Yes please to the burnout & demand avoidance videos! I grew up being called lazy, even when it felt like I was working harder than everyone around me just to keep up!! It's good to hear someone contradicting this trope 💚
I think the channel ADHD Love said it best: "if I were just being lazy, I would be enjoying myself (instead of feeling miserable about not getting stuff done)."
I always thought I was lazy until this one time my phone died while I was playing on it. The charger was in the other room. A thirty-second walk. I sat in the same exact position for three hours. No phone, no light as the sun set, not moving. Three hours. In my mind, I kept telling myself to move. I kept berating myself. I kept counting myself to three to stand up. Three hours. If I was lazy, I’d be having fun.
Thank you so much for shedding light on this. Executive dysfunction is something I've dealt with my entire life, and the pain I'd feel when somebody calls me lazy is real. It's not fun, and when unmedicated and untreated can make you feel legitimately useless and worthless. It's so nice to hear from somebody, even once in my life, that I'm not lazy.
I’d love a whole series.Please do a video for each of them : It’s not laziness it’s Burnout/ demand avoidance/ mental resistance/ self care / subconscious (something deeper)/executive dysfunction
At some point I started to think that "lazy" is just a label created by people who want to control others or shame others in order to feel good about themselves. Like you are not doing the thing, but I am doing the thing, so I am better.
ALL THREE PLEASE!! My partner has ADHD and I sincerely wish to understand his struggles so I can become a better support for him without feeling like I'm being mooched off of or taken advantage of.
Oooohhhh, love this! I'm thinking of bringing my husband on my CZcams to talk about what it's like being neurotypical married to an auDHD person, how we divide responsibility, and both feel appreciated and whatnot! I have a podcast episode on it already (The Neurocuriosity Club Podcast, on most platforms!) but a CZcams vid could be helpful too!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub That sounds awesome! Have you considered simply putting your podcast audio into a video? It would be easiest~ Plus, many of my favorite science channels do that. It's kind of popular for those who don't follow both CZcams AND podcasts. (I noticed a typo in my first comment and edited it... but saw your heart disappear... 😅 Thank you for giving it a heart despite the typo! 🥰)
This video was incredibly reassuring and has everything I needed to hear. Pretty much everything you listed applies to me, but I still struggle with the idea that I'm just lazy and everything would be fixed if I just tried hard enough. I learned recently I have a learning disability (NOT an intellectual disability - they are different things, and I wish this was talked about more!) and it's so frustrating seeing others effortlessly (seemingly) able to do what I want to do. There's so much I want to do and learn about that I would never finish it all, even if I wasn't plagued like this. I really appreciate your video, you were really infomative and to-the-point, I hope more people watch it! I haven't checked out the rest of your videos, but just in case you haven't yet made such a video, I would be interested to learn about demand avoidance too.
I'd love to hear you talk more about this subject. I know it has helped me to see this video and I've always enjoyed the way you present information! :)
Yes, both would be good videos! Also, how to tell the difference between demand avoidance and burnout, or does it matter to tell the difference, and why.
Thank you for this video! Most of my life I thought I was inherently lazy and also an imposter for fooling people into thinking I wasn't lazy (your sign #4 resonated so strongly with me!) I just discovered your channel. I'm formally diagnosed autistic and ADHD so no longer questioning, but it's been less than a year and I'm still figuring everything out. You have a way of describing and explaining things that's succinct and easy to understand. I'm sharing your videos with family members who think they might have ADHD. I hope you will tackle laziness vs burnout and demand avoidance, too.
Given my lifelong history of staying projects I never get far into, I'm by this point pretty convinced of the ADHD, but at this point in my life it feels like the primary block for my writing is more anxiety and perfectionism and social issues ("I'm not gonna do this right, everybody's gonna be upset, it won't be up to my personal standards, too many people want my stuff too fast" etc., even though I'm aware that people typically love my writing and don't criticize it much if at all). Could you go over the interplay between these conditions? Maybe like, how to tell when it's X vs. XY vs. X wouldn't be a problem if not for Z? Also, regarding chores, I get blocked by the feeling that no matter how much energy I pour into cleaning, it'll undo itself within a week, so why expend more energy than the bare minimum to stay functional? Which is maladaptive, I know. But it's hard to look at a giant decluttering job and go "let's do this!" when it'll take me a long time to work up the energy for a second wave after the first, and between the two Waves it'll be practically back to square one 😖
Yes please to the burnout & demand avoidance videos! I grew up being called lazy, even when it felt like I was working harder than everyone around me just to keep up!! It's good to hear someone contradicting this trope 💚
I think the channel ADHD Love said it best: "if I were just being lazy, I would be enjoying myself (instead of feeling miserable about not getting stuff done)."
I always thought I was lazy until this one time my phone died while I was playing on it. The charger was in the other room. A thirty-second walk.
I sat in the same exact position for three hours. No phone, no light as the sun set, not moving. Three hours. In my mind, I kept telling myself to move. I kept berating myself. I kept counting myself to three to stand up. Three hours.
If I was lazy, I’d be having fun.
"my brain is a CEO without a secretary"! this is EXACTLY what it felt like before getting todoist a week back. life already changed
Thank you so much for shedding light on this. Executive dysfunction is something I've dealt with my entire life, and the pain I'd feel when somebody calls me lazy is real. It's not fun, and when unmedicated and untreated can make you feel legitimately useless and worthless. It's so nice to hear from somebody, even once in my life, that I'm not lazy.
I’d love a whole series.Please do a video for each of them : It’s not laziness it’s Burnout/ demand avoidance/ mental resistance/ self care / subconscious (something deeper)/executive dysfunction
At some point I started to think that "lazy" is just a label created by people who want to control others or shame others in order to feel good about themselves. Like you are not doing the thing, but I am doing the thing, so I am better.
"So, what are some of the classic signs you are NOT actually some lazy piece of shit!" I GIGGLED SO MUCH
ALL THREE PLEASE!! My partner has ADHD and I sincerely wish to understand his struggles so I can become a better support for him without feeling like I'm being mooched off of or taken advantage of.
It may also help me as I'm starting to think I'm actually AuDHD and not just Autistic. 😅
Oooohhhh, love this! I'm thinking of bringing my husband on my CZcams to talk about what it's like being neurotypical married to an auDHD person, how we divide responsibility, and both feel appreciated and whatnot! I have a podcast episode on it already (The Neurocuriosity Club Podcast, on most platforms!) but a CZcams vid could be helpful too!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub That sounds awesome! Have you considered simply putting your podcast audio into a video? It would be easiest~ Plus, many of my favorite science channels do that. It's kind of popular for those who don't follow both CZcams AND podcasts. (I noticed a typo in my first comment and edited it... but saw your heart disappear... 😅 Thank you for giving it a heart despite the typo! 🥰)
This video was incredibly reassuring and has everything I needed to hear. Pretty much everything you listed applies to me, but I still struggle with the idea that I'm just lazy and everything would be fixed if I just tried hard enough. I learned recently I have a learning disability (NOT an intellectual disability - they are different things, and I wish this was talked about more!) and it's so frustrating seeing others effortlessly (seemingly) able to do what I want to do. There's so much I want to do and learn about that I would never finish it all, even if I wasn't plagued like this.
I really appreciate your video, you were really infomative and to-the-point, I hope more people watch it! I haven't checked out the rest of your videos, but just in case you haven't yet made such a video, I would be interested to learn about demand avoidance too.
3 alarm clocks for my 22 year old with adhd. 1 shower clock also.
I'd love to hear you talk more about this subject. I know it has helped me to see this video and I've always enjoyed the way you present information! :)
You're so good at this! Love your channel.
Yes, both would be good videos! Also, how to tell the difference between demand avoidance and burnout, or does it matter to tell the difference, and why.
Thank you for this video! Most of my life I thought I was inherently lazy and also an imposter for fooling people into thinking I wasn't lazy (your sign #4 resonated so strongly with me!)
I just discovered your channel. I'm formally diagnosed autistic and ADHD so no longer questioning, but it's been less than a year and I'm still figuring everything out.
You have a way of describing and explaining things that's succinct and easy to understand. I'm sharing your videos with family members who think they might have ADHD. I hope you will tackle laziness vs burnout and demand avoidance, too.
Thank you for explaining so clearly. I would love to see more on the other things you mentioned please 🙏
Given my lifelong history of staying projects I never get far into, I'm by this point pretty convinced of the ADHD, but at this point in my life it feels like the primary block for my writing is more anxiety and perfectionism and social issues ("I'm not gonna do this right, everybody's gonna be upset, it won't be up to my personal standards, too many people want my stuff too fast" etc., even though I'm aware that people typically love my writing and don't criticize it much if at all). Could you go over the interplay between these conditions? Maybe like, how to tell when it's X vs. XY vs. X wouldn't be a problem if not for Z?
Also, regarding chores, I get blocked by the feeling that no matter how much energy I pour into cleaning, it'll undo itself within a week, so why expend more energy than the bare minimum to stay functional? Which is maladaptive, I know. But it's hard to look at a giant decluttering job and go "let's do this!" when it'll take me a long time to work up the energy for a second wave after the first, and between the two Waves it'll be practically back to square one 😖
Great vid!!! ❤
All of them
I need all of the listed items to be videos, please, because I think I'm affected by all of them! 😅