Bipolar vs Borderline Personality Disorder - How to tell the difference
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2018
- Bipolar disorder vs borderline personality disorder. They are very similar but very different. This video is based on a viewer question.
There is a big difference between personality disorders and the psychiatric illnesses like depression anxiety bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. The personality measure hardwiring whereas these illnesses are like your state at the time. Another analogy would be comparing your personality to the climate of a region and a disorder like depression would be the weather that you are having at the moment.
Using our diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders 5th edition, borderline personality disorder is defined by the following:
A pattern of unstable relationships, self-image, and emotional expression, and marked impulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
an example of this is the person may seem to read into things too easily. Things that you say are interpreted to mean that you're done with them or that your abandoning them in some way.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
In this kind of relationship, the person with borderline personality disorder may at one point think you’re the best thing ever. You can do nothing wrong. Then the next moment or next day you're the worst thing ever. The exact opposite.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
This kind of identity disturbances at a deep level it's not being confused about whether you're meant to be a teacher versus an astronaut. this is a confusion about core identity issues like your gender or your sexuality or even your spirituality. Now I tiptoe around us because I don't want you to walk away thinking that someone who wants to change their gender has borderline personality disorder in fact an important thing to remember with this is that this diagnosis is based on a grouping of symptoms of the things that I listen you need five of them so it's not that anyone who is angry is borderline. Or anyone's ever cut is borderline. It's about having multiple things that fall into this category and having that be present a problem for you in many ways. Because you're not happy with yourself as well as you have conflicts with others.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging
some examples of this could be reckless spending, reckless sexuality, drug abuse, or binge eating.
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
This would be things like cutting yourself or taking overdoses of pills even though you really don’t want to die, you’re just responding to internal distress
6. Unstable, reactive mood. This would be things like episodic low mood, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days. This is one of the key differences between borderline and bipolar.
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
This is one of the reasons people with borderline personality cut themselves. It’s a coping mechanism to help them feel real. Some people cut to relieve tension.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger.
This can look like temper tantrums, constant anger or physical fights.
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms. Clinicians sometimes call these micropsychotic episodes. They are not full blow psychosis, but they are close. If you don’t know what psychosis is, here is another video that defines it: • Not Real, But Feels Re...
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So is BPD worse than bipolar ?? I have BPD but I don’t have bipolar more depression mixed with BPD.
What triggered my ex-wife was when I would start a new job and go to work. She would call my boss and say that I needed to come home right away, and that she'd kill herself if I did not. Made it hard for me to get and keep a job.
And she made my life infinitely worse when she poked holes in my condoms and got pregnant.
She would also get TONS of Home Shopping Network invoices for things she would want. Fortunately, they never sent the things. I found the invoices in a series of boxes stacked in storage.
And the best part was when she would tell me that I had to give her money or do things for her, or else she would call the police and say that she hit me.
She stalked me for over 10 years after I left her, and is still a horrific person. She takes absolutely NO responsibility for the professional diagnosis she received, and loves to say that I am the crazy one, while she is just fine.
She is a horrific monster, by choice.
maam i have four of them, also my doc prescribed trileptal 300 mg, i get high and low in a day. also have manic and depressive in same day. my doc doesnt tell me what is my problem. could you?
Oh. I have 5 more in BDP. Is it possible to have both of BDP and BIPOLAR? I was diagnosed with b2. I don’t know where me self harming and breaking things when I am having an intense anger and also I want to hurt people but scared to do so, so I just do it to myself. Like! I break everything I see!
Dr. Tracey Marks what if I was diagnosed with both or multiple?
i will go from laughing and smiling to sobbing and being suicidal in literally 10 minutes.
Same
You guys should go and see someone about it... xox
Someone will nag me for even suggesting the thought, but I'm sorry, I hope you find someone who loves you and holds you so dear that they don't mind that. I find that bi polar girls at least, get a little better with a proper partner having their back with the disorder.
There's no cure
@@VioletS-sb4on it's the truth. We learn to cope. I'm 44 and I've been dealing with this since before I can remember. Depression. Anxiety. All of it.
I think mental health courses should be mandatory for k-12. It’s just so important it’s crazy.
I agree.
my school added advisory hour trying to do this and it sucks. i feel like mental health in school is so misconstrued.
I agree. It is a huge part of SELF care, not just empathy for others.
@@mariahlarson7246 great point. So many people can’t even identify that they might be going through a something and could use some extra support
Why does it always go to "crazy"lol
I got diagnosed with bipolar 18 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting bipolar. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the
morning after. So no hangovers. No
depression mood for days. No anxiety.I now
have a more calm mind
How can I find him? Is he on insta
I was subjected to grooming as a toddler and showed all the Borderline symptoms. What worked more than anything was getting into exercising and lifting weights. It gave me dopamine and a sense of control and empowerment. That along with diet and cognitive therapy has given the the tools to have a mostly healthy relationship dynamic and it's making such a great difference in my relationship. ❤
My sister had similar trauma and has recently been spiraling. Off her meds and refusing help and rejecting family and on a one way street to homelessness. We all feel helpless watching this tragedy unfold. Hoping she can one day get help like you, gives me hope others have overcome.
same here. i feel amazing now after i started jogging daily. i quit drinking alcohol all the time. the meds did nothing. proper diet is important also, i fell into a depressed state the other day right after eating fast food and it makes me wonder how many people could heal thru eating better.
🙏🏻😘
I sincerely wish I could do this, but when you pair the BPD with ADHD and Clinical Depression- I have tried working out/gym and I just find it sooooooooooo boring?? 😕 like if I could just commit to it and enjoy it, I'd be golden. But I already have so much to manage and organize (like for work/home) that having to add a workout routine and a meal plan just feels overwhelming and it feels like watching paint dry. and it bores me. Not only that, but it's also difficult to start because I am physically weak. So now I have to start doing this activity that is boring AND difficult AND I have to pay money (membership) just to be there?
I just find everything, EVERYTHING, so damn boring.
Scam
Ahhh yes, the emptiness.
“Home sick for a place I’m not even sure exists”
The word is hiraeth
Omg you totally get me with this, sometimes im like i wanna get home when i already at it, its such a frustrating feeling
I just wanna go home
The emptyness feeling its just IT , being empty. Not feeling pleasure in anything.
I thought I was the only one who would say I want to go home omg
Finally, a real psychiatrist discusses these issues on CZcams
Real Psychistrist? Lol. I like that. Yes, I still work in private practice seeing patients.
AMEN !!! A real DOCTOR of MEDICINE!
What the hell r u talking about, I know like 3 other psychiatrists on CZcams who talk about BPD a lot
@@DrTraceyMarks thank God for you
@@DrTraceyMarks Dr sadly many psych docs give you 10 min hand you a script and sag see ya in 4 weeks ooo that will be 500 bucks And many have no idea how to ween a person off
Were DDT o you practice any we ask
I was correctly diagnosed BPD in my 20’s & worked diligently to find coping mechanisms and treatments that worked to improve my daily life for 15 years. Last year I felt I needed professional help again to reign in my anxiety during a stressful period & after a single 45 min phone session, a psychiatrist diagnosed me bipolar and tried to prescribe me an SSRI (which, in the past have made me unpredictably violent). I wish more mental health professionals were more responsible in their diagnoses because there is no way I can share enough info about my life verbally in less than an hour for someone to make that diagnosis and be 100% sure. At surface level I am sure I appear bipolar but that is because my BPD is well managed and I currently have a very stable relationship. Without context and history, it’s an easy misdiagnosis. I just wish psychiatry required a certain number of hours or testing to prescribe medications because it seems most psychiatrists I’ve encountered are quick to throw pills at a problem even when you’re specifically against daily meds.
My therapist I had for 5 years diganosed me with BPD but my new therapist said how did they know i had BPD and tried to ask me my symtoms on the spot but Im not good at giving it on the spot and she tried to act like my BPD diganosis was wrong within first 20 minutes of my season and try act like I dont seem BPD even though it was my first season with her
@@rainbowslimesbywolf9565 I’m sorry you went through this as well. I hope you find someone who can be helpful without needing to re-diagnose you for their own ego. My original diagnosis came from a self-admitted hospital stay in my mid-20’s where I was administered a very thorough diagnostic test. Before that I had been on a never ending carousel of depression and anxiety diagnoses since my teens. It seems to me that misdiagnosis is more common than the real thing.
Diagnosis are fictional. Fictional things happened to you?
I was in a toxic relationship over 6 months ago. I’m not going to go into detail, but after watching this video I literally thought about her after every single symptom you mentioned for borderline. It was as if you were describing her word for word. This really opened my eyes. Thank you for spreading information about mental health as it’s so so much more important than people realize.
Maybe that wasn’t tour intention but it sounds like you’re making her out to be the villain
@@pumpkinpie9778 honestly, sometimes we r the villians, even if our actions are due to disorders. Most people with bpd have regrets about their negative actions towards their loved ones all the time.
Same here 😆. Looking back I'm like.... Damn.... She HAD to have borderline personality disorder! And the irony is she was an RN and she "accused" me of being borderline! 🤣
@@pumpkinpie9778ating somebody with BPD is something you should AVOID at ALL COSTS!
People with BPD can‘t form any long lasting n meaningful relationships. They will cheat and lie to you at every chance they get. Im not saying you should avoid talking to them but NEVER EVER let them in your life, they will ruin it! There might be EXCEPTIONS but this is genuine and realistically how relationships with those ppl end.
@@pineappleenjoyer9297I hope you realize that Generalizing people with certain mental disorders is not only rude, but also spreading misinformation. Yes, keeping a relationship with a BPD person can be difficult but honestly there is a difference between people who know they have BPD and are willing to work on their issues caused by the disorder and geniunely care, and people with BPD who are unwilling to work on their issues or unaware. I know some people with BPD who are be really sweet honestly, and not the kind of monsters society expects them to be. Everyone deserves a chance becausr not all folks with BPD are the same. With the right kind of treatment and support for the disorder, they can form happy and healthy relationships with others.
I got misdiagnosed with borderline. I got a second opinion and I actually had bipolar disorder. Thanks for explaining the difference.
I was diagnosed as a teen with depression even tho I was borderline, it took me this woman to make me belive in psychiatrics again.
Same thing I found out yesterday. I still didn’t feel good with MDD/BPD treatment and the mania and psychosis was getting worse. I finally got a new psychiatrist and got a bipolar diagnosis. Big difference
Take care
@@aletalykes1986 I am also being treated for MDD and BPD and am having a similar experience. Seeing my doctor Thursday to discuss. Thanks for sharing, I don’t feel so alone ❤️
When I was little I was diagnosed with ADHD, then towards adolescence Borderline disorder and finally towards adulthood I was diagnosed bipolar. I finally have a good treatment for me 😬
that super interesting because i have found (atleast in my state) that people with bpd typically get misdiagnosed with bipolar and adhd. they seem to be way more willing to diagnose someone with a disorder that they can simply medicate away as opposed to diagnosing personality disorders which are notoriously difficult to treat. im infact living with someone right now who has been diagnosed with all of these things except bpd, and she most certainly has bpd - but they just wont diagnose her correctly as they seem to be very adverse to personality disorder diagnosis. no medication has ever worked for her, nothing for adhd, nothing for bipolar, nothing for depression and the reason is because she has bpd. she is also a notorious liar - so that could have something to do with it. she has 8 out of the 9 criteria (she doesn't have suicidal thoughts, though may have some ideation) and i have found the clearest way to tell the difference between bpd and bipolar is if it is a long standing issue. there has never been a time where she didn't have these criteria - always have difficult interpersonal relationships that go up and down in intensity, she has always had inappropriate and intense anger for apparently no reason or for something as negligible as someone knocking over a glass of water, she has always had frequent quickly fluctuating moods, she has always been scared to death of abandonment. whereas with disorders like bipolar/depression things seemed fine until they weren't anymore. and they are episodic - its isn't all of the time. also people with personality disorders often think there is something wrong with everyone else - not themselves. and that isn't seen with mood disorders like bipolar and depression. people with mood disorders often want to get help as they are distressed by their symptoms. while people with personality disorders again think something is wrong with everyone else but not themselves. this was a great thorough video and i wish you the best luck in your treatment!
I love the comparison between weather and climate. Very clear.
Viviane Van Giesen right? First time ever I’ve actually been able to understand my diagnosis
Agree. Brilliant!
I like that too.
Ditto, I'll use that explanation whenever people ask me if I can go fullspeed for months. Like, no, I'll be a storm for ten minutes and then sleep all day, wake up and laugh out loud at something random, thanks.
Very much so!!!
I feel like I get attached to people very fast and then feel abandoned when they pull back a little or when I sense that they're pulling back. It's beginning to really affect my life.
Me too it sucks
same here. I get triggered easily that I sabotage the relationships I'm in. it's hard
This is me & can relate to it more than you know.
Abandonment issues is one of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is what I have but been dealing with abandonment issues for quite some time now even as far back as a child. Which causes the trauma of it.
@freespirit12 very hard to say the least.
The crazy thing with Borderline is that there's about 9-12 different types that all have different projections but having to do with similar spectrums. I've seem to go a blend of about 2 or 3 of em, but as I learn more and talk with my psychiatrist and therapists, they can help narrow down what to look for and help steer in the right direction.
Its fictional. Theres 12 fictions as part of one fiction?
My partner is bi polar and my daughter is diagnosed borderline ......oh l love them so much, its often hectic but the love l have for them is like no other.
Borderline is often born from abuse
@@NorthRoyalton its also from genetic what is wrong with you
What a beautiful comment. I can assure you that they appreciate your love like no other. That is the somewhat upside to having these disorders. Sure, we feel anger and depression and anxiety so strongly, but we also feel love and affection and protection just as fucking strong. To be loved by someone with BPD is rough sometimes but also very rewarding. No one will ever love you as deeply as someone with bipolar or BPD
Thank you. They need this love even if they can't accept it.
muchas grasias por esplicar muy bien.❤😍
This explains my mom to the "T" ... I miss her. She disappeared a couple years back. I really hope shes ok.
Love I am sorry to hear your mom has disappeared!! Is she a missing person? Or just missed? Either way you don’t deserve this abandonment ❤️
I’m truly sorry this has been your experience, stranger. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family.
Any news?
So sad....
ohhh im so sorry, i really wish that she comes back
my girlfriend informed me she has BPD, videos like these are really helping me to understand her better. thanks for this video
I was diagnosed today and this is my starting point. I was misdiagnosed with bi-polar and general anxiety a decade ago but now I guess I am back to trying to understanding myself.
I have bipolar disorder and BPD. What a fun combo 🙃
The older I get, the more I realize how different I am and the sadder I get. It really hurts to feel so unstable all the time. Because I am forced act “normal” the worse I feel.
I understand your feelings. Im right there with ya.
If you need to talk to anyone im free.. I'm afraid I might have both too
Me too. And ptsd.
Yeah my mom has both. I "just" have major bpd and pray I don't get both. My son's got it on both sides though 😔
I'm with you too I have both too an I hate to have to act normal like all is okay when im going thru mental warfare
I don't know why but I started crying when she started to describe the borderline personality. Everything she said was like a dart straight to my heart. I really need to look for help.
I hope you found good help and good people
Hope you get some good help
i did too.
I have BPD too bro/sis but I believe in Christ. Lets hope. I will pray for you too
I feel you, I just can't seem to freaking find it. I'm not even 18 and most of the time all I can say is I'm confused, nothing makes sense. I'm just confused.
Thank you so much for explaining BPD. I am 47 and I have just been diagnosed with BPD. I am so glad that I am now getting some MH support after my whole life crying out for help. It had taken me to have a complete breakdown to even get noticed by the system. I have all nine tendencies and have done ever since I remember. People have always thought I was weird and I would never be able to change myself, but now I am getting help slowly. Thank you
My friends and I are all LCSWs . Years ago we created our own diagnosis ....Borderpolar... because we met so many clients who qualified for both.
You’re one of the only channels I don’t speed up to 1.75 to get through it because you actual have good and solid content thats to the point. That’s refreshing. Thank you
@Brintxx 🧍🏻♀️
That's so smart I never thought of doing that. I just hope I catch the right spots when I randomly click through points in the video and speed it up to a few seconds that way and then when I feel somethings missing I get back to another point before until I've found all the information never watch all videos though I wouldn't have the time in my lifr
same LMFAO
Does anyone else go to videos about their own diagnosis to feel valid and cry a lot??
Like
I think I'm manic rn and hearing all the things that make me borderline just kind of makes me valid/less "crazy"
Just remember that you are not a diagnosis. Identifying with a disorder limits who you came here to become. It is not who you really are...
@@suzycreemcheeze446 I think that's at a later step that this is helpful. The one she's in, I went through and it was helpful to me to finally understand that the diagnosis is what I'm working with and explained everything. Later I was able to step back and see myself as much more.
Definitely feel less crazy from this woman putting my issues on front street. Because I know its name and I'm I can get help for bpd. Been thinking Im a terrible person bc of it. Maybe that's not the case..
@@queenditty2783 I have struggled with this since birth, with a bpd mother. She's still her, but I'm working on me and trying to understand her better, too. I have a ton of recovering and self-forgiveness to do. But I'm glad to not only know I'm not alone, but that I'm not hopeless.
Stay strong ❤️
I’ve been watching your videos for a couple years now, Dr. Marks. I’ve even watched videos on things I don’t think I have just to be educated and to support your channel. I always appreciate your insight and it has really helped me with my depression and anxiety. Now, my therapist is screening me for BPD and I’m re-watching this now with an entirely new perspective on your content and I gotta say, it’s super helpful! Thank you for all the hard work you’ve put in over the years! Can’t wait to see your channel grow even bigger! You deserve it!
I have been learning more from you than I learned from my psychology program at the university. Thank you so much!
I’m a licensed mental health counselor and I love your videos! It’s like mini-refreshers in diagnosis! Thank you for all you do!
Where did you study mental health?
And what was the exact discipline you studied?
Do they have an online program?
Your kind feedback will greatly be appreciated.
I need help for my son
Hey could you help me out
Excellent presentation. As Clinical social media worker I’m impressed and appreciative. Clear and concise.
@@loveauditor you can read her information in the “About “
I apologize, Doctor, however, I disagree. Florida actually does have 4 seasons. They are cool, hot, very hot, and "OH MY GOD"
As long as you don't have 'Melting your skin off' hot.
I don't know I live in an area that's below zero at times and can be above 100 degrees but the heat doesn't bother me it's he accompanied with humidity that makes it impossible!!!! I'm talking the kind of humidity where you walk outside in your clothes are instantly wet and you haven't even had a chance to start sweating yet!
LMAO
Giggles* I liked the picture she painted.
Agreed!!
Thank you for this video. I've been diagnosed with BPD, Bi-Polar and Schozoaffective disorder over the course of the last 6 years. As a kid I absolutely detested rejection and would go from extreme happiness, to rage, and woukd self harm out of the aheer frustration of everything. As I grew into adulthood, my mood swings became more extreme and accompanied by hallucinations and perceptual detachment. I still struggle daily but I'm on the right medication now and therapy. This video has helped put things into a fresh perspective especially with the analogy of climate and weather. Thank you once again, and keep up the incredible work.
I have pretty severe borderline personality disorder a long time they thought that i was bipolar but later confirmed that it wasn''t bipolar disorder and definitely borderline personality i literally do almost every single thing you talked about. ive had a rough life to say the least.. ive always had a hard time getting my family especially my parents to understand what my disorders are... but they actually sat down and watched your video and actually paid attention and listened... and i just wanted to thank you because you explained it all so well and it really helped my family better understand my borderline personality disorder. and it all makes a lot better sense to them now... so i just wanted to thank you for doing what you do, your helping people more then you know. one video can help change someones life, i just wanted you to know that.
"What goes up must come down", a little phrase I say to myself when Im manic to try and keep myself level. The depression can get just as bad or worse, or just dealing with the mess you made. Thanks for your videos.
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A refreshing, and manageable perspective!!
Ah the mess!
Im in a depressive stage now. Tbh. I miss mania. At least im not always so tired 😭😭😭
@@nadiananette6430 this too shall pass. Sorry your depressed. Try to focus on positives
The quick mood swings is what i relate to. One moment I'm extremely happy, motivated, energetic, helpful and after a while all of a sudden everything is so annoying, the sounds disturbs me, people make me angry for no reason and i feel like i just don't want to do anything.
It's so weird and i have no idea what to do about it.
That sounds like my daughter
Sounds like me!
I am same tbh, been like this for a good few years. Especially since having my son. Recently as I got older its shows more id say, especially on days I have alot of work to do and tidying up after people properly isn't a big deal but it really does wind you up. I also get angry at small things and switch and shout out loud swearing wether someone's around or not. I think its just stress and how ot effects people but because I'm not this way always just sometimes depending on the day and the people around me
Im diagnosed Bipolar and I take medicine and I completely relate to sounds disturbing me. Sometimes I wish the whole neighbourhood would play loud music and dance and sometimes birds chirping hurts my ears. That’s how I know if I’m manic or depressed.
Same, and I don’t know if this is bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. And like during the mood swings I feel like I want to do everything and anything.
Beautiful analogy of Climate and weather to Personality Disorders and Psychiatric illnesses!!!!
Oh. MyGosh. The climate/weather analogy just blew my mind. I've never been able to exactly grasp this until now. Incredibly helpful!!! Thank you so much
I have been diagnosed with severe manic bipolar disorder since I was about 10 years old, I am now 35. I myself have even wondered how I could be such a drastically different human being from one day to the next, you could meet me on a Tuesday and you'd walk away like "Man, what a cool guy, It was nice talking to him." .. OR you could meet me on a Sunday and you'd walk away thinking "I hope I never see that person again." But I am the same guy, I guess. I also have severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder on top of that and Tourettes Syndrome when I was younger which I partially grew out of. This is all on top of having a serious genetic predisposition to drugs and alcohol and self medicating for the better part of 20 years. I am sober now and living life the right way, but I still struggle with the mood swings and I wonder to myself "which guy am I really? Tuesday.. or Sunday?"
Have a great day everyone. Thanks if you read.
May I ask how you've stayed sober?
I FeeL the behaviors we exhibit are to protect ourselves & because in today's world we are supposed to be numb and suppress anything that is not pure peace, love & servitude, we bottle it all up, allow our boundaries to be pushed back & or broken & then EXPLODE !
I was the black sheep and the truth teller of my narcissistic sociopathic father & my mother who has some undiagnosed mental disorder or personality disorder & siblings who are finally admitting to it in their 30's & 40's... They need help, I'm the only one who easily admits to my flaws and all of them while it's happening and not years later after pretending I was perfect... So I do cut people off who lie & blame me for everything & I EXPLODE on them IF forced to have them in my life... So I think my main problem was hanging onto my value... BPD can be untrained within yourself to the point of being undiagnosable!
You are all that you are and the emotions you FeeL are an expression of the struggle with in, but they don't define who you are, but what you do with them... I have for a long time now seen people not for how they express themselves, but knowing there is something within they are learning & trying to express...
Picture when people grieve, do you judge them for who they are for all they express through the steps of grieving? I FeeL like BPD is a prolonged grieving process... and just any emotions people express... OR like a PTSD for everything... I was raised not to have any emotions... to be perfect & know everything without being taught by my father... We had a very confusing upbringing... ONLY his emotions were valid... He lied & cheated & took things from people that were special to them.... He get narcissistic amnesia for everything he gets called out on.... he uses everyone around him & makes them FeeL privileged to be his slaves... Anyhow all that to say I learned to not have boundaries & then I would retaliate & I learned to say nothing until I wouldn't & couldn't take it anymore & then I would EXPLODE... Truth all over the place! So I did not learn how to be allowed to express my thoughts, feelings & emotions very well... And when people wouldn't respect me for sharing or ignore me then I felt abandoned & stuck... trapped & imprisoned... So I just wonder what does my real self look like, it's all of what has been, when you need to protect yourself, love yourself, when you give up, when you just can't take anymore, when you feel or have been abandoned.... those are all you in those situations...
I did not mean to say all this, but you are you, through & through... You can be more or less of who you want to be, you have the reigns of self-control, it's like taming a beast, but you have it in you to untrained the thoughts to tame your body and have full control! I have learned to tame much of my anger and OCD... but I also think the disassociate part is also to help disconnect from people who won't change & keep hurting me... I don't like liers and those are who I have cut off, fake adults if you will... anyhow, The End
Are you going to have kids?
I had an elderly home care patient with ocd so bad she had chronic wounds on her hands from washing them. Dr. Put her on Prozac. She was cured.
As someone who battles Borderline Personality Disorder daily, I really appreciate you taking time to spread awareness. It took me 16 years to be committed to regular care and medication. It took me 16 years to be able to understand that it is OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY. It took me 16 years to commit to myself so that I could be the best me I could be. After 16 years I found a psychiatrist who partnered with me on my journey and I am happy to say that after 9 months of continued care, I feel better than I ever have before! I have learned that personally, routine has been a HUGE successor for me. Being able to have a routine has made keeping myself accountable easy. Every morning and every evening I complete the same routine and it has served me so much. The most important part of my healing tho, has come with the awareness that I have been able to share with my friends and family so that those who love me can recognize when I am feeling less than myself, and then are able to help me (or can get me where I need to be if I need further help). The content you continue to create is incredible. My family and I appreciate you, Dr. Marks!
The problem with the meds is many cause diabetes, parkinsons and other movement disorders. I would rather take the mania and ups and downs then be a zombie on seroquel. That garbage slows my breathing down so much I feel like I am suffocating in my sleep. No thanks.
I am not allowed to not be OK. Ever. CHOOSE happiness, I'm told. Constantly. What they mean is "I don't want to hear it. Act happy when you're around me or stay away from me." I seldom leave my house, but I am a blast when I am forced to deal with people. I joke and sing and laugh when all I want to do is cry, "Please care enough about me to LISTEN." No one does. Well, I have cancer, so pretty soon no one will need to listen and I will FINALLY stop hurting.
@@do9138 that’s a relatable feeling. I often feel that when I assume how someone feels I have a sort of misconception tho. I’m sure there are some people that will not just need but want to listen often. (If you were talking to yourself in that last part). Stay strong with your fight! :)
What type of things does your family do to help bring you out of it?
Routine is wonderful. Having the same instant coffee from the same mug, with the same scones every morning. Watching the same news channel before bed. Having dinner on time even when you're busy. The more normalcy and the less crisis in life the better. I'm on the autistic spectrum and my mother has BPD which resulted in a childhood of walking on eggshells.
Hello, that was brilliantly informative thank you. I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but I've never heard it be explained like that.
I'm wishing you the very best going forward. Try to keep the very best of support.
How did you get diagnosed? Caz my psychiatrist is pretty slow 🐌
Same here. Diagnosed when I went through post partum depression.
@@avrylllorraine7568 diagnosis’ for mental illness should take time it not something to rush into, it wrong medications for illnesses like these can be horrific
I think I may have it & my son was recently diagnosed with it . I was hoping you can tell us what type of treatment you get for this. Like therapy or Counselling , specifically psychotherapy ? Thank. You
If only my moods changed by the hour! I can move from ecstatic to utterly depressed, then to utterly petrified, then to anger, then back to ecstatic... And all that, within 10 minutes. The interesting thing is, because I'm never physically aggressive or obviously self-destructive, nobody can tell. I swallow my emotions and seem just fine but suffer internally.
But when alone at home, I never have an ''off'' button. I don't know what being calm and ''just relaxing'' feels like.
So I eat excessively, spend money on shopping, booking trips last minute, partying excessively to just keep the boredom at bay. People say ''you are such an exciting, fun person with an awesome life''. The truth is, I'm constantly empty and bored, no matter what. And for the most part, I feel abandoned and unloved. (I have BPD and generalized anxiety disorder)
Meditation maybe. Have someone to talk to like a buddie.
@@perciousmatter7001 I'm actually sick of hearing people recommend yoga and meditation. Therapy and medication is what has helped me.
@@Crisalsera I have it and I'm 19. Meditation gets me scared and Idj how to get therapy. I feel fuckdd and scared...
I have bpd and gad too and i relate to what you're saying. I feel constantly bored and empty, i obsess over guys / crushes just so i feel like there's something exciting going on in life. I am am impulsive and spontaneous person and a lot of people like that but it has affected me in school and work. We can work through it, dbt and a compassionate & understanding therapist or mental health practitioner can do wonders.
@@user-hi2nd try and find psychiatrists specialising inpersonality disorders & if your insurance covers it.... Do anything.... U have to get started somewhere, i KNOW how hard it is TRUST ME i get that you feel scared but we're strong people and we're not gonna let this ruin our lives. You CAN do this things DO get better TRUST ME! Its tough but its sooo worth it!
My mom is Bipolar and I’m Borderline and we act very different so these are very true
Natalie Pepper I love a crazy girl😍, I’m 17
@@Lak3baby dude... You're the worst
me me I’m obviously playing, you gullible buffoon💀
@@Lak3baby 🙄 IDK man a joke is supposed to be funny
@@Lak3baby nobody in these comments is here for a joke buddy were all here for a reason either to get more understand or because we're depressed and looking into other things since the mental health facilities are so poorly managed
I appreciate the brief videos and focusing on one topic at a time. It helps to make it easier to understand and process the information. 🙏🏽
Wow. Very impressed & can't wait to view more of your videos. I can tell your heart is in your practice. Thank you for your compassion for others & providing free resources for mental health.
Yes. Borderline. Diagnosed finally in my late 40's. It was so obvious that I'm shocked I was misdiagnosed so long
Medical science sure has come a long way!
@@xXDopamineInbalanceXx im not seeing the improvement as too great in personal experience
I know she is mostly reading from textbook guide lines, but this is the most accurate explanation that I have seen in video of borderline personality disorder. This shit hits hard, because it's really difficult to recognize the patterns and differences that my mind creates unless they're presented to me from another perspective.
Thank you! I really like when you went through which behavior is personality. The weather & climate analogy was super helpful too!
Thank you so much for making these videos. They help me to understand my loved ones that struggle with these illnesses. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I learned more in 14 minutes than I have in my life so far.. thank you 🙏. And I’ve spent a fortune on therapy...
This is so helpful! I have BPD, and my mom is bipolar. I've been trying to explain to her that my irrational, fearful, panicky, delusional, or even manipulative behavior can't be changed by just "fighting the bad mood/depression/bad day", its how my brain is wired to think, at all times, no matter if I'm depressed or not. I have to constantly fight my brain into going against my first instinct (illogical thoughts/behavior) and be logical and calm in my decisions. Constantly, all day everyday. Sometimes, I will get into depressed episodes that'll last a week or two, underneath my existing day-to-day BPD mood swings & thoughts. Then I'll swing into a manic/euphoric mood for a week or so, while still having my normal BP mood swings and thought processes over top of it.
This sounds like me!
I liken it to carrying a huge elephant on your head while being expected to live a normal life.
Same
This sounds just like me, but I'm undiagnosed 🤷🏼♀️
People do not understand how mentally taxing this is on our bodies and minds. I’m so tired.
Keep them coming. Your videos are changing lives!!!! Part of My nightly meditation regimen BEFORE sleep hypnosis 🙏🏽🙌🏾
Thank you! As a pwBPD, it is refreshing to see a more honest and realistic take on the disorder compared to so many more negative, often hurt, reviews.
I have Borderline and it's so difficult to deal with. I'm having a very hard time with it right now but it's reassuring knowing that there's others here who struggle too.
Yes it is very difficult and causes a lot of distress for people. I'm glad you don't feel alone. 🙂
You are sadly not alone. I think it will get better.
Ashleigh Denise Argyle ❤️
I'm with you and you're definitely not alone.
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have 8 of the 9 symptoms.
The best way I heard it explained to me is that we feel emotions much more intensely than other people. So when things are good they are spectacular but when things are bad they are absolutely horrible.
Imagine a graph from 1-10 one being your worst day on earth and 10 being your best. A neural typical human being spends their day gradually bounding between 4-6, nothing too great but nothing to bad either.
A borderline in a typical day bounces between 3-7, still not too bad, small victories feel better and small defeats feel a bit worse. but anything, anything at all can knock a borderline out of whack and suddenly we are rapidly bouncing between 2-9 and it's very difficult for us to regain equilibrium as our emotions completely overtake any sense of rationality. Also bouncing that rapidly between 2-9 is very emotionally and mentally exhausting, after a really bad episode all i want to do is sleep i literally can't keep my eyes open.
it's so easy for us to go into that mode thats the scary part. Even a simple canceling of plans from a friend can cause us to spiral out of control and think the friend hates us, we must be worthless or they wouldn't have canceled, lash out at them in anger for making you feel this way at the same time begging them to stay, things like that... but a very weird quirk of Borderline Personality disorder is once we write someone off, they are done to us forever. there is no getting back in after we told someone to get lost and mean it.
Almost all Borderlines i know have bad tempers... part of the territory, when you feel emotions more intensely the hardest one to control becomes almost impossible and it's almost like you go into this fail-safe mode.. its easier to be angry than sad or hurt.
It's sad to admit but I kind of envy Bipolar... at least it's more stable :P
The grass is always greener
DBT helps reduce the intense feelings of BPD. It's been a year and a half and I can truly feel a difference in how I perceive the world. BPD doesn't have to be life long, a lot is trained toxic behaviours.
Bi-Polar is lifelong. There are ways of coping but it's lifelong. My mother has this and I have BPD.
I wish I had read this before I drove so many people away 🥺
Bipolar is worse I think because with BPD it's events that trigger you mainly, with bipolar you fluctuate without events affecting you.
Thank you Dr Marks. I enjoy your videos. I’m about 3 years into my healing journey and your videos are helpful for deepening my understanding of myself and people in general. I appreciate the way you break the videos up - detailed and thorough but not overwhelming. I am a nurse with experience in healthcare operations and academia so I agree that with all the possible ways to present your information on this platform, including links to additional detailed information is better than lumping it all in one. For me, at least, it would be overwhelming 🫨. Thanks again!
It was as if you were describing her word for word. This really opened my eyes. Thank you for spreading information about mental health as it’s so so much more important than people realize.
My mom is bi polar and I’m boarder line spent many of our years not knowing why we were such intense emotional people and now I’m in my 20’s she’s in her 40’s mentally doing better
The way you deliver the information is so professional and understandable. Thank you so much for producing these videos.
You’re welcome A Fann! 😊
THANK YOU! For explaining in such a way that I can actually understand you. I have listened to other counselors who uses a lot of words without simplifying it for the person, who doesn't understand a lot of the psychological terminology
Omg THANK YOU for bringing up DBT!! It's such a good style that can be used with so many different cases. Yes!!!
My girlfriend, one day my wife, lives with both of these. We have had our issues, but this video was very insightful for me and learning on what she goes through. Thank you. I was curious if you could possibly do a video on/for the people living with a significant other that suffers from these and how they can help, recognize, and respond.
Thank you
Hi daniel i just wanted to say i love that your researching your to be wifes conditions it helps so much for anyone suffering with any mental health issues especially bpd as it can be extremely over looked and ignored by others. 🙏
@stxr hes right tho
@stxr borderline is a personality not an illness
@stxr nah, it's not as same as anxiety. Or depression bipo
@stxr it's not an ilness but a personality trait
Yes u are so on point. I'm BPD, and during my extreme high or low it's always people claiming I'm bi polar... I'm not.
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Same here
Same. I get extreme emotions and my whole life my friends tried to tell me I had bipolar but eventually I got told by a doctor that I have borderline
Thanks Dr Tracey. Your videos are excellent, and very informative. You really don't need to apologize. I am a psychology student, and your explanations clarify a lot for me.
Thank you for clarifying the distinction between these 2 diagnosis. Have a Masters in Counseling and was challenged in truly knowing the differences. I appreciate your videos!
I love this video! I’m a psychologist and this is one of the best explanations I’ve heard to distinguish bipolar disorder from borderline personality disorder. I’m glad I discovered your channel.
She's good
I have both.bipolar and borderline
Bipolar 1 here. Been managing it 25+ years (when the dinosaurs were around and it was called manic depression). Your videos and explanations are on point. I wish ALL psychiatrists were as knowledgeable and personable and as real as you are. I've only met one other such psychiatrist, and she is the one who literally saved my life so many years ago. Just...thank you for producing such valuable information in a totally relatable way. ✌️❤💪🙏😁
That name change was a big L on the doctor's part
You explain everything so well! This has been the most informative video(especially to share with people I want to know about my disorder) you describe and explain everything simply and logically!!!! Thank you for this I’m just learning to deal with BPD. This is the first video of yours I’m watching and I look forward to seeing more.
You did a phenomenal job explaining such a complex situation- thank you!
I'm bipolar type 2. The medication has taken care of the hypomania but I'm left with the depression. Sometimes I miss the mania.
You’re not alone with missing the mania. Especially if it was a productive time for you. I have an upcoming video on when to take antidepressants for bipolar depression. I talk about this issue a little bit. It may be in a few weeks so stay tuned
Same here hypomania as well! Always fighting depression
Same here. The only times I really enjoy things anymore are the hypo. phases yet I'm fully aware they are also very risky.
do the meds make you feel "evened out" in a way that's kind of numb? or just no mania?
Rosie Red what you mean you miss the mania?? Being hyper happy?
Thank you thank you THANK YOU! A professional that does NOT demonize BPD. I love how you explain the differences. And I know when discussing the criteria it is so easy to "blame" the person or make out that it is a negative thing about the person. Instead you explain what the criteria are and how it negatively impacts the person suffering with the disorder. And I love how you constantly validate what a bpd sufferer goes through. Speaking from experience, having 5 or more of those criteria is exhausting so by constantly reminding the casual viewer that "oh I cut therefore...." is not enough you are validating the constant inner turmoil we BPD sufferers go through. Thank you.
yeah fr! fuck people who demonize people for their mental disorders! thats like hating somebody for being autistic or down syndrome. its not fucking different and literally nobody can say otherwise. i will stand by it.
Hi and I'm happy to hear(read) you're aware of your condition and you're on the good path to be better....Hats off to you.
Now, after 7 years of marriage now is when she told me she's "bipolar" but I'm 99.99% sure she's a covert-npd and I've been through hell multiple times which has been horrible for me.
My question to you, with all due respect is:
Do you feel some sort of remorse for hurting your love ones(if you have) and are you able to repair the damage?
Again, I apologize for the question and don't know if that's your case but I'm asking you for my personal sanity and to actually know if it's worth staying with her.
@SuperPrdude that is a very difficult question to answer with no other information besides what you have provided.
Please bear in mind I am not a diagnostican or medical professional. Simply someone who has suffered BPD for her whole adult life, and manages it to the best of my ability.
I feel huge remorse when I THINK I've upset someone, and have huge issues regarding abandonment and feeling if I've disappointed someone (it's a whole thing with me) so go out of my way to avoid getting in any situation where I could hurt someone. But that is me.
If after 7 years she is only now bringing this up, is it something she was already aware of, or is she "connecting the dots". Because either way she needs to take steps to manage her mental health. And this is the crucial part! If she is making steps then support her. If she isn't, then encourage her.
But NEVER sacrifice your own mental health in the process.
I will never say "stay with her" nor will I ever say "leave her". As that choice is yours and yours alone.
@@annejohnson5096
Very well appreciated your reply.
She started to go to therapy but it's been 7 years and I can't deal with her anymore.
You know, God Bless you for replying back and if there's anything you want to chat about, I'm here.
Thank you Dr. Tracey,for this info. My son,has Bipolar disorder and BPD as well. I have dealt with alot,while my son goes through his episodes. And when it first started happening. I was so embarrassed by what was going on with my son. Because I didn't fully understand it nor mental illness. But,I'm trying to get help for my son at times he doesn't want to take the meds then we would argue about it. But I have to truly get help for him. I thank you,for this clarification of the symptom and how it affects a person. Other Doctors don't clarify nearly what you just did. Thank you once again.
Thank you so much for that. I was diagnosed with boarderline about 5 years. I was put on a TON of medication in the beginning. But after learning how to regulate the bigger emotional ups and downs, and several hundred hours of DBT along with education. I'm on only 1 extremely low dose medication for anxiety. That doubles as an antihistamine. Thank you for taking time to educate others.
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple years ago, but after seeing this...I'm really not sure I'm bipolar at all.
I matched every single one of the 9 traits for Borderline Personality Disorder, and I always wondered why I cycled through moods and feelings so often throughout the day despite the medications they have me on for bipolar.
This was amazingly informative, and i thank you sincerely.
You're so welcome Dark Stories. So glad it was helpful for you.
Bpd is often misdiagnosed as bipolar because they have so much overlap.
You can cycle through moods more in bipolar if you have rapid cycle or sometimes in mixed states when you have manic and depressed symptoms simultaneously. I wonder if BPD can have manic symptoms though. It is confusing because there are so many over lapping symptoms. Like you could be impulsive and unstable in relationships and self image ect... with bipolar too as mood episodes can effect those things.
@@jotortuga1975 Bpd doesn't have mania but it does have the impulsivity symptom and can have the anger symptom or even the occasional psychosis symptom.
@@jotortuga1975 I have rapid cycling bipolar. Mood swings can literally occur within a day
I really like the way you explain BPD alot of psychiatrists make me feel like my problems are because of who i am.
I also suffer from severe reacurring depression and your videos make me feel like these problems arent my fault but just my brain.
Thank you for being so helpful.
You also explain things so family and friends can understand it.
You're so welcome Victoria. Helping you and family/friends understand is exactly what I set out to do. 🙂
Its still your fault, though. Cause you, are the brain. However, that doesnt mean you should be punish for it, rather helped sihnce its something you cant control without knowung about it.
@victoria evens yea sorry i yes it has to do with the fact blaming has negative connotation and being told its your fault can be viewed as bad. Sorru im sta4ing to tj8nk i have bpd too, though im not sure
@@jorgeflores9421 Perhaps more of a "It's not your fault you were dealt the cards you have, but you can still learn how to play the game strategically."
@@jorgeflores9421 It can also send someone into a depressed episode, especially if they were dealing with it, doing well, feeling well and on track for recovery, then bam....they get told "it's your fault"..... It can unravel all their progress.
Those 3 little words are so extremely powerful, that most people (especially those without BPD or any other metal health disorder) don't understand unless they're in that situation themselves.
That being said, It was extremely nice of you to apologize and realize where you went wrong! That's tough for a lot of people, especially on CZcams, where backlash can be extremely harsh.
ive been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder for years, and was just diagnosed with bipolar disorder this year. this video really helped it make more sense to me
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
Amen
Thanks so much for answering my question!!
Yay! I'm so glad you saw this. You're so welcome. 🙂
It’s definitely needed, i sometimes question if I’m bipolar instead, but the explanation of how frequently my mood changes is hours throughout the day meanwhile bipolar is weeks or months
Paola Vanegas I’m starting to think my cousin on the other has been misdiagnosed as bipolar while in reality he is borderline...he matches ALOT of the criteria...I have no idea how one doctor said he has OCD!!!!
Alicia El-Khatib Naranjo yes borderline and bipolar both have compulsive behavior but bipolar can sometimes be mistaken with OCD like for example I thought that’s what my dad had because he throws a fit if something dirty touches his hand and his hands have became extremely cracked due to washing his hands over 10 times a day. If you know for a fact your cousin is borderline, have him go to a therapist who specializes in it hope that helps 😊
You look cute btw I hpe you doing fine keep it u p!!
dr. tracey: you need to have at least five-
me: i have all 9 thank you very much
Maybe the 3rd time I'm watching this, and now I perfectly understand the first half.
Worth watching several times.
I have ADHD, and I really appreciate the way you break it down into pieces. It makes a lot of sense. I love your videos. Thank you for spreading awareness.
@James Becketts was that a response to my comment? I’m not sure what you’re talking about.
My highs and lows are so erratic. Sometimes I’ll have highs for a few weeks but I also fluctuate a lot during the day... I just don’t know.
Thanks Doc. I’m an internist. My wife is a Clinical Psychologist and she has helped me understand these things so much better. That said. If my attendings had explained these topics the way you do, when I was in medical school I would have seriously considered psychiatry.
Aaaw Victor That’s a huge compliment. Thank you.
@@DrTraceyMarks doc said it best they have no training in this BUT they write the Rx as well tip system is broken
this is so helpful because people throw these terms around and it can be really scary. thank you for taking the time to explain this. ❤
Reach out to the name on my channel above 👆🏼 he got me psychedelics that cured my anxiety and depression
This is kind and thoughtful. Love this very clear and kind description. Answering so many questions. Thank you! 😊
I understand that there is nothing wrong with mental illness, but being diagnosed with borderline personality was scary and a relief as well. It was scary because nobody wants to have a deep mental illness that is often badly portrayed in movies, but I'm relieved to have finally been given the right diagnosis after being originally diagnosed with general bipolar. My therapist initially saw me telling her that my mood swings are way more frequent than those of a bipolar person. And from there things finally unfolded.
I was recently confirmed by my psychiatrist that I’ve had borderline personality disorder for a while. I remember years ago, I denied it because I was always told it meant you were overly attached and obsessive but that didn’t apply to me. The criteria you listed made it much more clearer. Yes, I indeed have it haha.
This was so very helpful! I have an adult son who has problems and I have questioned which disorder fit him. I have always suspected he had borderline personality disorder, but I wasn’t sure due to him suffering from depression at times. This tea clarifies the difference and gives me more insight into what he’s experiencing. Thank you!
She is super serious and professional. Highly recommended! Thank you
You are putting such important work out into the world with your talent and passion for teaching. Mental health awareness and education is so important. Thank you. I would love to hear if you have an in depth explanation of histrionic personality disorder and how it is formed/treated etc. thank you so so much!
Thanks so much Kristen! Sure I'll add histrionic personality to my list of topics. I batch produce and am already scheduled out for next month - so it may be a minute. Thanks for the suggestion.
Dr. Tracey Marks you’re the best! Thank you!
I'm 22, i think i have this. I'm only realizing how important mental health is, in fact health in general
I struggle every day just to get through. I am not excited about anything. I pray everyday that my life gets on track or better.
Janet Wisnowski I pray that your life turns around also ❤️
💝💜
same here
Prayer and taking positive steps right? Hope you feel better
This is exactly what I need to understand mental health disorders. Thank you for the content and explaining terms in ways that are easy to understand. Thanks again
wow all these years of reading and reading with no results, this video was so so helpful trying to understand a loved one, THANK YOU Dr Marks
I was told I was Borderline after years of depression and never self harm. You’re the first Doctor I ever understood how to understand and to discern this unease feeling in my heart and to cope. Thank you kindly, ♥️
Me: *Exhibits all or most of the symptoms of BDP but doesn’t see a psychiatrist in fear of having it*
Me: I’d like to think I’m sane until proven otherwise. Heh. Heh.
Hi, i used to think the same as you before i started my treatment, i used to think "i'm not that bad" but IT WAS that bad, i ended up in a mental hospital and started the treatment only because my family want me to. I wasn't optimistic the first 3 years but after them it changed my life, i want to have a life now.
Please look for help even when you think it is not necessary, it can change you life 💕.
You're applying stigma to your own mental health. If you want a better quality of life, get help. If not, live life. :)
BPD is awful to live with especially when you are undiagnosed. I spent so long living with this even though i knew i had it. I could have got help 5 years before and tried DBT therapy. I hope you get a diagnosis and then get some help ❤
I see no fear in knowing. It doesn't define you. It doesn't change you or your reality just because you can put a specific disorder's name to your feelings. All it can do is help you to hopefully find the most relevant and useful treatment.
@@ladybaabaa3294 yess love that response!
Dr. Mark I just want you to know I truly enjoy your videos. It even helps me as a PMHNP because of how you explain things and make the videos relatable. It’s good hearing a different perspective and learning from you has been amazing. I hope in the future to meet you, I would definitely attend a seminar held by you!
Thank you Dr Marks! Wonderfully clear explanations of complicated psychological conditions!
I literally have every single symptom of borderline that you mentioned
hey lets communicate i want to see how we are similar I think I am borderline also!
@@susiesoba1612 ok im down
@@psychodelic1457 u have insta?
@@susiesoba1612 yea illusionarywavelength
Me too!
My “best” friend whom I think is borderline just ghosted me for no apparent reason. She seems to have misunderstood a text and told me she didn’t understand but wished me well and immediately blocked me from every form of communication. She’s unfriended me in the past and has broken off her other close female friendships as well as her marriage. She cannot keep an intimate and healthy romantic relationship and has had disciplinary issues at work. She definitely went from idealization to devaluation. It’s just so hurtful though. No explanation.
Its a coping mechanism for people with borderline she will be hurting too , you should reach out it will enforce the fact that you have not abandoned her even thought you may have to do so with gritted teeth
nk47100 This is very typical. We have to leave 1st. We may come back to a relationship, a time or two. In the end, we will abandon everything and everyone (immediate family, adult children, etc) . It’s in no way your fault. It’s just a coping mechanism. As for me, if it’s my last straw - I will never speak to the person again. It’s not right - it just is what it is. Medication and therapy only help so much and seems to take years to work, and it’s common to relapse often. Also, this might be one of two or my disorders the person lives with. Just an explanation.
I’ve done it to past “friends” if I think they’re gonna ghost me/abandon or just if I think they hate me lowkey. I can admit I can go from really loving them, wanting them in my life, really valuing them and their time to suddenly feeling rejected, humiliated so I delete/block them. Idk why I do it. I have hardly any friends now lol since I get called crazy or unstable by them 😒
nk47100 i clicked on this video because my ex “best” friend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. when i took a psych course i learned about borderline personality disorder. to this day i’m convinced she was misdiagnosed and really has BPD (or both). she has 8 or 9 of the symptoms. when we stopped talking it was because i distanced myself from her, but the scars from that toxic friendship still burden me after years. she introduced me to someone who sexually assaulted me. after i told her she stayed friends with him until he tried to do the same thing to her. she spread a rumor that i did wrong by her and then justified it by calling me a shit friend. then went on to act like nothing was wrong. i’m sorry you lost your friend. i hope you see it as a lesson learned
I've had this happen to me recently. She started out kind and helpful to eventually always saying something offensive, then coming back around like nothing happened. She applied at my place of employment and started trash talking about me to my co workers and I have not spoken a word to her since. I have been more upset at myself for not getting away from her sooner. I'm certain she has borderline personality disorder / malignant narcissim.
Wow, this was super helpful and I loved the analogies. You explained this beautifully, Dr. Marks.
People who are qualified and take the time out of their day to explain information like this in an understandable way are the GOAT
Clinical psychologist here. Good breakdown of stuff in your videos! I was surprised at the accuracy, given all the fluff I hear on social media from "experts." One additional point to add is that there is also Bipolar II Disorder, which is diagnosed when the person has only had hypomanic, but not manic episodes. It makes everything even more complicated, of course, and there are an incredible number of bad diagnoses out there - generally speaking.
I was diagnosed with bpd when I was 18 however in the evaluations the psychologists and psychiatrists weren't sure if it was bipolar. I'm 25 now and have been on mood stabilisers and doing DBT and no longer fit the criteria for bpd (say 4 rather than 5).
What I hate is when people automatically assume that all people with bpd are liars and manipulators. I cut people out of my life if they lie to me so I hate being grouped in with that behaviour.
the prejudice with bpd is overwhelming.
I hear you. I have a lot of self control so the " acting out" impulsively is not a problem for me. Others on this list are. So I get upset when people insist I'm irresponsible.
Thanks for the information, it's still non aplicable when motives for behaviors are examined.
you can have both illnesses, I was diagnosed with borderline but I still didn't feel better even with medication and I felt like something was missing so I went to another psychiatrist and this one think I'm bipolar so I think I could have both disorders.
Really great explanation and clarification. As a psychiatric nurse I've seen people with bpd helped greatly by dbt. It changed their life.
I've been in the mental health space for 12 years and you have most clearly BY FAR broken down concepts into the most important pieces and highlights, and explaining things like personality vs mood disorders.