Asking My Dad Questions about Me Being Trans
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- čas přidán 6. 08. 2020
- The other day, I sat down with my dad to ask him some questions about my coming out and transition that we had never really talked about before. Hope you enjoy! (P.S. sorry the audio is a little low. I'm still figuring out my new camera and mic set-up)
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From what exactly 😐🤧
Your dad seems like a really neat dude, I'm glad he was open minded about you being trans.
What a wonderful, candid interview! Boone, you are the bravest person that I know and I am honored to be your grandmother. Love you!
I couldn't be more honored to be your granddaughter, Nana. Thank you so much for all of your endless support. I love you!! 💛❤💛
@@boonewilliams5338 this is so adorable!!!!
I believe he's the coolest and understanding dad I've ever seen on a video... so nice to know that there are parents truly support their trans child.
I am extremely grateful to have the parents that I do 💛
Truly amazing I think your father is doing a great thing for young trans women when they start out to believe
What a wonderful, compassionate, and brilliant exchange. There should obviously should be more of this ! - Farley A.
Why thank you so much ☺️
What a remarkable journey you have shared ... beautiful, loving dad and daughter. Thanks for sharing and educating.
Thank you SO much for watching and taking the time to write this lovely message 😊 it is an absolute pleasure and privilege to be able to share my experiences
Love your dad’s vocabulary :)
you seem to have a great relationship with your dad. and your lip color is so pretty!
Aw thank you so much!! I must confess that I was wearing lipstick 😅
This is such a great video. Thank you to you and your dad for putting this out. I just came out to my parents a little over a month ago, and the concerns that your dad expressed align with what my parents are feeling right now. I hope this video will also be a help to them. Peace & Love
Thank you so much!! I'm really grateful to my dad for doing this with me, and that is exactly what I hope can come from this. I want this video to help parents who are struggling to come to terms with their child's identity. Congrats on coming out! I wish you all the best :)
I second this.
I'm a bit farther in, but sent this to my mother as well.
Us sharing our experiences, and the experiences of the people around us, in this very candid way, is the best thing we can do to relate and educate eachother.
@@munkeyco3193 Very well said. I think exposure is one of the best methods of educating and developing acceptance
Good since of humor. My mom was very confused and kept thinking she had to understand. I started to open up to myself trying to convince myself that it is ok and safer than when I was growing up. Not easy to let go of fears that have been there for as long as you can remember. So I kept it to myself until I had been living with my sister for over 10 years. The moment I got the guts to let it out our mom decided to leave our stepdad but didn't have anywhere to go. So my sister moved her in without me knowing. Living in a 1 closet tic tac everyone living there would notice some changes and have questions. So I told my mom. Face palm! I wasn't ready for the world to know but my mom couldn't stop spilling the beans. And even though she was leaving our stepdad he kept giving her rides everywhere. One day she called me over to talk to him about a fridge. He blurted out. ARE YOU WEARING A BRA!? I tried to play it off laughing and saying no. Then like a dits my mom said he wants to be a girl. I don't remember what was said after that because everything went blank. But he doesn't like it. The next day I told my mom she was wrong. I didn't want everyone knowing and I don't want to be a girl. I am a girl. Nobody wants to be born like this. It's not the new thing and it dam sure isn't fun times. I wanted to make the necessary changes I was going to mail my family a letter with my new picture. That way if they don't like it they can go about their way without any unwanted problems. At the same time the virus hit and everything went into locked. Then my brother needed help with food. My sister and mom took him some and again my mom spilled the beans. Surprisingly he just said that explains a lot. Better than my sister's reaction. She was one of the first I tried telling. The first thing she said before I could tell her was. OH GOD DON'T TELL ME YOU'RE GAY LIKE OUR COUSIN! I wanted to throw her into on coming traffic. My family isn't the warm and fuzzy type. So yeah I lived in fear of what could go wrong will go wrong if I told anyone for around 34 years. I was a bloody fish in a sea of hungry sharks. So when I was honest with myself and told my shrink. I vomited. To leave on a good note. My cousin was the funniest to tell. We was in my sister's room and I said he should come over one of these times and we'll have a girls night out. It didn't sink in right away. Lol He just kept yapping. Then I said it again. He looked confused and started to leave. Then he turned around saying how can that be when your sister is the only girl here and the only other girl is our friend..... then his chin dropped and he stopped talking completely just standing there. I never heard him so quiet before. Lol good luck and have fun.
Finally got around to watching this and I am so touched. Your dad seems very accepting and I see a lot of similarities in my own relationship with my mom (single parent family).
These are goals!
Aw your dad seems really kind and thoughtful, I'm happy for you that you have him. Very good video, thanks for this.
Wow your dad is incredible! That's so awesome! Wish I had that ❤️
I feel very lucky and grateful :) ❤️
Your dad is freakin awesome!! My dad passed in 2010 but I totally wish I could have my mom be this open minded it would be so much easier to come out
These are goals
Thanks for sharing. I started transitioning publicly at age 30 and was/still am too scared to talk to my dad about his reactions or feelings about my transition. Happy for you and your dad having such a good relationship
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment. I feel extraordinarily grateful to have a level of comfort where I can be this open and make a video like this with my dad. That fear you're talking about is totally understandable, and I hope you can eventually find a way to have an open and honest conversation with your dad (if that is something you want) :)
Your dad is so incredibly thoughtful and supportive! I wish we could all have such love and acceptance from our fathers.
I am very very lucky 💛 I wish the same thing
That was so lovely! Nice content!
Aw thank you so much!!! It was really fun to do :)
I love you both and I loved this vid. Boone, I may not see you often but I’ve known you since you were born and when your mom told me about your transition, I found the dots connected for me too. You are bright and beautiful and I hope we see each other again soon. ♥️
So much love to you and Dave!! I hope you're all doing well in these wacky times. I appreciate you saying this so so much. I always feel so validated and comforted to hear that people who knew me since I was little have made sense of my transition. Thank you so much for this lovely message, Karen!! ❤❤😊
Boone Williams you’re a beautiful person from beautiful people. Love ya! 😘
You two are such lovely and real people. xx
Aw that's so sweet of you. Thank you so much 😊💛
This is so sweet 😭 You’re both such funny charismatic people (you can so tell that your dad is a thespian 😝) Its lovely that your family is filled with open hearts. Do one with momma too!
I am so, so lucky! And yesss!!! haha, his theatricality is very obvious. I would absolutely love to do a video with my mom, so it's just a matter of setting it up!
Also, thank you very much!!!! Omg I completely failed to respond to your super kind comments. Much love!! 💛
What a Beautiful, Enchanting and Enthralling Young Woman that you are!
Was that TINKERBELL I just saw fly over you!( The reaction was perfect!)
Unbelievable great parents you have, open minded and full of love, pinch yourself. Thanks for sharing!
I count my blessings everyday 💛
Thank you very much for watching 💛
You are brave and beautiful. Thank you for this candid conversation. Sending you big love.
Thank you so much. That means so much to me 🥺💛
@@boonewilliams5338 I adore your Mom and Dad, and I feel proud to 'know' you. Thank you for teaching us about authenticity. We are complicated beings, and your grace with that fact is inspiring.
@@susanwelby2879 I adore them both too!! And it is an honor to 'know you' through them. I really can't express my appreciation enough for your kind words, and I feel incredibly grateful to be able to create content that means something to people.
“my creator” 😭😭😭
Boone ... this just turned up in my YT feed ... what a sweet interview! One thing hit me where I live ... when you mentioned that various people around you thought you were gay. My brother, a decade or so ago, told me that our mom thought I was gay, which was quite a shock to me. To his credit (maybe), my brother explained to my mom that I wasn't gay, just too damn weird for any gal in our acquaintance cloud to want to have anything to do with me. Oh, well.
Thank you very much!!! This was a very fun video to do. I'm sure you're absolutely not too weird for any girl to want to have anything to do with you. I'm the weirdest person I know, and I've had at least SOME success dating 😂
Your Dad is amazing
makes me really happy seeing trans folk with their supporting family members just going about their day. hope i get to do that one day as well
I am so incredibly grateful to have a family that loves me unconditionally and has been so incredibly supportive. I wish all of that upon you. Thank you very much for your viewership and your kind words 💗
Super Dad! Love him!
That's incredible you have a wonderful family, very supportive from what I've seen here truly amazing.
Thank you. I am extremely grateful for them 💛
@@boonewilliams5338 I would aswell , I never came out to my father he was very old school ,I rarely saw him, last I went to see him just to see if he was alive ,I looked kinda fem he did not recognize me , till I showed him my iD. Shooed me off long to short story died a month later ,due to covid I believe. To see your story was a good eye opener ,I hope most people's parents accept them like yours has :3
@@treedreamerwhisper3983 oh my gosh. I can't even imagine how difficult that must be. I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love 💛
@@boonewilliams5338 like to think it made me stronger :) thanks for the kind words. In any case there are those scenarios ,I'm sure there's people with harder experiences ,hope they know there not alone ,ttyl fn ps happy Valentine's day .
@@treedreamerwhisper3983 I appreciate your positive attitude 💛 I'm really glad you can see a silver lining. Wishing all the best!
Your dad is awesome
your dad is so howlsome 💕💕💕💕
Can't tell if this is a typo or some new-fangled lingo that I'm not familiar with 😆 either way, I'm sure he appreciates it. Love ya, Daph 💕
O.O Tbh, I'm still having trouble coming out to most of my family for fear of ridicule and sexist jokes that would normally come from people in my family during moments like this. Any tips on how to back people off in those moments? Because I know a good portion of my family would be ok with it but, there is also another large portion I fear of losing. Either because they won't know how to react anymore and stop treating me the same or, they could start reacting in very ignorant mannerisms that would make me too disappointed in order to associate with them again. I hope this all make sense. I'm still finding the proper way to word it to myself.
The truth is: you are the only person who can know when the right time to come out is. It very possibly will always feel scary, but you need to make sure you're safe. Coming out, for me, was sort of gradual and untraditional. I was still discovering the terminology, as I talked it through with my family. Personally, I felt that I had already shown my family exactly who I was, since I was little. It was important to me, that everyone who knew me pre-transition understand that I'm the same ol' Boone I have always been. I just happen to be a girl (and always have been.) I took great comfort in standing firm in that fact. Maybe that's something that can help you? As for the specific moments your speaking about, I'm very sorry that you have to fear ignorant and hurtful comments. If you feel comfortable with it, I would recommend that you be as honest as you can with your family in those situations and let them know how what they are saying makes you feel. Maybe this could be an opportunity to reiterate what I said before about still being the person you always have been? I wish I could give you more useful advice; the truth is, the solutions to these obstacles aren't usually very straightforward and can vary a LOT depending on the situation. Things will probably start out more difficult than they will end up. Transitioning and coming out are often processes that take a lot of patience from everyone involved. I wish you the very best of luck, and I really hope that your family is able to sincerely listen to you with an open mind and a mentality of unconditional love and support, even if that takes time.
Take care and be well 💛🏳️⚧️
What a wonderful Father
I'm very lucky to have him :) 💛
Hi Boone I don't watch supernatural but I'm not sure what part he is in lol
Great interaction between you and your supportive Dad......... when are you going to do the same kind of video with your Mum to see her side of your coming out and being trans?
We've thought about it!!
@@boonewilliams5338 I'll take that as a no then.
YOUR DAD IS COOL:)
Your dad is great! It's cool you are able to be a girl around him and he's so at ease with it. If I told my folks I was really a trans lesbian they would lose their shit lol. I basically live a double life when it comes to family and relatives. It really sucks it has to be that way, but at least it's kinda fun being like a secret agent. Love your hair!
I'm so sorry you're not able to be your authentic self around them. I can't imagine what that's like, and I hope from the bottom of my heart that it changes. I'm sending you lots of love and wishing you the absolute best in your future. ❤️
@@boonewilliams5338 Thnx Boone you're a real sweetheart. Maybe things will change one day when the timing is more convenient.
@@abercrombiejolie7522 I believe that they will. 💛
my guess is that dad's mom, being from that generation, already knew and had felt and had lived her generation's lack of power, privilege and autonomy as a woman ... not wanting her intelligent and good looking grandchild to surrender what was obviously going to be a successful young man's life to become a 2nd class citizen. grandma just didn't see that a woman's life these days could be as powerful and fulfilling as any man's could have been 4 or 5 decades ago. it is a generational thing and (i see from her comment down below) that she has come to be proud of you. i love this convo and your father's candid and composed replies.
I think this is a very insightful and thoughtful comment, and I really appreciate it. :) The comment down below is actually from my mom's mom, and she has always been a huge supporter of mine. I can't speak on behalf of my dad's mother, but I wouldn't be surprised at all if you have found some truths. Regardless, she and everyone else in my family is currently, utterly supportive, and I could not be more grateful.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and share your thoughts :) 💛
You're lucky your parent sits to have a serious one adult to another kinda talk with you and taking your questions and answering them seriously.
I know. I am extremely grateful ❤️
I want to show my mom these videos
i wish i had a nice parent
I'm so sorry you don't have that. I hope you have someone in your life who is like family to you that you can trust and know will love you unconditionally. If you don't right now, I know you will find people like that. Sending love 💛
My ex and I both came out as trans lesbians after we dated.
Omg that's amazing
What does he think about small children transitioning?
This dad sure did a number on his son. Total Fail