Today, I’m reflecting on some of the lingering effects of gender dysphoria. I hope you enjoy. :) SOCIALS: Twitter: boonewwilliams?t=... Instagram: / boonewwilliams
I stg you put out videos about EXACTLY THE SAME STUFF I am currently dealing with at the time. This video was a GODSEND for my mental health because I've been in the biggest funk for the last 4 days. Thank you so much 🙏
This means more to me than you know. I'm incredibly happy to hear that this was important and helpful for you at this time. That's all I could ever wish for with these silly little videos. We're in this together 💛 thank you for your support and your openness. I'm wishing you the absolute best ❤️❤️❤️
Wow I can totally relate to this! I've got an intersex condition, so I've always had a more femme body-type early on and my voice was following a womanly tempo/melody even before I transitioned - which made the transition fairly easy and I passed early on. I have been worrying about my voice, as it has come down a few notches. With less anxiety my voice has grown much more confident and a bit lower than earlier. I used to have quite a shrill voice, compared to now. And I was very anxious about feeling more calm and having a darker voice because of it. That's until I started listening to singers, women, with much darker voices and met goddesses with deep, dark sexy voices. I finally realized there's an entire spectrum, much wider than what I expected and somehow that's helped me on my journey within my own voice. I love singing and having that range, all the way down (which honestly isn't that deep) to all the way up (which shatters glass) is an amazing feeling. I feel so much better not pushing myself down for what kind of voice I'm using. I don't know where I am going with this but I love your content!
Thank you so much for your message!!! This was so cool to read about, and I'm so happy to hear you're embracing all the different elements of your voice. Voices are such cool things!!!! Thank you for watching and sharing this!! 💛
Hearing you talk about Dysphoria & how it can & does lessen in time gives me hope. Its been really bad for me of late, but hearing about your experience helps in soo many ways. Thank you Boone!💜
I am so so glad. Yes. The weight of it really does lessen. I don't know if it will ever fully disappear (it may! Who knows?) But I'm lucky enough to be at a place now where I'm generally happy. I follow my passions in life without much interruption, and that's all I feel I could ever really ask for. You're awesome, Star. Please never limit yourself in your pursuits. No desire is too ambitious
holy shit i relate soooo much 😭 i’ve only been transitioning for around 2 years but since i’ve always had an androgynous appearance & voice training came easy to me i started to pass really really early on. and at times it still feels weird being gendered correctly, since my dysphoria convinces me i don’t look anything like a woman. and i hear what i perceive as hints of my old voice whenever i speak, so i try to push it up as high as possible even though i actually feel like having a deeper female voice is more me. AND whenever i hang out with people who knew me pre-transition my brain goes through the same motions so i honestly prefer being around those who don’t even know i’m trans. its really reassuring to hear someone goes through similar struggles, i hope we both get better as time goes by
Wow!! We are totally in the same boat. I really really relate to what you said about preferring a deeper voice but still pushing your own to be higher, cause D Y S P H O R I A. I hope and believe things will get better for the both of us as time goes on. Thank you so much for sharing!!!! ☺️💛
I'm so so glad that they're helpful and that you enjoy them. I'm really grateful for that. Thank you so much for watching and sharing your kind words :)
I haven't transitioned yet, but I can still relate to a lot of this! I lived abroad and when I moved back home and I started speaking a lot more "manly" again because I met my old friends and was back to how I used to be. It doesn't help that my native language is always spoken at a lower range than English. I still notice that I sound more masculine when talking to older friends, or to my family, than when I speak to friends I've met later. At work, especially to my male colleagues, I tend to mimic their way of speaking and sound pretty masculine and it always makes me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to stop it. I have a female colleague, who's also become a close friend and one of the few people I'm out to, who I can talk to and really be feminine with and I think I learned to speak like that by spending time with her, but I notice that I also talk like that when I meet new people. I think you're really good at expressing the very complicated feelings of being trans and what dysphoria can feel like. Very often I think you put words on things that I've felt but not quite been able to express or grasp properly. It's very helpful and I'm happy to see more content from you❤️
I forgot to say, I also really felt what you said about being in a relationship. I haven't transitioned yet, but the way you explained how you probably would've needed time for yourself (if I understood you correctly?) and how it wasn't the right time for a relationship is something I've suspected and thought a lot about. I'm single, but I've met people that I've been interested in starting a relationship with since realizing I'm trans and I've actually wondered if that could have some kind of negative impact even with a supportive partner because it's a time where you need to focus so much on yourself, so it was really interesting hearing you addressing that.
@@MariWakocha Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and what you relate to!!! I am a total mimic myself, and the way in which I speak has ALWAYS changed depending on who I'm talking to. I'll even start speaking with a British accent, if my conversation partner is from England 😂 I know the desire to want to just be yourself around everyone is probably pretty intense, but if it's any comfort, I have found such an incredible growth in that area over time. It's a totally gradual process, just as is growth for any human being. Learning to find comfort and peace within ourselves can be a challenging but absolutely well-worth-it journey. Relationships are very complicated too!!! I hope you are able to develop a really healthy and happy one when the time is right for you (if that's something you want :)) Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It means so much to me that you'd take the time to share and connect with what I've spoken about. Wishing you all the best!!!!! 💛💛💛💛 :) ~B
Love your videos 😊 they're so helpful as someone who's further along in transition, I love the topics you bring up! For me this dysphoria can be very true! I recently got a hair trim and found that it brought up some surprise dysphoria as last time I had hair this short I was totally not confident 😅😅 it's wonderful to find out every day more and more about ourselves 💕❤️
Isn't that so interesting? I love that you approach these emotions with curiosity. I think that may be the healthiest way to navigate our complicated feelings. Much love to you 💞💞
@@boonewilliams5338 Curiosity is the best way, I think to learn more about ourselves and make it thru the world 😊 It's always interesting to ponder over negative emotions because through those we can learn a lot of things that are helpful for navigating our lives :) Wish you well too! 🤍🤍
Society has hammered so many unfortunate beliefs into us that it takes a lot of work and time to unlearn those sub-conscious or conscious ideas. It's hard, but it does get easier with time 💛
We all have male and female energy in us but we are assigned a gender at birth then based on how we feel we pick a gender that we are most comfortable with and play that role. (Lucky we have that option now although it is not always easy to transition). But while in that role our other gender energy is suppressed. This is why so many people are now starting to come out as nonbinary. Those energies also fluctuate in varying degrees in people and this can lead to dysphoria. Just being aware of how this works can help.
Boone ... cool video. I have to say, the most notable thing about you is how /together/ you are at your (at least compared to mine) young age ... you have a whole framework of what you want to do, how you're going to get there, and how you're going to fit into that all when your plans play out! I suspect that at a similar age, my #1 concern was how drunk I could get on any given night and still make it into the office by 9am (mine was a classic "misspent youth"!). Would you be open to some constructive criticism? If so, scroll down ... . . . . . . . . . . You spend an awful lot of these videos looking to the side, where I suspect a monitor or phone screen is. I realize this is a huge problem (it drove me nuts a number of years back when I was doing videos for a project), but there are ways to at least minimize the urge to watch yourself talking. One thing that I did was to cut out a big arrow (maybe 1x3") of yellow construction paper, with the point taped right above the lens. Do you ever watch the "Those Two Brits" YT channel? Lia (the feminine half of the two brits) absolutely makes love to the camera lens ... it's a huge difference in how she/they come across. I'm guessing that in the arena you're looking at working in, having more eyes-on-lens discipline would be a great help (and well worth the effort practicing it!).
Hi, Brendan! I'll reply in two segments, as that's kind of how you're comment is formatted haha. First, thank you very much! Trust me, I've had many of those nights myself. My later teenage years weren't the best, and I still ain't perfect, but I was lucky to get the worst out before I graduated highschool. Second segment: no monitor or lens. Not looking at anything in particular. I just have a habit of looking off into space when I'm really concentrating on something. I really appreciate your feedback, and I will absolutely consider it! I haven't noticed this ever once be an issue in my on-camera auditions, so, to be completely honest, I'm not particularly worried about it right now, but that's very thoughtful of you, and I'm really sorry if it is distracting or annoying. I'll definitely keep what you said in mind. Thank you. I do really appreciate your kind comment 💞💞
How did you go from a voice that was passing but not authentic to a voice that's both super feminine and authentic? I'm at exactly this step with my voice training, and its by far the hardest for me.
It was a lot more of a psychological journey than a technical journey. I think of it as a "you have to learn the rules before you can break them" kind of situation. I studied the technical side of things for years, until I felt it was a cis-passing voice, and then with time, through the ups and downs of life, I learned to embrace all aspects of myself more. My acting training was a huge part of it, as it taught me the heart and soul is so much more significant than the physical sound of a voice. It's a journey, and everyone's are very personal and different, but with time, things just start to make a little more sense. I know this is a vague answer, but I hope it gives you a general idea of what that process was like for me. I'm wishing you the very very best! 💛 :) (It's also not typically a linear journey at all. Please be gentle with yourself)
I am a 23-year-old young man from Iraq, from the capital, Baghdad, but I am a female, not a male. However, my sexual orientation is for women and not for men. For this reason, I do not consider myself gay and want to travel to Thailand. I was a Muslim but I left Islam and converted to Christianity 11 years ago since I was 12 years old in 2011 but I want to know if I change from a man to a woman Will the Lord Jesus raise me on the last day as a man Or as a woman, and if I die before I convert and be buried in the grave as a man, or Christ returns while I am still a man, does this mean that I will be a man forever, even in the kingdom of heaven, and that I have to take the opportunity quickly and do the conversion process before it is too late?
Thank you very much for sharing this with me. I consider myself agnostic, and I have to admit that my knowledge of Christianity or any other religion is very limited. All I will say is that you are who you are, no matter when or if you transition. It will all be okay. I promise you. 💛
I stg you put out videos about EXACTLY THE SAME STUFF I am currently dealing with at the time. This video was a GODSEND for my mental health because I've been in the biggest funk for the last 4 days. Thank you so much 🙏
This means more to me than you know. I'm incredibly happy to hear that this was important and helpful for you at this time. That's all I could ever wish for with these silly little videos. We're in this together 💛 thank you for your support and your openness. I'm wishing you the absolute best ❤️❤️❤️
Wow I can totally relate to this!
I've got an intersex condition, so I've always had a more femme body-type early on and my voice was following a womanly tempo/melody even before I transitioned - which made the transition fairly easy and I passed early on. I have been worrying about my voice, as it has come down a few notches. With less anxiety my voice has grown much more confident and a bit lower than earlier. I used to have quite a shrill voice, compared to now.
And I was very anxious about feeling more calm and having a darker voice because of it. That's until I started listening to singers, women, with much darker voices and met goddesses with deep, dark sexy voices. I finally realized there's an entire spectrum, much wider than what I expected and somehow that's helped me on my journey within my own voice. I love singing and having that range, all the way down (which honestly isn't that deep) to all the way up (which shatters glass) is an amazing feeling. I feel so much better not pushing myself down for what kind of voice I'm using.
I don't know where I am going with this but I love your content!
Thank you so much for your message!!! This was so cool to read about, and I'm so happy to hear you're embracing all the different elements of your voice. Voices are such cool things!!!!
Thank you for watching and sharing this!! 💛
I feel so relieved that I'm not the only one dealing with this.
Hearing you talk about Dysphoria & how it can & does lessen in time gives me hope. Its been really bad for me of late, but hearing about your experience helps in soo many ways. Thank you Boone!💜
I am so so glad. Yes. The weight of it really does lessen. I don't know if it will ever fully disappear (it may! Who knows?) But I'm lucky enough to be at a place now where I'm generally happy. I follow my passions in life without much interruption, and that's all I feel I could ever really ask for. You're awesome, Star. Please never limit yourself in your pursuits. No desire is too ambitious
You give me lots of hope and motivation thank you! 😊
That makes me so happy. Thank YOU!!!
holy shit i relate soooo much 😭 i’ve only been transitioning for around 2 years but since i’ve always had an androgynous appearance & voice training came easy to me i started to pass really really early on. and at times it still feels weird being gendered correctly, since my dysphoria convinces me i don’t look anything like a woman. and i hear what i perceive as hints of my old voice whenever i speak, so i try to push it up as high as possible even though i actually feel like having a deeper female voice is more me.
AND whenever i hang out with people who knew me pre-transition my brain goes through the same motions so i honestly prefer being around those who don’t even know i’m trans.
its really reassuring to hear someone goes through similar struggles, i hope we both get better as time goes by
Wow!! We are totally in the same boat. I really really relate to what you said about preferring a deeper voice but still pushing your own to be higher, cause D Y S P H O R I A. I hope and believe things will get better for the both of us as time goes on. Thank you so much for sharing!!!! ☺️💛
Im not even trans! And i love ur videos
I feel like i relate to them
I am still just very curious about all of this! Ur videos help alot (:
I'm so so glad that they're helpful and that you enjoy them. I'm really grateful for that. Thank you so much for watching and sharing your kind words :)
Everything and everyone are impermanent and always changing whether they/we realize it or not. We are all changing in every way all the time.
I haven't transitioned yet, but I can still relate to a lot of this! I lived abroad and when I moved back home and I started speaking a lot more "manly" again because I met my old friends and was back to how I used to be. It doesn't help that my native language is always spoken at a lower range than English. I still notice that I sound more masculine when talking to older friends, or to my family, than when I speak to friends I've met later. At work, especially to my male colleagues, I tend to mimic their way of speaking and sound pretty masculine and it always makes me uncomfortable, but I don't know how to stop it. I have a female colleague, who's also become a close friend and one of the few people I'm out to, who I can talk to and really be feminine with and I think I learned to speak like that by spending time with her, but I notice that I also talk like that when I meet new people.
I think you're really good at expressing the very complicated feelings of being trans and what dysphoria can feel like. Very often I think you put words on things that I've felt but not quite been able to express or grasp properly. It's very helpful and I'm happy to see more content from you❤️
I forgot to say, I also really felt what you said about being in a relationship. I haven't transitioned yet, but the way you explained how you probably would've needed time for yourself (if I understood you correctly?) and how it wasn't the right time for a relationship is something I've suspected and thought a lot about. I'm single, but I've met people that I've been interested in starting a relationship with since realizing I'm trans and I've actually wondered if that could have some kind of negative impact even with a supportive partner because it's a time where you need to focus so much on yourself, so it was really interesting hearing you addressing that.
@@MariWakocha Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and what you relate to!!! I am a total mimic myself, and the way in which I speak has ALWAYS changed depending on who I'm talking to. I'll even start speaking with a British accent, if my conversation partner is from England 😂 I know the desire to want to just be yourself around everyone is probably pretty intense, but if it's any comfort, I have found such an incredible growth in that area over time. It's a totally gradual process, just as is growth for any human being. Learning to find comfort and peace within ourselves can be a challenging but absolutely well-worth-it journey. Relationships are very complicated too!!! I hope you are able to develop a really healthy and happy one when the time is right for you (if that's something you want :)) Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It means so much to me that you'd take the time to share and connect with what I've spoken about.
Wishing you all the best!!!!! 💛💛💛💛 :)
~B
Love your videos 😊 they're so helpful as someone who's further along in transition, I love the topics you bring up! For me this dysphoria can be very true! I recently got a hair trim and found that it brought up some surprise dysphoria as last time I had hair this short I was totally not confident 😅😅 it's wonderful to find out every day more and more about ourselves 💕❤️
Isn't that so interesting? I love that you approach these emotions with curiosity. I think that may be the healthiest way to navigate our complicated feelings. Much love to you 💞💞
@@boonewilliams5338 Curiosity is the best way, I think to learn more about ourselves and make it thru the world 😊 It's always interesting to ponder over negative emotions because through those we can learn a lot of things that are helpful for navigating our lives :) Wish you well too! 🤍🤍
@@klithoperrata beautifully said :) 💛
I love your videos so much. I'm still very early in my transition, but you give me a realistic hope. Thank you 💜
Thank you so much 💛 please never ever lose sight of that hope. I wish you the absolute best on your journey. Enjoy the ride, friend :) 💛
@@boonewilliams5338 thank you!
Please watch a gender reassignment surgery video ✂️✂️
@@boonewilliams5338 have you noticed, you have no more feelings down there anymore?
@@keywee849 nope! It was partially numb for the first while after surgery (which is normal), but now it's fully back to normal :)
It’s kind of funny how even if you know it’s mostly in your head, it can still pop up regardless :/
Society has hammered so many unfortunate beliefs into us that it takes a lot of work and time to unlearn those sub-conscious or conscious ideas. It's hard, but it does get easier with time 💛
We all have male and female energy in us but we are assigned a gender at birth then based on how we feel we pick a gender that we are most comfortable with and play that role. (Lucky we have that option now although it is not always easy to transition). But while in that role our other gender energy is suppressed. This is why so many people are now starting to come out as nonbinary. Those energies also fluctuate in varying degrees in people and this can lead to dysphoria. Just being aware of how this works can help.
You are so beautiful!!! ♥️
Aw thank you very much!! 💛 :)
Boone ... cool video. I have to say, the most notable thing about you is how /together/ you are at your (at least compared to mine) young age ... you have a whole framework of what you want to do, how you're going to get there, and how you're going to fit into that all when your plans play out! I suspect that at a similar age, my #1 concern was how drunk I could get on any given night and still make it into the office by 9am (mine was a classic "misspent youth"!).
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You spend an awful lot of these videos looking to the side, where I suspect a monitor or phone screen is. I realize this is a huge problem (it drove me nuts a number of years back when I was doing videos for a project), but there are ways to at least minimize the urge to watch yourself talking. One thing that I did was to cut out a big arrow (maybe 1x3") of yellow construction paper, with the point taped right above the lens.
Do you ever watch the "Those Two Brits" YT channel? Lia (the feminine half of the two brits) absolutely makes love to the camera lens ... it's a huge difference in how she/they come across. I'm guessing that in the arena you're looking at working in, having more eyes-on-lens discipline would be a great help (and well worth the effort practicing it!).
Hi, Brendan! I'll reply in two segments, as that's kind of how you're comment is formatted haha. First, thank you very much! Trust me, I've had many of those nights myself. My later teenage years weren't the best, and I still ain't perfect, but I was lucky to get the worst out before I graduated highschool.
Second segment: no monitor or lens. Not looking at anything in particular. I just have a habit of looking off into space when I'm really concentrating on something. I really appreciate your feedback, and I will absolutely consider it! I haven't noticed this ever once be an issue in my on-camera auditions, so, to be completely honest, I'm not particularly worried about it right now, but that's very thoughtful of you, and I'm really sorry if it is distracting or annoying. I'll definitely keep what you said in mind. Thank you. I do really appreciate your kind comment 💞💞
How did you go from a voice that was passing but not authentic to a voice that's both super feminine and authentic? I'm at exactly this step with my voice training, and its by far the hardest for me.
It was a lot more of a psychological journey than a technical journey. I think of it as a "you have to learn the rules before you can break them" kind of situation. I studied the technical side of things for years, until I felt it was a cis-passing voice, and then with time, through the ups and downs of life, I learned to embrace all aspects of myself more. My acting training was a huge part of it, as it taught me the heart and soul is so much more significant than the physical sound of a voice. It's a journey, and everyone's are very personal and different, but with time, things just start to make a little more sense. I know this is a vague answer, but I hope it gives you a general idea of what that process was like for me. I'm wishing you the very very best! 💛 :) (It's also not typically a linear journey at all. Please be gentle with yourself)
😁💖 true
I am a 23-year-old young man from Iraq, from the capital, Baghdad, but I am a female, not a male. However, my sexual orientation is for women and not for men. For this reason, I do not consider myself gay and want to travel to Thailand. I was a Muslim but I left Islam and converted to Christianity 11 years ago since I was 12 years old in 2011 but I want to know if I change from a man to a woman Will the Lord Jesus raise me on the last day as a man Or as a woman, and if I die before I convert and be buried in the grave as a man, or Christ returns while I am still a man, does this mean that I will be a man forever, even in the kingdom of heaven, and that I have to take the opportunity quickly and do the conversion process before it is too late?
Thank you very much for sharing this with me. I consider myself agnostic, and I have to admit that my knowledge of Christianity or any other religion is very limited. All I will say is that you are who you are, no matter when or if you transition. It will all be okay. I promise you. 💛
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I wil help you.
I wonder if you ever consider detransitioning. Love you anyway ❤