Parents can be real self-centered for their own insecurities. After a certain age, they cannot be trusted. They actually don't care what happens to their children due to their actions. Parent's egos and wants are the supreme drivers for the miseries of children.
Sahin hain ye batein sach hain. Parents takleef de rahee hain bachoon ko aur apas mein ladva rahein hain. Main khud 14 saal se court cases lad rahi hoon. Shaadi ho ke 22 saal ho gaye hain 😥
Sahi baat hai.. Indian Parents har cheez apne hisab se chalane ki sochte hai.. Bacho ko kathputli samjhte hai . Shadi and education sab unke hisab se ho..bacho ko fd samjhte hai.. I am personally facing this issue at extreme level Totally agree with Amit ji I did arrange marriage with my parents consent phir bhi kalesh kaat ke rkha hua .. I am only son in family phir bhi Har baat pe property na dene ki dhamki dete h
@@rindian1562 if parents have this much trust issue then why did they have kids in the first place children should ask this also to parents that's why the intelligent new gen are happy to be DINK's so in future they do not do the same drama as their parents
Yes this is very true word to word … This happened with us … exactly same what you said … I live in USA and they excluded me from my share … Finally i broke all my ties with my siblings and mother because of this unfairness …. I really appreciate your contents and the topic you r bringing out .. These toxic acts r happening in families, but No one brings it out in open … I salute your courage sir !! 🙏🏻
True, hmare parents ne bhi hme ghr se nikalne ke liye hd se bahar ho gye they, unki property pr paisa hmne lgaya fir bhi muje hi nikala dusre nikkme bete ko sath rkha...
Hello sir it's very very true sir. Parents apne dabbu type bachhe ko apni sewa ke ly apne pas rakhna chahte h aur jo kamyab bachha h uske gungan krte h dabbu bachhe ke samne Same story meri h sir
Rare example of my sasurji ! unhone kuch chije hum bahuonke nam pe kar di. vo kahete the ki bacche kuch bech denge, lekin dono bahue diya hua achhe se rakhengi. I am proud that unka diya hua aaj bhi hamare sath hai !
My parents never made an effort to put any effort to build a relationship with my brother and myself when we were young. He was the golden child and so he got all praises and I was ridiculed and ignored completely. He started doing the same when we were growing up and he still does it. We only send birthday wishes once a year to each other now. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with his toxic behavior anymore !
@@arpanmadrecha3013 he also knew,if he ask they will burn inside They treated him trash 🗑️ whole life. They are doing for 19+ years so it is happened everything cautiously with him. Thats why anyone should born second or more children if they don't know proper parenting and not able to do treat with child Life
@@sunilarathod9940 what I was saying is to such parents it should ask straight forward why did they have kids in the first place loud and clear so they realize their mistake it is their fault then
Ye sach hai . I strongly support you . Salute to your courage . There should be strict Law Against Parents . India मे पेरंट्स के खिलाफ बोलने वाले को लोग जैसे क्रिमिनल की नजर से देखते है
Indians born in 1960s or 70s, I see and introspect more and more, find most of them are quite narrow minded and completely disobeyed what the freedom fighters and the noble people in the pre independent india told or preached. But they always gave gyan citing them ! Be it openness, keeping transparency in relationship, honor of work etc ...take any aspect.
Absolutely correct. The parents say that their assets are their children because they don't want to distribute their wealth when they're alive and they want us to be in constant conflict. 💯 percent true hain Sir ji . 🙏 . Also make videos on how parents treat two different daughter's hubby based on their son-in-law's income and job designation also 😝🥴👿😜😂😆
Thank you, uncle for speaking up. My father divided my family for his own benefit. Mera baap baap hee reh gaya, pita kabhi nahin bana, na hee mummy ka patee bana.
Yes, very true. Sometimes parents compel the other children to help the unhealthy or needy children. Sometimes it can be very taxing and create gulf in the family.
Hats off 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 kadwa such humare samaj ka....or jo jo aapne bola sab mene suna hai...apne family mai bado se... But sab khel power ka hai...jiske pass power hai wo khela hai duniya Mai ...... Or parents shabd mai hi power hai sab power unme hai ... But i hope aaj ki generation in sab baato ko samjhe....or aage ka future sabhi baccho ke liye happiness bhara ho ...
Very true sir...parents in law, being old have more listeners than we have..they do many things silently to give guilty conscience to their young generation..
Ye normal attitude tha 70’s k phele k logon kaa par us samay mai bh kaafi achhe log bh rahe hain Aaj bh ye attitude transfer hua hoga aaj ki generation mai Thanks for your contribution uncleji
This is so so true. Its the responsibility of the parents to bring peace between the siblings. I have faced this issue in my childhood. Finally, I had to take care of both the parents
Thank you uncle ji aap bilkul shi khte ho ek ek point shi hai ldke ko problem hoti hai in sbse wo apne kaam pr dhyaan nhi de pata hai grhaklesh ki vjh se aap jaisa agr sbhi sochenge to bhut kucch badal skta hai lekin afsos indian parents kbhi bhi apni galti nhi manege Or aapne ye shi kha hai k sb jhel rhe hai lekin khul kr koi nhi bolta hai Thank you uncle
Sir, mujhe aapka content bahut achcha lagta hai. I am the cursed good boy which you talked about in one of the videos. Agree that when parents especially mothers get insecure, then try to play power politics between the siblings.
Thanks for talking openly about such a sensitive and difficult topic. Immature parents employ the "divide and rule" tactic with their children to maintain control and satisfy their interests. I'll be curious to know your views on how to disengage from such family members. Thanks!
100% Agree with you Sir...Very Very Truee 👍. This is, the story of many many house holds in India... Bs koi khul k baat krk bura nai banana chahta.. Hr ghar k kahani h ye Sir
I totally agree with you Sir. Of late parents in old age are actually becoming more manipulative n selfless for their smooth running of old-age. They r comfortably taking advantage by emotional black mail.
U r right... I too have faced this issue. I'm the elder brother in the family having 20 age My yonger brother is very well in academics nd have done great in academics nd got into the top engineering college and I'm not upto that Mark. I have seen some difference in pampering nd caring by parents which can lead to fractions between the siblings. But that's the nature of human being every one praises to the morning sun.
That's why better to have only 1 child max to avoid these situations or be DINK at least you can take a decision that you will have only 1 kid and treat the kid well
unique topics sir, i truly appreciate your content. i guess our parent generation was doing investment instead of parenting on children and doing emotional love to their real estate/ money. i really appreciate what they have done for us but always expecting our generation to obey them is unfair. we have an environment of talking openly in our home, then have so much disagreements. i wonder what lack of communication can do. Basic flaw of previous generations is they take disagreements as disrespects. Thank you and keep making such type of content sir.
Sir aap bahut atcha kaam kar rahe hai.really useful.iam 43year old doctor and being mentally harrassed by my parents.the are rich and financial lly sound then also made my life hell.they misuse the senior citizen law.....they are very toxic
You are very right Sir. Very bold to come up with these facts of society. I suffered many years to realise that my parents love no one but them only. Most of the time they manipulate siblings for only their benefit. They painted me as villen in society even most of time what they wanted me to do in life. Thank You Sir.
Thanks for discussing . These topics are really need to be discussed. With shame no one like to discuss. Mostly sweet spoken child or who show off more takes love and property. Please this is real life . Thanks for at least bringing out. Thanks sir
Sir "Meethe bol syndrome" par video banaye. I am the eldest daughter in my family and I am a very straight forward person. My father expects me to speak sweet words, he gets offended when I speak straight forward. I don't understand why people don't respect a person who is straight forward in nature. I feel he or she is the most honest person.
Straight forward people are never respected. Need to do politician talk. My brother did sweet talk only on phone while my parents stayed with me. When time is ripe they sided with him - sweet talk wins. Realized this late in life.
@deepshar027 can you clarify- did the parents stay with you or you stayed in the parents house rent-free while it was the family house where your other siblings were equally entitled to live , but because of job outside lived in another rented property in another city, while you were enjoying their portion of the family house?
Yeh to hai, as a younger brother when my father left his body when I was 16 then the neglegence I saw from my mother towards me is very high. She didn't cared whether I have any voter ID or aadhar or license or bank account or anything, I have to did lots of arguments to get the same in my house. We have car and bike in my house but the keys were hidden as they don't want to give me, glad my friends helped me in learning vehicles. Overall there is a negligence for my needs, I didn't asked for money and clothes from my mother, and she didn't asked me whether I needed it or not. I only lived with 4 pair of clothes from 16 to 21, not more than 200-300rs a year and that too I get from left overs after buying groceries. I used legs for travelling mostly but sometimes public vehicle needed and that's where my money is gone to. We are a middle class family, not anywhere near poor. Mother was a MCD teacher, now ret. However, I gathered everything with my efforts and righteous demands, 27 now
Very nice and true. Apt videos for Indian families where all children are married.....Indians parents hamesha pehle apne baare main sochte hain ki meri sewa kaun karega, Jo karega usse hi mewa milega....and they pick the weaker child Jo unse hamesha chipka rahega.....ultimate one is shadi ke baad jo accha kaam ladka kar Raha woh hamare sanskaar hain jo accha nahi karaega woh to Bahu ke kahe main chal raha...warna hamara ladka to heera hain......but inside out they know how the behaviour patterns of their kids but they can't accept the truth .... Aur issi jiddh main ghar main tensions hote hain
Sir u have kept hand on my dukhti ratt..because this is the problem with my family ..my mother favours her son more than me her daughter as i have been an average student throughout life and my brother has been d genius in her eyes .. according to my mother he has said number of times to me that "tune hamesha naak neechi Kari hai my son has made me proud " this thing has gradually made my brother an arrogant and stubborn person in life , he dosent respects me at all ..he calls me a loser and a failure through out..i have been depressed all my life get continues hurt my my mother and brother..my father has not been a strong man he listens 90 percentage to what my mom says n repeat that and now my father is old and lost his senses completely ...i have been with my family in all thick and thin throughout life till date , given in emotionally to them , physical efforts towards them ..but i am being told always tune kiya hi kya hai and everything is weighted monetary wise ...now my brother calls me nikkama and wants all property to himself says to me to contribute financially towards parents else forget all property..he daily tortures me , calls me loser , makes fun of me , calls me failure , insults and humiliates me day and night ...never appreciate what i do for him ..even if i give him gifts he says pati k paise se diya hai ... I supported my family before marriage..financially i supported my brother , i supported my parents during hospitalizations physically taking care of them , i love my parents n brother but everything gets weighted financially.. I feel exhausted and depressed.. I have done jobs but could never earn more that 40k per month and lost interest in jobs eventually...i got married and then also i did job for two years but could not grow due to which i have left job now ...but i really get tortured thru my mother and brother for years ..
I read your entire comment and after reading to your story, I remembered myself. I would like to say to you, do not give up as long as you are alive. aap ke liye bhi koi na koi chinta karta hai 😢
Agreed.....koi problem nahi hai zindagi mein bas in laws ka hi tension hai....sab pyar betiyon ko unke bacchon ko pyar se sambhalate hai...beta Bahu sirf farz nibhane ko chahiye...sir pls ek video banaiye jaha betiyon ko property me hissa chahiy....law dekha jaye to correct hai but jab inko shadi ke time haisiyat se jyada dowry di tab law kaha tha....aur ek baat jo mayake se hisse le rahe hai unhone apni nanando bhi to Dena chahiye....matlab law ko apne hisab se apne convenience se ghumalo
No words to expresss how accurate you r sir 👏👏👏....Exactly ds is happening in our family ...indian parents r root cause of everyproblems ....bt some r suffering n some r enjoying the Free Pension , Free property .... Thank you sir for bitter truth ....which nobody has courage to accept 🙏🏼. ,🙏🏼Har har Mahadev 🙏🏼
Went through something similar couple of hours back and have been seeing these things so closely nowadays and your video popped up with a perfect thumbnail & the entire video is so relatable. I have been planning to come up with A podcast of my own and was thinking of talking about these issues but was scared cos it needs a lot of guts. Grt job sir!
Mahatma ji, As usual you always cover taboo topics with extreme boldness and what is most important that you always come with a most relevant, practical, desirable and easy to implement solutions for the toughest of problems! Though anticipating Sewa is bound to manifest. Which will definitely bring anticipator to such a stage that he/she will need sewa.🙏
Parent Ke mithe bol. Sweet talker sibling versus yes sir talker sibling. Parent duty for equal stay across each child, no preference. Good Parenting Rules to follow. Signed Agreement for Siblings
Thanks for enlightenment sir. You are touching very critical issues which are never been taken on record. Ur views are very true on these things. Such things happen no one exactly come to any conclusion 👍
My parents long favoured my younger sister.Now she has stopped talking to me completely .when I asked my parents to show me their will as I want to settle things with her on the basis of their will in the future they reprimanded me called me greedy whereas I just wanted paperwork done so that things can be settled amicably.Now I'm the bad one even more
Something I can relate to - the 'secret' evaluation game playing in their mind - the rules of which aren't ever laid out and which keeps on changing to suit the parent's fancy/current needs . They boast of being impartial or 'god' for their children while their minds are corrupted by their own biases which they won't even recognise
Each and every word of yours is so very true.. Parents in our society do treat differently if the siblings are girl and boy.. Boys do get everything they want just by saying "wo ladka hai, hamara sahara hai" etc etc.. on other hand for girls, parents favour less, saying "ladki doosre ghar ki hai" though girl is also kept in womb same as a boy.. boys get best education, toys, etc almost everything.. whereas girls-why to spend so much "paise nahi hai" etc boys ke liye paise kabhi kam nahi padte.. ladka ho to "hamara khoon hai" ladki hai to "doosre ghar ki hai" jaise ladkiyo ka khoon nahi pani ho..
No one could have put it forth so articulately and so accurately. You are extremely strong honest and courageous
very true statment. todays time parents apne faide ke liye bacho ko ladwa rhe hain. Specially after their marriages, its bitter but its true
Aisa pta nahi kaun parents karte hai aur kaise karte hai
@@neelamaggarwal4053 not all fingers are same. It's a big world
Kaisi baaten ho rahee hain, parents kyun ladwaenge
Pata nahi kyu karate hai ।par ye sach hai ki parents karte hai। Jhagda karwate hai।
I think woh ladwa nahi rahe , Children wants their money without fulfilling responsibilities , it's a very big matter and problem
Parents can be real self-centered for their own insecurities. After a certain age, they cannot be trusted. They actually don't care what happens to their children due to their actions. Parent's egos and wants are the supreme drivers for the miseries of children.
These insecurities are in girls parents more
Parents are parents. girl or boy.
Insecurities are not gender specific.
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Absolutely correct!!👌👌
What a bitter truth. Parents are the cause for all sibling rivalry. I totally agree.
India me pehle bar kisi ne ye kha he ke parents are insaan not bagwan,love n respect them like humans.
Thank god I have such a great full in-laws 🙏
Absolutely they consider themselves as bhagwaan , while they carry out all the nasty activities when it comes to them.
Lucky are those who have wise parents. Commonly, parents play games with their children.
कई बार parents apne fear and emotions mai apne बच्चों की life ko उलझा देते हैं.
What you are saying is not 100% but 10000% true.. Parents are the biggest reason for siblings rivalry.
No I admire him but in this aspect he is wrong , not all case are same, sibling rivalry is due to jealousy ,greed and competitiveness nature
Very well said... The blame comes on children in later stages.. Parents are holy cows always... And bahu n damad carry the blame. Well said sir🙏
Parents feel that the younger kid brought in luck as their life had improved
Sahin hain ye batein sach hain. Parents takleef de rahee hain bachoon ko aur apas mein ladva rahein hain. Main khud 14 saal se court cases lad rahi hoon. Shaadi ho ke 22 saal ho gaye hain 😥
Very truly said. Parents are causing havoc in kids lives and hurting the kid's mental peace.
I never was able to see my both grand parents in my childhood.
I feel u r my grandpa giving advice..
Sahi baat hai..
Indian Parents har cheez apne hisab se chalane ki sochte hai..
Bacho ko kathputli samjhte hai
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Shadi and education sab unke hisab se ho..bacho ko fd samjhte hai..
I am personally facing this issue at extreme level
Totally agree with Amit ji
I did arrange marriage with my parents consent phir bhi kalesh kaat ke rkha hua ..
I am only son in family phir bhi Har baat pe property na dene ki dhamki dete h
Mere saath same
@@rindian1562 if parents have this much trust issue then why did they have kids in the first place children should ask this also to parents that's why the intelligent new gen are happy to be DINK's so in future they do not do the same drama as their parents
Main problem is greed of Childrens
@@deepaknoor6239 not always the case. In my case no property involved but insecurity of parents.
@@deepaknoor6239 how much greed
Plz explain if bussinesss monthly 25000 income
Son work 6 hours day
How much son salary
Plz explain
Sahi h 100% maa baap bachon m devide and rule karte h ,jahan dispute nahi ho vahan kar dete h
Yes this is very true word to word … This happened with us … exactly same what you said … I live in USA and they excluded me from my share … Finally i broke all my ties with my siblings and mother because of this unfairness …. I really appreciate your contents and the topic you r bringing out .. These toxic acts r happening in families, but No one brings it out in open … I salute your courage sir !! 🙏🏻
Right. Paida karte time nahi sochte. Property ke time selfish ban jate hai
True, hmare parents ne bhi hme ghr se nikalne ke liye hd se bahar ho gye they, unki property pr paisa hmne lgaya fir bhi muje hi nikala dusre nikkme bete ko sath rkha...
Hello sir it's very very true sir. Parents apne dabbu type bachhe ko apni sewa ke ly apne pas rakhna chahte h aur jo kamyab bachha h uske gungan krte h dabbu bachhe ke samne
Same story meri h sir
Very much true, Sir ji.... parents use ' divide and rule ' tactics amongst their children...
Rare example of my sasurji ! unhone
kuch chije hum bahuonke nam pe kar di.
vo kahete the ki bacche kuch bech denge, lekin dono bahue diya hua achhe
se rakhengi. I am proud that unka diya hua aaj bhi hamare sath hai !
O mg!
My parents never made an effort to put any effort to build a relationship with my brother and myself when we were young. He was the golden child and so he got all praises and I was ridiculed and ignored completely. He started doing the same when we were growing up and he still does it. We only send birthday wishes once a year to each other now. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with his toxic behavior anymore !
@@arpanmadrecha3013 he also knew,if he ask they will burn inside They treated him trash 🗑️ whole life. They are doing for 19+ years so it is happened everything cautiously with him. Thats why anyone should born second or more children if they don't know proper parenting and not able to do treat with child Life
Should not*
@@arpanmadrecha3013 every parent has a favourite child. If they say they don’t have then understand that you are that unlucky one
@@sunilarathod9940 what I was saying is to such parents it should ask straight forward why did they have kids in the first place loud and clear so they realize their mistake it is their fault then
Sir, u r 100% true… patents plays big role in children rivalry
Ye sach hai . I strongly support you . Salute to your courage . There should be strict Law Against Parents . India मे पेरंट्स के खिलाफ बोलने वाले को लोग जैसे क्रिमिनल की नजर से देखते है
Indians born in 1960s or 70s, I see and introspect more and more, find most of them are quite narrow minded and completely disobeyed what the freedom fighters and the noble people in the pre independent india told or preached. But they always gave gyan citing them !
Be it openness, keeping transparency in relationship, honor of work etc ...take any aspect.
Very True ....Parents are the biggest reason for siblings rivalry & its 100% real.
Absolutely correct. The parents say that their assets are their children because they don't want to distribute their wealth when they're alive and they want us to be in constant conflict. 💯 percent true hain Sir ji . 🙏 .
Also make videos on how parents treat two different daughter's hubby based on their son-in-law's income and job designation also 😝🥴👿😜😂😆
Very well said!! I agree with you cent percent.
True comment. Thanks for writing
Sir very very very very very very very very very very very very very TRUE!!!!!!!
Very very well said. almost every second family is facing this
AS this is truth of life, parents see inheritance as tool to power and exploit, you have hit the root, i appreciate
Thank you, uncle for speaking up. My father divided my family for his own benefit. Mera baap baap hee reh gaya, pita kabhi nahin bana, na hee mummy ka patee bana.
Same here
Yes, very true. Sometimes parents compel the other children to help the unhealthy or needy children. Sometimes it can be very taxing and create gulf in the family.
Hats off 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 kadwa such humare samaj ka....or jo jo aapne bola sab mene suna hai...apne family mai bado se... But sab khel power ka hai...jiske pass power hai wo khela hai duniya Mai ...... Or parents shabd mai hi power hai sab power unme hai ... But i hope aaj ki generation in sab baato ko samjhe....or aage ka future sabhi baccho ke liye happiness bhara ho ...
Sach hai. I am the middle child so they don't give me anything. They just say we taught you enough.
Very true sir...parents in law, being old have more listeners than we have..they do many things silently to give guilty conscience to their young generation..
Absolutely true... My family and siblings are being torn apart because my parents are taking a side of one child no matter what....
Ye normal attitude tha 70’s k phele k logon kaa par us samay mai bh kaafi achhe log bh rahe hain
Aaj bh ye attitude transfer hua hoga aaj ki generation mai
Thanks for your contribution uncleji
This is so so true. Its the responsibility of the parents to bring peace between the siblings. I have faced this issue in my childhood. Finally, I had to take care of both the parents
Thank you uncle ji aap bilkul shi khte ho ek ek point shi hai ldke ko problem hoti hai in sbse wo apne kaam pr dhyaan nhi de pata hai grhaklesh ki vjh se aap jaisa agr sbhi sochenge to bhut kucch badal skta hai lekin afsos indian parents kbhi bhi apni galti nhi manege Or aapne ye shi kha hai k sb jhel rhe hai lekin khul kr koi nhi bolta hai Thank you uncle
Sir, mujhe aapka content bahut achcha lagta hai. I am the cursed good boy which you talked about in one of the videos. Agree that when parents especially mothers get insecure, then try to play power politics between the siblings.
So now if you just got married then you should decide to have only 1 child or no child as DINK is common nowadays less headache for the couple
Looks like we are in similar situation. Good to know I am not alone.
@@arpanmadrecha946but Amit sir never support this theory of DINK .
Thanks for talking openly about such a sensitive and difficult topic. Immature parents employ the "divide and rule" tactic with their children to maintain control and satisfy their interests. I'll be curious to know your views on how to disengage from such family members. Thanks!
Get a Job, Avoid being part of Toxic Communication, Bhajan and Wellness Program Enrollment, Communication Classes, earbuds, Set Achievable Goals !!!
@@hirenkgthanks. Ur ans really helped me
Yes true…parents these days are very self centred…
Wahi bolne ki himmat aur bolne par father mother bura man jate hai emotional ho jate hai
100% Agree with you Sir...Very Very Truee 👍. This is, the story of many many house holds in India... Bs koi khul k baat krk bura nai banana chahta.. Hr ghar k kahani h ye Sir
Guruji , you are exposing the dark secret and biasness of parents , society needs to look in to this matter and act seriously.
So true
So true
So true
Ek ek shabd sach hai satya hai
Guruji apke charan sparsh. Apne Dil jeet liya
True..aksar Husband wife m bhi kalesh saas sasur ki vajha se hi hote hai
I totally agree with you Sir. Of late parents in old age are actually becoming more manipulative n selfless for their smooth running of old-age. They r comfortably taking advantage by emotional black mail.
U r right... I too have faced this issue. I'm the elder brother in the family having 20 age
My yonger brother is very well in academics nd have done great in academics nd got into the top engineering college and I'm not upto that Mark. I have seen some difference in pampering nd caring by parents which can lead to fractions between the siblings.
But that's the nature of human being every one praises to the morning sun.
That's why better to have only 1 child max to avoid these situations or be DINK at least you can take a decision that you will have only 1 kid and treat the kid well
Parents are giving pain to the children for their own self interest, Please continue make all real issue based videos, thanks Mr. Amit
Aapki baat sunkar uncle aansu aa gaye! Thanks for sharing this.
unique topics sir, i truly appreciate your content. i guess our parent generation was doing investment instead of parenting on children and doing emotional love to their real estate/ money. i really appreciate what they have done for us but always expecting our generation to obey them is unfair. we have an environment of talking openly in our home, then have so much disagreements. i wonder what lack of communication can do. Basic flaw of previous generations is they take disagreements as disrespects. Thank you and keep making such type of content sir.
Sir aap bahut atcha kaam kar rahe hai.really useful.iam 43year old doctor and being mentally harrassed by my parents.the are rich and financial lly sound then also made my life hell.they misuse the senior citizen law.....they are very toxic
Ghar chod do ?
Bohut sahi video h Sir ji
You are speaking hundred percent fact. This is exactly the situation. High time to acknowledge it. Thanks for speaking about it.
Completely agree Sir...I m facing same issue...my yanger brother has taken everything....
Uncle, aapne ek dum sahi baat boli
Jo bachche pass rehte hai, seva karte hai, parents ko woh nahi pasand hote. Jo door rehte hai, humesha unke phone ka wait karte hai.
So true. Yahi mere yaha hai. Par Aisa kyu hota hai
Same with us
Sadly 100% True Sir. Awesome observations, excellent bravery by bringing such hidden topic on surface.
You are very right Sir. Very bold to come up with these facts of society. I suffered many years to realise that my parents love no one but them only. Most of the time they manipulate siblings for only their benefit. They painted me as villen in society even most of time what they wanted me to do in life. Thank You Sir.
Very Truthfully you have spoken the Bitter Truth. I'm the Eldest Son & the same has happened with me whatever you have spoken.
Thanks for discussing . These topics are really need to be discussed. With shame no one like to discuss. Mostly sweet spoken child or who show off more takes love and property. Please this is real life . Thanks for at least bringing out. Thanks sir
Very useful narration and truthful guidance
Absolutely True sir..!
being elder is kind of a curse.
Yes its truth...parents change...depend on children sucess
Sir "Meethe bol syndrome" par video banaye. I am the eldest daughter in my family and I am a very straight forward person. My father expects me to speak sweet words, he gets offended when I speak straight forward. I don't understand why people don't respect a person who is straight forward in nature. I feel he or she is the most honest person.
Straight forward people are never respected. Need to do politician talk. My brother did sweet talk only on phone while my parents stayed with me. When time is ripe they sided with him - sweet talk wins. Realized this late in life.
@@deepshar027 so straight tagult are bad
@deepshar027 can you clarify- did the parents stay with you or you stayed in the parents house rent-free while it was the family house where your other siblings were equally entitled to live , but because of job outside lived in another rented property in another city, while you were enjoying their portion of the family house?
True statement sir, this is the story of almost every household but no one talk about it.
एक दम सही, parents पैरेंट्स होते है, भगवान नहीं
Curse of being an elder sibling. Please make a video. Much needed.
Yeh to hai, as a younger brother when my father left his body when I was 16 then the neglegence I saw from my mother towards me is very high.
She didn't cared whether I have any voter ID or aadhar or license or bank account or anything, I have to did lots of arguments to get the same in my house.
We have car and bike in my house but the keys were hidden as they don't want to give me, glad my friends helped me in learning vehicles.
Overall there is a negligence for my needs, I didn't asked for money and clothes from my mother, and she didn't asked me whether I needed it or not.
I only lived with 4 pair of clothes from 16 to 21, not more than 200-300rs a year and that too I get from left overs after buying groceries. I used legs for travelling mostly but sometimes public vehicle needed and that's where my money is gone to.
We are a middle class family, not anywhere near poor. Mother was a MCD teacher, now ret.
However, I gathered everything with my efforts and righteous demands, 27 now
Bilkul sahi kaha sir
100% true ..... Sir, I respect your guts to bring out such matters....
Very nice and true. Apt videos for Indian families where all children are married.....Indians parents hamesha pehle apne baare main sochte hain ki meri sewa kaun karega, Jo karega usse hi mewa milega....and they pick the weaker child Jo unse hamesha chipka rahega.....ultimate one is shadi ke baad jo accha kaam ladka kar Raha woh hamare sanskaar hain jo accha nahi karaega woh to Bahu ke kahe main chal raha...warna hamara ladka to heera hain......but inside out they know how the behaviour patterns of their kids but they can't accept the truth .... Aur issi jiddh main ghar main tensions hote hain
Very true... Awesome understanding 👍👍
Bilkul think bataya apne , har family me eise luka chupi chalta hai 👌👍👍correct kotha !
Sir u have kept hand on my dukhti ratt..because this is the problem with my family ..my mother favours her son more than me her daughter as i have been an average student throughout life and my brother has been d genius in her eyes .. according to my mother he has said number of times to me that "tune hamesha naak neechi Kari hai my son has made me proud " this thing has gradually made my brother an arrogant and stubborn person in life , he dosent respects me at all ..he calls me a loser and a failure through out..i have been depressed all my life get continues hurt my my mother and brother..my father has not been a strong man he listens 90 percentage to what my mom says n repeat that and now my father is old and lost his senses completely ...i have been with my family in all thick and thin throughout life till date , given in emotionally to them , physical efforts towards them ..but i am being told always tune kiya hi kya hai and everything is weighted monetary wise ...now my brother calls me nikkama and wants all property to himself says to me to contribute financially towards parents else forget all property..he daily tortures me , calls me loser , makes fun of me , calls me failure , insults and humiliates me day and night ...never appreciate what i do for him ..even if i give him gifts he says pati k paise se diya hai ...
I supported my family before marriage..financially i supported my brother , i supported my parents during hospitalizations physically taking care of them , i love my parents n brother but everything gets weighted financially..
I feel exhausted and depressed..
I have done jobs but could never earn more that 40k per month and lost interest in jobs eventually...i got married and then also i did job for two years but could not grow due to which i have left job now ...but i really get tortured thru my mother and brother for years ..
I read your entire comment and after reading to your story, I remembered myself. I would like to say to you, do not give up as long as you are alive. aap ke liye bhi koi na koi chinta karta hai 😢
I understand ur pain. Brothers r selfish n manipulate parents. They r evil
Agreed.....koi problem nahi hai zindagi mein bas in laws ka hi tension hai....sab pyar betiyon ko unke bacchon ko pyar se sambhalate hai...beta Bahu sirf farz nibhane ko chahiye...sir pls ek video banaiye jaha betiyon ko property me hissa chahiy....law dekha jaye to correct hai but jab inko shadi ke time haisiyat se jyada dowry di tab law kaha tha....aur ek baat jo mayake se hisse le rahe hai unhone apni nanando bhi to Dena chahiye....matlab law ko apne hisab se apne convenience se ghumalo
No words to expresss how accurate you r sir 👏👏👏....Exactly ds is happening in our family ...indian parents r root cause of everyproblems ....bt some r suffering n some r enjoying the Free Pension , Free property ....
Thank you sir for bitter truth ....which nobody has courage to accept 🙏🏼.
,🙏🏼Har har Mahadev 🙏🏼
ye sach h ki parents apne ego or selfishness ke karan apne hi son ki life barbad kar rhe h... 😷
Went through something similar couple of hours back and have been seeing these things so closely nowadays and your video popped up with a perfect thumbnail & the entire video is so relatable. I have been planning to come up with A podcast of my own and was thinking of talking about these issues but was scared cos it needs a lot of guts. Grt job sir!
Mahatma ji, As usual you always cover taboo topics with extreme boldness and what is most important that you always come with a most relevant, practical, desirable and easy to implement solutions for the toughest of problems!
Though anticipating Sewa is bound to manifest.
Which will definitely bring anticipator to such a stage that he/she will need sewa.🙏
Very True the content is so true; appreciate your content . Thankyou so much Sir.
Very true sir..very very true
The suffering is insane at times
Parent Ke mithe bol. Sweet talker sibling versus yes sir talker sibling. Parent duty for equal stay across each child, no preference. Good Parenting Rules to follow. Signed Agreement for Siblings
That's right... Parents use children for their benefit.. also for their selfishness they create quarrel between children.
Thanks for enlightenment sir. You are touching very critical issues which are never been taken on record. Ur views are very true on these things. Such things happen no one exactly come to any conclusion 👍
Bilkul Sahi bol rahi hai .... Parents are most selfish ...
My parents long favoured my younger sister.Now she has stopped talking to me completely .when I asked my parents to show me their will as I want to settle things with her on the basis of their will in the future they reprimanded me called me greedy whereas I just wanted paperwork done so that things can be settled amicably.Now I'm the bad one even more
this s exactly wat happened in my family. Word to word true. I didnt have any clue that this s happening.
Please prepare a video on elder sibling curse
He is not even accepting his mistakes. And he is blaming me Infront of every relatives.
It’s true.. in my family too parent favour one child over other.
King of content 👍👍👏👏👏👏👏
Very much practical
Straight forward
Well explained. Today's parents blame to own kids. Whole youth life barbad kar dete he apne bachcho ko.
You r true sir. This is happening generation after generations.
Something I can relate to - the 'secret' evaluation game playing in their mind - the rules of which aren't ever laid out and which keeps on changing to suit the parent's fancy/current needs . They boast of being impartial or 'god' for their children while their minds are corrupted by their own biases which they won't even recognise
So true
Bilkul sahi h sir,bt koi apne glt kamon ko accept nyi krta
Each and every word of yours is so very true..
Parents in our society do treat differently if the siblings are girl and boy..
Boys do get everything they want just by saying "wo ladka hai, hamara sahara hai" etc etc..
on other hand for girls, parents favour less, saying "ladki doosre ghar ki hai" though girl is also kept in womb same as a boy..
boys get best education, toys, etc almost everything..
whereas girls-why to spend so much "paise nahi hai" etc boys ke liye paise kabhi kam nahi padte..
ladka ho to "hamara khoon hai"
ladki hai to "doosre ghar ki hai" jaise ladkiyo ka khoon nahi pani ho..
So True Sir
Om Sai ram ji 🙏 Bhai ji truely said excellent 👌 video today life balance sheet is proved by you thank