Managing Schizophrenia as a New Mom
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- čas přidán 2. 06. 2024
- Abelle is diagnosed with schizophrenia, developed symptoms at an early age, and was left to fend for herself. She inherited this condition from her mom who had untreated schizophrenia. Now a mom herself, Abelle is dedicated to providing her son a happy and healthy life. To accomplish this, she is on a strict treatment plan and even enrolled in college to study early childhood development.
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This woman is extremely well-spoken. She seems like a great mother that has her priorities in place. I wish her and her child well.
Drugs making her speak as this
@@russkadiva6707 Possibly, and it is a good thing that prescription drugs allow her to live with a level if normalcy she may otherwise be deprived of.
She does seem like a great momma. Her body language toward baby and his toward her… so connected. Their life is going to be good.
@@russkadiva6707 I am sure she is grateful to have found a cocktail of Rx that allows her to combat her disorder and still be able to speak her mind. One of the trickiest things about this disorder is finding the right combination of drugs that work with you. My stepsister has schizophrenia, and while the drugs have kept her from doing more incredible self harm, there have been a number of adverse affects, including some that have made her feel that she is better off without them, causing a cycle within her disorder when she goes off her meds. Now she has a combination that keeps her voices quiet, but it also locks her own voice inside as well. Sometimes I will ask her after the fact what she's feeling when something happens, because you can tell by her face she is responding to that outside stimulus, but the drugs are genuinely preventing her from laughing, gasping, remarking, etc. it's better than before, but it still isn't perfect.
Wow, she is so well spoken. She could be a representative for this disorder. Very impressive. I know it was a journey for her but good for her.
I love HER. She is a freaking strong woman and her baby is sooooOOO cute.
I agree🌈💜🌟
yep. I was thinking the same thing -- I LOVE her and I don't say that often if ever about people I've never met! I love her intelligence and empathy especially. So interesting.
That's exactly what I wanted to say 😩✨✨✨✨
Agree! I really hope she's able to find a great husband. She's kinda sold me tbh lol
My son has schizophrenia. I knew as a child he was different and tried to get help for him. He was misdiagnosed as having ADHD. So was still looking for help. I was told I can get help if he gets into trouble. In the end he became an alcoholic and drug addict. Is now in his 30s off of the streets and is living in assisted living. He seems to be happy now.
For those who want an update: Dorian is now an older brother and is in school! He has also been diagnosed with autism but enjoys school regardless!
His younger brother Milo has a currently unknown genetic condition (Abelle mentioned in one of the posts on the fb page that a doctor has suspected it could be cystic fibrosis), he has an appointment set up with a genetic clinic but both boys are happy as can be with their momma
Wait ur awesome for sharing this gang 🗣️🗣️☝🏾
@@edwardcatt2399 that's a very rude comment sir, we're not in the 50s anymore
@@seebling - _right,_ because single parent families are just so much better for all parties involved and constitute the ideal scenario for raising kids 😂
Shut up and be a good little kitten and listen to him@@seebling
@@edwardcatt2399 Dude, maybe the people she found weren't right for her! Or maybe her partner, God forbid, DIED! You CANNOT assume about other people! And so what, if she's single with two kids?! She's such a strong, beautiful person, and THAT'S what matters! It's people like YOU who make single parents look bad! They try so hard to give their kids what they need and put FOOD on the table; the last thing they need is for someone like you criticizing them, so stfu!
dude that baby is SO securely attached she’s slaying parenthood and mental health
What tells you that he is securely attached to her? I’ve recently started reading about the different styles of attachment.
@@__herpersonally, I see it in the fact that he feels comfy to fall asleep while she's nervously outing herself to the entire world and a stranger.
My mother is schizophrenic. She’s a wonderful mother. It hurts to know that she suffered for so many years.
My mother is also mentally ill, and I hurt for her so often. We can only try to be as good to them as we can ♡
Same here
I love her deeply
Bless you :)
My mum had schizophrenia aswell, it hurt to see her struggle with no help but I cared for her alot with it, when she was well she was the best mum but when she was ill she wasn't so much the best mum she could have been, as a mother myself now looking back I dont hold it against her but also don't forgive her for it either.
@@caraaitcheson7165 First off, I'm sorry that you went through what you did. Having a parent with mental illness is hard.
You said something interesting - you don't hold it against her, but also don't forgive her... perhaps on the one hand, you realize it's not her fault that she had her bad mental health times (and it caused her to behave in not so great ways), but at the same time you still feel that it's not ok what happened to you as a child, and "forgiving her" feels like saying "It's fine that I went through what I went through because of you"?
She seems so confident, her way of speaking sounds so concise, logical and well-educated. May she teach her little munchkin the same :)
I admire her courage.
Lol
And all of her school munchkins as well! 😊 she has a true heart of a parent💗
So cute her baby son sleeping in her hand! ❤
Agreed. A lot of the time Chris is leading the interview, even for adults, or has to hold their hand through the thing to make them comfortable. But she’s really able to speak for herself so effectively.
“I want to break the cycle” 🔥🔥🔥 WOW! Finally someone saying-and DOING that-instead of just passing on the bad cycle to the next generation!! This woman is AMAZING!!! She is so well-spoken and inspiring, and if she reads this I hope she knows she’s an AWESOME person and a WONDERFUL mother!!
Yes, this is the most important, that she has realized that her happiness depends on her,
But also, she has put her past behind her.
People carry the burden of wrong understanding, wrong thinking, wrong ways of upbringing, behavior and communication from generations back. And when people outgrow their parents and the previous generation, there is no going back.
Nor could they communicate anymore with these parents, if this parents did not evolve and change too.
But definitely this is a fully realized and aware person, super intelligent.
Or to break the cycle just simply dont have kids.
@@lunamoone5231 true but what if she wanted to be a mother?
You break the cycle by not passing your genetics to your kids in the first place. It's not rocket science.
@@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago and have your child ill? 🤡
It’s amazing how articulate and relatable this woman is. She’s very keen to discuss her schizophrenia and it’s clear that all she wants is for people to get where she is coming from, which is a completely righteous desire. These videos are really grounding SBBSK, I’m very happy I was able to find them. I will be watching more
I get where she's coming from, and I don't believe she has schizophrenia.
@@zytotempol8154 How can you just disagree with a medically accurate fact about a person that you don't even know?
@@zytotempol8154 and why is that?! Would love to know why!!!!
@@cecilycook5592
Why what?
@@zytotempol8154 why dont you believe she has schizophrenia?!
Honestly, Abelle is probably one of the best ambassadors of this disorder. So eloquent, and able to clearly and easily explain so much about her lived experience, and she just seems like the most approachable, friendly, chill chick ever! And such a good mommy…I wish only the best for her. Abelle, good for you for being such an advocate for yourself, and for bravely sharing yourself with the world.
@@kathyk5589 ;-;
Well said 💕👍I completely agree❤
Yeah. But it shouldn't be her "job" or the job of anyone else with schizophrenia to do the emotional labor to convince the largely ignorant public that they're not just a bunch of serial killers. It's up to the public to educate ourselves - there is so much literature out there, studies published every year, pioneering new treatments and medications, etc. The burden isn't on Abelle to "earn" respect by society or approval as a human being and/or parent. Also, we must reallocate tax money towards better resources to help those with all mental illnesses (not just schizophrenia) get jobs, housing, and other necessities. Everyone has the right to a life of dignity, whatever that means to them... be it becoming a parent, going to college to study a particular subject or field, etc. The mentally ill don't owe anyone a goddamned explanation. It's an involuntary disorder that person cannot change. Treat, yes. Permanently change, no.
I would love to be her friend
@@makaylaandhenry9160 same! What a lovely person
As the dad of a twenty-six-year-old daughter who has schizophrenia I thank you for this enlightening video. I wish you every success in your life Abelle.
Aw so sweet ♥️
@@angelicaduncan9694 Encounter Ministries CZcams channel. (Mark Hemans)*
I would suggest this video to your daughter if I were you, she may appreciate what this intelligent little lady has to say. We all need someone to look up to and, this woman is a great example of someone who has made their difficult life into a life worth living. I would definitely aspire to be more like her if I were dealing with schizophrenia myself, she's so positive!
After watching this video, I realized one important thing... Abelle loves Dorian. That little boy was super calm and stayed in his mother's arms during the entire video. Dorain loves his Mama too!
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2014 which I also got from my mom and I just want to tell you how inspired and reassured I am seeing someone that is like me have a baby and function well for that baby because I thought that with my mental illness I would never have kids but now I see that kids can still be in the future for me thank you so much.
I needed this DEEPLY. I am a new mom and was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I literally feel so alone and this.... This helps so much. I wish I could meet her! I am in tears. I have no one I know with this and being a mom... It is so hard.
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She seems really nice and I bet if you reach out to her if she is on social media she may be willing to chat with you.💚
Lauren, on the Living Well with Schizophrenia CZcams Channel, has a baby and two bonus kids. She’s great!
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Hugs
I’d like to thank this channel. As a schizophrenic, you guys have helped me accept myself
It's so helpful, even for those of us who don't have schizophrenia but have suffered from mental illness. She is an inspiration for me.
Can you explain what schizophrenia is idk what it is
@@sm5543 ok thanks
I hope you are doing well today!!!
I'm glad you've learned to accept yourself more, you deserve it
She has features like a pixie, so pretty. She is so strong and honest
100th like coming right up!
Pretty? Lol.
@@johnsroastbeefbaconcheddar beauty is subjective
@@johnsroastbeefbaconcheddarvery pretty. Is it because she has no hair? If she did, I bet you’d think otherwise.
@@bigchip9630 No, just looks like she did some hard drugs in her time
My 17 yo son just got diagnosed and this video hit so close home. My son too started experiencing symptoms at 4 and he too believe this was something everyone experienced. I believe that those who started at a young age perhaps do a bit better than those who are suddenly hit by the symptoms hallucinations in adulthood or teenage years. Thank you so much for this. I’m trying to educate myself for my son. Thanks for these videos ♥️
Может у вашего сына не симптомы? Может он обладает сверхспособностями?
В роду не было ведьм и колдунов?
@@amaraisland377 я думаю, это грубый вопрос
@@saraalekseeva4740 плевать
@@amaraisland377 такими вопросами вы наталкиваете людей на неправильные решения, которые приводят к смерти. Просто почитайте другие комментарии прежде чем говорить о "других силах"
@@amaraisland377 no
She’s a good mom. The fact that she always says that her baby comes first, and you have to get out of bed and do things for your baby tells me she knows her baby depends on her and she understands the responsibility of a parent. I could listen to her talk all day about her diagnoses and symptoms. She’s super knowledgeable and well spoken.
I believe she is seeing things that she might not explain nor may not understand. And It's not "symptoms".
Agreed. Motherhood is her saving grace.
@@QueenB24R
What you said makes no sense
@@zytotempol8154is trolling in 2023 satisfying in anyway or does it just make you feel like a loser
@@ProneToFacepalm
Who you talking to, yourself?! Obviously. If you don't know how to talk then get off the internet; ty.
My sister had "spiritual teachers" who enabled the behavior, basically told her natural herbs, exercise, energy work would work for her. She passed away from taking her own life last year. This was really great to see and hear and I appreciate this channel.
@Patricia Giron; MY dear, please accept my heartfelt💜💜💜 condolences for the deep loss of your beautiful💜 and💜 precious sister 😢.
🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏻🙏
@Patricia Giron; I send you, your friends and family...
LOVE, LIGHT and POSITIVITY and last but certainly not least.,
A humongous "THANK YOU" for sharing your insightful and powerfully heartfelt story.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
🙏🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏿
I am so sorry @Patricia.
I'm so sorry
That is so awful, I had no idea the kind of damage people in alternative spaces can do to people with personality disorders and such. I hope she rests peacefully and you and your family can feel peace too. ❤️
I couldn’t imagine going through a condition like this from 4-25 without knowing what was going on…
I really needed to hear this. I think I want to start taking my medication now. Seeing how well she's doing and hearing this from someone who's actually gone through it instead of a therapist of psychiatrist is really inspiring. I really hope I can get to the point she's at and I'm really happy she found what works for her
❤️❤️❤️ I hope you’re doing better!
I hope you do! My boyfriend has schizophrenia, and does so well on his meds!
Just be open with your psychiatrist whenever you notice bad side effects you don't think are worth the mental benefit of your medication, tell them! Always ask for help and advocate for yourself with your doctor.
I LOVE that Abelle is getting her degree in early childhood education! She is going to make a great teacher!!!
Oh wait she is? yes!!!! I’m going into elementary education myself. She has strong teacher vibes
Absolutely! She's just amazing and she's very well spoken in this video!
My mom is paranoid-schitzophrenic. I grew up in foster care. I miss her every single day. I don't know where she is. I wish she got help. I wish there was more help in the 90's.
I hope one day you can find her. I grew up on the street and there was always either someone looking for a friend, parent or child with this illness (as well as other street people with the same DX). It's such a hard thing. Lots of love & hope to you
@@lostpelican1883 thank you
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Do you have schizophrenia as well?
What an intelligent beautiful, well spoken, great mum. Imagine going thru this and achieving so much... truly amazing young lady
I can't describe it any better, but she has incredibly comforting, soothing energy in the way she talks and looks at the camera. It's almost like she could reach through the screen and reassure you that everything is going to be okay
The comment about her friend reaching out to her just goes to show how vital and transformative it is to feel loved, supported & cared about
I have been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and am currently living in a grouphome. Abelle gives me so much hope for the future as I want to become a mom and have a job if I can get my illness under control. Thank you, Abelle, for sharing your story and giving me hope.
please don't
@@Abyss-Will that is their decision to make. By their comment I can tell they prioritize getting their mental health to a stable enough point where they are capable of raising a child as well as providing income. Given what they’ve said, there is no reason for you to doubt this individual’s intentions.
@@Abyss-Will don’t discourage people who might actually be a really good parent despite their life circumstances. I know that first hand 💯
@@magicallyme96 don't encourage people who have all chances of being terrible parents
@@Abyss-Will extremely subjective
I think this video would be helpful for psychologists to use when working with schizophrenics. I learned a lot from this video. I am so grateful and happy for her that she now can manage her schizophrenia, while reaching her goals and live her dreams.
One thing that has stuck with me, for over 20 years, is when a very kind nurse pointed out, that I was a person with schizophrenia. Saying schizophrenics make it seem like that’s all that you are. You are a person first. One who is dealing with schizophrenia. This was so simple but made such a difference for me.
Wow what an inspiration. She’s gone back to school to further her education & career, has a baby, home, car & dealing with life as she knows it. Good on her for taking a risk & sharing her experience to help others. 🥰
how is it an inspiration for a grown woman to go what every other adult in life has to do. mental illness is not an excuse to not be part of the functioning world. take medication and integrate with society. stop rewarding normal behavior
@@alexad7592Shut up
When your son watches this video after a couple of years, trust me, he'd be so proud of how strong and unique his mother is!
Keep going Abelle, you will be a fantastic educator!
The part when she said that when she doubts about reality and looks at her son and thinks that he’s always real really impacted me.
In this video, she is so mature and well-spoken, I would never have guessed she never went to college before. Yes, her previous life left her with signs of her struggles, but she is a strong and extremely likable person. She has such beautiful eyes, I cannot believe her ex-boyfriends who looked in those eyes and treated her badly, left her alone with a child. I wish her the very best future, she is deserving of that.
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia when i was 23, I gained 15kg after taking medication which i couldn't reduce, life is so hard. She seems like an amazing woman and mommy. Good luck to you in life ❤️
Parents with mental health get stigmatized of being inept at parenting, but I love that she recognize me that her child is first and matters, and it keeps her grounded. Mental health is hard but she she stays focused on the bigger picture. It’s not the same but I struggle with mental health but I adopted two furbabies and have to remind myself that they need me and they didn’t ask to be adopted from their previous home by me if I don’t care for them properly. She seems so positive and gentle.
Definitely! As long as you’re able to recognise what’s important and you have a support network in place for when things get bad. It’s just about recognising when you can cope and when you can’t (which isn’t something you should feel guilty about! Life is hard and sometimes you just need some time for yourself), so you can do the best for your kid. But that’s something that’s any good parent should be able to do regardless of having any previous mental health problems
I nearly stopped my meds a couple weeks ago because I thought I was 'cured' but then a couple days later I was really low and remembered why I take them.
I'm glad to hear that ❤
That could just be withdrawal... hopefully you’re doing well now, keep on keeping on
That’s what I usually find out. My uncle had schizophrenia when he took meds he’s normal, but he would stop taking them because he thought he was ‘cured’ and became homeless and would go back and forth. Last time he was homeless before he died.
Can I ask why you want to stop your meds if you are in a good place? I hear this is common with people who are treating for mental illnesses and I’m curious about what your thought process is during those times.
@@rilesywilesy2920 hi, I don't know what stopped them exactly. but as someone with schizophrenia, when meds start to work at some point we just decide to stop taking them because we're fully convinced that we're cured, that usually happens when we go some time (maybe days, weeks or months) without having any type of hallucinations, almost like we're back to normal. and also taking meds every day can be tiring and that's why a lot of people stop taking it.
hope that made sense 😅, english it's not my first language.
I was just diagnosed schizoaffective… and my 2 year olds name is Dorian. I’m married but my son, my son is my world
As someone with some pretty severe mental health issues of my own I can also confidently say having a child actually grounded me. It helped me to get outside my own feelings, care for someone else, and become grounded with what’s around me. I have been a very attentive, gentle, nurturing and involved mom; something a lot of people I don’t think expected from me. They didn’t think I would do a great job, but I did. People need to quit stigmatizing mothers with neurodivergencies.
I’m an educator who is autistic and has ADHD. I love seeing these videos of fellow neurodivergent adults showing we can live fulfilling, adult lives!
Shelby
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Neurodivergent- Thank you for teaching me a new word. ❤
Hi Shelby. I'm autistic and I've got ADHD :) Lovely to see someone else on the Internet who experiences similar things
Ok
I'm autistic + ADHD and want to become an art teacher. Seeing people who wider society deems "lesser" living up to their potential is such a nice thing
Throughout the entire beginning of the video, it kept crossing my mind that she would be an amazing teacher (particuarly of younger kids) because she seems incredibly patient and understanding, which is exactly what young children need in school. And then she mentioned that she's in college for early education! That's amazing, I hope she excels in college and then in her career, truly seems like a wonderful person.
My previous comment was deleted because of youtube.. but I come back to this video often for comfort. So I’ll say again (because I stand by it)
I’d like to thank this channel, it has helped me accept myself, as a schizophrenic. I hope this channel stays up forever : )
No your comment from a year ago is still there, it has 2.2k likes
As someone who was diagnosed with early onset skitzophrenia as a child,and then experienced being a single mom very young as well, I can relate to so much of this and Bravo for being so articulate and thoughtful in explaining things!👏👍❤This is really helpful for others dealing with similar issues!
So glad I can comment how beautiful, amazing, and self aware this woman is. I am proud of her for doing what’s best for her and her child.
Yes it’s great to be able to comment on such a great video. This channel had the comments section closed by CZcams for a while… it was so unfair and sad. The mission of this channel is to dissolve prejudices and preconceptions; it’s important that people can communicate and exchange ideas.
She’s very courageous talking about her schizophrenia and she opens minds: I was having a bad perception of people having this condition before I saw this video. She’s very eloquent and intelligent; she could be a speaker, and give conferences. She can change people.
I love how she talks about her kid, saying that he’s the only thing that she knows for sure that is real because she made him, she felt him growing inside of her… I think that it’s one of the most beautiful thing that I’ve ever heard from a mom. I hope that my English is correct in this long comment. English is my second language,my first language is French (I’m originally from Québec, but now I live in British Columbia). You look to be a great person by the way. You have a friendly face.
i love how shes telling her story and the baby is just :) vibing
Her story is very similar to mine and I'm currently on Lexapro too. It's the only med that's actually helped. I love her story and she's so kind. She seems like a great mom. I'm proud of her
I’m just curious, I have never heard of Lexapro being used as an anti-psychotic. Isn’t it an SSRI used for depression? I took Clorazil for years but due to liver disease I couldn’t take it anymore. I’m now on Invega. I take an anti-depressant on top of that. Does anyone else have schizophrenia and know about this? I think I can’t use Lexapro because of my liver but I’m always interested in these things.
She's sooooo brave and strong as a person and a unselfish mom God bless her and her baby
The comments have just re-opened and everyone is bombarding all your videos with love. I love this community so much ;w;
right?? It's so cute how everyone is going back to older videos and commenting nice things :)
I was being so judgemental when I saw the shaved head, tattoos PLUS "schizophrenic mom". That's my stupidity.
Abelle is clearly 1000x better and smarter a person than most. She knows her weaknesses and OWNS it- 100% accountability. Strong woman. Strong mom! 👏👏👏
this is character development, good on you!!
DON'T EVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER!!! BET YOU LEARNED YOUR LESSON!!
What was your first impression?
@@syikiastern6750 somebody is honest and your reaction is to punch on her? Why?
Had the exact same first impression of her, i now want to try and not judge people by how they look but how they are as a person.
This is one of the moments when I am happy that I learnt so hard to be able to understand English. I am Russian. This young mother is amazing.
Я всегда восхищаюсь двуязычными людьми. Поздравляю, лол, я никогда не мог (поверь мне, я пытался)
@@oddpickle я знаю 5 , учила сама, в 90е, надо было ходить в библиотеку за книгами и с кассет слушать диалоги. И на курсы ходить тоже. Но сейчас, увы, никуда не поехать, чтобы практиковать, такая вот ситуация.
@@zvonazvon 5! Боже мой, это много. Вы должны быть очень умными и преданными. Я пытался учить немецкий и в конце концов сдался 😅. Но мне всего 16, так что, может быть, когда-нибудь я возьму его снова.
Dorian's little face is the cutest thing I've ever seen 💕
i thought it was sweet when she said her friend asking her to get smoothies was what sparked some life back into her. it really is the little things we do for our loved ones that matter most, you never know how much you help someone by simply noticing and acknowledging them.
What a smart, brave, eloquent, and down-to-earth human being. She should be really proud.
I agree 💕
what an articulate young woman with a huge repertoire of life experiences. She is going to do amazing things in her life!
Being fired b/c of mental struggles is discrimination
She's so pretty and Dorian is adorable!
He's aDorianable
@@tammydietzclement8813 indeed!
@@alinamichelle2531 what does that even mean
@Ryan Smith ???
Respect. She's not only a very good parent, but she's "come through to the other side" of her awful childhood. I really appreciated her candour and just her general "wholeness"... she's going to be a really happy, well balanced human being, and so will her children. I hope she knows, that as a parent, we all make mistakes, and that too is part of her own learning and that of her kids! I believe we're all here for the 150th time, in new bodies, just trying to work it all out and do the best we can at the end of the day! Be kind, loving and don't treat anyone in a way you wouldn't want to be treated yourself! So that means be kind to yourself too!
Good luck and thanks for making this video! xx
It is so true what she says about schizophrenia and other conditions being negatively portrayed in film. I think it’s time for film and TV to show that people with mental health conditions are ordinary people. They need friendship, support, and respect, just like anyone else.
What a glowing, beautiful woman. She's so intelligent and self-aware and articulates her thoughts so well
I'm obsessed with how beautiful she is
She’s so intelligent!! I love how she makes her baby her priority. Proud of her and I think she’s adorable!!
She's so sweet, gentle, authentic, bright, open minded, and sparkling: the kind of person I'd like to be friend with!
I personally think her piercings are cute! And I admire her perseverance and responsibility that she has grown to now have. Very inspiring!
She is a clearer communicator than many lawyers in our firm.
As someone who has gone over two decades without help because every adult had ignored the red flags, I feel a strong faith in her that she is going to be an excellent mother who won’t let that happen to her own child.
I love that she said her baby is absolute. He helps ground her by simply existing. What she stated on this made so much sense to me.
My mother had diagnosed schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, paranoia, multipersonality disorder. She abused me and my brother and father for 21 years because she was in denial about having all these issues. I appreciate that you are letting these people speak and learn to accept what they have and learn how to handle it better for themselves and for everyone else. I can't help but to think that if my mom had accepted her illnesses and embraced them a lot of things about my childhood and adulthood could have been much better than it was. If someone in your family has been diagnosed with any of these and are in denial. Please don't be afraid to ask them to go see a therapist and psychiatrist. Thank you for having her on the show it was very helpful to me to hear this woman speak about what it's like to have this and it helps me understand what it was like for my mother.
That baby is SO CHILL!! He’s just sitting there quietly, unbothered, and being so well behaved for almost the entire interview! I’m so impressed 😅👏🏼 What a sweetie!
Great job mommy! Also very in tune and well educated on her condition. She exudes confidence, intelligence and serenity 🙌🏽
What a beautiful person! What a caring, intentional, transparent, and determined parent! Dorian is such a happy baby. He’s bonded and attached to mom in such a healthy way. She comforts and soothes him with just a pat, a bit of eye contact, a shift in the way she holds him or a brief moment to check in with him to ask if he’s ok (the moment where he coughed). It’s clear to see she trusts her skills as a parent and Dorian trusts and feels at peace with her. My comments aren’t even with regards to her parenting w/ schizophrenia, as a parent/new parent, she’s doing an excellent job. I’m grateful that she decided to reach out to be interviewed. She is helping all of us to unlearn a lot of the stereotypes and fears surrounding schizophrenia and people living with it that Hollywood, tv shows, things we may have seen in people experiencing schizophrenic psychosis while also experiencing homelessness and alcoholism/drug addiction. I love this channel so deeply. I love the episodes that initially make me uncomfortable due to having never seen or heard of an individual living with certain conditions and I love that I stay engaged because I know that by the end of that video, I’m going to feel the opposite. It can be hard coming face to face with your own implicit biases-realizing that although you consider yourself a woke, educated, open, advocate, etc, the can still be stigma lurking within. I love that this channel has remained a safe and productive place for us all to be vulnerable, unpack, consider that we might need help, consider that we might need to check in on that friend even if it’s it just to ask them to go out for a smoothie.
It’s powerful to hear perfect strangers articulate the most complicated thoughts and experiences I’ve had and not only allow me to experience that moment of affirmation, but to also let me know that it is absolutely ok, absolutely natural, and that I am not alone.
I’ve ever had the chance to comment, by the time I discovered this channel and felt compelled to finally share how the channel had impacted me, I came across the video where they let us know YT had them dc off the comments.
I’m looking forward to going back to some of the videos that truly touched me and finally be able to say “Thank you, for sharing!”
I see nothing but continued success in her treatment, education, and her relationship with her son. Still, I want to wish her all the best, and then some.
You are never too old to study!! I'm 35 and starting a nursing degree. I'm currently in my foundation year. What you have gone through makes your journey even more special. Enjoy every minute of it. You seem like such a good mom, really down to earth and centered. Goodluck with your future, I think you will do amazing.
This comment has really motivated me! Tech just isn't for me, and I'm looking for something more fulfilling. Thank you for the inspiration! 😊
I agree im 37 going back to college for my masters for social work. Ur never too old to study!
Buspar stoped my panic attacks and that was the fourth medication my doctor tried. it’s a process and it’s painful, but so so worth it in the end.
От всего сердца желаем здоровья такой очаровательной маме и малышу! 🤗🧡🙏
I think this was one of the best depiction of someone living with Schizophrenia. Im a mom and I have it. Shes brave. People have a tough time understanding that we are good parents but we have a medical condition. I admire her as a mother I know how much I love my kid and would never intentionally harm them and I see shes the same way.
About the teacher who believed she was seeing spirits: There has to be a clear line between having a „sixth sense“ and having off brain chemistry that can only be treated medically and through therapy. Sadly, a lot of people in the „spiritual community“ are incredibly delusional when it comes to mental illnesses. I am very spiritual too and I also worked with people who had schizophrenia - it’s not something to be taken lightly. Thank you for this video, I wish Abelle and her child the best!
There's no sixth sense, sorry.
@@Mike-om4tv there is, you just don’t experience it
Just another form of delusion, it's just a lower amplification
@@ld.j4391 delusional
@@skeletonwitch. If you believe that ✌🏻
She is so well-spoken and level-headed. And what a good mom to that little boy 🙂 So cool that she is sharing her experiences so that others can have understanding.
Confronting your illness the way you have is the example we need in this world. We see you now as a kind hearted mother who is well educated on the challenges you live with evry day but we will never see what you had to go through in order to get here. Thank you for being a beacon of hope to those who might not currently see any light at the other end. ❤❤❤
This makes me feel like their is hope. I can't believe you are going to school, working part-time, and raising your child while having schizophrenia. I'm so proud of you. I hope everything works out for you and your child.
Since she had also trauma in her childhood e.g. abuse I am even more convinced she is going her way and she is blessed with a baby maybe a family someday. 🌱⚘💅
Abelle, I live very far from you, in Brazil. I was reaaaaally touched by your kindness and openness. Keep up with your medications to be able to help others. Your baby is beautiful and he certainly inherited all the good aspects about your personality. He seems so happy. I'm a university professor and I feel you have all it takes to learn about child development. Never give up.
I really hope she is reading these comments, especially this one!!!^^
Coming from a student in college who struggles deeply w mental health, if I read a comment like yours about myself, i would carry it with me forever & hold it in my heart. Thank you Aniela
@@TheJoePotatoes Omg you seem so kind and nice
@@andthebanshees wow thank you so much that means more to me than you know. I appreciate you so very much for taking the time out of your busy day to reply to my comment. (:
She’s a sweetheart, and I think she’s heroic to endure what she went through with others.
What a sweet little family 🥹 you can tell her baby adores her too.
Such a good mama. Just the fact that she's doing everything to make sure her child has the best life possible, and makes sure she's healthy to make sure of that, tells me she's an amazing mama!
Words cannot express the admiration I feel for this woman! Congrats on your new life, on learning from your journey and choosing to break instead of perpetuating the abuse cycle that I'm so sorry that you had to go through. Wishing you all the best for you, abd your beautiful son. And wishing you much success in everything you decide to do! Soooo happy you came through to educate us on a matter that is not discussed nearly as much as it should.
This woman deserves so much praise and kudos. She has a great attitude her priorities are straight. She has a beautidul baby and sounds to me like she is doing a GREAT job being a mom. Your on the right path. Keep up the good work. YOU GOT THIS!!!!
It would be great to see an update on her!
this is why it is very important to reach out to someone, you wouldn't know how a simple act could change their lives.
Wow, I can't have but the utter most respect for this woman. Clearly she's walked a long, difficult road. But she did what was necessary, did the work to feel better and is clearly a loving mom. Thanks for your openness and courage to be so clear and vocal about your story!
What she said about her baby made my heart swell. He brings her back to reality when she needs it. 😢
Im a guy. I think for men is very hard to imagine or conceptualize what is to grow another human being inside you. The phrase about she knows his baby is real because she knows she grew all the way from "little atoms" to a baby really got me. Its really a fascinating and fantastic experience we take for granted. I cant imagine becuse in a dude but I can surely appreciate it.
" I want him to experience what it is to be innocent "....soooo beautiful:)
This is so cool. Abelle is breaking so many stereotypes and setting an amazing example. She's going to be an amazing mom, her kid is lucky to have such a caring and understanding mom.
She made me crying. A really clever person and a beautiful mum.
you are STUNNING inside and out. your beautiful soul will undoubtedly be reflected in the person your son grows up to be. god bless you both!
God bless you as well!!! 😍💓
@laur Wattsooon^^
@@OfficialJagalynn I doin't think you really listened to the video, god's blessing is the last thing she "needs", she needs something more real.
I doin't think you really listened to the video, god's blessing is the last thing she "needs", she needs something more real.
@@ronwesterduin2471 i was talking about laur tho
Motherhood saved me from an eating disorder. I didn't want them to see me doing it and I started getting help. Hopefully motherhood saved her from this. :-)
Awesome
thats not the way schizophrenia works, however well intended your comment is. You cant just get rid of hallucinations. This comment reminds me of my friend who just tells me to be happy and not be so stressed when i literally have depression and hallucinations i cant control. Eating disorder is nothing like schizophrenia
@@Shan-lp2iuI was trying to highlight the saving Grace of motherhood. One thing she said over and over again is that having a child has helped her. I wasn't comparing my issue to her disorder.
I'm glad that a couple of Abelle's friends spoke up at a few crucial moments to 1) help her realize that her hallucinations weren't normal and 2) to help "revive her" during her bad hospital stay. And wonderful that she wants to be "that friend" to help others who may be experiencing schizophrenia.
This girl is really wise. My admiration goes to her.
It is absolutely AMAZING to have the comments back!!! Just came here to say that she is such a lovely woman and I can see her struggle through her eyes. Sending all the love and positivity in the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks, Abelle, for doing your part to fight the stigma. I work in a psychiatric hospital, so folks with psychosis and schizophrenia are aplenty.
One thing that I’d like to add is that there is a stigma that most folks with schizophrenia are violent murderers, when in fact most have no known history of aggression towards others. They’re more likely to hurt themselves if anything, not others.
Abelle is incredible intelligent and self aware.
She really speaks with such powerful words, this is a great example that dont judge a book by its cover, she is so sweet and gentle with her child, and I know that the baby will grow to be a good child
I’m so glad her baby helps her to stay centered and come back to reality when she needs some help. He’s adorable 🥰 And I’m happy that she feels much better in her life, she seems so confident and sure in her ability to handle herself. So open and candid. You’re beautiful! 😍😍
@@MarieClaireLucaMusic Read Mark chapter 16:1-20. Ask yourself this question. Do you believe what it says? These signs will follow those who believe!
I can listen to her talk all day. She’s so strong and intellectual! Truly an amazing and beautiful mother, with a good heart. ❤️
Same! Her voice is extremely soothing.
If this kid will realize when he will grow up what an amazing mom he has he will make it in life.
I'm sure he will one day 😊
Gosh what a sweet soul. I hope she gets all the help she needs and can truly thrive. She deserves the world.
I got a feeling that this lady is going to save some lives down the road. She's calm, informed, has a goal, and a freaking cute son too. She's great!