Alyssa's 5 Mental Health Disorders (The Truth About our Love and SBSK)
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- čas přidán 5. 08. 2020
- Alyssa is part of Team SBSK and my partner of six years. She is also diagnosed with five mental health disorders. Alyssa has spent this year committed to therapy and self-improvement. This is the story of her recovery and our relationship. It may not be perfect, but to us, it is beautiful.
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He is such a golden retriever boyfriend. I mean that in the absolute best way possible.
Oh my god I thought I was the only one who saw that xD
the accuracy 💯
He's Mr. Peanut Butter
I don’t think anyone would take that as a negative! Actually, one time in 6th grade they gave us these little pine trees for Arbor Day to plant when we got home. I was rubbing it on my face because it tickled and felt cool, and suddenly I heard a laugh. I stopped and looked, and the boy I had a crush on was staring at me laughing. He said, “You remind me of my dog.” To this day, that’s still one of the nicest compliments I’ve ever gotten.
This is perfect ❤😇
Can we just give a shoutout to the people that raised this amazing man👏
Unfortunately not, we don't know who they are.
@@Stonktradomus They know who they are. If they see this, all the better!
Too true! What a fabulous guy :)
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
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WORD
I am a retired psychologist and happened across this video and frankly you two are super clear and conscious of your beings and it is a joy to see the love you give to each other. A wonderful couple that are supporting each other on your paths whatever they may be. A great example to many couples today struggling not with maybe clinical labels but just people not aware of their being ness. You are a light as a couple
And individually as well.
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
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Totally wrong.
She is 100% Spirit. This perfection makes it an impossibility that she has these disorders. Recovery is not medical or mental. It is knowing the Truth and changing the belief that these disorders are real to the fact that they are lies. You can’t trust the 5 senses here.
I have ADHD, Social Anxiety and PTSD. Shes so relatable for me. How alone it feels to think everyone hates you all the time. And how impatient people are with you when you feel like dirt.
Ooph, yes. It's hard not to fall into self isolating. I used to have a friend that was a fun pusher, til I pushed her away. I needed that and miss her.
@@idid138 I honestly think you just answered why my best friend stopped contacting me over the past year. Thank you for the insight, though my self isolation is largely out of my hands. Being mildly autistic with moderately high Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Intermittent Explosive Disorder can be quite the conundrum to deal with in public sometimes.
Thanks for the insight, at any rate! Seriously, thank you
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
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Same here!!!
Word...WORD😢
Is it just me, or is this guy one of the purest of hearts. I don't know him personally but I really get the sensation that he is just a very kind man. And the older he gets, the more loving and kind he will become. I just wish we could all be more like him.
I agree completely.
Im just like him, Girls say im too good but some cheated on me anyway xD
I feel like he's the Mr. Rogers of our time.
I definitely agree. He seems like an amazing guy.
He is living like Jesus or the Buddha would've wanted all of us too. We should up look up to this man, the essence of masculinity is compassion and protection of those in need.
I was sexually, physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my family as a little girl. I have an excellent therapist and a husband who loves and accepts me as I am. It is possible. Big hugs.
Warms my heart. ♥️
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True!
I am very happy for your healing.
But I live in Brasil, I don’t believe in love here.
Maybe it’s happen there.
Hugs.
I'm currently in a very dark place, and your videos are bringing back my faith in humanity. Thank you for everything you guys have done and continue to do.
Hope you are doing okay a couple months on from typing this, and thank you for being brave enough to say something!
Seeing the videos on this channel also make my life brighter than I was able to previously make it for myself.
I think it's a sign that all things are meant to be the way they are.
Everyone learns and grows at different paces, and EVERYONE on EARTH needs help from EVERYONE ELSE!
That is SPECIFICALLY what society was intended for!
Hi, I hope you're feeling better! It's been approx 4months since you commented. I just wanted to check on you and see how you're doing?
@@cashtaylor9804 Hey! Still in a dark place, but I'm waiting for medication and have since then been able to surround myself with a supportive circle that I'm beginning to warm up to! Thank you for the reply :)
@@conanmcclanahan1069 Hey! I'm sorry for not responding, at the time 2 months ago I was at my worst. Since then, I finally went to my doctor about these issues, and now I am awaiting medication. I also (very luckily) found myself a new and supportive friend group that I am very grateful for.
@@conanmcclanahan1069 It deleted my response to you? I sent a similar message as the last one, but included an apology for not responding 2 months ago due to that being the worst of it. I'm doing much better now! Still feel low moments, but having a support system makes it that much easier to stay positive.
And yeah! This channel does wonders on bringing awareness to mental health. Quite possibly the biggest impact I had so far to get me into taking the first step on my mental health journey. There's a lot of stigma about sharing these things that I used to feel anxiety over, but it took a CZcams channel for me to learn that I was wrong my whole life about emotional intelligence and expression. It's not natural for us to keep it repressed, but when it's learned it's hard to unlearn.
Alyssa mentions many traits that are associated with autism. High intelligence with big challenges. I relate to not liking eye contact! Has she had an autism evaluation? I had multiple diagnosis… that still didn’t help me. A very intelligent doctor decided to test me for autism… and BINGO.
ADHD, anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, depression… and then - autism was the overarching thing that had been missed. Good luck to you both!
Oui!!! J'ai pensé exactement la même chose!! Je ne serai pas étonnée que son problème initial soit l'autisme! Ça expliquerai vraiment l'ensemble de ses problèmes. La dépression, le tdah, le trouble anxieux généralisé et les tocs sont très souvent des comorbidités de l'autisme!
This man, his girlfriend, everything they do..
I'm a very negative person and I have my own stuff but I can feel you both restore my faith in humanity.
Thank you both for everything you do, for the way you are.
Es muy lindo tu comentario !
Son contadas las personas que nos dan la posibilidad de pensar "que no todo ésta perdido". Como en el manto de la noche (humanidad), las constelaciones nos señalan ésa verdad ! Saludos.
I knoooow! Whenever I’m feeling negative I always seem to find this channel. This dude is like an angel on earth. He is doing God’s work in helping us complex humans understand each other and to connect. I feel so much more conscious of my compassion for others and consideration of what others might be going through when I watch these videos.
I am the same way. Very negative and also cynical.
Meee!!! Too,,they restore my faith in humanity too.Thats a great observation.💙
Well said. I agree. ❤
"I don't need to solve or to understand your depression" - here's a great message for those caring for someone who is struggling emotionally. The first thing anyone needs is for their state to be accepted, rather than "fixed".
Yes!! What a good point
That's really helpful, so hard when someone insists they try to understand you... When it's more helpful they just accept you.
True ❤
Yes, I'm well aware everyone isn't a trained to fix mental health. It's like just be there and don't kick me when I'm down!
i think most of the time people want to “fix” is because they’re afraid to lose this person to suicide
As someone who had lost faith in dating for myself and for other people, having been in abusive relationships, being abused because of my mental conditions, seeing how awful and abusive people can be.. THIS interview restored my faith in humanity. That good people do exist. Y’all two are the sweetest and so amazing people for the work you do and the people you help.
Thank you for all you do. ❤️
Hey, I know this is old but I just wanted to tell you there's more of us out there with great relationships despite so many illnesses and/or trauma in the picture. I'm physically and mentally disabled and my partner is healthy and loves caring for me. I do what I can to support him back and I think it's formed a stronger, closer relationship. I hope if you haven't found your person, you will soon. You deserve it too no matter what problems you struggle with.
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@@tamoyed❤
I rewatch this every few months. 😢 it’s so wholesome & real.
So do I. I see more of my struggle represented in Alyssa than anyone, ever. And all I see is a strong, smart, beautiful and worthy person in her who is deserving of the world. This video reminds me that I am just the same and deserving of the same. Just like you.
Hey Kim! I love this channel. One of my favorites 💞
This gives me hope that there will be someone who will accept, understand, and love me regardless of my mental health problems. Thank you.
There will be!
Remember - women get with who they want; men get with who they can.
@@ShredHeadJHJ well, with that attitude..
god bless you can have you get the man you need and want
Of course there will be
He’s one of the most emotionally intelligent person I’ve ever witnessed on this earth! He makes such a great effort to understand! He’s a gem 💎
He might be the devil praying on the weak 🤫
Who do you think you're kidding exactly?
@@1deep499 *preying
@@Ultamami Oops 😳
@@1deep499 I have that worry too. But I pray that it’s not true
You struck gold when you found Alyssa. And so did she. What a wonderful love story.
We adopted 6 kids with varying degrees of Fasd. With that came additional diagnosis of clinical depression, ADHD, OCD, possible Bipolar, chromosome disorder, and others. So much of what you said is how some of my kids have felt for years, and a couple still feel that way. Thank you for being so incredibly open and honest about everything. You are a beautiful young lady.
❤❤❤ from Peru
“What is it like to feel like everybody constantly doesn’t like you?” The way her mood literally changed in front of the camera broke my heart
I started crying. The feeling is too familiar
Why do he asked that 🥲
I cried at hearing that question, I felt like he was asking me personally and I could not answer it.
@@cdr9515 Right?! Me too.
@@cdr9515 Yess! Me too!
Bless her for being so brave and bless him for never running away.
Yes❤️
He has helped her build herself back up, rather than hand her the hammer to break herself down. Idk if that makes sense to others but it's just important to be in a relationship with someone that won't manipulate your mental health vulnerabilities I feel.
When you really love someone, it's hard to watch them struggle, but easy to not run away. Even on the worst days, you don't want to run, you just want to learn how best to help.
My "person" just lied.He broke me worse.
Absolutely, being brave and vocal are key parts towards recovery and self awareness. It brings back the control someone feels once the limbic system is activated into safety protection mode of please, fight, flight and/or freeze.
Bro this video is amazing I felt like embarrassed because of how much they showed us. I had this feeling like I shouldn't be here, and yet I'm thankful because I learned so much and I'm really grateful that these guys shared such a raw real part of their life with us. I think what they do is amazing and I wish them the bestest life.
I completely agree!
I am 64 and for the first time in my life listening to her I realized there was actually someone who was going through exactly what I did.
I am so proud of have far you have came. Thank you for sharing with us. 💕
I'm 64 also. I've had very bad anxiety all of my life and had a nervous breakdown 1.5 years ago. Now on meds.
I think she is my twin actually. wow
Her whole vibe changed when the dog got up on her lap. What a huge blessing animals are for us humans. 💜
They are truly our saving grace. If only we could care for them physically, as well as they care for us. I just don't feel we have a handle on the best (yet most economical nutrition) for them, or ways to keep them as healthy as we could. Everyone should be able to experience the daily, healing love of a pet, but we don't always make it easy. I'll think on that.
@@sherryd.3425 I agree, I also wish there were better food options for our beloved pets! I'm always thinking those pellets can't be very good for them, even the "best" made ones.
@@eternal_nomad I don't know where you live but in the US you can buy refrigerated, less processed food for them.
Dogs & cats know when we're sad, that's the beautiful part of it. They know and want to make sure we're okay. They are pure love, like angels in different forms.
That is why I got m daughter, age 14, who seems to struggle with much of this, last year. It's helping.
When Chris asked what it's like to think that nobody likes you it cut right to my core when I saw her tear up. Devastating is about right. It's an awful feeling.
Dutbf
Sometimes we I’ve asked my mother why everybody hates me. She answered with, “I don’t know!.” Gee thanks mom.
@@kimmiske7821 I'm sure that she didn't mean to hurt your feelings. It's a hard question for a son to ask of his mother. It probably guts her to hear her son ask her that.
I couldn’t answer that one, if someone asked me. I think she’s so brave! 💕 Chris is amazing, though he didn’t understand perfectly, he’s always being open, always trying. I dream of such a relationship. Yet I feel uncomfortable sometimes even, when others are so kind, as I am not used to it. I always ended up in a relationship, where I had someone drag me down, when I tried to stay, and endure, even help them. I used to ignore warning signs, thinking I didn’t deserve otherwise, and that was as good as it gets. It’s wonderful knowing, others have the right support, through their mental health struggles.❤️❣️
The people who resonated with that knew the look she had, the emotions it was hard hitting.
@@kittykaitcandykillet8160 there's few feelings worse in this world than the constant nagging thought I have which roughly equates to "Nobody likes you. And you deserve it because you are unlikable and utterly worthless/useless. You are no good to anybody and that's why you don't have any friends."
I'm a proud sponsor of your channel. As a father of a special needs child that my wife and I adopted from Bulgaria, I can't thank you enough for all the wonderful people that you interview.
I doubt Chis will see this on a 3 year old video (maybe, this one is about his personal life and relationship with his life partner) but I really have to say what an amazing person you are. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the good you do in this world. You are a literal ray of light, spreading love and joy to millions. If I could impact even 1/1000000th of the people you have, I would have accomplished my goals in life. Thank you for all you do Chris, you are a living saint. You make the world a much brighter, happier, loving, and more beautiful place.
He's doing a lil of God's work, isn't he!!
Rejection Sensitive Disorder is common for ADHD folks. it is SO exhausting and devastating to think everyone hates you 24/7 and really destroys you mentally. I relate to you so much and am so grateful to you for sharing your experience.
Damn. I was diagnosed ADHD in the 70s and my parents didn't like what Ritalin did to me so I was left to deal with it on my own without any therapeutic or dietary help. I mean, I'm glad for it because I've learned so much on my own but there's so much I still don't know. I am always feeling rejected and it's affected every friendship I've had in my 50 years. I'm so grateful for my children and loving husband who accept me for who I am, but knowing that would have saved me a lot of heartache the past 45 years. Thank you for this comment because it's provided me with a new avenue of introspection and healing. Bless.
Your comment was the first time I’ve heard of this disorder. I’ve spent hours researching it and it was like reading articles about myself. It all makes so much sense and I can actually see a way to incorporate this into my own self-healing journey. Thank you so much 🙏🏻
@@_lynno I am glad that it helped! I too only found out about it recently, and I can assure you that at least knowing what is going on with you does make life easier. I was seeing a therapist at the time and was actually really pissed at him for not ever mentioning RSD because that was really the only reason I was in therapy. I found out about it through a friend of mine and was stunned that a licensed psychologist was less educated on this topic than a teenage girl. Knowing why I am the way I am gave me relief and made me feel less isolated because I always thought that I was the only one who was struggling with relationships in this way. I hope that in the future more people will know about RSD because you cannot properly heal before you know the cause of your pain.
@@tanyasorin4619 that's a thing? Shhii makes sense now
Wow I have extreme adhd and I always feel like this, to the point where isolate and I only have 1 friend left. I didn’t know this was adhd related. Thank you
This is one of the saddest and sweetest videos you’ve done.
Goes to show love is real.
You’re genuine
It's eye opening.
Love is just a chemical process.
@@GgByAngelthen life is just a chemical process
@@winstonmcfinston What? Why?
@@winstonmcfinston How what's Chris like or Done ? Xxx
I can see in his eyes that deep compassion that comes from supporting a partner who is struggling with their mental health. May Alyssa continue to care for herself & build a lot of hope
This is literally the best youtube video I've ever watched. Hands. Down. This is the universal example of a good relationship.
Lots of comments about how great Chris is and how lucky Alyssa is to have someone like Chris who tries to understand her. Kudos to Chris. But oh my gosh, Alyssa! Your level of self realization is inspiring. When you have those dark thoughts - the negative things you tell yourself about yourself - it can be all-consuming. It takes such strength of character and a high level of compassion to change the narrative in your own head and challenge those thoughts. Chris sounds like a supportive partner, but ALYSSA did and is doing the hard work of challenging those negative thoughts and living with her diagnoses while not letting them define the person she is. Mental health issues are a struggle, and it takes a strong person to find the energy and self-compassion to fight through to a place of patience and acceptance while understanding you might fall back into bad days and have to dig your way out again. Alyssa, you are inspirational. Keep going, Queen!
Yes I am amazed with her self realization! Beautiful couple 🥹❤️
I totally agree
Thanks for your support for Alyssa. She is really an inspiration.
Definitely agree with you, I found it super motivational, I feel I can relate to Alyssa's pain and to see someone approach their own struggles with such wisdom and heart has given me a needed boost that maybe I can too. Slowly but surely rebuilding my social media around people like this.
@@shanehill3804 Yes! You can!
I hope everyone gets to feel this level of love in their life.
That's a precious wish, hope for you, too. 🙏💖🌈
The same, I wish this for everyone. Every person deserves this kind of person in their lives.
🙏 Also wish there was someone this compassionate and caring in my life.
Two beautiful people ♡
Keep it up, you guys are very loving and I think you two are amazing.
Much love from the Netherlands!
i never felt any kind of real love. not sure if i ever will
@@eggrollsoup 🤗
@@revdrtiffanyfoster hopefully one day
This had me crying throughout. Your love for one another and how he shows her his love throughout is so beautiful.
I just wish I could give you a hug, Alyssa. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience. I have been diagnosed with several mental health disorders over the past couple of years, as well, and your honesty and openness with your emotions really hit me.
As a mid 40's male, I've learned to not listen to my brain anymore. I just live and don't care what others think. I try to be a good husband and a better father to my 2 girls. Took me a lot of years to get there.
you got this man. im rooting for you
i’m happy to hear that! time is key to everything.
Как научится НЕ слушать свой мозг?
Based
@@basedanon420 You have the same first name!
Her pause when he asked her how she felt when she thinks nobody likes her… I felt that, girl. To not be able to open your mouth because you won’t be able to hold it together. ❤️
You said it.
And to just not have the words to describe the pain…
Red: you have the most beautiful eyes!
She immediately got so sad. It was hard to watch.
Me to i struggle with feelings of worthlessness and sorrow
I like how he reassures her before asking her a question!!!
I’ve watched this video several times, as with many other SBSK videos. This is by far my favorite❤. It proves their desire to reach and tell the stories of “special” kids/people is rooted in love, acceptance, and experience.
This man has such an angelic persona. She's is blessed to have him as her partner, and also to the children and other adults with mental health diagnoses or physical disabilities. You all are overcomers! May God continue to bless you both in all your future endeavors! 🙏🙌🥰
I think he is blessed by her as well.
@@Emily-gv3ne yep, exactly.
He's blessed to have her as a partner.
That's so special I wish someone took care of me like you do each other.
his heart is good but he has an undefinable persona. if I was being unkind I would say he was sort of smug. but I love his channel. but he s not the best part of it.
I had an abusive childhood in many ways. Nowadays, as a father, I try my best to raise my children the best way I can. And I would really like to meet his parents. They have done a remarkable job raising him. They should be on a video! I praise them!
Good fathers are a special gift. Your children may not always show it, but you are appreciated.
hugs
Your children must be very lucky to get a loving father like you. God bless you
Boy, i hope to God you don't mean being permissive and overly praising kids for no reason bc then they become as they call them today, "snowflakes".
She is an incredible human being, beautiful and strong. Listening to her felt like she was desribing me, I was diagnosed with the same at 25, but still find it dificult to find someone who I can feel like being myself is ok, so having relationships is so hard for me. So glad she has a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, such a blessing
I just recently ran across your channel. As a mom of a child with special needs, your videos have made me laugh and cry. Thank you for your loving kindness in showing the world the struggles and more importantly the joy that special needs people bring to this world. My daughter has Smith-Magenis syndrome and although it can be challenging, the joy she brings to this world far outweighs the challenges. God bless you and Alyssa in your journey. Alyssa is a beautiful soul! I’m glad she was able to share her struggles so openly. Until you’ve experienced what she has, you have no idea how strong a person she really is.
I started crying as soon as she did. It’s so hard. My mind is such a contradictory place. The best and the worst.
I send you love, Alyssa.
I have those diagnoses and more. Just saying this so you can Know, that I understand. How ….wild… your mind is.
@@ScotsyCajn Hi Lydia! I'm a Lydia too, so like to say hi to my "sisters", never met a Lydia I didn't like. Also your comment really resonated with me, and what my daughter seems to be dealing with. I want to help her and often I feel helpless.
If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven.
The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved.
JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16
Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.'
Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late.
We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now...
'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen.
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People who seek diagnosis' are victims and weak-minded and would prefer a crutch/wheelchair/sympathy rather than be able to walk with a slight limp. It blows me away how people like this don't realize that this mental illness nonsense is a first world phenomenon and the rest of the world / the rest of life doesn't just play a fiddle for themselves when things are tough. It's only a luxury afforded to those who have an extremely easy life and need to create drama and excuses.
@@Mr.Sr.Jr. for me, it's about change.
Learning to accept what's going on in and around me so I can stay alive.
Walk with a limp? Ha! I've spent my life (since age 3) crawling the muddy battlefield with my sword still up as best I can. A slight limp is what my horse had... I ditched it years ago.
Thank you for this. This is so needed for young couples. I am 80, my hubbie is 82. We are married fir 61 yrs. Life is good. God bless you both for being so honest.💟
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wow 61 yrs! thats a lot of years❤️
My heart melted with this video. You two are the best couple I've ever seen. I'm on tears... i just cannot express how much I loved to watch this
You both are truly blessed and are both teaching each other a lot. It definitely is a gift to have someone accept you for who you are no matter if you have a mental health disorder or not.
This interview reminds me so much of my own relationship. I have depression and autism and my husband pours non-stop love into me. It has been really healing. We’ve been married nine and a half years.
You both are very lucky 😊
That’s amazing. So good to hear great stories like this!
I wonder what Chris’ diagnosis are?
@@clairecochran9765 perhaps, eternal optimist?
How exhausting for him though.
He really is a precious light in the world. He is the definition of a humanitarian. Complete opposite of narcissism.
He is empathy in action.
He’s a modern day version of Mr. Rogers. I hope and pray that their humanitarian work continues to grow.
@@rubiesofgold7698 yes I totally agree. Young Mr Rogers 🤣❤️
@@rubiesofgold7698 Yes!!!!! He even speaks a bit like him!!!
@@rubiesofgold7698 Exactly what I thot. Modern day in the sense that we are more real and honest and I think maybe even the times are a little harder too.
love is patient and kind. love is not jealous.mitbdoes not brag does not get puffed up does not behave indecently does not look for its own interests does not become provoked. it does not keep account of the injury……it bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Thank you for making this video, my partner and I each go through our share of mental health struggles, Autism, ADHD, OCD, Anxiety, and Depression, some shared some not. This just gives a wonderful perspective on how important it is to communicate and ask for help during low times, especially when both partners are in a low time, it's so crucial to have a network of friends and family who will support you as well. Really needed this today as we both had a pretty rough day yesterday. We have also been together 5, almost 6 years now, and having someone who listens and understands me so well has been so healing, but challenging in some ways since we're so similar.
I have almost the same combination of diagnoses (I have OCD, ADHD, anxiety and depression) and this video really moved me. Living like this is devastating, and it's invisible. I understand you completely Alyssa and I really hope you are managing ok at the moment. You're a good person. ❤️
Chris's parents raised him to be a kind, respectful and thoughtful person. Alyssa - you are a wonderful, sweet and gentle soul. You both give me hope for humanity. ❤️
Props for this man for being so straight foward with his intentions and ability to just accept people as they are
It is literally so rare.
I came across this on my tv tonight and it’s hard to put how it’s made me feel in words. You are both such a bright light in this world!!!
I’ve enjoyed Special Books by Special Kids for years and I just came across this golden interview! This is truly beautiful
When Chris got choked up at the end... that was everything. All the pain, fear, confusion, joy, hope and love portrayed in the rest of the video... summed up in a single moment.
What a gift Alyssa has in him. He is everything she needs and all of what she thought she didn't deserve. This couple is beautiful 😍
And when he was still trying to smile for the camera.. gah, that broke me. 🥺 Chris, it’s okay to cry! ❤️
His response to the question of “how is it to love someone with 5 mental health disorders” made me tear up. 😭 my fiancé is incredible and talks about me the way Chris talks about Alyssa. I have mental health disorders too and they are exhausted among many other things- to have a partner who is not just willing to but HAPPY to be beside you through it all is just… a dream.
Its the most important thing. I'm 40 and have never had someone so supportive as my partner is now. I've never really had someone love me like this before who's aware of all of my mental struggles and issues. He helps me feel like I can manage.
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@@nincure I think that's lovely when you find your person. I hope you have a wonderful life together, loving, supporting and caring for each other. Once you have that everything else doable. Xx
@@nincure oh I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that your doing ok and taking care of yourself?
@@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs Wow! Tell us a little about him; he's a special person.
Wow. What amazing people.
Thank you so much for this video. I deal with ADHD, OCD, CPTSD and recently learned that I am on the autism spectrum, ASD. It is hard sometimes to be your own advocate, feels sort of ironic, but it has taught me what self compassion is and I am learning how to honor my feelings and needs. I have learned how to be a better friend to myself and be comfortable setting the boundaries that are helpful to me.
Namaste!❤😊
We are the same! Loving and respecting ourselves and asking for help when we need it most changes our life. Not easy but worth the effort.
As a person with C-PTSD, I heavily relate to Alyssa. I was given multiple diagnoses before it was discovered I had C-PTSD. Most, if not all, of the ways I was symptomatic of other illnesses could be traced back to it.
I was wondering if her diagnosis could be related to past trauma. I’ve been diagnosed with three of these (working on getting the 4th because I’m 99.9% convinced that I have ADHD), but they seem to have started with a traumatic childhood. My husband also has the same struggles as her, mainly the self loathing, and I’m convinced if he actually opened up to a doctor about things that happened to him in childhood, he would be diagnosed with C-PTSD
I agree, with ADHD etc come with childhood trauma (adhd is also genetic) but OCD/tric doesn’t quite fit with C-PTSD
Yeah i have adhd& ocd and highly suspect i have CPTSD and i was relating HEAVILY to her
It’s so hard to have faith in humanity right now, but this channel makes me believe in human compassion. You guys are making a huge difference. Thank you ❤️
No it's the easiest thing in the world to have faith in humanity
If this makes you feel better, the truth is we ARNT becoming more evil over time, we are just realizing how evil we already were. There will ALWAYS be more good in the world than evil and *the fact that everyone cares about it proves that*
ikr!! i started watching this channel when the world was falling apart and no one was listening to each other... but I always turn this on when I feel angry at other people. this always somehow pops up in my recommended right when I need it.
I really feel this way too. I haven't watched their videos in a while and I realized how much I missed them! It's really easy to get caught up in my personal stuff and close my heart off sometimes and this channel really opens it up!
Yes, SBSK is an oasis for the soul. God bless Chris& Alyssa, all the wonderful people he interviews, and the loveliest people on the Internet, this community!!! 🙏💖🌈
I hope my daughter meets someone like Chris. They are both loving and are so caring
Any parent would love to have someone like him in life of their daughter
May your daughter meet Chris one day!🤗
I think he’s taken….
Bless you & your strength for being so candid about your struggles and navigating them. Chris' perspective & input is so valuable.
I really wish the world had more amazing ppl like you both in it! The love you share is beautiful, and Noodle is so sweet. You're family is amazing, & you should be proud of what you both accomplish to help others. Thank you! ❤
He is lucky to have such a brave partner! Being open and honest helps others. You are not alone. Thank u 4 share your details in your journey. I’m inspired to continue the work I’m doing on myself. Thank you.
I am just like her and it's one of the reasons why I think I can't be in a relationship right now. But to see that she's found someone like him gives me hope.
Rooting for you, babe! Sending light and love 🤍♥️
I feel exactly the same!
Same. 🥺
You deserve love and I hope you find it! Take care of yourself
same
Everybody praising him, but she is also such a sweet, genuine, self reflected person
Absolutely! Such a beautiful girl & it takes a lot to be so open and vulnerable.
Amen
Exactly
Something that he wholeheartedly deserves.
Thank you both for being so bold and for sharing your lives, your struggles and your love.
THANK YOU! Thank you Alyssa. This video should be shared everywhere ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I can’t imagine having a partner who loves and accepts you despite your mental health diagnoses. You two are a gift to the world. Thank you for your work, selflessness and care.
Yeah I didn’t have that
So true
This video reminds me of my life partner and myself. Our names are Chris and Angie, and they’re Chris and Alyssa, and much like them it’s been just over 6 years since we’ve been dating. She has Autism and OCD and Epilepsy. I have been there with through it all and I couldn’t be more freaking lucky to have her. She’s been through an unbelievable amount of abuse and has seen some horrible stuff at a young age…it breaks my heart…I’m just so so grateful for her existence and the fact that I can be here to drown her in pure love and hopefully make her feel like things will be okay. The first thing I tell her (or text her if I have work in the mornings) is “Hey hun, just reminding you that you are so strong, and so beautiful”. I NEED her to feel comfortable, she deserves it the most out of anyone I’ve ever seen. Sorry for going on a ramble, I just like to tell other people how strong and beautiful she is.
The juxtaposition of bouncing back and forth between how she sees herself versus how Chris sees her was a great filming choice. Greatly depicts the emotional battles many families go through.
Chris your heart is a light that sprays rays of hope, kindess, and secureness to the life of the darkest, most desperate, and saddest souls and individuals. You are admiring, and i wish everyone got to see things as you do at least once in their lives.
I totally understand, and relate to you. I have all of the same disorders that you do, and it is A LOT to deal with. Heck, having anxiety by itself is a beast to handle! You're amazing, and speaking about your experiences will help others not feel alone!
In my opinion SBSK is unparalleled in its honesty, respect and interest in each others experiences and view on life. I have studied Psychology and will start my training for becoming a Therapist soon and I learned so much from you and the SBSK community, so I am forever grateful for the work and heart you put into this channel! Its humanity in its purest form.
You both are so beautiful, strong people and I wish you all the best for your future.
Beauties thoughts and words, thank you, and all my best in your chosen vocation. You will be changing lives far beyond your clients, and that's wonderful! 👍🙏💖🌈
Best of luck to you!
Licensed Professional Counselor?
@Amber’s Imperfections Thank you so much! Yeah, in Germany it is quite a long journey to become a cognitive behavioral therapist - at least 5 years at university (masters degree) and about 4 more years of special training in the field to get approved as a therapist. :)
So glad she didn’t fall into the hands of an abuser!💜
Seriously what I was thinking
Yeah 😢
Yeah it's really rough
could not of said it any better , godspeed
@@mandys0088 did u face an abusive relationship?
Her answer about that feeling of being unloved is so good. Educational and important to help people understand. I love her and her courage.
I absolutely love and highly respect both of you after watching that.
The levels of maturity, compassion and open communication you two have is shocking considering your age's. I wish others would watch this and learn how to really talk to eachother, with love and understanding.
I've followed you from (almost!) the beginning and know how genuine and sincere you are, with the aim to change the world for the better, integrating everyone with love, acceptance and joy.
Good luck you two, you're doing amazing things and this group really is a credit to you both. 😊❤
Chris is a gem. So glad he's found love & happiness. His partner is adorable & blessed to have him.
They’re blessed to have each other!
She is the lucky one indeed .
Believe me boyfriends/ husbands like Chirs exist ......my husband is one of them ...and thank god for these angels ...and Alyssa i have so much respect for you .....for expressing about what you went through and going through so beautifully...wish one day I can do that and help someone ...but for now thanks for doing this ....god bless ❤️
So is mine! How did we get so lucky? ♥️
Mine as well, and I'm thankful everyday for having him.
Thank you. Thank you for giving hopeful motivation
Beautifully said, wishing you both the best, sending you so much love.
I have only encountered violent and neglectful men, I pray to be lucky and find a good man
Incredibly inspiring. Beautiful souls. Thanks for helping remove the stigma around mental health by showing how we can talk about it and support each other into growth and healing.
What a beautiful, vulnerable, and aligned with your values interview. Well done. Love you guys!!! ❤
I'm autistic and ADHD (both diagnosed at 36 years old), GAD and depression, and this interview gives me so much strength. Seeing how much love involved in your story is amazing.
I'm autistic and ADHD too, diagnosed at 18. Stay strong!
I have a form of ADHD with social anxiety and other things as well. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since 6 or 7 social anxiety almost 2 years ago. Stay strong and positive
So sorry that you had to struggle for over three decades before you got answers, my heart goes out to you ❤️
I was diagnosed last year with adhd, PTSD and borderline personality disorder at 35 years of age.stay strong, we all in this together
I was diagnosed at 50 with ADD, in addition to depression and anxiety that I've had since my teens. The diagnosis and treatment have changed so much for the positive in my life! Ironically, I had become a teacher for students with disabilities 8 years before, lol. ADD had insidiously impacted my self esteem and life choices in big ways, learning that it is neurological was like, "HA! I knew I wasn't just ___ (dumb, a f-up, etc.) But I was also a better artist because of the ability to hyper focus (puts me into a state where my subconscious and conscious are communicating more) and developed empathetic/intuitive strengths. So grateful that I was diagnosed.
she is so smart. when she said that you have a responsibility to love yourself so that you can better love and support others. the best piece of advice i've honestly ever heard in my life. i love the two of them together
Thank you for both of you for sharing your experiences! I'm also someone who has struggled and is still struggling with anxiety and depression. And my husband is my rock and unwavering support. He's the best thing that has happened to me and although when I met him I already had started my healing process and therapy, his unwavering love has allowed me to grow in ways that I never could have imagined.
The fact I feel safe with him has allowed me to become conscious of so much trauma that I had previously been suppressing. And I sense this in Alyssa and Chris too. We can not process our trauma until we are in safe space and after that point it just starts pouring out. But it's so good to get it out and process it. My whole life makes so much more sense now.
I hope you both are doing well today too ❤ and thank you for doing the work you do!
Ps. For the partners of us sensitive beings, please keep telling us you love us as often as you can. It might me hard for us to accept at first but we will belive it eventually.
I absolutely love that you guys were open to talk about invisible / mental illness. You're very wonderful humans❤
Her soul can be seen through her eyes! All those emotions and feelings erupting as she thinks about it, at the start of the video.
Very moving interview.
God bless you both, Alyssa and Christopher!
Her eyes are like a gem🥰
I think you are great and make a huge step because you have the power to say all of this things.
She is beautiful ...not just in appearance. ❤
@Shameika Dobbins Lol! Isn't he?? He should be modeling as well. He is incredibly handsome & his eyes, omg
Now I understood why Chris has this motivation to help people with mental issues
We would LOVE a follow up video!!! You gus are precious and deserve the world!!!
Wow. This is incredibly powerful. I've been following you for a few years and always, always admired, respected and celebrated the idea of your channel. To watch this episode has elevated my respect for both of you into the stratosphere. Not only have you celebrated so many wonderful people, with lives I could never have imagined before they shared them with us, through you, but with this video you elevate the experience, the rawness of our shared reality, to something other.
To quote you both, here, 'To me, in my eyes, you are perfect. You deserve all these things.'
Thank you
I have most of those diagnoses and my boyfriend is like Chris, trying to learn while loving. It’s something I could never imagine and I love him very much
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, and then as bipolar, and neither of those diagnosis were correct. When I was finally diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum, that felt absolutely right. She sounds to me like she's also an Aspie (high functioning autistic person). OCD, bipolar, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder are all common misdiagnosis of autism in women because women will mask more then men.
Please try to remember you deserve the love, absolutely!!! 🙏💖🌈
@@d.leighannbatemon3192 Agree, 100%.
@@d.leighannbatemon3192 agreed 50% men mask more then women it’s very very not accurate men hide their feelings more it’s a well known thing
@@youraveragemfdoomenjoyer5513 Masking has nothing to do with hiding the way you feel it is about mimicking others and the way they operate and communicate to seem 'normal' or neurologically typical and women with autism are masters at this and that's why many of them do not get diagnosed it's really hard to recognize in women because not enough research has been done in the way it effects women specifically and yes masking is another reason why it's harder to get diagnosed
Epitome of True Love. I cried through the whole thing. They are an incredibly beautiful couple.
I've gotten teary a few times.
This is only the second video I have watched of yours. I never say things like this because I just find it very hard, but I absolutely love you both so much, and Iove the love you have for each other. The way you support each other so naturally, so unconditionally and without question. Just a joy to see. Thank you for sharing this. You are both amazing xx
Thank you for sharing!! It was so kind and generous of you. I appreciate it immensely ❤
I am literally this girl. How I always feel, think perceive things. Seeing and hearing the sadness in her is literally like hearing myself talk or think. I honestly never thought anyone was experiencing the exact things I do. I have read and watched alot on mental illness but I don't think anything has clicked as much for me as this has.
Guess what Ashley? I am literally this girl, too. Swap out trichotillomania with dermatillomania, and I am exactly this girl. And I had just about the same reaction to this video as you.
I’m not saying this to minimize or trivialize your reaction, or anything you’ve gone through. I’m saying this to tell you that I love you, and that we really are okay, because if you’re like me, then you really can’t hear that enough.
Hugs from Indiana
@@mariecarie1 and Ashley, me, too. This is incredibly validating.
Me too. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and trich but am in processed of possible adhd diagnosis. And after hearing her talk, I think I also have OCD. I never realized that writing writing letters in the air/my hand and counting syllables over and over really was anything much but between how often I do that and how often I worry and think of scenarios in my head of awful things happening - it really does make me think I have that too. I have a perfect life otherwise but just truly can't feel the elation I should.
I’ve cried watching this with the realization of my own challenges
Is this guy some kind of angel or something? Heavenly blessed man he is
Thank you both, for this beautiful interview. You, guys, are amazing!
You two are such genuinely sweet people. I’m so glad you found each other.
As someone diagnosed with CPTSD , ADHD, OCD, Major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and a slew of other acronyms, hearing Alyssa's experience and seeing her express herself in such a raw manner was really powerful. Having all these labels can feel incredibly isolating, shameful and intimidating. Self doubt is a mighty foe, and it makes you think you're alone, unloved and undeserving. Alyssa's story is sooo validating, and it was a relief hearing that someone out there understands. It was super brave of her to come on here, there are so many more of us out here experiencing the same struggles and we often don't realize that. Thank you Alyssa, for sharing your story, and being so vulnerable. 💛
I super proud of u bcuz u get 2 make the choice I wish u the best
I started crying when he talked about how he feels about her. I've been in a relationship for the past three years and this week she told me she needed a break because my mental health problems are too much for her right now. It happened so many times I just lost all hope that she would accept me and love me regardless of my depression. It's so hard knowing that people see me as a burden. I'm trying to be understanding but it really hurts to think that she can only see the bad things in me, specially now that I'm down and can't really see the good things myself. I wish she could see me the way he sees Alyssa, she's is so lucky to have him as her partner
Understanding takes time. I don't think he could just make click and go forward. I don't know how your partner is, or how has behaved in the past, so I'm not gonna tell you to hang in there at any costs, but give your partner time to live this too. As long as the communication is clear and fluid, taking some time for yourself to reorganize ideas and help you better is not a bad idea. I wish you the best in life, with or without a partner, cause you are, as Alyssa has said, your best cheerleader!!!!!!" loads of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same, with all of my partners, I just feel like a burden... She's so lucky
Please do not take offense…. Each of you are beautiful, amazing and loved. Love is not a word love is a feeling and you deserve your own Chris. You deserve a partner that will stand by you no matter what. A partner that sees your heart not your brain.
If your partner can’t handle you at your worst then they don’t deserve your best.
Therapy/nutrition/ and drugs maybe. Nutrition and supplements are great. We want to be as fair as possible to people, but your health is #1 and someone one day will see it as just a chance to help someone they love. Someone I've finally met treats me that way. I know it's hard. I'm sorry.
I would say, you are still lucky. You have a partner that is being honest with you - even it hurt your feelings or let you down, they chose to be honest with you. Do you know how rare that is? That's why you see so many cheating couples and broken trust.
Thank you for this amazing and honest interview.
I am always in awe of the people and families who are interviewed.
This interview was so personal, I feel privileged to be invited to be a witness to such a powerful and beautiful display of truth of self.
Showing the strength which love can truly support us at our weakest points and how it can build us up to our highest.
Thank you Chris and Alyssa
Wishing you both Peace and Love
Xx
Thank you for this interview, opening up sharing and allowing yourselves to be vulnerable with the audience. You too are real, authentic and sincere, practicing unconditional love and acceptance 🌱⚖️💝🤗
I tried to watch this several times since it first went up, but could never get more than a few minutes in because I identified so strongly with the way Alyssa was describing her struggles. Particularly when she said how negative she could be to herself, about herself; and what it feels like to feel disliked and unloved even when people tell you otherwise. It was just too triggering for me. But, I'm proud to say I'm in a place mentally and emotionally today that I could get through the whole video! It's taken a lot of work to get to a place where I can hear about struggles so eerily similar to mine without being afraid it would send me spiraling.
Thank you for sharing this part of your journey with us, Alyssa. And what you said at the end about having this video as a gift was so beautiful. I feel similarly about some ways I've documented my mental health journey as well. ❤
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i feel the same way. im never afraid of spiraling bc i know i will. i am. but ill get over it, always do.
Why do you guys spend so much time feeling sorry for yourselves?
@@nikiindzhiev5369 How do you know that people are feeling sorry for themselves?
This story has struck a nerve with many people who are identifying with Alyssa's struggles.
It's like an online support group.
Everyone who struggles with something likes to meet others with the same struggles and issues. Obviously, they are going to talk about it with each other.
Are you trying to say that you wouldn't do the same about issues that affect you?
It has taken me one year to watch this. Smh...
Alyssa and I were in band together in high school. I never noticed or knew about any of your conditions. I never had a problem with anxiety or depression until I was in my mid-20s. Been prescribed and has helped a lot in the last 5 years. Thank you for sharing all of this. It helps to know that there are people out there who I viewed as "okay" but have so much brewing behind their eyes. It helps everyone out there. Thank you!! Great organization as well.
Cap
@@johngrimek5151 why would they bother commenting this when Alyssa can just comment lol, doubt it's cap
Medication doesnt help. It masks it. Pills are only useful to make you stable enough to go to therapy. Speaking from experience. I weaned off the pills after 15yrs. Dont allow yourself to be on pills for so long as me
@@blazwura97 big CAP
This is so amazing ! It’s beautiful, she is so so strong to share this !For me when she says filling out forms is impossible, I get this for me filling out forms makes my vision blurry then I’m blind can’t see from the anxiety. The two of you together is perfect and beautiful, God bless the two of you and your finances, always ! Never give up 💪💪💪
No words. Take care of each other, you deserve all the best. Thank you for making this world a better place.