7 Signs Men Give Before They Cheat (& Most Women Miss) | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs
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If you've ever been cheated on, it’s never your fault. It’s ALWAYS the fault of the cheater.
But if your man is even thinking about cheating, there are some tell-tale signs you can see in advance.
Today, we are talking about those so you can recognize them and know exactly what to do about it.
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Great advice. Your channel is very educational. Thank you so much for your inteligent advice. God bless you and keep you always sincerely Trinity Star ❤️
I know a guy who enjoys "stealing" women from other men. I wonder if that means he will easily cheat in a relationship?
Why is it always about the man cheating what about the woman???
Just want to say that shirt fits you terribly. Your not a big man but it looks like your bulging out of it 🤷🏼♀️.
One night my boyfriend went to get the casino then I have to find out later about it then he acted weird on me that night when I did see him and I had a feeling maybe he cheated. He turned it around and said you were in a bad mood. That's why I didn't wanna talk to you and that's not him and he's always volunteering about his past relationships and I have had a struggle being with him. I care about him and love him but how much more I can take I need help get some advice about what I need to do
My mother told me when I was a young girl: “If a man ever tells you he is not good or good enough for you… believe him”.
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My ex husband used to say that all the time!! I kept reassuring him that I didn’t feel that way at all…. He left me( abandoned me & our 5 children) after 20 yrs of marriage… I should have realized what he was saying… I think he had low self esteem & this made him look for something/someone more his( level) type…
This is true because my ex husband said this to me many times.
@@wasilaibrahim6302 SCAM!
My father told me that if he cheated on someone to be with you then he will cheat on you to be with someone else.
Wise man.
So true
I heard my grandfather tell my mother this when I was a little girl
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This guy I saw was so sweet. But had a wife. He cared enough about my feelings that he told me he never meant to hurt me and then said he's no longer going to be the bad guy. I thought that was good he realized he needed help. He treated me like I was his wife. Told me that his dad abused him and told his friend about me. He also called me over 50 times from an unknown number lol trying to talk but I never was available. Now that I'm available I don't get a phone call from him but ive messaged him on Facebook and he never blocked me.
If he cheats while you're dating you'd best believe he'll cheat if you marry him. RUN!
Mine did just that. I was so stupid not to leave him that first year we dated. Waited 15 years. Ugh.
@@bonnie3063forgive yourself
@@bonnie3063So sorry that u had to experience that. Hope u are doing okay
This video is spot on. It is exact. Also, porn addiction. Like 4 plus hours of porn a day addiction.
Oh I thought you meant if he cheated on his current partner while dating you - and you not knowing.
But you meant if he cheated on you while dating YOU.
Gosh this is true! If he cheated on you while he’s dating you, you best believe he will cheat on you while you’re married to him.
Fuck that hit me hard as I got cheated on while he was dating me. Fucking bastard
#7. TRUST YOUR INTUITION. You're not paranoid, you're not crazy, you're not going nuts. Your intuition is there for a reason, it is a still small voice given to you by a higher power GOD and is there for a reason. 💯💯💯 sooo true
This intuition is your biggest and surest sign. Do not ignore your inner voice.
Thank you I needed this❤
Eh be careful, if you listen to much to friends you could be fishing. Silence outside voices and listen to the still small voice. Then you can be sure
Intuition, huh? No such thing, women’s intuition is merely jumping to conclusions. If it wasn’t it would tell you when you’re falling short not just your partner. The former is kind of narcissistic
That's right. If something feels off, it is.
My mother always tells me" THE WAY HE TREATS YOU IS HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU!!"
So for instance if he calls me the name of a street walker that's how he feels about me?? Lol
Probably
@@angelicadjuric6389 oh well his loss not mine 😂😂😂🤷♀️
Ouch.😢
Sadly from experience,….cheaters can also, suddenly and/or unusually, start to shower you with gifts, flowers, promises of things they know you love eg. “Next weekend we’ll do ABC etc, but this weekend I have to do XYZ”…of course ABC never comes. This is probably to ease their own guilt and give the impression to the world outside your relationship, that they are the good guy. I reckon they do this as they know or suspect that you will be confiding in your friends or family, and they want to do everything they can to gaslight those around you. I was gaslit for years and the gift giving was showy, so my own family, friends and work colleagues all doubted me when I said I thought he was cheating and they even supported him…until he was caught red handed. Perhaps this type of cheater is also narcissistic, sociopathic, psychopathic or has some other form of anti-social behavior…whatever it is, it’s a living nightmare as you do begin to seriously doubt yourself, thinking that you’re going crazy and you also have nowhere to turn…
I always tell my daughter “YOU will never lie to YOU. Always trust your intuition!”
Good way to put this.
i lied to myself all my life, ignoring red flags and deceitful behavior. learning to trust your intuition isn’t a given when raised by an abusive parent (and then marrying abuse).
it’s so good you are teaching your daughter now, bless you both. ❤
Not true. People will doubt themselves, especially if it's something they don't want to be true. It's natural. And then there are also the people who lie and end up believing their own lies. That's not natural, but it also happens.
@@Alpinewild444 thank you for that. I wondered why I never listen to myself
@@melissajohnson1303 I hope you will now Melissa❤️I’ll pray for you☺️if you don’t mind, God Bless.
My ex husband’s behavior was everything you mentioned when he was cheating. The fights, he complained about this that and everything, I fixed everything he complained about so he wouldn’t come home angry, but he’d find something else to complain about. When I questioned him, he flipped it and would try to make me think I was crazy. But deep inside I knew he was cheating but had no proof. Best gift he gave me was the gift of goodbye when he walked away and left me for another woman. I was free !!
I would love to be free
It's painful to we women
i feel so bad to read all this.. but you tried your level best.. its more important to be in a peaceful state then to live a toxic life
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Let’s define cheating. My husband has made a very special sex-less friendship with a female college in the office. Anything she has desired we had to do. Lunch, dinner, holidays always with her. I was there only to serve my husband as a third person. I think emotional cheating is as bad as sex cheating, so I’ve left.
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I agree with you on the emotional cheating. I’m sorry you went through that, Bookmark Monaco.
@@almostheavenhomestead1680
Right???
@@louizsmith1386
No thanks.
1,000% My ex doesn't understand this. He became friendly with a bartender at a local dive bar whom he left me for. Mind you I'm an executive and make 6 figures so jokes on him.
If someone cheats get rid of them. There is no excuse. Anyone who cheats on you in their core doesn't respect you.
@@Christina.BassfordThey're the loser
It's all about expectations. I don't assume monogamy from any of my partners, thus I never feel cheated. I could never imagine a life with only one partner. That boggles my mind.
@Das Güs The decent thing to do when you have that philosophy is to let your partners know right from the start so that they know what to expect, so that they have a choice, to accept you as you are or move on.
There is nothing more heartbreaking than betrayal, lies deceit, and go around pretending to be something (faithful, honest, trustworthy, etc.) that you are not and can't ever be.
@Moon Shadows Don't feel like a loser, it always shows eventually who the real loser is. Sit back and watch the scenery.
If they do it once, they will it again.
I don't want to go through any of that anymore. I'm single, and I don't miss all that toxity a man can bring to my life.
Amen to that. These dudes just ruin, destroy, and take. Until men can be accountable, empathetic and emotionally aware, women are going to continue to disregard them.
Yes!!!!@@theaslynn2783
We've allowed it. I gave up eventually.
They also can bring a lot of joy & happiness
Don't miss out on someone good for ❤
Amen. I’m looking at videos like this because a man I fell for not only rejected me, but humiliated me in front of strangers who now think I was the one chasing him when in fact, he was the one attracted to me and he told me so, but then he kept me hanging for awhile until today.
My pride is so wounded because he was cruel to have exposed my feelings for him to other women who have probably already spread the gossip.
Past trauma can make you an overthinker and can make you confused with your intuition😢
Another sign: he shows a sudden interest in his appearance, clothing, and physique that he wasn’t showing before but doesn’t want to talk about it
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Yes this one is a dead give away. When they start doing sit ups.
Ha ha yes very obvious by the way!!
1. He picks unnecessary fights with you.
2. He’s really sketchy with his phone.
3. You’re not having sex anymore.
4. He tries to gaslight you.
5. He’s vague and mysterious about his time away from you.
6. He tells you about cheating on past girlfriends.
7. Your intuition tells you something is off.
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Thank you for this list
#7should be first
#8- They accuse you of cheating on them. Deflecting what he is actually doing onto you.
actually it is called PROJECTION. if he or she is deflecting then it is because he or she is trying to divert your attention from what you think he might be doing. projection however is accusatory and when they SUSPECT you of cheating and you are not but it's them so they imagine it. they project onto others what they do themselves. unfortunately, my family is like this. the same with a thief or someone who is a traitor, they think everyone is out to do it to them. it is their GUILTY CONSCIENCE.
True
8:47 @@JustMe-uu3bh
My mind recognized the signs but my heart ignored it😢
Yes
Ditto!
All of this is 100% accurate. Just found out my husband of 6 years is having an affair. All the signs were there for months, but I didn’t want it to be true. I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt. The only reason he confessed is because she’s now 3 months pregnant. Getting ready to file for divorce. My kids and I deserve better ❤
Im sorry, that happened to you and there's a baby involved 😔.
I feel your pain and wish you and the kids the best.
How are your kids handling it?
@Deep Blue Water i agree, take all the money.
So sorry but u hv made th right choice..th bible says wen one is unfaithful u can leave
I found out my boyfriend of 4 years is cheating on me right now. Sings were all there. We deserve better 😐
I read an interesting quote the other day, it said, "sometimes you have to leave the one you love for someone who loves you."
Sooooooo true
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Contact him .
A friend of mine father tried to school us when we were young but we were to young in the head to understand he said " you want a husband that loves you more" its not that your love for him is less, but when loves you he will do anything for you to keep you safe and happy.
@@honeylove7678 My mother always said that your partner needs to love you more than you love him.
What's that mean to you ??
I've been cheated on multiple time by my husband. The last time has turned me into a horrible person that I dont want to be. I'm angry. Frustrated hurt so much I just feel like I'm not good enough. Scared to open up again. It's soul destroying
It's okay but I believe you are an amazing person. Believe me you will have a great life ahead. Have faith on urself.
Leave please.
Im sorry as he sounds Narcissistic
Are you still with him? If yes, please both of you go to couples therapy or if you are not happy and depressed it’s not good for you and him, best thing you can do is to leave him 😢pray about it
did you ever hear about how we are here to change ourselves and not others? did you know that we can't change others - they have to want to change or it won't happen? so all we can do is change ourselves and then our life changes. I know it sounds trite or stupid right now maybe but.......our thoughts really are drawing conditions to us. so I would kindly suggest to you to start looking at how you are feeling and by this I mean, start writing out how you feel. all of it. keep writing until it's all out on the paper in front of you. then look at what it is telling you about YOU. what are your beliefs? how is this familiar to you? that is how we begin. I have had to do this and still do this, everyday. it helps us to see what we are creating. we have to become our own best friend first and how we can begin this is by being willing to listen to ourselves and to how we feel. if we do not think we are worth listening to, how can we expect others to think that we are? it begins with us. God bless you. we are here to spiritually awaken...
The 3rd sign… “no sex” was actually the opposite for my ex and I. All of a sudden he wanted to have sex daily. And here I thought we were going into a new love phase of our marriage (10 years) where he had so much passion. But what was happening was that he was barely in the emotional cheating phase for him. I hate that he was thinking of her when he was intimidate with me
Happened to me with someone I was with that had a sex/porn addiction. The more unfaithful he was, the more he was interested in sex with me. Probably reenacting and fantasizing about the stuff he was doing outside of the relationship.
Exactly, I had a boyfriend who did the same . We were together for 4 years and treated me as a queen but when he got a motorcycle accident and was in the hospital searching fur she paperwork in his garage everything came to the light he had a wife and more than 10 lovers over these 4 years! I would've never believed if it didn't happen to me. He had 4 phones hidden in his work trucks. 😢
My ex of 25 years brought home chlamydia then blamed it on me.
Been there. A stand in Sally. I dont think my husband had sex with me after 1 year. Always thinking of someone else when screwing me
Trust is a dangerous game, with me i really don't trust any men because i know what it is, I'm actually 7yrs separate at the moment because of trust 😅
I am so big with intuition. I remember telling my ex husband I know you are cheating. I am not asking you, I am telling you. So confess and I will forgive you. He confessed to meeting someone new, I felt the shift in the atmosphere. I could have pinpoint exactly when they met without needing any clue. We women are so intuitive.
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Dame thing happened to me
I'm the same way... I'm a Type 1 in the Enneagram...
I felt it but didn't trust my feelings. At the end I caught him red handed. I will always trust my intuition going forward
So true
I am now 75. I want to tell you, you are spot-on with all 7 signs. Women take note.
What’s that ?
Thanks for the sage advice, Dorothy. :)
I have a book I take notes In 😊
I was dumped at 57 after 36 yrs. Every one of the signs, except #6, were clear as a bell. Thankfully, I didn't drag out filing for divorce or the gaslighting would have been longer.
That’s exactly what I wanted to say, except I’m younger. Three of my four partners have cheated on me and behaved exactly as described in the video, I questioned each of them, asking are you cheating on me. They all lied.
I always say to my friends do not compromise when entering into marriage. This is the time to be really picky about character so you don’t suffer in the future.
I hate to say it.... one common red flag for me was when they would bring me flowers or a gift for no reason. I had 3 different exes who would do that after they had been talking or doing something inappropriate with another woman. It was out of guilt. It went along with other red flags, though. Unfortunately, it gives me anxiety now when a man that I'm dating randomly brings me flowers/gifts when it's not a special occasion.🙃
Terrible advice you just gave.
You are probably one of those terrible female advice givers that sabotages other peoples relationships. When I’d notice my wife feeling down I’d buy her flowers and that made her more angry.
Thanks for destroying my marriage. I didn’t buy her flowers because of another woman, I bought them cuz I loved my wife and wanted to surprise her with flowers out of the blue.
Females give terrible advice to one another.
Had that too
Oh my god I literally went through the same situation and now sometimes my boyfriend will randomly text me how much he loves me and appreciates me and I instantly have that suspicious feeling.
We know something isn't right beforehand. Red flags, we ignore them. Then we say 'I knew it!' Intuition is a gift that we don't trust.
Intuition is like a superhero that always saves the day, except we always forget to call it into action. Time to suit up and trust our instincts, ladies!
My dad told me long ago to always trust my intuition it will never lie to me.
That right now haven't seen him do me and lead on
This is very true!! I remember I would write things down .. don't forget that feeling you have in your stomach intuition!!
Why is that?!
One sign of infidelity is when your partners starts to use words they’ve never ever used before. 90% of the time, it’s words they’ve recently learned or started using with the women or woman they’re cheating with.
So true!!!
Words and opinions. Plus absolute coldness.
YES!
Or orders a dish they used to hate bcs she convinced him to try it and now it's his fav.
Holy cow I didn't even think about that until you said it. True ❤️
My mother always told me, " the more you do for a man, the more they expect, and they will take you for granted!" Soo, I lived by that advice, and my husband of 35 years, treats me like a queen. He's advice is, "a happy wife is a happy life."
I am experiencing all of this after 26 years of marriage and is it very painful 😢😢😢
Praying for you to heal. Just happened to me at 53 years of marriage!
What about porn? He's addicted to porn.... I feel like that's cheating.
I can't imagine 26 years. I am going through it after one year and it really has me down. There's something better out there for you, Keep your head up.
show him what’s means cheating… Do same front of him
This was so painful for me to watch because I found out 3 yrs ago that my husband had been cheating on me for 5+ years of our 27 yr marriage. He's been out of my life since and my biggest take away from therapy is that I should have no shame or guilt over that - that is totally on him and Matt is 100% spot on! Cheaters think they are running towards something better.. but in essence, they are always running AWAY from something they are too weak to face.
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Great comment
Wishing you all the best for the rest of your life! ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Other signs:
1. Projecting- Starts suspecting or thinking that you're cheating
2. A sudden interest in new hobbies or improving their appearance/wardrobe
3. Becoming uninterested in activities you used to enjoy together
4. The opposite of picking unnecessary fights...they don't fight with you at all because they've stopped caring
Yes uninterested in our hobbies and inner jokes we did together..
Yes so true. Getting interested in their looks when previously they dint care about the way they looked. And getting new habits which apparently looks very normal
Yup he's cheating. We've been married 14 yrs😢⚡💔🖤
My ex told me, "Don't fall in love with me, I'll only break your heart." Yup, he was right, and I should have listened instead of thinking it was a challenge. Yes, he did cheat- when I was 6 months pregnant.
He started taking on the phone in closet.
He developed a much shorter fuse and would storm out.
Didn't spend time with the children(stopped going to activities)
Would nolonger share duties caring for the children
Demanded I do all of the yard work.
Would nolonger take calls from me at his work.
Started smoking and drank more.
Was very angry when I lost weight and got into shape.
Didn't notice new hair cut or clothing.
Fantastic points. My husband and I were married 12 years yesterday. He is the first man I've been with that I trust with all of my heart. I've been cheated on, and you, Sir, are on point. Know your worth ladies and gentlemen. Trust your gut!
He always accused me of cheating. I got tired of the accusations . I cheated on him.
All these sign’s are true! My father told me, a man knows right away if you’re the one. It doesn’t take months or year’s. Don’t allow these men to string you along ladies!!!
married after 3 months 49 years married
Noticed all the signs mentioned in my current situationship. Taking the necessary step to leave.
You defined my ex perfectly. Insulting infront of everyone, hiding his phone, staring at other women continuously, fighting over small thing, always blaming me even for his mistake, trynna look good but not willing to spend time with me, 5 yrs of relationship but 4 yrs in it, I spent everyday crying for him. Now when I look back I just wanna punch myself for letting him treat me that way.
Don't be hard on yourself sis, many of us stayed at the table too long. When you know better you do better. And better late than NEVER.
@@breukelynbee77 yeah I stayed for too long thinking I may not be able to live without him not knowing I was dying every single day. But I am out of that trauma now and m way more than happy. Thank you❤️
@@kiranshrestha8820 Good for you, me too! Blessings!
(Staring at women continuously) I'm glad u were able to get away!!
That u describing narcissistic patterns
“The quality of our life is directly determined by the number of uncomfortable conversations we’re willing to have” 🤩 🤯 😍
I was spending some time with this guy. We weren't in a relationship but he was sending so many red flags. It's actually really easy to spot a cheater before you even have a relationship with them.
Nothing worse in a relationship than a man who prefers to lie instead of telling the truth; even about little things.
If he lies about little things then you know he is going to lie about big things..
If your intuition tells you to end the relationship then follow you’re intuitive and save yourself a lot of time and heartache because he is no good.
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I’m there right now…he would have been so perfect I thought…but catching him lying over and over again about stupid little things…it’s so off..and the fact that he ghosted me 3 times for months at a time …and then suddenly appear like nothing ever happened? Now he can’t understand why he can’t get why I haven’t still gone to bed with him and become his girlfriend!? Big mystery for him to solve…
Damn
Sometimes they think they have to lie because they can't face it. They love you so much. It's a temporary solution but then things can continue on for a while....
I think the largest red flag for me in the past has been my ex husband caring more than usual about how he looks and him not wanting to spend time with me.
Really sad... Hugs 🤗 dear.
Take it easy ❣️
BINGO!
My ex suddenly started going to the gym.
@@50pinkies67 my nusband wanted to have his gray hair died
Mine had 3 plastic surgeries! Boy, was I dumb.
I am seventy years old ! No more for me !!! Hi
This is all true !!! Gut feeling trust only that 😢😢
Any sudden and unexplained change can be a sign.
When they accuse you of cheating, when they say you’re too good for them, when they lose interest but want to own you, and the list goes on. One thing I’ve learned is to love yourself enough to leave anyone that isn’t willing to SHOW you love and respect. Words mean nothing. Just remember to always keep yourself free from people who are intent on breaking you or bringing you down.
Waaaay too late😢
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I felt something was off. Surprised him and realized he moved me out of my own house. The house is in my name. So I evicted him. He tried coming back saying my house was his. I said my house is left to me by my family. We aren't married and your still married to your wife Even though you are separated.
@@SWForce Wow that took stones (his part)!
Completely agree
I remember my ex of 5 years screaming at me for something that just infuriated him. It was something so small. I asked him “who are you cheating on me with?” 9:32 he just looked at me like how the hell does she know? The yelling and screaming just became constant. That's how I knew.
Same happened to me, but I had a name. He DENIED it and left me for her a week later. He had to have some drama as the tell-tell but I didn't fight back so it was one sided drama. HIS. (He wanted to blame me so he didn't look like the bad guy)
Here's the double barrel hit. Those who accuse someone of cheating might often themselves be trying to deflect their own cheating be that mental, flirting, emotional, physical, sexting etc
@@Martyn_Wolf exactly
The gaslighting!!! That is infuriating once you know.
I got yelled at when I dyed my hair the wrong colour, when I turned up to his place for a date in the wrong clothes, when I spent "too much time on my phone". I was only on it whilst he was in the shower or playing on his computer IGNORING ME. Then I found the messages with the other girl complaining about me. 😑 I should've left that day, wish I hadn't continued it. Of course he was sneaking around behind my back and his own mother was lying to my face to cover for him. His friends were serial cheaters. Most important piece of advice I have is always remember that birds of a feather flock together.
Thank you so much for sharing these items in this video. My ex-husband of 24 years did many of these things before I divorced him. He used anger to silence me and then he would use the silent treatment when he was trying to get me to do what he wanted me to do. Now this was a long time ago, but there are women and men that are going through this right now, and I just wanted to point out what you said in this video is so so true.
I love how every little sing is actually an advise to communicate more about problems with your partner. Because after all, that is the key of a good relationship.
My ex went from doing everything with me to literally never wanting to be around me. He was busy or stressed. Cheats are basically cowards.
The same scenario occurred in my life. 20 years after marriage. I was flabbergasted, gaslighted, got sleazily manipulated into signing home titleship papers, and now I am really pissed off, got ripped off by my lawyer, hard to forgive and forget, got molested by another man, was left homeless in a foreign country....all doors shut!!!!!! Long story!!!!!! Lost my mom. Humiliated and insulted by friends and family members.
They use the *busy 🐝* part as an excuse not to communicate and resolve issues.
Well ask yourself what were you doing that he didnt want to be around you? Were you too clingy? moody? disagreeable? were you kind ? were you not giving sex ?
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AMEN. My ex cheated on me and what did he do? Avoid my calls for a week. I had to send a friend to track him down before he would admit he no longer wanted to be together anymore.
One thing that would break up my marriage for sure is if I found out my husband cheated. Because I grewup with a dad that cheated throughout his marriage to my mom. She was a great wife and always faithful. Stayed with him til the day she died. Watching that made me to hate cheating. I also hate to see others being cheated on. I have 0 tolerance for that kind of behavior!
It's totally unacceptable.
Sad for your mom that she never got what she deserved.
Me and you makes one your story is mine though ilove my parents but watching my dad literally cheat on mum ijust can't tolerate it it's like a trauma and despite all that my mum still stands strong for her marriage
I told my husband that the only reason I would divorce him was for abuse. No way I’m destroying my childrens’ home just because he’s cheating.
just get rid of cheated amd betrayal man..kick him out bcos he is useless and not to give him chances let him crawl in the old days to.look for his children
You just explained my entire last relationship. That's why I've been single for the last almost 4 years.
Me too…so much damage to my self worth…I’m getting better, he took too much from me already! Not getting anymore of my headspace 😢
Yep, all boxes checked! Plus my ex used to constantly accuse me of cheating on him going so far as bugging the home phone (this was the nineties), and asking the neighbors to watch me after telling them a doozy of a story about me.
It turned out that he was the one cheating on me with multiple women. By the time my step kids and I found out the truth, I didn't care about him anymore, it was done!
My little granddaughter has been taught by her mother to trust her intuition so much that she says “my ‘TUITION’ is never wrong”. I hope it carries her through in life!
Omg that’s so adorable!!!❤ I gotta teach my little ones 💕😂😭
Well hopefully you're paying her "tuition" so she gains some intuition soon!😆 Kids are the greatest!😆
That is too cute but a very good thing to teach her at a young age I wish I would have been taught that it would have saved me a few heartaches over the years
It will it's meant to
Yeah he blame my intuiton 🤣🤣🤣 that never lie
In my marriage the sex dried up not from infidelity but diabetes. Erectile dysfunction lol. We’ve been married for 46 years half of that without having sex. I do miss it but our marriage is more important to us, and we are so happy going into our retirement years. Sex isn’t everything….love for one another is.❤️❤️❤️
Life isn't all about Sex. It will come a time when someone just can not perform anymore. Come on, the companionship is my main focus to get into the Golden Years. I wasn't enjoying my sex but he just wanted it all the time. He just told me he was very selfish so I will go w that but it's my fault as I just can't keep up w him as my Libido was always nil. Men just wants it all the time no matter what.
That's because HE is the one unable to perform. Had the shoe been on the other foot...
But had it been in reverse and you were the reason for not having sex all these years your man would of not been as understanding as you.
@@molahi5779 exactly, i doubt he would have stayed faithful to her
Ur coment has nothing to do with what this person is talking bout ,
Point number 1 is by far the most accurate one that I have experienced.
Thank you Matt! My ex husband was talking about his new workmate so overly enthusiastic that I knew it right away 🤷🏻♀️
At home with 2 little kids (1 and 2 yr) I had no chance to compete with "Superwoman" 🤦🏻♀️ but we didn't have the funds for a fast divorce. So we managed to stay another couple of years before we had a good divorce (kids were older, too). A marriage might end - parenthood doesn't. So it's good if "the adults" give their best to keep the feet on the ground and avoid harmfull wars. (She got dumped after a few weeks btw 😉).
I’ve been cheated on by a few different men in the past. They all told on themselves by talking about that particular person that they are cheating on me with. It sounded, to them, like a casual conversation. But, when they keep mentioning her name in different conversations, that’s a red flag!
Totally!
Oh yes. My bf told me he was going to do a recreational thing on Monday nights and when he’d coming home he kept bringing up, “there was this girl”. And then he’d just stop talking and change the subject. What idiots they can be.
So true
Interesting to know. Good information to have on hand just in case! Thsnks
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a great man who brought us back together
We were married for 14 years of which he never bothered to lock his phone. Then suddenly after 12 years of marriage, he puts a PIN on his phone! I knew right away something was going on. I never in all the years we were married looked through his phone but just the thought that he didn’t trust me any longer meant so much. And I was right.
Fully agree! 100 % spot on, based on my own painful experience with this. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Much appreciated.
This is why I gave up on dating and men in general. I don't have time to worry about whether or not my man is emotionally able to handle a relationship like a grown up.
Same here! I've been cheated on twice & don't ever want to experience it again!
Unfortunately you are cheating yourself of a lifetime of love…there is someone out there for everyone ❤ Try another country for Love if you haven’t found it here 😊
@@shelley6746 Why do you assume that I have no love in my life? I have plenty of love surrounding me. I'm not lonely or unloved
Honestly I’m so tired of men 😅 I know it’s “not all men”. But wtf. It’s majority, and with being dishonest, and if not full on cheating, then at least walking up as close as possible to that line. It’s like they cannot tell the truth about anything either. 🙄
@@annettewilliams748 yes ma’am 👏 i’ve come to terms with this. I’m focusing on the love i already have around me that i know is unconditional. Why waste time on someone who doesn’t know how to be emotionally mature.
I was always told, when a man starts accusing you of infidelity, he is probably unfaithful. And, I experienced it in real life.
The efficiency of this Dale Valskov is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To make a dense taccess like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work jack!!
That feeling when your partner cheated and you dont have the courage to leave him or her so you just dealt with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one-- living and seeing his chats everyd
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What I noticed before my husband cheated was an increase in absent mindedness.
He was so distracted that he kept misplacing his things.
He became more arrogant. More full of himself.
He became very disinterested in “our” conversations and would walk away in the middle of my answer to his question!
He became more self centered.
More critical of me and our daughter.
More demanding.
More entitled.
More victimized.
More misunderstood.
Increased usage of electronic devices.
Less eye contact.
Of course, more secretive.
More controlling of money.
More defensive.
More aggressive.
Treated us like his enemies.
More angry, more bullying and talking over us and refusing to listen.
More avoidant than usual.
More “in his head”.
More passive aggressive.
Talked more about his achievements and how great he was.
Started using emoji’s in his texts that he didn’t seem to know before.
He became a stranger that I didn’t know.
Whats@app him now^_^^_^^_^.
i am going through it now with all of that....ALL. This is not his first time cheating but he wanna to try and fix things and so did I, but after a month and a half of trying(without therapy) I am not sure our marriage of 29 yrs can be save. He is not putting any effort and zero communication on his part. I had several of those conversations with him, but he shuts me out, doesn't give me a straight answer, is like "who are you". I recently lost my mother 5 weeks ago and he hasn't been very supportive of that either. I am trying so hard to save my marriage because i really love, he was a very different man then but he has change so much that I wonder if is really worth it....I am in limbo and feel so alone
YES. THIS.🎯
@@AliciaGarcia-hj9ms You are not alone. Don't believe him when he says he wants to "fix things" because he won't. He wants you to fix things on your end so that he will feel entitle to guide you to a solution that will allow him to be in control of your emotions, your life and your time. He's serving you with "conditional love and relationship" on a silver platter. Don't believe him. If this is the 2nd or even 3rd time in your marriage, walk away. I know. I've been there. Just remember: you're stronger than you think you are, smarter than he believes you are and nicer than he deserves. If a separation doesn't "fix" things, divorce is in your future and believe me, you'll discover that you are a woman worth knowing, worth loving and worth treasuring. If he gives you this one-liner: My dad had lots of female friends when he was married, why shouldn't I? - run out the door! The cheating is ingrained and can't be fixed by you and takes years of therapy to change.
Getting psychological help on your end will save your mind, gut and emotional stability. If he's anything like my former husband, he'll refuse therapy saying that there's nothing wrong with him or he'll say: I don't need therapy but I can help you instead of spending all that money. If he accepts couple or marriage counseling with you here are signs he's not willing to change or commit to your marriage or to deepen your relationship:
- talks about his work for 45 minutes of the 1 hour appointment;
- finds any excuse to not attend the session and has you go alone;
- gets conveniently held up at work or sick;
- always has an excuse to not do the exercises the therapist recommends you do as a couple or individually;
- continues to gaslight or start taking your things (in my case it was a watch) and moving them around the house then tells you he never touched it;
- offers you a class so that you don't have to pay for the therapist and insists the class will change you so that he can love you better.
If he does any of those, it's time to say goodbye. And, realize that though your children will be upset about the split and possible divorce, they won't be surprised!
@@AliciaGarcia-hj9ms Alicia, he's not even there for you when you've lost your mother? Sigh. I know you feel emotionally drained, defeated trying for someone who used to be there for you and is now not available. You're mourning, grieving for the relationship you once had. Because it's gone. He hurt you Alicia more than once and that's too much heartache especially with him not making any effort. If he's not communicating and shuts you out then it'll make you feel even worse each day you're trying and not receiving any signs of him understanding you. I'm sorry he's being this way and has hurt you before too, but you can stop the cycle of his abuse by not tolerating it anymore! You're hurt and in so much pain because he crossed so many lines that he shouldn't have! There are boundaries we should never cross or else the trust, respect and friendship becomes broken. This guy doesn't respect you. If he cared enough he'd wipe your tears, cherish you and try to salvage what's left of your relationship before you don't want to talk to him or ever see him again. One day you'll just wake up and it'll be enough for you. You'll have had enough of his nonsense, his immaturity, his insensitivity, his lack of appreciation and kindness to you and your needs. You'll realize that you haven't cried as much and that you don't care if he tried calling you or that he didn't come over. Don't let him use you as his net whenever things don't work out with some side chic! Girl, don't let him mistreat you like that! Come on! You're better than that! Take a deep breath, stand up tall, take care of yourself as best as you can and try to rest. I know it's hard to not be consumed with what he's doing away from you, to you, and what he's not doing enough of, but if he's not caring or being supportive of you f*** him and treat yourself right for you-- use that time on yourself to lift your spirits go pamper yourself, get organized, keep yourself busy with getting yourself in check. Streamline your life. Go wash your tears, take a nice bath, do something nice for yourself and tell yourself you deserve peace in your life not chaos and toxic people frustrating you, making you confused and hurt all the time. You're constantly spinning in thoughts aren't you? Stop his abuse towards you Alicia. You can do it. Put your foot down and say enough is enough. We long for what we had, but those guys are not who we used to know. They've made awful decisions, one too many mistakes that have changed us as well. They don't want to hear us hurting. They run out the door because they're too weak to face reality and the consequences of their actions. The only way is communication, consistency, patience and time. Through that is understanding, reassurance and mending of trust but only if they are willing to and actually stop the abusive behavior not continue it over and over. And if they do, they're not worthy of you Alicia. You've stayed, you've pushed yourself to do the impossible even in pain (I can see you catering to him, cooking, cleaning, doing his laundry, making his lunches, still remembering anniversaries even after he's hurt you and hasn't helped with the amount of healing your heart still yearns to feel) and I can see you struggling with every "I'll be back" not knowing if he will and who he will be this time if he even comes home-- a nicer person who actually reflected on his actions and wants to make amends or an angrier, more aggressive person who can't look you in the face and just wants to fight so you could be scared to go talk to him. I can see you not fight with him when he comes home cuz you've gone through so much that your heart feels so bruised already, you need a break from all of it, and you're just glad he's home even if he didn't acknowledge you and just went to sleep... but after a few hours you're still left with the thoughts of him being out with someone else and all those doubts or what you find on a receipt or see on his phone lighting up has your gut instinct confirmed. You even know he cheated. There's no guessing or wondering if he did. And it's not his first time?! Alicia please open your eyes. Don't allow this madness to keep happening to you. Time is precious and we need to use it wisely! We can't get decades of our lives back. You have the opportunity to start a new life without this mess he's not helping you fix. Don't lose anymore time. He's had 29 years to figure things out and still doesn't give you straight answers. If you have children with him, I totally understand why you're trying to be the rock, the one who keeps the family together, but once you're finally happy, your kids will say "mom, why didn't you leave dad sooner?" They feel this too, and want what's best for you. If you're a happier mom you'll be more present in their lives and feel the weight off you! No more playing with your kids with a heavy heart! None of him making no sense or his dumb actions weighing you down anymore! You can actually focus on that movie or your chores and hobbies without thoughts and triggers constantly evading your mind or checking to see if he's called or coming home. No more waiting for him to come home Alicia. You deserve happiness and love not feelings of loneliness, trauma, confusion and fear with someone in your life! Tell yourself right now that you deserve joy! It's ok to express sadness because of what he's done but slowly and surely when you refuse to feel this way anymore you will realize he's not worth the aggravation and stop wasting your time with someone who's selfish and self-centered. He comes off as someone who doesn't have a conscience, no guilt, no remorse. Why put up with that?! Don't. He has rules for himself and different ones for you I'm sure. I'm so sorry for your loss😔🥺😢 Please take care of yourself and your heart and don't put up with his BS any longer. If he's not there for you at a time like this you will resent him for it as well. I know you have a forgiving heart but you need your sanity too. You need to let him go especially if he isn't willing to see his faults, doesn't sincerely apologize and refuses to change his bad behavior!!!
I noticed ALL 7 signs in my husband, but every single time, but when I'd ask him, he'd deny it N make me feel like I was going crazy.
Typical behaviour. You are the guilty one!
Gaslighting.
We were married 24 years. He replaced me with a 23 year old. They are married 7 years now with twins. I’m alone. He had 6 out of 7 signs. Nice guy 🙄
Ditto
If you've gotta ask, you already know. I've been married for 35 years, my hubby leaves a trail of evidence everywhere he goes 🙄 and not once have I suspected or asked him about infidelity.
Why everything you said makes sense after a heartbreak.
Well wisdom is in not repeating the mistakes. Every point noted.
Yours and Irene reference really helped me have a vision of healthy love life. A guy sketchy with his phone is the biggest red flag.
Patty-I thank you for this. I called I guy out on his constant talking about a particular woman who was a member of our social group. His reaction was so exaggerated that you would think he really was fooling around with her. Then he called me jealous and insecure. This was my first real relationship with a man. Eventually, we broke up permanently after I called him out on everything I felt was wrong between us. I've never regretted that conversation. It was liberating.
If they are having an affair with someone they work with, they will talk to you about this person. They may even talk badly about them to you, so you are less likely to suspect that person
Omg you’re right.
I know for a fact that this is true. If your man is constantly mentioning another woman, that’s a sign.
Yes this happened to me. Then he retired but was still talking to her. The more they talked I started feeling suspicious. Then he left his phone at home. It kept ringing so when I answered it was our son, he'd recently changed his phone number. So curiosity got the best of me and I found their text message exchange. That's when I found out his plans to divorce me in the spring. Of course he only heard the word affair and I had to inform him that it doesn't always mean sex. Now he's planning to move out. Before any of this I really had no clue besides the excessive phone calls. I'm a little strange, when he doesn't answer my questions I go to the other person for answers. At this point it is what it is- after 28 years of marriage, I don't even think it's worth trying to save. Right now my main focus is my health and preparing for radiation. When I get silent and stop trying to reason (reason not beg) it's out of my hands. Just waiting to see how it all plays out.
Yes, 100%
This is soo true. He did the same.
My ex husband cheated. These 7 tips, I totally can relate to. What made me take notice is that although he didn't stop having intimate relations, he wouldn't sleep in the same bed. He would sleep on the couch, and sometimes during our intimate times, he would be so unloving and try to convince me to do something that I wasn't comfortable with. Then when I would stand my ground, he would blame me for the fight and storm off. I would always be left feeling terrible... but that's another topic for another day ( Hint ladies; narcissists cheat.)
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Whatzapp him now...
Yes very familiar to my ex boyfriend and i think he was and is a Narcissist.
I'm so sorry you were treated with such disregard. It gets better 😥
@Rasiduo Sule 🙄
Thank you so much for highlighting this for me
This is so true also another thing they will do is say they are at someone's house and they are not.
The insult is also one of the signs. My ex-husband was insulting me in front of anyone family/friends and even in front of my daughter. Name calling was his favorite thing. he was picking on me the way I dressed or walked. All of a sudden, my cooking was not good. I ended up raising 2 kids by myself, and my son has autism. The sad part is that not only did he cheated but also he abandoned his children. After my marriage ended, I never trusted any man.
I'm in the same boat as you. Our son is severely handicapped but our daughter is so bright. He rarely visits our son, as if he doesn't exist. POS.
I learned to trust all men. I trust them all to cheat. I feel so much better these days
I hear you
I agree 110% with the woman, who said she learned a great lesson, my partner told me on meeting him that he is a cheater, today we are 30 years together & he is still cheating. But the fact of our relationship is; i give no sex & he offer me companship & respect. No conflicts, no arguement & he always defends me, he treats me with respect & we even laugh about his affairs. Out of sight out of mind. When people talk to me about his affairs, i explain that i am aware & allow that. Many of my friends, think i am shallow. But one think i am assured of, is i love myself & i know who i am. I have peace of mind, & no one can destroy my space. My dad was a cheater all his life & my mother was a faithful woman until she passed. Maybe my situation is a learnt behaviour, because even though my dad cheated, i never witnessed any violence or arguments between my mum & dad. We were 10 children & us children are not even speaking, it feels as though the disfunctional upbringing rub off on us all, the children.😂😂🙈🤣
I think men came from hell. That's all.
My husband did all but # 6 .My advice is to turn your love inward. Feeling good about yourself removes the pain in time and allows you to move forward with confidence.
I love this. ❤
I'm trying so hard and it's not easy 😭
Love this
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All of these things happened to me. He damaged me so badly I could never get into another relationship EVER again
Aw... I'm so sorry! ❤Please don't give him this power over you. Get angry instead!!
All of these things that you had mentioned is all the signs that I am dealing with with my significant other woman and I was with this relationship for 6 years but you are so right in your head on and everything thank you God😊
I went through many years of being cheated on and forgave but decided that it was time to do the right thing for me and stop this abuse so on February 17th, 2022 I started the process of divorce and in 6 to 8 weeks I will finally be legally liberated. I went through almost every single point you made of signs of being cheated on. Not to justify, but I was sixteen when I met him and I married a month after I turned 19. He was a 20 days shy from turning 21. My lack of insight, maturity and experience really were against me to see what I was getting into.
Congratulations! God be with you.❤ Best decision.
@@shari1123- thank you very much for your words I support. Best wishes to you and may God bless you.
@@camuyana thank you
Good on you for making a decision that put your welfare first! All the best to you for the rest of your life. ❤️🙏🏻❤️
@@honestmom1958 thank you very much and I wish the same to you
"People will tell you who they are.... if you willing to Listen"....so very true..... women we need to control our emotions....and pay attention to what men say to us!!!! Sadly love can be truly blind!!!
I’ve been married twice. Both my loss,very much so. If anyone has a daughter/son would you wish someone to give them false pretenses like I myself have? YOU WOULD NEVER WANNA BRING ME HOME!!!😢😢😢😢
Yes! And not just about cheating or your intuition, but just in general about listening to guys when they tell you something. I have a lot of guy friends, and I've been told I think like a guy (I'm female). One thing is guys are sooo much less complicated than women. Women tend to overthink. Just take what a guy says at face value (most of the time).
I remember one time I went to dinner with a bunch of girls and one of the girls arrived late. When she arrived, she apologized, saying she was on the phone with the guy she had been seeing, and he said he wasn't interested in being in a committed relationship at the time and didn't want her to wait for him. She asked us what we thought of that.
I'm thinking, uh, he told you what he meant. There's no reason to doubt his word. In fact, if anything, it shows he had respect for her, because he was upfront with her instead of leading her on while he cheated on her behind her back. I told her he wasn't interested in a committed relationship. She gave me such a dirty look. Next, one of the other girls said, no, I don't think he really means that. Yes, he did! HE told you what he meant, so why is someone else who's not in his brain telling her what he meant?
So true
Thank you so much Matt! You are a blessing to us ladies. You bring out the truth to light and inspire us to do the right thing for the right reasons.🌺
Wow, first time in watching one of your videos, and what you say is so so true, Thankyou I really needed to hear this and I really appreciate your video
I don't deal with cheating men and I keep myself looking good.
So if my lover cheats he gets replaced.
Ladies look your best stay confident and never accept less.
It starts with self care and beauty inside and out.
I enjoy your channel and great tips you give Mat Boggs.
Accept is the word, not except.
So the exterior is your answer to cheating.
@StephanieDotDot Yup, that is what she said, and it is still interpreted the same.
@StephanieDotDot I like that statement!!!!!
Ya, show him what he lost
Can I add one more thing ? Men that cheat usually accuse you of cheating. They won't let you go to a bar with your friends. Your not allowed to be anywhere with out them. Every friend I ever had that had their boyfriend cheat always had these issues
Very true
Classic tactic used throughout history.
“Accuse my opponent of that which I am guilty”
This is absolutely true. If they start accusing you of cheating, start paying attention. Divorce is coming.
Absolutely true, they accuse us fir what they are really doing
My cheating ex didn’t want me to watch magic mike with his mother!!! 😂😂
Yeah my past relationship had all of these. He claimed he never cheated but then he did say you was unhappy after and left.
You were spot on with the sign. My husband displayed every sign which led me to this video. Now I must find a way to rebuild and rebrand myself as the woman I attend to admire. Thanks for the tips.
Still with him or you left?
The opposite can happen. He may treat you better because he feels guilty. Like he’s trying to make it up to you and you don’t even know it.
True, my x would go back and forth. It would just depend.
Buying presents and all kinds of sh@t😊
Very true. 👌🏼
Cheating partners also tend to judge by their own standards. They really seem to think everyone does the same, so if they are possessive, unduly suspicious of your friends and work colleagues, covertly checking your phone, wanting to know where you are and who with. what your doing. All often a precursor to gaslighting.
It just kept glitching on me when I tried this video tutorial so firstly I would say thank you for the video and secondly, thank you Dale Valskov meeting you was a blessing in disguise keep up with the good work I'm sure a lot of people will be needing your assistance iin the nearest future after seeing this
OMG THESE WERE SO ON THE NAIL. this hit very close to home. god... i cant wait to heal from this.
I've learned to trust my intuition. If I feel my man is cheating its more likely he is. I also had to train myself to NOT give second chances when I have been cheated on.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days
Yeah. No unless you liked the feeling of being cheated on... BC you will feel that way again. It feels worse.
What if you caught your partner while he was out having lunch with someone he saw as a potential affair??
So true. Starting a fight to go out. Going out middle of the night. Shopping and leaving you behind in the store. Listen to your intuition. Something feels wrong time to move on
Leaving you behind in the store ❤ I totally remember that
You are spot on! Seen and dealt with these red flags.
Thank you for being honest. I’ve had every negative and hurting info you just said.
Actually we never miss any signs we always know but sometimes we choose to deny or ignore them and sometimes we just don't care
My ex husband used every one of your points, except for one. The one point that can take me right back to this time was the one where he tried to make me think I was crazy for asking where he was or questioning it because it made no sense. Yes go with your gut - if it feels wrong or off, its because it is!!
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Whatzapp him now..
Pat - Yes he did. It's called "GASLIGHTING"!!!!
I’d venture to say the one point your ex didn’t do was tell you about past cheating…. Same here
I feel stupid either way. Stupid for worrying about him cheating when he really aint, stupid for thinking my gut feelings are wrong when they were right. His phone is a huge trigger. He texts coworkers all the time at home but never texts me from work just because, but used to all the time. And he deflects. Hes never validated my suspicions but never denied them either. Just told him the other day I miss the good ol days when he used to text me on his lunch break just because and his reply was I know, Idk what happened. Weve been married 22yrs and my gut has me thinking it feels like he doesnt love me anymore because I remember how it felt when I had no question that he did. It is literally killn me that I cant get peace about this from him. It should be a husbands duty to make their wife feel secure. He just dont cant or wont. Im so hopeless.
My husband of 18 years did #1 to me for years before he finally came out to me as gay last month. I know he gaslit me and purposely made things harder so I would leave, and I truly believe it was subliminal, but have never heard it talked about. This is fascinating to me. Thanks for your videos!
All of these are spot on for me
And i am about to end it and walk away for good from my current relationship
Yes..! I trusted my intuition and dumped him…:)
Best decision I made.
My sign was him saying he was going to the gym four times a week.
After 12weeks, I would have expected some change in his body - not to say buffed, but would have expected some weight loss, not weight gain..!
Anyway, I followed him to the gym three times.
He was meeting his best friends wife for “ drinks and a meal”…
His best friend divorced his cheating wife.
I forgave my husband once, but four years later he did it again. This time with my “best friend” who I knew for over twenty years..!
Lesson learned. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
It really is once a cheater always a cheater and exceptions don’t make the rules. I’m glad you left him when you did.
Once a cheater... And no consequence (like a heartbreak because of divorce) does create a "NO FEAR" thus a repeat offender. I know it wasn't a wonderful thing to do YET he NEEDED to have this mark. Some men AND women dissect what happened? Where was the break down?, Was there respect? Did I get to know him also? Did he do most of the talking or did I? Was I REALLY interested in him? It takes time to recall what the literal marriage was like. What kind of love. Did we stop LOOKing at each other when we conversated? The more time you have BEFORE dating again the more WHOLE and AWARE you can be. I feel for people who just go back into another relationship and they very shortly see the SAME thing which is like starting out with "baggage" and not REALLY free YET. I'm glad/sad for you. It wasn't easy I'm sure.
Wow. That a broad day light lie. People go to the gym for exercise n bodywork. A week or two sessions definitely show some results right? If 12 weeks of sessions doesnot show any tangible results it clearly shows that he chose the gym as their meeting place to hangout. The least unsuspected place for dating.
Wow. Brutal.
If it is in the DNA of cheating men to cheat, then it is the DNA of the women they cheat with to want to upstage their neighbor, best friend, sister etc.
The union of your ex with your best ‘friend’ is one of 2 people who are both morally deficit.
Good luck to them.
When first meeting someone if they mention that they are a "Good person. BEWARE. Someone truly good and decent doesn't try to convince you of that -they just do their thing by being good and decent!
Also do not trust anyone who says "trust me"!
they should not have to say they are a good person. you should see it already by the things they do with you .
Exactly. He said this to me in early our relationship and I laughed and said don’t say the things that I don’t know or see, I want to know you by your behaviours and actions lol
Be funny he cheated with someone who cheats on him.
Although it may be true in some cases, that is a big myth. Sometimes I tell people what a good person I am out of habit, because I'm used to being cut down and subconsciously what to convince them.
Thank you for sharing this information because all you said is true I was married 16 years when my ex husband cheated on me and all those signs were presented ....
Sharing on my Facebook page.
Wahoo amazing this is exactly what is happening to me right now this video is incredible I love this video and I learn more God bless you keep it up bro
I don’t usually spill the tea on social media, but hoping this helps someone! I asked my ex several times if they wanted out. Apparently “it was all in my head” for 5 years 🤦🏽♀️😂 The best thing I did, was to end things by waving goodbye from the removal van. Here’s all the red flags I can remember:
-Phone face down.
-Taking the phone into the shower and toilet.
-Staying out all night, phone died, no charger.
-Home drunk, crying and apologising, but no explanation what the apology is for.
-Claiming I’m paranoid, clingy, mad.
-Not taking down public suggestive boxer short photos off social media.
-Watching girls (like it was questionable if they were 19 🥴) and accusing me of being paranoid when I bring it up.
-Being out overnight every Valentine’s Day we were together.
-Having photos of exes and none of us.
-Overtly flirting and being handsy with his female best friend and in front of others too.
-Intimacy and PDA stopped cold.
-Old dating profile, still active, even after discussing it.
-Not really a red flag. But guys asking me out, him stood right there, them not realising we’re a couple. That says a lot 🤣🤣
I’m not making light of anyone’s situation, only my own, because I can’t believe it took be 5 years and seems hilarious now. It’s not time waisted, it’s time learned and has really helped me with future relationships. Thank you, next 💖
AMEN🙏🏽
If anyone can help me out literally find a way out
@Esther Samuel me?
Every time I think things are going better and could possibly lead in the direction I want I find dating apps I find hidden conversations not to mention emails of being a male prostitute he doesn't have sex with me and I'm to the point don't even want it because it's not any good he doesn't want me he puts no effort into it he gets his that's it he cares about me none he complains about getting me off this was years ago because I won't even let him touch me now not that he ever tries I've even wondered if he's gay does anybody have an answer has anyone gone through this
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1. Abuse - Leave immediately 2. Failed discussions - Converse then seek therapy 3. Repeated neglect - take care of you 4. Repeated lies - protect yourself 5. No appreciation - Seek gratitude from service 6. Suspect cheating - Seek assistance of *NERD STARK CORP* . Be there for yourself
Drugs - also leave immediately lol, my ex almost cleaned me out o_o shit i didnt even know how bad Crack is until my friend warned me asap. he said to kick him out! i did, never regret it
A man will also lose weight, get in better shape, buy new underwear and clothes, say he's working late, won't be able to look at his woman in the eyes, will stop attending family gatherings, start using more cash, buy you more gifts and flowers to make up for his guilt, recommend you go out with your friends more or go shopping/massage/nails to keep you happy and busy so he has more time with his mistress, not be hungry for dinner....the list is exhaustive. Like Matt says, listen to your intuition. You might even start having dreams he's cheating.
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Wowwww this is great advice and it’s soooooooooooo true!! Thank you 🙏 for sharing 🙏