Baghban Syndrome| A Wealth Destroyer| 03 Takeaways | Baap Baap Hota Hai
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- čas přidán 14. 01. 2021
- In this video importance of role of father in a family 's growth is discussed.
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Sir, this is a profound video... please elaborate more on topics covered by you...it was straight from the heart 👍🙏
Beutifully explained.Totally agreed.thanks for sharing
V interesting
Thanks sir. This is your best video. Every mother and father must watch this. Wrong mentality, brainwash of parents is more responsible for breaking home. You are the only one who talks on these topics. You said right about WhatsApp messages in old age group. Unnecessary bitterness in parents, just because of these movies and TV serials.
I was in Sixth standard and we went for a movie "Baghban".. Even at that age of 11-12 years old my parents were looking at me with those suspicious eyes. 🤦Ye impact hai movies ka logo k dimag pe..
Then my whole life till now (33 years old) went in proving them that I am a good child and will not leave them. I even compromised my career and rejected high paying job offers from other cities just to prove that I am a Shravan Kumar of my parents.. When I got married I had nothing as a bank balance as I choose a very low paying job.. My father has 2 pensions as he served for Indian Navy as well as Indian Railways.. Still my mother, as soon as she became Saas, started asking for money from me.. Started showing bad behaviour towards my wife in just 10 days of marriage.. Even she destroyed our wedding photographs by burning them. This is the cost I paid for being a good boy. Not having any bad habits. Always tried to be a good child..
I realised it now.. I left my home and rented a house. Still the saas (my mother) is badmouthing about us in every possible way in relatives..
Moral, which I found, is never compromise your goals for anyone, else you will find yourself cheated someday.
Well said. Just because they are parents it doesn't mean that they are always doing right things. Often they expect very unreasonable sacrifices too. Everyone has different circumstances.
I am very sorry to hear that.. but remember that life is not fair and we should never expect it to be fair..
Having said that.. just because your parents behaved badly don't keep any grudges.. be grateful and move on with your life and eventually everything will fall in place..
Remember the phrase.."whatever happens.. happens for good"
All the best..
@@pnjathar even if it seemed that they behaved badly, acknowledge that they have their limitations too. They also don't know it all. Still they have brought us up, sacrificing their lives. And raising children is not an easy task.
So let's appreciate and be thankful for what they did for us but put a little distance if things don't improve with time. Try to talk/discuss with them if possible. I am sure many of parents will show understanding and will know their boundaries too. We can do it gently and respectfully too.
Did you marry against your mother's wish? Just curious
I agree 100% with your views. My dad who is now 92 has always been helping me whenever I was in need and even he keeps asking do you want any money.
I too have developed the same attitude and believe that our children are our assets and helping them is morr important.
You are really lucky, and sound like a great person towards your children!
Very true sir. This movie destroyed my relationship with my parents forever. I was an ideal son always, but my parents were always afraid that I might take their advantage for money or real estate. 🙏 thanks for bringing this point. I am feeling that I was always right. My fathers relation with me was severely badly affected by this movie.
I am so sorry Pawan
Same here. I am never interested in his money.
Same thing happened to me due to marathi movie 'Natsamrat'.
Same here Pawan. My father suddenly stopped talking to me in 2016 and didn't talk to me until 2020. After that nothing is normal with my parents. They have accused me of being greedy and conspirator. They have said that I am trying to encroach on their flat, where we live currently. They haven't left us alone for a single day in the flat after 2016, because they think we would encroach their flat by calling few 'gundas'.
They once (during a heated argument) asked me to sign an affidavit that I would never claim their property in future. I said its your property how can I claim it, it's not an ancestral property so signing an affidavit is useless. But all in vain. I have said them that I dont want your money or property. Whatever I have is enough for me and don't want to steal anyone's property. They threatened to throw out of their home, just because they don't want to give anything to me.
I just can't understand what and how did I conspire to steal their property.
I have assured them that the day I get my job, I would move out of your flat along with my kid and wife, and would never ever come back.
OMG
Absolutely true sir, my parents always stressed that I will take away everything from them. At the end I took a decision to leave them with their doubts and move on.
Good decision
You are those 20percent of people in this world so difficult to find. Everyday this 20 percent of people have to deal with 80 percent of idiots who will stand against these thoughts n make their life difficult. Glad to have found you. We don't live in the same era that our parents did nor our children will grow into the same era as we live in. This is life and change is inevitable . Par yeah sab batein 80 percent janta ko bakwaas lagti hai
Our complete wealth was destroyed by this movie.. My father took so many wrong decisions after watching this movie 😭😭
@Taranjeet Singh
Meanwhile, Amitabh over-hyped Bachchan and Co would have been laughing all the way to the bank.
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If the things you say are true, it means that your parents have failed in their duties towards you.
It is unfair to you.
@@gamer-sj8li ye kuch jayada filmy ho gya
I agree. I know of a couple who did not trust their kids with their financials and did not add kids names on the account and someone stole their life savings.
@@gamer-sj8li I am so sorry to hear this. Perhaps you need to put your foot down and make sure you very lovingly say no to
It or your next generation and life partner may resent you for making poor decisions.
Everybody needs a father like him ❤️
And every girl need a father in law like him
I am 45 now and miss my Father so often now. I never understood him back then.
I am trying hard , so kids like me and feel comfortable with me. Believe me it’s not easy - not easy.
True.
This was not a movie...This was a whole 3 hour long commerical of ICICI Bank
I completely agree with you. In my house situation is totally different, but still my in-laws watch this film and we all have to face stress and tension.
My in-laws favorite movie, they are jealous of their sons, and their lifestyle.. she once said to me, that “we raised them, they got job, we r not going to do anything now for them” and in-laws keep asking for money from their sons, and expect their sons to take care care of all their expenses, build a house for them, whereas my FIL, never saved any money, never bought any properties, enjoyed his life to fullest and when he turned 50, lost his job and all benefits, after that he started time pass, playing with his friends watching tv all day, and his wife my MIL, expects their sons to do everything for them as they hv raised the sons, and according to her whatever their sons are earning is because of her, so she has all the rights on the sons income. Not the bahu
Bhot ghar ka yahi hall hai
Give them only what they requires
Very rightly said that a father has a very powerful role to perform....that of protector ,provider but above all the Wiseman of the family....who keeps the family together.
Thanks Uncle,
kaash aap jaisi samjhdaari sabhi logon mein aa jaaye.
Excellent example Again guruji! you say my own life story and I feel it. I see Bagban 10 times. I am on bedrest (age 50) and want to earn more from my unused wealth. You are my Godfather 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It is strange that till today no such precious pieces of advice were available from our ancestors. I am grateful to you, Sir, for your views that are realistic. It seems that a lot has to be learnt from you.
With kind regards
Harish (68+)
These film actors instead of improving the family bonding creates more fissures in the society. A person like Amitabh having Billions shd not destroy the middle class...
Thanks for this video, this is the unsaid reality of indian society.
I was a working mother, my MIL was a wonderful lady, she helped a lot in raising my son and helping at home(not to mention we had maids for all chores except for cooking). But later she was brainshwashed by some relatives stating that you are only being used by your bahu and they have kept you as maid in the house.... And other non sense..... Which later on ruined our relationship and finally I decided to quit the job and stay at home
Excellent analysis Sir! This generational isolation of the capital eroded the financial growth of 2 generations, like Bollywood movies showing the hero publicly harassing the heroine and she still falling in love with him later also gave rise to a lot of misogyny in our society dis balancing gender parity.
Jitne v Bigde Aulaad hain sabko ye video achha lagega, But jitne v Aulaad apne zindagi main kamiyaab hain wo kabhi v Baap ka paisa ka hisaab nehi rakhenge, wo ye sochenge ki main kaise apna khud se income karun, aur apne parents ko khus rakhoon
Hamare saas sasur ne toapne bete ko uska sara paisa lekar dosre bacho mein bant diya apni bibi ke ghar mein bahut bekadri karvai 18 saal tak sabka tan man aur dhan se karne ke baad jab ghar chooda to aisa behave shuru kar diya ki jaise hum kabhi bhi us family ka hissa nahi the totally bye cot thank you very much sir kaash 24 saal pehle you tube aa gaya hota aur itni samaj aa gayi hoti ki gharo mein sabse jayada poltics chalti hai par hum samaj nahi pate
Absolutely true.Abtak kisine bhi is topic par aaj tak kuch nahi kaha.Aap ne is topic ko uthakar bahot hi achha kaam kiya.
Bahut Bhadiya.last 17 years thos syndrome has gripped the society.
Bahut achi baat boli aapne jitna gud daloge utna hi meetha hoga 👏👏👏👌👌👌
Marvellous, fabulous, amazing, superb, great video i ever seen, absolutely new creation,
Sir baazdafa parents aise bhi hote hai jo 75 years ke hai aur unke bache 48-50 years ke hai aur family mai age expectancy 90-95 years tak ke hai aur financial control on property and money 100% apne haat mai rakhna hai iska matlab hai jan bache 70 saal ke ho jayen ge tab unko financial control mile ga...aap bahate jab bacha khud retire kar kayega aur apni life ke sari responsibilities such as children’s education, weddings and financial safety for old age nipta chuka hoga ....us time pe agar father ka paisa milgaya to woh paisa uske kis kaam ka at that age
Aap sahi keh rahe hai bahut khadoos buddhe hai aajkal ke
Budhape mein jhunjhuna pakdayenge jab kuch nahi bachega aulaad mein enjoy karne ko
Bilkul sahi
@@Vicky-rp1jd bhai tum apne bachcho ke atharah saal ke hotey hi sab de Dena ...phir dekhna mazaa ...
@@chandranem 18 mein mat do
40 mein to do bhai ji
Main 38 ka ho gaya hu par abhi tak kuch nahi mila
Apka har video aisi topics par hota hai, jo important hai par un par koi baat nhi karta.
ye video dil ko chhu gya.
according to Baghwan movie (and all dharm gurus jo kahte hai bachho aur paise ko tyago aur sara paisa hame de do) , A Good son is one who has all responsibilities but no rights.
Vo financially apni family ko khud support kare, aur sath hi jitni dur dur ki maa baap ki ristedari hai usko bhi nibhaye. Agar finacially support nhi kar sakte to kam se kam financially barbad mat kro.
Financially sound position me maap baap hai, par vo support nhi karenge, chahe bacche me koi buri adat na ho, vo mehnati ho smart ho.
Aur is movie ke chakkar me, parents become unquestionable authority and righteous,
so bachho ko apni ichhaye, :-
vo life me kya kaam karna chahta hai?
kisse aur kab shadi karna chahta hai?
ye sab par question nhi karna just follow orders.
Aur agar nhi kia to ma baap ke liye bura ban gya, aur khud bhi guilty feel karega.
Aur agar achha bachha ban kar sari baat mani to apni life barbad kar lega.
Sir I'm 27, mere father ne kbhi independent nhi hone diya, jb b ye movie ati h tb hm stress mein aa jate h bcoz Father bolte h main b same ghr se nikal dunga. Sir, To be Honest we're too Innocent, I'll never do. Mze lene vale logo se salah lete h. As a result, ab father ghr bech kr vrindavan rhenge, & stills I don't have a Job🙏 & prepare for Govt job...
Very good advice. I also now decide to reveal my money to family in due course.
Eye opening advises. Thank you very much.
sir, one humble clarification i would like to bring.. when we say take care of yourself first, it means that you take care of your health and other things so that you will be able to help your kids... if you are not focused on improving yourself/keeping fit or whatever ..how is it possible that you will have the energy to take of the kids..
Great explanation sir and 100% true and reality of life.
Jai Shree Krishna
बहुत ही सच्ची एवं सटीक बात आपने कही।
Good analysis.Agree with you.Charity begins at home..Very logical.. calories intake.. explanation
Great content, right words and concise makes it a timeless video. Thank you so very much for sharing superb piece of wisdom.
Beautiful thoughts..every one should see this and apply in their own life and in their family.
Great information.... Relieved myself from lot of confusions....watched your midlife crisis video... I could relate this with that and got invaluable insight into the future role one has to play. 🙏🙏
Video jabarjast.... Bahot sulji hui soch hai apki.... Thanks a lot.
Excellent video.
Sir you have brilliantly shown the perspective missed by many
My dad.... today 80 ...same attitude...hid his assets till date no one knows what and where he keeps his money as he trusts no one .. i m the only child he an ex army officer getting pension but every day he crys i m penny less . i own my own company and lived in middle East for 18 years i don't need his money but his attitude is like i m a theif ready to grab his money 😢 feels bad but he never shares any details of his bank or other such things...i have to live with my parents leaving my own family as my mother is bed ridden due to paralyses at me 50 being treated like a 10 year...shouted scolded and not being trusted...if I go they will be in bad situation as no house help wants to work for them ...mis trusting every one who comes to work...and verbally at times shouting at maids etc
I m stuck , daddy forgets so many things and then lies a lot he fell down so many times hurting himself badly so i can't even leave them usually he gets up in the middle of the night and starts walking and fall ...maa is on bed she can't help him so if I go away he might bleed to death or any mishap might happen...now i m getting sick of the situation...any suggestions...for me..😭😢🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
You are not married? where is your husband ? kids?
You are not married? where is your husband ? kids?
You should take ur mother with u and go and stay with her keep full turn nurse . Ur father can live alone keep a male caretaker for him
There are hospice/ old age care homes.
It’s impossible to care for a what seems like an onset of dementia to your father. My bad if I am wrong.
And a paralysed mother.
I suggest you find a good old age home where they can interact with people of their age and actually get out of the house.
Lots of times staying within the confines of the house make s them behave that way.
So it’s not wrong to try a hospice centre.
They give great medical care along with recreational activities.
Too good. What an effective articulation
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Bachon ke time petrol khatam 👍
Such a great service you are doing. 1000 salutations !
Very true.
Same thing happened in many families.
They advice others not to stick to children.But the same person will run away as soon as their children call them and destroy other families by wrong advice.
Great
Prac tips.
Need to apply in daily life.
This is an apt video for today's time. Touches lot of parts from personal life of many an individual. Thanks for making this video sir.....
Wonderful insite. Very appropriate elaboration of relationship.
Bahot badhiya Gyan diya Sirji aapne.... God bless you Sir ji....
Sir, every family needs a guardian and guru like you. Thank you for your content. ✨
You are right Sir, parents should always put their effort to stay connected with their children. Nobody can live a secluded life. But the problem in india is that we are very much money minded. We just forget all the emotions with money. If we get over this greed, relations will improve and things will sort out.
Wonderful video. Very nicely explained. Thank you so much for your guidance. God bless you always. You are genius.
My father is crying everytime after seeing it.
My mother in law tried to discuss the movie once back then but i said it's far from reality, every thing is exaggerated in the movie, no one behave this way in real life
Apne aankhein khol di. Dhanyawad.
Really awesome sir , u r a great mentor and guru
Your mind is so brilliantly clear it is astonishing to me
Kya baat hai. Amazing. Such a difficult issue resolved.
Every video is a gem on its own ❤
Everything was totally associated. These learning are really useful in eveeryday life and take good decision. Keep up the good work
Love it! Spot on, very well said Sir!
Ek dum sahi sir .... Baap jaane k baad hi samajh aata h 🙏
Same experience felt at the age of 30 , it very traumatic painful experience while watched this movie
Very good video.. The movie makes children look very bad although in reality not all children are bad.. Building and keeping a family together is one thing that keeps a family and society together and also helps in creating generational wealth (in the best sense of the term)
There are plenty of selfish parents, who are very harsh on their kids.
Fantastic insight
I Totally associated with most of the things said in the video
Really your thoughts are enlighting me
Sir, wonderful clarity which can be easily understood and implemented by one and all. Keep it up. God bless
Bahut acha video banaya sir aapne very insightful 🙏🙏
I also think in your way 👍
A very bold attempt by you. Thanks!
Solid Neem-Karala advce :) :) good for health.
Bahut badhiya bhaiya ji, that is the clarity we all need to have
Very Well and beautifully said...It is quite different from the lot of posts on what's app being shared by self made gurus wherein they try to emphasize as if the present father-son relation is on the verge of collapsing . You have tried give it a new dimension. Best Wishes.
Sir, an excellent piece of advice on hard real life. Keep doing such good work. God speed. Warm regards.
Bhaisabaapki advices valuable h thanks🙏🙏
Best ever I have heard till now .
Eye opening and great observation again
Thank you Sir for the precious video.
I totally resonate with what you shared here!
Very nice advice for all seniors 👏
So true Sir. Bravo for saying this👋👋
social reformer in a TRUE sense
Very nicely explained and it is really different
Nice video. One should continue to earn even after retirement and must keep oneself busy to avoid unliked situations of old age. Keep family unite.
One should work even after retirement to keep them busy and avoid physical and mental problems.
Such practical thing u r telling we think about it but difficult to explain to a person thank you.
God bless you for giving great advice to the socity, one should always be useful to the family/ socity and country then only we will grow
So practical thinking agree with u
Excellent Sir…Very much Informative…Thank you Sir🙏🙌👌👏👏👍
Bilkul shi kh rhe he aap
Thanks sir for the clarity of thought on a sensible issues.
Amazing insight, with superb humour. I was rolling in the floor at the allusion to Original Equipment Manufacturer 🤣🤣🤣
You make lot of sense sit.. Very Relevant
Mere Pitaji ke sath me ye video dekh raha tha, unhone pura suna aur achchi baatein boli par baap ki jagah pitaji word ka prayog karein to sari generation ke sunne walo ko bhi achcha lagega.
A great salute to you Sir for making some beautiful and important contents in CZcams. All are very much practical and real. Thank you so much. Kitna bhi thanks bolu kam padega.
Sir a sincere request, please make a video to earn without working. This will be helpful for retired people
Good one . Learnt a lot. Thanks 👍🏼🎉
Very nice & practical advice
Deep respects sir for touching this topic🙏
The most important topic and the need of the hour, Hats of to u sir👏👏🙌🙌
Sir aap great hai....really ma maza aagaya....aap na sabhi elements par vistar sa explain kiya hai...really wonderful. I have shared this to my dad ..waiting for his response....
share his response now please.
Yes Charity begins from home.