r/Trueoffmychest My Wife's Affair Ruined 4 Marriages
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Total disaster
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
People who protect cheaters are just as likely to cheat in their own relationships
no sh1t sherlock
Facts
Tbh people who protect cheaters are just as bad as the cheaters themselves
Yup only cheaters gonna protect other cheaters
They clearly don't see cheating as an issue, so what's stopping them from cheating themselves?
That one officer makes me deeply upset. My boyfriend was abused by his last girlfriend. No one knew for a long time, and when they found out, they didn't really believe him. Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence, men, women, children, nbs, trans people, ANYONE.
People like that officer are the reason why male abuse is under reported. It makes me sick.
In his defense, cops see a lot of domestic abuse and not being sure of the background he was probably suspicious of the crying and hysteria he saw. It's not unusual for an abused wife to say everything is fine when it clearly isn't. For the cop usually it's the wife being abused and not knowing what was going on prior to his arrival his gut was telling him to do what he could to stop the abuse. He didn't have enough evidence, even with the recording to know simply taking the woman's sister into custody would resolve the issue ( of the "fight).Besides,this wasn't a normal domestic abuse situation. The male fiancee was slapped by his almost sister-in-law, leaving some scratches behind. The female fiancee was crying as was her sister - although it was probably obvious both sister and male fiancee were angry, but female fiancee was distressed. Any video op had didn't include why the women were in this state, he wasn't there to record what was going on before he arrived. Therefore the cops still had an unknown situation on hand with an angry male stating he's going to bed while his fiancee is (apparently) crying historically. What would you do? Say " OK,well see you later "? I think anybody would want to be sure she's going to be alright.
ACAB
@@marylynnbirtciel5539your take is garbage mate, essentially You are saying "despite the evidence, the current studies and the training for police officers, the police was still okay trying to frame an innocent man because he was mad that the victim wanted to press Charger againts the agressor" .-. So You okay with corruption, and criminal behaviour because some women are victims, .-. What a lame take.
Obviously most men aren't going to be in serious physical danger from women, but some studies suggest that partner violence is almost split 50/50 and even though men could fight back, a lot of them won't, because they would never hurt a women, even if she's attacking him.
The cop basically trying to lay the blame on OP is nuts and it doesn't really make me want to call the cops if it ever happened to me, because all OP's fiance had to do was point the finger at him, and he would be fucked if it hadn't been for the recording.
Sarah: **Covers up her sister's affair**
OP's dudebros: "We gotchu homie!"
As any bro dudes would do in this situation. In my experience the females will always cover up cheating for one of their own
When the homies come to your aid, the DOOM music kicks in
Guy code
What the bro code really stands for.
bros before hoes
I don’t think this is a “stain on a beautiful picture”. I bet if you step back and take a good look; you’ll realize that you are not looking at a beautiful portrait, but a canvas full of stains and filth that tricked you into believing it was beautiful
More like a well-detailed car at a sketchy used car dealership. 😳
It is like one of those composite pictures that is made up of many other pictures. At a distance it looks beautiful, but when you get closer you realize that each individual image is of something horrific.
I'd probably go with the analogy of "finding a scratch on a painting and discovering that the art piece beneath is completely ugly" as I've actually seen how that can be done.
A canvas so stained and filthy that even Julian Baumgartner wouldn't touch.
This seems awfully familiar. Kinda like Dorian Gray.
Story 1: Losing a deposite on a wedding, is still more preferable that losing half your stuff in a divorce.
Only a cheater backs up a cheater.
Wait... There was more than one story? 😅
@@David-cz9ej Nah. The rest are edits adding to the story.
Ok your right about that
This is why prenups are good.
Well if they lived together for more than a year they are still considered married.
Great ending. I'm glad he decided to press charges. It's a shame the cops always assume the man is the bad guy.
Unfortunately, that's the training they were given through the academy and yearly refreshers, I'm sure. The program definitely needs an update for current year.
@@SelecaoOfMidas
Lets be honest, as much as people hate to admit it, the whole police system needs to be burned down and rebuilt from scratch. Its still a fundamentally backwards, toxic system that can barely function and, yes, is still systemically racist when it comes to white cops and black and brown criminals.
The fact that it also tosses in a dash of misandry doesn't help either, since it assumes the man must always be the bad guy no matter how much proof the man gives. If anything, they still hesitated even WITH proof.
he is the bad guy, should cover up the cheating and nothing bad would happen! >:(
he should be ARRESTED and jailed with BBC b1ack guys!
@@SelecaoOfMidasthe entire police force needs an update lol 😂
@@NerobyrneAnd how!
There was one more update 4 days ago.
OP urged his brother to come clean to his wife. Apparently they are already in marriage counselling and he dropped it during that. She shrugged it off, and when OP asked her if she REALLY was okay with it, she admitted neither of them was squeaky clean, they both watch porn and she just considers that the same thing - unlike if he'd gone to a prostitute, to use the example OP used.
Re. Marty and Evelyn, he's still divorcing her but shes holding up the works by pleading for a reconciliation. He hasn't gone to Evelyn's work about her and the affair partner, nor has he told 'Jake's' wife about the affair - something OP disagrees with, though Marty stated that he's basically keeping all the evidence in the knowledge he could 'bury' Jake if he wanted to. Evelyn has moved back in with her parents, who are none too pleased with her OR Sarah, but the impending divorce has taken most of their focus off Sarah.
Sarah and OP aren't together. She's moved into her parent's place and is going to therapy to address her issues of insecurity resulting in deception in an attempt to please others, while OP tries to figure out which parts of her are genuine and which aren't. OP is prepared to drop out entirely if he figures that Sarah's issues are too big of a deal for him.
hope Marty is not cuck enough to not bring the affair partner down with evidence sooner or later
he got help when he was being cheated on, and now he willingly lets some other innocent women waste her life with a cheater? What a piece of sh..
@@MikeHawk10110it’s best to hold off on coming clean about this till the divorce is finalized. Men fight a substantially difficult/uphill battle in custody battles so a little… motivation… is better to keep on the back burner and to make it go the correct way.
Where can i find this story?
If OP decides to stick with Sarah, he's probably going to find out that Every Time Sarah goes anywhere with her sister, he will be wondering if she IS with Evie or is it a lie!!!😢
Sorry but cheaters & their supporters are cut out of the same cloth! Neither one thinks anything is wrong with cheating & they're probably either cheating or covering! Also look at their other friends too because 'birds of a feather, flock together!
@@marshawargo7238 Yep. A part of me even feels for a sister trying to help a sister, but helping them cheat isn't helping them. It's like the equivalent of 'helping' an addict score some meth. It's hard, though; losing someone so close and so important to you because of their bad decisions.
Truly disgusting how these cops and people in general always consider men are at fault and the violent ones, even with overwelming contradictory evidence...
that is why i dont trust women to be loyal in any scenariol.
@@livath4900 Responding to a comment calling out how men in general being considered at fault is a bad thing with basically "Yeah Women are all bad" is insane. Youre literally doing the same thing the cops did. Women arent terrible because they are women and men arent terrible because they are men. Just stop
@@livath4900You sound like an incel.
Been on the receiving end of this as a guy. Anyone remember winter storm Jonas? It dumped almost 3 feet of snow on Washington DC. No travel except emergency was allowed. My wife at the time (now ex) was raised by mommy and daddy to believe that you're only a contributing member if society if you leave the house, bust your ass all day, then only return home to eat and sleep to do it all over again. Her job was canceled. Mine wasn't - I was active duty air force. The folks who had been working mission at NSA had already been there 2 going on 3 days. I was the closest available mission certified staff sergeant, so i got called in. My abusive wife lost her mind that I was leaving the house to work while she couldn't. Started a huge argument and when she realized she couldn't argue me out of going, got in between me and the door. I extremely gently moved her aside, opened the door saying I have to go, then turned around to step backwards into the deep snow so i could close the door behind me. BLAM - something struck me in the head. Before i could register what was happening, i then got shoved. She followed me outside howling and shrieking "how dare you fucking hit me! Get out!" I realized neighbors were watching, and who are they going to believe witnessing that unfold? They glared daggers at me and made nasty remarks at me, some even took their kids inside away from me as i walked to my car.
I called 911 and the operator dispatched police but had to be asked several times to stay on the line with me so i coukd narrate what was happening for record. They didn't want to stay on the line with me. My wife came outside, approached my car while on the phone with someone, then went back inside.
Cops finally arrive, all 3 swarm me and have me backed up against my car. After berating me with questions, they slowly realize I'm not the aggressor. The two senior cops leave the rookie with me while they go in to talk to my wife. I told the rookie i wish we were meeting under better circumstances. He told me I seem to be 1 of the "rare 3" in domestic violence situations. I asked what did he mean. He said it's so very rare they roll onto a domestic violence scene where one of the involved parties is alone, calm, and sober. I was all 3, alone in my car when they arrived, calm towards them, and sober.
After pressing, they got her to admit to hitting me, and we had to go to court months later. Still, nobody could tell the neighbors what happened, they'll forever remember me as the guy who hit his wife then called the cops on her, despite not knowing she hit and shoved me and I called the police for protection.
@@Ariplaygamesagreed
That one cop at the end is a real piece of work, trying to get Sarah to say that Opie was the one causing the problems.
Unfortunately that's common for cops to take the woman's side even when they are clearly in the wrong ruin the guys life even if he is let off on charges and then the evil bitch never faces consequences
Tldr avoid relationships its just easier and safer
@@chronobretz9511this isn't even taking the woman's side. It's fishing for a false accusation.
@@chronobretz9511
Thats putting a lot of assumptions on women as inherently untrustworthy, and I think you should re evaluate your ethics.
opie ? xD you mean op
@@duesenantrieb8272 yes. I use Google Speech services and it sometimes messes up when I say certain things like replacing the letters O & P with the name Opie
Those cops… I get “crying women, help them.” But he’s the only one injured, he said he has proof, and the younger one is still thinking, “yea but, a man is here with two crying women… ignoring he called for the domestic violence case.”
God I hope OP files a complaint, would hate to see him react to a real emergency where the man is actually in danger…
Sadly, the worst that can happen for the officer would be "retraining", aka the officer sitting around for a few weeks at full pay
its probably from how they was trained
look up the Duluth model
@@stevenscott2718 Well, that's completely gender-biased.
@@BronzeDragon133 yes and its lead to such 'justice' as a man waking up hancuffed to a hospitial bed with a knifehole in his lung after his wife tried to murder him by stabbing him from behind while he was eating his dinner
Marriages (potentially) wrecked by this affair:
Op and Sarah
Evelyn and Marty
Evelyn‘s coworker(s?) covering for her
OP’s brother
“Jake“ and his wife…
All of whom (except Op and Sarah) have small kids…
When will cheaters finally learn that it’s never worth it?!?
OP's brothers marriage is fine, OP made him come clean to his wife about masseging the OF model and he did in couples therapy, which they already had since they were having trouble with intimicy in their marriage. Apparently the wife forgave him since she considered is the same as porn, which she admitted to watching after the brother came clean. Apparently their marriage has improved and they are intimate again aswell.
@@harounfarhani2138 Well, at least there's one happy ending.
Don't forget, I think it was revealed that "Jake" is also married. Unless I'm misremembering.
Cheaters never learn. Cheating is a behavior. They stop once they are physically incapacitated to cheat. I heard guys with ED also cheat! Smh.
@@Emptytopfloor My ex took ED drugs so he could cheat on me.
I really like the enthusiasm of Rslash narrator. Really makes a huge, positive difference compared to the lazy, cringey robot-voices of most reddit story channels.
I totally agree, also when he gives his own commentaries about what he is reading, it feels so... personal and alive in a way I am missing a word for ;)
@@Fribb123 yup. Even if sometimes I don't agree with his commentary, I still respect his opinions and love that he gives his pov
4:37 besides this bad take. He’s being stupid here or something because he’s bullying op for thinking someone used to be kind.
He ruined a lot of other reddit channels because he’s set the bar high. Also upset we only get 15 minutes usually. 30 minutes of es lash would be amazing.
Does anyone have recommendations for other actually good reddit story channels? The only other one i’ve listened to and liked was Fresh but sadly he hasn’t posted anything in over a year :(
Normally if someone is ok hiding someone else's cheating then they'll have no issues hiding there affair from you.
Her sister would 100% help her hide an affair too
true - to cover up the affair you have to be just as rotten as the cheater and be willing to cheat yourself at the nearest occasion
@@MikeHawk10110evil breeds evil to quote a phrase
@@shadowmewfred09 as I say, forgiveness is a free pass to do evil
all men should listen to their cuck instinct and forgive by welcoming an army of Chad's&Tyrone's into their wife's bedroom but some are just too toxic and insecure to do so.
A sizeable percentage (30%-60%?) of married people cheat at some time during their time together. Most aren’t ‘rotten’ or ‘evil’ and there are far worse crimes in the world. It doesn’t have to result in the relationship ending, but of course the lying is likely to be the deal breaker, rather than the affair itself. It’s incredibly hard to rebuild trust, even if both sides are genuinely trying.
Damn, might as well go for broke and tell the other guy's wife that was cheating with Evelyn. Just a domino effect of broken marriages.
I would, just to watch the fallout.
not like he doesn't deserve it
“This story is already incredibly long so I’ll just summarize.”
Me out loud: “NOOOOOOO.”
Some more details from OP's updates:
- OP did go through with cancelling the wedding; everyone who spent money on the wedding lost some money on it
- OP's brother and SIL had a dead bedroom and have been to marriage counseling; brother revealed his sexting with the OF model and SIL was willing to look past it, especially since he's stopped, while they work on their marriage
- Sarah revealed that her sister bullied her throughout they're childhood, leading to her becoming a people-pleaser; she's getting therapy for it and OP realized that Sarah being "the perfect girlfriend" stemmed from those people-pleasing tendencies
- Marty is divorcing Evelyn and she's making it hard for him with constant attempts to reconcile
“while they work on their neighbor”
Ummm what?
@@kranberry3318 Crap. I meant "marriage," but the "swipe to type" must've assumed i meant "neighbor." Thanks for catching that mistake, I'm correcting it now
@@andredunbar3773 Lol yeah swipe doesn’t always work as intended. It’s like autocorrect joined with a new ally to fuck up everyone’s texts 😂
@@kranberry3318lol so true
Newest update had OP and Sarah spending time apart, while Sarah went to find herself. It turns out that Sarah had a history of trying to people please, due to Evelyn bullying her.
...
As for OP's brother, he amd OP talked about itnover video chat, and it looks like everything is probably going to work out for him. So far.
Wow, I guess this should be in an r/Bestof narration. Better start from the mark after 27:30 where Rslash summarised things.
Yip OP's brother's marriage is fine. OP got his brother to tell her in counselling and SIL was okay with it. She just treated as porn as it never went beyond sexting. The fun thing was the OF person popped up in the comments.
Newest update OP questioned his
brother about the only fan girl. No cheating. The brother and his wife was in marriage counseling due to lack of intimacy. OP told his brother to tell his wife or he would. The brother told the wife she took it better than expected. She just looked at it as viewing p*rn, and their sex life have been rekindled. As for OP and Sarah, he does eventually get back together since she didn't cheat herself, but no marriage she is back at square 1.
Anyone mind sharing the link to the actual post?
@@benmills4358he shouldn't have got back with her. if you protect a cheat im gonna assume you have no issue with cheating
RSLASH! How’s Yugo? I need an update
Yesssss Yugo update needed
yes need doggo update
Puppy update!
Puppy update! Puppy update! Please? 🥺
Yasssss
This is off topic but I feel like we should talk about the two cops that tried to get OP to let go even as they saw he was assaulted, then try to find a reason to arrest him. OP I highly recommend filing a complaint.
But anyway I know live probably sucks right now but don't worry it's going to get better, now that you're taking out all the toxic people in your life. And I know you're not sure if this is the end of your relationship all together, but keep in mind if she was willing to help someone cheat for this long, she might not be too above cheating herself
It is no wonder men don't report abuse. That part disgusted me.
ACAP 🐖
As we're harboring a gentleman who's going through a divorce for this with similar experiences, this particularly infuriates me. Fortunately, the judge wasn't buying the counter-charge from his wife as the photos were not there in her case and were in his.
Naturally, she refuses to sign any paperwork, which in this state requires a one year separation. So he's here for the interim. We're fine with that. But she's psycho-crazy and we've had to install cameras on every face of the house. The police couldn't possibly give a crap because, apparently, women aren't dangerous or some such bull.
They can collect her dead body if she passes the threshold.
@@BronzeDragon133I find it so funny police think women can’t be dangerous. If I can’t fight something but they can fight me and one hit to my head can possibly give me a concussion, how is that not dangerous??
@@3InchesofLove Oh, I saw the marks on our friend's face and chest when he arrived (I treated them for him). I've seen the minor scarring they've left. I've advised the B of a soon-to-be-ex-wife of his what'll happen if she even thinks of doing that to him while he's under my care, my husband or to me.
Yes. Trust me. Women can be very, very dangerous and very, very protective as well.
Another thread here has the ever present "Not ALL WOMEN! And MEN are WORSE!" thing going on. No, darlings, humans have the capacity for violence.
That’s some Avengers level shit they just teamed up the minute they heard Marty’s wife is cheating
And Mark didn't know Marty but that is where they become brothers. You don't do that shit and NOT get feelings of "I can trust this guy with my plenty."
to cover up the affair you have to be just as rotten as the cheater and be willing to cheat yourself at the nearest occasion
It's not about the "cover up" of the affair, it's the willing participation to deceive. Not saying anything to the Bro-in-Law is not the issue, it's the deception (in the cover-up) to her partner. That is, she lied and deceived him. She failed to be honest with the person she was engaged to marry. She purposely deceived him, as well, by verbalizing respect for her Bro-in-law, while disrespecting him AND her niece.
She didn't care about her sister, her significant other, her brother-in-law nor their child... she (Sarah) took the path of least personal harm... THAT is the issue at hand. That makes everything that follows different. Doesn't matter if she might have cheated, even if she didn't, her trustworthiness is Zero...
Citation needed
@@DrunkSamurai "to cover up the affair you have to be just as rotten as the cheater and be willing to cheat yourself at the nearest occasion"
A good man - Mike Hawk.
@@MikeHawk10110 "Citation needed" - DrunkSamurai
Funny how you do not think that about MEN who cheat. Sickening double standards. You don't have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner.
First Story and only story: Sarah is horrible to help cover up her sister's affair. I found it weird that OP called Sarah kind but like what Rslash said, a kind person doesn’t help cover up (and in a sense encourage) a 6 month affair. Also, the fact that Sarah is willing to cover up Evelyn's affair who is to say if Sarah decided to cheat on OP that Evelyn won’t help Sarah cover that up. OP needs to call off this wedding.
Update 1: At least OP's brother gave OP a valid point and gave context to why OP's reaction to Sarah's involvement was so strong. I hope OP enjoys that trip to Disneyland
Update 2: I’m glad OP is morally high to do all of this for Marty because no one deserves to get cheated on and anyone who tries to cover affairs are scummy people. I hope everything works out for OP
Upadate 3: Wow, OP, Marty, and Mark really planned out a whole operation just to catch Evelyn cheating and collect proof of it. To make it worse, Jake is also married and has a 1 year old. All these cheaters deserve each other
Update 4: Lmao Sarah was comforting Evelyn even though she got exactly what she deserves? Honestly, why is OP only calling off the wedding? OP should dump Sarah because of how untrustworthy she is
Update 5: Sarah really shouldn’t be shocked since who would want to be with someone that will help cover up cheating? That is showing how untrusting she is. I find it hilarious how Evelyn is furious with OP for helping Marty find out she was cheating on him but yet had her sister help her cover it up...the hypocrisy. Damn so Evelyn decided to attack OP because her actions got her the consequences she deserves. Yo this story is trainwreck
to cover up the affair you have to be just as rotten as the cheater and be willing to cheat yourself at the nearest occasion
this is even stronger when it's about family.
OP should RUN asap from this family of filth or he surely *will* be CUCKED in the future (if he was not already cucked right now)
After finishing the video there wasn't any "in a sense" she was encouraging this behavior by housing and further consoling the cheater
@@jplayzowtrue
Why are you ignoring the last part about his brother being a cheater too? He needs to help his SIL in that marriage too. No hypocrisy 🙂
why do you even writ that ? noone really reads this or cares
What a disgusting cop. Obviously out to arrest the man in the situation despite evidence showing otherwise.
I can’t fucking believe that idiot cop slapped cuffs on OP. What a shithead.
That's how cops are trained. It's called the "Duluth Model" which assumes men are the perpetrators in any case of domestic violence despite any evidence to the contrary.
This story is the embodiment of a true bro friendship, its just
"Hey ive never met you, but my friend tells me your wife is cheating on you, imma help catch her, so you don't gotta pay alamony!"
“Hey, never met you
Your wife is crazy
We’re at a sports bar
Her cheating’s lazy”
I wouldn't be able to stay with someone who helped a cheater cheat, either. If you aren't getting what you need out of a relationship, communicate. Get into an open relationship, if it'll help you. Lying, cheating, knowingly allowing cheating to happen - those are all dealbreakers for me.
I will NEVER understand cheating, maybe it’s because I have anxiety but come on how can it be worth the stress to maintain the lie and risk the fall out from it? Just don’t cheat, talk, take a break, break up, request an open relationship (and accept the response) do literally anything but cheat.
Cheaters like to have their cake and eat it too. Safety and security of a long term relationship, but also the thrill and early euphoric feelings of a new romance every few months or so. Some love the thrill of the chase more than the person too
Some want to stay with their long term partner because it’s “convenient” or for financial stability reasons despite not being attracted to them anymore or at all. Like a “you pay for my lifestyle while the affair partner gives me the relationship/sex I want” kind of thing. It’s incredibly selfish.
Something else I don’t understand is why one cheater doesn’t find the another cheater to cheat on? Why a loyal person doesn’t get with another loyal person? This world is weird.
Sarah stuck with Evelynn as she cheated and assaulted OP, and actively chose Evelynn over OP when push came to shove. It's pretty blatant where her loyality lies. Marrying her would be throwing oneself under the bus.
I always feel weird about those "We already paid for the wedding!!! We can't get money back!!!" people. Dude. I've paid a lot for things that are... Disappointing. I live in a state where laws are pretty much ALWAYS in favour of businesses and landlords, even predatory practices that are extremely illegal in other states. You lost some money? Okay. Get back what you can. Like, if decor or catering CAN be returned, cool! Do it!
Then have the wedding *anyways* minus the ... awful person. idk, supplement catering with pizza and some "regular foods" or something, especially kid-friendly. Invite the local DV shelter in advance, so if you know the wedding is 2 weeks from now, call around and explain briefly what happened, time and date, and capacity limit. Always have a capacity limit. :P Invite people who probably haven't gotten to go to a cool party in a long time. Meet the people around you. Have a great time. Turn the wedding into a benefit for a local organisation. Go have some fun, geesh!
An update stated that the biggest holdput for refunds was the catering company since they "already paid for the food." They compromised by getting the food itself which was shared with interested parties.
If the flight was paid by credit card, contact the card company and explain. Most will bend over backwards.
@@danielbrant6740 And how they paid for food months in advance is always beyond me, particularly stuff like chicken and steak that isn't particularly difficult to source. As noted, fine, then. Deliver. 🙂
Tbh, that last paragraph is an amazing idea. People need to do things like that, if possible.
Brilliant idea! You’re having a party for people who really need it and it’s a tax write off. That tax bit may sound harsh to many but I’m a rational, logical person. I and my family do a great deal of charity work because we truly enjoy lifting people up, bettering themselves, making their lives more secure and healthy. We’re not in it for the write offs, we’ve more than enough to go around. It’s the accountants that push it.
Sarah and Evelyn freaking out about getting caught reminds me of my cat begging for hours to go outside, only to look traumatized when the door closes and then begs to be let back in after less than a minute. I always tell her, "YOU did that." and that's all I could think of since the confrontation. 😭😂
The entire situation is a mess. We have Evelyn the cheater, her sister Sarah and coworkers hiding it, Jake is also cheating, and then we have OP blowing it wide open and destroying multiple relationships.
Honestly, best of luck to Marty and OP. May they find better people
Rather unfair of you to suggest OP was responsible for destroying multiple relationships.
He didn’t destroy them so much as expose them as already ruined
I really hope Rslash does a part two to this because this is wild!
The best part of the story is when Evelynn goes up and is like "Do you and Sarah want to come for dinner tonight?" thinking she's gotten away with it while walking straight into the trap right after.
*looks at time stamp* Oh God, this one is gonna be wild.
There's more to this story I read.
So, the next update
Op called his brother and got him to explain the
girl, he was messaging (the brother is married btw) so he got that cleared up with Sarah.
Then Sarah gave op a letter which she slid under the door and it summarize as Sarah being a follower and minion to Evelyn ever since they was young and she never knew how to break out of that. Op didn't care, hey got into a fight and he told her something along the lines of being Evelyn fking minion which shut her down.
Sarah op and Sarah parents had a sit down about what to do since many marriages were destroyed. Op said he wants to sell the house and move as he wants nothing to do with either sister's, especially Sarah. Sarah shouted, " i'm not selling the house, and we're not broken up." She clearly wants to work on this and do better, but op is not budging.
He said he would sell the house, selling his Sarah as he didn't want to live with her.
Next update 8/30
Sarah and op have talked about her people pleasing problems and understand she needs help majorly. She didnt deny anything and took full accountability for her actions and blame.
Evelyn is fighting the divorce hard, trying to talk with marty; her life is now like a teenager with a curfew, work then back home to parents. Both parents are disappointed with both daughter but more concerned about their granddaughter with evelyn n marty.
Marty is still going through the divorce and has the textz video etc of evelyn and jake. Op ask why havent u emded his life. Marty said i have all the evidence, i can destroy him anytime.
The brother who was cybering the hot bimbo onlyfan woman named Mandy is still with his wife as she forgave him and such. Apparently his hard time works and late night works is him hardcoring onlyfans with mandy.
Sarah is being paid back the share of the house so op can leave, she didnt accept this at 1st but come to terms with it as she cant stop this. So now both daughters are living with the parents. Op gotten some of the refunds from the wedding and the food was still good and frozen(fish meats) the parents gave them to interested parties and wedding gifts were returned.
Sarah and op wedding news became a hot thing in their housing area and such that it became like a talk of the town it drowned out evelyn cheating.
So thats the update, check out on his post, op explain it was deleted or had some troubles updating so he made new posts as updates with the date on them as titles.
So what you’re saying is. He talk to his brother first instead of going to his sister-in-law. That sounds a little hypocritical. Basically giving his brother a chance to tell his wife. Versus Evelyn. I mean if he would’ve went to Evelyn first. She might not begin divorce. She might’ve actually talk to Marty and they could have tried to work it out. Almost like because it was his brother he decided to go a softer approach with it. That’s kind of weird.
@@Ilovepointlessstorysnot weird at all. All Op’s brother did was message an OF girl online a little bit which op found out when he asked his brother. He also found out they were already in counselling and she forgave him cuz as she herself thought it’s essentially the same as porn. Evelyn however had a long affair dating back half a year that she was actively covering up while going and meeting with this person. Two very different situations op’s brother did some messaging with a girl who he’s never met with and is simply having a paid conversation while he’s going through intimacy issues in the marriage he never actually cheated where Evelyn did a disgusting amount.
@@YourMother069 I’m just saying he should have went to his brother’s wife first (And talking with her is porn then just watching porn btw). That is the standard he himself made for cheater’s.
@@IlovepointlessstorysI thought so too. Sarah was wrong for loyalty to her sister but op is ok to do so
@@Ilovepointlessstoryshe told his brother that if he didn't come clean, he would have gone to his wife. And what his brother did is not cheating.
The only thing worse than losing a lot of money on a wedding that isn't going to happen is going ahead and marriying a person you have lost respect for.
God, I just love the solidarity Mark and OP had with Marty.
If op had confronted Sara right then and there, she would've given Evelyn a heads up, and it would've been hell trying to get proof.
I'm reading the other comments he made, and it looks like Sarah was manipulated by her sister. That's the reason why she came clean so easily. She never really liked the affair, but her love for her sister was strong, the sister's coworkers had also encouraged Evelyn, so it kinda pressured Sarah to keep her mouth shut if other women were doing it too.
Now that things are risking her, she distanced herself from Evelyn.
I understand her reasons, but I completely disagree with it. I still wouldn't want to marry someone who let's themselves be manipulated so badly for something so simple as cheating. That shows poor judgment and I wouldn't trust to share the rest of my life with that person tbh. Either way, it would be a deal-breaker
It's one thing to keep your mouth shut but it's another to cover it up. She could have just told her brother in law "I don't know where Evelyn is" instead of telling lies.
Don't forget the guy Evelyn was cheating with, he was married too. That's potentially 5 marriages ruined.
Jesus, none of these people should’ve married if this is what they wanted to do.
I love that line; _'My phone is practically glowing from the heat of a bajillion unread messages.'_
Like Lexikitty has said, every electrical component is capable of emitting light. ONCE. 🤣
He actually followed up with something like ,"If it vibrates any more, I should take it to Evelyn's office and charge money to sit on it." - This OP cracks me up so much.
Cheaters are trash. Cheat enablers are trash. Screw all of em. I’d say op could even sue Sarah for the money he wasted on the wedding plans
kinda getting tired of rslash not reading the update and just giving the tldr. i listen so someone can read it for me and save my bad eyes.
A 30 minute rslash!?!? Best day ever!
Shout out to the people in the comments sharing the Tl:dr of the new update. What a hot mess of a story, good on OP and Mark for helping Marty out, bad on Evelyn for trying to claw his face off like Rocket Raccoon and having an affair, happy that OP's brother and SIL sorted out the OF situation and he didn't cross any boundaries in their relationship, bad on Jake for having an affair when he has such a young baby, bad on Evelyn's friends for covering up for her, and Sarah, oh god. I don't know how I'd handle it if I found out my fiance was covering for a cheater, luckily it was just her being a doormat not a cheater but god she really needs to learn to grow a backbone to be able to be a functioning adult. Maybe time away from Evelyn will help her be able to grow as a person and stop letting her bully her into submission. I feel like I can see why OP broke off the engagement but started dating her back at square one, but I just have no idea what I would do if I were in his shoes.
Cancelling the wedding might be expensive, but getting out of the marriage is more expensive. Why throw good money after bad.
You missed “Jake’s” marriage in the total at the end. Remember, the affair partner is married and has a 1 year old kid.
I understand Mark. If a friend of mine told me that some random friend of his was getting cheated on I too would happily play detectives with them.
Honestly, I’ve met people who were probably similar to Sarah where they will hide someone else’s affairs or issues because they don’t ever thing it’ll effect them. Basically, “I’m not the one doing it so I don’t have to say anything”.
And on that day, The Sacred Integrity of The Bro Code laid low the dark wickedness of infidelity. Not only did our three protagonists band together but The second cop also demonstrated adherence to The Code by not letting his partner commit a carrier ending mistake.
Gotta say OP was smart through this, probably doing what he did for his job helped out. Totally agree if he had confronted his ex-fiancee she would have gone into cover up mode and this whole thing wouldn't have been blown wide open.
Literally "fuck around and find out" the story. OP has nothing to be sorry for.
I heard this on another channel to completion, and Sarah was in denial at first but finally realized it was over. The husband divorces Evelyn and both sisters wind up moving back in with their parents.
The brother's marriage wasn't ruined despite having problems. They resolved their issues and are back on track with a happy marriage again
I read what other people were mentioning in the comments about Mark’s marriage and I’m glad things worked out for him and his wife.
Younger cop is the fedora wearing "me lady" kinda guy....
Rslash: and then OP realises his brother used that computer
Me, out loud to the distinct shock of my sleeping dog: “OH NOOOOOOOOOO”
Police: do you want to press charges
Woman: no
Police: well its not your decision
Police: do you want to press charges
Man: yes
Police:🤨 are you SURE you want to press charges
Man: YES!
Police: 😑 do you actually want to press charges?
Man: OH MY FUCKING GOD YES WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?
police: are you super duper incredibly sure that you deffinatley want to-
Man: 😐
I love my sister very, very much, but if I found out that she was cheating on her SO, you damn well better believe I'm going to call it out! I'd say something like, "you need to come clean to them or I will."
And don't even get me started on the blatant sexism of those cops! Ugh!.
I was expecting it to reveal that Sarah was ALSO cheating
OP called REDDIT stupid, but never ruled out the possibility of marrying Sarah.
he did, he made up his mind not to marry her, did you not listen? this comment is 3 hours old at the time of writing this, i hope you listened. It's a classic thing of "am i doing the right thing?' when someone makes a big decision like that.
@@C.G.Gasterop has updated more after where this video ends, he is still in contact with Sarah and hasn’t ruled off a relationship with her. So yeah, he hasn’t made up his mind
@@crizmeow8394 Honestly, it could be a mistake but also could he put some HARD boundaries to test her a lot, since she took part of this and instead of calling it out or dismiss Evelyn ... she baby her instead. URGH!! her sister has the same name an my 1st sister too.
I’m not watching the whole thing again, so I might be wrong. If I am please correct me. I know he called off the wedding, but was on the fence whether they could ever get married. I’m pretty sure he never ruled it out as a possibility.
@@jeremiahsmith2037 He called it off and by some comments her said he has his doubts if he did the right thing. Still Sarah did something despicable too.
I was definitely invested in this story. I hope he posts more. I hope we get a future update where Jake's story goes boom.
Mark and Marty are now best mates, men who hunt cheaters together stay together
i feel horrible for op hope they get through it
If you have to deal with luring people day in and day out you change your mindset on people. I did agricultural quarantine inspections of passenger baggage for over 20 years. You get jaded fast. I had nuns point blank lie to me about smuggling prohibited fresh fruits. Here’s one from a former coworker. He had two nuns with their luggage conducting his inspection. While searching their baggage he asks them repeatedly if they had any prohibited fruits such as mangoes (they came from an area that had fruit flies not known in the mainland US). They replied that they understood and didn’t have anything like that in their luggage, and this was their hand carry baggage. He withdraws his hands with a mango in each exclaiming “Look sisters, a miracle!” Then issued them a civil penalty for the infraction.
OP was just as jaded being daily lied to in the course of his work. You just view people differently, the rose colored glasses are cracked and thrown away:
OP systematically brought down two cheaters, an accomplice who planned on and likely already has cheated, and a corrupt rookie punk cop in one fell swoop. Well done.
I've been keeping up with this story on Reddit. Latest update was a few days ago
How can I find it?
@@jeanforsi Google OP u/OneTop3934 and check his post history. I can't drop links, they get nuked. Most of the updates are on his own profile.
Oh hell no! I could NOT, would NOT get married to someone who covers for a cheater and has no qualms about lying for the cheater and then go look at the cheated ON like it's no big deal... Absolutely disgusting.. I could not trust her AT ALL!! The fiance shows that she can cheat and has a liar to back her up!! OP, hell no, don't do it!! There is literally no excuse!! She's not kind! A kind person wouldn't do this at all!
Read all the updates the op made, his brothers marriage is stable, the husband admitted to writing to the onlyfans girl, and they talked a out it, and the wife is okay with the situation because no physical contact ever happened. She said something like they both watch p*rn, so its not that of a big deal
You know today’s video is going to be a juicy one when a single story takes about half an hour to get through
Wow, that was one hell of a ride, I hope Marty and OP can recover and move on from these toxic people 😔
So Sarah says, "sense of duty..."!? What about a wife's sense of duty to her husband, but she catted around!? 🤨
So there’s more updates
Basically OP talked to his brother about the whole OF thing and his bro admits that his relationship had hit a rough spot. They’re now going to therapy for it and it’s all good again so he rly doesn’t want OP to bring up the OF stuff.
At some point Sarah tells OP that their parents are coming over (she called them over without telling him) and they talk about the wedding. Her family wants him to forgive her and altho his family doesn’t fully agree with his choices they are still supportive.
During this time it also comes out that OP wants Sarah to move out and kinda wants to end the relationship, she blows up and says that she is NOT going to end/ give up on this relationship and that she refuses to leave and that’s she will work this out no matter what.
OP never says how he managed to clear up the whole OF situations with Sarah but he did and here’s where shit starts getting real.
He asks her why she did this and she admits that her sister had always been the leader and her the follower, her sister has been borderline abusive her whole life and to cope she has sort of developed a extreme people pleasing habit and a sort of mirror syndrome. She mirrors the people she talks to, like their personality and wants and needs and stuff. She’s gonna go to therapy (I think) and OP realizes that she was mostly just reflecting Evelyn’s bad personality and following her lead due to trauma BUT he also realizes that he doesn’t really know her.
He knows the reflection of himself and his wants and needs that she kind of became once they met, or at least that’s what he’s questioning right now.
It’s a whole thing and it was a while since I heard it last but she’s heartbroken, he’s questioning everything, Evelyn’s pissed at him , they’re out a bunch of money cus some services (like catering, even tho they hadn’t bought it made the food yet) REFUSED to give anything back.
There are full versions of the story on CZcams, I think it’s usually called something like “my fiancé helped her sister cheat and I can’t marry her anymore”, “my fiancé helped her sister cheat” or “I broke my engagement to my fiancé because she helped her sister cheat” or something like that.
Sooooo Sarah never took responsibility for her part all she did is pass the blame yet op wants to forgive ?? What a sucker....
@@thetruth1816 if I remember correctly she never really tried to pass on the blame.
Like she admired that what she did was shitty and she didn’t use her trauma as an excuse but more as an explanation because OP deserved a real answer as to why she did it.
She did kiiiiinda try to excuse it for a long time before OP finally sat her down and talked her point blank about a few things.
Idk if there’s been any more updates tho.
This story reads like a “superhero origin” story, like if Bruce Wayne had chosen his life of vigilantism after Thomas Wayne had cheated on his wife (or vice-versa).
The “beautiful picture” was something they thought was a Jackson Pollock painting, but it was actually a sleazy motel bed under a black light.
OP should secure the rights to this story, it would make not a half bad movie... That story was insane...
totally agree with 1st op's story- she's covering up cheating thats ruining her family instead of being honest with the husband and trying to convince her not to- that's ruthless behavior, and i wouldn't want anyone like that even remotely near me. not to mention how she's getting practice for if she ever cheats
If HE had cheated, would ANY of you be this condemning about a MAN cheating? I think not.
Holy Cow! How is this not a “BestofRedditUpdates” story? This is flying off the rails!
Wouldn't it be five marriages?
1. OP and Sarah
2. Eve and Marty
3. Friend and her husband
4. Jake and his wife
5. Possibly OP's brother and their SO
Imagine being stupid enough to cheat with a detective in the family.
Dude literally wrote all that out and still calls the woman "kind" 🤦♂️
How could you ever think you could keep a secret from your private investigator husband lol
As a PI he will be good at covering his tracks when HE cheats. This is American. In American culture, MEN cheating is seen as perfectly acceptable, encouraged even. You will just sneer, or hurl abuse, as you don't have the balls to reply in a civil manner, to a WOMAN, and a NON-AMERICAN.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again... If you aren't happy in your marriage, talk to your spouse about it, and decide on counseling, divorce, or whatever from there. It makes no sense to cheat.
I think we can all agree that crushes happen between coworkers sometimes, when you spend lots of time together or if it's a stressful job. Bonds get formed and feelings emerge. That's why communication and openness are so important in a relationship. I'm sure I sound like a naive idealist, but I really believe in being open and honest when you're unhappy, hurt, or angered by something in your relationship. It isn't fair to your partner, or any kids you may have to destroy the trust and love like that.
Lmfao I was shocked when OP got home and Sarah was there. After 2hrs and that it’s done text, I thought Marty aired out the whole house. 😅 thank God cooler heads prevailed!
I hope OP reports that younger officer for his misconduct. He needs to learn that his own assumptions and prejudices don't justify making false arrests. OP didn't break any laws and yet the guy wanted to arrest OP... for what exactly? I wouldn't have spoken up, I would have asked the older officer to get his supervisor (by name) to come by and then when there, asked him (in front of the younger officer) if it's a new protocol for younger officers to fish for something that isn't there. Would have put the officer into a really cramped corner to have to explain his reasoning for digging around when there was nothing to suggest there was anything to dig for.
Duluth policing model (woman is always the victim, man is always the aggressor). It's one of the two major myths that many police still believe in.
The other myth many cops still believe is men can't be raped.
@@flamethrower82 All the more reason to hope that OP reports the misconduct.
And yet just imagine the outrage all of you internet keyboard warriors would have had if that cop had just left leaving Sarah alone with a clearly angry man and then she got assaulted. You'd be ready to have him drawn and quartered for not doing his job. We know that was unlikely but he didn't. He has to make ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that she is safe. And it's not false arrest if no one gets arrested. The only person arrested was the sister that actually did the assault. Asking questions is not arrest. The cop may have been a bit indelicate but I applaud him for ensuring Sarah felt safe before leaving her there. Many cops wouldn't have bothered
@@wingracer1614 You're one of those people who love to stir shit that isn't there, aren't you? OP said that he had video evidence of what happened, neither of the two women disagreed with it, and obviously there was no history of DV at that location. So the young officer was probably thinking with the wrong head, possibly even something like "if I rescue the damsel in distress, maybe she'll 'reward' me!" Believe it or not, we guys think like that. Either that, or he was looking for a reason to prove that he's some sort of super cop who can sniff out crimes that people are trying to hide. The officer had NO reason to suspect that OP was a threat to anyone, especially when he didn't know the background for what had happened. OP was injured but neither of the women had marks on them from being assaulted. Neither of them tried to claim that OP assaulted either (or both) of them, or tried to offer a defense for the injuries to OP. The fact that OP said he recorded it and the women not demanding the video be viewed to see what "really" happened is also a major clue. Officer had numerous reasons to believe what he was told and no reason to believe something more was happening (ie, OP being a threat to Sarah).
So stop trying to act like you know how things would have been different "if." And stop trying to be Sarah's/Evelyn's savior, because the odds are, they aren't going to reward you with some hanky-panky. You're just an anonymous person on the internet and they'll likely never even know that you tried to be their hero.
The most recent Update says his brother is doing fine, he basically wanted to get off and decided to use OF. His wife is handling it pretty well since there wasn't any physical or emotional cheating involved. Just a bump in the road. OP said he should have used ChatGPT if he really wanted cyber hugging.
OP is still communicating with Sarah, and is unsure of his future with her. Sarah is working on her emotional chameleon behavior, especially with the people pleasing, but it looks like the sister is very much a domineering force in her life and that's why she acted like she had.
OP is overall a flipping Chad, as he really did everything right, and is navigating all the social problems in his life excellently.
Edit: RSlash, still needs to link to these creators, since they deserve to get more credit than a name in the lower left corner in the smallest type possible. It makes me wonder what he does for his Podcast episodes. If he doesn't provide adequate credit he could be found to violate creative commons copyrights
Imagine cheating on your significant other.
Then imagine not being the cheater, but being the cheater’s accomplice, and then being surprised when your own significant other doesn’t want to be with you for covering up something that could potentially happen in your own relationship.
That last part further deterioriated my faith in the police
I feel really bad for OP, what a damn mess.
Absolutely love the fact that the guys all went into “take down” mode. Cheaters are vile and will always cheat, liars are in the same category. Sarah and Evie can live together happily miserable.
If some stranger asked me to go full batman against a cheater, I’d hop to, full tilt.
Gross. What a charming family the sister and his fiance are from.
This is the longest episode ever. And I'm loving it, and I'm here for it. Yay, let's go. Historically, groundbreaking longest EP ever.
The post goes on from this. Op starts to press his brother about his potential affair and his brother says that he's done with the online chatting and he and he wife are in counseling, although she doesn't know about the previous chatting. Op told his fiance it was his brother who was chatting, but she doesn't believe him. Also, op's fiance has admitted that she was basically emotionally abused by her sister and parents all her life so that's why she covered for him. She also says that she is a chronic people pleaser and doesn't really know herself. Due to this, op hasn't broken things off, but the relationship is rocky
Covered for her*
I didn't realise this video was 7 months old when i started watching it. I'm not sure how I missed it at the time.
I went to reddit to look for further updates. As of now, it was last updated in December.
Both sisters moved back to the parents' home. Marty and his daughter live with his parents, so he currently has primary custody, and his parents look after her when he is working.
Sarah is in counciling and has now moved into her own apartment.
Sarah approached OP and told him that she needed help gathering evidence on her sister and parents. In a bid to gain full custody of the child, they were going to accuse Marty of abuse to the child. Sarah was still living with them at the time and was worried they would take it on her if they found out she helped him. OP talked her into going to Marty and telling him their plans and speaking to his lawyer about it and signing a statement, which she did. Mary even let her spend time and play with his daughter.
A few weeks later, an emergency child custody hearing happened. OP didn't exactly clarify what they claimed he did, but he said it was vile what they accused him of. Sarah's signed and dated statement about what they were planning to do was dated before anybaccusarions were made. Mary got full custody, and she is only court supervised visits. It turns out that little girl had walked in on her and jake several times while they were in bed.
It's important to add that Marty is also a teacher. So not only could he have been tarred as a P word, but it would have ended his career as well!!
Thankfully, sarah, getting a backbone, saved him from false accusations.
Sarah and OP are in an "it's complicated" situation. His last update was from Australia in December. He took Sarah over to see his family and to spend the Christmas there. He doesn't think they will be getting back together, but they both seem to be healing. Her therapy has been helping her greatly. He thinks he is done with the idea of marriage, not just with Sarah but in general.
Thanks for the update.
That was an intense and very interesting story. I was going to say it was a good story but there wasn't anything good about it
This whole story is insane and awful. I also absolutely hate when you summarize things because you miss or completely change details from stories. If you don’t want to read the whole post(s) then don’t choose those posts to read
This felt like the slowest, loudest, most eardrum-crunching car crash over thirty minutes
To the OP of this story: Your story made my day. The picture of your moral character that was painted by your actions made my heart sing. You are strong. May you remain so for all of your days.
Why does rSlash read “wife” when the people aren’t married? It makes the story confusing unless I’m vigilantly reading it.
Because he's human and makes mistakes?
i love when u have storys that go the whole video, would there ever be a chance for longer videos in the future?
1. OP's relationship
2. His *almost* BIL relationship
3. Jake's relationship
4. The co worker relationship
5. His brother's relationship depending on what boundaries they have since I see OF as just another porn outlet.
Final death toll: 5
Next go after the cops. Those two need to be fired, cuz wtf. They get called by the husband, no one contradicted his story, he’s the only one bleeding, yet they STILL assume he’s the bad guy.