When Your Spouse Continuously Lies (What to do) | Dr. Doug Weiss | Marcus & Joni Daystar
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- When Your Spouse Continuously Lies (What to do) | Dr. Doug Weiss | Marcus & Joni Daystar
**This interview is for a book specifically meant for women, but many principles written and spoken of can be applied to either gender.
Dr. Doug Weiss from Heart to Heart Counseling Center answers these questions and more in an interview with Marcus & Joni on Daystar Television.
Dr. Douglas Weiss shows partners how to heal when their spouse continually lies in a marriage. You need to have the right mindset when dealing with a lying spouse.
The book, Partner Betrayal Trauma™ was written specifically for women who have experienced the trauma of betrayal from a spouse.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/p...
The Partner Betrayal Trauma ™ Book helps you understand the broken trust and trauma you have experienced in your relationship or marriage. This betrayal can come from infidelity, pornography, or intimacy anorexia.
Partner Betrayal Trauma ™ is a real type of trauma. Your pain and experience of betrayal has impacted all of your being and all of your relationships.
Dr. Doug Weiss walks you through what betrayal trauma looks like in your life, how it affects, you, and steps you can take to become stronger and recover.
This a great gift to give to women you know are struggling to get past trauma in their relationships. Buy a few to have around!
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.
You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, www.drdougweiss.com or on his Facebook / drdougweiss
by phone at 719-278-3708
or through email at heart2heart@xc.org.
My husband lies about the dumbest things and then gets mad when I accuse him of lying about major things!! I am at my wits end!!
Mine is the same way. Eventually if I freak out enough he will say he didn't lie he just didn't tell me
Mine blames me when I catch him lying...
What’s his sign
@@terintiaflavius3349 my wife does this then when I found signs of cheating thinks somehow I should believe her then. These are self serving narcissists that behave this way with absolutely no self discipline or self accountability. They are emotional bullies that try to back you down with anger. When all else fails if you take it to the end you might even get the real feeling to come out a total lack of respect for you and a “so, what are you gonna do about it” attitude
@@FL-Man78 Completely true! I often ask myself how did I fall in love with this person
Always lies. After 14 years Very,Very tired Of The Lies. Oh God Thank you Dear God. Amen🙏
This what scares me that it will continue, I despise liars and it’s getting to the point the love don’t matter sick of the lies
I wish I could cry to you and tell you all my relationship problems.
You might consider a phone session. Call 719-278-3708
My husband after 12yrs has told me his porn addiction and sex addiction. My betrayal and complex trauma is full force. I caught him because he had social media accounts n emails in secret. That was how i found out. He was so bad he was kicked off Pinterest. We are faith based but it doesn't make the pain less painful and devastating to the core
Your trauma and pain from this are real. We have a Partners of Sex Addicts phone and Facebook group that can give you support in this tough time if you're interested.
www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
How did you find out ?
So tired of dealing with this situation.
Me too
me too!
Me too!
My wife lies about small and big things. I am a God fearing man and regret the marriage because I cannot fully trust her.
I'm sad that this is happening. The DVD "Why Men Lie" (regardless the name, many of the principles in the DVD can be applied to both genders) might help you discover the why. If need be, seek counseling.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-men-lie-dvd/
I literally feel the same. I feel duped & discouraged.
My husband lies when I have the texts to prove it. He needs to just admit what he did 😡
He obviously is not mature enough if he does this. The DVDs "Why Men Lie", "When You Marry A Child, Don't Expect A Man Right Away", & "Unstuck" can explain further on this topic. The pain you are experiencing is valid. If you haven't already, you can get support from our Partners phone and Facebook groups.
www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
I disagree, you can expect a person to change overnight that’s how it works u either change or you don’t , you leave an option to make a permanent change at some time in the future then why not drag it out as long as you can so you can continue the behavior? Change does happen instantly you just choose it to be that way. And no one here is alone I would put my lazy, cheater, compulsive liar, slob , loser wife up against the worst in this entire group so I feel for all of you
Florida man I understand brother. You described my wife to a T. She lies about lying and also does things that look intentional to create chaos. She literally will check out other men in front of me, and its not like im chopped liver as I take good care of myself. I'm not talking just a quick glance either ..its literally her oogling other men and when confronted will deny doing it. She's flirted with other men and denies it after. Once I caught her in a situation that looked suspicious, as if she was having an affair and minimally was hanging out with another man alone but it LOOKED inappropriate. Once again...denied anything. I have had proof of her lies at times and she will fall back on stonefaced lies. Because of her pathological lying, I don't trust her period. I am a very trusting person until I'm given reasons not to. Yesterday, she was out all day, shopping and going to the spa. I tried calling her once to ask her a question and it went to voice-mail. If this happened with a wife who was open, trustworthy and knew who rarely lied, i wouldn't automatically thinks shes up to something. With her...the trust is gone because she lies so much. She's incredibly manipulative and she had convinced multiple marriage therapists that shes a poor poor victim and im this monster. I get it..
I'm ready to help my self for me, my kids and of course my wife I won't blame here if she won't stay I know she deserves the best.
I’ve also been together with my husband for the last 16 going on 17 years and I just can’t get the guy to commit “properly” at ALL.
My husband lied to me for13 months. He said he was going to work when he was going , I don’t know where he says with his friends, and his work schedule was four pm 1230 am i and he added onto that lie saying he was getting off at 1:30 AM doing overtime because it was a lot of work so he wouldn’t get home till two in the morning. He lied 13 months, , five days a week, nine hours , I’m devastated. 😢
I'm sorry that you have experienced this. Your pain and trauma are valid. We have counseling available as well as support groups for over the phone and on Facebook. You are worthy to be loved and to be healed.
You can call us at 719-278-3708 to set an appointment.
www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
@@DrDougWeiss you always say the same thing in your replies
What’s really stupid is the person lying (like my husband) ruins not just my life but his child’s life and the 2 families involved with the marriage and his own life! why would someone want their life to be filled with guilt, trust issues, addictions, hiding things drinking and finally being unloved and even hated because of their constant betrayals and hurtful actions. Just tell the truth!!! I am way more forgiving and respect the person far more if they comes to me and tell the truth. my husband has ruined our marriage and lives w his lies and addictions. I agree he’s on a 14 yr old mentality and I’m done with it. It starts to make your nerves really bad and go crazy because do their manipulation blaming you for their cruel behavior. It’s hurting our son too because I’m afraid he’ll lie to him too and he never spends time with him. I’m considering divorce because he just never changes
Would it be wrong to terminate the relationship over lies
No it would not.
My favourite video!
I guess my husband is 14...
Literally! I said my husband is 12 yrs young! 😂
I’m always concerned when a guy starts to say,”what about women?” Then he go s on and on. First, take the log out of your own eye. You know the Lord isn’t excusing either gender of chronic, intentional lying or cheating? It’s so wrong. I’m sorry for any one who’s dealing with spouse’s sexual addiction and or cheating. I pray for men who are facing life with a wife who’s breaking his heart.
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎
Ignore those bums.
What about a lying alcoholic who will fight to the death to keep her addiction and try to keep it secret... tired of the lies and the fighting... ready to walk out on her. Enough is enough is too much.
If she is married to the addiction, your feelings are legit. If she is not getting help, you might to see a counselor to sort out your best course of action.
If spouse lies mine also compassion to his sanskaar. B true on trust. Self
He is physically abusing me over his lies. It is so hurtful.
Get out it’s not worth it God has better we just have to be strong ask for help to change and go God bless you
If you are being physically abused, you should call the police.
God wants you to be happy and at peace, ask him what to , you can trust God❤ He loves you so much and sees all your pain. ❤ and it's so worth it, he will heal all you. ❤
Lol this video is funny
Yup polygraph again WOW probably. Sad. I mostly mature he wasnt mature my Ex No. Very Immature. Yes not fair
I’m in Florida and cannot find a counseling who does polygraph. Is it conducted by a counselor or just a polygraph office?
My husband lies and twist make up stories not about addiction or something he is a pathological liar
That was the last straw when he told one story to my son a different one to his girlfriend and he told me a different story story that was so embarrassing at this point
I always tried to minimize or cover up in someway so other people don’t see what he does
It’s not just lying he betrayed mocks and a lot more I believe a narcissist
I’m angry every day because of it and I feel guilty for not being a good forgiving Christian
What you have experienced would be frustrating to anyone. I'm sad to hear how your husband's actions have hurt you and those around you, as well as the anger that you are struggling with. Your feelings are valid.
It would be best for the two of you to get with a counselor in order to get to the root of why he is doing this and help him to stop this behavior.
Regardless, it is important for you to get healing and support for yourself at this time. You don't have to go through this alone.
You can get with a local counselor or contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 and we can help you through phone sessions or consider the option of doing a 3 or 5-day marriage intensive at our center.
I also have a DVD called "Why Men Lie" which covers a variety of reasons why men lie in their relationships that you might find helpful.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-men-lie-video-download/
He said women don't get this because women don't lie. What?
Of course some women lie. However, they aren't socialized to lie. Usually they are coming from a relational reality (the perspective where there is honesty, rules, and people have value). When someone is in an addiction, they operate in object reality (where there are no rules, people don't have value, and believe there are no consequences) and for someone who's in normal relational reality, they can't understand this.
Who do u think taught my son porn sites…. The wife or the husband? And funny my son never got in half of trouble as he did forgetting to turn in a homework assignment. Crazy f-ing man. Anything happens outside of porn sites, “me, the wife must’ve taught things to my son” yet 90% of the time my son is away from me.
What about women who lie? It's not always a man's problem.
Many principles I speak on and write about can be applied to either gender.
This was an interview about a book written specifically for women and the person asking the question was a woman. ;)
I find it funny that this host of a Christian TV station talks about therapy, marriage counseling when he's as guilty as sin. He screwed his marriage up. But now let's talk about other people. What a hypocrite
Maybe they are trying to help people because they got help themselves. Yes, they could discuss their situation and may already have.
Everyone deserves forgiveness. God can use anyone at any stage.