My take always: 1. Let it happen naturally and detach from the outcome. Don’t seek that validation and assurance. Validate yourself and don’t try hard. Feel yourself and be confident.
"don't give a shit about the outcome of the interactions you have." So basically think about woman as items like where if mr beast say they will give you a ferrari and give you a buggati you will be ok with it? And so if you want woman X, be ok if you lose X?
I’ve done that and after a while, despite the woman displaying interest, I say, “Nice talking to you, goodbye.” I don’t want to come off as a try hard. Why am I still alone? 🤷🏼♂️
Your comment was "I'm trying so hard to stop trying so hard". I think that is so funny because of how much I can personally relate to it. That is what I meant. Sometimes the most simple of comments can be loaded with humor.
@@user-mu8dm4rk7g Sorry, but "be yourself" is one of the laziest and most boring advice ever. I used this advice for a huge chunk of my life and my dating life was total crap. Don't follow the easiest advice there is. As soon as I started looking into specific mindsets and models, things I could change in order to actually get close to that "attractive stereotype", everything became exponentially good. Of course, it's not ok to follow each advice and line mechanically. You have to still be flexible and use these models as inspiration, agreed. A good analogy I found for this is "discipline equals freedom". Seems counter intuitive, but it's the truth. You have to filter and change your behaviors in order for it to work.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her..
It’s painful, I realise there’s a temptation to obsess over the lost partner, wife or husband, which makes us suffer even more. I am going through something similar and we weren’t married, but the breakup only happened at the beginning of the year
Use that anger and sadness to fuel you. Go build an amazing body, improve your income, learn new things. The best revenge is to move on and be a better version of you.
Disinterest is not the same as "being authentic and not caring about what other people think about your true self". I think you just confirmation-biased yourself here...
I noticed that intense eye contact with a small humble smile, a genuine approach and complete honesty works amazingly. You talked about being indifferent to the outcome and it is very true, it works wonders for myself and for those around me. As an introvert however I don't have much use for my charms xD.
I actually noticed this fairly recently too. I had severe social anxiety where I couldn’t even look into someone’s eyes while talking to them. But with my current job where I have to interact with hundreds of people a day, I’ve gotten way better at this. And I’ve also noticed that keeping eye contact (not too much to be a creep) and with a genuine smile while being confident gets you those “fuck me” eyes if you know what I’m talking about lmao. That and just people being more open to you.
Agree Francesca. When I was young I was trying hard, and you never get the girl you want. Now I dont care, just living my own life, and as long as you are happy and have a good aura around you, things happen you never imagined or thought it would happen.
I love listening to you talk about confidence, self esteem and when you're talking about being a better, whole person in general! I wish you make more longer videos like this. I don't have any recommendations but i hope some people in here suggest good and unique ideas.
Yes. It's an energy that is 2nd nature. Like a person is naturally sexy, and is like you say totally free from the outcome of other peoples' reactions. If you have it, you know...
I see what you're saying about not trying too hard. Attempting to seduce is still a bit of a spectrum in terms of trying. You still need social skills to flirt and tease but non-nonchalantly. You also need to build rapport, because only teasing/flirting gets annoying real fast. If only have the rapport building without the flirting/teasing skills, then it becomes a friend zone. You need to do both confidently without looking for a result. Don't react angry or sad if you don't get the reaction you want. You just move on and keep being fun, eventually you'll find people with matching energy.
Only a great phychologist who has a deep knowledge of the subjest and went through a same situation can explain this kind of topic deeply and briefly.❤
I have a golden retriever personality, and I'm very confident. I don't know if it is seductive, but my female friends are always writing me to hang out or see how I am.
I think, for people who doesn't reach that feeling of self-confidence u talking about, it's hard to imagine how this might work. U r absolutely right, and the only thing I want to say: without practice in being self-centered in connection with people, u cannot reach that u want. If u just listen to the information, u'll not have real experience. So good luck:)
Hey, could you pls cover the topic of friends becoming lovers, and if a girl could have feelings for her friend when they’ve been friends for a long time? Like would she stay friends with you bc she’s too shy? Or could she develop feelings later on in the friendship? Context: Ik it sounds like I’ve been friend-zoned but honestly I’m not super into her, it’s just she gives hints every now and then, idk if it means she likes me or if I’m overthinking, but her sister (and everyone else lol) also says she likes me as well, but I have no idea. If she does like me she hides it really well.
Ofc you can break out of the friendzone (which mostly is a "not NOW" instead of a "NOT AT ALL interested), create a natural situation where you're alone and be bold, playing the long game won't do it
As a guy, this is my take: Looks ste.important, but they are like a minimum threshold. What really will get me to like you and pursue somthing with you is your personality, and how you interact with me. If you act cold, aloof, "femme fatale" etc... You actually look really needy in my eyes. This is because I know you are doing this because you are seeking validation. This makes me question if you really are the girl you pretend to be, or if it's all just a facade. If you are able to interact with me normally, without acting aloof, playing cool, being mean, trying to hustle drinks from me etc. And you are ALSO beautiful/sexy, that will make me insanely attracted to you. Not many girls do that
I dont know if you'll value this since you clearly are very certain of yourself... but as a hot/cold girl who has been called "aloof" I dont care about peoples validation or coming off desperate, I think I suddenly go cold on people because I fear intimacy and becoming suddenly afraid of people when they get too close because of the harm they can do at that proximity. I dont want to be hurt and I feel better when people are at a distance. People have accused me of "acting aloof" and have tried to insult with all the stereotypical bullshit "playing hard to get" "stuckup" insults. And it makes sense because it's hard to tell the difference between acting aloof and actually being aloof because there isnt much of a difference and a lot of men angrily arrive at your conclusion. Tldr; Some people- maybe teenage girls might have this reasoning but I wouldn't prescribe this explanation to every person
Being yourself is not bad advise. The problem is these day alot of people try so hard to be someone. Don't even know who they are.. Should also add, be your best self. Always seek self improvement to be the best version of yourself
I could listen to you talk all day. I really miss the European accents I had the pleasure of hearing while I was stationed in Kaiserslautern, Germany.🇩🇪
Funny. People know that you are into them and they don’t want it. People think you don’t care and suddenly they want you. Yet every single woman I know is asking where the men are that will treat them well….. hmmmm…. Couldn’t possibly be the men that actually showed interest would be willing to treat you a certain way 😂 PS. Most men who are good at seduction know exactly what we are doing. It might come off as natural and that we aren’t trying to hard and all that jazz, but we know exactly what we are doing. The seduction is intentional and we don’t care if it works because if you say no someone else will say yes soon. It is a learned skill just like any other
As a guy I realized this too. They don’t realize that it’s an act to get them. Like, as guys we can clearly tell how other guys talk to us compared to how they talk to girls but girls most often can’t tell that the guy is speaking to them differently to win them over. I’ve tried this myself and my god does it work like a charm. But it’s very tiring tbh.
I totally understand and I 💯 agree.. But the problem is I don't even know how to be myself anymore, I don't even know myself. 😅 Maybe I've been trying to be another person for too long.
I one 100% back this up. This happened to me. Now that girl doesn't even leave me. All I wanted to was chat and have fun chatting and stuff. First she was ok. Then she doesn't even like being treated like a friend. Now I'm in a relationship
This was interesting to watch. I am questioning myself and I realize that I don't behave in any other way than being me as what I am. Ok sometimes I tried to seduce not being authentic but that takes a lot of energy and couldn't last long. I think that some people believe that I play a game of acting because I can sometimes be eccentric. Yes for sure I am behaving the way I am. That's maybe why it doesn't seduce any girl (apparently) and nothing happens 🤔 At least there's no bad surprise! Thanks for sharing your point of view 🙏
Indeed, accepting yourself and your limits and trying to surpass yourself is the way to gain self confidence. Also, not caring of what others may think, keep being yourself and working on yourself is the only way to live your life and eventually attract the right people. It's also true that if you don't try to talk to someone you like and never try to do a first step, probably people won't do that too.
The best advice I ever got on body shape/appearance/health was simply "Be in the best shape for you." You can't do more, and if you do you'll be seen through.
@@aspect0097 NO. But you can hit the gym as long as you want, you won't resemble Schwarzenegger more than a little bit. As a woman, you can tan and tone your body to the best of your ability but you won't come out of it looking like [insert your favourite supermodel here]. The point of this advisory is to do the best you can, and not get neurotic that you don't look like a f*cking movie star because for most that's simply impossible and will wreck your personal confidence on top.
@@videowilliams okay i guess i slightly mis-interpreted your comment, i thought this was some copium and you were basically saying look how you want to look and that you shouldnt feel the need to change your body, but i understand what you mean now and i agree.
Speaking of anything in life from getting a job to an award to a raise to a love partner the harder you try the more you drift away from authenticity. Have a goal but be flexible and not need the goal as you work toward it. You’ll always win.
Most people ain't shit, they are fickle, fake, opportunistic and love to ruin beautiful things. Don't stress it, just do you and keep making yourself happy and safe!
I think there is a big difference between men and women trying to seduce the other. Women can probably get away with just sitting pretty, but for men, who need to somehow show his status and wealth, it's a totally different ball game. Plus, I think, there are many men (including myself) and women who really enjoy the flirting game.
I strongly suggest you to part ways with anyone that tells you wealth is a factor of seduction. The only people that validate that toxic mentality are "Alpha" grifter on the internet that literally pays women to appear on their shows and insecure young men that use it as a cope out to not work on themselves and project their frustrations on women. No descent human being gives a damn.
Yeah, this is kinda weird but interesting analogy. Back in highschool there are girls from school who likes me but the person I'm attracted to and I'm trying to get doesn't seem to like me, it's like the more you try the more they won't be attracted to you and the more you "chill" and just be friendly the more they become attracted to you. Which is kinda hard because you can't really control your feelings LOL
I kinda agree and disagree. Seduction is not a passive act, it involves effort and planning. Like birds and other animals we have a mating ritual too. The hardest truth about seduction, is to understand that you cannot seduce anyone. Some people do not share a common destiny. You must figure out if the person of interest resonates with your character, if so, the ritual can begin, otherwise you will waste precious time. As for being yourself and just let things turn out all by themselves I would reconsider. I would recommend to never be boring, rather build an exciting aura around your personality. Make sure that the other persons understands your motives. If I don’t communicate that I want more than a platonic relationship it will never happen. However, being very natural and spontaneous is also very seductive.
I think you missed the point of the video. You thinking too much. Planning and strategizing is a charade, if you confident and boring, youre mysterious. Women get turn on by realness like a boring man that exudes confidence. What does this man offer that makes him so confident when he doesn have an "exiting aura". Really i suggest you watch the video again.
@@kivupaterson8082 YOU missed the point of the commenter. It's true that you can't just seduce anyone. It's not like life is that simple that anybody can just seduce whoever they are interested in. And ACTING confident and aloof is in itself planning - you are going against your natural behavior if that's not how you typically are. That in itself is strategizing, to behave in a specific way not normal to your usual behavior. But none of that will work if the guy isn't interested in you in the first place... there has to be attraction and that has to be mutually understood otherwise the "seduction" isn't going anywhere. Now, if you are already involved or becoming involved with someone, then sure this strategy or charade of exuding confidence and not caring about the outcome could work - but it doesn't guarantee sustainability because again, just as you pointed out, it is a strategy and a charade... it is a manipulation tactic. And if that is not how someone naturally is, then they are simply pretending and nobody can keep that up pretending in the long term. Because reality is, you ARE concerned about the outcome and you can't put that off forever if that truly is not your personality (for a multitude of reasons). An honest relationship where you don't have to play any of these games and can simply be yourself because the other person is just as invested in you, that is best. It is however, a good gauge when to disengage with somebody who is simply not that interested in you or giving you what you need... if you have to play seduction games that go against your personality, then that person may not be fore you.
In my 30+ years of life, I can vouch that being passive and waiting for things to fall on one's lap by "being yourself" will just result in nothing ever happening romantically. Especially as an average guy who is not exceptionally attractive. One has to be decisive and make the move when the opportunity presents itself. If one does not know how to act upon it, it will slip by. That's why being prepared is important. There's a saying luck is when opportunity meets preparation.
@@rivap.4791My friend maybe when YOU think confidence, YOU think ACTING. To that, yes you're right, it would be manipulation, planning, strategizing and honestly, its to much work. Life is better lived without much thinking and following your gut in the moment.
@@jys365 Seduction may require being active to the guy who is always passive. To the guy who is always active Seduction will be passive. If you don't understand, the guy always active is constantly making decisive choices, naturally. I personal don't make them, I just listen to my gut, always. Yeah
"A powerful seducer will not even try to seduce you. It just happens naturally, they're very relaxed and charming." Aka, if you run across an extremely attractive individual, he/she will be passively "seducing" you because they actually aren't trying. You're just innately attracted to them. This is such a silly drawn out explanation that attraction is pretty much physicality, so you'll naturally perceive everything they do as seduction because you want them. If they're picking their nose, they're "bold", if they aren't talkative they're "mysterious", if they're talkative, they're "confident"! GASP, and they didn't even try. I wonder why... lmfao.
Attraction is subjective. There’s superficial attraction, game/similar humor/banter. Then there’s emotional attachment afterwards. The art of subliminal communication has a lot to do with body language, vocal inflections, words said and unsaid, eye contact, sexual tension, the dark triad, obviously confidence, genuineness/being real aka being yourself and if two people can’t communicate on a similar wavelength? Try again another day.
@@FloydRunner2049 Height, facial harmony, hair thickness, colour and shape of the eyes, jawline and body frame and symmetry are the most important factors when it comes to attracting women. The only women that "say" they don't pay attention to these things are the fat or the ugly ones. Humour, game,personality and other body language nonsense aren't going to fool any girl, especially attractive ones!!
@@nektariosorfan A tall guy with above average facial features but not so symmetrical will still attract more women than the average looking tall guy that is perfectly symmetrical
@@FloydRunner2049 Avarage/Ugly looking guy with great sense of humor + eye contact + sexual tension blablabla = CREEP. If you want good dating advice never ask woman. Always ask guy who is getting all the girls. You will notice how important genetics are. Stop BS yourself and eat blue pills.
Thanks for this, being the person who is loved by all is my goal and I'm investing great effort to that but it ends up with exhausting myself, I remember when I don't really care if someone likes me or not but when someone confessed to me that almost all the girls liked me, it changed my life, I get so worked up that i get to the point where I'm focusing on how to be loved by others but now I'm awoken thanks, it really helped me to be my own self again.
From what I've noticed, personality is even more important than looks. Wish I could get my personality back. Debilitating head pain without relief in sight will kind of do that to you.
It's true but it's just the basics. Also you forgot to mention that this is how mostly females are "seduced" and this is exactly why it is easier to hook-up with chicks I dont care about at all than to try to start a full on romantic relationship with a girl I actually like and hence get careful , conscious of myself and impressed by her and hence generate chances of getting friendzoned , so at the end of the day it again comes down to stuff that I MUST learn a hack of neutralizing a girl whom I actually like and adore... OR ....females can learn to choose better mates for themselves by overlooking or accepting simple mistake or fault of men of being obvious or too obvious of a seducer by simply unlearning their wired broken record that "men obviously interested in you are bad". Why it all has to be sneaky or salesman-like is beyond me.
You are worried that if they know you are interested in them they will not be interested? So you have to play it cool? If yes then just stop wasting time with "kids" and find a woman who isn't interested in playing games. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes;)
@@Ifidreamitidoit3566 its not a game, its biology :) women's subcoinsiousness is controlled by hormones, only grow ups (women in mid to late 20s tend to control these much better than teen girls)... thats the fact
hey, just wanted to say dont listen to that broad above, she's never had to attract women as a guy, be nonchalant and ull get the girl, it works for most women cause its their nature, if they think they have u they wont want u anymore.
So, is it bad to fall in love or get a crush? Because, as you said in your example if the traditional guys falls in love with the confident guy, that implies that the first guy lack of confidence or has insecurities that drain his confidence. So, is it better to visit a therapist if someone is about to get a crush with someone else?
out of everything i have seen there this is the most accurate video compared to the disaster that is out there in terms of relationship that you have to be alpha male beta male Gama male whatever good video keep doing video like this so the female word and male dont get trap by the others when a woman is interested everything is naturally now that in the process of the relationship you have to know each other of course
My years of experience have taught me that usually, the realest and most useful advices are the simplest ones. Just be natural. Nature has a way of making things work and you going out of your way to make a connection work would interfere with nature's methods. If everything had to be perfect in order for it to work out, then humanity wouldn't have made it this far because none of us are perfect and no moment is the perfect moment.
Girl that brought me to meet some of her friends told me they all liked me in a certain way, I was flirting with one of her best friends bit out of the blue after some drinks. Eventually here theory was that I was pretty authentic in that circle of people. I do think you need some degree of experience which results in confidence making you able to do it more naturally.
be yourself, but add some little things that will make a difference. If you are a complete fake, it will fail a lot, but if you are just there the same way you are with anyone else, will fail a lot too. Show interest, look at the eyes for moments and enjoy the view(cause you like this person right?), be more willing to smile, take some deep breath from time to time even if you feel you don't need it at the moment, stand facing towards the person, not too close... and some little things like this, but the rest just keep it real... Plus, getting in shape wont assure anything but will give you health and when it materializes the other person will enjoy it a lot more, so no excuses like "have to love me how I'm".
Shirley McLain once said of her brother Warren Beatty, that he doesn't make women fall in love with him, he makes them fall in love with themselves. Make her feel good about herself, not by complimenting her but by letting her shine.
This is lowkey an excellent advice for autistic people to stop masking* and start to stablish a healthy relationship with how their feelings work, abandoning the weight of desired social responses. Mental stability should ALWAYS come first. * Masking is when autistic people force themselves to act as "normal" (neurotypical) people without social disorder, miss regarding their own feeling and mental condition in fear of not taking part of a status quo.
My take always: 1. Let it happen naturally and detach from the outcome.
Don’t seek that validation and assurance. Validate yourself and don’t try hard. Feel yourself and be confident.
nice
Actually real
good acting doesn't`t look like acting ! similar idea.
@esotericbliss5887
What's the point then?
That's the Archer Paradox: You're aiming the arrow at something, but you can't control what happens to the arrow.
Summarizing : be authentic and don't give a shit about the outcome of the interactions you have.
Yes definitely, I think this is right up there in the top 3.
or have a vagina lol
Don't forget to be physically attractive.
"don't give a shit about the outcome of the interactions you have."
So basically think about woman as items like where if mr beast say they will give you a ferrari and give you a buggati you will be ok with it?
And so if you want woman X, be ok if you lose X?
I’ve done that and after a while, despite the woman displaying interest, I say, “Nice talking to you, goodbye.” I don’t want to come off as a try hard. Why am I still alone? 🤷🏼♂️
There is no seduction as being authentic.
Dont be silly
Yeah She is filled with demonic spirits that is why she keeps brainwashing people in the name of psychology.
Lol
Ha funny joke
Are women worth you investing time amd energy into them though.
I'm trying so hard to stop trying so hard 🤣
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CUTE COMMENT!!!! YOU ARE CUTE!
I was so confused when I saw your comment because I haven't been interested in yoyoing for years
Your comment was "I'm trying so hard to stop trying so hard". I think that is so funny because of how much I can personally relate to it. That is what I meant. Sometimes the most simple of comments can be loaded with humor.
@@blitzkrieg6872 Dang i guess it's working hahaha.
In short, be yourself and let the seduction happen automagically. What a beautiful and positive message you are giving. Keep up the good work!
Unfortunately, its complete nonsense, and incredibly damaging to 99% of men, who have absolutely no confidence, no verbal, no chill...
I don't think it works for everyone. I have NEVER had any woman be interested in me. Guess I am just worthless.
@@brcage Why is it complete nonsense?
@@Moesmakendehakker658 he is just coping hard. Be yourself, send positive vibes, chill out - and you're golden
@@user-mu8dm4rk7g Sorry, but "be yourself" is one of the laziest and most boring advice ever. I used this advice for a huge chunk of my life and my dating life was total crap. Don't follow the easiest advice there is. As soon as I started looking into specific mindsets and models, things I could change in order to actually get close to that "attractive stereotype", everything became exponentially good.
Of course, it's not ok to follow each advice and line mechanically. You have to still be flexible and use these models as inspiration, agreed. A good analogy I found for this is "discipline equals freedom". Seems counter intuitive, but it's the truth. You have to filter and change your behaviors in order for it to work.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her..
@jay pritchett wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@jay pritchett Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
It’s painful, I realise there’s a temptation to obsess over the lost partner, wife or husband, which makes us suffer even more. I am going through something similar and we weren’t married, but the breakup only happened at the beginning of the year
Have you looked into the law of assumption and Neville Goddard's teachings 🙂?
Everyone is you pushed out is a great place to start 🌼
Use that anger and sadness to fuel you. Go build an amazing body, improve your income, learn new things. The best revenge is to move on and be a better version of you.
Honestly, disinterest and unshakeable self-concept are literally magnetic. Tried and tested many times. 👍🤞
Disinterest is not the same as "being authentic and not caring about what other people think about your true self". I think you just confirmation-biased yourself here...
I noticed that intense eye contact with a small humble smile, a genuine approach and complete honesty works amazingly. You talked about being indifferent to the outcome and it is very true, it works wonders for myself and for those around me. As an introvert however I don't have much use for my charms xD.
Practice. A little here a little there.
Like a little brick and a hundred more builds wall
I actually noticed this fairly recently too. I had severe social anxiety where I couldn’t even look into someone’s eyes while talking to them. But with my current job where I have to interact with hundreds of people a day, I’ve gotten way better at this. And I’ve also noticed that keeping eye contact (not too much to be a creep) and with a genuine smile while being confident gets you those “fuck me” eyes if you know what I’m talking about lmao. That and just people being more open to you.
Agree Francesca. When I was young I was trying hard, and you never get the girl you want. Now I dont care, just living my own life, and as long as you are happy and have a good aura around you, things happen you never imagined or thought it would happen.
I love listening to you talk about confidence, self esteem and when you're talking about being a better, whole person in general! I wish you make more longer videos like this. I don't have any recommendations but i hope some people in here suggest good and unique ideas.
Yes. It's an energy that is 2nd nature. Like a person is naturally sexy, and is like you say totally free from the outcome of other peoples' reactions. If you have it, you know...
What?
You’re spot on, you put into words and it resonates as truth
I see what you're saying about not trying too hard. Attempting to seduce is still a bit of a spectrum in terms of trying. You still need social skills to flirt and tease but non-nonchalantly. You also need to build rapport, because only teasing/flirting gets annoying real fast. If only have the rapport building without the flirting/teasing skills, then it becomes a friend zone. You need to do both confidently without looking for a result. Don't react angry or sad if you don't get the reaction you want. You just move on and keep being fun, eventually you'll find people with matching energy.
What if you never find someone with matching energy in this living dystopia?
@@bgoodfella7413 eventually you'll find people with matching energy.
Don't let what if's stop you.@@bgoodfella7413
@@bgoodfella7413need to actually meet new people to find matching energy
@@bgoodfella7413why do u think, We're living in a simulation?
I honestly like how you explain things!
I'm an Arab and I just love psychological analysis!
Thank you!♡
Great message. You have to love yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. And just live in the present moment. The rest will come naturally.
I love this, I'm so tired of people telling you should be Jessica Rabbit 24/7, I just wanna be myself, bruh
Only a great phychologist who has a deep knowledge of the subjest and went through a same situation can explain this kind of topic deeply and briefly.❤
I have a golden retriever personality, and I'm very confident. I don't know if it is seductive, but my female friends are always writing me to hang out or see how I am.
I have a bronze retriever 🐶 personality then😔
answer yourself if any of them opened their legs for you without you asking.
hint: if it was seductive you would know.
But you still stuck in the friendzone😂
@Ghostface it's ok, I don't have a crush on any of them, and then they present me to their friends who I don't let them to put me in the friendzone
Yesss Accept Who I Am & Be Myself . Be Confident Within Myself 💯🥰❤
I think, for people who doesn't reach that feeling of self-confidence u talking about, it's hard to imagine how this might work.
U r absolutely right, and the only thing I want to say: without practice in being self-centered in connection with people, u cannot reach that u want. If u just listen to the information, u'll not have real experience. So good luck:)
Hey, could you pls cover the topic of friends becoming lovers, and if a girl could have feelings for her friend when they’ve been friends for a long time? Like would she stay friends with you bc she’s too shy? Or could she develop feelings later on in the friendship?
Context: Ik it sounds like I’ve been friend-zoned but honestly I’m not super into her, it’s just she gives hints every now and then, idk if it means she likes me or if I’m overthinking, but her sister (and everyone else lol) also says she likes me as well, but I have no idea. If she does like me she hides it really well.
Ofc you can break out of the friendzone (which mostly is a "not NOW" instead of a "NOT AT ALL interested), create a natural situation where you're alone and be bold, playing the long game won't do it
As a guy, this is my take:
Looks ste.important, but they are like a minimum threshold. What really will get me to like you and pursue somthing with you is your personality, and how you interact with me.
If you act cold, aloof, "femme fatale" etc... You actually look really needy in my eyes. This is because I know you are doing this because you are seeking validation. This makes me question if you really are the girl you pretend to be, or if it's all just a facade.
If you are able to interact with me normally, without acting aloof, playing cool, being mean, trying to hustle drinks from me etc. And you are ALSO beautiful/sexy, that will make me insanely attracted to you. Not many girls do that
I dont know if you'll value this since you clearly are very certain of yourself... but as a hot/cold girl who has been called "aloof" I dont care about peoples validation or coming off desperate, I think I suddenly go cold on people because I fear intimacy and becoming suddenly afraid of people when they get too close because of the harm they can do at that proximity. I dont want to be hurt and I feel better when people are at a distance. People have accused me of "acting aloof" and have tried to insult with all the stereotypical bullshit "playing hard to get" "stuckup" insults. And it makes sense because it's hard to tell the difference between acting aloof and actually being aloof because there isnt much of a difference and a lot of men angrily arrive at your conclusion.
Tldr; Some people- maybe teenage girls might have this reasoning but I wouldn't prescribe this explanation to every person
Being yourself is not bad advise. The problem is these day alot of people try so hard to be someone. Don't even know who they are.. Should also add, be your best self. Always seek self improvement to be the best version of yourself
Thank you for everything Francesca, I love you and your content, keep it up girl
I could listen to you talk all day. I really miss the European accents I had the pleasure of hearing while I was stationed in Kaiserslautern, Germany.🇩🇪
Felt so calm after watching this, thanks a lot.
Funny. People know that you are into them and they don’t want it. People think you don’t care and suddenly they want you. Yet every single woman I know is asking where the men are that will treat them well….. hmmmm…. Couldn’t possibly be the men that actually showed interest would be willing to treat you a certain way 😂
PS. Most men who are good at seduction know exactly what we are doing. It might come off as natural and that we aren’t trying to hard and all that jazz, but we know exactly what we are doing. The seduction is intentional and we don’t care if it works because if you say no someone else will say yes soon. It is a learned skill just like any other
Strange info.
As a guy I realized this too. They don’t realize that it’s an act to get them. Like, as guys we can clearly tell how other guys talk to us compared to how they talk to girls but girls most often can’t tell that the guy is speaking to them differently to win them over. I’ve tried this myself and my god does it work like a charm. But it’s very tiring tbh.
I totally understand and I 💯 agree.. But the problem is I don't even know how to be myself anymore, I don't even know myself. 😅
Maybe I've been trying to be another person for too long.
Really makes sense I feel you explained that well even though it’s cliche, you elaborated on what being one’s self means imo. 😎✌️
I one 100% back this up. This happened to me. Now that girl doesn't even leave me. All I wanted to was chat and have fun chatting and stuff. First she was ok. Then she doesn't even like being treated like a friend. Now I'm in a relationship
This was interesting to watch. I am questioning myself and I realize that I don't behave in any other way than being me as what I am. Ok sometimes I tried to seduce not being authentic but that takes a lot of energy and couldn't last long. I think that some people believe that I play a game of acting because I can sometimes be eccentric. Yes for sure I am behaving the way I am. That's maybe why it doesn't seduce any girl (apparently) and nothing happens 🤔 At least there's no bad surprise! Thanks for sharing your point of view 🙏
Please talk about dynamics of expectations that stress a relationship
Got a reply from a fake account on telegram... Asking for donation... Beware the foul tongue
Thank you. I enjoyed hearing your accent & your good energy ❤
Indeed, accepting yourself and your limits and trying to surpass yourself is the way to gain self confidence. Also, not caring of what others may think, keep being yourself and working on yourself is the only way to live your life and eventually attract the right people. It's also true that if you don't try to talk to someone you like and never try to do a first step, probably people won't do that too.
The best advice I ever got on body shape/appearance/health was simply "Be in the best shape for you." You can't do more, and if you do you'll be seen through.
thats absolutely ridiculous, but if you feel good using this as a coping mechanism to not improve your health then go ahead right?🤣🤣
@@aspect0097 NO. But you can hit the gym as long as you want, you won't resemble Schwarzenegger more than a little bit. As a woman, you can tan and tone your body to the best of your ability but you won't come out of it looking like [insert your favourite supermodel here]. The point of this advisory is to do the best you can, and not get neurotic that you don't look like a f*cking movie star because for most that's simply impossible and will wreck your personal confidence on top.
@@videowilliams okay i guess i slightly mis-interpreted your comment, i thought this was some copium and you were basically saying look how you want to look and that you shouldnt feel the need to change your body, but i understand what you mean now and i agree.
Speaking of anything in life from getting a job to an award to a raise to a love partner the harder you try the more you drift away from authenticity. Have a goal but be flexible and not need the goal as you work toward it. You’ll always win.
Most people ain't shit, they are fickle, fake, opportunistic and love to ruin beautiful things. Don't stress it, just do you and keep making yourself happy and safe!
I think there is a big difference between men and women trying to seduce the other. Women can probably get away with just sitting pretty, but for men, who need to somehow show his status and wealth, it's a totally different ball game. Plus, I think, there are many men (including myself) and women who really enjoy the flirting game.
I strongly suggest you to part ways with anyone that tells you wealth is a factor of seduction.
The only people that validate that toxic mentality are "Alpha" grifter on the internet that literally pays women to appear on their shows and insecure young men that use it as a cope out to not work on themselves and project their frustrations on women.
No descent human being gives a damn.
Yeah, this is kinda weird but interesting analogy.
Back in highschool there are girls from school who likes me but the person I'm attracted to and I'm trying to get doesn't seem to like me, it's like the more you try the more they won't be attracted to you and the more you "chill" and just be friendly the more they become attracted to you. Which is kinda hard because you can't really control your feelings LOL
This is so true and also the best way to find love!
May i just say, i love your accent!
I kinda agree and disagree. Seduction is not a passive act, it involves effort and planning. Like birds and other animals we have a mating ritual too. The hardest truth about seduction, is to understand that you cannot seduce anyone. Some people do not share a common destiny. You must figure out if the person of interest resonates with your character, if so, the ritual can begin, otherwise you will waste precious time.
As for being yourself and just let things turn out all by themselves I would reconsider. I would recommend to never be boring, rather build an exciting aura around your personality. Make sure that the other persons understands your motives. If I don’t communicate that I want more than a platonic relationship it will never happen. However, being very natural and spontaneous is also very seductive.
I think you missed the point of the video. You thinking too much. Planning and strategizing is a charade, if you confident and boring, youre mysterious. Women get turn on by realness like a boring man that exudes confidence. What does this man offer that makes him so confident when he doesn have an "exiting aura". Really i suggest you watch the video again.
@@kivupaterson8082 YOU missed the point of the commenter. It's true that you can't just seduce anyone. It's not like life is that simple that anybody can just seduce whoever they are interested in. And ACTING confident and aloof is in itself planning - you are going against your natural behavior if that's not how you typically are. That in itself is strategizing, to behave in a specific way not normal to your usual behavior. But none of that will work if the guy isn't interested in you in the first place... there has to be attraction and that has to be mutually understood otherwise the "seduction" isn't going anywhere.
Now, if you are already involved or becoming involved with someone, then sure this strategy or charade of exuding confidence and not caring about the outcome could work - but it doesn't guarantee sustainability because again, just as you pointed out, it is a strategy and a charade... it is a manipulation tactic. And if that is not how someone naturally is, then they are simply pretending and nobody can keep that up pretending in the long term. Because reality is, you ARE concerned about the outcome and you can't put that off forever if that truly is not your personality (for a multitude of reasons). An honest relationship where you don't have to play any of these games and can simply be yourself because the other person is just as invested in you, that is best.
It is however, a good gauge when to disengage with somebody who is simply not that interested in you or giving you what you need... if you have to play seduction games that go against your personality, then that person may not be fore you.
In my 30+ years of life, I can vouch that being passive and waiting for things to fall on one's lap by "being yourself" will just result in nothing ever happening romantically. Especially as an average guy who is not exceptionally attractive.
One has to be decisive and make the move when the opportunity presents itself.
If one does not know how to act upon it, it will slip by. That's why being prepared is important.
There's a saying luck is when opportunity meets preparation.
@@rivap.4791My friend maybe when YOU think confidence, YOU think ACTING. To that, yes you're right, it would be manipulation, planning, strategizing and honestly, its to much work. Life is better lived without much thinking and following your gut in the moment.
@@jys365 Seduction may require being active to the guy who is always passive. To the guy who is always active Seduction will be passive.
If you don't understand, the guy always active is constantly making decisive choices, naturally. I personal don't make them, I just listen to my gut, always.
Yeah
As I have dealt with a very bad experience I don't want to sedcue anyone for my own good.
I was expecting another one of those pretentious videos, but this was actually really wise and insightful
Love you Francesca. Wanted to hear this. Tired of juggling different Jacks in me. Best thing is to be yourself and attract the right person.
I don’t know who she is or why CZcams recommended her channel but she is on point
"A powerful seducer will not even try to seduce you. It just happens naturally, they're very relaxed and charming."
Aka, if you run across an extremely attractive individual, he/she will be passively "seducing" you because they actually aren't trying. You're just innately attracted to them. This is such a silly drawn out explanation that attraction is pretty much physicality, so you'll naturally perceive everything they do as seduction because you want them. If they're picking their nose, they're "bold", if they aren't talkative they're "mysterious", if they're talkative, they're "confident"! GASP, and they didn't even try. I wonder why... lmfao.
Guess I’m super seductive because I don’t try at all hahaha
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Nothing will happen if you just gonna lie on your couch all day.
You still need to talk to people to seduce them unconsiously.
Without try hard.
hi there , I am a goofy looser, I do not try at all. How come women do not find me attractive?
If you are happy with that person just being there, with you, mentally and physically, then you have the ONE
How to seduce someone step by step:
1. Be very, very attractive/pretty
The end!
True
Attraction is subjective. There’s superficial attraction, game/similar humor/banter. Then there’s emotional attachment afterwards. The art of subliminal communication has a lot to do with body language, vocal inflections, words said and unsaid, eye contact, sexual tension, the dark triad, obviously confidence, genuineness/being real aka being yourself and if two people can’t communicate on a similar wavelength? Try again another day.
@@FloydRunner2049 Height, facial harmony, hair thickness, colour and shape of the eyes, jawline and body frame and symmetry are the most important factors when it comes to attracting women.
The only women that "say" they don't pay attention to these things are the fat or the ugly ones.
Humour, game,personality and other body language nonsense aren't going to fool any girl, especially attractive ones!!
@@nektariosorfan A tall guy with above average facial features but not so symmetrical will still attract more women than the average looking tall guy that is perfectly symmetrical
@@FloydRunner2049 Avarage/Ugly looking guy with great sense of humor + eye contact + sexual tension blablabla = CREEP. If you want good dating advice never ask woman. Always ask guy who is getting all the girls. You will notice how important genetics are. Stop BS yourself and eat blue pills.
Thanks for this, being the person who is loved by all is my goal and I'm investing great effort to that but it ends up with exhausting myself, I remember when I don't really care if someone likes me or not but when someone confessed to me that almost all the girls liked me, it changed my life, I get so worked up that i get to the point where I'm focusing on how to be loved by others but now I'm awoken thanks, it really helped me to be my own self again.
From my experience, being anywhere from somewhat to fairly aloof and mysterious is what makes people interested in you.
The search for validation is in-built in all human interaction. The ”just be yourself” crowd never disclose who the ”self” is your supposed to be.
No one can be loved by everyone, but everyone can be loved by no one.
And one is all we need.
From what I've noticed, personality is even more important than looks. Wish I could get my personality back. Debilitating head pain without relief in sight will kind of do that to you.
This advice is perfect!
This hit home for me, thank you Francesca
This just proved me as the most seductive guy on this planet.
I like the way you end the video at 8:28. Being hunting for that number since I watched manifest!!
I loved the entire video
Kudos to the efforts put in Francesca
Especially since 8th minute began I was at edge of my seats
I realised that every word that you have said is true thank you so much for that ☺️
This is so right on!!
First rule of seduce club. Don't tell anyone you are a seducer. Second rule of seduce club. Use what works.
This is genuinely so impressive
It's true but it's just the basics. Also you forgot to mention that this is how mostly females are "seduced" and this is exactly why it is easier to hook-up with chicks I dont care about at all than to try to start a full on romantic relationship with a girl I actually like and hence get careful , conscious of myself and impressed by her and hence generate chances of getting friendzoned , so at the end of the day it again comes down to stuff that I MUST learn a hack of neutralizing a girl whom I actually like and adore... OR ....females can learn to choose better mates for themselves by overlooking or accepting simple mistake or fault of men of being obvious or too obvious of a seducer by simply unlearning their wired broken record that "men obviously interested in you are bad". Why it all has to be sneaky or salesman-like is beyond me.
You are worried that if they know you are interested in them they will not be interested? So you have to play it cool? If yes then just stop wasting time with "kids" and find a woman who isn't interested in playing games. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes;)
@@Ifidreamitidoit3566 so true , but the place I am stuck in is full of such "kids"
@@Ifidreamitidoit3566 its not a game, its biology :) women's subcoinsiousness is controlled by hormones, only grow ups (women in mid to late 20s tend to control these much better than teen girls)... thats the fact
typical woman..
hey, just wanted to say dont listen to that broad above, she's never had to attract women as a guy, be nonchalant and ull get the girl, it works for most women cause its their nature, if they think they have u they wont want u anymore.
So, is it bad to fall in love or get a crush? Because, as you said in your example if the traditional guys falls in love with the confident guy, that implies that the first guy lack of confidence or has insecurities that drain his confidence. So, is it better to visit a therapist if someone is about to get a crush with someone else?
Could you do a video on how women flirt and the many
subtle signs they give ?
There is no seduction in being yourself 😮
If you are a tall handsome dude then actually there is
You,ve SO hit the nail on the head here.
Personal development is also a part of 'Just being youself' i.m.o. so 'Just being yourself' is just part of the truth if you ask me tbh.
Love your Vlog, you give a genuine expression, keep up your good works !
Seduction (by definition) is a deliberate action. It is the process of enticing someone into participating in intercourse by mutual consent.
The way you talk is seductive to me ❤
The rolling eyes ?
Its just amazing 😅
Hi. Your videos are so useful. Please could you make a video on how to form friendships and meaningful connections?
How to maintain relationships
True 100% I am a natural seducer and I’m doing it unconsciously then I say why they think I’m sexy face palm lol 😂😅
I'm not attached to the outcome or anything so see you Saturday for lunch right ? .....nailed it !! 😂🎉
Be and look like Francesca - and everybody will Fall for you!❤
Yes all true, what do you think stops us just being ourselves because there definitely seems to be something getting in the way?
out of everything i have seen there this is the most accurate video compared to the disaster that is out there in terms of relationship that you have to be alpha male beta male Gama male whatever good video keep doing video like this so the female word and male dont get trap by the others when a woman is interested everything is naturally now that in the process of the relationship you have to know each other of course
My years of experience have taught me that usually, the realest and most useful advices are the simplest ones. Just be natural. Nature has a way of making things work and you going out of your way to make a connection work would interfere with nature's methods. If everything had to be perfect in order for it to work out, then humanity wouldn't have made it this far because none of us are perfect and no moment is the perfect moment.
Hi Francesca, may i ask you where you from?😊 Thanks for the very valuable videos
"No matter what happens, I will be ok"
Astrologically moon north node ( Rahu) Mercury in trinal connection in our horoscope makes a person good seducer
Yep. Ain't watched this vid yet & already totally agree 😂
Great video ! Thank you !
True facts 💯💯
Girl that brought me to meet some of her friends told me they all liked me in a certain way, I was flirting with one of her best friends bit out of the blue after some drinks. Eventually here theory was that I was pretty authentic in that circle of people. I do think you need some degree of experience which results in confidence making you able to do it more naturally.
be yourself, but add some little things that will make a difference. If you are a complete fake, it will fail a lot, but if you are just there the same way you are with anyone else, will fail a lot too. Show interest, look at the eyes for moments and enjoy the view(cause you like this person right?), be more willing to smile, take some deep breath from time to time even if you feel you don't need it at the moment, stand facing towards the person, not too close... and some little things like this, but the rest just keep it real... Plus, getting in shape wont assure anything but will give you health and when it materializes the other person will enjoy it a lot more, so no excuses like "have to love me how I'm".
Be yourself. I don't even know who I am 😭 i don't even know my personality 😂
5:51 that was so expressive, your special trait 😍. Conclusion if you like yourself everyone will, you create your own energy.
I kinda like her hairstyle simple and elegant 😊
I just tell them what’s on my mind not my thoughts because if I don’t I feel that I’m not loyal
I love your videos and shorts
So true thanks for this
Thankyou 🙏,
Your videos help many.
If you don't do something, you don't get nothing.
every 60 seconds in africa a minute passes
@Moondust It's easy when you have a plan. You have to build your own blueprint
@Moondust Damn, I see you everywhere lol. Here and all these MBTI channels
absolutely true! do something, act something, flirt a little then result will come ... force a little get result...
Shirley McLain once said of her brother Warren Beatty, that he doesn't make women fall in love with him, he makes them fall in love with themselves. Make her feel good about herself, not by complimenting her but by letting her shine.
Brilliant Advice 🙏🏻
We need to call out the James Franco’s and the Maroun’s using the Q system in customer homes.
This is lowkey an excellent advice for autistic people to stop masking* and start to stablish a healthy relationship with how their feelings work, abandoning the weight of desired social responses. Mental stability should ALWAYS come first.
* Masking is when autistic people force themselves to act as "normal" (neurotypical) people without social disorder, miss regarding their own feeling and mental condition in fear of not taking part of a status quo.