r/Bestof My Girlfriend Steals $5,000/month from Me
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:10 Milk
4:28 GF sister
13:03 Angry husband
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
The mustard maniac, pizza psycho, and now the milk murderer need to start a support group together
preferably in the same prison cell.
These are perfect names, they sound like bootleg supervillains
And the Pistachio Padre as the wizened old advisor villian
If they have a support group with each other, they’d probably KILL each other over food!
What about the spaghetti stalker?
Story 1 is no joke. South America has a huge issue with men killing their spouses. Its like a national crisis. Glad she got out.
Yeah it's that ego problem, they look down on women and treat their partner like trash as you can't love someone you do not admire. Then when that woman tries to leave it's "how dare this lowlife property of mine think I'M not good enough for her!" and they want to kill her for hurting their ego like that.
Yeah, they call it machismo. Basically the ideology that they own their partner and they take any form of independence from "their woman" as a slight against their masculinity. It's disgusting.
It's not just South America it's everywhere. The United States has 5 women a day by murdered domestic partners. And Canada it is two a day. In the UK they have an honour killing every month. A woman died from a domestic partner three times a day. It's an epidemic in the world not just in South America unfortunately. And if you want to see some real Biblical numbers you need to look at Islamic States. In Islamic safe it's one-and-a-half women in every two that will experience domestic abuse.
Well, is it not also the culture/society's fault for not protecting its citizens?
It's like the US was back in the 70's. My mom literally escaped from my dad with 5 kids, Greyhound bus tickets from CT to CA, only $200 in her wallet. He was so violent that we actually got to legally change our names, and social security numbers so he couldn't find us. I'm 53 years old, and she's still my Shero.
Boyfriend: "I just drank your milk, it's not a big deal!"
Also boyfriend: **Has knives, gloves and plastic bags in his bag**
Nothing says "It's not a big deal" like intending to murder your girlfriend with knives over milk, amiright?
It's not a big deal when he does something she's not happy about. It is a huge deal when she does something he's not happy about.
Not even real milk. Milk substitute 😅 (she’s right though, that stuff is expensive and she had every right to be upset)
pretty sure it's showing his true colors after he lost control over her and it just so happened that it showed itself as the milk but yeah this is insane!
Well, to be more accurate, he's doing because she left him, and she left him because he's a douchebag milk thief. Honestly, it sounds like "crying over spilled milk" might've just saved her life in the long run.
This is basically the phrase "Crying over spilled milk" being taken to the extreme.
That last story was spicy as hell! That ain't spilled tea, the teabag factory flooded and caught fire! Hope the guy stays single or at least tries to fix himself.
Hopefully he actually takes care of the kids on the weekend. Considering what op says, i fear he may turn neglectful😕
@@oi2715 turn? He already is.
That's the boston tea party
@@oi2715 He 100% already is. OP should keep a close eye on her kids. Possibly looking for signs of neglect to use against him if she ever seeks out full custody.
That is the best phrase I’ve read in a long time. Absolutely stealing that to use in the future
RE girlfriend stealing money: I bet 90% of her being upset over the end of the relationship was her panicking because she'd no longer be able to send her sister OP's money.
And that she would have to get a job. And her sister who is used to the abundance of financial assistance she has been receiving will expect the same still from OPs ex gf
What’s RE?
@@Nada.AlShingiti I know you’re not asking me but if I had to guess, it means Really Entitled
I’ve read the replies and see that I was wrong. Oops!
Now I hang my head low in shame
@@Nada.AlShingiti It's short for "Regarding" or "In Regards To" and is a short way to identify the topic discussed in the following text. It's used a lot in business settings.
@@Nada.AlShingiti Regarding
So first we had Mustard Guy, then we had Pizza Guy, now there's Milk Guy. Good grief.
Right? We're working on a whole cafeteria collection.
OH MY GOD
IS THAT A JOJO REFERENCE?!?!
My guess is that these 3 people are friends. XD
The Ultimate Threesome is Assembled
Or the op is the same person and is lying for cloud
It's not about milk, mustard, or pizza. It's about power and their partner not doing/being everything they expect.
I think the lesson here is, if they spend months genuinely trying to weaponize something so infinitely trivial, RUN! SO FAST!
Ding ding ding especially that "i'll tell people about your ADHD" threat. There's nothing wrong with having ADHD and for him to try to use it as leverage means he does not like people with ADHD at all.
@@MidnightHedgehog365 That bit reminds me of the story about OP's sister using her friend who became OP's doctor to get juicy info about OP to make the entire family turn against OP.
@@spydersoup8447 to be fair. The family in that post is a complete nutjob.
Yep, got beaten to ground before over putting down the salt to loudly. These stupid arguments are never about what they are yelling about. They just want to control you, and if you won't comply they will try to kill you.
"You might think this is too harsh, but she deserves to be in jail"
"A theft of over 500$ is commonly considered a felony crime which can go from 3-5 years in jail"
100% agreed on that one
It's $500? I thought it was $1,000? At least in my state it is!
Especially since he has evidence of her asking him for money, him declining, and her withdrawing the money anyway.
Hope she enjoys no longer being able to send her sister money...
If the OP was dumb enough to give her legal access to the funds, it isn't theft.
He just learned a very expensive lesson. Separation of money. She has hers. You have yours. And there is a joint account to pay the bills from.
@@superdave8248 Legally should be in prison, and deserves to be in prison are two different things.
And even then, a quick google shows that there is precedent (but not a guarantee) of what she did being illegal, even if she had access to the joint account
"The Court of Appeals held that the funds of Ms. Wagner’s father, although placed in a joint account with her name on it, could be stolen by the joint account holder where, as in this case, she willfully or knowingly obtained or exerted unauthorized control over those funds without her father’s consent and with the intent to deprive him of his funds."
While the intent to deprive OP from the money was hard to prove, she did take it without his consent as he explicitly said "no" to sending money to her sister
@@LilDevyl17 Either way, she's WAY over that limit.
Story 2: there’s “caring for your sister”, and then there’s literally paying for her sisters entire life, being taken advantage of, and having your girlfriend stealing from you.
I’d actually split with her at that point, she sees you as a bank account, she isn’t respecting her boyfriend as a person, she cares more about giving her sister money than anything else. I feel so bad for OP, he’s being manipulated, stolen from, disrespected, he deserves better in life.
Hearing rSlash say “get back out there, King” makes me ridiculously happy, can’t explain why. He’s right, OP is an absolute King, he sounds like such a lovely guy, I hope he finds happiness in life!
And gf isn’t the one taking care of her sister if it’s OPs funds she is stealing from after he told her to knock it off with the financial assistance. It’s easy to be the hero at other’s expense
I would date that man. And I'm not even gay.
I truly think that's why she wanted him back, because her sister needs his money
The gf could easily buy groceries and stuff where you have receipts. She could have just kept it low and not pay for their date night. She had it made but I understand those families are everything. You have to help, but not a third of your man's wallet. Gas money here some diapers money there is understandable. She was spoiling her sister.
@@GamerGrovyle i'd date him too, and i'm aro-ace
That r/DeadBedrooms post is AMAZING. He got DRAGGED and DESERVED IT. OP deserves better, she’s disrespected, is essentially a single parent, is yelled at often, fat shames her, puts her down, her partner only cares about his own sexual pleasure, he doesn’t care about her sexual enjoyment or pleasure, she genuinely deserves SO MUCH BETTER.
Folk need to stop settling for men who are worth less than the dirt under your shoe. Your partner should be your equal, you need to be sexually compatible, you also need to not abuse your partner, just WTF?! Doesn’t surprise me he “disagreed with everything I said”, he’s shallow, disrespectful, treats her like a sex doll for his enjoyment and she needs to “finish herself” and “it’s your obligation”. She deserves the divorce.
I’m glad she’s much happier and found a man who treats her like an equal, but what makes me extremely happy is he got DRAGGED by the woman he found hot. BEAUTIFUL.
@@sparkyUSA1976 studies have shown that men get more out of a relationship then women do. like seriously, being in a relationship is like 10 times better for the man and 10 times worse for the woman then being single.
I hope he does more r/deadbedrooms
A long time ago, I dated someone who was a bit like that last op's ex-husband. This person had the selfish mindset of 'they chose to be with me, now I can stop putting in effort' (note: we were NOT married, just in a monogamous relationship) and it was awful.
At one point during an argument I got frustrated enough and legitimately asked them: "When are you going to treat me like an actual human being?" Their response, no joke, was: "When you give me whatever I want."
I turned away at that point and left. Who would change only AFTER getting their toxic mindset validated? That person was utterly delusional.
At least now she can get an amazing vibrator and actually get off😂
@@Eppon6 If that were me then I would say, "Okay, then! Here's my copy of the house key. And I'm taking all my belongs with me. I'll be at my Mom's house. Congrats! You got what you wanted! The house ALL to yourself! And only yourself!"
Last story: my God, OP murdered this guy, I also love how he disagreed as if that's going to mean anything. And based on the updates it clearly didn't. But you know what there's an important lesson in this, always try to find the full story, because you never know when someone really is the bad guy in the situation.
My favorite part about the updates was that the cute coworker he was crushing on turned him down flat the second she learned that he was a cheating AH who treats his wife like crap.
Husbands and future husbands, I hope you all are taking notes on that last story. I've found it to be true that often in my marriage when I start to focus on some need I am not getting fulfilled I start thinking badly of my wife. But once we talk about it I realize I've also starting slacking in one or more ways. She's more than willing to meet my needs but if I'm not doing the same that desire quickly fades. Take care of your partner and put their needs above yours. If they're even halfway decent then they will meet yours and you're both happy and fulfilled.
you call them partners because you are supposed to be equals, in both work and reward. if you aren't doing your fair share, then why should they do more?
My late husband never stopped behaving as an adult who had to take care of their own space & manage their own life. He also never stopped flirting with me & dating me, even after we married.
Because of that, we didn't stop sleeping together & I didn't lose any attraction or appreciation for him. We were together 16 years. I have a text from the day he died that says, "God, I miss you. These people" (co-workers & patients) "are wild. Can't wait to get home to see you to relax. Love you so much, J"
So many dudes view marriage as the end goal & stop treating their wives like they treated her when she was their girlfriend. Then they are somehow shocked & amazed that their wife doesn't treat them like she used to either. Make it make sense. If y'all don't put effort into that relationship, why do y'all expect her to? Y'all just move on to find another girlfriend where you again put effort into that relationship until you get married & again stop. Then you're wondering why this marriage is starting to look a lot like your last one that you were unhappy in. It's a cycle that's only really going to break if you put the effort you would put toward a new girlfriend & put it towards your wife.
For any dude reading this, take the advice or don't but now you know why this is happening. Good luck. Oh & sidenote, if you pretend to be a moron so you don't have to do chores or manage your life like a grown-up, she'll see you as a literal moron & won't respect you. That also means a loss of attraction as well.
Len, the way you talk about your marriage sounds so healthy and mature. All my best to you and your missus - may you keep communicating and never stop pleasantly surprising each other in little ways.
Glad it's only the men who need to take notes.
@@sketchsskotch1073oh it's definitely not. It sounds like the original commenter is a man so he was talking to the other men.
Definitely anyone who wants a healthy relationship should take notes
What with husbands/boyfriends getting pissed off at their wives for not liking something and decided that they want to unalive their wives!? First, it was mustard and now it's damn milk!? Bruh, these people are so entitled
Wasn't there also a pizza one?
Aurora holy hekk its you lmao!
@@meloveAi that too!
@@lorddialtones OH HEY ANTHONY XD
Right? I don’t get why this guy would still pursue her, anyway. Lactose intolerant people are smelly (seriously) and trying to work around their dietary needs gets really annoying. He should have just shrugged and counted his blessings.
The story about the gf who sent 50k to her sister. You are getting scammed by your girlfriend. She is using you as a bank account. And yes, she should be in jail for theft.
Problem is, if her name is on the account she has ever right to do with it as she pleases according to the law. If OP is as trusting as he seems that is likely what happen and he has no recourse. But yes, fully agree she ought to be in jail.
At the very least it should be on record. Because she'll 100% do it again, given the opportunity. OP seems too nice (and/or the wound too fresh) to pursue it, but it stings that she essentially got away with it.
@@foremanhaste5464 just because it's a joint account doesn't mean she isn't able to steal from it and be charged, you have access to google, use it.
The last post: I can add onto that story. For basically my entire childhood my father strayed away from my mom emotionally. He basically stopped treating her as his wife. No more taking her out just the two of them, no more flowers, no more gifts, no more helping out when he would leave us(he had a difficult time separating being a husband and being a father) nothing. It got to the point where he wouldn’t even give her gifts or take her out for Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day or even her birthday!! My brother and I had to pick up the slack for him. Then he would complain how my mom “didn’t treat him like her husband anymore” that she would be cold to him in bed and would treat him bad emotionally. At first I felt bad for him, but when I actually thought things through I’ve realized that she was treating him like that because she’s given up because he gave up a long time ago. Fellas(and ladies), if expect your partner to continue to be loving towards you, maybe continue dating them instead of expecting things to be the same when you don’t treat them the same. My parents’ toxic relationship has taught me nothing but what NOT to do.
I know I'm commenting a year later but what do they expect? If you're not treating your husband/wife right then (most of the time) they're not gonna care about you either.
Story 1: as a brazilian, I can confirm most of our police force is terrible to handle situations like these, but still better having a registered request for restraining order than not having one
Why would your police force do nothing to be good for anything? What is wrong with law enforcement who don't want to enforce the law?
@@fanfictiondreamer7836 Sometimes there's problem with the law itself, for example, here the police cannot shoot first, even if the badguy is pointing a weapon at them, they can later be prosecuted. Other times some police offices are just lazy, but again, it still batter to have registered than to not, especially because you might get lucky and have the good police officers to help you. Here just like in some parts of the US their training is lacking, and some people are just bad people.
Sim mano, eles demoram pra cacete pra fazer qualquer coisa mesmo se ligar berrando por socorro. Às vezes o Batman aparece antes
I feel so sorry for the Story 2 guy, he sounds like a really nice person who just so happens to be kind of wealthy. He sounds like he genuinely loved his girlfriend. The fact that she stole from him and it wasn't even for herself somehow makes it worst. And the sister never even called him to say sorry? It runs in the family, that's for sure.
Imo if the girlfriend hadn't run off & needed time alone, I think it would have taken him a lot longer to realize just how badly she was playing him.
I think she thought that leaving would make him buckle but luckily it didn't work that way.
Nice guy but stupid as well. I work at a big tech company (not sure where OP works) but 150k/yr is NOT wealthy nor is it particularly a high income in the tech industry (in fact it is more toward the junior side of the compensation ladder). That 50k stolen is significant relative to his income and he should absolutely press charges.
Angry Husband's story is a perfect example that there are two sides to every story.
And I bet his posts are still up because he still believes his narrative. I take that back, in the update OP made it clear that her ex believes in his crap
Story 3: man I’ve never seen a more self centred man before, he thinks his wife’s the problem when she’s literally doing what looks like 95% of everything on top of taking care of the baby, while he just complains that his wife isn’t “beautiful or a good passionate hugging partner” while he blatantly attempts to cheat.
That last bit, you know how it is with men, when their current spouse isn't a great sex partner anymore, they have to find other women to fulfill their sex needs. This is the most common pattern I'm seeing from these guys, I remember seeing this post of Reddit which confirms this being true.
and that line: "he should be able to experience everything he wants in the bedroom even if I don't want it." I REALY hope this doesn't mean what I think it means
how I knew the first story was happening in Brazil just bc of op's parents lives in the same building as my parents is insane. I was listening and I was like "That's sounds exactly like what happened to the family living upstairs lmao" AND THEN I REMEMBERED IT HAPPENED EXACTLY LIKE THAT
Story 2 I heard this one before. Op should have sued for the money. She shouldn't get off Scott free and you never know what can happen.
But could he sue since he gave her access to his accounts?
Don’t get me wrong if there is a chance he can sue I believe he should. If possible i think he should sue the sister too
I’m surprised Reddit didn’t respond with “it’s not stealing because it’s her money as well and you need to stop being heartless OP”
@@MrDoverfield They weren't married, so that may be why.
@@MrDoverfield especially the feminists...😮
@@minnarosenqvistmr how Comments like this piss me off, shows your own bias. I'm a vocal Feminist and I'm enraged on behalf of the OP! How dare the girlfriend feeling entitled to subsidise two entire human beings(the sister and her child) with HIS money, without his consent. Especially when he's already so generous!
Her support?! Lol I nearly choked. She stole 50K from him, that aint support.
It's almost like she cares for her sister than for OP, and that the only real reason why she's with OP and trying to stay with him forever is just for his money so that she would give what her sister wants, almost like she's a slave to her.
Story 1: her boyfriend is extremely disrespectful and doesn’t care about her. He doesn’t care about her being lactose intolerant, a literal medical condition, and is showing exactly how much he is unstable with all of those texts.
Personally I’d blast all those messages on social media to get ahead of his “exposure” of her medical conditions. Never mind him showing up at her parents to lie to the staff, becoming violent, trying to attack the staff, oh, and just casually having knives and gloves. Just WTAF.
Almond milk really saved her life.
Talk about taking the phrase "Crying over spilled milk" to the extreme.
Story 2: NTA BUT Please, everyone, check your bank accounts regularly- once a week if you are regularly spending stuff and save any emails you get about payments sent to subscription services. While OP isn't in the wrong, he needs to be diligent about his finances. It's not his fault he got stolen from- just make sure you take steps to stop stuff. I'd also talk to your bank and try to get reimbursed because that is BLATANT fraud for transactions you DID NOT authorize (idk how it goes for big banks but I bank locally and that does really well)
Story 2: it's also very fishy that the sister needs 50,000 in 10 months for her kid. I guarantee a good chunk of that money is not being spent on the child.
Mustard Mike, Peter Pizza and Marty Milkman are just a baffling collection of humans. It's like some weird comic book villainy.
Wonder when we're gonna get a Patty Pancake.
Not that baffling actually a shocking number of women are murdered by their husbands. The reasoning these men give when caught often follows this kind of pattern (not necessarily food but other seemingly minor issues that end up escalating). With further analysis often hinting at a mix of control issues, narcissism and an aversion to therapy or lack of health communication and emotional regulation.
Part of the difficulty in understanding this and why it seems so unbelievable is because people are focusing on the what more than the why. The what being the mustard, or in this case the dairy free products and why why being a history of control issues and red flags the op's didn't notice until it got REALLY bad.
Hardcore Carnivore?
Spaghetti Steve
Last story: it honestly baffles me why she stayed with him for so long after years of being treated like that. If anyone is reading this and your partner is doing even *one* of the the things that POS was doing, take this as a sign to get out now. You deserve better, and nobody *ever* deserves to be treated like that.
Like most, it probably was for the kids.
@@xeedflarian9748 and she realized it’s not worth it for them
The husband is a selfish scumbag
And the first post just shows she was holding it in all those years
Last story: You have to be willing to bend on jobs in the relationship so both of you will want each other. The husband is just not a smart guy 😂😂
And how much are you willing to bet he’s let himself go and isn’t in the type of shape he wanted OP in?
@@lorilancaster5917 no bet. i like to keep my money thanks.
@@abiean222 yeah the only way I could see us losing that bet would be if the guy was never in great shape
First Story: When you called him "milk man", I immediately thought of The Milk Man from Psychonauts saying, "I am the Milk Man. Your milk is delicious."
Edit for the Last Story: "If you think every accusation is a lie, why do you assume it's about you?" TELL 'EM! That line made me smile, bro, get his ass
Story 2: Correction OP, YOU were trying to understand HER point of view. SHE was trying to rob you blind and take advantage of you with no concern for your feelings or well being.
*First OP:* I wonder if the ex is related to the ex who tried to unalive OP over mustard? I'm glad OP and her family are safe.
*Second OP:* OP did the right thing. If his ex had no problem stealing 50k from him, who knows what else she'd be capable of? OP was NTA, but he _is_ a catch. A six-figure salary and a house and two cars paid for? Plus, he sounds like a decent guy. I'm sure he'll find someone who will love him and not steal from him.
Anyone else notice that the chapter is titled "GF Sister"? With that title, one would think the story would go a different direction, lol
*Third OP:* OP tore her ex's behind to shreds, and I'm here for it! Shoutout to the hot co-worker for turning him down as well. Best of luck to OP.
I hope OP takes time for himself, get therapy, and enjoy spending time with his puppy before he even thinks about going back into the dating pool
@@lorilancaster5917 I agreed with you. Its better to clean up from bad experience before you come back to dating
Second story: "You wouldn't have gotten to where you are right now without my support", that is correct, he would be up $50.000 without her support
The ex gf in the 2nd story was screaming not because she was losing her bf, but because she was losing her and her sister's ATM.
The "committing felonies against put our partners over food" club is expanding
Nah, he didn't leave HER a hundred. He left that for the waitress.
Based on her personality, i'd bet a hundred that the waitress didn't get a tip~
From the creators of mustard man we have the "Milk Murderer"
Or Lactose Free milk murderer
@@lorilancaster5917 that could be the sequal "Milk Murderer part 2 Lactose free" 😂
Coming this summer... to a CZcams near you!
Last story: Too bad there are kids in the situation. Makes it harder to get away from that selfish jerk.
Honestly, men who can't take care of their own kids baffles me. My wife is going away this weekend with her girlfriends. They're all married with kids, and out of the 5 fathers, I'm the only one who isn't pawning his kids off to grandparents or somewhere else because they don't know what to do with their kids..... Like, what!?! They're YOUR kids, and you can't watch them because you don't know how?!?
That last post… the ‘hot’ co-worker is a real one. She assumed they were still married and she immediately turned him in and told whom she still believed was his wife what he was doing. Honestly I gotta give props to her!
Story 1: A wise man once said:
"Boy! That escalated quickly! I mean that really got out of hand fast!"
Story 2: Honestly Op SHOULD sue his ex-girlfriend for the $50,000 back. That is too much money to just evaporate because her sister wanted it. 🤷
Story 3: Girl, why are you still with this man? You deserve better. Drop him like a cartoon anvil!
(edit: good to see that they split)
Story 2: It would be one thing If OP’s gf was throwing away her own money, but she had the nerve to spend HIS and say she needs space like he’s the problem. What an absolute leech.
I turned and raised my eyebrow like the Rock when rSlash said "if he disagrees and thinks OP is lying, how did he know the post was about him?" cause TRUEEEE, bro is so dumb
Story 2: Of course the ex was devasted her meal ticket just walked out the door. I bet you anything that the sister in question wont let OP's ex crash with her, because she "ruined" everything. OPs a catch and he's gonna meet someone great
I hope he takes some time, get therapy, and get a new perspective before he tries to date again. But when he does I don’t see him having problems finding love that sees his value not involving a price tag
I almost died seeing Samara Weaving as the thumbnail. New favorite rslash video
He will need to be very careful not to end up with someone else exactly like her.
Story 2: Not too harsh, rslash...this is outrageously bad behavior. This woman needs to be in jail.
$5000 dollars a month is almost twice my monthly salary before taxes.
I bet OP's (former) sister-in-law lived comfortably with money like that.
Alright for that first story I did not expect that twist! I just thought he was a desperate slighted lover, but holy crap, he legit planned to murder OP and their family! I just hope OP stays safe and I hope the ex rots in jail while bankrupt.
What is it with guys who think they don't have to contribute to the relationship? So happy OP in the last story got away from her ex.
Why are so many people on reddit saying "It's not a big deal!", even though they are not the one, who can decide that? It bothers me every time.
Story #2:
I would say i did similar things like OPs ex. I used to bail out my older sister and her kids A LOT. Helped out with bills, helped pay for things for her kids, bail her ex when their car was taken away (cops recognized her bf for driving without a license). I added my mother to one of my credit cards (she would ask permission before making any purchases), i helped out my other siblings (I'm the baby) and even my ex helped a lot with my family and he would bail out his family (mainly his mom). One time, he loaned my older sister a few thousand because she needed to pay a utility bill and if she didnt pay it (in a week, she begged everyone at the last minute), she was going to get kicked out of her affordable housing home. My ex sat her down, talked to her good, he loaned it and a few days later, I sat down with her to go over her finances and there were a lot of things she was not willing to let go, even things her boyfriend at the time, now her ex, wouldn't give us and he would spend her money. I think she just said what my ex wanted to hear in order to get bailed out. He didnt mind helping out, but it was starting to hinder us from moving forward towards our financial goals. We both didnt have well paying jobs, but my ex was a really good saver.
Granted I didn't give my sister almost $5,000/month like OPs ex, but it did feel like i was paying for things or bailing her out a lot each month. If you said no to her, she would use her kids as a bargaining chip, saying things like, "If i dont get gas money to go to work, how else will I take care of my kids, we can end up homeless, etc.," My mother would call me and tell me whats going on with my sister and that she needed help again and my mom would beg and pleaded for me to help her. My mother always had a soft spot for her children and would do anything for us, but it was hard for her to say no.
I had to realize (and therapy helped a lot with this) that even though I was helping my siblings and even my mother out, i was always angry about it, hardly said anything, and enabled my sisters behaviors. I was growing resentful, but i was all about helping family no matter what (like OPs ex).
It took years to wean myself off my family and setting clear boundaries, even with my mother who used to guilt trip me if i didnt do what she wanted. None of my siblings ask me for money anymore because I've been putting myself first for a lot of things and needed to rebuild myself. I almost had two slip ups when two of my siblings asked if i could cosign for them: one was a car, and the other one to rent a home in a different state.
My current husband had to sit me down and ask me, "If something happens, can i realistically pay it if they're not able to pay it?" It was hard for me to justify it and i almost fought him over it. I had to stop myself, think about what i was doing, apologize to him and even my really close friends who said the same thing my husband said, even my great aunt was telling me to say no because at the end of the day, will they help me out if i need help?
I know this story was rather long but i understand where her mindset was, but at the same time, OPs ex did not deserve OP because she was taking advantage of him, and how she freaked out at him at the end, was definitely a huge red flag and im glad OP got out of that relationship because she would've bled him dry, and not even care.
Dear lord...first mustard, then pizza, NOW MILK?!? How many other food products are going make guys go insane?!?
I mean, alcoholic beverages already do that on a wide scale, but if we're talking about actually ENJOYABLE food products, I'd probably wager the next one may very well be over the waffles vs pancake debate.
@Derpaderpy Considering that this is Reddit, that...doesn't sound too far-fetched.
Final story: You're absolutely right. If OP's now-ex-husband identified so strongly with her post, he asked her if she had made it about him, it's hard to understand how he could deny her accusations. The punch line of this one should be, "If the foo spits...," or something similar.
Last story: " Sorry, if this is not a great update..."
Girl, this is the best update you could have given!
I do remember that case, I'm Brazilian, but i can be mistaken, cause unfortunately that kind of thing is not uncommon, but luckily she is alive, at least one a week there's a headline about men killing o threatening their parents, it's disheartening, and although we have a very good dv law, unfortunately many women don't press charges.
I have to wonder if the money thief girlfriend was lying and the sister isn't asking for as much, but that she's making up a story to squirrel away money for herself.
OP is an A+ guy, and I'm sure he's going to bounce back strong. Hope his pupper is happy to have him.
We're missing a Dessert psychopath and we got a full meal of lunatics
I love how rSlash started reading the last one in his entitled person voice and then switched voices as he realized it wasn't an entitled person.
With the milk guy here we now have the food guy triforce, ready to defend the world from good food and healthy relationships.
1st story is just..wow.
Rslash hyping the guy in story 2 is so wholesome. This is why I keep coming back.
Story 1 is ridiculous. If my wife said, please don’t consume these items because she needs them, I would not touch them. It is what people who love each other do.
Story 3: The Queen has spoken 👏🏿
The mustard, pizza, and milk guys are going to start a crime team and recruit other food related killers. The world isn’t safe anymore.
When I got to the part about the ex having knives, gloves, and plastic bags on him in story 1, my stomach dropped. He really was planning to kill her. He really wanted to get into that condo, find her, and stab her to death. That urge was definitely lurking there the whole time-glad it came to light before she married him cuz if not, it would have likely arisen once they had kids (abusive spouses tend to get more violent when their partner is pregnant). And if she had had kids with him it would have been much harder to leave. I’m so thankful OP1 wised up, put herself first, and took every precaution to protect herself.
That dead bedroom post was GOLD.
Story 1: The thing that the mustard and milk guys have in common is that they are so super controlling that they can't let it go under any circumstances. That's what lets their victims see what's going on. It's easy to make excuses for a guy who wants to drive or pick restaurants, it's hard to make excuses for a guy who tries to force feed you something you can't comfortably eat.
Pizza guy is just an idiot. Completely different league. Not partner material, but he's only harming himself.
After the first story, the GF gets 4/5 asshole points instead of 5/5 BECAUSE she's a freaking angel compared to the last horrible spouse.
gf sister story: if shes willing to send money no matter what, make her get a job, take her off your account. whatever money she makes from her job can go towards the sister
Story 1: I was going to joke about if Mustard Guy was back, then she said she lived in Brazil and I was genuinely worried for life. Glad to know she had somewhere safe to hide till her psycho ex got caught.
First mustard, then pizza, now milk...this is a disturbing trend. It always seems to be some small, insignificant thing that makes these absuive relationships just implode.
Of course we all know that it's not just about the food or other insignificant stuff, but it always seems to be some tiny thing that tips it over the edge and just opens the floodgates. Like some other people have been saying, these lunatics all deserve to be imprisoned together.
Story 2: frankly, there's helping, and then there's just actively bleeding a person dry. She can blab all she wants about helping her sister, but there's only so much you can do for family. Communication is key in a relationship, and while he's communicating, she's burying her head in the sand. And in the end, given that he's the breadwinner of the relationship, he's basically supporting five people on his own. If she wants to support her sister's lifestyle so bad, she can get a job herself and donate her entire salary to her sister, since apparently, she believes that money isn't an object when it comes to helping family.
The Opie with the spouse complaining about them on the dead bedroom subreddit. I did not even make it halfway through before I was like please leave him
The last story hit me hard and triggered me so hard. My ex husband did this exact crap to me
I know my sleep schedule is messed up when I live in England and rSlash posts as I wake up 😭
Ditto here I'm a night worker
For anyone who might ask: In England, rSlash uploads at 2pm.
Second story : to put some perspective on the 50k amount. For awhile I was a college student living on a trust fund with my husband, so I have a very precise bill of how much we spent over a year. For 47k we outfitted a 1000 square foot apartment, ate out at restaurants every other day, went to college, paid for a car bill and rent and utilities, and spent money wildly. We even went on vacation multiple times. 50k is enough to let 2 people live comfortably, not the basics.
That last story when the husband asked "Is this about me?" I started laughing and just though, must have hit pretty close to home then!
With the second story, I firmly believe that the (thankfully)ex-girlfriend and sister were trying to run a long game con on OP. This whole thing just sounds too coordinated to just be a crime on impulse.
I think he knows it's not directly his fault but he's just using this as a reminder to be cautious of his account in the future.
The second guy is a doormat that let her walk all over him. She was waiting to get married and divorce him so that she can get HALF of his income as an easy handout. How do I know? She didn't even offer to pay back the money she stole, showing that she feels entitled to that money already!
She's willing to do anything to make the relationship work except get a job to support her sister and pay him back.
"I am the Milkman. My milk is delicious."
Mustard guy, pizza guy, milk man are all on their way to become cereal killers. Huh? Dad joke for you.
Story 2: 8:50 The biggest problem in these situations: if it's a shared account it's not considered theft because it's considered property of both people. If it's his personal account that she simply has access to, then it's theft. If it's a shared account with both their names it won't go anywhere because no laws were broken.
I'm glad he ended things, because she was 100% using him and it never would have changed. She was only mad that her and her sister were losing their cash cow.
No, it’s worse than a $60,000 per year salary. The gift was after taxes, it’s actually closer to an $80,000 per year salary.
Take your ex-girlfriend to court, she owes you $50,000!
I hope the guy that lost 50k learns to have a separate shared account. Next story: holy cow! Leave that man!!! (Typed that before the story was finished. Glad they're divorcing.)
As a Brazilian and lactose intolerant, I can confirm:
1- Plant based food is really expensive
2- Police force is almost worthless when a woman needs protection
3- Brazil is going nuts right now. Everyday we discover something horrible happened here
4- Bahia is a very beautiful place to travel
First story: It seems OP dodged a bullet.
With the update 1: Oh boy, this dude just gave OP the ammunition to sue the heck out of him if he tries all those treats.
With the update 2: OP didn't dodge a bullet, she dodged a nuclear missile.
TIL: if the guy you’re dating is obsessed with one specific type of food, no matter what it is, leave him! Cause he WILL try to murder you over it😂
Before we know it, we're gonna have a whole gang of food based maniacs on rslash
Story 3: my husband knows chore play and foreplay well. So well that normally he is the one declining lol. That husband was dumb! Not helping, acting dumb, and belittling the attempts OP did make to be beautiful, and never finish her? How did he fail EVERY category? Every dumb af guy I know at least lets the lady keep her lady toys!
My only recommendation for the second guy, be really insistent on going slow, it weeds out the majority of toxic people, and from now on be super insistent on a prenup, it weeds out many others. Also never let them know in the early days how much you make.
I sincerely hope he finds someone with the kind and trustworthy heart he deserves
That last one sounds like he was reading too many INCEL Reddits. 😂
strange how that last guy knew it was about him even though it was all untrue right
Rslash about to create the Foodister 6. MustardMan, Pizzaboy and MilkMan, can't wait to meet the next 3 villains
To the guy in story #2. You need to change your bank information now! She could still have access.
Story 2: if she said that she will help her sister no matter what then she should get a job to help her sister so she knows what it’s like to just give away what someone worked for.
Milk? I had an ex that threw a hammer at me and made it stick in the wall because I forgot to bring home milk once.