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- Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro breaks down the various ways we communicate non-verbally. What does it mean when we fold our arms? Why do we interlace our fingers? Can a poker player actually hide their body language?
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Me: Dressing up as a frog on Halloween.
FBI: mentally unstable
*go on*
CanadianBullFrog toadly🐸wacko 😂✨☕️✨👋
They'd be entirely right.
But is he wrong
@0 13 Do you want to know how we know?
Everyone with anxiety: moves around
FBI: he’s the one
Best comment...
Me: *Has ADHD so cant stop moving*
FBI: Get that son of a b***
@@shrimpies799 LOL
That’s right.
@@thefbiiswatchingyourlife9128 wtf
It easy to tell when someone lies. Their noses grow longer.
This guy is good at his job. Need more people like him.
Lol
Oh stop 😆
even tho I knew about this nose longer
This is just a lie
Nah you're lying
i think that agent guy is lying
Key takeaway: Every body language is transmitting some sort of information. Just try to assess but do not over-judge, especially if someone cross their arms or roll their eyes in different direction. It may not mean anything. Also, you can move around to identify the most comfortable space with others
If someone rolls their eyes in different directions I think it means call emergency services
We really needed an expert to tell us that, right
@@thehangingparsiple5692 I immediately thought of loopy Marty Feldman the comedian 😂
But none of this applies if a dog walks up and begins to urinate on your leg. Then you can move about without being assessed as to your motives by a nearby FBI agent.
Crossed arms means someone is defensive or reserved
When a fist lands in someone’s face that body language tells me that they don’t like each other.
Lol good one!
Yeah, this gave me a good laugh......
How can you tell?
Phaidrus Intuition.
@@MothaLuva lol
“How we walk has meaning” For example, if someone has a limp, there is a chance they are injured.
This comment is so underrated.
Lmao
*Attention seekers pretending to limp to get attention*
*vIsIbLe CoNfUsIoN*
If someone says goodbye, they might possibly leave.
I loved when he said we blink 8 times per minute and then blinks 7 times in ten seconds
He could be trying to access more information. It's easier to recall if you block out other senses. When I try to recall a lot of info I tend to close my eyes lol
This guy gives me some comfort. I’m highly anxious and do a lot of the things some of the other body language people say indicate deception. It’s just my anxiety. I’m glad to see this guy looks at it differently.
Same!
He lied. His whole effort was sponsored by the FBI to fool you so you'd screw up your next bank robbery/
Girl: *screams at me*
Me: ah yes, according to the body language, she is angry
Not really, I know of situations when girls scream of love, pleasure and joy. It all depends on the context...
😂
:surprisedpikachuface:
Harvard scholarship?
😂😂😂😂
"Forehead can reveal the amount of stress we had during the life"
Oh boi, poor Gordon Ramsay
bald people: ....
More like poor Emeperor Palpatine
Poor Dr. Phil
Hahahah
emily brooke They’re talking about the crease lines that form over the years. Gordon has several deep ones.
I like this guy. He's got very good energy and I love his relaxed but yet serious mood he's got going on. Also very intelligent and he definitely is a very confident dude. I don't know this guy but he's got my respect.
when will you propose ?
Did you watch his feet as he spoke? He wasn't relaxed at all. He was very tense, yet happy go-lucky. I saw he wasn't very intelligent and had little confidence. I'm sure you didn't respect him at all.
As a non-spy and non-European, I have carried flowers that way. If you go walking along holding the flowers upright, the weight of the flower blossoms is bouncing on the stems and it only takes a little damage to the stems before the flowers wilt. However if you carry them upside down there is far less weight on the stems and so your less likely to do damage to them. Its really kind of obvious. While I can see why he thought it means the person was European, it might just has well have meant he was smart.
His body language told me that he was thinking “so these idiots think I can teach 40+ years of experience and education in a 15 minute video”.
🤠
Hahahha
HAHAHA. FUNNY. YOU JUST WOOOOSHED HIM. LMAO VERY FUNNY
@@SubscribersWithoutAnyVid-kb5pc
P.s. nobody likes you
Stfu
MarioKPC R/whoosh
I can tell by his body language he is saying "please get me a taller chair"
.
Hey! We should give this guy a medal
😂
👍
Or his body language is telling us he is feeding BS.
I found his observation of the poker players fascinating . It would be interesting to show a longer segment on that .
This topic is so interesting because of how unconscious body language sometimes is. Even if the spy knows they’re being assessed, it’s still kinda hard to hide their nervousness or reaction to a certain cue. For us I think it’s pretty worth learning to be confident in events when necessary
Daughter: He’s just a friend.
Him: the shake of your left toe says otherwise
Omg 😭😭
💀💀💀
I love how you wrote left toe as though he only has two toes 😂
"Right-o, right-o... ." "Why do keep saying 'Right-o', Ramjet." "Because you're standing on my right toe!": Roger Ramjet hilarious cartoon series. (Look it up)
@@tomryan914 with jokes like that, no wonder nobody has ever heard of it. Painfully unfunny
Im gonna carry flowers upside down now, see if the FBI pops out of the bushes.
Lmao !
Name checks out
💀💀💀
Moves flowers 0.1cm downwards then normal. *Gets tackled by agents*
CIA/FBI: “We gottem boys”
Omg I know right!!
The first half got me hooked. Because I always cross my arms, and touch my face. But I'm always ready to open those arms and give a hug to when my friends approach me. I always thought it was odd when they said it means you're being stand offish if you if you cross your arms. I thought, no it isn't. Thank you.
Carrying a bouquet upside down might be a general European thing. I'm German and as far as I know most of us also carry our flowers that way. My mum tought me to do this because it alledgedly keeps the flowers fresher.
Me: breathes normally
Fbi: I see, you inhale oxygen as well
Also FBI : Expecting me to say that?
FBI: Terrorists also breathe...
All the same.
!?
Elle Lawliet // :0
@@sepsa7468 L Lawliet... Kira
I'm an expert too. I saw a guy walking the other day and quickly deduced he was going somewhere.
bro the fbi is looking for you now
😂😂😂
😂
and you didn't know it at the time, but you were busted too because he thought the same of you.
Broo what?! 🤯
Excellent video! So helpful. Appreciate it very much, and it shows clearly that this is a good man.
We need more of these!
FBI men in movies:
“That man’s blood type is o-negative, his father Bob was killed in a car accident and his last meal was a taco.”
Who are you?
A A his name is Patrick and he has had a sad past his dad joe mama has lived a life of crime and terrible stuff he has a dog a nephew and his fish who drowned yes his fish drowned don’t ask.
@@v2chiller333 😂😂😂
No that’s Sherlock Holmes
*pulls a sherlock*
criminals watching this: write that down, write that down!
😂
Crab demon
THAT
did I get it right
@@agentmoron747 aaaw hun was I stupid enough for u
Thanx for the explanation
It was really handy
@@agentmoron747 thanx for ...... everything
People can't really control it..
Amazing vireo i really enjoy it. This video really helped me to understand the body language and after this video i try out some technique mentioned in this video and its working. After watching this video i really excited and i want to know more about this techniques because this techniques really help my career however i daily interacting with my clients so i have good knowledge in this techniques i can easily crack anything and also go for better result in my life. Finally thank you Wired for the informative video and i have a suggestion that adding some book related to this topic in this video its really worth and helpful for many of them.
Oh my god, this is going to help me understand so much during conversations
Dude, this is confidential.
Sir..
Please return my loli manga.. please....
YOU'RE confidential!
When can I join 🖤
We've compromised.
No more russians
Asthma patient: *heavy inhale through nose*
FBI: where are the drugs
Me 😂
with that inhale, probably in the nose.
Oml😂😂😂😂
Asthma Patient: Struggling to breath
FBI: Team tackle him & suffocates him further. STOP RESISTING!!
@@covertwasp5238 lmao
thank you for this knowledge
This gave me so much insight on reading someone's body language
I will now *never* lose another game of UNO again.
Observing you're typing patterns I've ascertained your pulse rate was around 95 and that you weren't being truthful about believing you can ever consistently win at UNO
Uno reverse
@@zvukovinb5581 *It is a power some consider unnatural*
@@monolithgeometry3221 Your*
A Charming Runespoor wtf?
Me: **breathes**
FBI: she’s guilty .
a girl on internet?? time to creep
DUMB SPONGE stop
😂
Lol🤣🤣🤣
DUMB SPONGE lol ☠️
What a brilliant mind! Great interview.
14:06 Idk why but I always love a story that includes statements like in the 70/80/90s etc.
This guy's body language tells me that he is uncomfortable with this interview and that he is withholding information.
GO SkidMaRk Time to waterboard him until we get the information were after.
@@johng6080 we're
@@soip6710 lol who cares about grammar and your gonna be like *Lol who cares about grammar and you're gonna be like* is the correction your going to make
@@doraemonsam123 eh, just bothers me
You're. Reading written language. Haha
“Crossing your arms is like a self hug”
Me: *cries in lonely while crossing my arms*
oooohhh.... :(
Crossing arms is its cold, not blocking. Its like saying all bearded guys are called Richard.
A person going to the toilet in front of you while you talk means that you are talking cr*p.
What does it mean if a person who speaking to you stands on one leg, with two differenet shoes on, lots of sneezing with on the left half of a facial beard and big headphones playing rave music a high volume?
why dont the women just hold hands while talking
Dude I love this behaviour psychology stuff it’s so interesting!
Imagine being in highschool about to take a girl out for a first date , you get to the door and this is her dad waiting to see into your soul .
And then you try to propose to her with flowers and her dad arrests you for being an European spy
Make sure there's nothing in your soul to see... LOL!
Most fathers want to see inside your soul when you take their daughter out for a first date.
Dr. Cal Lightman🔥
@@zerocat888 lol
😂😂😂😂😂
3:10 Imagine working years to get the American way, the perfect accent, the behavior, the way they act, to finally pass as a 100% American and in the end, flowers gave you away, wow.
I DIDNT KNOW THERE WAS A SPECIFIC WAY TO HOLD FLOWERS??
I FOUND THE FLOWER THING SO COOL
It's a european thing (not an eastern european thing). It's because of the water. You want the water in the petals not in the paper and so you have to use gravity.
@@loewenmakrele Probably correct. Americans think in terms of they want the flowers to be showing, like you are showing them off even, something that goofy possibly. The Europeans probably don’t care because they want the flowers to be preserved.
@@loewenmakrele I'm English and I hold flowers like they are a baby 🤱 or I hold them up right i would never hold them upside down. So idk
Thank you for bringing truth to this topic.
As an autistic person (with ADHD as well), I wonder what would happen if he tried interpreting my movements because I do a lot of random nonverbal movements and don't do a lot of "those nonverbals that neurotypical people just do instinctively when talking to someone." whereas I don't even know they exist.
What I learned:
People hold flowers upside down in Eastern Europe.
Ford PowerSmoke in Russia flower hold you
Spank Themonkey Lmao
Holding cut flowers down helps keep the water in the steps thus preserving their colours. However you could say,"only those in Eastern Europe know that."! You should also note that spelling."Colours" with a 'U' shows I am a British secret agent.
Are you even watching spy techniques?
I've spent years in Eastern Europe and I can tell you that this isn't entirely true. I've seen lots of people holding flowers upright.
Someone: breathes
FBI: now stop right there. That's how they breathe in eastern Europe. You're a spy.
😂😂😂😂😂
naahhh the thing is they actully carry flowers like that, i think its healthier for the flowers?
Hahahaha lmfao
@@Leonardo-hy3qm r/whooooosh
@@Leonardo-hy3qm it is. and they do not just carry them like that in eastern europe.
This was randomly recommended to me, and i'm glad it was.
Very interesting video!!!
Ty for clearing up misconceptions there's so many ideas out there but few correct info..
His body language tells me hes uncomfortable in that chair😂😂
😁😝😝😄😝😝
LMAOOO
I thought so too!!!!😅😅😅
I am the 1k like XD
That's what he wants you to think
Gah, Imagine being his children.
"Where are you going son?"
"No where." …
"Why don't you sit down."
"Okay, at Sam's"
"What did you do..."
“I didn’t do anyth-“
“Who did you kill..”
“NO ONE DAD”
“Why don’t you explain the dead body in our backyard”
“That’s not a dead body it’s Samantha, she’s sleeping”
Eartha _ “she was tired she was sleeping”
“So what is a girl doing at the house?”
This guy keepes me awake.Great!
Omg i have his book. I found this vid today and never knew it was him. Pure gold
Me going back to school as a more efficient liar.
*That's How Mafia Works!*
Love your pic. Shoto Todoroki is bae😜
Nanii??? wth are you doing here todoroki? ❤
Same lol
😂😂😂
Opens mouth
FBI: ur about to say something
Best comment I've seen so far
Yes, just yes.
Your profile pic is the reaction
lmfao hahahahahahaha
WRong....surprised pikachu meme
Dude this is some useful information thanks wired for providing it at 0 cost😊
Just love this guy! So interesting, thank you. 😁👍🤩
Person : casually walking
FBI agent : *Hes carrying a nuclear bomb and knows einstein last words*
Get him boys
Wait what ho-
Who does?
Hands up! *Blows up*
@@datsovietnibbaasscomrade1254 the man who is casually walking, of course.
@@azaka3720 ohhh yes him yeah yeah its definitely him totally mhm get him mr. Fbi man yeah whoooo
my fbi agent probably nodding with me while i watch this
My fbi agent is either happy to get a brush up, or devastated that they have to go through fbi-school again
Boom shalock lock boom.
@@domg.1011 wtf are u talking about u guys know fbi agents or what???
nah my dogs sleeping rn, and we all know fbi agents spy on you using high-tech camera contact lenses in your pets
I would feel sorry for any sad shmuck if they were assigned to monitor me. I'm a terribly boring person. Maybe their boss hates them?
Yup, she's still watching silly crap on YT. Still sitting there. Oh, wait! She'sgettinganothercup of coffee! Yawn.
They must have really f***ked up to deserve that.
Growing up in certain environments I can say that I do almost none of these. It’s crazy how much childhood experience can completely change everything about someone. My father is the passive aggressive type, who often guilt trips and then tries to brush it off and then tries to put something on you then brush it off and we’re always being sarcastic. theres mistrust in the relationship, constant lies and a rocky marriage. Picking up on his intentions and what he tries to do to me when he speaks. He uses vague language so I can never really hold something against him without sounding accusatory and angered. I haven’t figured out why, but I end up avoiding communication in every way. Im self aware of everything I say and do. This sounds like an edgy attention grabbing comment but it’s the truth. I don’t react when I find something to be repulsive, painful, hilarious, impressive, scary, or breathtaking. Its like my body is still, and I have to manually forge a reaction that fits what my thoughts were when I saw it so that people don’t think i’m ignoring them or that i’m just a rude person. The only behavior I notice myself doing is wiping sweats palms on my pants. This is all I have to say.
We are likely very different, but I really feel the same way sometimes. It may be worthwhile to try and get fully tested for ASD, often times this manifests with feelings of disconnectedness and/or self-isolation. Nearly always paired with extremely chronic over processing and an inability to just understand simple “human” communication.
@@LilB0pete ill look into it. Honestly its not a lack of social awareness or social confusion at all, I just struggle to express my emotions visibly and genuinely. Im well aware or maybe even abnormally aware of my own feelings and analytical of others. This is probably just a weird hobby but i really enjoy investigating and identifying the causes of peoples actions, something about being emotionally knowledgeable brings me satisfaction. I could call myself emotionally intelligent but im only 15 so claiming such things about myself is most likely not 100% true. I also dont have trouble with communications and anxiety, I just struggle to express genuine emotion. Fake stuff is easy
I've learned by observing my mom throughout the years that she's angry or upset or unsatisfied when she compresses her lips. Really helpful for me to be cautious and know what I did or say wrong😅
You just know he tells that flower story at every dinner party and BBQ.
I would be pissed if I got caught because of the way I held some flowers lmao
😂😂😂
😂🤣😂🤣
And also that's how you hold flowers everywhere in the world when you know water and sap have to go to the petals, and you want your flowers to last longer.
It's not specific to eastern europe at all.
@@nicojar Exactly, in France it is common to do that
Dude got arrested by holding his flowers the wrong way lmao
No, he got caught by doing that. He got arrested for being a spy.
He held the flower as a weapon boys go get em
@@Zepen Did you watch the video? The former FBI agent said that the spy confessed.
【FLUX】 worst spy ever
“You hold the flowers like a Russian”
“Yes I’m a Russian spy, selling top of your national secrets to the highest bidder on the black market and to the Kremlin”
@@PunkerWithABoner Yeah the story seems pretty dumb, I mean there are tons of explanations he could use, also foreigners in USA are almost more common then the Americans themselves so it's such a nonsensical story.
People have no idea how great this guy is.
Wow, this was super interesting. I definitely learned a lot!
god his children must’ve had such a hard time lying to him
Meet the parents 😂
Maybe they've become experts...
😂😂😂😂
Part of the job
🤣🤣🤣
He probably pretends not to know when they lie.
*blinks*
“Yup, he’s a terrorist”
*FBI, OPEN UP*
Ultimate Warrior 😂😂😂😂dead
Blinks 4times a minute, yes he is a psycho killer!
Blinking a lot of times can also be Morse code..
😂😂😂
Absolutely fascinating.
0:00: 🕵♂ Nonverbal communication is key in detecting deception and understanding people's thoughts.
4:41: 👥 The importance of nonverbal communication in assessing individuals and their behavior.
9:26: 🃏 The video discusses the importance of observing body language in poker games.
14:08: 💬 Nonverbal communication is crucial in our communication with others.
Recap by Tammy AI
FBI agent: you appear to be breathing sir..
Me: *sweats*
😂
*don't breathe, that simple*
You appear to be sweating now sir.
you: *dies*
me: you appear to be dead now sir..
sir??..
FBI agent: if she breathes...
_she'sathot_
No one:
Criminals that stumble upon this video: WRITE THAT DOWN WRITE THAT DOWN WRITE THAT DOWN.
Bolt 😂👍🏻
Charles the French?
why do people keep exposing us?
Charles the French
@@hareemaziz8246 lmao i think
I just ordered two of your books. Thank you.
Interesting ending line there, since so many people in todays age almost never see people in reality.
someone: **scratches butt**
us: WE FOUND HIM.
Yeah..hes on the screen
Nice one 😂
@Earth i see what you did there comrade
Has a seizure, well boys we got em
only good fed is a dead fed!
Spy in America: No one will know my true identity
Flowers: ima bout to end this Mans whole career
Underrated
Whole career** not whole man**
*Man's whole career not whole man's career
i thought this is a beyond belief reference
@@wel88_ One entire full Mans.
The unmatched perspicacity coupled with the sheer indefatigability of this man makes him a god of the human realm.
Well played reference 😂
I didn't know he was also on CZcams, I read his book. Very interesting and very practicable
CZcams are you satisfied, I'm Sherlock Holmes now.
Lone Cyborg 295 likes no comments underrated comment because it’s true 👏🏼👏🏼😂
Yow Alita :D
LMAO! This is gold! 😂😂😂😂😂
The Robert Downey Jr. or the Benedict Cumberbatch one?
i dont know that sherlock is a cyborg
Imagine having this guy as ur dad and u lie about where you were and he’s like “nope Ik ur lying ur foot was pointing North west”
I’d run away
You don't have to be agent to know ,that your kid laying to you !
@@mirjanavuletic4762 he was joking you absolute melon
😂😂😂
🤐😂
He’s definitely someone who can make you admit everything just by his personality
The most entertaining video I saw this year is probably this video
His kids will become the ultimate liars.
Aka better spies
Either that or very honest people
me with adhd: always moving and fidgeting just bc of my disorder
fbi agent: she's sus.
@@kapilmaheswari6105 for real udgjkghklah
@@kapilmaheswari6105 stop copying
Me: *yawns*
FBI Agent: “so you thought you’d get away with it huh?”
i just jawned by reading this comment
@@yatosan9217 i just yawned by reading your comment to his comment
@@yatosan9217 Juaned.
Lmao
@@yatosan9217 Hahaha I yawned by reading your comment. Hey, at least that means we are not psychopaths.
Thanks for information
This is sooo confidential!
Me: *coughs*
FBI: Sir you're lying.
FBI: Ladies and gentlemen, we got him.
@@dingim.j9518 Hahah so true. 😂😂😂
This is how they cough in Eastern Europe!
Hahaha
@@cancelled_user The Baltic States. I know it is customary to name the 3 Baltic states, but I'm ending that trend right here.
Me- Picking nose and licking my fingers
FBI- signs of insecurity and stupidity
Brain: Let's put in the FBI's coffee!
Ew Tf
@@brookbrook1361 I havent :p
@@brookbrook1361 lowkey havent
bahaha_ brook ikr they dont realize that they cant even remember that
"how we walk has meaning" me in a wheelchair "i don't have meaning?" lol
i just started the video and i am shocked how much he moves his hands and body while talking
People with social anxiety:
Joe: THEY SUS
Right... Lol
Loll
hahahaha😐
Haha😐
Basically me
Me: _shoves flowers into my mouth_
FBI: _WTF?_
OH NO THATS HOW THEY CARRY FLOWERS IN NOTRH KOREA
@@user-iq1jz1wo3n Don't be silly, In North Korea they hold flowers close to their chest, hands clasped and lying down
Great, we're being invaded by Ork again…
Me: after seeing this video, I'm holding flowers between my legs, breathing through my skin and kiss someone when I'm thinking. Now I'm ready to be a spy.
Wow thats fantastic
I"m laughing at how Mr. Navarro came into the conversation between the two ladies and kind of did a..not a salute but something that made noise that translated to "I'm here!" The one lady was looked so offended for a moment, lol. Also, the moving your hand closer to yourself in a good hand of poker...I do that but with every hand. I do it so nobody can see my cards. However, I've had my nephew think it meant I had a good hand so, anyways, good to know. Thanks!
so real man i love this old dude
*gets hair in eye and blinks rapidly*
FBI agent: TAKE HIM DOWN
basically any police officer in america.
@@thecook6635 boooo 👎
@@thecook6635 not really but ok
@@thecook6635 Thanks for bringing politics into this, political discourse on an unrelated, harmless joke is very necessary. /s
ha. good point. the only difference is politics arent facts. it just goes to show how many people have actually dealt with police in real life.
Imagine how much he DIDN'T tell us.
Look it up , body language isnt a secret , more of pseudo science just because of how high it's failure rate is
@@jodofly1158 Not a high failure rate, you're just looking at small articles, not actually studying... You can do it right, you don't tho
@Giggitee O'Yeah go study
EVIL 69 Charger R/T He wants you to buy his book.
I was thinking the same thing. Lol
You've never been truly profiled, until you've flown El Al. Personally, I am grateful for their expertise and professionalism.
It's about how they move, act, speak and react when you interact with them. It can also matter if and how they don't react.
Everyone gonna go to school tomorrow thinking they an fbi agent
Meeeeee😂😂😂
Lol
Actually am waiting for my bf to wake up and I will try to know if he lied about something
I mean, you’re not wrong
Vian Mus dang girl he cheat on you or something?
Imagine holding flowers wrong and then getting a SWAT team break through your door
He has right about the flowers.
I'm going to start carrying flowers that way now
@@LogicalEpi same XD
Epilogical yup 😂 same
Lolllll
You carry flowers downwards in western Europe or if you are a florist too. The reason is that it keeps the flower petals saturated.
I hear you and I love the information you have been able to provide us all on this life 14:44 ❤️
“Being a spy is nothing like the movies” * insert story about flowers that almost perfectly parallels Inglorious Bastards *
But that movie is made with such ingenuity.
The disguise expert also talked about Inglorious Bastards
@@WukongTheMonkeyKing Coincidence? I THINK NOT.
👌
American spies in WWII were caught in similar fashion because in Europe they don’t switch their fork and knife after cutting meat. It’s the little cultural things that make you stick out like a sore thumb sometimes.