I am so glad to learn about “time” and not keeping up with it. And the “body doubling!” I used to always ask people to just sit and talk with me not do anything . I had no idea these were ADHD things. The more I learn the more I am convinced I have it. Maybe my two grown kids can start to understand I really have a problem with some of these things and it isn’t because I am lazy or I don’t care. I now need to figure out how to get a diagnose check. This constant loop you talk about is EXACTLY what I feel. Thank you thank you thank you
3:18, My method: I’ll put a video on, which is a specific amount of time long, and requires no thought(no distraction). This is a shower trick, where I’ll be in there for an hour, without realizing, so I limit time showering, to 15 mins, via video/song. When it’s over, I have to get out.
I use Brili kids. It's the same idea. They have flashcards *shower* *get dressed* *make breakfast* etc. Halfway the task you'll hear a notification sound, also when the task should be finished, and when it's finished, and when it's overdue. I can set Starttime or Endtime for one routine set. When I shower too long, the next tasks give you less time so will be out of the house on time.
“So you pull out your phone and go on Amazon” *Instantly remembers I need to finish my Amazon order and now having to fight the feeling to drop things to go do it* 😂 I can’t believe I wasn’t diagnosed as ADHD till I was 27. Like, holy crap man, all of the random weird things I did when I was younger made so much more sense after my life lenses changed.
While I have no diagnosis (and know so little I wouldn't know how to get one), ADHD hacks really resonate with me. The body-doubling thing? I was only semi-aware that it was a thing. I often ask my partner to 'come help me' without any real idea of what it is I want him to do, other than exist in the same space. I nearly cried when this was revealed! I am convinced he is on the autism spectrum so it frustrates him that I ask him to 'come help' without telling him what with. He demands clarity! I am so happy I can tell him 'just exist with me!' and he can pick his own activity. If I don't have a plan, I have to pick one, and I panic and choose at random, and then he complains about the half-assed way I've gone about things... this will relieve so much friction for both of us! Thank you so much these videos. Inertia problem?! YUP. Time-'blindness' (I agree that it does need a new name, its not blindness its more like... time-insenitivity. Like, I can't feel time accurately, the way the skin on my knee that was damaged in a car accident doesn't feel touch properly. I know its being touched, but I'm not sure exactly where or if its soft or rough, just that 'something' starts then stops) I HAVE BEEN APOLOGISING FOR THIS ALL MY LIFE WHILE RESENTING EVERYONE WHO EVER POINTS IT OUT. To do lists? I have two - a long one (to remember the 500 things that always need doing) and then I triage out onto a small one for 'doable' - either time sensitive or quick to deal with, always a mixture. I delight in a completely crossed off list. Oh, and being stuck in a loop?! Yes! 😭 So yep, I do things the 'silly' way so I don't get stuck in a 'do this, then that, but need to do this to do that' priority loop. I just do what I have to so both get done. I count 'the long way' towards my step goal anyway. Its hard to get 10,000 steps in if you are stuck in a house all day... doing things the long way solves that problem! "Junebugging" - yup. So guilty its my whole personality. If there was a nature documentary about me I'd be compared to entire colony of ferrets on a sugar rush. EFT - that is going to be huge for me. Its true! I sometimes don't know why I'm stuck and can't 'make progress', because there's a 'big feeling' in my way. Most of the time I have to write the day off. No more lost days! And the final one? Yep, I celebrate every win, no matter how small. I find a cheer-squad helps, and its probably why I love animals so much - did you know dogs will hype for anything, they just like to be part of it? Cuddle-dance sessions, random treats, an extra cup of coffee, a colouring-in session, it doesn't matter what it is that brings me joy (heck, I'm a gardener, sometimes its just more work) but as a novelist, waiting til the end of a long-ass book to celebrate is dooming myself. Finishing a book is just the start of more work. Celebrating every 'ending' is like trying to come home and have a 'cured' party after the first session of therapy. Nope, long way to go buddy! Great first step though! A completed and published novel is so far into the whole process (and just the end of the easy part of being an indie author 😅) that if I wasn't celebrating all the little wins there'd be no win at all. I don't see it as coddling (as some do, it was a popular criticism in my tender years), it is a genuine part of my process. It has taken me so long to find ways to work with myself that I weep for my younger self... but only for a minute or two, then its time to make the best of what I have now! These videos are so helpful. They are reassuring, affirming and provide a wonderful launch-pad for me to explore options to get know myself and lead a productive and enriched life. Thank you! 💛❤💙💜
im so glad u mentioned the lack of excitement u get when u finally finished a big project, i never really feel that relief or happiness that i should, even tho the people around me are telling me how well i did, i just fell kinda meh about it. then i start to work on another project straight after, and begin to feel burnt out. its very disheartening, especially when i work so hard at it.
I seem to only be able to do the thing I avoided for days when I can’t do it and have to do something else. Like, I am super motivated do house work when I HAVE to leave and super motivated to run errands if I am stuck at home waiting for a delivery or appointment… etc
I have heard other people talk about june bugging, but then it always sounded like something that wouldn't help at all. And NOW the WAY you explained it, I finally get why it could work for me (having ADHD) thank you for explaining things so well!!❤
AUDHDer here! Same with the ASD part of my brain getting SO STUCK wanting to things the most efficient way possible. And if I can’t do it that way in that order or the way I had planned, I have a meltdown 😭 Great video. Thanks.
This video is great! Would love to see more suggestions for non-money related small treats. This is the first time I've seen giving yourself a hug suggested as a small reward and it sounds like it would work!
I love showering first before I exercise! It seems inefficient in some ways because you do sweat, and drying hair just fir it to get semi-soaked again is unpleasant. Still, exercise while feeling oily and gross makes it feel so much worse for me, and I don’t feel like I’ve “started” to be ready for my day until I shower, meaning I don’t want to do anything until then. It also means the action-mode I get after exercise doesn’t get put out.
Ooooh I’ve heard of the time unawareness of adhd and have always been like hmm that is an aspect of adhd that does not resonate… lol I have just been in waiting mode my whole life 😅
Omg I've been using the body doubling thing without knowing that was a legit hack, i never understood why I was more motivated around people but I just did and it makes no sense also doing things in the most inefficient way is such a advice, I do the showering before working out and cleaning as well, it just helps me get started.
I absolutely love your videos, they helped me a lot! But one thing I want to mention, sometimes it's very hard for my brain to stay focused on your words (even using the captions) when I can hear someone (a child maybe?) screaming in the background😞😞
EFT has been so incredibly helpful for me, I have huge issues with emotional disregulation and when I get triggered and have 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation I just couldn't get myself to calm down and not spiral which could cost me literally HOURS of my time while I was just riding this rollercoaster of feeling like complete shit, not being able to do anything. Learning and trying EFT has been so helpful for that, it calms me down miraculously and additionally helps me process those emotions without getting stuck in activated state. Thank you for sharing that technique here, I feel like not enough people know about it (I'm a late diagnosed AuDHD with cPTSD btw)
hey, serious inquiry here! I am blind with ADHD and I'm wondering if there is an audio version of the visual timer… Like something that create a sound that gets louder or softer with the task time? I think this would be so handy for me, but obviously if I'm blind, color changing isn't going to work… Time blindness (I'm blind, so I'll say I don't care if somebody uses time blind right. Is one of my biggest issues. Even if I check the time all the time, I'll hear the time and not even register it. I end up asking that for the time again for my cock two seconds later like "what time did it say? "
That clock idea is amazing! My issue with once I start something (cleaning bathroom) I start cleaning EVERYTHING. Thats like once a month. Its mentally draining sometimes.
This is so wierd but my hubby works 7 on 7 off and when he is not home I do nothing but when he is home I accomplish so much. I am also mildly afraid of looking useless when he is around not that he makes me feel that way.
Love these tips!! however, I turned this video on as I’m getting ready and lowkey rushing so I’m walking around my apartment looking for stuff and missing the most important parts lol I have to keep replaying your video.
It's so confusing to me that how we function is not normal for everyone! I am also pretty sure that I have ADHD and am waiting for a diagnosis but it's just so weird to me that most of other people don't have issues with all of the things ADHDers have issues with
Wow, who said you could spy on my life? This was so helpful for me and I listen to it while I was doing a task that I don’t like to do. I listen to a lot of uttering in organizing videos but they never seem to get to the issue. Thank you very much.
Question: if we can’t say time blindness, then how can we cay color blindness? Not being facetious, genuine question. Wouldn’t it be the same insensitivity? They see something, it’s not a physical blind spot but rather they look at the thing and it’s grey or a different color - isn’t it just like how those of us with a lack of time perception know time exists, we can look at a clock, but we can’t perceive time passing?
I can’t do any of these. I need the opposite. Something that tells me when I will have time to do tasks based on the time it takes to complete it for an ADHDer.
Does anyone remember the series of kids books "If You Give a Moose a Muffin", "If you give a Mouse a Cookie"? Those animals could definitely benefit from Junebugging (and so can I).
I have an ADHD diagnosis and I am being treated with methylphenidate. It fits the criteria a lot but being very Cartesian I have very little faith in this disorder because it is not quantifiable. I know that it is a dopamine defect and therefore treating by inhibiting dopamine reuptake helps relieve the symptoms. But from when is it a disorder and from when is it just a character ultimately? A variability in the population. Your criteria, a bit like horoscopes and other esoteric bullshit, how do we know that they target ADHD or autistic people and not lots of other people? In the end, getting a diagnosis gives you access to drugs. and because of that I am addicted to methylphenidate. I remain skeptical about this and I don't know to what extent I am just stupid and to what extent I really have a disorder. All I know is that taking drugs to succeed in my studies (I'm in medicine, what an idiot I am, but you can't choose your passions) makes me different, irritable, addicted and I still don't know if this fucking disorder is real or if it's not just a physiological variable.
Crazy thing after 20 years of knowing I had ADHD finally got diagnosed on my own and its a releif. Meds aren't a cure all but help. Once I researched adhd didnt realize autism signs over lap. So its crazy I can have empathy for autism since I feel theres a lot of symptoms alike.
For constipation: eat an apple a day. Especially eat the middle part around the seeds. Don't eat the seeds, pick them out and eat the crunchy part where they were. Try Honeycrisp apples, they taste really great. Or any kind of apple u can get. U will feel much better.
As for controlling ADHD without medicine, it's kind of like expecting someone with no legs to get around without a wheelchair. We cannot treat schizophrenia well, we don't have good medicine for manic-depressive, but ADHD is treatable with ADHD drugs and u can achieve a much better level of function through behavior mod and ADHD drugs. They are not all stimulants. Guanfacine can treat ADHD, also lowers blood pressure. Check out Dr. Russell Barclay's short 5-8 minute videos clipped from his longer lectures for more information on ADHD medicine. Also, exercise. Exercise helps u think better. Good luck!
Love that youtube is now showing me smaller channels that are super helpful
I am so glad to learn about “time” and not keeping up with it. And the “body doubling!” I used to always ask people to just sit and talk with me not do anything . I had no idea these were ADHD things. The more I learn the more I am convinced I have it. Maybe my two grown kids can start to understand I really have a problem with some of these things and it isn’t because I am lazy or I don’t care. I now need to figure out how to get a diagnose check. This constant loop you talk about is EXACTLY what I feel. Thank you thank you thank you
is it normal that i started tearing up watching this video? its just SO nice to feel UNDERSTooD 🥺
3:18, My method: I’ll put a video on, which is a specific amount of time long, and requires no thought(no distraction). This is a shower trick, where I’ll be in there for an hour, without realizing, so I limit time showering, to 15 mins, via video/song. When it’s over, I have to get out.
Love this!!!!
I use the same method. But sometimes, I get so absorbed in music that I forget time.😂😂😂
I use Brili kids. It's the same idea. They have flashcards *shower* *get dressed* *make breakfast* etc. Halfway the task you'll hear a notification sound, also when the task should be finished, and when it's finished, and when it's overdue.
I can set Starttime or Endtime for one routine set. When I shower too long, the next tasks give you less time so will be out of the house on time.
The shower/workout quandary is one of the most relatable things I’ve ever seen in CZcams ❤️
“So you pull out your phone and go on Amazon”
*Instantly remembers I need to finish my Amazon order and now having to fight the feeling to drop things to go do it* 😂
I can’t believe I wasn’t diagnosed as ADHD till I was 27. Like, holy crap man, all of the random weird things I did when I was younger made so much more sense after my life lenses changed.
Me at 69 ...
While I have no diagnosis (and know so little I wouldn't know how to get one), ADHD hacks really resonate with me. The body-doubling thing? I was only semi-aware that it was a thing. I often ask my partner to 'come help me' without any real idea of what it is I want him to do, other than exist in the same space. I nearly cried when this was revealed! I am convinced he is on the autism spectrum so it frustrates him that I ask him to 'come help' without telling him what with. He demands clarity! I am so happy I can tell him 'just exist with me!' and he can pick his own activity. If I don't have a plan, I have to pick one, and I panic and choose at random, and then he complains about the half-assed way I've gone about things... this will relieve so much friction for both of us!
Thank you so much these videos. Inertia problem?! YUP. Time-'blindness' (I agree that it does need a new name, its not blindness its more like... time-insenitivity. Like, I can't feel time accurately, the way the skin on my knee that was damaged in a car accident doesn't feel touch properly. I know its being touched, but I'm not sure exactly where or if its soft or rough, just that 'something' starts then stops) I HAVE BEEN APOLOGISING FOR THIS ALL MY LIFE WHILE RESENTING EVERYONE WHO EVER POINTS IT OUT. To do lists? I have two - a long one (to remember the 500 things that always need doing) and then I triage out onto a small one for 'doable' - either time sensitive or quick to deal with, always a mixture. I delight in a completely crossed off list. Oh, and being stuck in a loop?! Yes! 😭 So yep, I do things the 'silly' way so I don't get stuck in a 'do this, then that, but need to do this to do that' priority loop. I just do what I have to so both get done. I count 'the long way' towards my step goal anyway. Its hard to get 10,000 steps in if you are stuck in a house all day... doing things the long way solves that problem!
"Junebugging" - yup. So guilty its my whole personality. If there was a nature documentary about me I'd be compared to entire colony of ferrets on a sugar rush.
EFT - that is going to be huge for me. Its true! I sometimes don't know why I'm stuck and can't 'make progress', because there's a 'big feeling' in my way. Most of the time I have to write the day off. No more lost days!
And the final one? Yep, I celebrate every win, no matter how small. I find a cheer-squad helps, and its probably why I love animals so much - did you know dogs will hype for anything, they just like to be part of it? Cuddle-dance sessions, random treats, an extra cup of coffee, a colouring-in session, it doesn't matter what it is that brings me joy (heck, I'm a gardener, sometimes its just more work) but as a novelist, waiting til the end of a long-ass book to celebrate is dooming myself. Finishing a book is just the start of more work. Celebrating every 'ending' is like trying to come home and have a 'cured' party after the first session of therapy. Nope, long way to go buddy! Great first step though! A completed and published novel is so far into the whole process (and just the end of the easy part of being an indie author 😅) that if I wasn't celebrating all the little wins there'd be no win at all. I don't see it as coddling (as some do, it was a popular criticism in my tender years), it is a genuine part of my process. It has taken me so long to find ways to work with myself that I weep for my younger self... but only for a minute or two, then its time to make the best of what I have now!
These videos are so helpful. They are reassuring, affirming and provide a wonderful launch-pad for me to explore options to get know myself and lead a productive and enriched life. Thank you! 💛❤💙💜
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Woah I'm halfway through and I'm loving this. Thank you. ADHD can be so debilitating.
im so glad u mentioned the lack of excitement u get when u finally finished a big project, i never really feel that relief or happiness that i should, even tho the people around me are telling me how well i did, i just fell kinda meh about it. then i start to work on another project straight after, and begin to feel burnt out. its very disheartening, especially when i work so hard at it.
never could have imagine that it was a sign of ADHD, just thought i was over worked and depressed
I seem to only be able to do the thing I avoided for days when I can’t do it and have to do something else.
Like, I am super motivated do house work when I HAVE to leave and super motivated to run errands if I am stuck at home waiting for a delivery or appointment… etc
Thank you just thank you. Finally the CZcams wormhole led me here.
Currently Im undiagnosed, but WOW THIS IS CHANGING MY LIFE RIGHT NOW🤯
the only adhd tips video i gained actual value from tbh . THANK YOU :D
My 5 year old loves my visual timer too 😄
Thanks again for a great video. You are amazing ❤️
where were you from last 3 years when i was looking for the realistic content like yours !
What I have learned with time is alarms are your friend.
Yes, i set alarms for everything 😂
I have heard other people talk about june bugging, but then it always sounded like something that wouldn't help at all. And NOW the WAY you explained it, I finally get why it could work for me (having ADHD) thank you for explaining things so well!!❤
AUDHDer here! Same with the ASD part of my brain getting SO STUCK wanting to things the most efficient way possible. And if I can’t do it that way in that order or the way I had planned, I have a meltdown 😭
Great video. Thanks.
Shared this with my ADHD husband - he thinks some of these tips will really help him get organised 💚
Me throwing my yappy coworker across the room 🤣 but for real these tips have actually been helpful and I’m going to try them out!
This video is great! Would love to see more suggestions for non-money related small treats. This is the first time I've seen giving yourself a hug suggested as a small reward and it sounds like it would work!
I love showering first before I exercise! It seems inefficient in some ways because you do sweat, and drying hair just fir it to get semi-soaked again is unpleasant. Still, exercise while feeling oily and gross makes it feel so much worse for me, and I don’t feel like I’ve “started” to be ready for my day until I shower, meaning I don’t want to do anything until then. It also means the action-mode I get after exercise doesn’t get put out.
This this this!!!!
Ooooh I’ve heard of the time unawareness of adhd and have always been like hmm that is an aspect of adhd that does not resonate… lol I have just been in waiting mode my whole life 😅
Omg I've been using the body doubling thing without knowing that was a legit hack, i never understood why I was more motivated around people but I just did and it makes no sense also doing things in the most inefficient way is such a advice, I do the showering before working out and cleaning as well, it just helps me get started.
I absolutely love your videos, they helped me a lot! But one thing I want to mention, sometimes it's very hard for my brain to stay focused on your words (even using the captions) when I can hear someone (a child maybe?) screaming in the background😞😞
try playing a video of white noise at a lower volume in another tab at the same time! or pink or brown noise if those work better for you.
Closed captioning help me so much. Idk if her videos have it, but it’s more “involved” than just listening.
@@user-kv8nx9oj5v Thank you so much for the tip! Next time I'll try💟
EFT has been so incredibly helpful for me, I have huge issues with emotional disregulation and when I get triggered and have 10/10 reaction to 2/10 situation I just couldn't get myself to calm down and not spiral which could cost me literally HOURS of my time while I was just riding this rollercoaster of feeling like complete shit, not being able to do anything. Learning and trying EFT has been so helpful for that, it calms me down miraculously and additionally helps me process those emotions without getting stuck in activated state. Thank you for sharing that technique here, I feel like not enough people know about it (I'm a late diagnosed AuDHD with cPTSD btw)
This was excellent! I resonate so much with everything.
Makes me wonder why I keep searching for productivity tips from Neurotypicals.
Your hair and accessories totally pop together!
hey, serious inquiry here! I am blind with ADHD and I'm wondering if there is an audio version of the visual timer… Like something that create a sound that gets louder or softer with the task time? I think this would be so handy for me, but obviously if I'm blind, color changing isn't going to work… Time blindness (I'm blind, so I'll say I don't care if somebody uses time blind right. Is one of my biggest issues. Even if I check the time all the time, I'll hear the time and not even register it. I end up asking that for the time again for my cock two seconds later like "what time did it say? "
That clock idea is amazing! My issue with once I start something (cleaning bathroom) I start cleaning EVERYTHING. Thats like once a month. Its mentally draining sometimes.
This is so wierd but my hubby works 7 on 7 off and when he is not home I do nothing but when he is home I accomplish so much. I am also mildly afraid of looking useless when he is around not that he makes me feel that way.
Such a lovely video!
Love these tips!! however, I turned this video on as I’m getting ready and lowkey rushing so I’m walking around my apartment looking for stuff and missing the most important parts lol I have to keep replaying your video.
It's so confusing to me that how we function is not normal for everyone! I am also pretty sure that I have ADHD and am waiting for a diagnosis but it's just so weird to me that most of other people don't have issues with all of the things ADHDers have issues with
Wow, who said you could spy on my life? This was so helpful for me and I listen to it while I was doing a task that I don’t like to do. I listen to a lot of uttering in organizing videos but they never seem to get to the issue. Thank you very much.
16:41 this 'meh' it was so personal, feels the same way :/ but at the same time, thanks for sharing this content
Great ideas! Thank you for laying them out so concisely
One of my big things is doing stuff in the most efficient way... I didn't know it was a sign of autism
Thank you Megan! This video helped a ton ☺️
Question: if we can’t say time blindness, then how can we cay color blindness? Not being facetious, genuine question. Wouldn’t it be the same insensitivity? They see something, it’s not a physical blind spot but rather they look at the thing and it’s grey or a different color - isn’t it just like how those of us with a lack of time perception know time exists, we can look at a clock, but we can’t perceive time passing?
I can’t do any of these. I need the opposite. Something that tells me when I will have time to do tasks based on the time it takes to complete it for an ADHDer.
Thanks so much for this.
Does anyone remember the series of kids books "If You Give a Moose a Muffin", "If you give a Mouse a Cookie"? Those animals could definitely benefit from Junebugging (and so can I).
I have an ADHD diagnosis and I am being treated with methylphenidate. It fits the criteria a lot but being very Cartesian I have very little faith in this disorder because it is not quantifiable. I know that it is a dopamine defect and therefore treating by inhibiting dopamine reuptake helps relieve the symptoms. But from when is it a disorder and from when is it just a character ultimately? A variability in the population. Your criteria, a bit like horoscopes and other esoteric bullshit, how do we know that they target ADHD or autistic people and not lots of other people? In the end, getting a diagnosis gives you access to drugs. and because of that I am addicted to methylphenidate. I remain skeptical about this and I don't know to what extent I am just stupid and to what extent I really have a disorder. All I know is that taking drugs to succeed in my studies (I'm in medicine, what an idiot I am, but you can't choose your passions) makes me different, irritable, addicted and I still don't know if this fucking disorder is real or if it's not just a physiological variable.
and damn I was wrong the comment was intended for another of your videos (21 sign... blah blah)
Crazy thing after 20 years of knowing I had ADHD finally got diagnosed on my own and its a releif. Meds aren't a cure all but help. Once I researched adhd didnt realize autism signs over lap. So its crazy I can have empathy for autism since I feel theres a lot of symptoms alike.
Thank you for this ❤️
I literally cannot do this anymore
I love you
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I usually shower first then do workout.
I hear baby screaming
how can i control my ADHD without medicine and also share fix for adhd and constipation
For constipation: eat an apple a day. Especially eat the middle part around the seeds. Don't eat the seeds, pick them out and eat the crunchy part where they were. Try Honeycrisp apples, they taste really great. Or any kind of apple u can get. U will feel much better.
As for controlling ADHD without medicine, it's kind of like expecting someone with no legs to get around without a wheelchair. We cannot treat schizophrenia well, we don't have good medicine for manic-depressive, but
ADHD is treatable with ADHD drugs and u can achieve a much better level of function through behavior mod and ADHD drugs. They are not all stimulants. Guanfacine can treat ADHD, also lowers blood pressure. Check out Dr. Russell Barclay's short 5-8 minute videos clipped from his longer lectures for more information on ADHD medicine. Also, exercise. Exercise helps u think better. Good luck!
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All of these just tired me out without even trying.
I’m legit overstimulated. I wonder if this is how my poor family feels when I become the mayor of yapsville?
Just call it time blindness. It’s a simple, understandable term. No need to complicate it.