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I got 19

This is probably off topic and I'm here bc people in my family might have adhd well, abraham hicks says that a great way to improve your self esteem is to stop beating up on yourself, it's unnecessary and it doesn't help.

Mental resistance, anxious about it needed to do it, resistant to doing it, I Want it don't..and its NOT because I can't. It's because I won't. Will Not. Even though once I start I feel better, I like some of the doing...but...😮😮love the clarity once it's done. And Yet Self sabotage!! I didn't do this in childhood or adolescents. Didn't start BIG GoALS either. Self negating. Why!! What a brain F!! To Self.

After the first two traits I became convinced that this is something I have, This really explains my life more and makes me really grateful thank you🙏

Wow this video was so helpful and I truly appreciate your sincerity in offering this very safe space for people who are curious lile me because honesyly? I related to around 18-19 of these signs and I've been struggling with the decision of getting a diagnosis done. I've been very sure that I'm neurodivergent because of all these signs only. I have so many friends also who are neurodivergent. Idk what to do or how to go about it.

Did you ever actually get a professional evaluation?

Thank you for a great video! ❤

I've been RIDICULOUSLY emotional all my life, but it wasn't until a psych evaluation in my 30s eleven years ago, that I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. It didn't give me all the answers I wanted, but at least now I have a helpful framework and I know I'm not crazy.

I think my ability to hyperfocus was why I never got diagnosed as a kid. I could read for HOURS and be pretty much oblivious to anything my mother said to me while I was reading.

OMG 🙈 I'm 39 and my best bet is, that I'm auDHD. Some of my friends posted some content about ADHD on Instagram that resonated so much with me, I started digging. Even my partner did and I asked him yesterday and he said I'm for sure, 100% ADHD. Then I came across Autism and some of the traits really resonated (e.g.: I have stimmed all my life, there are videos of me at 1 year curling my hear and I still do it all the time. When I'm with people outside family I play around with a pen or something. When I'm on Teams calls, I use a self massager that can't be seen on the video. As a kid I ate all the skin around the nails and there was only flesh. I'm also totally hypersensitive, I hear absolutely everything and I haven't slept a night without earplugs in more than 20 years. Lights bother me a lot. Cloths bother me so much. The socks! OMG). But then I was thinking how is it possible. I can't be Autistic! I'm very successful and was a good student. Also I had friends. But I think it is all overcompensation and fear of rejection. My calender is full of reminders, else I would forget everything. Then I'm able to hyperfocus also. But the main part was always my fear of rejection, I'm sure! I had been working with a therapist some years back, which turned up this fear of rejection and my therapist thought it was because my parents weren't really loving and I was never enough. That's why I overcompensated and got good grades. My partner always tells me, that when we are with people, I talk too much about myself. I used to be rather shy as a kid and masked my condition by appearing to be an extrovert. But social situations actually scare me (the worst is when a train is about to arrive and there are a lot of people waiting. The anxiety I feel is next level!). When it comes to friends I realized I always had only loners as friends that were equally weird (during uni me and my best friend would meet up at the cinema, watch a movie together and then split parts again) and no friendships lastet very long. I live abroad in India and as a European here everyone wants to be friend with you and I guess that they just think people in my country are like this and are more likely to accept who I really am. Thank you so much for this video! Sorry for this long post, I just had to write this all down in order to comprehend it myself 🙈

Here is a challenge. Tell me why this notion has been labelled "The Double Empathy Problem".

I'm tricking my brain of something rewarding to start the task infront of me, it works most of the time. I have adult ADHD btw. Go on treat your self before or after the task ahead of you. You just need a boost of dopamine.

Fantastic summary of what I never got diagnosed with until it amplified (in an nonlinear exponential cycle) and unmasked but was totally misunderstood and caused family estrangement while I was spinning my neurodiverse wheels as fast as possible to support everyone else. Decades of lost potential and years of misunderstood hell. My amplified AuDHD is being treated like the problem but it is actually the over reaction to my dynamically changing autism and ADHD symptoms. Burned out and still being attacked and misunderstood. Personal, Social, Legal and Medical hell for 4+ years and continuing. No real support.

I’m not autistic

Still trying to figure out what the "real" me is like:). Its realy hard finding out who i realy am. But yea i had this with writing a letter for kindergarten or one of my first few grades. I was so proud that i finished as one of the first kids. Then i was told time and time again that i did it wrong and i didn't get why. Thanks to my adhd/dyslexia/autism combo i was daydreaming durring the explanation and didn't hear the correct way to do it and just rememberd the rule everything has to go to the left most side of the Paige. Took me a long time to get thatXD.

Shame is the biggest issue for me. & because I don’t want to upset others or be shamed. a lot of my life I do things just because I know that if I don’t I will be shamed. I’m fearful of this feeling cause I think it is the worst feeling I’ve ever felt. So I do my best to keep up with the neurotypicals till I burn out & then they wonder what’s wrong. I was masking to make you happy that’s what is wrong.

2:20 lol i wear a hoodie everywhere even in summer. People are always like "aren't you hot?" And I'm like "maybe..."

Too nervous to ask? I have audhd I don't know what "nervous to ask" means until the uncomfortable sensation 6 hours later at home when I realized I maybe shouldn't have ask that out loud!

I’ve been diagnosed as having audhd.

This is the first time I've heard of alexithymia - I've experienced and tried to explain it throughout my life but this is the first time I've heard of someone else getting it, thank you!

Autistic deficiency hyperactivity disorder they dont even try no more🤷 Mumbojumbo its to prescribe pervetin to even more people

ive watched many of ur videos and u seem extremely bpd. its a misogynistic diagnosis but its better to just reclaim that than claim ur autistic when ur def not lol.

I am very imaginative, I go in the corner, put my headphones on, and just imagine things. On car rides I replayed shows in my head and pretended as if i was in them, or sometimes imagined how those characters would interact with each other. Id also desighn charcters to put in my little fansty world. I still do this even now at 17, and most those characters are being put to good use with my art and stuff. Also there really nice to look back on beachse I can really tell what my hyperfixatians where at the time.

The way my face lit up when you said you rub your nail on your lip cuz they’re so smooth… I feel so seen 😅

These mfs diagnosed me with BPD and adhd as a kid. I’m audhd this is bullshit. Split personality? Inner battle? Yea. I never had a low sense of self. I had a VERY HIGH sense of self and knowing and still do. Example: I start cleaning and obsessing over organizing. I then hurt my adhd brain by wanting to breeak categories down into subcategories. Because if not it doesn’t make sense. But another part of my brain says I’m doing too much. So then I shut down. I shut down because of rejection sensitivity from child hood. I would categorize things for fun and my step dad would laugh and shake his head. This hurt me sooo bad. So I felt like what I was doing was wrong. He just thought it was cute and peculiar!! So wtf do I do at the ripe age of 29!!!

very very helpful video tysm

Carnivore diet really helps. Dr Ken Berry can help you.

I'm glad that you mentioned the "being dismissed by professionals" thing. I have been dismissed by "professionals" in seconds. As in, they wouldn't even test me or let me express myself or explain my symptoms and experiences. They would just go "oh no, there's no way, you're too functional, you're engaging in a conversation with me and you're too smart". I was like "excuse me?". Also, they would also be absurdly ableist and offensive torwards being on the spectrum, as if it was life-distroying and something to get rid off.

When you described the meltdowns, I finally felt understood. Thank you ❤😢

#2 Not me watching this instead of cleaning when I literally blocked out the entire day for specifically for it.

Good LORD. A month or two ago, it occurred to me randomly how my personality is basically just a mix'n'match of other people's traits that I simply acquired throughout years. I can't believe you just mentioned that.

I can’t believe people faking mental disorders is a trend now, self diagnosis is literally the same thing as saying you broke your leg when you sprained your ankle

Watching through the autism section video, I'm thinking: Wow, I really relate to this. Makes sense bc I have an autism diagnosis! The adhd section: Wow I really relate to this too! Wait, that isn't also a trait of autism???

Executive dysfunction refers to challenges with planning, organization, time management, self-regulation, and cognitive flexibility. To overcome executive dysfunction, consider the following strategies: 1. Break tasks into smaller steps 2. Use calendars, to-do lists, and reminders 3. Create routines and rituals 4. Practice time management techniques like the Pomodoro Technique 5. Use visual aids like diagrams, flowcharts, and mind maps 6. Develop a daily routine to establish structure 7. Use technology, such as apps and alarms, to stay organized 8. Practice self-regulation techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness 9. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist 10. Celebrate small accomplishments to build motivation 11. Identify and challenge negative self-talk 12. Develop problem-solving skills 13. Practice flexibility and adaptability 14. Use positive self-talk and affirmations 15. Take breaks and prioritize self-care Remember, overcoming executive dysfunction takes time, patience, and practice. Be gentle with yourself and seek support when needed.

Executive dysfunction refers to challenges with planning, organization, time management, self-regulation, and cognitive flexibility. To overcome executive dysfunction, consider the following strategies: 1. Break tasks into smaller steps 2. Use calendars, to-do lists, and reminders 3. Create routines and rituals 4. Practice time management techniques like the Pomodoro Technique 5. Use visual aids like diagrams, flowcharts, and mind maps 6. Develop a daily routine to establish structure 7. Use technology, such as apps and alarms, to stay organized 8. Practice self-regulation techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness 9. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist 10. Celebrate small accomplishments to build motivation 11. Identify and challenge negative self-talk 12. Develop problem-solving skills 13. Practice flexibility and adaptability 14. Use positive self-talk and affirmations 15. Take breaks and prioritize self-care Remember, overcoming executive dysfunction takes time, patience, and practice. Be gentle with yourself and seek support when needed.

Which meds do you take to help with intensity and frequency of your meltdowns? 🙏

It is kinda funny, but more bizar and frustrating as to why people pretend to be someone or something that is not preferrable at all! I have have Aspergers and ADHD, my daughter has this and my son only Aspergers. I can assure you, there is no fun, although we try to laugh at our oddities and use black humor to at least have an advantage. Our advantage for us seems to be down to earth and intelligent. We all are gifted and highly gifted, but than again we are also considered weird and annoying and hardly ever get our right and being appreciated for knowing a lot or be good at things! People only hate it! Because, you can be weird and they all tell you gladly you are different, as long as it is in a negative way! As soon as it makes you doing things better or knowing more, then all the sudden you are categorized as average, you are not different from them and thus you do not know better than them!!! How convenient for the stupid neuro-typicals! So how come, people would ever like to be in this position! I hate it! And my kids doing fairly well due to guidance and living in a small village where everybody is used to each other'ss perks. But for me, people are just like little kids who still like to bully and are pathetic little losers, no matter how old they are! They feel weak themselves and constantly need some kind of status competition! And when people find out I have those conditions they often too just compare me with those other pathetic people who want to mimic my / our condition! So also a burden! I hate people and their whole pathetic screams for attention and status! Grow up and get your status for actually doing something well or being a good person!!! Oh, and don't use those stupid new names for everything!! Neurodivergent blablabla! Like non-binary, cis and all that crap! I am mainly straight and have been in love a few times with a boy my age when in puberty and have been with a man a few short times. But I am just me! You could call me bi-sexual when that suits you, but I really don't care and live pretty much a straight life! So, fine when somebody want to give it a name, but than one name only! All this modern BS that are forced on people by others who will be mad at you when not accepting their imposed stupid modern name giving and placement in boxes! Even the people saying they do not want to be placed in a box, give themselves boxes! Multiple ones! Inclusion by exclusion!! Everybody has gone insane and just seeking attention and special right! Just be a person and fight for truly equal rights by not fighting at all! Just be yourself and let others live their preferred way instead of forcing everybody into your own little set of rules and at the same time refuse to follow the normal general rules! Better the world and start with yourself! We are persons, nothing more! Don't make yourself so special! You are not! Nobody is special because who you want in bed or the color of your skin! You are special when you do something special for others! Save a life, choose a job in which you are there for others, learn a skill very well that nobody else can do easily, etcetera! That is special! Not how you are born!!! And pretending you are "special" by mimicking things that is a struggle for those who have it, is just disgusting and appalling!

Not a broken neurotypical....such a gold nugget. 💞

As of right now, my hyperfocus interest has been locked in on gender science and gender identity. So much of it when trying to be explained to me really made no sense. I was tired of pissing off people accidently and just been diving in with my own research. Which is hard cause there is a lot of bias around this topic and I just want the information not pushed by any bias. I want to read all the studies for myself, understand where they get all the statistics and figure it all out. I find it incredibly interesting as it is frustrating. And I do this out of curiosity- not out of hate. When there is a lot of controversy around something I’m always going to start getting nosey. Then I’m trying to sniff out all the information.

I’m professionally diagnosed with adhd and I feel like I’m autistic too._.

20/21 Im gonna go and ask for a diagnosis in the future but holy cow is this video calling me out

OMG. You are the clearest individual to plug into me yet. I am lost like nobody’s business and don’t know how to get found. AuDHD IN NYC and there’s no one to help adults in this town. Only if one is a zillionaire…

You're literally describing every human on the planet

It's so confusing to me that how we function is not normal for everyone! I am also pretty sure that I have ADHD and am waiting for a diagnosis but it's just so weird to me that most of other people don't have issues with all of the things ADHDers have issues with

I’m pretty sure I have ADHD and wow I feel so seen in your video. To finally accept that i am not lazy means so much. Thank you for your videos

Getting diagnosed for both ADHD and autism

I love you so much for being courageous enough to speak out❤❤ I feel your heart and send you big hugs.

I was diagnosed young (age 6 or 7) and just got on with life. Now, being 31, I find myself much more interested in my past diagnosis. I'm wondering if I'm having an identity crisis? But that cant be, because I'm totalty an outgoing type. I can check off just about every one of these signs. (ADHD) Edit: I'm not trying to toot my own horn here, but I can't seem to grasp why I feel dumb, but intelligent at the same time? Interesting 🤔