird but I just wanted to say thanks!!!
Second story is a beautiful happy ending. I love that.
OP's parents literally put their relationship with the Scotts over their relationship with their own daughter.
Story 1: this extreme volatility sounds like OP's parents have a drug addiction. And my best guess is that the Scotts are their dealers, so her parents defer to them the second they threaten to cut off their supply.
That last story is so weird … the parents seem to be super understanding and decent once they were confronted but their decisions leading up to that point reek so much of favoritism, emotional abuse and lack of basic understanding that it’s hard to believe that these are the actions of one and the same set of parents
I LOVE the last post. Such healthy communication and understanding 🩷