What NOT To Do When Meeting Your Ex (4 HUGE Mistakes)
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- čas přidán 10. 07. 2024
- If you're worried you are going to make mistakes when meeting up with your ex, stay calm. In this video I share 4 huge mistakes that are easy to make (ask me how I know). So make sure you listen closely and pay close attention... because many people make these common mistakes!
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I think something important to consider is that after being back around them, YOU may NOT want them back.
That's fucks ya up too
@@jamesstuart3313totally she keeps wanting to hang out not sure what to do break up is pretty fresh
I'm married now and I STILL watch your videos. You advice is gold! Thank you for everything!
To your ex?
You don't need to proof yourself to anyone, you don't need to show the that you've moved on, you don't need to show them anything. Just be yourself, no matter what. You shared a chapter of your story together and whatever happened, it's all to make you stronger, to help you become a better person and just for that we can be grateful... ♡
I feel and understand you , the hurt ,the pain , the betrayal ,a Ll of it , as i observe and feel these emotions , we gave them the purest of pure love , as we surremder the connection , toxic cycles hVe been broken ,for both , and now we see , the divine and the karmic , both needed to break the toxic cycle and awaken botu to ascension never to be the same again and to never forget them , the love they needed ,that love is real , at their end it doesnt exist , the seperation has shown both opposites to see each other , exposing the traits that are sadistic and insidious unkowingly both counterparts are unaware of it ,when we see them we our shadow of ourselves , i see me but trying to be me , Ego and The Not Self , 2 spirits , its an ascensión and much closer to the divine , both spirit must br married within in order for the dymanic to be divine to GOD ,unconditional love , for father ,father only
Amen🙏
Now this is one video that I REALLY needed, my ex being the daughter of my mom's best buddy. Thanks, Coach Craig! More often than not, this channel and your book have been my only sources of light, in an otherwise VERY dark fourth of a year since July. Definitely the best channel I could've come across on YT, post my split!
Thanks for all your help watched you a lot after my 14 year break up learned a lot turns out Karma wins in the end and all things fall into placed I moved on found a Fantastic Woman and realized even tho my ex eventually wanted to get back together I had moved on and my new life is Amazing!! Thanks again for all your insight And advice
Oof hope you rubbed it in, in a smooth way of course.
Best video so far. Thumbs UP. We need more videos on how to behave in Phone calls, meeting after No contact.
Great call outs in this video! Thanks CCK 😊
Hi Craig
Another awesome video
👍🏻
I’m overseas atm visiting family in Europe,as
I’ve just been too London
Last Friday morning I was having Breakfast minding my own business thinking abt what I was going to do for the day
THe table I was sitting at had three vacant seats.
I was getting myself some toast when this absolutely beautiful women sat at my table with her two sons.
We got talking and shared our life’s and experiences
She was born in Spain now lives in France
I’m from Australia 🇦🇺
We really hit it off so well
Her personality charisma
Is really nice
We spent time together and had an awesome time
We are making plans too see eachother again and we havnt stopped talking.
The realisation that my LDR Ex is no longer a priority and she is now in the deep freeze !
This new connection is so natural and genuine
We both can’t believe what’s happened between us
We have a great laugh about it
I will certainly be taking everything on board and will continue my personal growth and watch your videos for as long as I can
Thankyou so much Craig and Margaret
You two are the best ✌🏻🙏🏻
Regards Mathew 🇦🇺
The best relationship channel by far!
Excellent advice coach Craig! Thank you! 💗😊
I wish I had this information sooner, but now I know for my future relationship. Thanks coach!!
Good tips to know! Watch it over and over and take notes.
This is the video I needed to hear. 👍Thanks coach.
Craig, we have to go for a couple beers. You're awesome keep it up!
I've been married now for almost a year after Coach Craig's recovery program. :) I STILL watch the videos daily as part of my morning ritual. A reminder of where I have been and also a reminder as to what I have accomplished thanks to his and Margaret's help.
Congrats
Love Coach Craig unique style very unique channel❤️
These are great tips!🤗
Hello coach Craig! I would want to ask for a video about what to do when meeting an ex for my things. Thank you so much for these videos and looking forward for more! 🥂
Thank you! Your messages are right on time .. I guess feeling like you want to pour your heart ❤️ out to them when they contact you, you would get the same response from them, but it’s the opposite reverse psychology.🤓 it’s not easy but watching your videos is a true awakening. Thank you! I have learned so much from you and you have kept me from making mistakes God bless.☺️
I listened to his shows about dealing with a narcissist. Helped me greatly to just walk away
Can you please talk about rebounds again? I think you didn't make too many videos about that topic. I'm going through this situation for the 5th time now. Thank you and thank you for the great advice!
Why are you meeting them? Go find someone better, who will fight for you, not against you... if they dumped you then move on.
Every relationship is different. And every break up is different.
I dumped them, they didn't dump me. I loved him even at the time I left, there were lots of extenuating circumstances...
Sometimes it’s your fault, and taking responsibility gives you power because you’re taking control
More great advice even in your older videos 👍
What up coach. Appreciate ur videos. U a big help. After 3 weeks no contact my ex wanted to meet up with me so she could return the grand gesture that I had given her. So instead ima get her a gift certificate to the same place. Cuz I wanted to do something for her to have a happy bday and a nice Xmas. But this was delivered to her bout 3 weeks ago. And she said she didn’t want it but she kept it till now. She tried returning it to the store to do an exchange and they didn’t let her. Anyway so she called me while I was at work. Is this a good thing or a bad thing. ? Any meet up after she said she would never talk to me again should b a good thing right ?
Hello Craig, I am now trying to catch up with all you older videos. I have been looking for a video like this working on myself, no contact is one thing but, if he calls or texts me what do I say how do I act with him. Now I am prepared for everything. Thank you!
omg thank you craig for this video!! I'm at that stage where I just got in contact with my "ex" (we have been seeing each other for a bit but never made it official) after 5 weeks of us breaking up. And we have been texting a little bit here and there. Can you PLEASE do a video on the initial contact with ex, through texts. What should you text, how much should you text, and how to lead it up to a "date" / casual meet up to show them that you have changed! If they don't text you back in a few days (2-3) does that mean that they are still interested? Even though their previous texts they asked you questions etc. seemed like they wanted to ask how you were doing. That would help SO MUCH!!! I've been binge watching your videos now for 2 weeks and it has helped so much already!!
I second this @coach Craig
Going through this right now. He reached out to meet because he wants us to be together again and texting here and there but not everyday like we used to
What happens when your ex also knows about “no contact?” Who should reach out first? You or them? Still wait 39 days or more?
I’m going to counseling with my ex, I’m hoping that it can work out.
Im in this situation now, my ex and I were together for five years and broke up while she was at long distance for the past 8 months. In at least 2 weeks time, she'll be back home. Im still in no contact and quite certain she will meet with me for "closure". I want to use that meet-up to reattract her. Pray for me guys that I don't blow it
You can do it
Update?
Update: My ex was forced to come home due to the pandemic. We met today "for closure" after three months of No contact. Damn I found out she had been rebounding with somebody in the States, and now they are separated by distance! Im not saying its instant karma or what. Im glad that even though things didnt work out for a comeback, I had listened to Coach and worked on myself. Now im fitter, happier, and in a better place in my life.
Im happy for you my friend
Sorry it didn’t work out
*I have acute anxiety ..after we talked about the breakup I had to excuse myself . I had a panic attack and started bursting into tears .She then told me "I'm going to Uber home" . Idk what step to do now*
*Found out she was cheating, 2 days after*
I wish this was up wen we got back, 3 months we were together I went back to my old ways he left me
I literally sat down to order lunch today at a restaurant when a waitress put food on the table next to mine. The next thing I saw was my ex sitting down to eat. He was outside on the phone while waiting for his food. I dyed my hair blonde so he didn’t recognize me at first. We hugged, his hug was long and hard. We then spoke about our lives for an hour. We went our separate ways and he said, “maybe I will run in to you again sometime!” I thought about him all day afterwards.
did you hear from him again?
Larry David for the win coach !! , great video !
Thank you.
I think it would be a big let down. Sometimes you have to accept what is and remember the good things that were. No reason T get your heart broken twice. It’s been 35 years. I remember her birthday every year.? I smile and just move on.
Kind of sickening that you have to hold them unaccountable for their decisions. Give them a pleasant meetup as their reward 🤦🏻♂️
What if the both of you had issues??? Then what?? I change and they don’t ?
I meet my ex tonight at a casual party, thanks for what you do it's helping a lot. God help me not screw it up again...
Did you and your ex get back together?
Hey Craig! I am unable to get your coaching session for financial situation. But i am in a situation where i am so much confused on how to handle it. My ex is my neighbour and he broke up with me few days back and i tried to avoid meeting him but we are so close that i end up seeing him every single day at some point. I did avoid him for couple of days coz i was angry amd hurt but now i just greet him back politely or just smile if he greets me whenever we cross paths. But i am just too hurt inside and smiling is hard. However i manage to do so. And i really really seek your advice or at least a video that would help me for my situation. Please! I am just hurting so much inside i cannot explain. But i do know you understand all very well.
What do I do if she says she needed space, and agreed that I should completely let go and we'll see what happens? She has some stuff here that we also agreed she would come get, and she said she'll let me know when she can. She's off every bit of my social media, we just have each other's phone number. I still haven't heard from her on when she'll come get her stuff (and bring my key back) and am not sure what I should do or how to handle it. Do I act warm and welcoming and SHOW her that I still care? Or do I seem standoffish, cold, not talk much, and only talk about things if SHE brings it up?
My ex reached out at a party we were both at. I asked if she wanted to get lunch. We caught up with each other’s lives and I talked about how I’ve learned a lot about about attachment styles and trauma. She wanted a hug and said we should hang out again. I told her to let me know. I think I waited a week or two and asked if she still wanted to hang out. I get the “Sorry, I’ve been busy. We can still hang out” excuse. I give her my schedule and suggest a time. Haven’t heard back for six months lol.
move on man, women don't like weakness.
Peter Orosz I am moving on. I don’t see where you get weak out of that though.
Thing is if your ex broke up with you, then they're the ones to repair the damage they've done and get you back.
You most likely showed neediness, which relieved her break-up anxiety and made it easier for her to move on.
It happens when you do not value yourself enough.
Love the Larry David story- same as George Costanza in The Revenge episode which of course George is based on LD anyway 😆
Just recently started talking to ex after a year. Went well. I have met someone new about a month ago!! I think I am over the breakup and can forgive him, as part of it was my fault .
Hey Craig, I’m supposed to meet my ex this sunday, but I just found out she has been sleeping with another guy less than a month after the breakup while shortly after the breakup she told me she wanted nothing to do with him... I’m gutted and want to cancel the meetup, is this the right thing to do? Really hope you want to reply!
I do think time can ease anything 😅 it just matter of how long 😮after my first love broke up with me I was sad for 2 years but later after he came back with me I was the one who broke up with because the idea of boyfriend I wanted to get married with had changed. So at the end, he was the one who wanted me back but I didnt 😅
Always progress never go back
Our break up happened because of communication on my part..we are now talking again. How can I get her to realize I have changed that ?
I rang my ex, she broke up with me. She asked me to meet up before I even asked her. This is after 5 months now been broken up, we’ve been meeting up after it ended however she was stubborn. Done NC 6 weeks she reached out for my bday and now we’ve set a date next month
update?
My wife left a 35 year marriage after getting into a 7 week affair. My question is, why should I have to be the one who has to pussy foot around her? In my opinion, she should be the one to eat humble pie. Yes, I made mistakes, so did she in equal measure. I forgave at the time, she didn't. When we broke up I started a journal and therapy and what has come out is that I don't want her back. She is too flawed and I don't think I can get over the fact that she gave herself to another man. I still want her to apologize for what she did to me. Instead of the lies and deception, she should have come clean at the beginning. She went cold on me after a week, so I already knew but she kept on denying it.
They do not hold themselves accountable.
So how many meet ups will it takes to officially get back together?
The last time I saw her she was picking stuff up from my house and I was very obviously sad. I hope that didn’t pressure her and push her away
After a year of being broken up and second breakup, my ex messaged me saying "she wanted to get a weight off her shoulders and be cordial with me but didn't want to be friends but on talking terms and didn't think it was a good idea to meetup" she wants to call instead. What should I do??
We agreed to talk, need to communicate better. Gonna run/sport together to help her get fit for her holiday (7 weeks long).
So we first gonna bootcamp and then talk together, or in between. So what’s the best advice?
(Haven’t seen her in almost a month).
How to stop being anxious when what you are anxious about keeps on happening?
It's exhausting to live like this, in Permanent anxiety, but everytime I didn't trust my gut and anxieties I ended up in really bad situation.
I got into a car accident today and I broke no contact with my dumper… 😢but at least we cleared the air and somehow I feel I little better even though I don’t think we will ever get back. He is not the right man for me. We decided to remain friends.
I sure hope my ex tries us one more time. She will be so shocked with my improvements.
U shud be shocked with ur own improvments...not her...remember u did it for urself, not anybodys...
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Update??
@@dwightschrute8141hes dead
I remember the day she reached out. We exchanged a couple of messages and then told her that Id like to see her and when was she free. She said yesss but now lived in another city.
I was so happy to recieve a yes for an aswear so I kept it cool and told her when she comes we can hang out. It was just 2 hours away.
She kept reaching out for the next couple of weeks. Always asking question always showing interest. She reached out on my bday.
2 days after my bday she reached out again and as we were texting she mentions that she calls her now boyfriend a certain nickname. It just happens that I call my bestfriend the same and she said she just remembered that and wanted to know if I still call him the same.
That was last year and all the feeling I had towards her faded almost instantly. I was angry at her.
I had done at that point no contact to perfection. On the contrary she had been stalking me for 7 months. At the end it was her who confirmed my biggest fears. I hate her.
Wow I know that pain all to well,,,, keep your head up and be positive. Someone else will walk in your life and all will be much better...
I hated her for taking away from me the person that I loved.
What if it's not a set up meeting with your ex? What if you happen to both be at the same public place? Let me tell you it makes not contact very challenging.
He wants to meet up and talk, but has also started recently datibg a colleague of his and said he doesnt want a romantic relationship with me. What should i do?
I got rid of an avoid ant, he is stubborn and will never change.
My ex called me for my birthday after 3 months of no-contact, and we had our first meeting yesterday. It was fine, it wasn't awkward, I was proud of how I handled myself, I was relaxed and happy and didn't bring up the breakup or anything. He said I looked great and he hopes to see me again soon, but his attitude didn't seem at all flirty, so I'm wondering if maybe he was just looking for closure or wants to be friends? It's ok either way, but it was hard to tell what his intention was in meeting up.
Update please!!
Update
Update?
Update
I don’t want to get back with her, I just want to be able to forgive her and move on with my life.
I was able to reatract my ex and we spent time with each other for a couple of months only for her to get scared and push me away again...I wasn't pushy, or even mentioned the past breakup...oh well back to NC and continued self progression...I'm fine with it
El Danny a month later, how’s it going now?
saint pepsi it's going great! Moving forward with nothing but positivity 👍🏽
Elizabeth Allen I'm doing great! Thanks
Love Larry David...got all the curb Your Enthusiasm series... going to start to watch it again haven't seen it in years 😂
Well look who the cat drug in 😉
@@CoachCraigKenneth 💙 miss me coach 😜
I only miss women that give me red hearts. Not blue ones 😉
@@CoachCraigKenneth 😂 Sorry my favorite color is blue and I'm not changing for anyone...lol... My favorite coach taught me that😘 aka-Coach Craig kenneth
Ps my phone only does pink or blue...haha
daisy g 👀
Love the Larry David story
Let me correct myself, there are quite a few videos on rebounds, but I can't hear about that enough, it hurts so much seeing him with someone new
@ChrisSoCalm Yeah on the day they finally break up
I don't know if I've ruined anything, my meet up wasn't as planned. I was feeling low and it showed. And now she's distance herself from reaching out to me. I'm my worst crictic
Felt you bro
The first date happened, we had a nice time, but it was mostly friendly. I do think she felt some attraction to me again. At this moment, I have no clue how to establish a second date. I mean the first date was basically to just see how we both were doing after a period of time away from eachother. Isn’t it weird to just ask for a second date now?
update?
Update
Update
I needed this video today, my ex wants to take me out today. Thank you Craig
She never came back. Her ex was a psychopath.
How are you now?
how did it turn out?
Post nut clarity xD
Hey coach, can you do a video on how to get the mother of your child back? You can't really do no contact and you can't "make her miss you" because you're in constant contact so it's a lot harder for me to understand the process
This is what i am looking for.
How can you do no contact when you have a child together?
How are you meant to act?
I can't find any advice out there
Hope everything worked out okay for you in the end. 😊
I'm in this situation as well. What I've learned so far is to keep it about the kids only, and to keep it a professional relationship while in "no contact"
Yes Love Larry David, and loved that Seinfeld Episode lol.
At what point do you discuss the breakup if you’re back together or discussing getting back together, waiting til they bring it up seems unhealthy, especially if there is unresolved issues
Update??
Thank you, meeting my ex tomorrow after being broken up with 2 days ago. Do you think this advice still holds up with such a quick meetup after the breakup? I'll keep it in mind. You're extremely genuine, sincere Craig - it's your best quality.
How did the meet up go? I'm in similar situation so intrigued.
@@AI-tf4rf She only met to confirm the break up in person. I went in thinking I wasn't going to beg, plea and cry, but I did. My advice to you is express that you see a chance and want to work on it, and keep emotions to the minimum. Begging and pleaing will make her lose more attraction to you no matter how you rationalize it in the moment.
Hi coach, can you do a video about being blocked on every social media and what to do please x.
Coach Craig has a video out. My Ex Blocked Me.. don’t know if you have heard it? or if it what you were looking for.. and ignore the previous reply.
Yeah, stick to no contact for now and look what happens. I've been blocked a lot in the past and giving him space got me in a better position, I've seen my ex again a few times. Not back together yet, but still working. Wishing you all the best in your situation x
@Stephon Stewart well thank you, but l am afraid things don't look too good for me. We're broken up for 2 years and he's jumping from one rebound into the next. I did all the mistakes in the beginning and I'm scared that is too late for me now.
@Stephon Stewart Central Europe
Being blocked is a kind suspension. It’s either because you’ve been so annoying they can’t hack it any more, or it’s to get you out of the way while they get it on with another person. Especially if you know something critically important about them which they would rather not be reminded of. Especially if they secretly love you but for whatever reason think they’ll be happier with someone else. It’s a horrible thought but it’s better to be blocked than exposed to it all. It shows you’re still important, unless you’ve been so completely foolish or abusive.....but yeah, when I’m blocked I might send a “hope you’re ok but I wont be sending anything else” type email at the start and then leave it. Good luck to her, I’m alright, I hope she is too.
I did everything wrong and hate myself for it :(
Ok. I think its my situation now
I'm going to see my ex in a few hours to go to a restaurant we both like 😬 I'm going to imagine you, Victoria and Margaret are angels on my shoulder 😅
How was it
Meeting her tomorrow...shes super nervous.doesnt wanna meet Up where we used to hang Out. She wants somethin "neutral". She told me shes still torn...Hope it wont be too awkward
How did it go?
@@Kenedamick went Well...but now i ended it and found someone new. Biggest mistake was blockin myself for other Girls and being hung up on this one person
@@josephari5370 I feel like I hear this a lot. I met my ex after 5 months last weekend. We kissed, held hands, and laughed. Then 2 days later she acted like it never happened. I’m moving on and going to date other people. Tired of the games and mixed messages. I’m
Glad you found a new person. Thx for the update.
It’s been a week since the break up, he said he needed space and time to be single. A few days later texted me first a few times to tell me he missed me. I asked him if he was willing to meet me at the end of the week instantly he asked where and when. We meet tomorrow a part of me feels so foolish the other part of me is hoping it all works out in our favor. I wanted to meet up to apologize and get closure I’ve been working on myself a lot and even though it’s only been a week a lot has changed in my life medically emotionally and even spiritually. I feel like I’m a new person, I have a new mindset if he doesn’t see if that’s fine the worst has already happened. I know I’m doing the right thing for myself regardless but the anxiety drives me bananas.
How did you go girl?
@@angelinadenisenko7396 lol I don’t remember the entire timeline but to make a long story short we broke up and I don’t regret or miss it. He was too immature for what I was looking for and I’m glad the haze has fallen from my eyes. For a while we were still friends and would talk now and then until he went to the military. Haven’t spoken to him since. On the bright side I’ve been in a relationship for the last 2 yrs🫶🏽🫶🏽 he’s my bestie
The indirect direct reminds me of the Costanza hat episode on Seinfeld.😂
Ca-Stanza
@@CoachCraigKenneth lol yes. Happy Festivus to you and Coach Victoria 😂
Thank you. My pole is ready for Friday! And I gotta lot of problems with you people!
@@CoachCraigKenneth airing of grievances. 😂 Oh no. We're in trouble now.
Happy holidays to you, your family and Coach Victoria. RIP Coach Margaret.
I feel like i blew it. I met with my ex, but after that I acted needy and he said that he needs space :/ I feel hopeless
Update
My ex reached out on valentine's day, she invited me to valentine's day party in a classroom(we were at school). I did not talk about the relationship or the breakup, I basically made her laugh, smile, and being myself. The next week we returned to school, I was waiting for my friend to come pick me up after school. She comes up to me telling me I look nice(I had an job interview). Then later in a few weeks I noticed she was cold(I was already in no contact). Even here and there she'll hangout at places where I hangout at(in the school library). On march we went to a field trip, I noticed on the bus she sat a seat right behind me with her friend. Not much information from there, but since school is done for the rest of the year I stayed in no contact. Should I still stay no contact?
Yes please...u keep going, on the right direction...congrets...just stay put!!!
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I'm in a real NC now with my ex, we had did a 6-8 week NC, then she reached out. Started off ok then she wonder why I hadn't reached out to her for so long. I told her she gave me vibes she wanted space & I was working on personal growth (I came across attachment style). She got upset & started giving me the silent treatment. So I called her one last time & begun the real NC. I hope she reaches out in due time & when she does, I'll follow the advice of Craig!
Update?
Update
Hi i read a few similar cases that ex gf was upset because of No contact. Anyone any advice should we break no contact after 3month...
How do you deal with a return after having been treated disrespectfully, and ex acts like it never happened? Similar to Larry David's return.
Lori, I expect you know the answer to that one. Or one of the answers. Good relationships need openness and honesty. They need both of your needs to be met., so if you’re not being told everything and you feel you need to be told then you need to get to the bottom of why this important connection is being suspended before you commit again. It sounds like a narcissistic hoover and you have to be careful you’re not going to be cast aside again. Don’t allow yourself to be short changed. If you love someone you have to work on them to make them a better person if they’re not reaching the bare minimum of acceptable behaviour. Be strong and you’ll be alright.
Larry David The accidental text on purpose/the indirect direct hmmmm
Coach could you provide advice on how to manage your anxiety when meeting your ex or starting to date someone new?
You have to actually do the work. There’s no faking that kind of stuff
Coach Craig Kenneth I will keep working through your workbooks. I have been seeing a psychologist every month. Thank you for all the work you have done. It has helped but there is still more for me to do.
What if an ex boyfriend agrees to connect and catch up but make it clear its not a date and make excuses about why we cant be together?
Theyve tried booty calling me in which I've turned down every single time making it clear I only have sex exclusively. He is also extremely jelous of new people I connect with as well as constantly asking my whereabouts
I've made it clear we can't be friends im just curious to catch up and see where were at vibe I guess
I have not seen him yet im hoping being in my playful energy will spark something maybe reconsider or begin to? Im not sure if it will be more damaging or if I should continue no contact
I think I fucked up. After NC we had a date yesterday. It went great and I thought I'd tell her that I still have feelings for her and would love to see her again and try to build a new relationship.
She said that she doesn't want one.
I left at that moment even though she told me she still wants to talk to me and hang out some more on that date.
What to do now?
hi I need advice...hope can help me out
I did almost 3 month of No contact she didnt reached out at all..but lucky me I bumped into her coincidently and she was so happy to see me by surprise and even told me "Honey" "love u always " but she said "love sex connection is gone and her love no longer like bf gf"
But she let me hold her hand but when I want to kiss her she only let me kiss her Goodnite unwillingly
Next day she text me "Honey I want u to receive Jesus "
Next 2 day " Honey " Honey Honey
When last Sunday came , I seek her clarity does that Honey and church together are we going as a couple?
She replied me
"I am not ready to get back the relationship
I only want u to receive Jesus
we go church together next Sunday
Hopefully this month before your birthday u consider and listen to the sermon and decide u want to receive Jesus"
I don't understand why Jesus got to do with my 4th Aug Birthday next month
Does she mean she leaving me to God ?
Or
She want me to be Christian so that she is ready to be in relationship with me again on my Birthday?
I am confuse
Why did she text me "Honey, we meet on Sunday....." then now ...she text me this "she is not ready to get back the relationship "
And why only want me to receive Jesus and she can go with me like church buddy ?
I don't understand why the "Honey" and the "love always"
Should i go this Sunday as her Church Buddy ?
Or
Dont go ?
Or
Delay after my Birthday?
Should I continue to Re attract her and Flirt and touch her and try intimate with her without talking about bf gf ?
Thank u
Guys! I am meeting my ex today after more then 1 year of breakup. WISH ME LUCK
Go back and review all your workbook answers! That will help a lot!
@@CoachCraigKenneth Thank you for your reply. The meet up went super well. But he decided it'd be best to go our separate ways. I feel differently about him, and you were right in your other videos. Dumper don't always do the work and I feel like I outgrew him. I will move on for good now.
I need to watch this video every day, I'm hopefully seeing my ex I a week or so and I'm nervous as FUCK!
and what happened?
Update?
Update
@@kungfukenny1540 hey man I updated above, the tldr is I met upnwith her she was opento try again but kept putting it off, I realised she was keeping me as a plan b so I moved on and found someone even better suited to me while my ex became more and more miserable, allow yourself to mourn the relationship, watch coach Craig and improve yourself, if you do that it's going to be a win win for you whether you get your ex back or not, I know it doesn't feel like that right now, i know how shit breakups are, don't be too hard on yourself... and stay no contact, the urge will be strong to reach out, but don't let your heart convince your logical mind to break it because as soon as you reach out you give her that validation that she need right now and you start all over again at day 1. You've got this man!
wow only 4 min and already some many views
George is getting upset!
Is it a good idea to extend chivalry to my ex? She's struggling financially and I wanted to help her. I'm not in anyway trying to buy her back.
But weren’t you really trying to buy her back but not admitting it to yourself? Sounds like a bad idea.
What do you do if you meet your ex but she tells you it's over? Even though this may not be the case?
Do you just say ok and respect the decision and then give it time?
Update??
I think that would be a good idea and give it time. If it’s ment to be it will be.
Im meeting my ex next Saturday what should i do is only been 2 weeks i don't feel like ive changed much even tho been working out at gyn every fay for 4 hiurs and watching a lot of this type of videos snd goinf to therapy
From my experience. Ask for more time. You have to be on your two feet before you meet them .
@@joykorshiwor699 you're right i haven't talked to her tho so I don't want to cancel our appointment and annoy her or sum but I know what to do and what not to do 🙏
@@joykorshiwor699 it went good but the stuff she told me she was doing honestly made me lost a lot of love I had for her I can't even believe she was the same person I once fall in love with is like a whole new person and not for the best, I hope she doesn't fuck up her life with the choices she's doing but is not of my business no more I'ma just work on myself and hope everything goes well this year
Coach i dumped my girlfriend because i saw her with her coworker in facebook they look sweet and i my instinct said that my girlfriend has a feeling of her co worker. Please help me coach. Is it right that i dumped her coach??
you f***ed up man. Should've confronted her first. He she has a history of playing you or doing sus sh!t like that then you did the right thing.
Can you make a video on how vacations and trips effect people? My gf of 4 years flew to asia for two weeks with an art class. She came back as a different person, being cold and ignorant. Then confessed she cheated on me with a guy she met there (from her art class) and fell in love with him. And she said weird and hurtful things, also comparing me to him for two hours straight.
She mentioned they basically came together during those two weeks. And she did some more weird and crazy stuff that doesn't sound like her at all...
Fell in love in two weeks? I wonder how he feels, probably already forgot about her or will very soon.
Run!
Yes, in two weeks. It's all very strange...
Same thing happened to me too. My ex flew overseas for a solo trip for a few weeks and came back to break up with me. Before he left he even said he love me very much and few weeks after he came back and cheated on me with an old Friend that he reconnected during his trip, he claims that she’s always been on his mind and that she’s his soul mate!
@@hn8986 it's such a strange situation. The difference is, my ex didn't know anyone until that trip. Regardless, I feel you. I felt dishonored and replacable. I go to therapy because of severe depression, which came back about a year ago. Before her trip I confessed to her that it's back and that I need her the most right now. See where that went...
She broke up on our 4th anniversary after I gave her her presents. She confessed everything then. It's almost 2 months now and I'm doing better, I broke up any form of contact. Yesterday I got my stuff back from her, a friend got it for me. There was a handwritten letter of 4 pages in the bag. I didn't read it and prolly not going to, since I sent it to 3 close friends and askes them if it's worth reading or not. They said DON'T read it. So yeah. That's my story in very very short.
My ex has been hot and cold in wanting to spend time with me. I don't think I came on too strong. I was more numb than anything. She contacts me, we meet up, then I don't hear from her for a while. It's frustrating
James Knoll you better make sure the next time you see eachother to make it exciting, new, and romantic. You gotta start fresh and rebuild that love.
@@jkim1241 well, she and I have seen each other since, but she made a point to say that she can't call what we're doing "dating". She said she can't date anyone, but wants to see me, wants to hang out with me. I don't know what to make of it, but am appreciative of my time with her. Our last "hangout" was dinner and a movie. We had fun, and I went to bed happy for the first time since sleeping next to her. It's all very confusing to me, so I am sticking to the self improvement: emotionally, mentally, physically, religiously, and professionally. Praying this all turns around.
James Knoll i feel like you might be in a bad mental state to win her back. You have to try to ignore that feeling of “god I hope she takes me back and things are like they used to be” and turn it into, “god Im excited to catch up and see if shes grown as a person as much as I have” its tough but you gotta know your self worth if you want to be in the right mindset to attract an ex.
@@jkim1241 I like how you flipped the script on that, and I will actively push myself into that mindset, which will be difficult, but it ultimately is more optimistic. I know for a fact that she's depressed. Whether or not she's reconsidering me, I'm unsure. It's been very hard to hear her talk about how sad she is and how she thinks she failed in a lot of ways. She doesn't seem to be putting in the same kind of effort into growing.
James Knoll if shes unable to talk about anything besides the past, she definitely hasnt grown as much as you. Which to be fair is normal for the dumper. Breakups are more transformative for the dumpee usually. I would suggest you tell her to just focus on the present and the future if she brings up the past again in conversation and change the subject. It kind of sounds like she is seeing you out of guilt and loneliness. You being too available and being her shoulder to cry on might not be a good idea. Try to do things that engage both of your minds so you both can be more present and just enjoy your time together instead of it just talking about serious stuff so much. She shouldnt be sad when you guys are together or thinking about her failures and its your job to flip that script.
Hi Coach Craig, what is your favorite movie?
Breakfast at Applebee's
I’m meeting my ex in person for the first time almost 4 years after we broke up.. nervous 😬
How’d it go?
@@Kenedamick it was nice to see and talk to him again… but it also made me realize that it’s best that we’re not together anymore. 🤷🏻♀️
@@islaval That's so weird. I feel like I see this more than anything else. I'm glad you're feeling secure.