This is an awesome video. I just put my 5 month old down for a nap and I’m about to put my 2 year old son down for a nap. Right now I’m eating lunch and watching this video to “unwind” before the next thing to do. Hang in there mommas! We were made for this!
Totally relate to the Dads being better at asking for what they need than Mums. I find it really hard to ask for help unless I'm at breaking point. Hunt Gather Parent is my absolute favourite parenting book, it's amazing.
Tell you what, I've tried asking for help much earlier and even for the expectations that my feminist community enlightened me as being unfair to begin with, I just wasn't believed. My logic was always accepted but benefits of doubt were always given to the way things have always been done - housework by the wife, earning or not. The final decision was to continue acting entitled until I didn't prove beyond reasonable doubt that women indeed have the bigger share of the load and why they shouldn't. The only acceptable proof was my undisputable struggling beyond breaking point. Even then it was seen as my failure and any help a favor to me. It was only when the more "non-traditionally minded" friends who generally stay out of personal matters, couldn't keep quiet anymore and asked why was I being made to do the double duty of having a career at the same level as him and housemaking at his homemaker mom's level. Hearing it from outsiders is what took it for my otherwise sensitive husband to trust me that his mom had taught him wrong.
“Because I need a break. And the wake window says that she supposed to be sleeping right now so she should be sleeping. It shouldn’t be this hard.” NUMBER ONE STRESSOR IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. I thought I was just crazy and a terrible mother for this!
Asking for help and taking breaks was such a game changer! Also accepting that I'm not in the same situation now and I just don't have the time to do everything, so I really need to prioritise the absolute top things for me, and otherwise relax and enjoy being a mum - because it really is awesome.
Doing busywork instead of what you actually want to be doing really hit home for me because I am SUPER guilty of this. Such a freeing feeling once you figure all that out.
Omg this video just made me feel like crying because I'm not alone!!!! 100% needed to hear this. This is EXACTLY how I've been feeling in every level. And none mum friends accepting that I don't want to leave my baby (exclusively breastfeeding is hard to leave him). Thank you so much for these practical tips. I'm also second time mum 😘😘
How you can keep yourself so strong while talking about all this. My second is 6weeks, i can barely think about it and tears appears in my eyes. Relating to EVERYTHING in the video❤ hugs to all moms who needs it❤
My husband and I "pick each others brains" with just about everything. Whether it's in regards to the kids or our animals. It's always nice to have someone with an outer view of what's in front of you to give you suggestions to help. Another thing we do is ask if the other wants suggestions or just wants to be heard. Plus, a lot of the ideas we have will affect the entire household, so it's extremely important to stay on the same page. It's astounding how far away from someone you're sitting right next to if you're not on the same page. BTW: I love your videos! I've been watching since you've been doing the motherhood ones. I love all of your content! Keep up the amazing work!!
Love you. I’ve been watching since I was pregnant. I now have a 6 week old and this video hit! No one really talks about how hard a newborn can be - especially if they have colic. At the same time it’s so beautiful. Acceptance has been huge for me. New norms are beautiful!
I’m pregnant with my first & I’m so scared and overwhelmed! Your videos are absolutely amazing at calming me down and teaching me so much from a real perspective! Thank you!! ❤❤
Ok so not all moms are perfect,I went through exactly the same struggles but I am not willing to have another baby.Thank you and good luck to you dear,God bless
I can’t tell you how helpful your content has been for me! I found your channel in 2020 and binged it but after I miscarried took a break. I rewatched everything and I’m now 6 wks postpartum with my first. The first month was easier than I expected, I had everything under control but last week life hit and I had a melt down and just realized my expectations for how I was bonding with my daughter were not my experience. I talked it out with my partner, cried a bunch and I’m remembering how difficult of a time you had and that I won’t feel like this forever. Now just taking it a day at a time. Yesterday I took my dog for a walk in the woods, alone and I’ve been definitely trying to make my needs known (like get outside once a day or leave the house once a week). Thank you for being a wonderful resource and advocate. Keep doing you Mama!
Bonding is weird, if it makes you feel better I felt the deepest bond with my daughter about 13 months when we stopped night weaning and could snuggle instead. And when she could say mama. It felt more like a two way relationship ❤️
Best mom advice video I've ever seen. Thanks for being authentic and trying to help others without being smug. You're not hypocritical, you're showing it how it really is (at least for some of us!). Thank you for sharing your content. You're like the mom friend I wish I had.
SHAYLA! I am also a 2TM with a six month old that had a much harder time with my first (aka becoming a mom) than this go around. I wish I could go back in time and gift myself the perspective I have now! I so appreciate you trying to do that for new moms these days... what a gift you are giving.
Omg thank you for this. I have a 4 week old baby and I was feeling so overwhelmed and didn't know how to put into words my feelings. Hearing you talking about all this I felt like I wasn't alone. 🙏🏽
I hope you’re hanging in there! This was such a difficult time for me, I cried all the time & felt so guilty when everyone kept telling me to “cherish these times”. My baby is 4 months now & things are finally starting to feel less terrifying. I feel like we finally understand each other, lol. I don’t know if I’d say it gets easier but it gets less chaotic. Wishing you a mentally stable next few months 🧡
@@WhiskeyIzzy yes! Even the last week I have learnt a little bit more about my daughter and I feel it's a tiny bit more manageable! It's so nice to hear that so many other mums feel this way too. I have also heard "enjoy this time" which I do, bit I also look forward to 4 months, 6 months etc ha ha ha
Yes Shayla, over here with a 9 month old on the struggle bus. I told my husband today that I’m struggling and he said look at you the laundry is done the house is fine you are fine and yet I’m mentally not feeling like myself.. I can’t concentrate on anything other than mothering. Thanks for this cool vid 😊
That’s be design. Your brain literally changes when you give birth to be hyper focused on your baby and other parts of your brain have significantly less activity
I'm not a mom, but a lot of this resonated for me just with trying to balance non-mom responsibilities while taking care of my own mental health. It's so hard to take a step back and figure out what you need when you're so overwhelmed you can't think straight. Hope to be a mom one day and really appreciate how real you are in all your videos!
I always LOVE your videos! I have a 14 month old and am 18 weeks pregnant ...and I babysit a 13 month old 3 days a week. It can be challenging to take time for myself, and ask for help when needed. I related a lot to this video, thanks!💗
With my 1st, I was a young, single Mama, & truth be told, I was NOT ready. It was a real bitter pill to swallow, that I was never going to "get back to the old me". If I'm honest, my son was probably almost 4yo, before I was like, "Well, this is us, now,". & it's really a shame... because he's a teenager now, & when I look back, I feel like I wasted so much time worrying about when I would get back to my "normal life", that I didn't fully embrace, enjoy & appreciate all the love & sweetness there was to be had, in those young years. And now (17 years later!), I'm 9wks pregnant w/ my second... but it's been so long & my life circumstances are so different (I'm now married & financially settled); so in a lot of ways, it feels like I'm starting from scratch again, but with a lot more wisdom about motherhood. So I will strive to remember that my life with this new baby will be my new life/new "me". ❤
I only have a 16 month old but holy cow YES to all of this!!! Looking back, I was struggling sooooo much as a new mom. It definitely gets easier as he got older but I HOPE the next time I take it easier and not overwhelm myself. Thanks!!!
Don’t even think about it until about 6 weeks, except pelvic floor. Let your body heal ❤️ Im and ambassador and huge advocate for expecting and empowereds workouts. They start day one and slowly build up to actually working out! Heyshayla is my discount code if you want to try Heyshayla.com/expectingandempoweredig
Hey Sheyla, I am a recent follower of your channel and i absolutly love all you do. I am not pregnant and i dont have kids but my husband and i are thinking about having a kid soon and when i think about all the things that come along with a baby I get really stressed, but your videos just make me laugh and i always end up feeling like oh yeah itll be fine, i can do this. I just love the personality and the joyful jumpy attitude that you give off in your videos. It just makes me happy and its a huge destressor. I just want to say thank you so much for all of this and I pray for the best for you always ❤
Love, love, love the coexist concept. Modern parenting ideas leave me feeling so guilty that I don't spend enough time sitting on the floor playing Legos or rolling playdough into snakes. It is quite freeing to accept that it's ok for children to entertain themselves or join you in the activities you enjoy or need to accomplish.
Thank youuuuuu for being relevant haha so relevant and normal, it’s so nice!!! ❤ I’m on the struggle bus and need to accept and create the change I need ❤
I really resonated with your point about accepting the circumstance for what it is and changing what you can. I've had to do that in small ways a lot recently so it's been on my mind. So often I'm trying to work and my 1 year old decides that she needs my attention and nothing else will please her. I've found that I need to accept that, set the work aside for a moment, and come back when I've been able to get her to a place where she can play without me. There's no point frustrating both of us by trying to pretend the situation is something it isn't. I appreciate your tips here!
You’re a rockstar. Thank you for putting this out. As a first time mom trying to find the balance between baby / work / husband / & me, this was much needed
Your videos makes me feel soooo normal and let me relax ❤ thank you! I have a 2 month old by my side. Almost all the time I’m looking at my adorable baby and melt from joy and love. But I get hard on myself sometimes, and then your videos help so so much!❤
FTM to be here! Really needed this video! I tend to romanticise EVERYTHING in my life and nothing ever meets my expectations and that makes me feel deflated. 32 weeks and can’t wait for baby girl, I can’t wait! However I don’t want to set unrealistic expectations and set myself up for failure ❤
I’m the EXACT same way. Seth had fo tell me we wouldn’t always be fireworks in love and when he said it my first thought was “well then I guess you’re not for me!l glad I came around 😂😂
Okay I’m a first time mom and I understood literally almost everything you said. I felt it haha. I struggled the same way thinking “so when is my old life coming back? Haha” accepting change was big for me and still is and pretty much will always be since we want more kids. I’m reading that book for sure. The guilt or the boredom during the day is real. I’m like oh I need to be playing with him, feeding, or trying to get him to sleep. But what exactly is playing with a 4 month old haha? There’s only so much you can do. And yes I need to get things done. And yes my husband had the solution for getting more sleep for mom😅. He will go take a bath and I’m like, oh that’s nice I wish I could do that haha. You want a break sometimes and you do have to realize that your husband is also working hard too. You both deserve breaks. I’ve learned too to accept that he just might not take a nap even though his wake window is over. Honestly I just forgot about the wake window because every baby is different. Anyways, I felt this video for sure. Thank you! And I’m a big journal girl. Love the idea.
Yes I started doing yoga everyday again. I just do it after she goes to sleep, and if she interrupts me, I just get her back to sleep, and start again haha. Also, I bathe with my daughter if I haven't been able to get a shower. Now I need to work on being able to do other things I love haha like reading or crafting ugh. I will get there... It gets easier everyday.. On the job learning.. As my mom says haha. By the way, I used to bullet journal, too.. It's the best, most effective method of journaling I have found.. Highly recommend.
I love watching your videos and podcasts, it's like a lightbulb goes off in my head. As a ftm, it's so helpful to hear the real life struggles and what works! I'm working on shifting my mindset and going with the flow...easier said then done, but maybe by baby 2 I'll be more chill lol
Thank you so much Shayla 💕 you're my support to be honest, I'll be a mom in a few weeks hopefully and the fact that I heard from you that we need to accept first the situation and accept the change , really helped me in being excited and happy,not overwhelmed and scared from what's coming (especially that a lot of people keep saying omg enjoy sleep you'll not have that at all, omg enjoy your last days of freedom...and so on)
I really needed to watch this video rn thank you so much! I am on the struggle bud of motherhood and your tips are an excellent way to start navigating through it ALL!!!! 😊
I KNOW I'm over thinking this.. I know that. Still, where do I put my 3 month old baby when I shower or when I need to make food & she doesn't feel like being in my carrier? Shes too the point where she wants to be sitting up more often, not always lying on the floor.. Do I buy the rocker chair thing? Very simple. I just wonder how do other moms get things done & where they put their babies 🙃 Souundds SO silly when I say it out loud. Obviously if I have to sit her down & she wants to be up, buy the chair Kayce. Ha.
Hey Shayla, I love your videos, I feel like you have great book recommendations that you have mentioned over videos and on Instagram, do you have a list of all the ones you love? I couldn't find anything on your website but maybe I missed it haha. Thanks!!
I know this is unrelated to this video, but I am lost. I need help please 🙏. I truly pray that you can get this text. I’m a guy, and I’ve been going through the most. My girlfriend hates my entire existence and she broke up with me because I texted her by saying,” 👁 ❤️ You.” Her argument is that the one-eye stuff is linked to satanism and stuff, which I get. But can u really break up with me for that? She has been the worst person I have ever seen in my whole life. And this is the same person who will call me ‘babe’ from time to time. I even thought that maybe there is somebody else😭😭😭. I’m literally panicking. What’s worse is that right now, we aren’t in the same city, and distance is making things really difficult. It gets scary; this pregnancy is still an assumption. What I mean is that, the symptoms are all there. Missed period, tender breasts, a bill of mood swings on steroid, etc… unfortunately, she hasn’t taken a test. She is in a small town and fears that if she buys a preg test, her mom will come to know about it. She’s only coming back to the big city in a month. By then, she’d be practically 3 months preg. Woman has been giving me emotional beatings. Yet, I find myself loving her even more every day. I did consider the possibility that she might be possessed though. By the way, I’m all the way back in South Africa. I’m panicking, y’all!!! CZcams is the only place I could seek help as I too need to still find a way to speak to my folks about this whole situation. But my friend told me that I should not divulge this information without my girlfriend. But at this rate, she’s probably plotting to murder me😭. The hate I am receiving is just too much😢. Please please please
Wait, so you have time to read a book? Taking a shower? OMG I'm so lost... (First time mom working full time also breastfeeding on demand a 7 month old)
The subtitles labeled the baby crying as "foreign music" and I cant stop laughing 🤣🤣
Bahaha! I noticed that too! 🤣
🤣😂🤣 didn't notice, but that's hilarious.
My baby crying is NOT music to my ears…
Thought about it too 😂😂😂
"The wake window said she's supposed to be sleeping right now" is probably the most real thing I've heard. Thank you.
This is an awesome video. I just put my 5 month old down for a nap and I’m about to put my 2 year old son down for a nap. Right now I’m eating lunch and watching this video to “unwind” before the next thing to do. Hang in there mommas! We were made for this!
Totally relate to the Dads being better at asking for what they need than Mums. I find it really hard to ask for help unless I'm at breaking point.
Hunt Gather Parent is my absolute favourite parenting book, it's amazing.
I’m the exact same, and even at breaking point I still struggle to ask for help 🙈
Tell you what, I've tried asking for help much earlier and even for the expectations that my feminist community enlightened me as being unfair to begin with, I just wasn't believed. My logic was always accepted but benefits of doubt were always given to the way things have always been done - housework by the wife, earning or not. The final decision was to continue acting entitled until I didn't prove beyond reasonable doubt that women indeed have the bigger share of the load and why they shouldn't.
The only acceptable proof was my undisputable struggling beyond breaking point. Even then it was seen as my failure and any help a favor to me. It was only when the more "non-traditionally minded" friends who generally stay out of personal matters, couldn't keep quiet anymore and asked why was I being made to do the double duty of having a career at the same level as him and housemaking at his homemaker mom's level.
Hearing it from outsiders is what took it for my otherwise sensitive husband to trust me that his mom had taught him wrong.
I needed this video right now. I’m currently trying to go the bathroom while trying to keep my 9 week old baby happy in his rocking chair.
“Because I need a break. And the wake window says that she supposed to be sleeping right now so she should be sleeping. It shouldn’t be this hard.”
NUMBER ONE STRESSOR IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.
I thought I was just crazy and a terrible mother for this!
As a new mom to a 3.5 week old, this is some of the most helpful advice I’ve heard in the last few weeks.
Asking for help and taking breaks was such a game changer! Also accepting that I'm not in the same situation now and I just don't have the time to do everything, so I really need to prioritise the absolute top things for me, and otherwise relax and enjoy being a mum - because it really is awesome.
Doing busywork instead of what you actually want to be doing really hit home for me because I am SUPER guilty of this. Such a freeing feeling once you figure all that out.
Omg this video just made me feel like crying because I'm not alone!!!! 100% needed to hear this. This is EXACTLY how I've been feeling in every level. And none mum friends accepting that I don't want to leave my baby (exclusively breastfeeding is hard to leave him). Thank you so much for these practical tips. I'm also second time mum 😘😘
When you said "we just roll the dice every day and see how it goes" I laughed so hard cause omg same! I relate to this so much.
How you can keep yourself so strong while talking about all this. My second is 6weeks, i can barely think about it and tears appears in my eyes. Relating to EVERYTHING in the video❤ hugs to all moms who needs it❤
My husband and I "pick each others brains" with just about everything. Whether it's in regards to the kids or our animals. It's always nice to have someone with an outer view of what's in front of you to give you suggestions to help. Another thing we do is ask if the other wants suggestions or just wants to be heard. Plus, a lot of the ideas we have will affect the entire household, so it's extremely important to stay on the same page.
It's astounding how far away from someone you're sitting right next to if you're not on the same page.
BTW: I love your videos! I've been watching since you've been doing the motherhood ones. I love all of your content! Keep up the amazing work!!
I love this!!!
Love you. I’ve been watching since I was pregnant. I now have a 6 week old and this video hit! No one really talks about how hard a newborn can be - especially if they have colic. At the same time it’s so beautiful. Acceptance has been huge for me. New norms are beautiful!
I’m pregnant with my first & I’m so scared and overwhelmed! Your videos are absolutely amazing at calming me down and teaching me so much from a real perspective! Thank you!! ❤❤
Ugh so relatable with going crazy spending over an hour at bedtime and nap time is so exhausting 😭
Ok so not all moms are perfect,I went through exactly the same struggles but I am not willing to have another baby.Thank you and good luck to you dear,God bless
I can’t tell you how helpful your content has been for me! I found your channel in 2020 and binged it but after I miscarried took a break. I rewatched everything and I’m now 6 wks postpartum with my first. The first month was easier than I expected, I had everything under control but last week life hit and I had a melt down and just realized my expectations for how I was bonding with my daughter were not my experience. I talked it out with my partner, cried a bunch and I’m remembering how difficult of a time you had and that I won’t feel like this forever. Now just taking it a day at a time. Yesterday I took my dog for a walk in the woods, alone and I’ve been definitely trying to make my needs known (like get outside once a day or leave the house once a week). Thank you for being a wonderful resource and advocate. Keep doing you Mama!
Bonding is weird, if it makes you feel better I felt the deepest bond with my daughter about 13 months when we stopped night weaning and could snuggle instead. And when she could say mama. It felt more like a two way relationship ❤️
Fresh mom here. My boy is 2 weeks. Watching this while he is breastfeeding. Great tips!
Best mom advice video I've ever seen. Thanks for being authentic and trying to help others without being smug. You're not hypocritical, you're showing it how it really is (at least for some of us!). Thank you for sharing your content. You're like the mom friend I wish I had.
❤️❤️❤️ I love this. Thank you👯♀️
SHAYLA! I am also a 2TM with a six month old that had a much harder time with my first (aka becoming a mom) than this go around. I wish I could go back in time and gift myself the perspective I have now! I so appreciate you trying to do that for new moms these days... what a gift you are giving.
Omg thank you for this. I have a 4 week old baby and I was feeling so overwhelmed and didn't know how to put into words my feelings. Hearing you talking about all this I felt like I wasn't alone. 🙏🏽
I hope you’re hanging in there! This was such a difficult time for me, I cried all the time & felt so guilty when everyone kept telling me to “cherish these times”. My baby is 4 months now & things are finally starting to feel less terrifying. I feel like we finally understand each other, lol. I don’t know if I’d say it gets easier but it gets less chaotic. Wishing you a mentally stable next few months 🧡
@@WhiskeyIzzy yes! Even the last week I have learnt a little bit more about my daughter and I feel it's a tiny bit more manageable!
It's so nice to hear that so many other mums feel this way too.
I have also heard "enjoy this time" which I do, bit I also look forward to 4 months, 6 months etc ha ha ha
I cried watching this, then I watched it again and cried some more. I’m 6 months pp and I’m still in the thick of it. Thank you for making this ❤
Yes Shayla, over here with a 9 month old on the struggle bus. I told my husband today that I’m struggling and he said look at you the laundry is done the house is fine you are fine and yet I’m mentally not feeling like myself.. I can’t concentrate on anything other than mothering. Thanks for this cool vid 😊
That’s be design. Your brain literally changes when you give birth to be hyper focused on your baby and other parts of your brain have significantly less activity
She talks about it here
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You’re awesome, like a sister sharing all the tips for us strugling mothers😅. Thank you for existing and doing these videos 🙌
Shayla, your videos on being a mom have helped me SO much during my first 4 months as a mom. Thank you for your authenticity ❤❤❤
❤️❤️❤️ makes me the most happy to hear!
I'm not a mom, but a lot of this resonated for me just with trying to balance non-mom responsibilities while taking care of my own mental health. It's so hard to take a step back and figure out what you need when you're so overwhelmed you can't think straight. Hope to be a mom one day and really appreciate how real you are in all your videos!
You've literally changed the way I look at being a mum 💛 I can't thank you enough for sharing your perspective 😊
😭😭😭 thank you so much for taking the time to leave this.
“We just roll the dice every day” hahHAAAA yes ma’am. Thanks for this reminder. ❤👍
I always LOVE your videos! I have a 14 month old and am 18 weeks pregnant ...and I babysit a 13 month old 3 days a week. It can be challenging to take time for myself, and ask for help when needed. I related a lot to this video, thanks!💗
With my 1st, I was a young, single Mama, & truth be told, I was NOT ready. It was a real bitter pill to swallow, that I was never going to "get back to the old me". If I'm honest, my son was probably almost 4yo, before I was like, "Well, this is us, now,". & it's really a shame... because he's a teenager now, & when I look back, I feel like I wasted so much time worrying about when I would get back to my "normal life", that I didn't fully embrace, enjoy & appreciate all the love & sweetness there was to be had, in those young years. And now (17 years later!), I'm 9wks pregnant w/ my second... but it's been so long & my life circumstances are so different (I'm now married & financially settled); so in a lot of ways, it feels like I'm starting from scratch again, but with a lot more wisdom about motherhood. So I will strive to remember that my life with this new baby will be my new life/new "me". ❤
I only have a 16 month old but holy cow YES to all of this!!! Looking back, I was struggling sooooo much as a new mom. It definitely gets easier as he got older but I HOPE the next time I take it easier and not overwhelm myself. Thanks!!!
Just survived week 1 with a newborn. I have been wondering how in the absolute hell I will exercise. Love this, thank you so much.
Don’t even think about it until about 6 weeks, except pelvic floor. Let your body heal ❤️
Im and ambassador and huge advocate for expecting and empowereds workouts.
They start day one and slowly build up to actually working out!
Heyshayla is my discount code if you want to try
Heyshayla.com/expectingandempoweredig
Hey Sheyla, I am a recent follower of your channel and i absolutly love all you do. I am not pregnant and i dont have kids but my husband and i are thinking about having a kid soon and when i think about all the things that come along with a baby I get really stressed, but your videos just make me laugh and i always end up feeling like oh yeah itll be fine, i can do this. I just love the personality and the joyful jumpy attitude that you give off in your videos. It just makes me happy and its a huge destressor. I just want to say thank you so much for all of this and I pray for the best for you always ❤
Love, love, love the coexist concept. Modern parenting ideas leave me feeling so guilty that I don't spend enough time sitting on the floor playing Legos or rolling playdough into snakes. It is quite freeing to accept that it's ok for children to entertain themselves or join you in the activities you enjoy or need to accomplish.
Thank youuuuuu for being relevant haha so relevant and normal, it’s so nice!!! ❤ I’m on the struggle bus and need to accept and create the change I need ❤
Thank you for this Shayla and your authenticity is refreshing. X
This is just what I needed. Thanks, Shayla.
I really resonated with your point about accepting the circumstance for what it is and changing what you can. I've had to do that in small ways a lot recently so it's been on my mind. So often I'm trying to work and my 1 year old decides that she needs my attention and nothing else will please her. I've found that I need to accept that, set the work aside for a moment, and come back when I've been able to get her to a place where she can play without me. There's no point frustrating both of us by trying to pretend the situation is something it isn't. I appreciate your tips here!
Oh my gosh...I have never identified so much with the "she's not hungry, she just ate" comment. 😭 That was my life weeks 1-10 🫠
Part of the reason I cloth diaper is for the many uses of the actual prefolds. You could try using a cloth diaper as a burp cloth
You’re a rockstar. Thank you for putting this out. As a first time mom trying to find the balance between baby / work / husband / & me, this was much needed
Oh my... she is addressing all my problems! Great tips
Shayla! I completely relate. Thank you for sharing
It took me 11 months PP to start working out. I had to try morning vs evening. Evening ended up sticking and it helped me sleep better.
Thank you for your videos I really appreciate them 😊 currently a mum to a 3 month old and a 21 month old, it’s pretty tough but it will get easier ☺️
Every new mom needs to hear this. Preach! Thank for bringing it ti light and trying to help other moms ❤
I think this is my favorite video you've ever made. It was hilariously accurate.
Your videos makes me feel soooo normal and let me relax ❤ thank you!
I have a 2 month old by my side. Almost all the time I’m looking at my adorable baby and melt from joy and love. But I get hard on myself sometimes, and then your videos help so so much!❤
Needed this right now ❤️ thanks!
I’ve subscribed to you in a heartbeat 😭❤️
New mom here and this was helpful 😅 thank you for your good vibes!! xx
Love this video! SO relatable!
You always make me feel less alone so thanks for that
This was super helpful! Thank you !!!
I'm struggling with the same exact problems
Shayla I felt it. I wa laughing because omg same. I'm rolling the dice everyday
So helpful. Sleep is my biggest anxiety trigger and the nap thing- whoa it’s tough. Love the coexist advice. So important.
Solid advice, thank you!
Loved the video! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
So relatable in every way!
Thank you!!! I really appreciate how real you are! I like your advice about Journaling. I'm 5.5 months postpartem with my third.
FTM to be here! Really needed this video! I tend to romanticise EVERYTHING in my life and nothing ever meets my expectations and that makes me feel deflated. 32 weeks and can’t wait for baby girl, I can’t wait! However I don’t want to set unrealistic expectations and set myself up for failure ❤
I’m also rubbish at asking for help and would rather be a struggling martyr - great tips 👏🏻
I’m the EXACT same way. Seth had fo tell me we wouldn’t always be fireworks in love and when he said it my first thought was “well then I guess you’re not for me!l glad I came around 😂😂
thank you soo much for making this video.
This is the most real and similar to my experience as a mom. Thank you!!! I also need working out/ sauna-ing and showering once a day.
Okay I’m a first time mom and I understood literally almost everything you said. I felt it haha. I struggled the same way thinking “so when is my old life coming back? Haha” accepting change was big for me and still is and pretty much will always be since we want more kids. I’m reading that book for sure. The guilt or the boredom during the day is real. I’m like oh I need to be playing with him, feeding, or trying to get him to sleep. But what exactly is playing with a 4 month old haha? There’s only so much you can do. And yes I need to get things done. And yes my husband had the solution for getting more sleep for mom😅. He will go take a bath and I’m like, oh that’s nice I wish I could do that haha. You want a break sometimes and you do have to realize that your husband is also working hard too. You both deserve breaks. I’ve learned too to accept that he just might not take a nap even though his wake window is over. Honestly I just forgot about the wake window because every baby is different. Anyways, I felt this video for sure. Thank you! And I’m a big journal girl. Love the idea.
Yes I started doing yoga everyday again. I just do it after she goes to sleep, and if she interrupts me, I just get her back to sleep, and start again haha. Also, I bathe with my daughter if I haven't been able to get a shower. Now I need to work on being able to do other things I love haha like reading or crafting ugh. I will get there... It gets easier everyday.. On the job learning.. As my mom says haha.
By the way, I used to bullet journal, too.. It's the best, most effective method of journaling I have found.. Highly recommend.
On the job learning lol I love that
I can relate to you so much! You are a breath of fresh air on youtube 💖
I love watching your videos and podcasts, it's like a lightbulb goes off in my head. As a ftm, it's so helpful to hear the real life struggles and what works! I'm working on shifting my mindset and going with the flow...easier said then done, but maybe by baby 2 I'll be more chill lol
Thank you so much Shayla 💕 you're my support to be honest, I'll be a mom in a few weeks hopefully and the fact that I heard from you that we need to accept first the situation and accept the change , really helped me in being excited and happy,not overwhelmed and scared from what's coming (especially that a lot of people keep saying omg enjoy sleep you'll not have that at all, omg enjoy your last days of freedom...and so on)
Ugh Seth and I talked about how we HATED hearing that when we were so excited
@@heyshayla yeah exactly 🙄🙄
I really needed to watch this video rn thank you so much! I am on the struggle bud of motherhood and your tips are an excellent way to start navigating through it ALL!!!! 😊
LoL Closed Captions said [foreign music playing] while baby was talking at the beginning....
I needed this so much. Thank you!
Okay, not sure if this is old new or not but your hair color seems darker and I think it looks great!!
Ugh so on point!
For all the mamas out there, your doing great! Ha. Thanks shayla! Another great video we all needed.
You are so funny Omg be my friend 😭❤️ you made me laugh I resonate with youuuuuuuuuuuu
I KNOW I'm over thinking this.. I know that. Still, where do I put my 3 month old baby when I shower or when I need to make food & she doesn't feel like being in my carrier?
Shes too the point where she wants to be sitting up more often, not always lying on the floor..
Do I buy the rocker chair thing? Very simple. I just wonder how do other moms get things done & where they put their babies 🙃
Souundds SO silly when I say it out loud.
Obviously if I have to sit her down & she wants to be up, buy the chair Kayce. Ha.
Love your channel! Follow you on Amazon! Read all your blogs!
I would love to get a list of all the books you reference in one place. Maybe your website?
Hey Shayla, I love your videos, I feel like you have great book recommendations that you have mentioned over videos and on Instagram, do you have a list of all the ones you love? I couldn't find anything on your website but maybe I missed it haha.
Thanks!!
Yes! Go Heyshayla.com/books I need to do a video on then lol
I know this is unrelated to this video, but I am lost. I need help please 🙏. I truly pray that you can get this text. I’m a guy, and I’ve been going through the most. My girlfriend hates my entire existence and she broke up with me because I texted her by saying,” 👁 ❤️ You.” Her argument is that the one-eye stuff is linked to satanism and stuff, which I get. But can u really break up with me for that? She has been the worst person I have ever seen in my whole life. And this is the same person who will call me ‘babe’ from time to time. I even thought that maybe there is somebody else😭😭😭. I’m literally panicking. What’s worse is that right now, we aren’t in the same city, and distance is making things really difficult. It gets scary; this pregnancy is still an assumption. What I mean is that, the symptoms are all there. Missed period, tender breasts, a bill of mood swings on steroid, etc… unfortunately, she hasn’t taken a test. She is in a small town and fears that if she buys a preg test, her mom will come to know about it. She’s only coming back to the big city in a month. By then, she’d be practically 3 months preg. Woman has been giving me emotional beatings. Yet, I find myself loving her even more every day. I did consider the possibility that she might be possessed though. By the way, I’m all the way back in South Africa. I’m panicking, y’all!!! CZcams is the only place I could seek help as I too need to still find a way to speak to my folks about this whole situation. But my friend told me that I should not divulge this information without my girlfriend. But at this rate, she’s probably plotting to murder me😭. The hate I am receiving is just too much😢. Please please please
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Wait, so you have time to read a book? Taking a shower? OMG I'm so lost... (First time mom working full time also breastfeeding on demand a 7 month old)
No i listen to books and usually have to shower when the baby sleeps lol
"The most challenging part for me becoming a new mom was-" *child screams*
More accurate words were never spoken 😂😂🥲
So true! 😂
I frame it as “offering” my baby nap and that helped me a lot! I also use to get ragey if my baby refused a nap 🥲
Love this