Gaining Influence Over Your Counterpart With Tactical Empathy | Derek Gaunt
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Thanks for watching!
Thank you for these wonderful skills. Much love from Tanzania.
Its interesting to watch you "do it" to them before you teach them how to do it.
After reading the book and following you guys its so obvious whats happening.
This is probably one of the most powerful stories I’ve heard using labels and mirrors.
On a personal note I can also attest so many times during anxiety strikes it is hard to think. And a hard cry seems to release a lot of positive endorphins allowing it to pass.
It is so impressive how well labels and mirrors could get anyone to that point as it is obviously necessary before coming to ration.
My left ear enjoyed that one
Great!
@@NegotiationMastery Great?
true!, i thought there was a problem in my system. The video here is more skewed to left audio, not balanced
Great information as always from the Black Swan Group. Almost sounds like a little bit of information/influence on tactical empathy comes from Dale Carnegie books/strategies in how to win friends and influence people. Carnegie also stresses taking genuine interest in other people to win them over.
Just started reading Never Split The Difference. Hopefully I’ll start Online course with Black Swan
Seems like we can easily practice the skills with strangers online and in our daily encounters.
I highly recommend focusing on the acquisition audit and affirmative No’s.
The book is amazing and goes over every tactic so well. It just wasn’t fully realized how powerful the above two tools are for releasing tension in all interactions.
This stuff will truly change your life if you apply it regularly and to everyone around you.
Truly believe in los takes practice. Hi actively tell everyone in my day-to-day life that I plan on speaking through The N9 system. You would assume that everyone would see it happening and none of it would work.
That’s the true secret to all of these skills. When you maintain someone’s autonomy their ego and subconscious never incorporate your intention and so it is always cooperative and free willing.
In cases with my business partner wife and child. I will utilize those tactics fully and five minutes after the conversation is over I will point out every acquisition audit affirmative no and label are used during the conversation. Their responses almost always I never noticed and when I did Everything you had said had shown that you were considering them. So they’re just happy that you are thinking about them.
How will you know if you're on the right track?
@@NegotiationMastery Right track?
It's a great read, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Chris your approach is a gem in a world of used coil
Wondering if there are any other books out there to read about mirroring and labeling ( i have read “ never split the difference “ and “ego authority and failure” multiple times and think there are fanatic books. Was hoping there are other books like those two that I don’t know about thank you for your time.
Hey! You should check out our Black Swan Book Club. It has a lot of resources you might be interested in: www.blackswanltd.com/book-club
Thank you for the presentation! Very well done. Would love to see your instruction and perspective applied to the nursing/healthcare profession.
Great suggestion!
What happened at end ? Did they catch mike
What a lesson! Such an enriching gift to have a former lead hostage negotiator share their "transferable" approaches and processes that were 93% effective in the field -when in comparison mainstream sales strategies are around 0.5 to 10% effective in the field! And that story of siege was really gripping, and hope that young fella was alright in the end.
But ye, the appreciation of the "human nature response"... Understanding that negative emotions drive decisions, and mitigating against this with the outlined strategy of approach, combined with Tactical Empathy through Labeling, Mirroring and Dynamic Silence... There is just a ton of high quality negotiation advice in this video, thank you, it is sincerely appreciated! All the best.
These skills, if they ethically used they can help a lot in making the World as a better place for everyone.
This is powerful! i need to listen to Mr Derek more often!! Thank you for sharing all this super valuable knowledge!!
Tim from their recent interview is on here. Cool.
Cool?
@@anupamajois4610
Damn, I totally started explaining why that was cool in my head too. Thought about telling you why it was.
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It seems you are using accusation audit techninque in the 9th minute of the video.
Yellow glasses! Small CZcams world! haha
Absolutely!
What is the difference between Tactical empathy and empathy ?
Tactical Empathy is the calibrated application of emotional intelligence. The difference is with Tactical Empathy we create trust based influence by demonstrating understanding. How do you demonstrate understanding? By clearly articulating the world as they see it through their eyes.
@@NegotiationMastery first, thank you very much for the clarification. Much appreciated! I definitely have a better understanding of tactical empathy now (I didn't find such a simple explanation in your materials). Would it be a complete waste of time to share how empathy relates to what you wrote tactical empathy? Are these two different concepts ?
@@NegotiationMastery
So empathy is the ability to understand the feelings of others. Tactical empathy is the ability to help others demonstrate how deep you're listening how thoughtful you're considering their position.
Is this how it can be interpreted?
How do you combine this in practice and what is the results of this?
If I have a 93% success rate, I get fired. Lol.
You fly planes. Lol
Hello Swans,
Sick empathy vs. good empathy. I have come across such comparisons.
To be honest, none of the presented elements convince me. What do you think about this practical approach?
Sick empathy
A person says - I'm jumping off a cliff into the abyss!
You go to him over that cliff and say - dear, I understand you, that you are in a black hole, I also had it, somehow it will be solved, you just have to change your behavior, ask your family for help, I will help you do something about it, you can count on me etc. (pity, consolation, senseless advice appear). As a result, you make him want to jump even more. You take on the emotions and problems of this person. You don't help him, but you harm yourself.
Good empathy
You go over the cliff and say to the jumper - I'm next to you, you listen to him, repeat his words, ask deepening questions e.g. - "..and when you jump, what will it give you, what will it change, what else can you do/what is exit number 3, what decision/steps do you want to take?
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