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  • čas přidán 14. 05. 2024
  • Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro breaks down how to approach high-pressure negotiations using examples from his time with the bureau. Joe goes through the arenal of tactics used by himself and the FBI explaining what to leverage and when to achieve the desired outcome.
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  • @f-35alightningii79
    @f-35alightningii79 Před 2 lety +4147

    “Oh come on, how bad can meeting the family be?”
    Her dad:

  • @semoremo9548
    @semoremo9548 Před 2 lety +977

    I've heard therapists also use silence a lot, because if they remain silent while you think you're "done" telling a story, by seeing they remain silent it makes you nervous and you keep talking, adding to the story, to fill the silence. It's a very clever thing, and I've heard it also works with kids/adults if they're trying to lie or omit parts of a story. So basically if you want them to keep talking, stay silent.

    • @mystery6411
      @mystery6411 Před 2 lety +43

      Lol, if i find myself talking to someone who does that I'll just throw question to get him to talk.

    • @arodvaz1870
      @arodvaz1870 Před rokem

      @@mystery6411 or just go away. What a boring person.

    • @jlt2693
      @jlt2693 Před rokem +9

      Lawyers do that also

    • @colonelradec5956
      @colonelradec5956 Před rokem +15

      ive had doctors do that. alot of them do. i also go silent lol.

    • @sakuranovaryan9261
      @sakuranovaryan9261 Před rokem +1

      @@mystery6411 sameeee.

  • @ClaudioBOsorio
    @ClaudioBOsorio Před 2 lety +1708

    Wired please keep bringing Joe. He's very good. We could sit and hear this man for days.

  • @garymc1105
    @garymc1105 Před 2 lety +1684

    The lenses of his glasses are *so* clean and pristine. Not a single scratch on them.

    • @katacutie
      @katacutie Před 2 lety +26

      He has enough money/care to wear good glasses... So?

    • @ClaudioBOsorio
      @ClaudioBOsorio Před 2 lety +52

      Guy is probably rich. He also cares about his image. He does what he preaches... it was actually his job to do what he preaches about

    • @unknownuser-fv2lq
      @unknownuser-fv2lq Před 2 lety +40

      @@katacutie take your negativity away and go sit in the corner alone like you do in school.

    • @sucyshi
      @sucyshi Před 2 lety +19

      I imagine it's standard procedure to thoroughly clean their glasses before the interview just as it's common for someone to come over and dust off your clothes before an interview like this. But I don't actually know, pure speculation

    • @mark-ish
      @mark-ish Před 2 lety +43

      @@unknownuser-fv2lq you can sit in the other corner and reflect on your rude comment.

  • @ItsJoKeZ
    @ItsJoKeZ Před 2 lety +3404

    big fan of this magical bald man and his wizard words

  • @MythopoeicNavid
    @MythopoeicNavid Před 2 lety +587

    Chronocity and silence. I wish we had more of this in actual classes about negotiations and dealing with toxic people. That's a great way to deal with aggressive and toxic people.

    • @ilyaibrahimovic9842
      @ilyaibrahimovic9842 Před 2 lety +24

      "Observe don't absorb" - Ross Rosenberg, addictions counsellor with a CZcams channel about narcissistic abuse

    • @robertr510
      @robertr510 Před 2 lety +1

      *Chronicity

    • @drawingmomentum
      @drawingmomentum Před rokem +1

      @Mithilesh M maybe a well timed bathroom break might interrupt just enuf to feel like silence. I know how irritating it is when someone can't finish the talk bc they have to pee.

    • @itsalorikatpnw
      @itsalorikatpnw Před rokem

      @@ilyaibrahimovic9842 perfect!

    • @peppermintgal4302
      @peppermintgal4302 Před rokem

      No its not.
      Manipulators regularly pass right by this kind of scrutiny because its hogwash. Meanwhile, FBI agents like this put people with tourettes away in prison for... having tourettes.
      They don't know what they are talking about. It's a literal scam, it was thrown out of psychology by Popper's Criteria, (alongside Freud, Jung, and any number of other subpar disciplines,) and it's why so many people the US put in Guantanamo Bay were innocent, (and probably why the US had so much bad intel that they were dropping bombs on hospitals and weddings.
      Turns out, wearing people down is a great way to get innocent people *to lie to you* in order to get you to stop.) (Also, contracts made using this tactic are leonine by nature, they should be void by default, because they impair best judgment, preventing a true meeting of the minds.)

  • @curse4384
    @curse4384 Před 2 lety +4206

    This is the only man that knows where his girlfriend wants to eat at

  • @sachinardao3777
    @sachinardao3777 Před rokem +32

    1.Plan to succeed
    2.Negotiating allegiance(engagement & transaction phase)
    3.Chronicity & silencity
    4.Entropy (let them vent)
    5.Negotiations

    • @tadiafoster4460
      @tadiafoster4460 Před rokem +1

      Thanks

    • @malachite072
      @malachite072 Před 8 měsíci

      Also talking over the person works, blaming them, passive aggressive language and behavior, excessive nonrepetitive persuasion. Sometimes entropy sometimes the other.

  • @carminemartino1197
    @carminemartino1197 Před 2 lety +1029

    the fbi, cia and secret service guys are so interesting to listen to

    • @MrKhan-gs8cw
      @MrKhan-gs8cw Před 2 lety +14

      I'm just here before this comment blows up

    • @jeserthe9402
      @jeserthe9402 Před 2 lety +13

      So interesting , but i really would hate having knoledge that someone i know is an fbi agent , u never know when they tell the truth

    • @mftmss7086
      @mftmss7086 Před 2 lety +51

      yas these are my favourite terrorist groups 😍😍

    • @sunimod1895
      @sunimod1895 Před 2 lety +3

      Yes to listen to, so interesting to listen.
      Listen...

    • @carminemartino1197
      @carminemartino1197 Před 2 lety +1

      @@sunimod1895 yes, listen

  • @dondon-wg9ft
    @dondon-wg9ft Před rokem +28

    I am a high-school teacher, this man is the best teacher I have ever come across. If he were a teacher he would compel students to behave and learn by his demure, logic , professionalism, preparation and command of the subject. No student would successfully be able to undermine his presence and control of the environment.

  • @williamthompson7829
    @williamthompson7829 Před 2 lety +358

    How to out-negotiate the FBI: " I want to speak to an attorney"

    • @yes2day100
      @yes2day100 Před 2 lety +22

      Then hope they don't have scientific or other evidence. Very rarely are confessions the only form of evidence submitted to prove a crime.

    • @YoureRightIThink
      @YoureRightIThink Před 2 lety +37

      @@yes2day100 you can still ask for an attorney tho, even if you're clearly guilty

    • @yes2day100
      @yes2day100 Před 2 lety +25

      @@YoureRightIThink Of course they can. In fact, if you're clearly guilty you should ask for an attorney. If I were innocent and was in an interrogation room being questioned about a crime, however, I would only ask for an attorney if it became clear to me that I was the target of the investigation as opposed to a witness. And I'm a lawyer myself. Because the minute you ask for one, the interrogators are going to strongly suspect that you're guilty and will double their efforts to prove it. My comment was to point out that good circumstantial evidence is often the strongest evidence in a criminal case, because confessions can be half truths, non-truths, or even coerced. They are almost always, at the very least, self-serving.

    • @TheMartyandy
      @TheMartyandy Před 2 lety +38

      @@yes2day100 "If you're clearly guilty..."
      Nah, if you're in an interrogation period, ask for a lawyer. If you haven't done it, you'll want to make sure you don't say anything that gets you falsely convicted, which is much more common than you'd think (It's believed upwards of 10% of convictions are false). If you have done it, you'll want to make sure you get treated fairly and actually get charged under whatever it is you did (For example, if you shoplifted, you'll want a lawyer around so you don't accidentally say anything that pushes it to a burglary or robbery charge).
      To get convicted, all the court needs to see are a minimum of two pieces of evidence. Something you say during an interview can easily be 1 of them - Then all it takes is a shady witness and you're going to prison.

    • @melanatedone8655
      @melanatedone8655 Před 2 lety +2

      BRRROOOOOO.....THEN start humming really loud until they leave.

  • @anonymous-kv3vg
    @anonymous-kv3vg Před 2 lety +140

    i just reading his book '3 min to doomsday' this old man is legend in his profession and have a lot of knowledge which can be learnt...big fan

    • @vesper9547
      @vesper9547 Před 2 lety +5

      I was going to leave this comment that whether he has written a book yet? But thanks... you answered.

  • @ScottMurrayBestFamilyCars
    @ScottMurrayBestFamilyCars Před 2 lety +1171

    Joe Navarro always gets what he wants for dinner. Car dealers give him *his* best price. Highway patrol offers him a refund for speeding.

  • @Chainsaw-ASMR
    @Chainsaw-ASMR Před 2 lety +837

    Imagine having this guy as your father-in-law?

  • @fleetwood7538
    @fleetwood7538 Před 2 lety +6

    This dude reminds me alot of my theatre days. Action: is your job on stage... what are you trying to get them to do, or trying to convince them? That's your job?
    Tactics/ tools: plan/ tools.
    Conversation/ battle: engaging the scene.
    How you assess, engage and process each.... you connect and understand.
    Hardly difficult if you can think well on your toes and are quick witted

  • @anonymousvine4105
    @anonymousvine4105 Před rokem +58

    I like the evidence based reasoning for why it’s not good to get too angry or emotional during negotiations. It tires you out and reduces your ability to process information (which is critical for that engagement phase).

    • @peppermintgal4302
      @peppermintgal4302 Před rokem +4

      Well that's true, but if you try to apply that principal to manipulate others, you will get false confessions much more often than true ones, in part because any real manipulator will apply these principals, and most innocent people will, after enough stress, try anything to get rid of the stressor.

  • @Forgiven313
    @Forgiven313 Před 2 lety +92

    Wow what an incredible amount of control! To sit there face to face with someone who hurts kids in that way, and to maintain control enough to even speak to him at all let alone in a calm and strategic way... AND succeed! wow wow wow so impressive!!

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Před rokem +1

      Remains me of Criminal Minds or The Closer.

  • @barbararipani1331
    @barbararipani1331 Před rokem +9

    Joe Navarro is brilliant. As a therapist I have recommended his lectures and videos to so many people.

  • @TheMarriedSouthernPeaches
    @TheMarriedSouthernPeaches Před 2 lety +258

    Not surprising that planning and engaging with the individual are the most important parts to negotiation. These tactics remind me of the same principles used for a successful presentation in front of peers.

  • @petechau9616
    @petechau9616 Před 2 lety +44

    I knew someone who was involved in criminal activity, small time stuff, and he told me never talk to the cops not even when they want to engage you in innocent conversation.

  • @loiaunbelievable9634
    @loiaunbelievable9634 Před 2 lety +128

    This in combination to JCS channel is just perfect. You can see all Joe is talking about in practice.

    • @MinorKey135
      @MinorKey135 Před 2 lety +17

      I enjoy JCS and I totally agree! If anyone likes seeing interrogation techniques broken down and put in action, his channel is one to view.

    • @elisa.r.g
      @elisa.r.g Před 2 lety

      JCS is amazing. Have you found his second channel?

    • @MinorKey135
      @MinorKey135 Před 2 lety +1

      @@elisa.r.g I didn’t know he had a second one! What’s it called?

    • @elisa.r.g
      @elisa.r.g Před 2 lety +1

      @@MinorKey135 J C S
      Profile pic is a cat!

    • @MinorKey135
      @MinorKey135 Před 2 lety

      @@elisa.r.g Thanks!

  • @traildoggy
    @traildoggy Před 2 lety +274

    Imagine being his kid and trying to lie to him about your mischief
    "Let's go through this one more time. You say when you got here the cookie boxes were already open and the dog was eating the very last one..."

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Před rokem +1

      😂👍

    • @prtygrl5077
      @prtygrl5077 Před rokem

      All are bu!llcr!ap what he says. Watch "NewYork 2009" Indian movie, about USA Interrogation tactics. You'll get the real face of them 💩😂.++.

  • @gradypicinich2404
    @gradypicinich2404 Před 2 lety +442

    "... so it's about proceeding incrementally, assessing him, watching his breathing rate, watching his blink rate... were his knees weak, were his palms sweaty? Was there vomit on his sweater already, mom's spaghetti? And after an hour, I'm understanding him better."

    • @ronin123958
      @ronin123958 Před 2 lety +3

      Word!

    • @zaidnava7200
      @zaidnava7200 Před 2 lety +11

      I knew someone would made the joke but this works too good

    • @gradypicinich2404
      @gradypicinich2404 Před 2 lety +4

      @@zaidnava7200 you have good taste, my friend

    • @TheRhythmOfLife1972
      @TheRhythmOfLife1972 Před 2 lety

      ....approximately @ 10:48 you paraphrased what he was saying and added a tidbit but I was just there.... How many times did you rewind to get this right? Have a meeting now do I'm going to see if I learned anything.

    • @gradypicinich2404
      @gradypicinich2404 Před 2 lety +9

      @@TheRhythmOfLife1972 lol I just rewinded it once and paused at various increments. I am making a reference to Eminem's "Lose Yourself," which is common in meme culture

  • @enpi2128
    @enpi2128 Před 2 lety +9

    Mr.Joe you are really incredible inspired teacher. I've been enjoying each of your videos.

  • @stevelenores5637
    @stevelenores5637 Před 2 lety +22

    This is pure gold. These methods can be applied to almost any type of disagreement.

    • @mariojanaf5474
      @mariojanaf5474 Před rokem +3

      no, it doesn't...it cant...maybe 30%...people are not rational all the time...
      mentally ill people, some sociopaths, and most psychopaths are not...
      if you have an average IQ criminal, it can not apply...
      negotiation is a two-way street - it's a reason that most low-ranking criminals get a full pardon to testify against the boss...

    • @stevelenores5637
      @stevelenores5637 Před rokem +4

      @@mariojanaf5474 Nothing works 100% when it comes to human behavior. I suggest Chris Voss's book "Never Split the Difference" for a complete treatment of FBI negotiation techniques and how to apply them in real life situations. The more you know the better your results will be. Still don't look for guarantees when it comes to human beings. If you get it 70-80% right you are by far way ahead of others who get it wrong most of the time.

    • @mariojanaf5474
      @mariojanaf5474 Před rokem +2

      @@stevelenores5637
      Please do know that these negotiations are often by legal teams...
      Usually, they trade something for something. Those kinds of cases are nothing to all crimes dealt.
      Here they glorify something hard to get.
      Like all cops, real crime fighters, they picture something that does not happen or is rare..
      If no evidence, or with evidence, the defense will instruct not to talk. Coz you can't tell anything it will help you as the prime suspect.
      One is a book, other is real life.

  • @ilyaalexandrovich917
    @ilyaalexandrovich917 Před 2 lety +618

    Ah, yes, the negotiator.

  • @aMaeChicdoParquinho
    @aMaeChicdoParquinho Před 2 lety

    You worked to heal a nation of hearts!!
    Thank you for both lessons!!

  • @dillonseals6574
    @dillonseals6574 Před 2 lety +80

    It's amazing what showing some decency to indecent people can do.

  • @gl3618
    @gl3618 Před 2 lety +88

    Best training i had in the military were situational awareness courses taught by agents or prior LEO'S. Learned a TON about singling out leaders and subordinates, tactical questioning, body language and attentiveness and surveillance methods and key points.
    I find mimicry to be threatening outside of a close friend or well known associate. It tells me one of two things is going on, either nothing at all, or that person is paying more attention to me than I am comfortable with, and I need to figure out why. It is the same situation as the car in front of you or behind you moving across the lane in the same manner as you. They are paying a lot of attention to the back of your vehicle so unintentionally they will move around the lane as you do. Same thing g for idiots who scoot towards the center line when you pass them, they are paying attention to you and not the road, and anything in their control gravitates in your direction. Abnormal movements and such show that someone's attention is either off key or stuck on something as well. CELL PHONES WHILE DRIVING prove this as idiots swerve across lanes to see if Karen wore her red dress last night. It is hard to divide your thoughts between observing an individual and ensuring you act natural. So, when someone is watching someone closely, they often mimic their movements. Leg crossing, hand placement, direction of the feet...all signs that show what a person is paying attention to, especially when a leader is around.

    • @gl3618
      @gl3618 Před rokem +5

      @Gen Isis aw thanks

    • @bobbrian6526
      @bobbrian6526 Před rokem +10

      you can have fun with mimicry if you have a manager who uses that technique with you - see if you can make him/her do a very slow macarena

  • @savethedandelions
    @savethedandelions Před 2 lety +20

    my favorite recurring guest, Wired!

  • @alexblaze8878
    @alexblaze8878 Před 2 lety +212

    As the lawyer in the viral video states again and again: “Don’t talk to police!”

    • @yes2day100
      @yes2day100 Před 2 lety +18

      And yet, so many do. Very often the arrogance of narcissism takes over and they think they can outsmart everyone.

    • @keithjohnston5936
      @keithjohnston5936 Před 2 lety +12

      @@yes2day100 I agree. And maybe you can outsmart Det. A. But they have a whole alphabet of detectives, and only one has to be a little smarter than you, then it’s time to buy a harmonica and start learning some old Jesus songs.

    • @yes2day100
      @yes2day100 Před 2 lety +12

      @@keithjohnston5936 I know. I've seen dozens of episodes of 48 Hours and I am always amazed at how they rehearse their interrogations, and send in the detectives according to who they're dealing with, and switching up detectives when one detective's style isn't working. It's truly inspiring. And I'm glad they can do this, because on that show they're dealing with homicide, and they need to get these people off the street.

    • @melanatedone8655
      @melanatedone8655 Před 2 lety +4

      SAY IT AGAIN for the one's in the back.

    • @halogod0298
      @halogod0298 Před 2 lety +3

      Don’t commit crime

  • @litkeys3497
    @litkeys3497 Před 2 lety +23

    If you end up on the wrong side of an interrogation, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO NEGOTIATE BY YOURSELF! Give only your name and address (which you legally have to give) & then say "I am going to remain silent and would like to speak to a lawyer." AND THEN SAY NOTHING ELSE. Per Edwards v. Arizona (1981), questioning must STOP upon request for a lawyer & cannot resume until one is provided.

    • @studentofsmith
      @studentofsmith Před rokem +3

      It's the same where I live. Name and address only. You don't have to tell them if someone else lives with you, your date of birth, if you have bond money or anything else they might ask you. Name and address only.
      In addition to, "I am going to remain silent and would like to speak to a lawyer." it is also useful to memorize the phrase, "I'm not resisting but I do not consent to any searches." and "Are you detaining me or am I free to go?" Protip: If they threaten to get the drug dog do NOT say 'Fine." or "Okay." That could be construed as you willingly waiting for the dog. Instead ask if they are detaining you. It lets them know that the clock is ticking. If it takes too long for the dog to arrive your lawyer might be able to get it thrown out. Also, if they are going to search you (legally or illegally) and you have something on your person that could harm them while conducting the search, for example something sharp that could poke or cut them if they grab it, you do have to warn them.

    • @alphonsusho8962
      @alphonsusho8962 Před rokem +1

      It’s one thing if you commit a petty crime, but it’s another if you commit a felony and think you can out interrogate a interrogator. Seen so many interrogation vids where they simply could’ve just gone with the lawyer but instead decide they think they can lie their way out. Majority of times, if you are sitting down with an detective in the police station in a small room, and they read your Miranda, they most likely have the evidence against you, they just want you to admit for an easy court case.

  • @Meekahel
    @Meekahel Před 2 lety +3

    I need more of him!! Please!

  • @acacsstudyinchina2814
    @acacsstudyinchina2814 Před rokem +1

    Very informative , thanks to Mr.Navarro sharing his knowledge!!!

  • @MythopoeicNavid
    @MythopoeicNavid Před 2 lety +244

    The entropy tactic, letting the extremist person vent out over and over and over again? That... sounds like a life hack in conflict management. Not just for therapy but in everyday scenarios with family members. Letting the other person vent and vent and vent and still sticking to what you want out of it.

    • @tangogrrl
      @tangogrrl Před 2 lety +9

      It sure works for buying a car

    • @elenircezimbra5153
      @elenircezimbra5153 Před rokem +4

      Yes! Let them talk and do not interrupt, this way you are in a position of power.

    • @MythopoeicNavid
      @MythopoeicNavid Před rokem +1

      @Gen Isis Sounds like those people have unresolved problems and/or are just being plain toxic and gaslighting. No one should accept abuse and if there is no healthy adult communication then that needs to be addressed in more mature and adult ways.
      Frighteningly true but CHILDREN sometimes display more emotional maturity in communicating their emotional needs than adults do: "I'm scared! Help me!" Something adults should admit more. "It's okay if you feel angry, just don't hurt anyone."
      Both things said by actual kids i've heard and who have their basic human decencies still intact.

    • @williamlee0
      @williamlee0 Před rokem +15

      You may underestimate the afflicted person's stamina most severely. I was subjected to a colleague's rancorous anger in a small workspace - generally the topic was a despised former spouse - for five years. I left nearly two decades ago, but I reckon she's still going.

    • @prtygrl5077
      @prtygrl5077 Před rokem

      All are bu!llcr!ap what he says. Watch "NewYork 2009" Indian movie, about USA Interrogation tactics. You'll get the real face of them 💩😂+.+.+.

  • @samlava3026
    @samlava3026 Před 2 lety +371

    I almost confessed to my crimes just by listening to him lmao

    • @haxxter
      @haxxter Před 2 lety +8

      😂😂

    • @simonfox_8559
      @simonfox_8559 Před 2 lety +22

      What crimes? Want to tell me more about them?

    • @sazidrahman5825
      @sazidrahman5825 Před 2 lety +9

      Please deliver yourself to the nearest FIB office because we can't get your location

    • @Yum_Yum_Delicious_Cum
      @Yum_Yum_Delicious_Cum Před rokem +5

      Look the entire comment section hates you right now for not telling the crimes, But not me I'm the only one who tries to understand you, so could you help me out too? What where these so called crimes?

    • @prtygrl5077
      @prtygrl5077 Před rokem

      All are bu!llcr!ap what he says. Watch "NewYork 2009" Indian movie, about USA Interrogation tactics. You'll get the real face of them 💩😂+.++.

  • @MythopoeicNavid
    @MythopoeicNavid Před 2 lety +36

    As someone who is still learning the finer parts of linguistics (and often teaching the less finer parts), I confess this guy can teach and train discourse analysis.

    • @duewhit310
      @duewhit310 Před rokem

      Science and Sanity by Alfred Korzybski (1933)

  • @princetonchia1285
    @princetonchia1285 Před 2 lety +76

    Joe Nevarro to his superior back in the day:
    *You were right about one thing, master: THE NEGOTIATIONS WERE SHORT.*

  • @canadajim
    @canadajim Před 2 lety +33

    These interviews are fascinating.

    • @audraeden8923
      @audraeden8923 Před 2 lety +1

      And, test of time. When they have done these patient, predictive techniques …it works. Easier on everybody. Less stress.
      Fascinating material, should be better known.
      Should be "required reading" for police officers, too.

  • @gauravgill2008
    @gauravgill2008 Před 2 lety +7

    This was incredibly informative

  • @sandrasandymanning4354
    @sandrasandymanning4354 Před 2 lety +4

    8:30...Joe picks apart a suspect...brilliant! 👏👏👏

  • @usagithebunny
    @usagithebunny Před 2 lety +22

    It’s 4am here and I’m listening this mighty man’s wise words just in case if I ever get to interview by an fbi agent...

  • @mason7028
    @mason7028 Před rokem +9

    A big factor in negotiation is recurring occasions, none of these can be implemented where you need to constantly negotiate for bigger or better concessions during the course of time. Then you need to come up with a plan that respects fairness and long-term relationships.

  • @101jir
    @101jir Před 2 lety +43

    7:08 After going for over a year writing a dystopian story with one part added every 2 weeks or so, that experience led me to believe comic relief doesn't exist just for the sake of the reader: without it a story can become extremely draining to write if the material is too heavy (mine dealt intensely with themes of slavery)! I really think one major part of comic relief is just so the writers can avoid burning out. This seems to add credence to that belief.

    • @__-lj3cj
      @__-lj3cj Před 2 lety +2

      Link when you’re done with it yeah 👍

    • @101jir
      @101jir Před 2 lety +2

      Okay... each time I come back to this comment, the post with the link isn't there. I think it is being misidentified as spam.

    • @__-lj3cj
      @__-lj3cj Před 2 lety

      @@101jir :(0)

    • @101jir
      @101jir Před 2 lety

      @@__-lj3cj I'll see what I can do, maybe I can add some spaces to get it to post.

    • @jordanalexandra7678
      @jordanalexandra7678 Před 2 lety

      Watch handmaid's tale women held captive to make babies for the elite and traded like cattle and publically hanged and reading is illegal. That show made the bridge that connects diff cultures so everyone understands the layers psychological, submissive roles, stolkholm syndrome etc handmaid's tale shows how it would feel to have everything you know id values stolen and left alone after every move is made strategically to oppress and take your power. Read 100 books on topic before writing one as and use words of power. I leave my writing for a few years and reread to hate what once sounded amazing we need writers to change the direction and first we need a good audience to receive our stories. Young ppl today are so obsessed with material and status they often want to read something that captivated the hyper brains we
      have write your topic in a way it's never been written in a way that the reader feels excitement desire malice misery and make a dent in the universe of literature. Send me what you got!!!

  • @arches_aviation8584
    @arches_aviation8584 Před 2 lety +10

    7:18 Very smart. That's a great way to tell if somebody is sus.

  • @legom8149
    @legom8149 Před 2 lety +5

    I’ll use the negotiation preps as my framework for papers this school year, they seem effective, I hope😅

  • @lifetools-help8017
    @lifetools-help8017 Před 2 lety

    Extremely helpful, thank you!

  • @kvetch23
    @kvetch23 Před 2 lety +51

    We need a JSC/Joe Navarro collab stat

  • @Rubiastraify
    @Rubiastraify Před 2 lety +9

    We need a "Joe Navarro Explains..." Channel!!
    This guy is fascinating!

  • @GG69BLIN
    @GG69BLIN Před rokem

    You are amazing, Joe. Lots of people know more because of you ❤️🎉

  • @-Lindy60
    @-Lindy60 Před 8 měsíci +2

    He's brilliant. Thanks for sharing your knowledge !

  • @nikhilv2207
    @nikhilv2207 Před 2 lety +48

    Joe: Where were you?
    Son: I was smoking joint.
    J: Listen son. Before I'm your father, I'm an agent. I want you to help me to help you.
    S: *sobbing* sorry dad. I was studying in the library.

  • @rohanbatra69
    @rohanbatra69 Před rokem +7

    I used his tactics for a raise and now I’m the CEO of the company

  • @randyzeitman1354
    @randyzeitman1354 Před 2 lety +1

    Most valuable video I’ve seen in years.

  • @TasZ06
    @TasZ06 Před rokem

    Always enjoy his videos and analyses.

  • @BartAnderson_writer
    @BartAnderson_writer Před 2 lety +23

    What if you have an ongoing relationship with the person you're negotiating with?
    It changes things.
    Usually the relationship is more important than the particular issue.

    • @paolagrando5079
      @paolagrando5079 Před 2 lety +1

      It depends what you are negotiating?

    • @samanthachurch
      @samanthachurch Před rokem +2

      Is it more important to the person you're negotiating with? If not, then you shouldn't have to give in. They would be willing to give up. If it isn't, then you need to be willing to be as single minded on the issue at hand as the person you're negotiating with.

  • @parsaautomatica
    @parsaautomatica Před 2 lety +44

    Give this man his own Masterclass so he could teach us his tricks and moves about negotiating.

    • @zackklapman3569
      @zackklapman3569 Před 2 lety +1

      There’s a good MasterClass about negotiating, taught by a former hostage negotiator.

  • @90sretrokid
    @90sretrokid Před rokem +1

    Something about this guy, I feel like I could sit down and listen to him speak for days.

  • @ellyvandalen9793
    @ellyvandalen9793 Před rokem

    Wired. I LOVE Joe. This topic is incredible.

  • @angelinak.4868
    @angelinak.4868 Před rokem +4

    I would love to see a movie based on this man's life. He's epic.

  • @MoroccanNationalDebateTeam

    Thanks for the tips!

  • @NateCrownwell
    @NateCrownwell Před 2 lety +1

    Joe Navarro is awesome :)

  • @gynt5938
    @gynt5938 Před 2 lety +50

    Operation "Mom buy me a the new PS5" is a go

  • @loisenolp4746
    @loisenolp4746 Před 2 lety +30

    I love this man! If he interviewed me I would probably admit to things I didn’t do.

    • @taylorbledsoe6090
      @taylorbledsoe6090 Před 2 lety +11

      You realize that's not a good thing, right? People have been imprisoned wrongfully for just that.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Před rokem

      😂👍

  • @barbaraoconnor7038
    @barbaraoconnor7038 Před 2 lety

    Love listening to this guy, so interesting 👍

  • @relaxationmusicsanctuary3664

    I feel like being at a lesson in intelligence techniques and strategies. Very very interesting. Thanks

  • @mokshaggarwal1022
    @mokshaggarwal1022 Před 2 lety +40

    When is he starting his CZcams channel we all need it

    • @citizenblue
      @citizenblue Před 2 lety +2

      Have you checked out The Behavior Panel? Highly recommend

  • @vinayakpraveen2980
    @vinayakpraveen2980 Před 2 lety +10

    i wonder how he asks for a glass of water or random simple stuff, jokes apart.... this was amazing!

  • @icreatedanaccountforthis1852

    This was amazing!

  • @toasty6570
    @toasty6570 Před 2 lety +2

    Please do how to do "advanced interrogation" techniques next ;)

  • @Aiyan777
    @Aiyan777 Před 2 lety +3

    Life itself is a negotiable funnel of marathon! Body language is super useful since people that talks with their hands tends to be intelligent. This gentleman is a great storyteller.

  • @markoraimius4339
    @markoraimius4339 Před 2 lety +8

    I taught sales training for 20 years. Specifically how to handle the customers objections. Same principles apply.

  • @Cookie-kk9dc
    @Cookie-kk9dc Před rokem +2

    I think that getting through to anyone requires intelligence & most of all patience. I'm always amazed that people fall for the good cop bad cop thing. Joe here is charming I could see where he could do good cop very well. In all seriousness he seems a man of integrity. 😁

  • @zhrajsm_11
    @zhrajsm_11 Před 3 měsíci

    I LOVE this guys knowledge

  • @ar2_
    @ar2_ Před 2 lety +9

    His boss know he's a master negotiator.
    Just thinking how his boss would deal with a salary hike negotiation with this person as every point may seem correct or said to manipulate psychology.

  • @Sanjovalentine
    @Sanjovalentine Před 2 lety +82

    This works, people. One time I negotiated a free sub sammich in exchange for my girlfriend’s dog. Transaction game on point!

    • @marko3254
      @marko3254 Před 2 lety

      Brilliant, gonna take a note for later use!

    • @bokiNYC
      @bokiNYC Před 2 lety

      😂😂😂

    • @yuris6125
      @yuris6125 Před rokem

      Did the exchange happen at the same time or you gave the dog first? 🤣

    • @NN-fz4pd
      @NN-fz4pd Před rokem

      Brilliant! I’m gonna do the same with my boyfriends ps5

  • @nuzzilaaviany2648
    @nuzzilaaviany2648 Před 2 lety

    Joe Navvaro my fav

  • @marcopicado1135
    @marcopicado1135 Před 2 lety

    Joe, during this year I took my Team to perform presentation based on your short videos...they love it and enjoy it so much....they are learning a lot of tips for effectiveness in communications and more.....great job....

  • @jonathanjollimore4794
    @jonathanjollimore4794 Před 2 lety +3

    The best way to interrogate people is not to be cruel but try to understand the person you're interrogating gain their trust if you can. And like you say just keep chipping away at them until they eventually crumble

  • @waywardsamurai667
    @waywardsamurai667 Před 2 lety +5

    This guy need to react to interrogation footage, may be make a colab with jcs criminal psychology

  • @WordDefinition
    @WordDefinition Před rokem

    Superior skills. I am joining FBI when I grow up. Very intelligent. My Idol.

  • @audraeden8923
    @audraeden8923 Před 2 lety +1

    When JN described meeting the person and mirroring the activity….I immediately thought of Monty Robert’s…he joins up with the horse.
    He’s been elected to be boss just that quick.
    Robert’s says what the horse is going to do next….never fails.

    • @d1c186
      @d1c186 Před 2 lety

      wow l haven't thought of him in years thank you l will want go back and re-read him, a old horse lover

    • @audraeden8923
      @audraeden8923 Před 2 lety

      @@d1c186 See his entries on YT. He is amazing.

  • @franku5099
    @franku5099 Před 2 lety +9

    This is how I feel every time I go to a car dealership.

  • @muhammadamirasyraf5728
    @muhammadamirasyraf5728 Před 2 lety +27

    These fbi, secret service, cia guy was really interesting to listen to. They're pouring all these valuable knowledge they have. Theyre so good at manipulation.. wait... What

  • @choosun-hui2683
    @choosun-hui2683 Před 4 měsíci

    I own his 2 books👏👏 This man is one of my saviors!!!!!

  • @okn3297
    @okn3297 Před 2 lety

    This is really good.

  • @jeffrooow
    @jeffrooow Před 2 lety +19

    Public service announcement: the second law of thermodynamics only applies to closed energy systems. Anger dissipating might mimic the second law of thermodynamics but this effect is not caused by it.

    • @simplifik
      @simplifik Před 2 lety

      You are so smart!

    • @jeffrooow
      @jeffrooow Před 2 lety +2

      @@simplifik not really but it's being misuesed enough as it is. No need to add to it.

    • @simplifik
      @simplifik Před 2 lety

      @@jeffrooow Misuse? Your comment is the first and only time the second law of thermodynamics is brought up

    • @jeffrooow
      @jeffrooow Před 2 lety +1

      @@simplifik It's literally being used in this video. Also it frequently gets used in apologetics and in pop-psychology.

    • @simplifik
      @simplifik Před 2 lety

      @@jeffrooowI’m confused. Can the concept of entropy not exist outside of thermodynamics? I want to understand your point of view.

  • @ammarahrais4546
    @ammarahrais4546 Před rokem +6

    When this video started i thought Jordan Peterson was speaking

    • @acspicer
      @acspicer Před 24 dny +1

      It quickly dissipates once you realize the speaker is coherent.

    • @ammarahrais4546
      @ammarahrais4546 Před 24 dny

      @@acspicer truer words have never been spoken LOL

    • @Happy_Spatula
      @Happy_Spatula Před dnem

      Lol! I'm listening on 1.75 speed and you are right!

  • @maryrichardson6029
    @maryrichardson6029 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you

  • @rosavito1
    @rosavito1 Před 8 měsíci

    Fascinating.

  • @katja6332
    @katja6332 Před rokem +8

    I like how he explained around min 4 about the engagement phase before cooperation will take place in the transactional phase.
    That's exactly what many people are doing wrong by being too hostile and dominant.
    You have to come across as confident, not hostile nor dominant.
    Just let them vent, so true. Works well with Professors as well. I always let them vent until they grew tired. Let them vent until entropy takes over. And then say "this is what I can offer, that's all". I did this intuitively in my job and it's nice to see that there's a method to this madness 😂. Now I know why my boss picked me for the job..
    And I can definitely say YES to the planning/preparation part and being prepared which words to say and which to avoid. Because they will judge every sloppy mistake and either tear you apart or shut down.
    I had to interview people on very emotional and personal matters for my research and you try to have them cooperate to open up and help me what I want to know..

  • @joytalledo790
    @joytalledo790 Před rokem +11

    His daughter must be lucky to have dad like this💖

    • @prtygrl5077
      @prtygrl5077 Před rokem

      All are bu!llcr!ap what he says. Watch "NewYork 2009" Indian movie, about USA Interrogation tactics. You'll get the real face of them 💩😂.+..++

  • @LucasTOrz
    @LucasTOrz Před 2 lety

    Like to hear frm him. He's so informative

  • @marufmiah7168
    @marufmiah7168 Před 2 lety

    I could listen to this man talking for hours and hours

  • @vspatmx7458
    @vspatmx7458 Před 2 lety +46

    I once negotiated hard and got to keep my life,
    In return for feeding the person a life time worth of food and a place to sleep every night in max security.

    • @qwertyrobin869
      @qwertyrobin869 Před 2 lety +3

      Nice one, Daddy VSPA!

    • @2triangles
      @2triangles Před 2 lety +2

      I’m kind of dumb because I don’t get it the riddle. Please explain?

    • @markramos4795
      @markramos4795 Před 2 lety +8

      @@2triangles basically he arrested him after getting him to confess

    • @2triangles
      @2triangles Před 2 lety +2

      @@markramos4795 ah. Thank you!

    • @imho2278
      @imho2278 Před 2 lety

      Marriage?

  • @colinstu
    @colinstu Před 2 lety +47

    It bothers me that he sat down without unbuttoning his suit. And then I discovered that later on he unbuttoned it yet the clips are mixed together!

    • @Millerguy
      @Millerguy Před 2 lety +1

      My
      Yes oplol

    • @Kuraushi
      @Kuraushi Před 2 lety +2

      I wouldn't put it past him to do it on purpose if he could read a person by their reaction to it

    • @Iksvomid
      @Iksvomid Před 2 lety +1

      Underrated comment.

    • @unknownuser-fv2lq
      @unknownuser-fv2lq Před 2 lety

      Go outside

    • @mark-ish
      @mark-ish Před 2 lety +1

      @@unknownuser-fv2lq you're a sad lil individual. Make a nice comment for a change.

  • @ajwplanet
    @ajwplanet Před 2 lety

    This is a pro in the true sense of the word

  • @ci3xx
    @ci3xx Před 2 lety

    i really like videos with this guy in them

  • @ATGG
    @ATGG Před 2 lety +8

    Ah, this might be the smartest person I've met..
    Great Respect for Mr. Navarro. Great man. Great Books. Highly intelligent.
    I'm actually honnored to watch him here for free..

  • @infinitemonkey917
    @infinitemonkey917 Před 2 lety +152

    It's a bit easier to negotiate when you have a badge, a gun and the U.S. government behind you. Still interesting though.

    • @infinitemonkey917
      @infinitemonkey917 Před 2 lety +21

      @@jenniferhuang3396 Well yea, but the vid implied that we can apply his tactics to negotiating anything, including mundane things.

    • @reeseruss
      @reeseruss Před 2 lety +2

      Well that’s obvious, he’s just providing useful advice that can be applied in all forms of negotiation. I don’t really get the point of saying that

    • @reeseruss
      @reeseruss Před 2 lety +1

      @@infinitemonkey917 I only think an idiot would think that, dont think it’s necessary to specify

    • @infinitemonkey917
      @infinitemonkey917 Před 2 lety +4

      @@reeseruss I think it's ridiculous you are so butt hurt by a rather innocuous comment.

    • @reeseruss
      @reeseruss Před 2 lety +2

      @@infinitemonkey917 well I was never really upset. Honestly pretty emotionless when I said what I said. I guess I definitely sounded aggressive, and I wasn’t trying to insult you or come off that way