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I wish I had known all this I may still be married.

Justified Simply because Guys Do Guy Things......

I TRULY hate my wife. She is my mortal enemy.

We know of a couple that goes through this…actually many. Babying them makes them begin to behave with the same pattern until you put your foot down; husbands or wives. Sometimes someone has to leave to cause a change.

The content discussed in this video can be examined from watching starting from the first season of Love and Marriage Huntsville witness Martell Holt vilanize his wife to justify his behaviors all to not marry his side chick and regret his decision of infidelity…

It’s so great to hear a real and honest perspective around this topic. There are so many people that separate because they hear so many people say that separation was amazing and the best thing for them, and then they struggle to manage their situation, let alone trying to find a healthy relationship afterwards.

Well, if he's happy 😂

She doesn’t understand it. Example: A couple is moving. Person A is actively trying to get things packed because they have a deadline to get their stuff out. Person A asks for help repeatedly. Person B declares that they will pack up the office. Person A goes to check on person B and the office is in disarray. Person B says that they don’t know what to do to start. Person A suggests that person B focuses on packing up the books in the bookcase. Person A is almost done with the rest of the house and goes to check on person B. Person B is watching CZcams and books are everywhere except in boxes. Person B has moved before and packed boxes of books before. Person B then asks for help and sits back while person A packs up the office. So what is it? Y’all are just enablers telling people to put up with bad behavior and mistreatment.

I love this dad and daughter's pod cast! I just discovered them

Believe me, if someone wants a divorce, then divorce. No one lives happy with the other ever again if you “work things out”. You will only wind up divorced eventually.

There is an ethical non-monogamy. It is when God allows and commands it. He did that in the Old Testament. He did that in the 1840's. He said it is time to stop in 1890.

I’ve been searching for answers and watching lots of videos on YT. This channel consistently gives terrible advice. Not sure why they always seem to protect the betrayer 🤨

Love isnt real. We made it up

I mean this in a respectful way; but it’s really clear you are one of the lucky ones and haven’t had a relationship with a manipulative person. I’ve studied both psychology and counselling, and I do agree with you where these terms are popping up, maybe a little too frequently, but there are definitely people who weaponise incompetence and “healthy mature” conversation will not get you far.

My husband tells me what i can wear, a weekly allowance. If i don't do what he wants, he takes money away or punishes me with other things. He often threatens me daily. If we have a discussion or disagreement and he doesn't like it. He punishes me. I take care of my children, cook clean. Its never enough. It feels like bondage. I love him but I'm exhausted. He never says sorry ever. Today he put my exercise treadmill on the side of the road, i asked and begged him not to. He says you don't use it! Im like i want it please. I looked outside and he put it in the front yard. I was so hurt by his lack of empathy for me. He keeps whatever he wants, goes wherever he wants without telling me, he picks our movies we will be watching. My opinions don't matter. I want to leave. Also, i got a job but he said he's not sacrificing his job for mine. I never asked for that. I asked that he help maybe pick up kids from school and stuff. He said he can't. But, he won't let me wk night shifts because its too late. Seriously, im a prisoner. I don't have money or a place to go. I have two kids. I pray for a miracle 🙏

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This advice doesn't apply when there is abuse in any form (physical, mental, verbal, emotional, financial, spiritual, etc) staying in a marriage like that does more harm than good.

this is so great! God bless you for your dedicated work. I love you marriage advocacy ❤

I feel so sad for all you women. Because I’m already married 😂

Finally, real advice. Great video.

After divorce and moved on and when the wife learns And understands and works changes should do with her ex instead of a new one

How to catch someone that does this my wife says that if you wouldn't do something in front of spouse than you shouldn't do it .

The wife has left now does she not want to save the marriage . The fact is if left me for another man is that true

“If you're trying to get closer to God, then you have the best odds of making it”. When the husband mentioned God, it hit me deep. These days nobody believes in that anymore and when someone does and delivers their testimony on the fact that God and prayer works, it really hits home. I am a woman in the military and my husband is not and this really helped me. Thank you ❤

Sometimes, you just marry the wrong person.

Marriage is supposed to be sacred. Instead people chase people who are married or because they feel it’s easier to replace the spouse because they have flaws that doesn’t fit the perfect person. No body wants to work and fix marriage. My opinion is if you get married you’re supposed to work on the marriage not just throw it away because it gets difficult.

I can’t listen to any more of this; "how much I had done to cause this."

I absolutely can’t understand her going back after he had a very public, humiliating, and painful affair. What did he suffer through all this?

So it was her fault because she wasn’t perfect.

So accept the cheating adulterous spouse and tell yourself it’s your fault. Don’t do anything negative to the other party.

This was quite good.

So good..i know this to be true and i love it when i can truly be accepting..so freeing❤

A visual treat-well done!

Thank you for sharing this

📝 EDITOR'S NOTE: At 10:22, in the hypothetical situation Dr. Joe describes about his daughter being an atheist, he wanted to add that his acceptance of what she believed would open the door for him to have a deeper, non-confrontational discussion about God. A discussion where she wouldn't be defensive.

I love this ❤……this applies to having a great relationship with friends and family.

I watch and appreciate all of your videos and have purchased some of your programs, but as nice as it sounds to be able to tell my wife about everything and be accepting; my wife is just not that way. She gets extremely upset, actually angry, when I tell her about unpleasant things. I try to be accepting of her vulnerabilities, and I have learned to stay quiet and just listen 95% of the time. But she can not do the same for me. It is just not worth dealing with her inability to reciprocate acceptance. I have had similar situations occur that you had with the waitress, but I won't even consider telling her that happened. She would not handle it well.

This is the WORD! Dr. Joe you and Alice are the testimony and example of God's Word 🙌 Your honesty, integrity, and transparency are admirable!

"Personal acceptance is the biggest pull there is out there." - JB

She said she can't be vulnerable anymore

Emotional maturity most people are not there.

Yea right, the reason over half of marriages end in divorce isn’t the lack of financial dependence and social pressure to keep going. It is that people are not sexually repressed enough. Good point :)

Im 14 minutes into this, and its non stop anecdotes. I honestly gained more useful information through your other shorter videos.

Honestly it’s insane, I am over here seeking a relationship with God, trying to find healing for all the damage caused by my husband. Still till this day he picks on what I wear to what I don’t do, putting me down thru sarcasm & arguments. I look at his phone & there again inappropriate women.

I believe if you have allowed another person into your life, then you should go to that person, but don't cheat on your spouse. Grow up, and tell them the truth instead of ruining their life

Thank you ❤🙏

Your stuff do no work.

The real problem is most marriages the people are miss matched.

Is this also part of a wife lead marriage?

ok, here is your answers. Third wave feminism, No Fault divorce, and the family court system. Ok, now what else ya got ?