Daniel Goleman on Focus: The Secret to High Performance and Fulfilment

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  • čas přidán 1. 11. 2013
  • Psychologist Daniel Goleman shot to fame with his groundbreaking bestseller Emotional Intelligence. Raw intelligence alone is not a sure predictor of success in life. A greater role is played by 'softer' skills such as self-control, self-motivation, empathy and good interpersonal relationships.

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  • @Intelligence-Squared
    @Intelligence-Squared  Před 3 lety +254

    Watch Daniel Goleman talk about Emotional Intelligence live on December 17: bit.ly/3mXmhhh

    • @anilrego2546
      @anilrego2546 Před 3 lety +30

      Vbbnnmeznmm xamki baat baatein baatein baatein baatein c,, rd,

    • @carlotafriedman2573
      @carlotafriedman2573 Před 3 lety +12

      czcams.com/video/iiKr-i022mY/video.html Excess money forces investment in technology and creates forced unemployment. People can't achieve the technological knowledge demanded by the market because that changes very fast. The Progressive Growth of the Money Supply Principle (year 2013) will stop this madness, because the Principle tells us the exact quantity of new money the economy needs to works correctly, driving us to the Wicksell interest rate or natural interest.

    • @powermotivatorkamalkantbit250
      @powermotivatorkamalkantbit250 Před 3 lety +18

      Amazing! Helped me rethinking about my attention. Thank you so so much.,😏

    • @pedroolmos1417
      @pedroolmos1417 Před 3 lety +4

      Y

    • @D-A-RifatulIslam
      @D-A-RifatulIslam Před 3 lety +3

      @@anilrego2546!, h'!h!h!h!,]!h

  • @1fty
    @1fty Před 3 lety +1230

    "The ability to manage emotions is linked with the ability to pay attention." I felt that!

    • @swimmerzo
      @swimmerzo Před 3 lety +8

      well now it all adds up bc im bipolar 😭😭😭

    • @Dman9fp
      @Dman9fp Před 3 lety +7

      @@swimmerzo There's lots of flavors of bipolar. Not sure how much he went into it-- but yeah-- There are whole systems of the mind controlling us outside our active consciousness. Some say it is like another person. This is what ad companies target to win us over. Our feelings/ intuition/ subconcious, or whatever you wanna call it. Of course yes, when we observe it, the irrational parts can be brought to light and corrected/ prevented. Of course stress/ very stressful situations muddle things up/ if we are or become sensitive enough, things can go out of our control (the higher order thinking parts of the brain shut off and subconscious literally takes over when we are stressed enough; the brain is a funny thing, but makes sense evolutionarily when being attacked at least, for sure. Anxiety is a killer too tho, and the demons can be imaginary yet all too real in the mind. Gratitude and working on resilience/ prevention can go a long ways)

    • @c.calliecoleman1531
      @c.calliecoleman1531 Před 3 lety +6

      And I NEEDED that. Good to know.

    • @irenamehta5504
      @irenamehta5504 Před 2 lety +1

      U

    • @khalidh3091
      @khalidh3091 Před 2 lety +14

      Méditation is just based on that, when you pay attention to your breath and avoid being distracted by your thoughts you can calm your mind.
      Our thoughts change the way that we feel, which subsequently changes the way that we act. It's called the cognitive triangle and it's the foundation of CBT therapy.

  • @thebetbetunderground9548
    @thebetbetunderground9548 Před 5 lety +2482

    "A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention."

    • @raemornverak6616
      @raemornverak6616 Před 4 lety +13

      true

    • @williambruckner4457
      @williambruckner4457 Před 4 lety +26

      Well said...paralysis ensues.

    • @nubianra6965
      @nubianra6965 Před 4 lety +20

      @NISHANT SACHANIA Thank you for cleaning the comment.

    • @samyamgupta5557
      @samyamgupta5557 Před 3 lety +5

      I didn't get this line.

    • @pmacci
      @pmacci Před 3 lety +5

      Great quote from the lecture, I love the question and answer session at the end, I know from your post it was about a year ago... How much of it do you remember? Just curious

  • @helleeno
    @helleeno Před rokem +142

    "The exercise is not keeping your mind focused (...) it's: when it wanders, bring it back". The most spot on, clearest, simplest, most brilliant approach to defining meditation I've ever seen. This right here is the moment I've finally got it. Thank you.

    • @Moose808
      @Moose808 Před rokem +1

      How's that going for you?

    • @soundhealingbygene
      @soundhealingbygene Před 8 měsíci +2

      totally relate

    • @helleeno
      @helleeno Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@Moose808pretty good

    • @sanjaydwivedi7855
      @sanjaydwivedi7855 Před 3 měsíci +1

      This is practiced for the first 3 days in a 10 day Vipassana meditation course. 4th day onwards actual Vipassana practice starts. But these 3 days bring very good focus and sharpness.

    • @elfullin
      @elfullin Před 2 měsíci

      This is only one layer of meditation. Some schools don’t consider using mental force or energy to bring back focus as meditation. Instead, letting the mind wander BUT being the watcher of the mind, is of a higher and deeper level of consciousness.
      To bring back the mind from wondering required you to entangle yourself with it. Subverting your awareness for thought.

  • @Kingobstgarten1999
    @Kingobstgarten1999 Před 3 lety +382

    My god this was 2013. The phone situation has become even worse

    • @omarmahfouz5599
      @omarmahfouz5599 Před 3 lety +16

      Exactly, we need new updated neurological studies and theories

    • @joeldiaz5857
      @joeldiaz5857 Před 3 lety +4

      Omar Mahfouz agree

    • @miguelchippsinteligente6072
      @miguelchippsinteligente6072 Před 3 lety +3

      Tesla referenced human energy 🌬👻jesus christ referenced living waters 💎👩‍🎓👨‍🎓science described water memory 🌊👩‍🎨👨‍🎨existence reflecting psychologically, psalms16:24 k,j proverbs 27:19👻💎👩‍🎓👨‍🎓💖🗽🤍🧮⚖🌪☄👩‍🎨👨‍🎨🌬

    • @gherieg.1091
      @gherieg.1091 Před 2 lety +2

      Jesus said “I came that they might have Life and Life in abundance”.
      And anyone who listens and “follow Me” Him get the tools how to live not only an accomplished but a joyful life LIKE NO ONE ELSE CAN GIVE.
      These lectures are good for someone who’s not following God ... but they are really “the fruit of the knowledge of god and Evil”. Human ingenuity generated and hence way imperfect and “UNWHOLE”. Can never be nearly of as comprehensive range as they need to be. Jesus gives ALL OF IT.

    • @TheBlackJewelz
      @TheBlackJewelz Před 2 lety

      Imagine what it will be like 8 years from now smh

  • @simonjohnson2897
    @simonjohnson2897 Před 3 lety +228

    I watched this talk seven years after it was posted. Demands for our attention have increased significantly since then and it’s likely to get worse. I deleted all my social media accounts some years ago and have never regretted it

    • @God-official1
      @God-official1 Před 2 lety +5

      If you're focusing on youtube videos like this you've missed the satire of this speech

    • @iamf6641
      @iamf6641 Před 2 lety +2

      @@God-official1 pls enlighten us..

    • @Keys879
      @Keys879 Před 2 lety +23

      @@God-official1 Better than watching cat videos and 10 second tiktok's. Come on now.

    • @darleneokeefe5866
      @darleneokeefe5866 Před 2 lety +11

      CZcams is social. Not as intense though as FB but I understand what you mean .

    • @tool27
      @tool27 Před 2 lety +16

      @@darleneokeefe5866 Not necessarily. I believe social media is what you make it to be. For example some could just consider youtube a library of vast information. If you choose to interact with other commenters is when it becomes “social” media.

  • @jenselee7878
    @jenselee7878 Před 8 lety +110

    I'm very certain he knows what he is talking about because his Performance as a presenter is very great which means he needs to have good focus. He is very charismatic.

    • @cartergomez5390
      @cartergomez5390 Před 2 lety +2

      Yes, he also talks about mindfulness meditation. I am eating breakfast while listening and then doing my mindfulness meditation afterwards. Tomorrow is vipassana. 🧘‍♂️ 🕉 🙏 🤲

    • @phils0209
      @phils0209 Před 10 měsíci

      Here is the Way.

  • @tenkolew
    @tenkolew Před 3 lety +107

    Here I am feeling guilty listening to this brilliant lecture on focus while I’m hard at work.

    • @itsmoshalawi
      @itsmoshalawi Před 2 lety +3

      I feel you sister! I guess it deserves a couple of rewatches cause it definitely caught my attention on many occasions! 😍

    • @cindyd2963
      @cindyd2963 Před 2 lety +6

      And I'm watching it while reading the comments 🤦‍♀️

    • @itsmoshalawi
      @itsmoshalawi Před 2 lety

      @@cindyd2963 don't worry there are gems in there that further intrigues your curiosity to fully watch it! *Loops the video*

    • @stirfryjedi
      @stirfryjedi Před 2 lety +2

      Here I am reading comments instead of listening to his brilliant lecture 🤣

  • @arampianist
    @arampianist Před 3 lety +143

    Are you kidding me?!? They put an ad right in the middle of him guiding a mindfulness excercise... 🤦‍♂️

    • @virgo1969100
      @virgo1969100 Před 3 lety +7

      Lol...I agree! It's like "REALLY!" I had to refocus on what am supposed to do.

    • @keithcurrams
      @keithcurrams Před 3 lety +9

      One word: AdBlock. You'll wonder how you lived without it.

    • @darylc20061
      @darylc20061 Před 3 lety +7

      CZcams premium. Definitely worth it if you use CZcams often!

    • @rotesosse
      @rotesosse Před 3 lety +3

      @@keithcurrams you're doing it right

    • @rotesosse
      @rotesosse Před 3 lety +3

      @@darylc20061 you're doing it wrong

  • @jigneshpadia
    @jigneshpadia Před 3 lety +114

    1. Performance peaks at 110% of attention or mindfulness.
    2. Focus can help with mastery.
    3. Mind wandering can be good when looking for a creative solutions.
    4. Poor attention results in distraction which in turn results in stress.
    5. There are three types of Empathy. Empathetic concerns, cognitive and emotional.
    6. Paying attention is a rare commodity these days.
    7. It can be improved through practice. Its like a muscle.
    8. Use breathing buddy for kids to help with mindfulness practice
    9. Practicing breathing can help gaining more attention and mindfulness. Focus on breath.
    10. Manage emotions - Red, Yellow, Green.

    • @user-el4bt2re2p
      @user-el4bt2re2p Před 6 měsíci

      You missed one of the most things sir. "Somatic Markers"

    • @ilyaskhan1679
      @ilyaskhan1679 Před 5 měsíci

      ❤ 6:08 6:11 6:13 ❤🎉

    • @luyandaDjLia
      @luyandaDjLia Před 3 měsíci

      "mind wondering is essential"

    • @user-hc4rt8ce8d
      @user-hc4rt8ce8d Před 2 měsíci

      Brilliant points, rather than listening to the whole blabber. Good for people who like to hear stories not for individuals with high IQ who want straight to the point answers.

  • @shenanigans-20__20
    @shenanigans-20__20 Před 2 lety +80

    The framework of your words are very helpful! It's like hearing an artist paint a masterpiece.
    Thank you.

  • @kyraocity
    @kyraocity Před 3 lety +110

    14:00 Neurobiology of frazzle
    50% of time the mind wanders. Not engaged? Cortisol levels are too low.
    15:20 Mind wandering is anti correlated to flow. Essential for insight.
    16:00 make connections to remote values in a new way = creativity
    18:46 somatic markers. Language of the body.
    19:30 inner ethical awareness
    21:50 Three kinds of empathy. Cognitive. Emotional. Empathic concern.
    23:40 outer focus. systems view. Understanding what’s going on in the world outside you. 3rd kind of focus. 3 kinds. Inner. Other. Outer.
    25:36 increase attention. Sit up and notice your breathe cycles slowly and with full awareness. Lose focus? Gently restart again. The exercise is bringing your attention back after it wanders. This is a rep for growth. Habituation is what the brain does. Orienting is opening up. It excites the brain. See Hit makers for just enough difference to orient at will.
    30:00 mindfulness 8 weeks 30 mins a day.
    31:00 Childhood has changed. A loss of focus. Constant distraction. 32:25 Brain is part organ to develop. Repeated experience shapes the brain. This is how neuro plasticity in circuitry grows. Are we helping children’s brain grow in the best ways? Breathing buddies. Strengthening the attention muscle. Regulating emotion.
    35:13 Social emotional learning. SEL. To handle themselves and their relationships
    36:30 Red light. Yellow light. Green light. Can’t control how emotions come but you can lengthen the period between emotion and response. Marshmallow test. If you’re not able to mange your impulse you can’t learn as well.
    40:00 SEL + relationships. Put ups is a way to handle put downs.
    45:15 Cookie Monster can’t restrain himself. 2-4 y/o learn by modeling.
    50:48 emotions are contagious

  • @eyeswideshut3001
    @eyeswideshut3001 Před 4 lety +55

    "To make connections between remote elements in a new way to have value; that's the definition of a creative act."

  • @TechyTubeDotCom
    @TechyTubeDotCom Před 9 lety +26

    Goleman reminded me listening is an enjoyable experience. Speakers should use him as a model on how to convey ideas. Amazing teacher.

  • @thompenjlester8109
    @thompenjlester8109 Před 3 lety +18

    Lecture notes for those who don't have time
    Daniel goleman focus lecture
    1. full mutual attention-no distractions/focus. emotional or physical distractions
    2.nonverbal synchrony-choreograph your body language w/ the other person
    3.feel good
    -focus on the task at hand, not whats upsetting you
    -dont disengage, always engage
    -be aware of the bigger picture
    cognitive empathy i understand how you think of things, necessary if you want to resonate with somebody
    emotional empathy immediate perception of how the other person is feeling
    empathetic concern predisposition to help
    -mindfulness breathing-returning to the breath improves focus and attention
    -emotions are contagious. your calmness will make others calmer
    -learn to delay gratification
    -in a group setting people pay the most attention to what the most powerful person says or does
    -pessimism can lead to depression
    -turn pessimistic attitudes like "Im stupid", into something like "the situation was stupid" and keep at it, being vigilant about any negative thoughts that arrive
    -cultivate the habit of seeing what is right in every situation instead of what is wrong
    -the more involved and passionate you are about something, and its valued the greater the 'flow'
    -if your frazzled, meditate/workout before the stressor and everyday

    • @captainaryan26
      @captainaryan26 Před 3 lety

      I liked it, so now it's a little easier for people to reach to your help (this message)

  • @pl9742
    @pl9742 Před 4 lety +119

    37:04 One definition of maturity is lengthening the gap between impulse and action.

    • @Sebastian-ok5wr
      @Sebastian-ok5wr Před 3 lety +5

      These are the type of quotes that mark you forever, awesome talk.

    • @kahlesjf
      @kahlesjf Před 2 lety

      Has always been the case. It was taught long before the prevalence of cell phones.

    • @johnbell1810
      @johnbell1810 Před 2 lety

      So if you get shot in the head, you have reached maturity?

    • @kahlesjf
      @kahlesjf Před 2 lety +1

      @@johnbell1810 He is referring to the same person when he says: "...the gap between impulse and action. But, I guess, if after someone has the impuse to shoot themselves in the head, they wait a sufficiently long period of time, it constitues that person's terminal state of "maturity", according to this definition. 🙃

  • @deannamclain6430
    @deannamclain6430 Před 7 lety +85

    Daniel Goleman is brilliant. He is gift to mankind. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, your insights, your passion.

    • @miguelchippsinteligente6072
      @miguelchippsinteligente6072 Před 3 lety

      Tesla referenced human energy 🌬👻jesus christ referenced living waters 💎👩‍🎓👨‍🎓science described water memory 🌊👨‍🎨👩‍🎨existence reflecting psychologically, psalms16:24 k,j proverbs 27:19👻💎👩‍🎓👨‍🎓💖🗽🤍🧮⚖🌪☄👨‍🎨👩‍🎨🌬

    • @c.calliecoleman1531
      @c.calliecoleman1531 Před 3 lety +1

      I agree.
      I really liked how he explained when you scold a child, and tell them what they did hurt the other child, you are helping them develop empathy. Now I understand why all the day care shows I've seen where the teacher is scolding a child this same way, I use to wonder why they were explaining that to a child, and now I see why. Makes absolutely good sense.

  • @DasypusN
    @DasypusN Před 4 lety +19

    How is it that this man takes so many of the topics I find the most interesting in the world today and has united them in the first 37 minutes of this lecture??? We are often so aware of the dark side of the internet but the access to this kind of insight at the touch of a key is something to be deeply grateful for and will maybe help us find our way out of the confusion of today's world. Thank you Google and the architects of the internet, Daniel Goleman, and all the humans who have contributed to the ideas he talks about in this lecture. Most importantly I am so glad there are so many of you out there- currently 1,741,574 of you- who take the time to pay attention!

    • @MyDevice-yl5pn
      @MyDevice-yl5pn Před rokem

      yes, people really need more attention & focus

  • @elizabethjones2084
    @elizabethjones2084 Před 2 lety +25

    I have adhd. I would love for our brains to be studied. Many of us are highly intelligent and have an incredibly fast ability to comprehend and learn because our focus could not be on that object for long. We have no internal motivation or reward system, have a poor executive function system, and yet creatively find ways to make it through life surrounded by neurotypical people. The world isn't built around our brains and it's needs, so our existence alone requires incredible feat and perseverance.
    You discussed how distracting our world has become, however it's only a fraction of what our world has always been, including when our brains were being developed and habits were being learned, plus we endured huge social stigma by people who don't understand the condition.

    • @anonymouschicken952
      @anonymouschicken952 Před 2 lety +1

      Maybe I shouldn’t be saying this, but it’s pretty impressive how well adderall works for people like us, isn’t it? Now it’s an addictive drug, obviously. Literally an amphetamine. But if your brain just can’t break out of that frazzled state where your brain can’t follow any train of thought for more than a few seconds, adderall works shockingly well. Unbelievable how much it helped me.

    • @elizabethjones2084
      @elizabethjones2084 Před 2 lety +1

      @@anonymouschicken952 our brains react to it differently. It calms me down. And yes it does work amazingly well.

  • @tamaratomadeperez9887
    @tamaratomadeperez9887 Před 3 lety +3

    What a facinating conference. the fact is that since I had red his first book Emocional intelligence when it appeared I was thrilled. He manages to. Keep always at the same level.Thank you for your teachings.

  • @maxwellcooper2
    @maxwellcooper2 Před 6 lety +9

    This was tremendously helpful and informative to me, thank you very much. I used to be very focused and on track, but thanks to a career change of sorts in the last couple of years (now teaching elementary school) my mind is often scattered and I feel terribly unfocused. I am working on leaving this kind of work and getting back in touch with myself and my true passions and strengths. Thanks.

  • @ashtonparkband
    @ashtonparkband Před 2 lety +6

    Thank you Mr Goleman for the time and effort that you put into this lecture. The lecture itself is an exercise in keeping focused. I know that what you were talking about was interesting and useful and although my mind would wander on occasions I brought myself back to you and what you were saying. Building brain muscle is a choice we all can make as long as we're alive. Thanks to you,for making me aware of this, it will be my go to.

  • @lizgichora6472
    @lizgichora6472 Před 3 lety +101

    Excellent lecture; neuroscience (brain Connections) and behaviors. To know that Optimism can be learned is actually fascinating, thank you very much.

  • @abirroy1333
    @abirroy1333 Před 2 lety +26

    An extraordinary mind with upmost humility. Truly a heavenly companion. Your lecture was no less than a beautiful orchestra. Really humbled by your teachings

  • @nelupopoviciu9447
    @nelupopoviciu9447 Před 10 lety +90

    Like in the circles of Zorro, the first one represents self awareness, the second one represents self control, and the third one self motivation. The two outer ones represent relations outside yourself (empathy and influence). Thank you Daniel.

    • @bobravenscraft5376
      @bobravenscraft5376 Před 3 lety +1

      Today to get empathy. Someone else has to see it to stimulate guilt. Aka. People don't give a. Blank

    • @God-official1
      @God-official1 Před 2 lety

      Don't mention zorro. That's cultural appropriation. zorro is folklore in my culture and I'm very offended

    • @larrycarter1192
      @larrycarter1192 Před 2 lety

      Umm. They left out self reliance, how to be a person maybe, I reckon I will rely on the government to do that for me too! LOL.

    • @kahlesjf
      @kahlesjf Před 2 lety

      @@God-official1 Hey Freeman, you are on the wrong set.

  • @shreyaspadhye7337
    @shreyaspadhye7337 Před 3 lety +6

    What a great talk. More importantly, what an incredible gentleman!

  • @sunitafisher4758
    @sunitafisher4758 Před 3 lety +22

    🌸 I have always felt I have been born into the wrong time, I hate texting, emailing or messaging
    I prefer walks and talking face to face, there is something so incredible seeing someone else’s eyes light up as you talk or hearing what they have to say & noticing how much they appreciate being heard are feelings you just cannot grasp from a text etc
    I have always kept few simple rules, once in company of someone else I do not text or return calls. It’s liberating not being a constant slave to technology & I do use it when I require to look something up, however I don’t allow it to dominate my precious time 👌🏼

    • @juliawinsa4260
      @juliawinsa4260 Před 3 lety +1

      I can very much relate to your feelings!

    • @mqh2411
      @mqh2411 Před 2 lety

      Totally agree, but the thing is, interacting with people face to face is sometimes challenging (part of communication goes through body language and you have to read it, people's face tell a story about them that you cannot miss, etc...).
      For some people such as me, it's harder to focus than texting.

  • @mariachristinecordero312
    @mariachristinecordero312 Před 3 lety +2

    So timely on a research we are working on. Thank you for the wealth of learning Mr. Goleman! 😊

  • @johnnyfitzgerald3174
    @johnnyfitzgerald3174 Před 7 lety +6

    Superb talk. Particularly enjoyed the reference to focused breathing and attention as a skill deficit that cannot be cured with drugs. Thanks Professor Goleman!

  • @arlenehutchinson9259
    @arlenehutchinson9259 Před 5 lety +7

    I'll have to watch it again and again, so much food for thought. Thank you

  • @mmaryam21
    @mmaryam21 Před 6 měsíci +2

    10 years later, this is still extremely invaluable, highly relevant information. Thank you Daniel!

  • @kyul9357
    @kyul9357 Před 2 lety +2

    I happened onto this video while I was driving during a particularly frazzled period. I was driving to distract myself so I drove for a couple of hours which allowed me to listen to the entire lecture. When the video arrived at the part about how breathing exercise shifts the brains activity from right to left, I began to focus on my breath for the next 30 minutes. By the time my drive ended, my frazzled state dissipated. I left so relieved. Thank you Mr Goleman!

  • @c.w6593
    @c.w6593 Před 4 lety +56

    I love a well done talk with a bonus open question session at the end. Thank you for sharing this freely for all of us to ponder upon and even take better strides in our own lives by applying what we feel we can improve on. I personally look forward to going back to therapy and working on the cognitive issues that are mostly impacted by a traumatic childhood. Thanks again.

    • @emekmek3197
      @emekmek3197 Před 2 lety

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  • @pmatusiak2000
    @pmatusiak2000 Před 6 lety +4

    Absolutely amazing talk, he just blew me away with his great insights into human psychology and behavior, which is what I'm most interested in. Time and again, he produces amazing observations and analysis of stuff that are really important in most of our lives. The talk is about focus and managing attention, but he draws into the mix so many other fascinating things. A highly recommended talk.

  • @Nedwin
    @Nedwin Před 2 lety +1

    I've been a fan of Daniel Goleman, and have read many of his books and writings. But this lecture is something else. Thanks for uploading.

  • @christinagarneysnaturalmys9738

    Master Daniel u remind me of my late father Alfred Ernest. He passed at 90. We have got Scottish and German in heritage. The rest all my family is Eurasian Dutch Portuguese. Born in Ceylon. Your voice reminds me of my late family. Thank you for being a brother a father and most of all a master of mind brain and body
    I am spiritual so I am always aware and in tune. Music soft vibes of strings panio drums pipes.natural sounds of natures. Love Christina. Xx

  • @hasnainabbasdilawar8832
    @hasnainabbasdilawar8832 Před 6 lety +13

    Focus is my favorite book that contains science-backed tips to improve focus. Daniel has changed my mind!

  • @runningsamurai7962
    @runningsamurai7962 Před 4 lety +13

    Daniel Goleman gave a masterclass in emotional intelligence in his response to the ridiculous first question about "rubbish" culture and the role genetics play in poor neighborhoods

  • @dennismorris7573
    @dennismorris7573 Před 3 lety +3

    Excellent lecture by Dr. Daniel Goleman - more important today than ever.

  • @kayc421
    @kayc421 Před 3 lety +9

    The first guy to ask his question is a big part of the problem. Dude was walking a fine line with his hateful question. I appreciated the presenters response.

  • @josemiguelphoto
    @josemiguelphoto Před 9 lety +9

    Amazing eye opening, suspicion validating... thank you!

  • @BambilianaR
    @BambilianaR Před 10 lety +25

    One of the most brilliant people of our time.

  • @natureswhisper1397
    @natureswhisper1397 Před 4 lety +1

    The answer to the last question hits me. My mother always tried to protect me from anything and I know for sure that's why, even today, I'm still timid (less than before but not much). I think it's the thing I needed to hear to start challenging myself in social situations, like going to talk to a woman face-to-face for example. Thank you Daniel Goleman!
    By the way, his book about emotional intelligence is a must read. I will read it again in the futur if I still have it. A huge book but there's a lot to learn from it.

  • @carlos.rgz.lpz.93
    @carlos.rgz.lpz.93 Před 2 lety +6

    Daniel Goleman and Edward De Bono, two of my masters, respect

  • @Primeaux182
    @Primeaux182 Před 6 lety +30

    21:00 such a funny setup of the story. I love Mr. Goleman's story telling and his peaceful and smooth presence, which is very captivating :)

  • @najmlion7129
    @najmlion7129 Před 7 lety +47

    "Sesame Street have lessons based in science, wrapped in entertainment." AMAZING

    • @Matira269
      @Matira269 Před 3 lety +2

      This is similar to how fables are usually constructed to reflect truth. Two that come to mind are, 'The Pied Piper', and 'The Emperor Is Naked'. These have stuck with me from childhood, and I have seen the scenes play out from that time and always understood the truths that were imparted back then!

    • @jheart3354
      @jheart3354 Před 2 lety

      @@Matira269 ✡😘🥰

  • @wellrose17
    @wellrose17 Před 3 lety +6

    Mindfulness came to me after an abusive childhood, suicide attempts , addiction and prison. I was labeled to have impulse control when i was 9. I´m 40 now and I´ve over come a lot and Mindfulness has been a huge help. I also believe our society that put´s profit over people has ruined us. War , weapons , environmental , addiction and healthcare profiteering is an antiquated divisive and oppressive system that must end.

  • @johnchateau
    @johnchateau Před 3 lety +36

    interesting quote Professor Goleman: " attention is a rare commodity, but its a precious commodity" in this current world absolutely true

  • @billy-joes6851
    @billy-joes6851 Před 7 lety +4

    I think that was one of best talks I've ever heard.

  • @georgegray2712
    @georgegray2712 Před 7 lety +5

    Great lecture. Dan Goleman has done amazing work!

  • @glowfo7708
    @glowfo7708 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks very much for this lecture.
    I'm actively working to Solve the Problems described, and this has connected a few dots in my flaws, and also greatly accelerated the Synthesis of my Community and EcoSystemic Regeneration Project.
    Thanks 💙

  • @kbrehmk
    @kbrehmk Před 2 lety +4

    that first audience member's question was vile and Daniel handled it with great sensitivity

  • @SOSM209
    @SOSM209 Před 8 lety +3

    What Dr. Golman is teaching in this video should be practiced as we watch him and listen to him Right Here.. this is a Great Place to start to Implement what he is teaching...

  • @TheBroDude777
    @TheBroDude777 Před 10 lety +12

    Wow... This was absolutely amazing... I love it!

  • @whatswrongwithu
    @whatswrongwithu Před 2 lety +1

    Interesting that as I was checking the comments section while watching the video (like I normally do), I called myself out and said don't be distracted, pay attention, FOCUS! What a brilliant talk this is! 👏

  • @mel8612
    @mel8612 Před 3 lety +25

    Lol as I took part in the focus exercise at 26min an advert popped up right in the middle of it. Ah the irony. 😂

    • @Zetrisy
      @Zetrisy Před 2 lety +4

      It’s a test! The universe will throw tests all the time to see how you react, attention is key 🔑

    • @norm5392
      @norm5392 Před 2 lety +1

      I had the same happen to me

    • @CL2K
      @CL2K Před 2 lety +1

      Gotta love adblocker and CZcams Vanced!

  • @ianwaldeck
    @ianwaldeck Před 5 lety +3

    Fantastic! Thank you so much Daniel Goleman this is exceedingly important.

  • @elizabeth96270
    @elizabeth96270 Před 4 lety +37

    The best lecture I've ever watched in this field.

  • @ssc1348
    @ssc1348 Před 3 lety +74

    15:22: "Mind wandering is the enemy of focusing, but is absolutely essential for creative insight."
    25:17: How attention can be strengthened.

  • @nubianra6965
    @nubianra6965 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you Mr. Goleman, you are a wonderful speaker, I learned something from you. Wow I love this guy!

  • @moffattF
    @moffattF Před 6 lety +4

    Fulfills the classical definition of a professor. Someone who talks in the sleep of others. Good content but condensed version would be highly appreciated.

  • @derdriui
    @derdriui Před 10 lety +15

    I really liked this, thank you for posting it.
    The guy who asked the first question nearly ruined my mood, but somehow the speaker got it back, by basically saying 'you're right' and then proving he's wrong.

    • @Costarluv007
      @Costarluv007 Před 2 lety

      Me too. Most people in a society hate violence and fear it. So violence cannot be deemed a culture of a society

  • @securedcertification477
    @securedcertification477 Před 3 lety +5

    Finally CZcams makes a suggestion that works on the day I need it...

  • @ashrafal-junaid3864
    @ashrafal-junaid3864 Před 3 lety

    that first question had a eugenic vibe to it and the professor delt with it AMAZINGLY!

  • @sneakeypete45
    @sneakeypete45 Před 4 lety +5

    "The Secret of Finishing", Conor Neill, Ted Talk is a good companion lecture to this one by Goleman. Goleman gets through the most dense dialectical stream so conversationally that it belies the weight of the content. Very Good ones, All.

  • @carlhremy
    @carlhremy Před 5 lety +20

    Thank you for this brilliant and inspiring lecture!

  • @KingaGorski
    @KingaGorski Před 2 lety +4

    So many great points in this talk. Meditation has changed my own life so I can personally attest that it’s truly a panacea.

  • @kiyakassa1726
    @kiyakassa1726 Před 3 lety

    This has been the top recommended video to the point I used to think it was an ad. I finally decided to give it a try.

  • @hot4me87
    @hot4me87 Před 5 lety +3

    fantastic, great presentation and I learned so much from you, thank you!

  • @shatarupac3455
    @shatarupac3455 Před 2 lety +11

    Everytime I got distracted, he made me feel guilty enough to zone in again.

  • @patrickknight6542
    @patrickknight6542 Před 5 měsíci +4

    The skill with which Goleman handles the horrifying racism of the first question was masterful! I wonder if the guy asking it had any realization that he had just been put in his place.

    • @MarinaMarina-fr8ex
      @MarinaMarina-fr8ex Před 3 měsíci +2

      I was shocked with that question. And the answer was brilliant.

  • @desiganmit
    @desiganmit Před 3 lety +1

    Sir you were an eye opener with Emotional and Social intelligence. I never knew you are such a great speaker.

  • @lynnlynn983
    @lynnlynn983 Před 7 lety +4

    The best video I have watched in a very long time!!

  • @JoeGrimer
    @JoeGrimer Před 10 lety +651

    Stop looking at the comments, and focus on the video! It may just change the way you think forever!

  • @pininfarinarossa8112
    @pininfarinarossa8112 Před 2 lety +21

    Attention besieged World/ pizzled
    9:12- forms of attention/ forms of distraction
    11:50- flow= 110% attention= peak of performance
    Rapport= mutual flow
    Frazel
    Mind wondering= anti focusing
    16:45- 3 types of attention for leaders
    how decisions are made
    inner ethical radar
    cognitive empathy/ how you think
    emotional empathy/ how you feel
    outer focus/ =systems view/ =big picture view / = strategic thinking
    25:45- train your attention

  • @jide5437
    @jide5437 Před 2 lety +1

    Watching this on split screen while reading sports news and managing a public sector project, while commenting on CZcams. Yes. This video speaks to me.

  • @theinvestmentdoctor8178
    @theinvestmentdoctor8178 Před 3 lety +27

    STOPPED COUNTING how many times I've watched Daniel's videos. Thank you Daniel, you helped me improve my teaching techniques for my students🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

  • @catherineturner3166
    @catherineturner3166 Před 10 lety +7

    The main thing I learned was re-focusing from our mind wandering enhances our brain connections.. I need to practice this!

  • @christianfischer9971
    @christianfischer9971 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for sharing! And this video was shared nine years ago! Our attention spans are increasingly becoming shorter day by day. My generation have children that are now either in college or establishing families of their own. All these poor behaviors and habits are being passed down to the next generation. We, as a society, need to shift our focus and attention back toward things that matter-our family, friends, coworkers, anything that requires our attention. I was thinking today the amount of information we absorb in a single day, and how it can potentially manipulate and distort our minds.

  • @growden100
    @growden100 Před 4 lety +4

    I love this man. Great talk.

  • @CaptainManic2010
    @CaptainManic2010 Před 6 lety +3

    Mr Goleman you've been a hero of mine since I first read your book on EQ.
    Thank you so much for your amazing work.

  • @janaprocella8268
    @janaprocella8268 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much... I've never heard you before but I'm definitely on your truck now....forever more,
    Quote The Raven...!

  • @camiloquijada6498
    @camiloquijada6498 Před 2 lety +1

    You cant imagine how i admire your thinkings Daniel goleman
    Greetings from Chile

  • @dbsk06
    @dbsk06 Před 5 lety +3

    That was the best and most polished and polite response to a question that was posed out of preexisting anger and ideology that was not actually intended to improving understanding but reaffirming the questioner’s existing views.

    • @johnsamuel2401
      @johnsamuel2401 Před 5 lety

      Great observation.

    • @patrickgrengs8552
      @patrickgrengs8552 Před 4 lety +1

      What you choose to interpret as preexisting anger is the expression of a very well-researched field. The science on race, in terms of morphology, physiology, biochemistry, intelligence, delayed gratification, disease resistance, behavior, performance and culture make it vitally clear that there exist vast differences between the races. Race is real. Race exists. As such, there are individuals who look upon race as Race Realists. Do you have a tough time differentiating between a Pygmy and a Western European? That bell curve very simply and beautifully illustrates why Africa and Haiti are brazenly high-fertility, corruption-plagued hell-holes and why Ashkenazi Jews have earned a vastly disproportionate number of Nobel prizes. As the member of the audience pointed out in the question, reporting on these differences often gathers the wrath of the indignant who would rather ignore the painfully obvious and anoint the 'underprivileged' as victims. To wit: It is scarcely the same thing to put a man on the moon as to put a bone in your nose.

  • @infinitafenix3153
    @infinitafenix3153 Před 5 lety +26

    I really appreciate this talk and respect the speaker. Having said that, I also have that feeling of 'how some Western disciplines, psychologists, therapists, etc have taken deep and ancient knowledge of Eastern cultures (Buddhism, Hinduism... ), reshaped it and then sold it as something new and innovative. ' On the other hand, I also think that this may contribute to expand this valuable knowledge and make it more accessible to a larger number of people.

    • @joeybirkle5820
      @joeybirkle5820 Před 4 lety

      Infinita Fenix has to

    • @maheshparab7733
      @maheshparab7733 Před 2 lety

      Can’t agree more

    • @amaresh6620
      @amaresh6620 Před 2 lety

      Thats true 💯❤️

    • @lecomtedemontecristo8451
      @lecomtedemontecristo8451 Před 2 lety +1

      And ancient Greek philosophy too, like stoicism. Particularly when he mentioned the study of positive psichology and the studies of Martin Seligman... Teaching kids to focus on what they can do is the same as saying focus on what you can control, which is essential in stoic phylosophy...

  • @johnmariano47
    @johnmariano47 Před 4 lety

    I got distracted with too many videos today and this is the last one. I thought I would get distracted again and turn it off but he got my ATTENTION. This is an old video but it never grew old. A lot of newer talks about this subject but this is just classic and packed with the right stuff. "It is not about putting your focus on the breath but the idea of being able to shift it back to the breath at will that matters. If you meditate and keep this in mind, your ability to refocus increases. The mind remembers more what is regularly done automatically and just executes it rather than forcing it to remembering what exactly to do. To the lazy brain, the known process of going back requires less energy than remembering the goal or task which will require it over and over again to ask why are you doing that again? Thanks.

  • @myrtillesm3532
    @myrtillesm3532 Před rokem

    Thanks so much for putting this precious tea hing on accessible to us. It's priceless

  • @rubin-healmysocialanxiety702

    Great video! love how it was mainly the external factors that showed whether the participants stopped or not. We are deeply affected by our environments!

  • @jemicaganacia1544
    @jemicaganacia1544 Před 5 lety +29

    I love this talk! I'm gonna apply it to my parenting someday! Kudos!

    • @lwgg742
      @lwgg742 Před 4 lety +1

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  • @pratikdagu
    @pratikdagu Před 3 měsíci

    This is the first youtube video i have watched without skipping or speeding up. The information is old but more relevant in todays world. Will watch it 2 more times to actually condense and apply.

  • @creativeconflictsolutions8704

    Daniel Goleman is an amazing author.

  • @MayoBaluyut
    @MayoBaluyut Před 3 lety +3

    This is most excellent. It might've just helped me figure out the root problem of my depression and anxiety. Neuroplasticity. Cognitive behavioral therapy. Forming new thoughts amd habits. Resilience. Patience. Attention. Great content. Thanks for this!

    • @SamuelCEllis
      @SamuelCEllis Před 8 měsíci

      I'm enjoying it for similar reasons. How did you go with this in the last two years?

    • @MayoBaluyut
      @MayoBaluyut Před 8 měsíci

      @@SamuelCEllis I almost forgot watching this. But it was probably a catalyst for me to escape the matrix and be more brave and productive in doing things. One day at a time. No rush. Results with little goals create fulfillment. Less worry. More doing. Hope you are well and good!

  • @chelseaj3817
    @chelseaj3817 Před 2 lety +5

    I love how Daniel Goleman shut that dude down towards the end, as he came with an already made inductive argument of an entire group of people and children being all violent , and all tainted due to their genetic makeup. He reaffirms that the behaviors are largely situational, not genetic. That same dangerously small minded rhetoric was the basis of writings like the "Willy Lynch Letters".

  • @bubbles7806
    @bubbles7806 Před 4 lety +1

    Amazing talk. One of the best I've ever been at.

  • @alenetan2466
    @alenetan2466 Před 11 měsíci

    I thank God for people like Dr. Daniel Goleman!

  • @jeevanshuattreya8145
    @jeevanshuattreya8145 Před 3 lety +7

    Every word he spoke is GOLD. Period.❤️

  • @gaston.
    @gaston. Před 4 lety +3

    great talk.. I didn't buy my 1st smartphone until 2016.. and already I need this type of reminder to bring me back to less distraction.

  • @mohamedhammad210
    @mohamedhammad210 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks a lot. Really I got many benefits from hearing this lecture two times

  • @Roepoet
    @Roepoet Před 7 lety +8

    beautiful!!!!!!loved watching this

  • @noyes9885
    @noyes9885 Před 5 lety +15

    Wherever you go, there you are
    The power or now
    The power of full engagement
    Focus:The hidden driver of excellence
    Applied focus
    Present focus
    Presence

    • @manasbhattarai4050
      @manasbhattarai4050 Před 3 lety

      I am certain you realize the depth and magnanimity of your statement "The Power or Now ! "