Lazy Husband & What To Do About It
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- My husband won't do anything. He is so lazy. Everything ends up on my plate, and I’m drowning in responsibility. I can't keep living like this." Does this sound like you? If your spouse seems like they don’t want to do anything or don’t care about anything, it can be hard to know where to start in turning things around.
If you're struggling with a husband who doesn't seem to invest in or care about helping you out in your day-to-day relationship, I totally get how frustrating this can be. My own marriage faced this struggle at one point, and I can help you talk to your spouse about what’s going on and how things can change.
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I think by the time someone’s watching this video, they’ve tried all the things
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I cannot live with anyone who is lazy. I’d rather live alone.
Unfortunately, a lot of women stay with their spouses because of money and looks and more than the likelihood of being afraid of being alone so they accept this laziness.kinda sad .
What do the bring to the table as a man or partner at that point?
What about the trauma and mental hurt they cause us by not caring that they do nothing and we pick up all the slack. So much anxiety and stress burdening us because of it and they don't care. It works both ways
Yes!!! Exactly
Exactly! Especially when caring for children, home , etc.
How to enable lazy husband's
Amen
@@donnalesiv5079 this is definitely about enabling a lazy husband.
I did all that. Encouraging, love, asking about his feelings. Years of love and patience. Meanwhile, I had to be the breadwinner staying at a stressful job while my depression was (without saying the word) pretty much as bad as it gets. I’m starting to think that sometimes, it’s because if they can get away with it, they will.
absolutely some people are just lazy and some men think that its a womans job to do the housework even if they don't work and the woman does !!
I agree with you after 17 years I decided to seperate. He does not want to speak about it.... Im not baby him no more. Im moving on finding myself. Its hard but I will move forward.
I absolutely agree with you, I too have been supportive, respectful, encouraging and loving and yet no results at all. I am drowning and he makes me empty promises every time I speak to him about it but i see no changes.
I have asked for a separation, and he said he wouldn't leave. He is a borderline hoarder. And now wants a pole barn. The house is in my name, so that's a no-go. We will be divorced before 10 years married. He wanted this large property. It scared me, and I said I would do it....with him. He has totally dropped the ball. I have learned to use a chainsaw, ZT mower, and some many other things. He wants the property to "pay for itself", but does nothing to try to make it happen. I pay extra on the mortgage to pay it off sooner. He thinks the earth is flat and we live under a dome, and oh by the way, gravity doesn't exist. When did all the weird start???
I work a full time job and contribute to bills. I'm just a slob when it comes to certain things like house chores. When i'm doing my laundry I don't fold my clothes. I just take them out of the dryer as needed. No point.
Like I have a double duty. I have to manage all the physical emotional and financial burden as well as manage his trauma. Who will take care of my trauma that is caused by him
I got heart palpitations, anxiety and fight depression because of all of the burden.
I'm with you Azra. This woman is not for women
So being a housewife is trauma????? So weak your foremothers are rolling in their graves!!!!!!!
@@pyanemax4633 Why are you so mean? I hope you get the help you need!
Yes!!!! Soooooo much yes!!!!
What about a husband that had a mother that did everything for them and expect their spouse to continue that way of life?
Same with my husband!!!!!
Same with my husband
Same with my husband.
Anyone have answers? Same. My therapist says it will never change so I guess I'm left with acceptance or leaving
Got it! Husband adopted and spoiled!
Ive tried every thing in the book to get husband to help. Absolutely nothing works. Giving him space, asking politely, begging. Nothing makes a budge. Ive realized it much less effort to just do everything myself and let him play video games all day. I'm at a breaking point and I see no way out.
Honestly, you need to put your mental health first.
Don’t break out and don’t quit but prove him you are the strongest person who can never be shaken. Focus on yourself and do your job for the family.
Same. For 20 years, I was as patient and kind as I could be, cleaned up everything, made his life easier and gave him plenty of space. I thought one day he would recognize and be grateful for everything I did for us. Not for me. For us. But when things got really rough, he made it very clear that all of the doting, cleaning, me shuffling my schedule for him and centering him in my life… All of that meant nothing to him. He said I was a woman and we do that inherently, and that any woman would have done that, and it didn’t make me special and it didn’t indicate that I was showing him love.
The moment he said that, I checked out. I stopped doing everything. He told me that 20 years of my life met nothing. That 20 years of my hard work and sweat and labor and sheltering him from the hard work meant nothing to him.
I feel like I gave myself away for pennies. And he’ll never respect me. I feel so disgusting and used and angry. The anger is overwhelming.
And our marriage counselor told me I needed to be more communicative, have sweet, startups and just keep trying.
If he can’t be bothered to help me and to care about me after 20 years, did she really think that it was going to start now???
And to add insult to injury, because I was processing all this and swimming in anger, I could not sleep with him.
He asked me to leave because I wouldn’t sleep with him. That’s how disposable he saw me.
I have no more empathy for these lazy men. I just cannot.
Im in the same boat. No improvements no matter what I do.
@@Diaicy19 Me, too. I’m so worn out.
My husband thinks is job starts and ends at work. He does nothing around the house, nothing with the kids and expects me to do it all. All while complaining about how much his life sucks.
My husband was always like that and now he's retired and literally doesn't do anything but watch movies and go to the bar for happy hour. He says he's earned this and shouldn't have to do anything else.
Makes me sick to my stomach
Every single word is relatable
Yep, I get the “my life sucks” all the time too but does nothing to change it
Why is it always that the wife just has to work more. So she's got to sit down and try to be patient and talk to him and all that stuff and I've done that a thousand times. I know that's a slight exaggeration but seriously it just requires more work for me. And he still hasn't changed and I don't think he's ever going to.
He's a man-baby. Many, if not most, are these days. I think it has a lot to do with the lack of mature fathering by their own fathers; the lack of a strong male role model in their childhood. It is sadly lacking in society these days. Men don't know how to 'man up'.
Because she is a good wife, so
@@cord11ful 1000% true
Right
this video teaches us to do more for a good for nothing slacking husband
Thanks for saving me time!
Exactly... I do all of this and still...NOTHING. It's beyond annoying. 17yrs of this is a long time coddling a grown man 24/7...
You cannot change them. Accept that and then decide the next thing you can do within the limits of what you can control.
you can change your spouse it is called divorce
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I agree because I am in 15 year marriage and I give up
I beg to differ; they still won’t change, sometimes.
Yeah, I've done all this, and I've been carrying it for 24 years. I'm tired and I don't want live in this dumpy renovation anymore. This has made ME depressed. If he won't talk, this info is completely ineffective.
@@personincognito3989yup...17 and counting for me! So aggravating.
Not gonna lie, this is the opposite of helping
I feel so guilty after snapping on my husband for being so messy. I am so physically and emotionally exhausted from constantly cleaning up after him. I ask for help, I try to talk to be calmly but it never holds up.
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Thats your job quit fighting it!!!!!!
Don't feel guilty. They are getting off SO easy if the worst things that happens, is that we snap back at them once in a while.
Oh wait, that's right. Then WE are 'nags'.
I'm crying right now I love my children but if I never would have met their father my life would be better
I agree with this so much!! ☝🏿🥰🥰
God bless you. I feel bad for you. You don't deserve that. I prayed for you and I want you to know it.
I have never related so hard to a statement in my life!
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I learned this video was a waste of my time, i would think anyone that would watch this video has already done all those things. I have struggled with a lazy self centered spouse for over 40 years, my only fault is that i beat myself up and used up my self and lost myself to trying to fix our relationship to get him to understand how this is ruining our relationship. It never worked. I now just have to make him lists, double check that he did it, which usually is him not doing as asked, its miserable too. But at least he is doing something. And yep he is miserable too, but for better for worse...🤷...this is the worse part I guess 😮💨🙁
Its hard to get to the point of accepting this is my life, but once i have accepted it, i feel free in knowing i can be happier with my life and no longer care about fixing it. Is that sad, yes, it was sad, now its like dealing with anything else in life we have to learn to live with, move on.
But yeah, a weak video coming from my perspective.
Yes, this video assumes two things: your partner is able to communicate with you, and your partner has a legit reason to be lazy. Not the case with my situation, I feel your pain.
Divorce. Or be just as lazy as him so that the trash takes itself out. You owe a lazy person nothing.
He is selfish plain and simple. Expectations were set
I dont want to any extra work trying to fix this when I've already done all the chores and EVERYTHING else...
I mean there is one solution that I didn't see anybody recommend: just stop doing anything. Don't wash or iron his clothes, don't wash dishes, don't clean up after him. Just leave it as it is and start doing what he does, play video games or do something else. See what happens.
What do you guys think about: I ask my husband if he could please help me to clean the car that means to take the car to be cleaned by someone else. He said I didn’t do all the dirt inside and I don’t speak the language to take the car to be washed. I was absolutely shocked almost have a heart attack. I washed the car myself. I do all the chores at home because he “has” his own timing. I try to understand the “other” but my body is super tired. I think even a psychiatrist would lose his mind. I didn’t know this was a pattern. So frustrating.
Yeah, understanding why & relating doesn't get the 'lazy' spouse to work..... still got bills....
It won't help, this kind of suggestion. No matter how you're polite, patient, and sacrifice more, the guys are selfish and poor.
The best way is to leave. It won't change and you will stress yourself out
Sounds like you tried these things, and it worked for you. Congrats, you have a spouse that treats you like a human being! Mine doesnt. Im a mop, a server, a therapist, a sponge, whatever object benefits him in a given moment. Funny how your video ends at setting boundaries but you hardly expound. 😂
amen
This is ridiculous! This might apply for some,but I don’t think it’s fair to put more on the person who’s already carrying the weight of the relationship and marriage,sometimes the only way is divorce and no one should feel guilty about drawing the line. If you’ve tried everything, leave and live your best life ❤
I'm going through this. It's how I found your channel. I'm so frustrated with doing everything while my husband watches tv unless he's actually at his job. What really bothers me is that our 16 year old son has witnessed a lazy dad that has just nagged him to go to college to get a degree so he won't have to work the rest of his life. Problem is, my son loves to work with his hands and mind. I don't know what to do. I realize that once my son leaves home that this marriage will just get worse. I would appreciate encouragement.
Depression, anger and what's not, really? I don't have them? Of all the advice, this one boils my blood.
Oh please!!! ' Curiosity' is ok when a normally responsible man begins to slack off.... In many cases though the husband is perpetually lazy - probably as a result of never having grown up. You do not need to treat a fully grown man with kid gloves( unless something traumatic has happened) ...He's not a baby and he needs to take responsibility. Period.
And, btw, telling your husband to share the chores is not control... it's a legitimate demand
And if the husband is a strong, mature man he would do things without being told. Sharing chores is part of the marriage deal and any man who wants to remain lazy should not get married
I appreciate this video on many levels. Thank you for making it. I do have a concern though. Why does it fall on us? This past year my husband and I both have suffered through depression…yet as the wife/woman no one came to me with curiosity. How do you deal with emotional one sidedness? What do I do when nothing changes? I need support too. Just curious.
GOOD QUESTION YARI
I would say someone has to be the hero, the role model, the catalyst for change.
The spouse who has issues with the other spouse would be curious about what’s going on with the “problem spouse” but also speak their point of view and concerns in a calm way, that is the least attacking as possible. Like using the common (googleable) “assertive communication method”
It for sure can be frustrating though.
Counseling for you could be helpful in dealing with it. At some point if nothing changes I think you have to decide if your willing to live like that or if you want a divorce and you could communicate. Probably let him know that divorce is on the table if things don’t change, if it truly is. If it’s not, find a way forward, simplify life and slow way down on things that are for him.
Focus on your goals and interests… keep yourself motivated with the things that you like to do.. you are here to live your life and so enjoy every moment of your life
Listen to songs like Me and Flowers then go do something nice for yourself. I am in the same boat. When I try to ask him, I get nothing back, no response. He may be better for a day or two but then goes right back to it.
You cannot change your spouse, but you can change your spouse 😂
Good points. However, it only addresses how a wife can help her husband become motivated and help with some shared responsibilities. It would be beneficial to give perspective on both sides and to share how a husband contribution using his own efforts, taking initiative, etc could alleviate a wife’s anxiety and stress. Wives are depressed and frustrated too. A more realistic approach would have been better.
If all husband is like your husband who analyze what bothers him all problem in marriage can be solve but my husband is not he was addicted to mobiles games and like to procrastinate i thought before i know him it was only his past time but even we are family and have a child his addiction to mobile games never cease😢 and its very hard for me to ask help from him doing household chores he never like doing it.😞
Not really helpful. Just sounds like MORE work and effort on my part, while he continues to be married to his job more than me for the past several years. I get the crumbs at the bottom of the chip bag, while everyone else gets his best and bubbly personality. Some days I feel like I'm about to SNAP!
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I absolutely snapped. I didn’t see it coming.
I had an emergency and asked him to leave his phone on, which he didn’t normally do.
When he didn’t answer his phone, I got home and we got in an argument. He told me that he never had to leave his phone on for anyone, not even me.
Something in me snapped. Something in me decided I didn’t want anything to do with him anymore. I was completely done. And I never came back, mentally. 23 years and I checked out.
And because I never came back, physically, he asked me to leave. Because I wouldn’t sleep with him, he couldn’t take it.
So I’m just warning you, you could snap and you would not see it coming and you cannot stop it.
Listen to your gut. If you think you’re going to snap, get into counseling, or start doing something
@@MarriageHelper Why would marriage entail more work just for the woman?! That doesn't make sense. Telling someone a specific thing entails ONLY work and no benefit will not make a person want that thing. No woman will want to get married in this situation, believe me. What you are doing right now is just convincing a bunch of women to either not get married ..or divorce so they can get some benefits too. Nobody wants ONLY to work all their life, while other like the men who are husbands get to work a bit and have fun/relaxation time too. I would just say pass, no thank you, it's a bad deal for me.
"Poor man!" Smh. Hes experiencing begative emotions? What about the wife??? No no no.
It really sucks that in a time of need, this is the video that came up first, with its unrealistic “solutions.”
Don’t get me wrong, I wish they worked, but at this point, it’s a “been there, done that” situation.
I’m with you.
My husband only agreed to get into marriage counseling after I signed a lease on an apartment.
It took that for him to realize how serious I was.
And in that marriage counseling, the therapist told me that I needed to communicate my needs better.
And I got so angry, I’ve been with this man for over 20 years… You don’t think that I have communicated in 50 different ways to try to get him to help?
So I just closed my eyes and said it doesn’t matter what I say, I cannot get this man to care about me, this house or this relationship. She had nothing to say to that. Nothing at all. That would have been a place to move forward from, but I was ignored.
And he just nodded his head and agreed, that I just wasn’t laying out what I needed well enough.
It’s irritating to find these videos that tell the wife that she needs to be softer and sweeter and give us these specific blueprints on how to address and approach our husbands.
It’s like they are relieved of any responsibility in this toxic environment and it is condescending and just makes me angrier.
It’s like they don’t believe our experience, they don’t believe that our frustration matters.
Are you kidding me????
My spouse leaves everything out, laundry on floor rubbish left everywhere, plates left out , food left out, condiments left out. Shopping he buys is left out. What do i do? If i dont put his stuff away he makes it out to be my fault?
I am on the same boat too. Depending on both of your, I am afraid this attitude is very hard to change. I have wasted my 30s hoping there will be change, I do not think it will change.
I made my plan to leave as a better version of myself despite the 24/7 effects of severe depression, loneliness, lost years, anxiety, neglect, emotional abuse, severe health challenges, the effects only compound as the years go by in this unhealthy environment.
being held hostage to a person on the couch for years while watching you run around trying to stay afloat..
yeah its save myself time.
Real advise: get together, make an extensive list of all the housechores that need to be done and chose who is doing what. It can be with an app or a piece of paper, but make sure there is an equal division.
Don't nag or motivate him, that's a parent job.
Stop using the word "helping", it is "sharing".
If you accept that, I'm judging you. You have a really poor consideration of your life. And if you have kids, you are setting a terrible example
What do you do when you have had enough and this husband doesn’t want to change his ways????? And it’s hurting you but he Blane everything on you as if you are the problem
Maybe you've reached the "get help" stage mentioned in the video?
We know of a couple that goes through this…actually many. Babying them makes them begin to behave with the same pattern until you put your foot down; husbands or wives. Sometimes someone has to leave to cause a change.
So I have depression, trauma and anxiety and have household and family chores, have to work, and take care of the child. I take care of everyone one but myself all day long I still manage that somehow. Now I have to sit down with my spouse and have a pity party for them because they can’t do the same? Kind of pathetic. That’s life. We all have daily struggles. No one asks us if we’re okay. Lol. No one takes over for us when we’re sick or depressed and just don’t have the energy. Imagine what it’s like to just clock out for a day bc you’re feeling down. That’s not how life works and it’s certainly not how being part of a family works. If you have a problem speak up, talk about it, move forward, and continue to pull your end of the rope. This is why women are giving up on men in this society.
What to do when husband doesnt want to find a job? Its too much too handle being a breadwinner and when you go home house needs cleaning, sometimes wanting to peace out.
Get them therapy
So you can't handle being a breadwinner but that's what women wanted.....right?????
@@pyanemax4633 No, we wanted opportunity and most of us wanted partners.
@@pyanemax4633 i think she's being a mother to a grown man is the problem
When this happened to me, I made a list of what is still possitive in the relationship and afterwards I desided to start a new life. So I did. Witout my husband. I mean, even men do not like men that are doing nothing...they do not even like themselves. It is pity. Thank you for the video.
You can threaten your spouse. Sometimes separating is the only answer.
Now I have to take the responsibility of raising him too? Apart from all the slack I pick up ?
There is a quick fix to all of this that most will not want to endure. We own what is ours and what is not our responsibility, we don’t own. Let’s start there lol.
I told my husband to get help. His the one with the problem. From the past he had and it’s affecting me and the kids. And now, I end up being included to the problem he have. I lost my confidence, emotionally physically I lost everything how I used to be. Independent woman. He told me take care of the kids. Be a house wife. Now, financially we are struggling because I’m not working.
You're supposed to be his help instead you abandon your husband in his time of need. You have separated yourself from him because that's his problem!!!!!!! So selfish and unsupportive!!!!!!!
It’s so frustrating to be the partner who has to carry majority of all responsibility then still have to muscle up more energy and care when we are already frustrated just so we can work around their needs. It almost feels like abuse and neglect to allow ourselves to put the effort in staying with them.
Literally did this gentle approach for over 10 years with two kids. Now trying to save my marriage alone but also dealing with the constant inequity of household responsibilities. I need a video about setting boundaries for this while trying to save a marriage. None of this helped. 😢
My husband was laid off and while he still is able to pay the mortgage, him being at home spotlights how lazy he actually is. I know for a fact that I could never be unemployed very long bc I would take any job because I could not sit around the house. If I were at home, I would be cleaning and organizing. If he is depressed, he should be. I am depressed coming home to a man who is not making more of his time. I am starting to think that he does not have a job bc he is delusional and feels entitled to a certain position. He saw a mouse in our house but not until o asked what HE was going to DO about it did he do anything. And honestly I know it will be a half assed response. I am starting to really resent him. I would be better off without him.
Omg..... I saw a more in the house and screamed! I begged him to do something, he did nothing. He did say, "Sometimes homes just get mice?
REALLY??????
Oh nice, being a free psychologist extra to all the other chores you already do, what about our emotional needs. 🤨 Like we don't need the emotional support. How about men grow up.
What about the wife on other way around
I came to this video because I couldn't find one on lazy wife. I guess there's no easy fix. The hardest thing is confronting them, especially if it's been going on for many years of marriage. I feel it's too late.
I simply ask my husband to take the kids out for one weekend so that i can deep clean and destress and he wont do it. Ive been asking for MONTHS and he wont budge. He wont help with daily chores either. So what am i supposed to do at this point?
He doesn’t respect you and you have an extra child in the home. It is better to be alone and let your soul sprout and find happiness!
Take his money and pay for a cleaner.
@@oneandonly3139is it always about money and looks with women's thoughts 🤔?
Tell him he goes to therapy or you sign divorce papers.
My husband also very very lazy 😭😭😭🤦🤦🤦
Am dieing is affecting me so bad , he's too slow we lose opportunities because of him , I feel like giving up he's putting no effort, too shy too slow people don't like him
I looked at the comments section and just had a panic attack. I haven't even watched the video; I'm 18 seconds in. I don't know what to do.
My question is woman also go through grief, depression sadness loss etc. Does he step up and support as well? Act curious etc? So if not then we always suppose to tip toe and do everything right to “motivate” some kind of change but why does no one have to do that for us? Why are we carrying the load regardless of what we experience and go through? Well simple, because no one else will
All these people are telling some imaginative things that never work. If a man doesn't communicate, he doesn't period. Either you should be a typical woman filled with drama or just save your energy and time and live your own life and don't care about them.
Men man up clean up the house.😊
I work around the clock and im taking charge of my actions with my marriage before i work myself to death alone
Maybe leave your husband and find someone else if that makes you happy
What happens when kids are involved
I did even finish watching this nonsense when your husband is lazy and don’t want to do nothing get out leave you wasting your time
Why are you smiling?
These comments make me feel so bad, men live longer when they connect with women and we die sooner 😵💫🥴 I don’t understand human beings. I truly don’t get it.
From the other perspective there are also lazy and selfish wives too perhaps we should say spouse.
Great advice Thanks so much.
What if they don't want to go out and do things and won't help you as they think you are telling them to do things
Never give an unemployed spouse access to your money! 🙅♀️🙅♀️
He should join the American Legion. We’d love to have him in any Tennessee Legion Post.
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My husband is really lazy he goes to work but when he called off he just lays around I am a homsechool mom or three that has a lot on her plate when I ask him to help he said no I won't I am not doing anything 😢 I don't kno how to make our lives work anymore
Just curious, why do you homeschool?
I’d put my kids in school and church and youth groups so I could have more me time
The most simple way no need for this long unnecessary talk, just divorce them it isn't hard. Just simply divorce them. What else can be more simpler nothing then that
I always think of that, but i get thoughts that he might do something to himself if i do, he cannot live without me, he cant pay rent, bills, or even buy anything. Its that and his anger.
Yes
Still waiting on the lazy wife video
But did he start doing something
I work full time, I pay the bills, I do my bit at home yet I'm 'lazy'
Your “bit”?
@@GS-cg3yn An old English saying not literal
@@GS-cg3yn bits come in various sizes but do the same job
Rbendz's brother, who is lazy and without a job, spends most of his time in a café, while his wife works on her children.
When he returned home, his wife asked him: Do you want to eat?
He says: Yes, if God guides you
He wants one of the his daughters to wash his feet for him😂😂😂😂😂
That sucks
Your stuff do no work.
Just stop backing twhat are you twenty twenty four
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Fantastic video. Very true 👍
I learned that sometimes the best changes can come from inside. I've been handling my husband "laziness' without compassion and understanding and everyone has been suffering because of it. But today I am going try a different approach and be more understanding. Awesome video thank you
Follow with my wife let herself go. Got comfy and is lazy
My wife needs to see this but she already kicked me out. She doesn't understand that I've hidden my trauma.
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Hi Alex, but what about the trauma you have caused her?
Stop being lazy and help your wife
invest in cat food
Plenty of lazy women out there too. Even want Men to keep house. Just saying.
This is true! We will likely be creating a video for that in the future, but the rules we talk about in this video apply to both sides! Thanks for the comment. ❤️
All wives usually go straight to complaining.
What do you do, when you’re always the one doing stuff for the kids, when you clearly need help? Sure, my husband works, but so do I! We both work 9-5 jobs. I do way more than him around the house, as well as childcare. I take medication for anxiety and depression. I had bad PPD/PPA with our second child. I’ll never forget how much he did NOT help me and when I asked him to get up in the night with me, he straight out told me no. He also called me a burden because of my depression. I will never forget his insults. I’m now about to get my tubes removed, because he refuses to get a vasectomy. I’m married to a very selfish/lazy person. It’s not fair to me at all.
I feel you sis..:(
I would run for the hills!
Sounds like he's a narcissist. They don't like it one bit when someone else is not well or needs help. It's beyond their pay grade.