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Normally, earning respect takes years of demonstrating high character, but there are exceptions.
That's why in this video I will cover 6 psychological tricks that you can use to command respect almost instantly.
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0:16 - #1: Upgrade your thin slice.
1:22 - #2: Physically take up more space.
2:32 - #3: Get comfortable with platonic touch.
3:59 - #4: Don't allow yourself to be cut off.
6:07 - #5: Compliment your competition.
8:17 - #6: Openly share your shortcomings.
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I worked with a softspoken gentleman from the south who would get cut off in conversation and then raise his hand and say, "I'm dreadfully sorry for speaking while you were interrupting."
Haha that’s great, I’m going to start using that!
I got to remember that one.
That is smooth!
That's great!! Interesting that this video suggests one should finish their thought, even if interrupted. As a quiet person, I find in group settings, those with loud voices will interrupt. I stop talking when they speak, and may try to make an effort to contribute again. But, if I get interrupted again, I am generally resigned to checking out of the conversation. One of my old restaurant coworkers used to try to coach me sometimes about talking LOUD. He always made me laugh...😄😄 Great video❤
I`m sorry that the middle of my sentence interrupted the beginning of yours...
"People judge you based on how YOU perceive your shortcomings" very good point
I take up more space every time I'm around a beautiful girl... With an erection, believe me it works every time!!!!
@@Tucker454 don't do the man like that
Ability to talk about your shortcomings and laugh about it.
people don't like self respect, they like doormats.
@@rusure.8102 you shouldnt try to appeal to people who are looking for a doormat.
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Hey, everyone who runs this channel, you have all helped me with my social anxiety which has been ruining my life for years, destroying my academics, social status, and basically everything around me. I've been having a language barrier for a long time, but you have helped me conquer this. You guys are the best channel ever.
Bless you!! I’m sorry and was and still plagued by this for years! The only thing that has helped me during my weak time (after my baby and going through a traumatic abusive marriage and divorce has been klonopins) but there is hope! I was comepletely off of any medication except Zoloft right before that! What helped me was just being in the moment and loving myself! Also realizing the most confident people usually also have lower self esteem than I do and to be polite no matter what! Especially when nervous bc that will appear endearing to some people. Once your confidence builds up don’t become a doormat either and realize you matter!! Also daily prayer to God has helped me tremendously!!
Thank you guys for the encouragement!!
Heyy can u tell me how it helped cuz I am in the same situation as you.
I hope you're still doing well!
“Treat everyone with politeness and kindness, not because they are nice, but because you are.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
Yes. This notion of someone treating people the way said people treat them is weak and immature. Why would you allow someone (else's actions) to dictate the kind of person you are??? Decide who you want to be and then BE THAT KIND OF PERSON... regardless of how other people behave.
Kind is good. NICE is NOT. Nice = weak.
This is great however, from experience, it gets you hurt in the end
Beautifully said!
This is 2022 where everyone has a agenda and they are vicious. That would work in 1955
Being talked over is a huge issue people have and I agree, just continue what you were saying at the same tone. Some people just get excited and don’t mean to talk over you so don’t take it personally.
And some people are rude, lack basic interpersonal etiquette and awareness.
I've learnt to point it out to them in the moment, and I enjoy watching them swallow it. Maybe not so charismatic but it does the work 😂
@@BG597 works once. If you never have to deal with the person again I suppose.
I frequently interrupt people. Especially if I am “running” something. Some people simply take too long to process their thoughts and/ speak. The pace of the entire conversation/meeting can’t be ruined because one person loves attention too much or simply can’t keep up with a flow of conversation.
That said, I usually interrupt with questions or intentional statements to help them get to the crux of what they are saying faster or to set them up for a joke.
Some people just NEED to be interrupted because they don’t have the charisma themselves to be interesting or “read the room” and tell what they should be saying/ not saying.
@@JazGalaxy I don't think that's necessarily "interrupting" in the context of the video and OP's comment. That to me sounds like simply steering or assisting a conversation, as opposed to total disregard of speaker and bringing in a new subject.
Alex Platinum Dating BUT ALSO, if someone is ALWAYS doing it... just don’t talk to them. 😂
Being open about our imperfections may be good advice for the most part, but it is prudent to keep in mind that there are narcissistic people who are more than happy to zero in on the vulnerabilities of others and proceed to humiliate them. So it’s probably a good idea not to share too much with people that we don’t know well.
Yeah that's why I mix in jokes of me doing exaggeratedly well or just be silent and own it.
Not necessarily, if you double down on owning it they just look weak/insecure for pushing it. Stand your ground
You're mistaking narcissists for sociopaths. The two traits often go together ( and if you have antisocia behaviour disorder thrown in, you have the trifecta ), but they don't necessarily have to.
Or with people we do know
I agree with this statement. I’m cautious, over sharing vulnerabilities before rapport and trust is established isn’t always a good idea.
I love all of these except for #4. I have so much more respect for someone who mostly listens and can move flexibly through conversation than someone who just bulldozes through.
There's a balance. You can still leave a lot of 'air' time for others to chip in (yes, it's very annoying if someone is always talking). But when you do speak up, you usually want to make a pointed effort to finish your sentence. Some people have a habit of _always_ interrupting (not maliciously, they just can't shutup), so you _do_ have to bulldoze and speak louder sometimes in order to override them.
The bulldozer is the one who interrupts you mid-sentence, not the person who decides to calmly complete their thought.
agreed
@@WeartheGoodSocks I knew someone who would loudly complete my sentences... but they always (always) finished my sentence in the opposite direction than I was going. I was always so confused that they could go in that direction - did they not know me at all? Their behavior might not be 'bulldozing' but it was so annoying cuz it left me feeling not at all understood. I asked them to stop interrupting me, but they didn't... ugh!
@@jfdc8432 ..and youve both been happily married now for ten years.
When you dance to your own rhythm, people may not understand you; they may even hate you. But mostly they’ll wish they had the courage to do the same.
thnx, this was exactly what I needed today!
You are wise ✌ from Florida.
You'll also be very lonely.
Naah...people hate bullies - who are actually insecure inside so on outside they bulldoze others. Yes this happens 90% of time. Limelight captured in a bulldozing others way will not be endearing long enough. All the advices given in this video are only suitable for artificially competitive corporate environment, anything humane and real life situation..these tips wont take you long distance.
Such a lonely world we live in.
Part of Jaden backing down immediately is probably the subconscious habit of giving way to the adults. He would be dragged for being disrespectful if he were to interject the way Will did, or even if he interjected politely.
Absolutely. And also his dad is there, which is not when you feel the most like you are “in your own element”.
Wow great point!
Excellent agree with you
True, unless they all find whatever he says funny like they did for his dad
Yep! We've all been victims of age . It's ok.
Instant respect is usually short lived as respect and trust are earned little by little
I have a rule that proves me right every single time. Whenever I join a new group of people - all my flags go up by those who introduce themselves as my new friends - they are those who learned how to impress.
Respect takes years to build: Picture of Will Smith
Respect takes moments to lose: picture of Will Smith
Truth
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Hah! That's what I was thinking. They used the WRONG symbol here!
I respect him more violence built this world a real man always will attack a threat your a soft gen brainwashed loser
True words
"In reality, people DO NOT judge you on your shortcommings, they judge you on how YOU perceive your shortcommings"
Gold.
Yes, it is Gold.
Thanks Pedro :-) for quoting that, cause I didn't give it the attention it deserves
@@taylor_tony Glad it helped :)
Preach...
Make the mistake and admit your shortcomings to others. And they will take this as their permission to remind you of your shortcomings every time there is an argument. After all - you said it yourself that you have that defect.
"You dont have to be Ryan Gosling or Emma Stone"
*Shows Brad Pitt*
Well, technically, Brad Pitt is neither Ryan Gosling or Emma Stone. He's not wrong.
Hollywood is full of simpletons.
Hahahaha I noticed that as well 🤣🤣🤣
@@crespoopserc ok boomer
@@crespoopserc you mean Simpsons? Haha I'm hilarious!
Taking up space and your overall presence definitely affects how people treat you. A few months back, I was sitting in the waiting area of a restaurant. A man with his wife sat across from me. He leaned towards me and said, “This is going to sound like a crazy question, but are you a cop”? I said no, and that I worked in tech. “You look organized. You look disciplined”, he responded as he brought his fists together in a flexing motion. It was the most flattering compliment I’ve ever received.
Take care of yourself, be mindful of your posture, dress nice but not over the top, and always be polite. People will notice your confident energy.
I've been watching these videos out of sheer curiosity and I am delighted how far I have come since my shy younger years. These are all things I have figured out on my own, over time, after many years of embarrassing myself. A lot of this comes naturally with getting older, I think. The old "embrace my flaws" trick has been huge for me, too.
Don't fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it.”
― Amy Cuddy
Books In Review Good video she had 🙌🙌🙌
Hone it 'til you own it
That’s literally what fake it till you make it means
That’s literally what fake it till you make it means
@@danielsuelzle4364 Nope. watch Amy cuddy's ted talk.
6 Psychological Tricks To Command Respect Instantly
1. Thin Slice (People's first impression of you): Clothes - wear something that fits.
2. Take up more space: hand gestures, taking up the entire seat. You are "not" afraid of being seen.
3. Get comfortable with platonic touching: hugs, hi-five, shoulder pats. Must be done appropriately - under 5 seconds, normal areas.
4. Don't stop talking - always finish your sentence. Don't let them talk over you.
5. Compliment your competition. Don't tear down others, you'll lose respect.
6. Openly share your shortcomings. People judge you on how you perceive your own shortcomings: "own the bad things" about yourself.
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Legend
I was looking for this comment to save 11 minutes, thank you sir.
God bless you
Thanks
Thanks for saving my 12 minutes
Definitely agree with the last one!!! Always said I see a person who is more vulnerable and honest than one who plays strong and put up a front being fake and phoney. To me it’s a sign of strength, not weakness and I respect them more.
“Expectation wasn't just about what people expected of you. It was about what you expected of yourself.” - Brandon Sanderson, _Words of Radiance_
As a young teenager, I thought that googling things like “how to be Moe confident” was so shameful, but now I realize that casually watching these videos is a way to absolutely boost the way people perceive you and it’s certainly a good thing to work on yourself.
It's no shameful at all bro. CZcams can offer some great content, such as videos like this. I am 17 and trying to improve myself as much as possible. Thats what life is about. Being a better version of yourself than you were the day before.
@@HistoryForYouOfficial I am 17 too.
And the next hurdle is the realisation that people's perception of you means absolutely nothing
@@zedzeddius8445 That's true brother
I'm 50 and I still haven't figured it out. I'm glad there are things like this to help me learn things I want to know.
"start dressing one lever nicer than the situation calls for"
me: *wears a suit to school*
That’s what I was thinking
I help out at a local school helping some kids to improve their reading. One lad came in with hair strikingly neat and combed and wearing his tie neatly tied, and overall looking ultra 'smart'.
The teacher said, as she understood it he had to regularly beat the girls off lolz
One level up, not the top level up otherwise it would look awkward.
@@eugenioalongi6949 whats a level above a hoodie and jeans
@@mrthirdparty4861 better jeans maybe button up, i mean jeans can be between businuess casual or super casual, age appropriate hoodie and not something obnoxious, mainly i wear everything from weargustin, maybe chinos or pants with a brown or black leather shoe
“Keep your head high and don’t apologise unless you absolutely have to. Then do it once, loudly and clearly. Never whine, never plead, never gush. Think before you speak to a person and when you have to, use few words. People respect the silent, they despise the garrulous.”
This is a paraphrased quote
this is good, in a toxic situation, remain professional
@@sashanealand8315 thank you, I whole heartedly agree. To my shame I can never quite remember the origin of the quote nor the exact words so when I do online searches I can’t get an answer but I’ll find it one day
So one very important thing I discovered when I was in my early 20's, and it still sticks to me to this day, is my belief that "CONFIDENCE IS KEY," that quote I made myself to remind myself. Now I started to realize this when I was self-aware of being super shy, didn't approach girls, and didn't know how to talk to them. I don't want to attribute it to weed but after I started smoking weed and relaxing a little around other people and just acting myself I started to realize that having confidence in acting yourself and accepting yourself for who you are brings MANY benefits in almost all aspects of your life.
It has helped me in my work life, my personal life and helped me be successful in both. Confidence is key.
Being charismatic on a skype call would be an interesting video for these times
Sit with proper posture, dress nicely even though you're inside your own house, frame your video shot with yourself in the center. If you watch streamers, basically be like one of them on video calls, but still be yourself obviously.
Don't forget to clean the room you're in, mute your mic when you go to sneeze, burp etc.
Steve Ballmer can help!!
Also a video about how to make your text chats more pleasurable for your partner
Light from behind, preferably natural light. Background not too bare or busy. Try to look into camera when talking as looking at the screen makes you look like you’re looking down.
Tricks are like building a house with no foundation. They look good on the outside but you'll crumble if someone challenges you
You have to also work on your internal beliefs
Oath I prefer deeper videos. Not this surface level kind of stuff.
@@michaelb3608 Then don't watch them? There are different levels of video depth for different audiences - for some people, these tips and tricks can be the opening towards changing their internal beliefs. If you're not the core audience, nobody is forcing you to watch and waste your time.
@@MiaRBeauty hey I saw this comment just by chance , you have any videos you can suggest to me I am really trying to work on all of this but need better guidance
@@MiaRBeauty How would they know these videos are not for then if they do not watch them first? This piece of manipulation is so common, it's starting to jarr.
@@Name-lz6cg It's not manipulation - what do I have to gain from ''manipulating'' y'all to not watch stuff you don't enjoy lmao?
You watch it, see it's not for you, you stop watching. It's unproductive to KEEP watching, realize it's for a specific audience you're not a part of, and then complain that it doesn't cater to you -specifically-. Things are made for different people and that's okay.
I reckon this channel is the reason I feel a lot more joy lately. Much appreciated
When it comes to owning your shortcomings. It reminds me of a quote from Tyrion Lannister- "Never forget what your are, the world will not. Wear your flaws like armour and it can never be used against you."
Or another worthwhile quote worth remembering from Thomas Dolby is - She Blinded Me With Science
How do you do that without resorting to self-deprecating humor all the time?
*First and foremost:* If you don't respect yourself - others will take your lead on that
Did you even watch the video bro? "6 Psychological Tricks"- Clues in the title. Your comment is irrelevant. "Respecting yourself is not a trick but something much more fundamental. Not one of 6 pyschological tricks. It's not a video about overall psychological makeup, self esteem and self image etc. It's a video about tricks. They even talked about more authentic self respect deep authentic confidence, etc at the end in their advert.... Perhaps you should take their emotional master course.
Rather than commenting other peoples channels perhaps you need to concentrate on your own.
I don't respect you.
@Victoria Spies the dude comments on almost every video on this channel and dozens of not hundereds more channels spreading his "wisdom". He never watched the videos. It's just to get attention to his channel. It's an inauthentic advert essentially.
@@jonathanbowen3640 ah thanks for the clarification :)
Totally true!!!Well said!!
@@jonathanbowen3640 I'm sorry to say this but after reading your comment, i went to his channel to look at his videos and I notice that on the "about" section of his channel it says he's in Sweden. Given his name, I can't help but think that he's part of the community of muslim immigrants plaguing Sweden right now
One thing that has helped me command respect is being calm and unfazed when bullies in the workplace try to intimidate me. This drives bullies crazy and has actually caused a number of them to go out of their way to avoid me. I've found that most bullies are insecure and/or simply unpracticed in gaining ground by means other than intimidation. This is why so many can't at all handle anyone they can't intimidate. Forgot to mention that of course I didn't let the misimpression stand but neither did I get combative because that's not me. I just casually but clearly restated the accurate version of events to those above me with full confidence and continued my work.
This is an excellent strategy!
Yep, bullies are insecure and pathetic on the inside, and when they encounter somebody who is more intense and genuinely confident, their entire facade will inevitably collapse.
I tried this and they just kept doing it because I did nothing, thanks for the help
Doesn't work they will think ur weak and keep bullying u
@@stevesteve5785 you have to be confident while being calm and unfazed. Look at them in the eyes while talking to them and speak in an even and assertive tone. Also adopt a more confident form if you haven't already.
Edit: watch the scenes in "The Boys" between Homelander and Stan Edgar and you'll see what I mean. Homelander is a powerful superhero(or villain) who could easily annihilate Stan without any effort, but he doesn't, as Stan Edgar scares the crap out of him because of how unaffected he is by Homelander's intimidation tactics that would make any other person immediately lose their nerve.
Often let people cut me off during a sentence and you explained that just perfect.
It is more about ''wanting to respect the person'' while literaly beeing disrespected.
I do all this naturally... but I know so many people who could benefit from this advice
When another person is speaking to you and another person interrupts him, tell the person who interrupts to let the other one finish talking.
This seems to me a smart piece of advice. :-) Thanks Clyde for having shared publicly your intelligence.
I need to find a way to make this advice an habit of mine. In Italy, where I live, it should work well, because, in group situations, many people interrupt each other.
@@taylor_tony You're most welcome. It would command respect from the people around too. It's a good leadership strategy.
Yeah i do that, didn’t know it was some skill.
@@anoldtimer not knowing about it but you still do it earns respect from me ♥️ Keep doing it and watch their reactions to you
I tend to make eye contact with the person that has been interrupted or turn back to them immediately, and nod to indicate I'm still listening and the person who interrupted stops themselves or tapers off until the first speaker is done. I then turn around and give the same attention to the other person 😅. The palpable relief on their faces and how open they become to you is mind blowing. And also subtlely letting the people around you know that you're an objective listener and they don't have to compete to be heard.
"Excuse me for talking, while you're interrupting!"
Way to prove you're the whiniest person in the group. Go you!
Let's face it: we're addicted to five-second sound bites. We've been brainwashed by the media to expect and seek out entertainment to a ridiculous and unhealthy extent.
People have forgotten how to exercise their minds, how to delve more deeply, to listen, to appreciate profundity.
We doubt ourselves and are forced to play games while being surrounded constantly by needy, unhappy fake people. We don't really want to blend in and be accepted by them as much as we need to defend ourselves properly.
All that to say: I love this channel. The number one takeaway here is to continue talking after someone has interrupted you. That elevates you to the power status of the one doing the interrupting. It's tough, something I as well as most people need to become better at.
I hope life is kind to you all today. Please practice kindness. Namaste
That is, if you give a damn what people think about you. I don't go around trying to gain the respect of strangers; but I don't ever let my friends, coworkers, or acquaintances cut me off or interrupt my speech.
Talking through interruptions unphased, and calling them out calmly to regain control is the single-most important tip I have received from this channel. If anyone believes that they are invisible to people and no one wants to hear what they have to say, definitely don’t sleep on this advice. It’s priceless!
it's kind of hard when you have a soft voice and are in the company of people who like to bellow. I honestly have had to shout at times just to make myself heard over others who just interrupted me normally in their huge disregarding bellowing voice, probably because my amplitude range is beneath what their brain can pick up.
@@Lena-cz6re speak louder to begin with
@@dawsoncarpenter2206 Everyone says to speak louder. They don't realize that we can't. Our vocal chords won't allow for it. We aren't trying to be soft-spoken. We aren't holding back. It's beyond frustrating when people state that we just need to try harder. It's like saying that we need to just be taller or 10x stronger to begin with. I'm reminded of a gentleman at a quiet restaurant who was speaking as softly as he could, but his voice was so naturally loud that everyone in the room could still hear him clearly. He was trying to go in the other direction and was powerless to do so.
@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 then yell?
@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 my voice is loud and my teacher get mad but I just whisper now? You can willingly change the tone of your voice but you can’t change the length of your body so that was an odd comparison
Guys remember this, Everything is situation based. There’s no list you can follow.
Stop, analyse, react. That’s it
Stop analyse act
Yes, ..and different cultures have different values/perceptions on what charisma can look like. How one responds to situations..
True
Spot on.
Confidence is also a huge player in the way you project yourself. People respect it; even in potentially dangerous situations or parts of town.
Thank you for this video. Love the lesson here, especially on dressing up. You don't need to buy expensive brands but look for clothes that suit your body.
1. Upgrade your thin slice.
2. Physically take up more space.
3. Get comfortable with platonic touch.
4. Don’t allow yourself to be cut off.
5. Compliment your competition.
6. Openly share your shortcomings.
People judge you on how YOU perceive your shortcomings.
thin slice?
The real mvp. Thanks for the efficiency boost.
The exact opposite of progressive Democrats. Got it.
@Astro Jenkins Beta got offended?
@@stevethea5250 🤣🤣🤣
I like stopping people talking mid sentence. It's so easy. Just press skip ad.
Costas Mamais
Very funny! Thank you for that! Really made me laugh!
That’s so rude
@@tropicalcandyland6266 hihihihiii why?
“Just press skip ad.” Got it.
‘Took me a second, but I got it.
Rofl
I tend to talk over people - not due to disrespect - but rather because I get excited and don’t want to “lose” my thought because my memory is terrible. I actually appreciate when people I know just calmly turn around and say, ok - just let them finish. They know it’s just my impulsivity and not disregard for the speaker. Point. At my age, I’m still learning! ☝️👍🏻✌️
For me, the posture thing is way underrated in this video. In anxiety situations I focussed on good posture for a bit and usually the anxiety shivers away
One thing you forgot to mention: secure ppl speak in an even steady tone, while insecure ppl speak in wildly varying emotional tones. The way you speak directly reflects what is going on inside you.
Word... Keeping cool is the mark of wise.
I'm secure but animated. Always keep them on edge.
Pretty subjective, everyone has their own way of speaking albeit whether they’re insecure or not
Unfortunately, not at all. People who know how to play the game speak calmly and make you believe them whilst making the ones they have hurt look irrational.
Not really. Animated speech (different tones) always reflects independence, individuality and integrity.
The fact that you’re able to identify these characteristics and label them is awesome
Rule Number 4 is crucial. Many people don't realize that they are doing it, and will understand when you call them out, and/or "correct" them when you insist on not finishing your sentence when they cut you off. Usually the person was not raised right, or is a true narcissist.
I’m still working on number three, but the rest of the list is looking fairly strong after one year as a nanny. Personal growth goals!
I'd love to see some features of women's confident behavior also
Arina Iz the ones he did on Emilia Clarke and Margot Robbie were great
@@alexwright5419 oh thanks! I haven't seen the Margot Robbie's one yet
I think most of the points here apply same for women, these are simply general tips for assertiveness
As a man, here is the number one trait I think makes a woman look confident. Look people in the eye and hold their gaze.
@@arinaiz9178 He also covered Aubrey Plaza
I'm always overdressed a bit and people compliment me on my style all the time, even though i only have a few designer pieces and the rest is zara, mango and h&m but it's important to not overpay for plastic and get nice fabrics like linen and wool etc
Same. I don’t think my style is anything extra special, I just wear what I like but I’m always complimented. I think its a lot about you wear the clothes and not let them wear you.
@TEE PERO true
First... be comfortable in your own skin... all else is just covering that up...
If you refrain from boho cuts, synthetics, embellishments and limited prints …fit and fabric is 90% of it.
I heard somewhere that you shouldn’t break eye contact first. Like, when you’re walking into a room, or catch someone staring at you, don’t look away first no matter how uncomfortable. It’s a natural posturing and the first to look away is the submissive. Don’t make it weird … You can maintain eye contact with a small smile on your face. Usually the posturing only lasts 10 seconds but it’ll feel like minutes.
“Collaborate accordingly” = excellent.
Here is the best one.
Quit giving a damn what others think.
Be yourself and love yourself.
👍👍👍👍👍👍
If your trying. Its wrong!!😎😎😎
Yeah, we did that and it didn’t work. That’s why we’re here
"Most westerners are uncomfortable with platonic touching"
I thought I was the only one who observed that.
I'm old now but even as a teenager I've always been a ambiguous toucher, touching a girl's hand or her shoulder while laughing or talking with her. It also helps to take dancing or a martial art which requires touching like Judo. Then you wouldn't be afraid to touch people up close.
Yeah alot of men in America don't like to be touched. One touch from another man is like alright,but when a man keeps touching you. You gotta say what the f_ck man. We don't kiss each other either, but hey I won't judge other folks it's just not our thing.
@@instanttherapy touching girls, I get that.
That is ridiculous and completely wrong. You don’t know what your talking about …..clearly.
Don't touch anyone unless you're in a relationship with them. Otherwise you're asking for trouble. It pisses people off and usually makes them uncomfortable.
WARNING!! I rolled my shoulders way too many times, now none my clothes will fit. I was 180 cm now I'm 203 cm....
Man the quality of this free content is reaallly high.. congrats frome Greece.
Poor Jaden. He's been talked over too many times on this channel.
Mercy him, Charlie.
Will like showed him how to do it. He should learn more things with his father.
😂
Ick. Why does he insist on kissing his son on the lips in public. The kid looks mortified.
@@user-ib6cj1ys8e back at ya
@@hanksh7285 Maybe he was more passive around his father. I'll bet he's more assertive around his peers. He's charming and articulate just like his father.
I didn't realize how much of this stuff we do naturally. There are definitely areas of improvement through practice, but I love that we all have a bit of this going for us already. Good luck, everyone!🍀
I stumbled upon this video. I don't care about impressing anyone or getting attention. I don't care what people think of me and I'm not going to put on a show to gain anyone's favor.
Quick things about clothes: something inexpensive, but tailored, always looks better than something expensive but poorly fit, which you touched on. Another thing is that wearing big bold labels or logos is generally seen as a way of desperately saying "Look at me and the brand!" which is against self-confidence.
Lastly, shoes. Yes, shoes. I remember a study where women tend to notice a man's shoes very quickly and judge them by it. Actually, I will take note if someone's shoes are unpolished, in disrepair, or otherwise cheap looking (there are quality shoes at affordable prices). If you invest in good quality shoes, and keep them looking great and maintained, it shows that you recognize quality and take care of it. Same could be said of sunglasses - one quality pair that fit you well, which are highly maintained, speak volumes.
The part with jaden and Will was golden. I really be feeling like jaden sometime! In that clip
well if youre interested he has one video only about that
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"Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can't buy. It's an invisible energy with visible effects."
- Marianne Williamson
HYPER O just paying for the advice doesn’t impart charisma, you have to implement the advice and nurture that “sparkle”
HYPER O what? You do realize there’s a difference between charisma, an intangible personality trait, and advice, right?
@@hypercept Because advice =/= charisma? Advice on charisma, however, won't help you if you just watch his videos or pay him. You have to take it.
Word...
@@hypercept The good ones do usually have a natural charisma.
Why do I love how amazing and intriguing the speaker for this channel is❤. I’m fascinated 😊
1. Earning respect normally takes a long time, but there are tricks to command more respect instantly.
2. The first trick is to upgrade your "thin slice," which is the first impression people have of you.
3. Dressing one level nicer than the situation calls for can get you noticed in a positive way.
4. Physically taking up more space can also influence your thin slice and command more respect.
5. Getting comfortable with platonic touching can build trust and create closeness, but it must be done appropriately.
6. Keeping your touch to non-central areas of the body, keeping each touch under five seconds, and being a universal toucher can help ensure appropriateness.
7. Not allowing yourself to be cut off mid-sentence can help you command more respect in conversations.
8. It's important to be mindful of how people react and to calibrate accordingly in all of these situations.
The video discusses six psychological tricks that can help individuals command more respect instantly. The first trick is to upgrade one's thin slice, which is the first impression that an individual makes on someone. The video suggests that clothing can be a massive lever in one's direct control, and dressing one level nicer than the situation calls for can get the individual noticed in a positive way. The second trick is to physically take up more space, which can be achieved through posture and sitting asymmetrically or taking up the entire seat. The third trick is to get comfortable with platonic touching, which builds trust and creates a feeling of safety and closeness. However, the touch should be universal, caring, and kept to non-central areas of the body for under five seconds. The fourth trick is to not allow oneself to be cut off mid-sentence, as it can make the individual seem less confident and assertive. The fifth trick is to speak slower, as it can make the individual seem more confident, in control, and intelligent. The final trick is to use power words strategically, such as "because," "imagine," and "you."
Always walk upright with your shoulders square and make strong eye contact. That makes you look formidable and not someone to trifle with. Never look down if you can help it as it makes you appear weak and an easy mark. This is what happens to many victims of daytime crimes like muggings because they exude the appearance of being an easy target.
I surveyed hundreds of incarcerated muggers for a magazine article on this very topic. You’re absolutely right. Exude weakness/distraction and expect to be targeted.
In reality the confident person has the biggest target on his back in any work space.. Only if he has the higher rank he can act that way.. On the same level, the others will build a pack and bully the competition..
Very true, if you’re surrounded by insecure psychopaths, they’ll group together, target you and try to bully you (verbally).
So if you’re new on a job or low on the totem pole, confidence can make others uncomfortable (at least with females, I would imagine men don’t have to worry as much about gossip and sabotage).
Exactly! That's what happens to me constantly. Even if their work is substandard and everyone knows it, they focus in on me. That's why I'm my own boss now. lol. But, if you can befriend your boss to some extent, they may lay off.
Right!! Thank you!!
That is a good point.
Self respect is widely unacceptable so if you have it, best remember that you are alone.
Another tip is to genuinely be friendly and your demeanor and touching should reflect that. You're not just doing it to be liked, but doing it because you like them. People know when you're fake.
Thing is, only time I would speak up at work is when I have information that I think could help the team. Whether it gets heard or not doesn't change the fact that I am right. I am gonna be right whether I get to share that information or not. If their egos are so huge that they need to have the spotlight on them constantly then be my guest. I know what I know and don't really care if it only benefits me or the group.
Never do favors for anyone at work unless explicitly asked to do so.
I used to work for a man who had been the Dean of Students at a local college. He would say, “Good grammar and good manners will get you a long way”. I also agree with dressing one level above. It was an unwritten rule in the large corporation where I worked that you should dress like someone in the position you want to attain. I will never understand why teachers no longer dress professionally, when they could command more respect that way, and at the same time set a good example for students.
I like that. Dress like the position you want to attain. Great advice
Because 'dressing well' costs money that local taxpayers are unwilling to raise for teachers' salaries. You get what you pay for.
You’re right. I wore my expensive, well fitting costumes which absolutely got me more money and advancement at the workplace. Now that I’m retired, I revel in dressing down, no makeup, unkempt hair. There’s a sense of freedom and joy.
Your advice is gold. I used the tactic where I don't stop talking when interrupted and it works like a charm. It even gets the interrupting person to stop talking if you do it right.
Great. I’m gaining respect in the workplace already. Thank you
My trick when getting talked over is to raise my eyebrows and adopt a blank look as they finish their sentence. Then I just let the pause linger a bit before continuing.
Being in sales, this helps a lot with customers.
Respect is also a mutual thing, if you're respecting of others, people will perceive you differently and respect you before even making contact with one another.
Good god man, you are everywhere, you live inside of youtube? Also you are right about respect being mutual
Just Some Guy without a Mustache
Right! Then you don't need tricks!
I see you f*cking everywhere
I wouldn't put **too** much emphasis on not letting people talk over you. I'm not saying you should let people walk all over you, but if you're demonstrating solid confidence in other areas, then shutting up when you're faced with someone who is **determined** to talk over you is actually a plus. It shows you're not interested in everything being all about you.
That's interesting because there was a time, there were like 10 people in a hostel in Rio de Janeiro, everybody interacting when this guy arrives and starts overtalking, his voice was loud and he was catching our attention kinda filling the whole space. In the begging it was "okay, let's listen to the story the eloquent guy has to tell", but then when other people would try to participate he would always interrupt them and just talk about himself... After 20 minutes of boring non-stop talk I got up in the middle of his speech and said "excuse-me guys, the conversation is really nice here but I gotta go" everyone started laughing, saying "yeah, it's late already..." so I think he got the message as half of us left the place. Interrupting either kills the vibe or breaks the ice, it's all about when and how hahah
Not caring abour others opinion plays the biggest part in charisma
Puki Fruiti At Times.
"When they look away, I know I've already won."
-Mike Tyson
Maybe his breath smelled bad.
Eye contact is the most powerful communication tool. You can control souls if mastered.
"The second they've looked away..."
Plus he is not afraid of touching, and his posture and hand gestures take up all immediate space.
I think he's seen this video too!
Not everything is a boxing match
The speech part is the one thing I have a issue with My ADHD makes it hard. The interruption literally make me completely forget my thought sometimes. It's a work in progress though.
1 word: SELF RESPECT.
If you HAVE it the MAJORITY
of people will RESPECT you.
Also very important: RESPECT
& LISTEN to others & they will
RESPECT & LISTEN to you.
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1:29 Video:"You need to physically take up more space in a room just like Tony Robbins is doing here"
Tony Robbins: 6'7 Giant.
Accused recently of sexual improprieties, lol.
@@bramblebop1904 - Always got a bad vibe from this giant creep.
Yeah, lol. He was big in the 90s, horseteeth and all.
Works better for Tony than for Gary Coleman.
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I've never heard of "thin slice" in my life 😂
Read the book called blink by Malcolm Gladwell
In business classes, they call it your "elevator ad" or "30-second commercial."
I dress like the village people
@@firstandlastswagman269 All of them?!
Me neither
Thank you. I love your video. I'm glad I ran into you. I like that you don't waste time. You get right to the point and talk fast while pronouncing your words.
N D from CT.
Summary: Love yourself, be authentic, & give no shits.
i have always been super introverted and shy and i'm so glad i've discovered your channel these past weeks. i have a big family and i'm already seeing improvements in how they respect me when i'm talking and how they react to my stories. i can't wait to apply these tips to my life after quarantine. sometimes i struggle with supporting my friends during deep conversations. i'm usually a great listener but i would really appreciate a video on keeping those situations comfortable and helpful. this channel is doing so many amazing things and i am so grateful for all the tips you have given me. thanks ;)
Touch. right time. Right place. Right WAY.
This makes me happy. Good to hear. Thanks for sharing the positivity 🙌🏻🙂
I appreciate your video. I feel it is important feedback to you that for women, a lot of these suggestions backfire in my experience. Of course I am almost 6 feet tall in flats so I have that to deal with as it is counter to my gender role, confusing things for many people. Confusion isn’t a good first impression. So I have to be especially conscious of the constraints of being a female.
1- upgrade thin slice - it definitely works to upgrade your dress. but women have to be extremely careful to finesse the line between being too “fancy” and feminine (not taken seriously) or too “plain” and masculine (butch, aggressive). This is oversimplified but gives you a start. Throw in skirt length, sleeve length, color, pattern, form fitted, loose, sexy vs frigid, and you get an idea.
2- take up more space. Similar to 1, too much movement, you seem inappropriately aggressive or too little: timid and tight assed. I know this is silly, but imagine it, say Peggy Olsen in Mad Men, mimicking Draper. It would be really weird to see her man-spreading across a couch as Draper sits demurely on the edge.
3- platonic touch. I think women are freer to touch people than men are so this is one plus. Of course touching a man is fraught with hazards. Even a shoulder pat can be considered flirting by some men. Female touch can be considered manipulative. Think of an actress in an old movie seductively touching a man’s suit collar or tie. It’s completely inappropriate especially if you are the man’s superior!
4- don’t allow yourself to be cut off. This is “Karen” behavior. I’m sorry but women who aren’t the outranking executive do not get to do this or they risk being labeled something rhyming with glitch. It is a paradox because if you let people interrupt you then you appear to be weak. You can’t win unless you can have graceful quickness that slips gently in and returns the focus to you. Hillary Clinton, for all her faults is excellent at this.
Also Hillary is excellent at not letting her voice go high. Women’s voices, when raised, like in your example, often go up in pitch and take on a whiny, screechy (fingernails down the blackboard) quality which instantly destroys any credibility you may have. Think of Elizabeth Warren in the 2020 Dem primary debates. Once again, Hilary Clinton has this down and lowered her pitch when she raised her voice.
5- compliment your competition. I think this is ok if you are very careful. Women have multilevel subtexts. it is difficult, especially with when the person you are complimenting is female. Women learn young how to use the backhanded compliment and fake friendship like a master swordsman uses a rapier. Also it can make you seem weak (women default to weak until they repeatedly show evidence to the contrary)
5- openly share your shortcomings. This rarely works for women in my opinion. Instead of admiration for admitting human fallibility, it instead reinforces the stereotype that you are incompetent or fishing for compliments. It backfires badly with men as the audience, who frankly don’t take women seriously on a deep subconscious level, even if they are trying to be fair.
None of these issues are anyone’s fault, women react the same as men do to other women. It is just a fact of life and not something to be bitter about. Women have other strengths.
This comment is meant as a consciousness raising. Since you are men, it is entirely understandable that you didn’t think about it this way.
It would be cool if you could do some compare and contrast videos to explore how women’s and men’s behavior is perceived differently and how to optimize both.
I would especially appreciate getting the male perspective on how women’s behavior and speech is perceived.
Thanks!
Very insightful remarks. As a woman, it makes a lot of sense and confirms what i've seen in the workplace but hadn't fully formulated to myself.
You've made some good points - for people who need to be liked, accepted, etc. because they're business people. But if it's friends you seek - be you, whoever and however you are. Anything else is beneath you.
Very good points! A lot of times when people see confident women, it is instinctual to try to bring them down because a lot of folks were raised thinking women should be meek and demure. I'm FtM and still look like a woman to some people, so I still get this treatment on occasion. Especially if I'm doing something in a male dominated field like playing metal music.
Thank you, Stephanie A. You said what I was thinking. I was wondering why, except for Oprah, there were no women featured.
Thank you!
I began mastering my emotions from the day I was born, and still learning!😅
Also, this is a phenomenal presentation and highly informative, great stuff!!!🔥👏
It just boils down to appreciating yourself and feeling worth in your own eyes
Yes - it's actually impossible to fake
Getting a relationship with my main man, Jesus Christ, has changed my life and I have an inner joy that is not affected by circumstances. Give Him a try.
$597! I'll master my emotions myself!
And Tony Robbins is a fraud. Personally, I can't stand the site of him. It looks as if he has too many teeth in his mouth, and his massively boney skull somehow reminds me of the unfortunate individual who was known as the "elephant man."
Is that what he's Charging?
The videos are free.
Dej se dokupy, šašku... Já nestojím o váš respekt a ani o respekt kohokoliv, kdo vás zná...
Tvoje představa, že jsi chodící respekt, definuje tvoje odtržení od reálného světa...
The Pop Culture references really do help us understand way more.
I hate when people cut my sentences. And they don't do it anymore.
SAME.
aLLAN aBANI what did you change?
toni3393 I just tell them that I didn’t finish to talk. It was hard to say it at first but when you say it a couple times and that you see people understanding. It becomes normal. It’s like saying « no ». Try it a few times, you can smile when you say it it may be better, depends on the situation of course.
Sounds like you killed them lol
I can try to use that trick after this. Thanks!
It is great to be confident when you have something to be confident about. As an average college girl I already come off as narcissistic to most people, and that's despite the fact that I usually try to hide my confidence and self-esteem, because I appear extremely unfriendly when I show it
dont hide it flaunt it girl! the people who you attract will then be people who give back energy and not be confronted by it
Be awesome and everything will fall in place.
"Be excellent to each other...and....PARTY ON DUDES! "
After years of trying to do this stuff consciously, I noticed that once I started adopting a holistically healthy outlook and mindset, a lot of these things happened naturally. Of course my social skills have gone down the toilet since quarantine, but it’s a muscle I’ll get back to good form
Never judge a book by its cover. Dressing, learning how to walk, how to speak, and how to impress are all part of the way a book looks.
But eventually - people open the book and start looking at the content. And that's where all the "tips on how to impress" fly right out of the window.
Exactly.
you have respect when you have respect for yourself and you have self control and discipline and you have a spiritual practice that gives you high vibration...high frequency so your energy is bright and strong & some people get drawn to you...power draws respect and when you know your power you must control it or you lose it...elements that influence others are confidence...calm..higher consciousness...occult knowledge..ability to listen more than speak...when you have your power you live in your own construct...your own world...everywhere you walk the people exist in your energy space...you are able to dictate whatever you want to happen in your world..basically you know the exact moves to make to get anything you want yet paradoxically you have no real desire for anything because you are satisfied in thoughtless bliss...you become a perfectionist. ....you identify windows of opportunity when something is possible and you see when the windows of opportunity close and you don't bother to place a bet just looking and knowing which turns into sure and accurate knowledge for future events
"most westerners are awkward with physical contact"
*Laughing in Italian*
Francesco Gulisano LOL!!!
Are Italians known for lots of physical contact?
@@brandonbrown435 pretty much yes
@@brandonbrown435 as every latin country like Spain or France
soo teach us italian masternim..;)
what are casual touches you do that you recommend to do?
I want to add to the being cut off line of the episode, if you do give up on a sentence, a gesture and a "go ahead" gives your permission to the other person taking control. They may be talking now, but they're acting with your blessing, which is huge.
if someone interrupts you they are already acting without your blessing. Trying to make up for it by giving them a faux permission just makes you look like a pushover
@@morighani I'll guess that it is in the manner of doing it all. It does seem hard to pull off however