Siblings are not available for each after marriage. They fight for property and none of them want to look after parents. Times have changed... Mama fufa mausa mausi ... Ye rishtey ab naam ke reh Gaye ..these ppl just meet for functions and I todays world they don't have time also... siblings of the same house are destined to stay in different cities . No use...sirf parents ka life bacche raise kar kar ke gujar jayegi
Wrong. It's upto you to develop relations. Property to be divided equally. Oldage homes for help . But kid needs a sibling for first 20 years of life which goes in long way .
Dear brother..aesa kuch kuch nahi hai..unse poocho jinke bacche nahi hote ya jinke bhai behen nahi hote..how much these people suffer and how over consciously these people live life without sibling..or those who have lost sibling or one of the son/daughter in life..1 is always putting your family in a risky zone
Sir with due respect !! To each his own . I am a female Govt Officer . Married Females cannot work or go beyond their comfort levels without the support of either Dada dadi or nana nani . In looking after kids . Blessed are those females who have a support system .
Sir reality of society is aajkal bacche ki kisi ko nahi padi na inlaws ko na father ko. Sab apna comfort jone dekhte. Bhugtna sirf maa ko h and working maa ki halat pathetic h
@@SangoLifeSutras meri sas to meri nand k bache bde kr diye ab hamare k liye phle hi tane dene lgi h m nhi chahti itni -vity k sath jbrdsti mere bache ko unke pas rkhu
Sir, two kids is the best. I am from Kerala and here the trend is that if the first child is a girl then people are hesitant to have a second child for fear of having two daughters. If the first one is a boy then they are more confident of planning a second kid.
We r in different spectrum 4 daughters. 1st daughter second twins and third total surprise package from bhagwan ji. No ladka ladki concept it just happened. It's a complete joy all under age of 7
Agree for 2 kids. I have a 2, a daughter and a son. Plan to at least, give 1 flat to each in a metro city. If my kids study and land decent job also their life will be successful if they play SIP SIP in small cap and mid cap MF also. Itna kuch bhi best Dene ki jaroorat nahi hai. Best de ke bhi kid usko leverage kar payega ki nahi pata nahi. Many Ppl sending their kids to International schools and getting overwhelmed by high fees. Itna sochne ki jaroorat hi nahi hai. Avg education and avg job ke saath b agar kids sirf sip sip bhi khelte rhe zindagi bhar, To bhi they will do extremely good, provided parents have provided for the home in metro city as that's the biggest expense if you see...
Very well said. Somehow young parents have developed this misplaced sense of affection towards kids. Now a days raising a child is treated like a project work, like wanting to do everything that is "best" for the child. God knows what they mean by the "best" in the first place.
Just point view - It's hard but you don't wann leave your kid alone in life with no sibling relationship when you get into old age or in their teenage years or when u r no longer there to support them.. when they need someone their age group. Other side it's nice to have 2 kids as your support system at some point in life.
@THE ZOLDICS ,yes you are right. Not to have long gap. As it is one can't work full time with toddlers unless support from mom or mom in law is there. Along with first child, we can look after second one too. Subsequently both can be sent to nursery, primary, secondary schools together. Parents/ In laws would be comparatively younger. That's my opinion
When we are a part of society, every choice ultimately impacts the society. Good point about missing relationships with 1 child. Same issue of personal choice applies to health - people eat and live irresponsibly - say it's their personal choice. Then mess their health up burden the healthcare system, society and caregivers, at which point its not personal anymore, and therefore has a social impact. Difficult to convince the senior generation about that. Would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions for taking responsibility of one's health. Thank you!
Totally agree with you on this topic. I always advice every couple in my group to have at least two kids. Now I can show them your video as a reference. 👍
I am a mother of a daughter. Married for 8 years. Turned 38. Zero savings. I have lost my job during Covid. My husband is taking care of his two brothers and sisters in laws with their monthly expenses and also took full education responsibility of one of his sister's son. And my father in law is staying with us. With my current situation I am in depression. Can't figure out what to do. If l take another baby I will not be able to do or apply for jobs as l have to take care of my children and my father in law. Moreover, with the limited income of my husband how long we will last in the future. So I made a decision on not having another baby.
Sir, I echo your thoughts. I moved to a nuclear family setup before planning kids which helped me a lot . Husband was also able to contribute well to household work in this setup and we hired external help too according to our convenience. I now have 2 kids and doing well in my professional life with the grace of God.
Sir I have 3 by chance. Got twins second time. You are right here in every point regarding the multiple factors leading to only one child. But in all this the mother herself has to be the strongest to stand for her children . No matter how any one behaves mother has to take the onus because the child is biologically hers the most.
Brilliant video. Can you please upload video on if advisable to adopt a child when already having a biological child. Any negative consequences for the adopted child or for any other family member. I think I found my life mentor in your videos.
Me and my Husband too wants to adopt 1 girl child.Also we have 1 biological daughter. But due to my full time govt.job and my bitter experiences with in laws I am unable to adopt/own second child. Please Sir we need your advise🙏🙏🙏
Me and my wife both are living life of abundance by not having kids. More aspiration / goals / travel / greater learning. Kids are an anchor / an expenditure / baggage. Reputation isn't worth sacrifices.
Thank you for the video sir i am completely agreeing with your thoughts and prospective. My whole friend circle has 1 kid either its girl or boy but sir at-least we are having one kid but some youngsters where both doing job don’t even bother to raise one kid they consider this as trouble for raising them for initial 4 years and those years will be blocked for them. There are many cases where couples are not even planning for one kid.
Here I don't agree with you sir.. Having 2 kids is good provided our population would have been stabilized.. But since we are too many and resources are too less. People with good money money and at better positions in life are consuming more resources and leaving very less for family which are earning less. So for family with less resources tend to improve their life only by cutting additional burden. I think sir every country has to go through such tough situations if our grand parents had only 2 kids then our situation would have been lot better. Also when growth comes at the expense of quality, value of life then this growth is superficial and temporary. 140 crore people is not less. It is a lot of people and opportunities are the same.. Take example of America Warren Buffett said if you are born in America you have already won half of the battles of your life. It has deep meaning... This doesn't mean i recommend to people to go to America. It simple means koi toh ek generation hoga jo sab bhuktega.. Previous generations ki mistakes ko.. China maine abhi ho raha hain india 10-15 bad hoga bas.... Just because 10 percent people in India doing better than others doesn't mean everything is good in now.. Our generation have lot if different problems and having 2 kids is not an option. Just my opinion.abhi toh recession bhi start hogaya hain.. All these things impact humans.. It impact our mental health.. No peace no stability no security nothing is fix in today's world
actually i have realised that he only makes the video for upper middle class , he forgets that lower middle class is still struggling to make ends meet
Completely agree. Dada dadi contribution zero hoti hai. Wo bache ko take care krne se saaf mana kr dete hai. 6 month ki maternity milti hai uske baad maa bache ko kha shore? Agar c-section section ho jaye to in law's me koi care nai krta. Husband job PE chle jate hai, usko Ghar pe uski mother uski wife k saath kya krti kuj PTA nai hota. Ladki ki bhut dorghati krte hai in law's Wale
Parents should have kids only on the ability to properly raise them basic with human amenities and rights. Cannot raise half starved under nutrition kids. School lunches and deeply subsidized food rations are a good step towards a healthy country.
I think one child is enough.This way all the earnings and assets of parents can go that child.In case of a brother and sister all the parents give all their assets to their male child and hardly anything to the girl child, which creates bitterness in relationships.
@@SangoLifeSutras Yes,this should be the case,but my father has given me 2% and 98% to my brother.Very few have the heart to give 40% to their daughters.He married me into a very low level family as compared to them,otherwise I wouldn't have asked for a penny.I have started from zero.I have kept to 1 child,as I don't have enough resources and time to bring up 2 children.
@@miraj955 are you taking care of your parents and keeping them with you ? Did they not give dahej in your wedding? Are you not educated and working ? If answer to any of the above question is yes then you should get share in property.
I'm feeling good after watching your video on this topic Amit Ji.. after the first kid who is a boy ... We tried for having a girl..and now we have three boys 😂
Yes Sir 100 % true🙏 your videos are absolutely amazing. I believe in song do phool na khilen toh ..aangan maza na dega .. i have two lovely kids 👦👧♥️♥️
2 kids - Not sure how common is it but I have seen quite a few cases of single child where parents don't know how much care is good care. It becomes obsession after a point. Child looks suffocated under such parenting.
I agree with the two kids concept but the problem is with unstable marriage, long working hours, high fees in schools , career ,standard of living , job security . Support from inlaws and family are also major concern as majority of the inlaws want grandchildren but don't want responsibility also their dominance and interference in the the couple married life is the root cause for all mess this is the main reason why couples are choosing to stay childless and live life independently and not a selfish decision 😱😤😪
No, 1st ladki hoti to bhi pass hote hai q k aajkl bohoto ko ho hi nahi rahe bache ,prb horahi h logo ko... i have only 1 child aur vo beti hai, muje nahi lgta me fail hui, and my husband also dont want other child
Giving birth and raising kids is no joke. With cost of living going up, very hard But if the women get 5 to 8 years of break in service and then allowed to join the same office or company, then it is somewhat possible. A woman who is intelligent, hars working and career minded is forced to forgo her job for the sake of the child. The sad thing is neither the husband nor the family respects a woman who doesn't earn money. Hope some positive change happens.
Regret.The basic problem today is to find the right match, to avoid joining the growing number of divorcees.See the matrimonial columns and discover the no.of divorcees in the marriage market.Even in the lower class I see lot of divorce cases
There is lack of understanding between couples. Working ladies have different issues. Expectations from each other should be kept at minimal. Intervention from in laws should be minimal and that too in a positive manner. Mutual respect and understanding is key to successful marriage
As Sir spoke in one of the videos, in this technically developed world , it is not issue of survival alone. Women position has changed and same old traditional system will not work for happy and prosperous life. There is lot of uncertainty in persons life now a days, so women needs to work. They have to contribute to family financially too for the welfare and progress of her family ( husband and children) . Husband have to understand , support and have to work on family happiness too. Man can be provider but women are born protectors of her loved ones. If wife is happy, children will bloom beautifully.
So much sorted in my head sir My daughter is 8 years old and i was thinking now it's too late for second child but you gave proper solution thank you so much sir
We had our first baby last year. We are settled abroad. Raising a kid is such a commitment… our life has become so difficult. Forget about sleep, constant attention to baby, all peace from life is gone. We are tired and getting cranky. That’s why we have decided no more kids. Not sure how previous generations raised multiple kids, kudos to them
Same in India. We had our son and man first few years were hell. Constant late nights, constant running around to drop him to play homes so he is not bored at home. Money or education were not the issue for us but i was just tired at the end of it all and i can't bring myself to do it all over again. We put a lot of focus into our son and thankfully he is doing great
One child is enough to rid the mother of any identity and health. Truth is nobody supports her so why should she destroy her peace for a second child. Reality is the relationships today don't support in child rearing. I have seen husbands having extra marital affairs during their wife's second pregnancy.
Jo bhi decide kro soch samjh k kro. Sabka apna situation hota h. Ek lo ya do achche se time do decent life style provide kro aur bachche ko apni jindagi jine do
You are absolutely right uncle. I also planned two with same thoughts. But now a days in gurgaon or with other friends of mine I have observed if they have only one girl then they are content. As some of my friends who has only one boy are not planning second one as they don't want two boys. They want assured one girl but can't take risk of another boy. Now a days ppl are happy with one girl or two but not two boys. But I agree there are different world of ppl, in other world there is still demand for boy.
One child is enough in today's era for middle class family. If you know the expenses for school and tuition fees, even we have to make our own home, how can we manage two child's tution fees and school fees and mrg expenses plus other expenses like home loan, car loan. If population is getting decreased than it is good for earth. You can see on internet, main reason of pollution and global warming is increased population. And to support, kids will have frnds to share their thoughts and emotions. Even today, siblings don't share with each other but they share with frnds everything. So according to your financial condition, have kids. We should not think about like india ki population decrease hogi, mama fufa chacha tai masi koi relation nai rahenge. Wese b koi relation ab kaam ka nai h. Just family functions me milte h that's it.
more important is couple should be honest about being ready to take the huge responsibilty & put another person first or not otherwise no kids in last video you said dont worry about the society , if you are not happy , how can you contribute to society
Dude, US population is one fourth of india, and they have a GDP of 20 trillion. Its not about how many people you have its about how much consumption is there per capita. So instead of increasing the population its better to increase the quality of human beings we have. Travelling in metro or mumbai local is hell
Cost of bringing up a child is enormous, emotionally, financially. Aspirations of young children are huge. It is difficult to bring up one child nowadays. We are staying in urban jungles where money is important . It’s a difficult decision for young parents.
Hello Sir your videos have helped me think more practically and thereby increasing happiness in my life.Could you please make a video on how to deal with the pressure of not being able to become parents even after many honest attempts.Would adoption be a logical choice in such case?Would like to know your views on this topic.
'2' only if parents are subscribers of Sango Life or mature enough to raise them. Otherwise '0' because of overpopulation... The next generation should be better than us!
Sir I feel having kids or not having kids, both is fine. Marrying or not marrying, both is ok. What is important is if you are born, kuch acha karke jao yaha se. Apna purpose find karo or apne hone se kuch fayda karao society me. I am 35 yrs old very spiritual from a young age and my issue is I don't like to go through the process instead feel like adopting kids. Am I thinking right?
To raise a kid, it takes a whole village. But in reality, people think that it is only mother's responsibility. Somehow in so called modern families, they want kids to be tailor made achievers, where they won't take any responsibility but will expect from mothers. Abundance is killing the art of raising a child.
Fully agreed for two kids..!! Personally I feel for this, below are the reasons:- 1- The quality of sharing things in kids should be very important & its lacking in single child. He/she becomes rude, lack in understanding if seeing somebody owns his/her things. Very complex emotions to handle, major drawback of single child. 2- Psychological aspect of child is more important rather than financial condition of family. Good morale, ethics, values carrying child always does best in his/her life as per inherent capabilities.
So many comments saying having a sibling builds values sharing and caring. Completely disagree. My daughter 11 yo, being my only child is very kind and caring to her friends and cousins. Her teachers and relatives are all praises for her loving nature. We give our best to our child and make sure that she knows the value of all that she has. When parents are gone, children will have their own families, jobs and most importantly, purpose of their lives. Why does anyone need a sibling to fall back on?
outstanding, i mean your way of thinking is like film in front, very knowledble
Siblings are not available for each after marriage. They fight for property and none of them want to look after parents. Times have changed... Mama fufa mausa mausi ... Ye rishtey ab naam ke reh Gaye ..these ppl just meet for functions and I todays world they don't have time also... siblings of the same house are destined to stay in different cities . No use...sirf parents ka life bacche raise kar kar ke gujar jayegi
Yes .. agree..
Wrong. It's upto you to develop relations. Property to be divided equally. Oldage homes for help . But kid needs a sibling for first 20 years of life which goes in long way .
Aare bhai to kya kre bas rehane de aise hi it's a negative thoughts
One child is the need of hour.
Dear brother..aesa kuch kuch nahi hai..unse poocho jinke bacche nahi hote ya jinke bhai behen nahi hote..how much these people suffer and how over consciously these people live life without sibling..or those who have lost sibling or one of the son/daughter in life..1 is always putting your family in a risky zone
Sir with due respect !! To each his own .
I am a female Govt Officer . Married Females cannot work or go beyond their comfort levels without the support of either Dada dadi or nana nani . In looking after kids .
Blessed are those females who have a support system .
Agreed
Totally agree
Very true
True
Sir reality of society is aajkal bacche ki kisi ko nahi padi na inlaws ko na father ko. Sab apna comfort jone dekhte. Bhugtna sirf maa ko h and working maa ki halat pathetic h
I agree with you. Thats the trend
True i m agree with you. N i also faced this situation in my life. Bachaa, ghar, job , parents, inlaws, society sab kuch expections from women.
True I am also facing same thing
@@SangoLifeSutras meri sas to meri nand k bache bde kr diye ab hamare k liye phle hi tane dene lgi h m nhi chahti itni -vity k sath jbrdsti mere bache ko unke pas rkhu
Sir, two kids is the best. I am from Kerala and here the trend is that if the first child is a girl then people are hesitant to have a second child for fear of having two daughters. If the first one is a boy then they are more confident of planning a second kid.
Sad !
We r in different spectrum 4 daughters. 1st daughter second twins and third total surprise package from bhagwan ji. No ladka ladki concept it just happened. It's a complete joy all under age of 7
Ab Toh condom laga le bhai. Bhagwan ji don't do sex in your place.
Both husband and wife are working?
Agree for 2 kids. I have a 2, a daughter and a son. Plan to at least, give 1 flat to each in a metro city. If my kids study and land decent job also their life will be successful if they play SIP SIP in small cap and mid cap MF also.
Itna kuch bhi best Dene ki jaroorat nahi hai. Best de ke bhi kid usko leverage kar payega ki nahi pata nahi. Many Ppl sending their kids to International schools and getting overwhelmed by high fees. Itna sochne ki jaroorat hi nahi hai. Avg education and avg job ke saath b agar kids sirf sip sip bhi khelte rhe zindagi bhar, To bhi they will do extremely good, provided parents have provided for the home in metro city as that's the biggest expense if you see...
Two kids. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the audience. It will be very helpful.
Very well said. Somehow young parents have developed this misplaced sense of affection towards kids. Now a days raising a child is treated like a project work, like wanting to do everything that is "best" for the child. God knows what they mean by the "best" in the first place.
Best means , giving a life which our parents couldn’t give it to us.
@meerarajamani77 Who are 'they' in your life ?
best means they should not struggle for iit , neet aaur govt exams , they should have enough money to pursue what they want to ,
I have only one reason... Job ke sath it's very difficult to go for a second child and if you have difficult parents it will make it more worse...
Same with me
Same here . Kindly suggest on this sir
Just point view - It's hard but you don't wann leave your kid alone in life with no sibling relationship when you get into old age or in their teenage years or when u r no longer there to support them.. when they need someone their age group. Other side it's nice to have 2 kids as your support system at some point in life.
@THE ZOLDICS ,yes you are right. Not to have long gap. As it is one can't work full time with toddlers unless support from mom or mom in law is there. Along with first child, we can look after second one too. Subsequently both can be sent to nursery, primary, secondary schools together. Parents/ In laws would be comparatively younger. That's my opinion
I think am also think in same way one is enough
When we are a part of society, every choice ultimately impacts the society. Good point about missing relationships with 1 child. Same issue of personal choice applies to health - people eat and live irresponsibly - say it's their personal choice. Then mess their health up burden the healthcare system, society and caregivers, at which point its not personal anymore, and therefore has a social impact. Difficult to convince the senior generation about that. Would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions for taking responsibility of one's health. Thank you!
Totally agree with you on this topic. I always advice every couple in my group to have at least two kids.
Now I can show them your video as a reference. 👍
I am a mother of a daughter. Married for 8 years. Turned 38. Zero savings. I have lost my job during Covid. My husband is taking care of his two brothers and sisters in laws with their monthly expenses and also took full education responsibility of one of his sister's son. And my father in law is staying with us. With my current situation I am in depression. Can't figure out what to do. If l take another baby I will not be able to do or apply for jobs as l have to take care of my children and my father in law. Moreover, with the limited income of my husband how long we will last in the future. So I made a decision on not having another baby.
Do what suits you best
Sir, I echo your thoughts. I moved to a nuclear family setup before planning kids which helped me a lot . Husband was also able to contribute well to household work in this setup and we hired external help too according to our convenience. I now have 2 kids and doing well in my professional life with the grace of God.
Sir I have 3 by chance. Got twins second time. You are right here in every point regarding the multiple factors leading to only one child. But in all this the mother herself has to be the strongest to stand for her children . No matter how any one behaves mother has to take the onus because the child is biologically hers the most.
Sir ye wala point bilkul sahi h ...har level par humiliation milta h husband and inlaws se......isiliye second baby nhi kiya...
Agree
Brilliant video. Can you please upload video on if advisable to adopt a child when already having a biological child. Any negative consequences for the adopted child or for any other family member. I think I found my life mentor in your videos.
Same question
Yes..even i have the same question
Me and my Husband too wants to adopt 1 girl child.Also we have 1 biological daughter. But due to my full time govt.job and my bitter experiences with in laws I am unable to adopt/own second child.
Please Sir we need your advise🙏🙏🙏
Hello please follow @claritywithpratibhamalik for adoption experience.
Best is to adopt kids! So many kids have become orphans after Covid!
Me and my wife both are living life of abundance by not having kids.
More aspiration / goals / travel / greater learning.
Kids are an anchor / an expenditure / baggage.
Reputation isn't worth sacrifices.
You will know about baggage when you grow old
@@techihandle well said
Very good bro 👏
@@techihandle Looks like you took it personally. Wish you good luck.
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Thank you for the video sir i am completely agreeing with your thoughts and prospective. My whole friend circle has 1 kid either its girl or boy but sir at-least we are having one kid but some youngsters where both doing job don’t even bother to raise one kid they consider this as trouble for raising them for initial 4 years and those years will be blocked for them. There are many cases where couples are not even planning for one kid.
Here I don't agree with you sir.. Having 2 kids is good provided our population would have been stabilized.. But since we are too many and resources are too less. People with good money money and at better positions in life are consuming more resources and leaving very less for family which are earning less. So for family with less resources tend to improve their life only by cutting additional burden. I think sir every country has to go through such tough situations if our grand parents had only 2 kids then our situation would have been lot better. Also when growth comes at the expense of quality, value of life then this growth is superficial and temporary. 140 crore people is not less. It is a lot of people and opportunities are the same.. Take example of America Warren Buffett said if you are born in America you have already won half of the battles of your life. It has deep meaning... This doesn't mean i recommend to people to go to America. It simple means koi toh ek generation hoga jo sab bhuktega.. Previous generations ki mistakes ko.. China maine abhi ho raha hain india 10-15 bad hoga bas.... Just because 10 percent people in India doing better than others doesn't mean everything is good in now.. Our generation have lot if different problems and having 2 kids is not an option. Just my opinion.abhi toh recession bhi start hogaya hain.. All these things impact humans.. It impact our mental health.. No peace no stability no security nothing is fix in today's world
actually i have realised that he only makes the video for upper middle class , he forgets that lower middle class is still struggling to make ends meet
As always, wonderful thoughts. Thanks again Sir Ji
no support system sir, how is woman supposed to have a job, 2 kids, and live her life! Saas, Manager, duniya waalem a woman has many bosses!
Completely agree. Dada dadi contribution zero hoti hai. Wo bache ko take care krne se saaf mana kr dete hai. 6 month ki maternity milti hai uske baad maa bache ko kha shore? Agar c-section section ho jaye to in law's me koi care nai krta. Husband job PE chle jate hai, usko Ghar pe uski mother uski wife k saath kya krti kuj PTA nai hota. Ladki ki bhut dorghati krte hai in law's Wale
Parents should have kids only on the ability to properly raise them basic with human amenities and rights. Cannot raise half starved under nutrition kids. School lunches and deeply subsidized food rations are a good step towards a healthy country.
I think one child is enough.This way all the earnings and assets of parents can go that child.In case of a brother and sister all the parents give all their assets to their male child and hardly anything to the girl child, which creates bitterness in relationships.
Have 2 n give to both
@@SangoLifeSutras Yes,this should be the case,but my father has given me 2% and 98% to my brother.Very few have the heart to give 40% to their daughters.He married me into a very low level family as compared to them,otherwise I wouldn't have asked for a penny.I have started from zero.I have kept to 1 child,as I don't have enough resources and time to bring up 2 children.
But giving money to married daughter is termed as dowry.
@@miraj955 are you taking care of your parents and keeping them with you ? Did they not give dahej in your wedding? Are you not educated and working ? If answer to any of the above question is yes then you should get share in property.
@@azadjain8534 she is telling about inheritence not gifts or dowry
I'm feeling good after watching your video on this topic Amit Ji.. after the first kid who is a boy ... We tried for having a girl..and now we have three boys 😂
Yes Sir 100 % true🙏 your videos are absolutely amazing. I believe in song do phool na khilen toh ..aangan maza na dega .. i have two lovely kids
👦👧♥️♥️
2 kids - Not sure how common is it but I have seen quite a few cases of single child where parents don't know how much care is good care. It becomes obsession after a point. Child looks suffocated under such parenting.
I agree with the two kids concept but the problem is with unstable marriage, long working hours, high fees in schools , career ,standard of living , job security . Support from inlaws and family are also major concern as majority of the inlaws want grandchildren but don't want responsibility also their dominance and interference in the the couple married life is the root cause for all mess this is the main reason why couples are choosing to stay childless and live life independently and not a selfish decision 😱😤😪
You explained it so nicely Sir. But nowadays it is very difficult to convince our young generation.
No, 1st ladki hoti to bhi pass hote hai q k aajkl bohoto ko ho hi nahi rahe bache ,prb horahi h logo ko... i have only 1 child aur vo beti hai, muje nahi lgta me fail hui, and my husband also dont want other child
Maine society ke iss concept ko female phobia diya hai
My husband gave me that bitterness during my first child no support thats y I didn't take second chance
Sir true, husband needs to be supportive, we feel insecure without their support
Wife also needs to be supportive
Giving birth and raising kids is no joke. With cost of living going up, very hard
But if the women get 5 to 8 years of break in service and then allowed to join the same office or company, then it is somewhat possible.
A woman who is intelligent, hars working and career minded is forced to forgo her job for the sake of the child.
The sad thing is neither the husband nor the family respects a woman who doesn't earn money.
Hope some positive change happens.
so right
Regret.The basic problem today is to find the right match, to avoid joining the growing number of divorcees.See the matrimonial columns and discover the no.of divorcees in the marriage market.Even in the lower class I see lot of divorce cases
This is side of any kind of growing society
There is lack of understanding between couples. Working ladies have different issues. Expectations from each other should be kept at minimal. Intervention from in laws should be minimal and that too in a positive manner. Mutual respect and understanding is key to successful marriage
As Sir spoke in one of the videos, in this technically developed world , it is not issue of survival alone. Women position has changed and same old traditional system will not work for happy and prosperous life. There is lot of uncertainty in persons life now a days, so women needs to work. They have to contribute to family financially too for the welfare and progress of her family ( husband and children) . Husband have to understand , support and have to work on family happiness too. Man can be provider but women are born protectors of her loved ones. If wife is happy, children will bloom beautifully.
Absolutely agree with the idea of having two kids!
Aapke yeh video mein fevicol ka dum hain Sirjee!!☺️
2 Kids . Thank u sir 🙏 for sharing such a deep perspective.
Perfect! Guidance. I have one son. Sent him to Canada....Miss him like neverbefore(.2 kids)💯
So much sorted in my head sir
My daughter is 8 years old and i was thinking now it's too late for second child but you gave proper solution thank you so much sir
Very practical and logical advice. THANKSSS
Two kids✌🙏
Yes ...I agree with ur opinion..2 kids is best❤
Heads of u sir yr practical knowledge boost up young generation
Two kids best. I have 2. Totally agree with ur thoughts.
We had our first baby last year. We are settled abroad. Raising a kid is such a commitment… our life has become so difficult. Forget about sleep, constant attention to baby, all peace from life is gone. We are tired and getting cranky. That’s why we have decided no more kids. Not sure how previous generations raised multiple kids, kudos to them
Same in India. We had our son and man first few years were hell. Constant late nights, constant running around to drop him to play homes so he is not bored at home. Money or education were not the issue for us but i was just tired at the end of it all and i can't bring myself to do it all over again. We put a lot of focus into our son and thankfully he is doing great
That is the reason, I did not want baby kids. Child free life is more relaxing.
@@ganapatihegde1024it won’t be the same forever. 😢
One child is enough to rid the mother of any identity and health. Truth is nobody supports her so why should she destroy her peace for a second child. Reality is the relationships today don't support in child rearing. I have seen husbands having extra marital affairs during their wife's second pregnancy.
Jo bhi decide kro soch samjh k kro. Sabka apna situation hota h. Ek lo ya do achche se time do decent life style provide kro aur bachche ko apni jindagi jine do
You are absolutely right uncle. I also planned two with same thoughts. But now a days in gurgaon or with other friends of mine I have observed if they have only one girl then they are content. As some of my friends who has only one boy are not planning second one as they don't want two boys. They want assured one girl but can't take risk of another boy. Now a days ppl are happy with one girl or two but not two boys. But I agree there are different world of ppl, in other world there is still demand for boy.
True picture of society told by u. I appreciate
In hindsight totally agree with the practical advice of having 2 kids though we decided to have only 1 due to job and support constraints.
Who will look after the kids of working couples, as grandparents are also aged & tired 🤔🤔
Very good advice sir as always
I have a boy 5 years I am scared of second kid because I don’t want another boy. Always wanted a daughter
One child is enough in today's era for middle class family. If you know the expenses for school and tuition fees, even we have to make our own home, how can we manage two child's tution fees and school fees and mrg expenses plus other expenses like home loan, car loan.
If population is getting decreased than it is good for earth. You can see on internet, main reason of pollution and global warming is increased population.
And to support, kids will have frnds to share their thoughts and emotions. Even today, siblings don't share with each other but they share with frnds everything.
So according to your financial condition, have kids. We should not think about like india ki population decrease hogi, mama fufa chacha tai masi koi relation nai rahenge. Wese b koi relation ab kaam ka nai h. Just family functions me milte h that's it.
more important is couple should be honest about being ready to take the huge responsibilty & put another person first or not
otherwise no kids
in last video you said dont worry about the society , if you are not happy , how can you contribute to society
Sir Most of the times u r Absolutely Right.
Dude, US population is one fourth of india, and they have a GDP of 20 trillion. Its not about how many people you have its about how much consumption is there per capita. So instead of increasing the population its better to increase the quality of human beings we have. Travelling in metro or mumbai local is hell
Excellent 🎊🎊🎊 Nice 👍 explanation
Cost of bringing up a child is enormous, emotionally, financially. Aspirations of young children are huge. It is difficult to bring up
one child nowadays. We are staying in urban jungles where money is important . It’s a difficult decision for young parents.
My own thoughts .sir u explained very nice ly
Thanks for neutral clarity!
Nice video with good point... 2kids...
Superb video Sir !!!
Another master blaster
Very good explanation sir. 2 or 3 children 🧒 is good 😊
Great expectation🙏
Hello Sir your videos have helped me think more practically and thereby increasing happiness in my life.Could you please make a video on how to deal with the pressure of not being able to become parents even after many honest attempts.Would adoption be a logical choice in such case?Would like to know your views on this topic.
Bitter truth, nobody feels happy at the birth of girl child. I have 2 children n both are girls
'2' only if parents are subscribers of Sango Life or mature enough to raise them. Otherwise '0' because of overpopulation... The next generation should be better than us!
Excellent video
Yes absolutely correct
MAG sir ji... totally agreed 👍
बहुत अच्छा मै आपसे सहमत हूं।
Sir you are Great 🙏🏻✍🏻😊✍🏻🙏🏻
Gud one sir...n that pause when u said naukari se joojh rahe ho n biwi se 😂😂...
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@@SangoLifeSutras 😂😂😂😂🙏
Biwi se to sab juj rahe he 😂😂
Sir I feel having kids or not having kids, both is fine. Marrying or not marrying, both is ok. What is important is if you are born, kuch acha karke jao yaha se. Apna purpose find karo or apne hone se kuch fayda karao society me. I am 35 yrs old very spiritual from a young age and my issue is I don't like to go through the process instead feel like adopting kids. Am I thinking right?
Two kids are ideal for a family &for society too
Wonderful video sir.
very true......agree with you
Now India holds the number 1 position in population.
Very informative 👍
Very good suggestions sir 🙏
I very much agree with you sir 👍
Superb coverage sir
I found all ur vedios good but not this beacuse it is subjective ... every relationship is different their lives wants are different...
yes I agree. 2 kids is required.
True her level per bitterness milti hai marriage unsatable financial problem
Very well said Sir.
Gud information sir 👏💯
To raise a kid, it takes a whole village. But in reality, people think that it is only mother's responsibility. Somehow in so called modern families, they want kids to be tailor made achievers, where they won't take any responsibility but will expect from mothers.
Abundance is killing the art of raising a child.
Agree hundred percent...
Absolutely agree with u sir
U r so very true
Best is 3 children... But still here I agree with your point
Fully agreed for two kids..!! Personally I feel for this, below are the reasons:-
1- The quality of sharing things in kids should be very important & its lacking in single child. He/she becomes rude, lack in understanding if seeing somebody owns his/her things. Very complex emotions to handle, major drawback of single child.
2- Psychological aspect of child is more important rather than financial condition of family. Good morale, ethics, values carrying child always does best in his/her life as per inherent capabilities.
So many comments saying having a sibling builds values sharing and caring. Completely disagree. My daughter 11 yo, being my only child is very kind and caring to her friends and cousins. Her teachers and relatives are all praises for her loving nature. We give our best to our child and make sure that she knows the value of all that she has. When parents are gone, children will have their own families, jobs and most importantly, purpose of their lives. Why does anyone need a sibling to fall back on?
Three kids😁❣️
The reasons brought out by you for not having the second child are also true.
Absolutely true sir ,,