Only Children… Are they spoiled? | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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  • čas přidán 23. 03. 2023
  • For y'all that don't know, Chance is an only child. He's been called spoiled, a mama's boy, and more. We talk about his childhood and his opinion on the blessings and challenges that come with being an only child and raised by a single mother. You don't have to be an only child to relate to this one! Lets get into it!
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  • @MargaretEllen
    @MargaretEllen Před rokem +335

    I'm the only child and only grandchild. I be on DUTY for everybody as an adult. If I was spoiled I BEEN PAID IT BACK. 😂😂😂

    • @carlaroberts8192
      @carlaroberts8192 Před rokem +12

      Me too! Paid in full.

    • @juliewilson8702
      @juliewilson8702 Před rokem +15

      My parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, all gone. I have no first, or second cousins. My parents' siblings had no kids. It's just me.

    • @dmslater30
      @dmslater30 Před rokem +3

      Bless y'all

    • @laurensmith3191
      @laurensmith3191 Před rokem +1

      Same until i had my children but by then my grandparents have been deceased

    • @SophisticatedTeacher
      @SophisticatedTeacher Před rokem +1

      😂😂😂

  • @omgChanelDenise
    @omgChanelDenise Před rokem +177

    I’m an only child and I protect my peace at all times. I have no problem with cutting people off because I’m used to being alone.

    • @teresawhite6237
      @teresawhite6237 Před rokem +8

      … and do‼️

    • @blackempress200975
      @blackempress200975 Před rokem +3

      ​@@teresawhite6237 😂😂

    • @ajharris4861
      @ajharris4861 Před rokem +1

      There is THAT benefit😂

    • @danieletrent5325
      @danieletrent5325 Před rokem +5

      Exactly!! I am the same way. No hesitations will cut a person off with nooooooo problem. Only children we rock!!

    • @denisegriffin4343
      @denisegriffin4343 Před rokem +1

      I'm #9 of 13 kids and I often felt like I was the only child because of some of the responsibilities that were put on me. I have no regrets life was okay life could have been better growing up. Life is good now I'm an adult and I made some choices in my life. Luv you 2❤

  • @toomuch8931
    @toomuch8931 Před rokem +85

    Chance has wisdom, he knows his priorities… he know those ppl don’t care that much!! It’s about his wife and kids and he knows that❤️ #wiseman

  • @TheDivaPainWarrior
    @TheDivaPainWarrior Před rokem +59

    The way that Chance prioritizes Tab and his family... that's so rare. It's such a blessing.

  • @cathyj100
    @cathyj100 Před rokem +73

    Chance seems to be a sensitive man and knows how to protect his heart after being in difficult emotional situations.

    • @cathyj100
      @cathyj100 Před rokem +6

      Maybe not the healthiest emotional response but it’s best for him right now.

    • @antoinetterochester2952
      @antoinetterochester2952 Před rokem +7

      yep, I tell people that I had to learn how to protect the only thing that I have which is my heart. ANYBODY CAN GET IT ( the cut off )

  • @ginaowens124
    @ginaowens124 Před rokem +121

    I am an only child. ITS HORRIBLE ! No I wasn't spoiled. I will say this it's hard when you loose your parents. It's a lonely life with no siblings. No one you can trust.

    • @terriestapley5475
      @terriestapley5475 Před rokem +6

      Absolutely, I agree 💯percent!!!

    • @mfenderson2714
      @mfenderson2714 Před rokem +8

      Yes it can be so lonely!!!!! 😓

    • @CeeMalii
      @CeeMalii Před rokem +4

      This !!

    • @chosenbyheart1
      @chosenbyheart1 Před rokem +13

      I am an only child..I was raised with my cousins but they have each other as adults. Now I am alone. I feel like I am always trying to push myself in. 😢

    • @brittanyfigaro
      @brittanyfigaro Před rokem +7

      Totally Agree. Lost my dad last year and it's a so lonely.

  • @bechay3840
    @bechay3840 Před rokem +85

    I’m an only child too! I don’t have a problem cutting people off! (I never thought it was maybe due to being an only child…I’m all about protecting my peace)

    • @miram2053
      @miram2053 Před rokem +2

      This!

    • @pyoung23805
      @pyoung23805 Před rokem +3

      Wow. I just said yesterday how I don’t have no problem leaving something. People, moving, jobs. Never thought it was so easy bc of being an only child. Lol

    • @lorinunery2353
      @lorinunery2353 Před rokem +2

      I'm the oldest out of three but I have no problem with cutting people off either. My peace means everything to me.

    • @stacyp6138
      @stacyp6138 Před rokem +1

      I have 1 sibling, but I still cut ppl off if I feel like my peace is disturbed

  • @ladylashleytt
    @ladylashleytt Před rokem +86

    I am not an only child but I am very much able to relate to Chance and his ability to sever relationships and being ok with alone time etc.

    • @uwanaibanga9488
      @uwanaibanga9488 Před rokem +5

      Same I'm an oldest Naija daughter. Let's just say I plot my escape everyday and that water is thicker than blood when you add hydrogen peroxide.

    • @reginabyrd8903
      @reginabyrd8903 Před rokem

      Same

    • @D1vaDvyn
      @D1vaDvyn Před rokem

      I agree w/him also❤

  • @everythingbudget6158
    @everythingbudget6158 Před rokem +62

    When Chance said “any body can get it” I felt alllllll of that.

  • @danni9256
    @danni9256 Před rokem +68

    I’m any only child , I was never lonely… definitely made me super independent and self sufficient 😊

    • @kashmeade03
      @kashmeade03 Před rokem +4

      Thank you. I feel like people sometimes relate to those who are only child as it’s a disorder.

    • @danni9256
      @danni9256 Před rokem +1

      @@kashmeade03 right !!!

    • @andreaanderson4468
      @andreaanderson4468 Před rokem +2

      My son is exactly the same😂

  • @jasmynenicole475
    @jasmynenicole475 Před rokem +75

    I'm an only child, and I never felt lonely because I didn't know any different. Also, I kind of understood Chance when he was about to say "it's not that 'deep' ", because to us it's not as kids we thought and still think that we are fine and lacked nothing. Honestly in my adult life I think it has made me less needy / clingy when it comes to relationships. I value my friendships but I LOVE being alone.

    • @nikkikarim5016
      @nikkikarim5016 Před rokem +2

      I agree

    • @xoxarily
      @xoxarily Před rokem +2

      For me, I still value my friendships but I find that if I lose a friend or me and someone aren’t as close anymore, I don’t feel as upset as I think I should.

    • @smoothiebacon223
      @smoothiebacon223 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I grew up with many brothers and sisters so I’m on the opposite spectrum. You say it’s a good thing because it made you less needy, but the problem I’m running into with my only child husband is that he lacks the ability to give people the affection they crave or need. You are right, he doesn’t seem to need affection at all but I do and it’s becoming a real issue.

  • @MsSunshine1469
    @MsSunshine1469 Před rokem +58

    Chance, I am totally the same way .... and the word is Solitude.... its not cutting people off... you have your boundaries. its a protective coping mechanism of how you deal.... and put your peace first.

  • @shelbymartin502
    @shelbymartin502 Před rokem +68

    I feel sad when ppl didn't enjoy their journey as an only child. I LOVED it!! I had plenty of friends, cousins, and a great mother!! I was never bored or lonely. That is soooo sad.

    • @lovespell4425
      @lovespell4425 Před rokem +4

      I enjoyed being a only child aswell

    • @kashmeade03
      @kashmeade03 Před rokem +4

      This is encouraging to me as a mom with an only child.

  • @gospelician
    @gospelician Před rokem +6

    "It's not as scary to be alone because I've learn how to occupy my time." Powerful! Great coping skills. It is a gift because truly some folk can't even stand being by themselves. In this life, people need to learn how to enjoy their own company at times. 😊

  • @xstend2
    @xstend2 Před rokem +16

    I think Chance is an introvert which to me explains a lot about his personality. As an introvert myself, I see and relate so much to what he's saying and how he sees life. I don't have the mental capacity to deal with foolishness so it is easy for me to drop people that's doing and saying nonsense.

    • @pennywilliams9058
      @pennywilliams9058 Před rokem

      Love U Tab...but Chance is on Point on this topic!! Love yall relationship, & positivity!! Keep it Going!! You all bless so many on a regular basis!!

    • @angelaspringfield5584
      @angelaspringfield5584 Před 6 měsíci

      AMEN

  • @shawnaw9750
    @shawnaw9750 Před rokem +55

    I really enjoyed this episode. Chance's mom is hilarious. 😂

  • @sparkle3000
    @sparkle3000 Před rokem +38

    As an only child, I didn't know how spoiled I was until I had my daughter.
    She use to use my stuff and it made me very upset even though I bought her her own things.
    I did enjoy being in Quarantine though.
    All by myself.
    I was never happier. People were losing their minds.
    We can cut people off with the quickness for sho!

    • @minervadouglas7576
      @minervadouglas7576 Před rokem +2

      😂

    • @mistyblue3206
      @mistyblue3206 Před rokem +2

      I was in quarantine before the quarantine.😂 Love/loved it.

    • @sparkle3000
      @sparkle3000 Před rokem

      @@mistyblue3206
      We're still there.
      Welcome to our Beautiful World.
      I know you look good too.
      Have a great day! 💜

    • @sparkle3000
      @sparkle3000 Před rokem

      @Sara Oh... my... gosh... you were like a mommy. That must have been so hard.
      Enjoy your solitude. Goodness 🌞

    • @Hazel.Eyed.Gemini
      @Hazel.Eyed.Gemini Před rokem +1

      I have a sister and act like you. I can’t stand sharing. So that’s not an only child thing

  • @traciebrooks7498
    @traciebrooks7498 Před rokem +22

    Chance, I’m am only child too. Everything you said I can relate to. The misconceptions society has of an only child are not true. In fact, I find that an only child is the most selfless group of people I know ❤️
    Shout out to all my inly children out there!

  • @iwapelemovement
    @iwapelemovement Před rokem +69

    I'm the only child on my MaMa side. She didn't play 😆 I work for what I wanted. I had chores and MaMa made sure I learned how to share by way of my Cousins 👍🏾🤴🏾

    • @dr.keelittle1211
      @dr.keelittle1211 Před rokem +1

      me too😆😍😇

    • @lisawashington5388
      @lisawashington5388 Před rokem +2

      My son is my only child. I am rearing him to be responsible and share with his cousins as well. He always asks me for a sibling.

    • @dr.keelittle1211
      @dr.keelittle1211 Před rokem +3

      @@lisawashington5388 “only child syndrome” only got rough for me as an adult so teach him the importance of (genuine) friendships and don’t let nobody play with him or like my mama say, “apologize for being blessed” 🙏🏾🦾🧩

    • @tyecialundie7966
      @tyecialundie7966 Před rokem

      Same for me

    • @raeshandrablock-simmons3381
      @raeshandrablock-simmons3381 Před rokem +2

      Me too...and I have to work my booty off..with a lot of cousins two who are only children as well..so they're my brother &sister

  • @francinecunn570
    @francinecunn570 Před rokem +39

    This really hit home... I was an only child & the older I get,🎉the more I'm good with just me... & Yes, it's a gift and a curse.

    • @kashmeade03
      @kashmeade03 Před rokem

      So glad to hear this. I have an only child and pray he feels confident and loved. I am an only girl and feel like I grew up by myself. God has been good.

    • @goddesshealing2448
      @goddesshealing2448 Před rokem

      Truth.💯💜

  • @MsHJones
    @MsHJones Před rokem +37

    I felt tht Chance... some of us with siblings are STILL unable to rely others too

    • @avaholloway32
      @avaholloway32 Před rokem

      Amen to your statement! I always felt like I was an only child when I have to do everything for my mom especially after my dad's passing

  • @Edward_Strong1982
    @Edward_Strong1982 Před rokem +44

    One of my close friends is the only child of his parents and he was raised by his mom. He’s 40 and still doesn’t live alone. He always rents a house with 2 roommates. When I asked him why he said it was because he was so lonely as a child he likes having people around. Same with his pets. He likes having something in the house with him

    • @alphaandomega1332
      @alphaandomega1332 Před rokem +1

      Absolutely Not !!!

    • @elles.6768
      @elles.6768 Před rokem +9

      Wow. I'm the opposite. When I was younger I liked a lot of people around but just for a little bit. I don't like to be in people's space too long, and I'll let people know quick when it's time for them to go.

    • @quickpstuts412
      @quickpstuts412 Před rokem

      It's so interesting to hear how that manifests differently in people. I'm an only child and was the EXACT opposite. Moved to another city by myself by 25 where I didn't know a soul, live alone and need my space. I guess comes down to how comfortable you were being by yourself. Some of us are really good at entertaining ourselves when we don't have anyone around I guess. I never felt lonely.

    • @quickpstuts412
      @quickpstuts412 Před rokem

      @@elles.6768 Same!

  • @ginaowens124
    @ginaowens124 Před rokem +8

    Chase said it best. While others were thinking we had every thing. We were loving what siblings had more. That's why I hate to see siblings fighting not speaking. When I have no one. They are blessed and do not realize it!

  • @shantel7107
    @shantel7107 Před rokem +20

    My motto is "You get one chance to do me wrong", so cutting people off or distancing myself is self love & protection. I can relate to alot of what Chance said. I too was a only child, no father figure, and only kids around were cousins. I learned to be content with being alone, and it turns into a blessing & a curse.

  • @contentat45able
    @contentat45able Před rokem +30

    I love this topic. I am an only child and I tend to share too much. My grandmother warned my mother who was only able to have one child. She said, if she wants a banana, make her share that banana with you whether you want it or not". Many have no clue that I am an only child because I don't fit the stereotype commonly referred to as spoiled.

    • @ginaowens124
      @ginaowens124 Před rokem +7

      Stero type it is Only Children, we SHARE & GIVE too much! When we are young we forgive more often when we get older we just protect and cut off!

    • @candacejamison3021
      @candacejamison3021 Před rokem +3

      Grandmothers are so wise!

    • @mydebby2hot
      @mydebby2hot Před rokem +1

      ?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤

    • @christinejarrett7982
      @christinejarrett7982 Před rokem

      @@ginaowens124 So TRUE 💯 FACTS 💯

    • @savannahespinosa8219
      @savannahespinosa8219 Před rokem

      Same. I get told I don’t “act like an only child” all the time.

  • @pushedtopurposeministries

    Chance's face, when he found out what the new topic of discussion was...😂😂 Priceless😂. Y'all are hilarious!

  • @latishae2240
    @latishae2240 Před rokem +25

    That's that free Sagittarius spirit in uncle Chance. I'm a Sagittarius also and I have siblings but I prefer being alone and will cut people off quick and don't think twice about it.

    • @l.tinker8396
      @l.tinker8396 Před rokem +1

      🙋🏾‍♀️

    • @robinwiggins6715
      @robinwiggins6715 Před rokem +2

      I am Taurus from a two parent household with 8 children. I have no problem cutting people off. I call it a spirit of discernment.

    • @bk_lynn23
      @bk_lynn23 Před rokem

      Yes ma’am! Cut off game strong ✂️

  • @justtatyana9523
    @justtatyana9523 Před rokem +27

    Omg Chance is my twin. He must be a Scorpio because babbyy I am an assassin when it comes to cutting people off you hear me! The older I get the more I realize it’s not a curse it’s truly a gift. 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽

    • @nakianelson6554
      @nakianelson6554 Před rokem +2

      Omg!! I said the same thing. I too am a TRUE Scorpio in that way! So I looked his sign up. He is a Sag, but close enough😅😂😂

    • @justtatyana9523
      @justtatyana9523 Před rokem

      @@nakianelson6554 Oh yea that’ll do it too. My mom is a Sag. & Heyyy twin! 👋🏽😄

    • @jackiemarieadams7764
      @jackiemarieadams7764 Před rokem

      Just....he is a Sagg. It's mentioned several times. 😊

    • @jackiemarieadams7764
      @jackiemarieadams7764 Před rokem

      ​@@nakianelson6554...he's a Sagg. It's mentioned several times. 😊

  • @heatherlong5568
    @heatherlong5568 Před rokem +13

    Only child here and I have always disliked being called spoiled. I did not throw tantrums because my parents didn’t play that. As a matter of fact, my whole family didn’t play that with none of the kids. But somehow I was still labeled spoiled. I was really close with my parents and they have passed on now. Our family was really close and I have lots of cousins and we were raised close like siblings. So to this day, I have them because my parents are gone. But I still had that stigma of being spoiled and I never appreciated that. My parents taught me how to take care of myself and be independent as a young lady. Now I was able to get things sometimes that others didn’t, but it was in reason. My parents didn’t just buy me everything I wanted. I had to earn things or maybe I just didn’t get it at all. The loneliness part was fulfilled by having my cousins. I was an outgoing child and made friends easily. That part about being left alone, baby, that is a definitely a trait we have😂😂😂 I can’t deny it. When I need my time alone, I will take it and won’t feel bad about it.

  • @tamirajohnellestyle
    @tamirajohnellestyle Před rokem +5

    Taking care of parents as an only child can be mentally draining. It’s very tough.

    • @kanais
      @kanais Před 10 měsíci +2

      🙏🏽

    • @angelaspringfield5584
      @angelaspringfield5584 Před 6 měsíci

      Yes Ma'am or Sir it is. Even as a sibling being the girl, it's expected that you will take care of parents.

  • @angelamhaigler
    @angelamhaigler Před rokem +21

    I love his priorities. He puts you (Tab) on the top of the list 😊.

  • @keyafreeman182
    @keyafreeman182 Před rokem +9

    He described the only child perfect. We enjoy the peace of being alone.

  • @carolynlong8701
    @carolynlong8701 Před rokem +17

    Chance is so transparent and I love it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @rhonwilliams4910
    @rhonwilliams4910 Před rokem +16

    There are some great kids that are only children. They have great experiences. There are positives and maybe negatives of both. Think about people with many kids feeling ignored, or some of them wanting to get away b/c it’s too much activity and drama with their siblings. It goes both ways. We all have different experiences growing up and that makes up who we are.

  • @Backpack16
    @Backpack16 Před rokem +21

    Chance, you had a good balance. Your mom gave you stuff, but she also, gave you life lessons. Hey, miss Zane.

  • @Dr.PhD-10
    @Dr.PhD-10 Před rokem +16

    I like how Chance twitches his lips/mouth, when he's processing Tabs lead. Y'all are so funny and adorable.

  • @tnbmiller82298
    @tnbmiller82298 Před rokem +24

    I am an only child and it was hard to make friend but as I got older I loved being alone and could entertain myself. I also missed having those relationships at times but if you did something to me I could easily cut you off too. I was spoiled by my mom but I was definitely a giver so I never acted spoiled.

  • @skilledtouch8445
    @skilledtouch8445 Před rokem +7

    🤣🤣🤣 Momma Zane is everything!🤣 Chance instantly turned into a mommas boy.... thats love

  • @ralpheljohnson
    @ralpheljohnson Před rokem +11

    I just love y'all candidness and authenticity y'all have with each other! Y'all are so REAL 😂👌😂👌

  • @sbux9703
    @sbux9703 Před rokem +16

    I love the laughter that you both bring to the table and the reality of life. The ending was hilarious 😂

  • @contentat45able
    @contentat45able Před rokem +13

    I finished listening to the rest of the video. Tab and Chance are hilarious!! I love them AND his mother. I can relate because I'm an only child and gave birth to only one. I love it!

  • @carlaroberts8192
    @carlaroberts8192 Před rokem +11

    I’m an only child and Chance was spot on! Especially, in turns of cutting people off with the quickness. As your parent/parent(s) ages, it’s all on you!

  • @marjokeller7996
    @marjokeller7996 Před rokem +1

    As a parent of an only child. I didn’t really appreciate how this episode was framed. There is so much more.

  • @arlenehall1250
    @arlenehall1250 Před rokem +2

    This was an AWESOME conversation.

  • @ginaowens124
    @ginaowens124 Před rokem +15

    An Only Child does it all. I had to bury my Mother Father step mom and stepfather. And bear the brunt of the resentment of cousins aunts who all had large families. My Uncle had 11 children my other Uncle had 7 children. My Mother gave them my old clothes and beds THEY RESENTED ME ! Because my Step Father and my Mother led a middle class house. I'm 69 yrs old and I have 100 cousins now because they had big families who HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. BECAUSE OF the misconception of being an Only Child. Because I lived better than them. Mind you I didn't choose that life. When we were grown my cousin confronted me with " yeah yo momma gave us underwear and fruit and yo leftovers and thought she was doing something". And yes she did My Mother had 18 nephews and nieces and she made sure each of them had something EVERY Christmas and she made Christmas Dinner Every Christmas!
    Yeah a Only child have crosses to bear. Now I'm simply ALONE!😢

    • @smudge8882
      @smudge8882 Před rokem +9

      That's incredibly ungrateful of them. How rude to be resentful over your mother's kindness! And even worse that they resent *you* over it, even though it wasn't even you who did anything! How beyond awful. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Před rokem

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @ginaowens124
      @ginaowens124 Před rokem +2

      @@smudge8882
      I was blessed to have forgive her on her death bed we came together in love. However the resentment of the rest of the family continues. That's on them I left it all at the foot of the Cross.

    • @ajharris4861
      @ajharris4861 Před rokem

      I’m curious about your mother’s relationship with her siblings. Was there some jealousy because she was able to elevate her situation?

    • @ginaowens124
      @ginaowens124 Před rokem

      @@ajharris4861
      Yes a lot at that time being middle class was a big thing. My step-father worked for a pharmaceutical company and she worked in a hospital

  • @CameliaHenry-oe6cp
    @CameliaHenry-oe6cp Před rokem +24

    The Lord is really using y'all! I needed to hear this conversation for my daughter who is an only child. I fuss about her cutting people off because she is the only child.

    • @lajuana1598
      @lajuana1598 Před rokem +3

      I fuss with my daughter about the same thing. I tell her that I won't be here forever, she needs to reach out to other family members.

    • @smyles0703
      @smyles0703 Před rokem

      Oh,that's what it is🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @drecool85
      @drecool85 Před rokem +1

      Pls stop making it an “only child” thing. That’s a thing about not being trained right by caregivers. She very likely interacts with humans like most other people Lots of people with siblings cut people off.

  • @peggyb4033
    @peggyb4033 Před rokem +3

    Never Spoiled. Just well LOVED!!!

  • @candacemarieg
    @candacemarieg Před rokem +4

    There are A LOT of people like Chance. Only child or not. Setting boundaries and cutting people off is a positive thing when done for rational reasons and something I wished I could have learned sooner. Protect your space and your peace. Don't keep giving people the chance to abuse and mistreat you over and over again. You can forgive people and move on with your life, forgiveness doesn't always equate to reconciliation. I had to learn all of that the hard way. Ain't nothing wrong with Chance. 😂😂😂💞💞💞 Good episode!!!!

  • @sonjafayecathcart2150
    @sonjafayecathcart2150 Před rokem +16

    I’m a little like both of you….because while I WANT to cut people out of my life I also want to extend to them grace as GOD has given me!!! ❤❤

  • @akilahcrossland9583
    @akilahcrossland9583 Před rokem +17

    Chance, I totally understand you brother. I am your female counterpart in this exp. I am in my 40s, grew up an only child, had cousins w/large age gaps too. My close friendships are my "FRAMily" b/c I don't have siblings. I am very content at times with being by myself b/c I'm used to. On point, brother!

    • @akilahcrossland9583
      @akilahcrossland9583 Před rokem

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    • @awesomeSW1
      @awesomeSW1 Před rokem

      @@akilahcrossland9583 it's a bot

  • @heatherlong5568
    @heatherlong5568 Před rokem +5

    My parents wanted more kids, but we’re unable to have them. So it’s not like they didn’t want to have more kids. Now as a mom of three, I really try to get my kids to cherish their relationship as siblings. I even ask my husband how it was having a sibling growing up. Sometimes it feels like you missed out, but I am still grateful for everything I had. I also cherish friendships and hold on to friends from childhood as well.

  • @gospelician
    @gospelician Před rokem +1

    What a profound topic, it allows one to see both sides. Chance eloquently expounded upon the life of an only child, with a strong mother. But that part about seeking a relationship bond (family) is valued over having it all. That's powerful! Thanks for both of your transparency. I know this is helping someone.

  • @nicolesmith4312
    @nicolesmith4312 Před rokem +2

    I m only 7 minutes in and in tears! I’m son is 13 and I see all of this in my son, I also worry that all of the responsibility with me when I get older is all on him….and I’m single mom so this conversation so far….makes me feel seen!!!🙏🏽🥰 thanks chance! Ok I’ll go watch the rest🤣

  • @KharisB.A
    @KharisB.A Před 11 měsíci +1

    I'm an only child and I'm amazed that I share every trait that Chance spoke on even down to the "cutting people of". There are very very few people whom I'm friends with and I treat them like my siblings and even introduce them as such to others. However, If I'm getting to know you as a potential friend and you exhibit a behaviour that negatively impacts my peace, I have a natural tendency to distance myself which many refer to as "cutting people off".

  • @JanuarieTimewalker13
    @JanuarieTimewalker13 Před rokem +12

    Awhhh, I loved this episode!! Especially when Chance told his mama he loved her. Immediately, “I’ll Always Love My Mama” came into my mind❤️

  • @LiyahK8020
    @LiyahK8020 Před rokem +4

    I’m an only child and I totally understand where Chance is coming from. When you’ve been alone in a sense all your life, you really don’t have to have people around you all the time and if a relationship is not beneficial in any form cutting that person off , I feel is being able to properly discern people and their true motives so when you’re an only child you really don’t have that hard of a time ending those relationships and moving on and being to yourself.

  • @Erica0088
    @Erica0088 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Sometimes.. you can have siblings and still feel like the only child. So it all depends on perspective.

  • @unapologeticallydreizy958

    Chance just spoke a word "I cut people off. And I look at it as a gift."
    I'm a Middle Child and I too have the gift of cutting people off! And I Iam grateful for not yearning to hold on to unhealthy connections, family and outside relationships included.
    As an Incredible Human, when I see that a person isn't treating Me the way I Am treating them, I snip and keep it moving - Guilt Free.
    I've learned when someone is jealous or envious of your character, your spirit, or your energy, that's dangerous! And the more life I live I see people for who they truly are. And I only desire to share space with people who light up when I step into a room and vice versa!

  • @CeeMalii
    @CeeMalii Před rokem +8

    I’m the only child and the feeling of being lonely and bored definitely played a huge role. Loosing your parents at a young age doesn’t make it any better.
    Awesome video.

  • @toomuch8931
    @toomuch8931 Před rokem +5

    Tab eyes when Chance said he wasn’t spoiled had me dying!!!😂😂🤣

  • @donnajenkins2657
    @donnajenkins2657 Před rokem +6

    Wisdom - Protect my mental space!

  • @ddfigueroa5618
    @ddfigueroa5618 Před rokem +8

    I felt what Chance was saying! This was a very insightful conversation. I am also a person who doesn’t hesitate to protect my mental health and peace. We all grow and sometimes it means outgrowing foolishness and cutting ppl off. I read people’s energy very quickly and if it doesn’t align with my peace and spirit… it’s like they never existed. Bye! BTW… I was a very quiet/introverted middle child with 5 extroverted siblings, but I always felt like I was an only child.

  • @valeriejones3808
    @valeriejones3808 Před rokem +2

    I am not actually an only child however by the age of 5 all of my siblings , 13, 14 and 18 years older than me, were gone so I lived as an only child. Chance is right, I can be with you or by myself and be fine. I wasn't bad spoiled, but the advantage I had was having older siblings grown and working, they provided some things that my parents couldn't afford. I love my solitude and quietness and my PEACE will not be disurbed by agitators. Great conversation.

  • @sapphire92414
    @sapphire92414 Před rokem +6

    As an only child I’ve been researching this topic this week I’m glad you are discussing this ❤ much love from Texas

  • @melaniesaunders8950
    @melaniesaunders8950 Před rokem +12

    Being an only child on my mom’s side was lonely and I will not say I was spoiled I worked hard and was rewarded when I did well and I was not given everything I wanted 😊

  • @iyanaellis7739
    @iyanaellis7739 Před rokem +2

    Dynamic couple. I already loved Tab's energy!! But together they are dynamite.

  • @Lintloza
    @Lintloza Před rokem +2

    Oh baby I loved being an only child. It was fun with just my mum and I. I’ve always been a loner but never lonely. Had friends but wasn’t allowed to go to their house or do sleep overs but I didn’t mind because I’ve always preferred MY home over other ppls homes 🤷🏾‍♀️31 years later I’m still the same. And I appreciate my mum so much for keeping that leash tight on me.

  • @tnslider
    @tnslider Před rokem +4

    The video with Chance’s mom was a great ending to this video. Love it!!!

  • @meechieholton8697
    @meechieholton8697 Před rokem +4

    My mom had that conversation with me in the car... She said don't ask for nothing in the store.

  • @cheche5589
    @cheche5589 Před rokem +5

    My mom always said my siblings and I spoiled ourselves. She was not going to own our behavior...that was our responsibility once she taught us right from wrong. We are very close to our mother and my dad loved her with all he had to give. Chance is an example of making the best of your childhood and being better for it despite some less than ideal circumstances. Listening to today's talk I'm aware that I had the luxury of a safe and uneventful childhood with parents that struggled financially while raising a large family. You definitely value what your parents tried to do right while raising you.

  • @chelseamoore30
    @chelseamoore30 Před rokem +18

    I wish I was like Chance with cutting people off especially when it comes to relationships!

    • @AntonioStewart-ng5pt
      @AntonioStewart-ng5pt Před rokem

      I don’t like cutting people it’s just not something I enjoy especially if we had good times…

    • @chelseamoore30
      @chelseamoore30 Před rokem

      @@AntonioStewart-ng5pt if the bad outweighs the good then it is what it is… They are causing more harm than good….

  • @tammybrown7256
    @tammybrown7256 Před rokem +11

    Aye, Tab & Chance I enjoyed your show today. I want to speak about the topic of your guy's conversation. I am the fifth of six children. I was raised in a close-knitted family. And with that came everyone always in each other's business. But hunni, when it comes to cutting off people, I do it with precision. 😂 I'm 41 years old and I feel we're too old to be playing with people.

  • @angelaholloway5321
    @angelaholloway5321 Před rokem +3

    I am not an only child and I “cut people off” quickly. I understand Chance completely. My time and mental health are important.

  • @elles.6768
    @elles.6768 Před rokem +3

    As an only child, I can really relate to Chance. This should be a panel discussion. I can cut you off and then go enjoy my solitude. I never felt like I was spoiled, but I've never been good at sharing too much. I had a lot of cousins that I saw almost every day, but those days I didn't... talk about bored!

  • @PD-qu8dq
    @PD-qu8dq Před rokem +1

    “Cutting you off is the Grace” 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

  • @NantezaSews
    @NantezaSews Před 9 měsíci +1

    That call to Mama Chance was everything 😂❤

  • @kjones6168
    @kjones6168 Před rokem +2

    I thoroughly enjoyed this episode!! Chance is me! I'm not spoiled, I'm loved, lol. I felt him when he said anybody can get it!!

  • @mariasmiles68
    @mariasmiles68 Před rokem +7

    Chance nailed it. This was my childhood as well. It was just my mom and I and my friends with siblings were jealous of me and I was jealous of them always having someone around to do something with. My mom had "the look" and you just said sorry and shut my mouth or paid the consequence. I do like my quiet, alone time as well. Lockdown was not an issue for me.

  • @Daijaray
    @Daijaray Před rokem +10

    A lot Only children deal a lot of pressure and high expectations.

    • @mfenderson2714
      @mfenderson2714 Před rokem +2

      So true! I'm an only and feel like this all the time. I was the only and only grandchild for the longest but my parents divorced which really cut most of my opportunities to be spoiled. I grew up fast and was taking care of other at 13 yrs old and could take care of myself by then if I was legally able to work at that age. So the pressure to marry, no it get divorced, and have their grandchildren, be a success because there is no other hope they can put on another golden child, is so real! And honestly our parents can be just as spoiled regarding their expectations of us and start having tantrums when we want to do different things than what they were able to present during our formative years.

    • @ginaowens124
      @ginaowens124 Před rokem

      AINT THAT THE TRUTH!

  • @Ladylew122
    @Ladylew122 Před rokem +5

    I agree I don’t need a lot of people all the time. I understand Chance. Not everyone will understand us and that’s okay.

  • @JourneyWithJewell1225
    @JourneyWithJewell1225 Před rokem +6

    My guy already know whats up when its Friday. I always look forward to Fridays with Tab and Chance!

  • @mollieblacknell4233
    @mollieblacknell4233 Před rokem +3

    I feel Chance is serious and Tab is not just my observation…..Great love to you both!

    • @FoougieTV
      @FoougieTV Před rokem

      I think he still has some of that police officer personality in him.

  • @thenonstopnotary334
    @thenonstopnotary334 Před 10 měsíci

    I’m the 6th of 6 children and I have that gift as well. The only closure I need is for me to decide I’m done. And that’s on that. “I know how to live without you.” Facts. 💯

  • @patriciasmith5778
    @patriciasmith5778 Před rokem

    I agree with Chance... For me as an only child, I am not spoiled. Growing up it may have seemed like I was spoiled because I received a lot tangible things or material things, but when I lived with my mother/stepdad; I spent a lot time alone literally. They left me with others or alone because they worked all the time for me and us to live comfortably. I never threw tantrum because I didn't get want I want. I am not selfish or self-centered. I love sharing and giving. I never felt entitled to what I got and I worked to have what I wanted once I was old enough. Being an only child hurt the most when my mother passed away because never felt so alone until that moment.

  • @deannastewart8095
    @deannastewart8095 Před 11 měsíci

    I wholeheartedly agree with Chance when he said its a gift to be able to move on/cut people off when we feel its unnecessary to move forward with people.

  • @gimme6ft.
    @gimme6ft. Před rokem +12

    Love these two ❤

  • @therenaflint2474
    @therenaflint2474 Před 9 měsíci

    I think I really understood what Tab was trying to describe when she spoke on the evolution. It’s like as an only child you were forced to self soothe in situations because just because you longed for company or another child to share in things with you didn’t always have it so you made due. It develops an independence or a survival mentality so you become able to handle spending time with yourself differently than those who didn’t have that experience . Now Chance knows how to self soothe and live without people if he has to.

  • @autumn4993
    @autumn4993 Před rokem +2

    I will protect my peace even if that mean to reduce those who brings only drama, aggravation and negativity. i agree with chance.

  • @lenishastokes1853
    @lenishastokes1853 Před rokem +2

    Amazing! Chance jus helped me understand why/how I can cut folks off and keep moving if they aren’t serving purpose or treat me a certain way. I do it easily because that’s how I started as an only child. My hubby say dang u jus don’t talk to her and u ok…. Yep!
    All of my cousins said that I was spoiled but like Chance said they didn’t see the other side and plus they had someone to share situations with vs having someone there with u.

  • @cynthiawright4239
    @cynthiawright4239 Před rokem

    Falling out in the aisle is a child who has been allowed to do that at home w/o consequences. A prime example of, spare the rod spoils the child. My only child grew up being ok by himself but enjoyed the company of a good friend. His childhood friends are his best friends/brother and sisters. I am very thankful for the precious relationships he was able to form.

  • @ginaowens124
    @ginaowens124 Před rokem +3

    People have the perception that because you're an only child you get what you want . That is NOT always the true.
    You sometimes get what your parents want you to have no matter how grandiose that may be it isn't what you want. Besides you are only ONE child, oppose to your say cousins who have 5+ children. Your cousins become resentful
    and others too when you didn't have a choice in the matter.
    I remember my mother buying me a fur coat for when I was in Jr. High. I refused to wear it. Yeah a parent of an only child wears and does what their parents didn't have or do! Most of the time I got their way NOT mine!

  • @yvonnewilliams8800
    @yvonnewilliams8800 Před rokem

    I was raised in a household with myself and one brother. He pretty much got everything he asked for, cried over and was gifted with. I was happy and pleased with what I got. Only one time I asked for a new bike because my dad had bought me a overgrown bike for me when I was in the second or third grade that even at the age of 14 that I still hadn’t grown into. The no speed bike would have been big enough for Shaq. But I asked for and shed a tear until I finally got a 10 speed Schwinn bike. My brother was on probably his 3rd mini bike/motorcycle that my dad took him to semi professional races all over the state. It depends on the type of child and type of parents.

  • @awakenedlife777
    @awakenedlife777 Před rokem +4

    Wooooow, As my mother’s only child I resonated with all of this! It is so easy to detach and enjoy my solo dolo time😂😂😂💕

  • @cindysaunders3098
    @cindysaunders3098 Před rokem +1

    I agree with him. That’s a common child behavior to get upset about not getting something. But the ones who feel they ALWAYS need to get some thing or ALWAYS BLOWING UP about not gettin something is a brat and what makes them
    Spoiled is when the PARENT GIVES IN EVERYTIME AND GIVE THEM SOMETHING.

  • @crystalsparkman1815
    @crystalsparkman1815 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Yes, that’s what’s going on with my family after our mother passed, I’m the oldest & I felt that we needed to stay in contact with each other more often!!!!

  • @mbranche4234
    @mbranche4234 Před rokem +3

    I agree with Chance, my son is an only child and he will dismiss someone from his life in a minute when they cause chaos and messiness. He is custom to peacefulness and will maintain it at some level for his mental health.

  • @alexiawatlington8538
    @alexiawatlington8538 Před rokem +8

    Tab you did imply that he was spoiled!😂😂 Chance sounds alot like me.... I've got a strong cutoff trait, too!🤦

  • @Gigi3758
    @Gigi3758 Před rokem

    This was a very good topic and talk! I enjoyed the whole conversation, and your relationship is so beautiful to me. Love from Orlando, Florida!

  • @simplyme7711
    @simplyme7711 Před rokem +2

    Only child, by my mom, also. It’s a tough place to be. It’s not all about “getting everything you want.” EVERYTHING is on you (e.g. caring for the parent)! I am not a spoiled brat, but my needs were met. There is no one else with whom to share the load - or celebrate - being an only-child. There are some things that aren’t purchased with money. I, too, enjoy my alone time now that I’m not a child, but it was lonely as a child.

  • @Kbatl1997
    @Kbatl1997 Před rokem +4

    Lol as an only child there were many times I also got cussed out, learned a life lesson, and got the bike too!