😂 you are REALLY NOT interested in him. Because this is psychologically proven works for every brain. Is like that stupid bad habit that you cannot quit no matter how you try. Be real please!
Yes. I have noticed that anyone that does me wrong they get it pretty bad. This is why we shouldn’t play with people’s emotions, but they’ll only learn through experiences. Unless of course they have some sort of mental illness.
If someone is doing this intentionally or intentionally they aren't emotionally ready for a full filling relationship to the person on the receiving end u are worth more.
apologies, i get busy with work and often end up loosing contact with some friends. eg. tho i have 5 friends, i have only time for 2 or max 3. how can i be better friend
Had someone do this to me, it’s absolutely soul destroying when you truly love them and they willing to take full advantage.. I still don’t think I ever fully recovered was one of my first real loves
I was a victim of the first one. It caused me severe depression and anxiety. I even became suicidal. I believe myself lucky because I could move on from that toxic person.
How did u move on ? I'm stuck in a bad situation and I'm so scared of them I'm even affraid to leave yet they tell me to leave then next day they tell me to stay it's making me sick also no sex wtf 😒
@@bbbybby7703 I could end the relationship if my family let me stay in one of the many spare bedrooms they have all within 5-20 minutes from were I am please pray this doesn't seem right 👍👍👍 help 😭😭😭😭
It's called energy shifting. Some people like to be runned after and as soon as it stops, the energy shifts so they run after the person to get their attention back.
How do you guys can leave someone so easily. It's hard for me to leave him even though he is the reason why I cried, had so much pain. he literally destroyed my life. He is the biggest manipulator and narcissist I have ever seen. But I just can't leave him and move on
@@user-yv3lh9fb9pwatch this video more than once and meditate upon it. You are already recovering what is happening to you. Concentrate not on what you think he is doing but upon how you are reacting. You can control you.
I used to study all these techniques but now that i have found a man who has healthy mindset and is pretty straightforward with his emotions and whats on his mind i will never dare to use these techniques because the kind of man he is i know when treated as such will just move on and consider me as one of those toxic woman. Id rather be remembered as someone whos genuine and normal than all these mindgames. At one point in our life, we get tired
Abusers do this. Run away from them. It's gross. Mind games are immature. They do not change for anyone but, themselves and you will not change them at all.
Ladies, if you do such trash other woman tell you on tiktok and IG, all that will happen is that you end up with 45 yrs old alone, with 3 cats and childless.
Lol same. It is the best way to go because there's so many narcissists who want to get power over people through toxic methods like this and they may not even be aware.
The worst one I've experienced is a person who tells you ppl they don't even know are fed up with you and hate you causing you to destroy your own friendship/support groups so you're stuck with them wouldn't work on me now I've learnt from it but at the time it was seriously distressing and I had mental health issues over it. Remember even your closest can switch on you important to keep separate friendship groups
When you unconsciously do this all the time...without even realising it...truly speaking I thought the second one is a humble way of rejecting....but I guess I'm toxic...💀
It’s okay to reject people and do it gently. I think what she means is if you do that but also play games and make the person think you’re interested at the same time
"I am focusing on myself " this is the excuse a guy gave me 2 months back.. i didn't text him since then. Even deleted all contacts. The other day someone asked his name, I had trouble remembering his name. These tricks works on someone who cares even a little. For someone like me, it hardly gonna do anything
Same happen to me 5 months back It hurts to me A lot he said i have my time, i hardly talk to girls, I know myself what kind of person i am So i give up with an apology Note. I know that apology Hasnothing means to this guy But i do bcz still I wanna make a good impression of mine at end...😂
I'm 28 and I already feel like I don't wanna be in a relationship. You meet someone you like they don't like you back, you meet someone that like you and you be like na I don't like them. Relationships are just tiring especially if you also trying to grow as in individual in terms of career and mental.
Damnn...it's exactly the same with me...if a person likes me back i just get disinterested in that person..i know it's weird..but that's just the case! It's like you are interested in that person bec they seem like a challenge to you...and once they like you back ..the challenge is over..and so is the connection!
The first one is a biggest turn off for me.. If a guy does this to me I will automatically lost interest in him bcos my self respect and peace of mind is more important than anything yeah after getting with it more than I can bear, for 2nd one, I prioritize my time and emotions if someone cant be be with me then plz go away.
Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.
But you see the techniques being used all the time and people doing it unconsciously. It's not even like they are trying to make the person obsessed but trying to feel higher themselves. Even yesterday, i was on a dating app, (my profile is set as relationship not hook-ups or wtv) after some introductions the guy turned and said: "Look, I'm going back to my homecountry in the end of the month so letting you know I won't be your boyfriend (offers plausible explanation) BUT "I like your profile and I would like to meet you for a drink" (some compliment?). Some scarcity mixed with nagging.
@@redleeks6253that is a lot of pseudo science or better misunderstanding of scientific papers in which behaviors were observed and then classified, but that doesn't mean, this behavior is always a manipulation, e. G. Your example also just could be true. Also to Nr. 1 that's the type of a borderline personality, they suffer themself a lot for their mood changes, so it's kinda difficult to say it's manipulation.
@@lowkeyalien6477 The direct part is informing about leaving the country the manipulation is "I won't be your boyfriend" as if he decided that I had put him in boyfriend category already. I called him on this and said I would definitely not meet him for a drink he proceeded with "If you want to find a boyfriend you should try real life not apps". This is an entitled attitude on "you wont find anything better so take what I'm offering you". Dating apps are a good environment to study narcissistic and manipulative behaviors since many individuals are on the spectrum.
@@redleeks6253 Very interesting. I see your point. Rather than accepting your reply to him at face value as not being interested, he decided to soft handedly insult you because of the rejection. My question is why do some people need to have a “final say” rather than thanking you politely and moving on. It would be the easier and more mature and less butt hurt exit, right? At least that’s what I would think….
Sounds like the narcissist I dealt with. I gave him so many chances, but I knew he was lying. He was addicting. I finally broke free, it also helped that he moved out of the building that I lived in. Ladies and Gentlemen we all deserve better. Don't ever settle for someone treating you badly. The first time is one too many!!!
This shiet is so true, someone used the first one on me i have been obbssessd since last year and the rollercoaster is still the same, it gives me anxiety, curiosity and obsetion thats out of this world
There is a saying in Germany, maybe in other regions too, it says: "If you want something, you will find ways. If you do not want something you will find reasons." So... In this context: if someone wants to be with you, he/she will find ways, and not only present weird reasons, why it was not possible.
Good to see that you noticed it. A person that can admit their faults, isn't as toxic as they thought to be. Everybody makes mistakes and nobody is free of being a little out of touch at times.
I did this without even realizing I was manipulating them,I swear it wasn't my intention to make them obsessed with me,I just wasn't interested and wanted to tell them in a different way so that they won't get hurt
No but same I did this to someone but I didn't have the motive of making them obsessed with me. And they actually acted like they couldn't stay away from me, it was a nightmare honestly.
@@larafalcasantos4638 ikr,the stares and everything makes me so uncomfortable,he still clearly is into me I don't know how to tell him to stop this,and he's not that kinda person who understands easily :(
I literally disappear from texting and calling for like 2 days and come back saying ohh.. sorry i had network/phonr issuess…. Andd plzz which girl hasn’t done the second thingy? Soo practicallyy yaa ppl have gotten obssessed andd it’s horriblee amd still i be thinking why.. 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I follow the rule “if you don’t have time for me I don’t have time for you”. You can have all the plausible explanations you want but ultimately it’s just a different way of saying I’m too busy for you at which point I would move on.
If guy keep you waiting it means he don’t wanna be with you. You there just for sex. Doesn’t matter what he says. We guys may reject girl on first day but still keep fucking her for years. A secret.
@@boniboni4912kindly leave this pathway its best for u it might hurt you for some while Later youll have Pleasure N no regrets. Stop destroy yr Mental peace
I don’t think anyone should want someone to be Obsessed with them. Obsessions usually end bad when they can’t be fulfilled. That’s what I’ve observed and speculated from the headlines with some relationships ending in murder. Murderous Obsession. I don’t even want to wear the perfume called Obsession.
It definitely brings out peoples neurotic sides - for a small amount it would be that bad, but even without violence, stalking obsession on social media or real life is creepy. Only narcissistic types would want people obsessed with them through manipulation because they need the attention since they lack a developed sense of self and need external validation.
This hit very close to home. I don't like to admit this but while I was working at a past job, I found myself quite obsessive over another coworker. He knew I liked him and he took me on a date, but then didn't tell me he wasn't interested and started being interested in other people. I realized that he was interested in other people but it really messed with my head and I had a very unhealthy attachment. He began irgnoring me but it only made me feel worse. If I ever think someone might be unhealthfully attached to me, I'll be super mindful not to do anything that could potentially lead them on and tell them right away that I just see them as a friend. I won't text them a lot and call them and I also won't ignore them (still be friendly if I can). If he remained friendly while also definining his boundaries, I would have understood what was happening. Sure, it's my fault, but I realize that sometimes we have deep rooted traumas and attachment styles that can get in the way without us even realizing it.
This is exactly what I'm going through right now. My co worker and I were really good friends and we spoke every day for last 6 months, even on weekends. He used to compliment me and ask me to hang out, overall very caring and understanding guy. One day I confessed my feelings to him and he said he only liked me as a friend😢. He's stopped talking to me over call and chats, but when I see him at work he still compliments me and takes all his breaks with me and behaves the same as before. I'm so confused and it really hurts😢😢😢😢
I'm sorry you're going through that! I had to stop talking to my past coworker as I drove him away with my obsession (understandably) but if I can give you any advice, it would be to accept the fact he sees you as a friend and to distance yourself from your coworker (even just some) for you're own well being. If you can be ok with truly being just friends with him, that's great but if you need to space yourself and focus on making healthy relationships/building the friendships you already have, I would advice you to do this for YOU. Life is too short to torture ourselves with what we think we want but can't have. Just remember that if he only sees you as a friend, that's ok. because there are going to be a lot of people out there who will adore spending time with you and want to be with you for YOU. @@zeebebany
So that’s what he was doing to me this entire time wow that’s so wrong and for a minute I actually thought he loved me but he didn’t he just wanted someone to be obsessed with him and worship him the way I was doing 😢 I’m never falling for these tricks again everybody’s getting rejected
Sounds like you need to work on yourself. There's plenty of decent dudes out there. Just don't go for douche bags. Taking it to the extreme of never dating is rarely a fulfilling answer.
@@Junkmailings Pretty much. Not to mention she's just letting him control her even outside of the relationship since she's choosing to reject everyone based on the effect of tricks she'll supposedly never fall for again. He's still living rent free in that head
I am a victim of both of these effects by one person. I would've commented "I'll just move on from such people they don't affect me " but you know when it actually happens it's extremely different and sometimes it happens when you're at your worst and you aren't that strong and cautious to realize what's happening until it happens and then you get suicidal thoughts or something dangerous harmful thoughts. Please beware of such people. They're really dangerous.
Suicidal thoughts because of a person you met sometime ago??? Hell nahh bro, we Indians are better than this, STAY STRONG BROTHER!! (Judging by your username that you may be Indian)
This is exactly what someone did and I still let them do , I am ready to throw it in then they run back , doing this same exact thing ,thanks for lovely advise and I'm ready to run off , let them see
Not really lol, all he has to do is play dumb and letting her think she's the one doing the manipulation but she's really the one manipulating her lmao
@@stevenstovar5297 you realize when a person knows about manipulation, theyll just break up and leave? Hahahaha What on earth could he possibly do once shes gone?
This only works if you have some sort of attraction built. Don’t do it out of the blue if you like them but they don’t even look your way. They won’t give a shat
Happens to me before and yes I was addicted. You feel you need to justify your self worth and the person keep rejecting you. At the end, I realized it was toxic and quit. But it was very addictive, like a painful addiction.
I just got 'roller coaster-ed' last month and i totally cut them out of my life cuz I don't need that sort of negativity I've got zero tolerance for things like that
You literally saved me. I have been talking to a girl for about two months and she's been doing some strange acts such as you explained in this video. I was thinking about what is going on and now I have realised that she might be using this technique. Thanks )
I just realized my boyfriend that I’m totally in love with, has been constantly “having to do work areound the house” and I’d wait for hours for him to get back, and when he did he’d use a plausible explanation! And it’s this weird feeling because after 2 days of doing it I’m almost obsessed? And it’s crazy cause I’ve never felt like that for someone
They were done on me, most likely unintentionally. Made me want to KMS. It’s too painful. But also, i have limitations in terms of dating pool, so it worked extra well. I was obsessed like never in my life, went crazy, started to hate myself. I had physical symptoms too, pain in the heart abd palpitations. However, the person also lovebombed me and met the needs noone ever met in my life and won’t ever meet, so that contributed majorly too.
A guy's been trying to do that with me but I'm already in love with my toxic ex and I'm focused on moving on from him so much that the manipulator person doesn't even get the full attention. All I think is the I'm not an important friend for them
@@harleenprabhakar3224 It's definitely been a big year of personal growth. I'm excited for the future. Very grateful & proud of who I've become despite adversary. I pray for your healing and growth as we move into 2023. It might not ever be ok what they did, but we can choose to create our own happiness and grow from the experiences that shape us ✨ ♥
I don't know if it was deliberate (given we were 15/16 at the time) but my ex always did this. Basically his excuse was he was "bad at messaging" but I kid you not it took 10 days at one point for him to message me back. He would always use oneliners of: "oops sorry I missed that!", "sorry I didn't get back to you, been so busy!" seemingly cheerful but would always always make me so fucking pissed off and (yes) would further my obsessed feelings with him. Additionally, when we were at school (even when we were dating) we NEVER talked. Like we could be together RIGHT next to each other, waiting for our class teacher or something, and he would turn and speak to another person or he would literally be having a conversation with people that were at the back of the line or something! There was only ONE time we hung out together at school and that was when I asked just to see but after that nothing. After he dumped me he kept giving me weird signals sometimes "yes" sometimes "no". Or when I mentioned that a lad was asking if we should date he seemed to get jealous but then would play it off, even though he was saying at the same time there was this other girl that liked him (notice it was never him liking them just them liking him, happened with like 3 other people excluding me). He seemed to get absolutely high off of other people having crushes on him even if he didn't reciprocate. Then when I met my current wonderful partner he got even fucking weirder (resulted in the end of our friendship) as he was wanting to "walk me home" complaining when I spoke about how much I liked this guy, or just weird other passive aggressive shit. This video actually provides a succinct situation of what I went through- makes a lot of sense!
I know what it feels like, something similar happened to me too. My ex would always invite some of his friends to our dates or would stay all the time to entertain himself with activities that doesn’t interest me and never bothered to care of how I would feel. It was never a quality time for both of us, always me chasing him, trying to be a part of his world, doing all the stuffs that made me uncomfortable just to be near him. That was frustrating and I was always miserable, then if I say something he would say that my anger is a problem. Of course when we were out with his friends I would always be ignored and had to find company in other persons to not feel isolated. 😢 Just because sometimes he showed some affection towards me (obviously when noone else’s around, like he was shameful of me) I feel like I was reborn and there was some rewards for my sacrifice. It took me 7 years to get out of that situation.
@@nhatanhle Jesus. 7 years of your life with such a tone-deaf, neglectful an (likely) manipulative asshole. I'm glad you got out of that situation. So so glad for you. And yes you describe your situation so similarly to my experience. His presence always felt like a drug. I'd get high in the attention, despite how scarce it was. I craved it. So much so that I developed an unhealthy obsession with my imagination. I imagined the perfect boyfriend. The perfect image of him. And I clung to it. Tight. And it caused me to have so many unrealistic expectations of him. Of our relationship. That I don't fault for. But it's the neglect that pushed me towards it. God it got to be such a mess. But I'm so so glad that you were able to get out. You should be SO proud of yourself for that. I hope you're able (if ou haven't already) to find someone much more deserving of you, someone who loves you and treats you well. 💜
I didn't know this before but I rejected a guy last year and told him I couldn't be in a relationship because of my studies he said okay. Then 2 months later he asked me again and said no again he didn't want that but said okay, this year asked me again and I was like will this dude just give up. Now after watching this video I realise the obsession 🤦🏻♀️
I had a guy come on to me 37 years ago. He was so adorable and funny. He did both those things and yes I became obsessed but I kept my distance after he rejected me and was heartbroken...soo heartbroken but I know now that I was never in love with him..even though I thought at the time I was. Reflection of the past it was rejection that was so hard to deal with.i think it was so hard for me because I never knew my dad and it just reinforced that I was not worthy to be loved...wished I would have known my worth then..
Same i was treated like trash by a narcissist. It even ended in physical assault 😥. It stems from me growing up with a narc as a father. I thought i was worthless.
I accidentally have done both before. Especially the one with late responses but mostly because of anxiety and then I get back to them and feel they deserve a reason why, and just the fact I feel detached from people because of everything I’ve been through so it causes me to not really feel the need to reach out
This was spot on my ex boyfriend for 5 years of my life. It messed with my head so much because of how innocent it all appeared to be. I’m not even sure he realized what he was doing. But the very last time he tried to make contact by literally dropping off birthday gifts to me in my driveway, I never responded. It’s so sad, I wasted so many years of my youth on this person. I’d rather have someone be directly abusive extreme than be so covert and manipulative like this.
The first one happened to me. I got depressed during this..my self-esteem disappeared. I had good figure but I didn't see it. I felt not enough. People, don't do this to anyone pls.
the first tactic doesn't work for me because a guy tried to do that by asking me to stop talking to him and after 6 months he started talking to me again and I just replied: " weren't you the one who asked me to stop talking to you? I'm just doing what you asked" and he didn't say anything else r/Maliciouscompliance 😂
The guy told me I’m done thru text, so I blocked him and never texted him then I saw him and pretended like I didn’t know him, the guy was so angry. He tapped my shoulder and said hey you never text and I said do I know you? Best revenge 😂 I told him I deserved more than that and a whole lot more, you asshole!!
One of my school crush used to do this to me (probably unknowingly) and it was really hurting me coz in the end he had reasonable explanation for everything and it made me feel as if i am always wrong but i decided to end this cycle of stressing and relief by breaking ties with him...... But now i am exactly like this unconsciously and i didn't realize it until i figured out why everyone i meet become obsessed with me and falls for me. I'm not really a social person so i disappear asap but at the same time i don't want to hurt them or make them feel that I'm ignoring them, so i give a reasonable explanation later.
Those people who can't able to manipulate people in real life 😅😢 so they come to CZcams and teach other to how to manipulate 😮😂.. jai shree krishna 😊🎉❤ have a nice day..✨ and keep posting 😊 ✨🌅☺️
After falling for both of them in the past year, I can testify that both work exceptionally well. Ghosting, gaslighting, passive-aggressive attitude and what not. A few very brutal lessons were learnt.
all the guys i rejected are obsessed with me, even after months and years. Because i never gave them an exact reason other than i wasnt feeling it. They may not be obsessed with who or how i am, but definitely obsessed with the fact they couldn't obtain me.
A guy did this stuff to me and I saw through his childish mentality level. I tried to be patient but it wasnt worth it. I want happiness in my life! I changed my number, grabbed my savings and bought my first house 35 miles away. My friends were telling me he was so perplexed by my dissappearence.
These work on weak minded people, people pleasers, or low self esteem peeps. Emotionally mature and more mentally strong / stable beings will just "wish them the best" as they won't have interest in pursuing or entertaining childish / toxic behaviours. Time and energy are priceless resources!
Surprisingly, the first one happened to me. We were just on stage of getting to know each other. The girl did that to me twice but the second time she did it, I walked away without a second thought.
I do walk away if I'm disrespected. For example, a girl asked her guy friend to invite me on a walk together to a supermarket with them. I don't know for what purpose maybe trying to get me jealous. When we are walking together, the girl kept avoiding me when I try to walk beside her for some reason. Then I bought a candy from the supermarket and did the walk away. 1 hour later when they came back, I offered her a candy I bought, and she was full of emotion, she started asking me a lot of random unrelated questions like crazy, then look straight at me while blushing.
You may like someone but be too scared to in a relationship with them because you may scared getting hurt again. That's not manipulation, this is being you not ready for having someone in your life. Focusing yourself at this matter should be your first priority. No one should please for whom they like but first their self.
My child’s father does the first to me. We’ve been together for three years! I definitely am attached to him but I’m gaining the ability to not accept that type of behavior and expecting what I know I deserve. I think many people are very abusive, and psychology proves it with factual evidence. I know I’ve been manipulated for years by many people. Trying to break free from these abusers chains.
my personal favorite one is being super close to them and then leave out of nowhere. And when they try to reach out to you just deny your relationship with them like "I didn't know you see me as a friend?"
): its worse when its a romantic interest leading u on. i get mindfucekd so bad and it doesnt cause me to be obssessed with them instead i feel even more undeserving of love and become more emotionally unavailable
That seems to explain why I used to be obsessed with my crush even though there were indications that the feelings were not reciprocated. They always had a reasonable explanation for everything. I only stopped having feelings for them when they started having a relationship with someone else
The rollercoaster effect is so true. Human mind is extremely complicated, I'd crave attention and consistency from even my enemy if we were to stand together and they left me for a second since I easily panic when I'm alone.
I do this all the time 😵💫😵💫 it's not that I want or desire obsession. It's just, I loose interest in playing an active role in a relationship. It's tiring
Fuck.. I didn't know I was toxic💀 But what if my phone really died.. And i genuinely wanna focus on myself and don't wanna hurt them so i just politely reject. It's a lil bit confusing
When you get this done back to you in retaliation for allowing yourself to take some 'do not disturb' time for yourself, shame on them. When I procrastinate or get overwhelmed to the point I do this to other people (knowing that a timely response would be a powerful ease to someone's mental state) to manipulate someone, Hell🥶 head trips are fucked up.
Same thoughts as you. That’s why they need to be stable on their own too, that is what I have always been telling them to do self love and self care. I’m not really gonna be 24/7 with them. I have my own fair share of problems and self improvement.
Narcissist people are looking this clip carefully...tysm for this video and now I can spot such people. . . Edit: oh and one more fact super empaths can recognise this pattern..and myself being one many people have left me. I always thought I was the problem, but no when my psychologist told me I just have talent of seeing such people and they know I'm threat that will make them expose that's y they bully you and you cry. This line changed my life and I'm now more confident and learning a part of respecting my own self.
If someone does all of that, I just move on. I just assume they aren’t mentally really for a relationship 🤔
And you are right to assume that. Good for you.
You are healthy minded. Bravo.
Yes
Yup.
😂 you are REALLY NOT interested in him. Because this is psychologically proven works for every brain. Is like that stupid bad habit that you cannot quit no matter how you try. Be real please!
The darkest is loving them fully , then leaving them .
But karma works....what if someone they truly love did this to them too...they will regret playing on someone
Exactly my boi🌸😫
@@kim6314 Saw that happening. It's all a matter of time. Let the universe work for you.
Yes, till date nothing beats that! 😂
Yes, my ex husband did it to me.
People, don’t do this. Because if the other person happens to be better than you at these games, you’ll be cursed!
Yes. I have noticed that anyone that does me wrong they get it pretty bad. This is why we shouldn’t play with people’s emotions, but they’ll only learn through experiences. Unless of course they have some sort of mental illness.
What if the other person starts the game
If someone is doing this intentionally or intentionally they aren't emotionally ready for a full filling relationship to the person on the receiving end u are worth more.
But it works
When you realise that you re the one whom unconstiently doing these things is next level toxicity😬
Man... are you sociopath by any chance?
Question, why do I resent people who like me?
@@entropy59122 maybe because you have trust issues
@@sidin4167 oh
@@entropy59122 you probably don't like yourself or are afraid once you get close to them they will leave you like others.
If someone ghosts you. Delete and block them ... leave them in the rear view mirror and never look back.
Agreed
I second that 💁🏻♀️💋 bye, bye!
I'm in the wrong in this I feel bad
Amen.🎈
apologies, i get busy with work and often end up loosing contact with some friends. eg. tho i have 5 friends, i have only time for 2 or max 3. how can i be better friend
Bro & sis ,never let too much energy into anything or anyone.
Be adaptable & grounded.
Focus on yourself 🤗
Wise words
That's the lesson learned by getting the heart broken. If it's really smashed maybe once is enough to learn.
Some people feel good to destroy others by acting they love them .
@@Johannore they kill the Innocence in you
@@bena.189 ego boost....
It's a strange world we live in🥲
Had someone do this to me, it’s absolutely soul destroying when you truly love them and they willing to take full advantage.. I still don’t think I ever fully recovered was one of my first real loves
Happened to me dog but look up coach kyle…he’ll turn you into a super confident guy
@@blackjesus5813 thanks I’ll check that out… Got nothing to lose so may aswell try
I was a victim of the first one. It caused me severe depression and anxiety. I even became suicidal. I believe myself lucky because I could move on from that toxic person.
Praise be, for you are free from those shackles now.
you're not alone.. that was me too. I'm happy you were able to move on and I hope you're doing okay now.
How did u move on ? I'm stuck in a bad situation and I'm so scared of them I'm even affraid to leave yet they tell me to leave then next day they tell me to stay it's making me sick also no sex wtf 😒
@@bbbybby7703 I could end the relationship if my family let me stay in one of the many spare bedrooms they have all within 5-20 minutes from were I am please pray this doesn't seem right 👍👍👍 help 😭😭😭😭
I feel this struggle.. despite the time it has passed. Even a flicker of a memory will turn on my ankiety..
Waaiminute I think someone doing that on me 😂😂😂😂
SAME!?
Ayo bro, same
😂😂😂😂
saaame
Detach detach detach
I can't stop thanking you enough Dr OLUWASEUN for bringing back my lover you are the best😊
On Facebook page
@@Rose_benEwu😂😂
I just can't stop thanking you enough Dr OLUWASEUN or bringing back my lover to me..... really appreciate sir😇
On Facebook page..
Idiot 😂😂
nah if someone does this to me i just ignore them. 💀
I do too.
Unless it's someone you like in the first place...
@@studianon8580 But you need to love yourself more and have your bondaries! With this,You will Never fall for those type of tactic.
@@studianon8580 a fully developed person won't fall for these tricks
@@IrisFlorentinaA :')
He did this Exactly with me but I left him and now he is the obsessed one 🤣😂🤣 omg I knew he was a narcissist
It's called energy shifting. Some people like to be runned after and as soon as it stops, the energy shifts so they run after the person to get their attention back.
How do you guys can leave someone so easily. It's hard for me to leave him even though he is the reason why I cried, had so much pain. he literally destroyed my life. He is the biggest manipulator and narcissist I have ever seen. But I just can't leave him and move on
Women like your make men think all women are street walkers
Really? Sounds like pot and kettle.
@@user-yv3lh9fb9pwatch this video more than once and meditate upon it. You are already recovering what is happening to you. Concentrate not on what you think he is doing but upon how you are reacting. You can control you.
Ghosting is the biggest mistake one can do to me . He will not exist anymore . I've always been like this . THERE IS NO PLACE FOR GAMES.
I used to study all these techniques but now that i have found a man who has healthy mindset and is pretty straightforward with his emotions and whats on his mind i will never dare to use these techniques because the kind of man he is i know when treated as such will just move on and consider me as one of those toxic woman. Id rather be remembered as someone whos genuine and normal than all these mindgames. At one point in our life, we get tired
Oh holy fuk....the guy I'm literally obsessed with did this to mee💀
Ikr happened the same with me ,it’s been a year and I’m still obsessed
Same
That's what you get for being a 304
What is Holy F..!?? Nonsense
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Abusers do this. Run away from them. It's gross. Mind games are immature. They do not change for anyone but, themselves and you will not change them at all.
She is basically explaining
Love bombing
But the sad part she is porous of it
Ladies, if you do such trash other woman tell you on tiktok and IG, all that will happen is that you end up with 45 yrs old alone, with 3 cats and childless.
Toxicity, emotional, and psychological abuse...got it!!!
I don't know, but i only mirror someone's energy. You disappear, i replace you. 😭
Lol same. It is the best way to go because there's so many narcissists who want to get power over people through toxic methods like this and they may not even be aware.
😂😂😂
Boom
Nothing wrong with that!
You'll end up alone Merika, be smart about it
“Darkest manipulation techniques” 😂
oh it gets a lot darker than that my dear
🤣
Name 3
Name 20.
give me all of them
The worst one I've experienced is a person who tells you ppl they don't even know are fed up with you and hate you causing you to destroy your own friendship/support groups so you're stuck with them wouldn't work on me now I've learnt from it but at the time it was seriously distressing and I had mental health issues over it. Remember even your closest can switch on you important to keep separate friendship groups
When you unconsciously do this all the time...without even realising it...truly speaking I thought the second one is a humble way of rejecting....but I guess I'm toxic...💀
Plzz i do both too.. omg..🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️😂😂😂
Diagnosed narc
It’s okay to reject people and do it gently. I think what she means is if you do that but also play games and make the person think you’re interested at the same time
she really out here tryna make us more single then we were before we clicked on the video 💀
I cried watching this, it hurts so much to go through this kind of thing
Ew
😢😢
That's why we are (men) singles, we don't want this sh***
cry baby 🥴
I feel you, it hurts and I’m so tired
"I am focusing on myself " this is the excuse a guy gave me 2 months back.. i didn't text him since then. Even deleted all contacts. The other day someone asked his name, I had trouble remembering his name. These tricks works on someone who cares even a little. For someone like me, it hardly gonna do anything
Same happen to me 5 months back It hurts to me A lot he said i have my time, i hardly talk to girls, I know myself what kind of person i am So i give up with an apology Note. I know that apology Hasnothing means to this guy But i do bcz still I wanna make a good impression of mine at end...😂
This one dude did both of these things to me over 1 week. It's been like 3 years and I still think about him
Every trait of a covert narcissist … Stay educated my friends!
If you love yoursef enough, you'll be outta the cycle in no time
No cap💯
Hmmmm okay mind hunter
I'm 28 and I already feel like I don't wanna be in a relationship. You meet someone you like they don't like you back, you meet someone that like you and you be like na I don't like them. Relationships are just tiring especially if you also trying to grow as in individual in terms of career and mental.
Damnn...it's exactly the same with me...if a person likes me back i just get disinterested in that person..i know it's weird..but that's just the case!
It's like you are interested in that person bec they seem like a challenge to you...and once they like you back ..the challenge is over..and so is the connection!
@@hera09azalea fr, it's just gets more and more complicated 🤦♀️
@@theunknownseed exactly
I don't even have the nerves to try to get to know them, its tiring and the end result is always nothing. So yeah its better to stay single
@@hera09azalea im smelling commitment issues, same same
The first one is a biggest turn off for me.. If a guy does this to me I will automatically lost interest in him bcos my self respect and peace of mind is more important than anything yeah after getting with it more than I can bear, for 2nd one, I prioritize my time and emotions if someone cant be be with me then plz go away.
Just sit there to contemplate it all after you come back because you're gonna see such
crazy and radical things in these trips. That when you come back you're gonna be like what the fuck was that? And you're gonna spend a week just in the shower, what the fuck was that? Cooking your food, what the fuck was that? Driving to work, what the fuck was that? Sitting at work doing your work, what the fuck was that? Thinking that. Trying to wrap your mind around it. Try to remember and trying to figure it out and that's a very valuable process.
Someone did that to me to but obsession is caused by deep rooted insecurities within oneself not by tricks such as these
But you see the techniques being used all the time and people doing it unconsciously. It's not even like they are trying to make the person obsessed but trying to feel higher themselves.
Even yesterday, i was on a dating app, (my profile is set as relationship not hook-ups or wtv) after some introductions the guy turned and said: "Look, I'm going back to my homecountry in the end of the month so letting you know I won't be your boyfriend (offers plausible explanation) BUT "I like your profile and I would like to meet you for a drink" (some compliment?).
Some scarcity mixed with nagging.
@@redleeks6253 sounds direct rather than unconscious to me.
@@redleeks6253that is a lot of pseudo science or better misunderstanding of scientific papers in which behaviors were observed and then classified, but that doesn't mean, this behavior is always a manipulation, e. G. Your example also just could be true.
Also to Nr. 1 that's the type of a borderline personality, they suffer themself a lot for their mood changes, so it's kinda difficult to say it's manipulation.
@@lowkeyalien6477
The direct part is informing about leaving the country the manipulation is "I won't be your boyfriend" as if he decided that I had put him in boyfriend category already.
I called him on this and said I would definitely not meet him for a drink he proceeded with "If you want to find a boyfriend you should try real life not apps".
This is an entitled attitude on "you wont find anything better so take what I'm offering you".
Dating apps are a good environment to study narcissistic and manipulative behaviors since many individuals are on the spectrum.
@@redleeks6253 Very interesting. I see your point. Rather than accepting your reply to him at face value as not being interested, he decided to soft handedly insult you because of the rejection. My question is why do some people need to have a “final say” rather than thanking you politely and moving on. It would be the easier and more mature and less butt hurt exit, right? At least that’s what I would think….
Sounds like the narcissist I dealt with. I gave him so many chances, but I knew he was lying. He was addicting. I finally broke free, it also helped that he moved out of the building that I lived in. Ladies and Gentlemen we all deserve better. Don't ever settle for someone treating you badly. The first time is one too many!!!
Sounds familiar
Maybe he just wasn’t really in to you. In the end we also have no right for others to be into us or have feelings towards us
This shiet is so true, someone used the first one on me i have been obbssessd since last year and the rollercoaster is still the same, it gives me anxiety, curiosity and obsetion thats out of this world
There is a saying in Germany, maybe in other regions too, it says:
"If you want something, you will find ways. If you do not want something you will find reasons."
So... In this context: if someone wants to be with you, he/she will find ways, and not only present weird reasons, why it was not possible.
That awkward moment when you are the one doing it... I'm changing as of today...no more toxicity in me as of now
bruh! that's meee 😭
Good to see that you noticed it. A person that can admit their faults, isn't as toxic as they thought to be. Everybody makes mistakes and nobody is free of being a little out of touch at times.
Shintsha mfethu
Me too.... Didn't realised till now ...
If only men were this responsible and self aware.
I did this without even realizing I was manipulating them,I swear it wasn't my intention to make them obsessed with me,I just wasn't interested and wanted to tell them in a different way so that they won't get hurt
No but same I did this to someone but I didn't have the motive of making them obsessed with me. And they actually acted like they couldn't stay away from me, it was a nightmare honestly.
@@larafalcasantos4638 ikr,the stares and everything makes me so uncomfortable,he still clearly is into me I don't know how to tell him to stop this,and he's not that kinda person who understands easily :(
This is exactly what my ex best friend did
I literally disappear from texting and calling for like 2 days and come back saying ohh.. sorry i had network/phonr issuess…. Andd plzz which girl hasn’t done the second thingy? Soo practicallyy yaa ppl have gotten obssessed andd it’s horriblee amd still i be thinking why.. 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Congrats you’re a narcissist!
Norwegians guys do this
Simp men who are in the friend zone and still hanging around should hear this.
I follow the rule “if you don’t have time for me I don’t have time for you”. You can have all the plausible explanations you want but ultimately it’s just a different way of saying I’m too busy for you at which point I would move on.
The second one worked on me until I got tired of waiting and fell out of love with him
Currently this is happening to me, I’m just tired of waiting
If guy keep you waiting it means he don’t wanna be with you. You there just for sex. Doesn’t matter what he says. We guys may reject girl on first day but still keep fucking her for years. A secret.
@@boniboni4912kindly leave this pathway its best for u it might hurt you for some while Later youll have Pleasure N no regrets. Stop destroy yr Mental peace
I don’t think anyone should want someone to be Obsessed with them. Obsessions usually end bad when they can’t be fulfilled. That’s what I’ve observed and speculated from the headlines with some relationships ending in murder. Murderous Obsession. I don’t even want to wear the perfume called Obsession.
It definitely brings out peoples neurotic sides - for a small amount it would be that bad, but even without violence, stalking obsession on social media or real life is creepy. Only narcissistic types would want people obsessed with them through manipulation because they need the attention since they lack a developed sense of self and need external validation.
@@hadassah6085 I agree with you. Stay blessed and take care.
I once thought about buying perfume but it's called "poison girl". I reconsidered and decided nope better not, even when it smells so good 😅
She is suggesting manipulation, which is unkind and unloving at best.
This hit very close to home. I don't like to admit this but while I was working at a past job, I found myself quite obsessive over another coworker. He knew I liked him and he took me on a date, but then didn't tell me he wasn't interested and started being interested in other people. I realized that he was interested in other people but it really messed with my head and I had a very unhealthy attachment. He began irgnoring me but it only made me feel worse. If I ever think someone might be unhealthfully attached to me, I'll be super mindful not to do anything that could potentially lead them on and tell them right away that I just see them as a friend. I won't text them a lot and call them and I also won't ignore them (still be friendly if I can). If he remained friendly while also definining his boundaries, I would have understood what was happening. Sure, it's my fault, but I realize that sometimes we have deep rooted traumas and attachment styles that can get in the way without us even realizing it.
This is exactly what I'm going through right now. My co worker and I were really good friends and we spoke every day for last 6 months, even on weekends. He used to compliment me and ask me to hang out, overall very caring and understanding guy. One day I confessed my feelings to him and he said he only liked me as a friend😢. He's stopped talking to me over call and chats, but when I see him at work he still compliments me and takes all his breaks with me and behaves the same as before. I'm so confused and it really hurts😢😢😢😢
I'm sorry you're going through that! I had to stop talking to my past coworker as I drove him away with my obsession (understandably) but if I can give you any advice, it would be to accept the fact he sees you as a friend and to distance yourself from your coworker (even just some) for you're own well being. If you can be ok with truly being just friends with him, that's great but if you need to space yourself and focus on making healthy relationships/building the friendships you already have, I would advice you to do this for YOU. Life is too short to torture ourselves with what we think we want but can't have. Just remember that if he only sees you as a friend, that's ok. because there are going to be a lot of people out there who will adore spending time with you and want to be with you for YOU. @@zeebebany
Okay but in what universe is "my phone died" a plausible explanation after ghosting someone, no one believes that lmao 💀
So that’s what he was doing to me this entire time wow that’s so wrong and for a minute I actually thought he loved me but he didn’t he just wanted someone to be obsessed with him and worship him the way I was doing 😢 I’m never falling for these tricks again everybody’s getting rejected
Yeh stay away if you can't controll your emotions men don't need more psychos
Sounds like you need to work on yourself. There's plenty of decent dudes out there. Just don't go for douche bags. Taking it to the extreme of never dating is rarely a fulfilling answer.
@@Junkmailings Pretty much. Not to mention she's just letting him control her even outside of the relationship since she's choosing to reject everyone based on the effect of tricks she'll supposedly never fall for again. He's still living rent free in that head
I am a victim of both of these effects by one person. I would've commented "I'll just move on from such people they don't affect me " but you know when it actually happens it's extremely different and sometimes it happens when you're at your worst and you aren't that strong and cautious to realize what's happening until it happens and then you get suicidal thoughts or something dangerous harmful thoughts. Please beware of such people. They're really dangerous.
I wish indian men stop simping
Try to be sigma .
Don't lose your self respect brother
Suicidal thoughts because of a person you met sometime ago??? Hell nahh bro, we Indians are better than this, STAY STRONG BROTHER!!
(Judging by your username that you may be Indian)
This works on anxious and codependent people! A healthy person would never fall for this and cut ties with you in a blink of an eye!
This is exactly what someone did and I still let them do , I am ready to throw it in then they run back , doing this same exact thing ,thanks for lovely advise and I'm ready to run off , let them see
I would feel bad for the guy that wanna date her
Everyone is beatable
Not really lol, all he has to do is play dumb and letting her think she's the one doing the manipulation but she's really the one manipulating her lmao
@@stevenstovar5297 sure stevens. Did you think about this one in the shower?
Do u think she is the only one who do this lmao u are gullible
@@stevenstovar5297 you realize when a person knows about manipulation, theyll just break up and leave? Hahahaha
What on earth could he possibly do once shes gone?
This only works if you have some sort of attraction built. Don’t do it out of the blue if you like them but they don’t even look your way. They won’t give a shat
Happens to me before and yes I was addicted. You feel you need to justify your self worth and the person keep rejecting you. At the end, I realized it was toxic and quit. But it was very addictive, like a painful addiction.
Those are just "mix pleasure with pain" and "create temptation" in Robert greene's book the art of seduction btw.
I just got 'roller coaster-ed' last month and i totally cut them out of my life cuz I don't need that sort of negativity I've got zero tolerance for things like that
You literally saved me. I have been talking to a girl for about two months and she's been doing some strange acts such as you explained in this video. I was thinking about what is going on and now I have realised that she might be using this technique. Thanks )
I just realized my boyfriend that I’m totally in love with, has been constantly “having to do work areound the house” and I’d wait for hours for him to get back, and when he did he’d use a plausible explanation! And it’s this weird feeling because after 2 days of doing it I’m almost obsessed? And it’s crazy cause I’ve never felt like that for someone
They were done on me, most likely unintentionally. Made me want to KMS. It’s too painful. But also, i have limitations in terms of dating pool, so it worked extra well. I was obsessed like never in my life, went crazy, started to hate myself. I had physical symptoms too, pain in the heart abd palpitations. However, the person also lovebombed me and met the needs noone ever met in my life and won’t ever meet, so that contributed majorly too.
Obsession? this causes me to be like "just be up front, if you don't like me like that cool, there are 7b people out there"
Actually it's 8 billion now..lol
@@michaelbishop3439 7.837 billion, I just googled it homie.
A guy's been trying to do that with me but I'm already in love with my toxic ex and I'm focused on moving on from him so much that the manipulator person doesn't even get the full attention. All I think is the I'm not an important friend for them
This is true. It was done to me. A year has gone by and I'm still not ok.
I hope you get better. I faced the same thing and I still am not better
@@harleenprabhakar3224 It's definitely been a big year of personal growth. I'm excited for the future. Very grateful & proud of who I've become despite adversary. I pray for your healing and growth as we move into 2023. It might not ever be ok what they did, but we can choose to create our own happiness and grow from the experiences that shape us ✨ ♥
OMG the second one happened with me , thank God you told me , this is a life saver 💖
Sounds like Kindergarten to me 🤷🏻♀️ would never pay attention again to a person treating me like this
I don't know if it was deliberate (given we were 15/16 at the time) but my ex always did this. Basically his excuse was he was "bad at messaging" but I kid you not it took 10 days at one point for him to message me back. He would always use oneliners of: "oops sorry I missed that!", "sorry I didn't get back to you, been so busy!" seemingly cheerful but would always always make me so fucking pissed off and (yes) would further my obsessed feelings with him. Additionally, when we were at school (even when we were dating) we NEVER talked. Like we could be together RIGHT next to each other, waiting for our class teacher or something, and he would turn and speak to another person or he would literally be having a conversation with people that were at the back of the line or something! There was only ONE time we hung out together at school and that was when I asked just to see but after that nothing. After he dumped me he kept giving me weird signals sometimes "yes" sometimes "no". Or when I mentioned that a lad was asking if we should date he seemed to get jealous but then would play it off, even though he was saying at the same time there was this other girl that liked him (notice it was never him liking them just them liking him, happened with like 3 other people excluding me). He seemed to get absolutely high off of other people having crushes on him even if he didn't reciprocate.
Then when I met my current wonderful partner he got even fucking weirder (resulted in the end of our friendship) as he was wanting to "walk me home" complaining when I spoke about how much I liked this guy, or just weird other passive aggressive shit.
This video actually provides a succinct situation of what I went through- makes a lot of sense!
I know what it feels like, something similar happened to me too. My ex would always invite some of his friends to our dates or would stay all the time to entertain himself with activities that doesn’t interest me and never bothered to care of how I would feel. It was never a quality time for both of us, always me chasing him, trying to be a part of his world, doing all the stuffs that made me uncomfortable just to be near him. That was frustrating and I was always miserable, then if I say something he would say that my anger is a problem. Of course when we were out with his friends I would always be ignored and had to find company in other persons to not feel isolated. 😢 Just because sometimes he showed some affection towards me (obviously when noone else’s around, like he was shameful of me) I feel like I was reborn and there was some rewards for my sacrifice. It took me 7 years to get out of that situation.
@@nhatanhle Jesus. 7 years of your life with such a tone-deaf, neglectful an (likely) manipulative asshole. I'm glad you got out of that situation. So so glad for you. And yes you describe your situation so similarly to my experience. His presence always felt like a drug. I'd get high in the attention, despite how scarce it was. I craved it. So much so that I developed an unhealthy obsession with my imagination. I imagined the perfect boyfriend. The perfect image of him. And I clung to it. Tight.
And it caused me to have so many unrealistic expectations of him. Of our relationship. That I don't fault for. But it's the neglect that pushed me towards it. God it got to be such a mess.
But I'm so so glad that you were able to get out. You should be SO proud of yourself for that. I hope you're able (if ou haven't already) to find someone much more deserving of you, someone who loves you and treats you well. 💜
I didn't know this before but I rejected a guy last year and told him I couldn't be in a relationship because of my studies he said okay. Then 2 months later he asked me again and said no again he didn't want that but said okay, this year asked me again and I was like will this dude just give up. Now after watching this video I realise the obsession 🤦🏻♀️
No offense but from your profile picture you’re a 4/10 I dunno why he was chasing for a year,I’m just saying
Every manipulation technique you post about is basically a version of hot and cold
Man thats why i am so obsessed with her
the fact that someone has been doing these things exactly the same with me is just making me so anxious.
I had a guy come on to me 37 years ago. He was so adorable and funny. He did both those things and yes I became obsessed but I kept my distance after he rejected me and was heartbroken...soo heartbroken but I know now that I was never in love with him..even though I thought at the time I was. Reflection of the past it was rejection that was so hard to deal with.i think it was so hard for me because I never knew my dad and it just reinforced that I was not worthy to be loved...wished I would have known my worth then..
Same i was treated like trash by a narcissist. It even ended in physical assault 😥. It stems from me growing up with a narc as a father. I thought i was worthless.
I accidentally have done both before. Especially the one with late responses but mostly because of anxiety and then I get back to them and feel they deserve a reason why, and just the fact I feel detached from people because of everything I’ve been through so it causes me to not really feel the need to reach out
I've done this by accident and they literally became OBSESSED with me! It's true 🤦♀️
That’s what he’s doing on me 😭😂
Leave!!! And go on with your life. ❤️
I did this to a guy but I'm just realising it rn🤡
Usss
Sis same!! 💀 I feel awful
This was spot on my ex boyfriend for 5 years of my life. It messed with my head so much because of how innocent it all appeared to be. I’m not even sure he realized what he was doing. But the very last time he tried to make contact by literally dropping off birthday gifts to me in my driveway, I never responded. It’s so sad, I wasted so many years of my youth on this person. I’d rather have someone be directly abusive extreme than be so covert and manipulative like this.
The first one happened to me. I got depressed during this..my self-esteem disappeared. I had good figure but I didn't see it. I felt not enough. People, don't do this to anyone pls.
I cracked at the point where she said "my phone died" as a plausible explanation. 🤣
Well if someone rejects me I know its time to go. I think this works for people with attachment issues.
Don’t leave you should play back and manipulate it’s enjoyable game
pov: you realise your crush is using the roller coaster effect-
sis thank you so much to make this video a guy I was talking to did the same to me but now I released he is playing mind games I have focus on myself
the first tactic doesn't work for me because a guy tried to do that by asking me to stop talking to him and after 6 months he started talking to me again and I just replied: " weren't you the one who asked me to stop talking to you? I'm just doing what you asked" and he didn't say anything else r/Maliciouscompliance 😂
Lol, I think he did it wrong 💀
@@gacha_kyrie6671 yes 😂
Theyre mentality unstable.....probably
@@kim6314 yes, probably 😂
The guy told me I’m done thru text, so I blocked him and never texted him then I saw him and pretended like I didn’t know him, the guy was so angry. He tapped my shoulder and said hey you never text and I said do I know you? Best revenge 😂 I told him I deserved more than that and a whole lot more, you asshole!!
One of my school crush used to do this to me (probably unknowingly) and it was really hurting me coz in the end he had reasonable explanation for everything and it made me feel as if i am always wrong but i decided to end this cycle of stressing and relief by breaking ties with him......
But now i am exactly like this unconsciously and i didn't realize it until i figured out why everyone i meet become obsessed with me and falls for me. I'm not really a social person so i disappear asap but at the same time i don't want to hurt them or make them feel that I'm ignoring them, so i give a reasonable explanation later.
Samee sissy sameee
Those people who can't able to manipulate people in real life 😅😢 so they come to CZcams and teach other to how to manipulate 😮😂.. jai shree krishna 😊🎉❤ have a nice day..✨ and keep posting 😊 ✨🌅☺️
After falling for both of them in the past year, I can testify that both work exceptionally well. Ghosting, gaslighting, passive-aggressive attitude and what not. A few very brutal lessons were learnt.
People do this unknowingly and then deny that their doing it.
If someone will do that for sure it will be last thing to do with me.
Toxic and narcissistic behavior
all the guys i rejected are obsessed with me, even after months and years. Because i never gave them an exact reason other than i wasnt feeling it. They may not be obsessed with who or how i am, but definitely obsessed with the fact they couldn't obtain me.
A guy did this stuff to me and I saw through his childish mentality level. I tried to be patient but it wasnt worth it. I want happiness in my life! I changed my number, grabbed my savings and bought my first house 35 miles away. My friends were telling me he was so perplexed by my dissappearence.
These work on weak minded people, people pleasers, or low self esteem peeps. Emotionally mature and more mentally strong / stable beings will just "wish them the best" as they won't have interest in pursuing or entertaining childish / toxic behaviours. Time and energy are priceless resources!
Surprisingly, the first one happened to me. We were just on stage of getting to know each other. The girl did that to me twice but the second time she did it, I walked away without a second thought.
when I realized that this was the reason why I was so attached to my past situationship. He was so toxic and now I know.
I do walk away if I'm disrespected. For example, a girl asked her guy friend to invite me on a walk together to a supermarket with them. I don't know for what purpose maybe trying to get me jealous. When we are walking together, the girl kept avoiding me when I try to walk beside her for some reason. Then I bought a candy from the supermarket and did the walk away. 1 hour later when they came back, I offered her a candy I bought, and she was full of emotion, she started asking me a lot of random unrelated questions like crazy, then look straight at me while blushing.
okay, I'm not aware that I've been using these, hahaha my bad.
Somehow i feel i did it too....but im not aware i was trapping someone 😱
😂😂
You may like someone but be too scared to in a relationship with them because you may scared getting hurt again. That's not manipulation, this is being you not ready for having someone in your life. Focusing yourself at this matter should be your first priority. No one should please for whom they like but first their self.
She is merely explaining how it works don't hate the player hate the game 🎮
@@hubbardengland3223 eh can we hate the player for not understanding the point of the game??
My child’s father does the first to me. We’ve been together for three years! I definitely am attached to him but I’m gaining the ability to not accept that type of behavior and expecting what I know I deserve. I think many people are very abusive, and psychology proves it with factual evidence. I know I’ve been manipulated for years by many people. Trying to break free from these abusers chains.
He is exactly doing this ! Omg . Thank you saying that
my personal favorite one is being super close to them and then leave out of nowhere. And when they try to reach out to you just deny your relationship with them like "I didn't know you see me as a friend?"
): its worse when its a romantic interest leading u on. i get mindfucekd so bad and it doesnt cause me to be obssessed with them instead i feel even more undeserving of love and become more emotionally unavailable
Ohh God i did this to my roommate bcz she had a lot of frnds and one day she came to me and said i hurt her 🥲
@@varsharajauria5187 aww it not ur fault if u didnt do it on purpose. peeps dont communicate enough and not enough intimacy in general
Not me doing that to two guys I'm speaking to right now.😂
That seems to explain why I used to be obsessed with my crush even though there were indications that the feelings were not reciprocated. They always had a reasonable explanation for everything. I only stopped having feelings for them when they started having a relationship with someone else
This is so true! Stay away from such people.
The rollercoaster effect is so true. Human mind is extremely complicated, I'd crave attention and consistency from even my enemy if we were to stand together and they left me for a second since I easily panic when I'm alone.
I do this all the time 😵💫😵💫 it's not that I want or desire obsession. It's just, I loose interest in playing an active role in a relationship. It's tiring
Fuck.. I didn't know I was toxic💀
But what if my phone really died.. And i genuinely wanna focus on myself and don't wanna hurt them so i just politely reject.
It's a lil bit confusing
When you get this done back to you in retaliation for allowing yourself to take some 'do not disturb' time for yourself, shame on them. When I procrastinate or get overwhelmed to the point I do this to other people (knowing that a timely response would be a powerful ease to someone's mental state) to manipulate someone, Hell🥶 head trips are fucked up.
Same thoughts as you. That’s why they need to be stable on their own too, that is what I have always been telling them to do self love and self care. I’m not really gonna be 24/7 with them. I have my own fair share of problems and self improvement.
Narcissist people are looking this clip carefully...tysm for this video and now I can spot such people.
.
.
Edit: oh and one more fact super empaths can recognise this pattern..and myself being one many people have left me. I always thought I was the problem, but no when my psychologist told me I just have talent of seeing such people and they know I'm threat that will make them expose that's y they bully you and you cry. This line changed my life and I'm now more confident and learning a part of respecting my own self.
THIS is what a narcissist does. And then some. RUN AWAY from toxic people.