My Mental Health Was Priority
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Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!
It is so beautiful to me to watch you both discuss some of the most painful points of your marriage and still sit in honesty, love and support of one another. And you both are able to laugh a little at some things. I love and respect the work you are both doing! This is God! This is marriage! Continued blessings to you both.
I would listen to one of Pastor Riah's sermons.
Yes Please! ❤😂
The absolute best "that's how married" story EVER 😂 both of them 😂
Hearing Yvette say her takeaway was "Rest and remain in the presence of the Lord and allow Him to do the rest" almost brought me to tears. Losing my brother in a car accident in addition to other things in life brought me to getting therapy. It feels like that statement was confirmation of something my therapist similarity said to me. I love the transparency of this podcast. It definitely has added value to my life. It encourages me as a single to do the self-work.
Someone needs to add animation to Beleaf’s ‘HMAY’ story. It would be brilliant! 🤣🤣🤣
Yvette’s skin is immaculate
The ability to fall apart hit deep. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Us chocolate married momma's need to hear these things!
Love that Riah reads his Bible🥹
The bathroom story is the highlight 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 “OMG!!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Evette The scripture is Psalm 42. I have always loved that psalm. I am going through my own very difficult situation with my health. And when you referred to the fact that when you quieted and you finally heard the Lord tell you he has always been with you, that is exactly what I have experienced the last couple days. And that he is strong in my weakness. And his ways are higher Ways That teach me to trust him. I was in tears and so grateful to listen to this beautiful episode tonight. I have been married 46 years and believe it or not as wonderful as my marriage is And my husband is, we still need to work on ourselves and our relationship. So thank you for your words of encouragement.
You know Yvette got a real good singing voice 🤔
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I'm divorced. This is really my favorite CZcams channel right now! I love your honesty and your growth!! Thank you for your transparency. I love you as a couple, and I love you individually. Thank you for allowing us to experience this life with you! 🥰
I guess thats why its better to work on yourself before marriage? But also keep up the maintenance while married and throughout life. Just like dentist visits lol
I love these two ! I love your family dynamic , God is real!
Glen’s HMAY at the end. And Yvette just weak!!😆😆 Ya’ll funny.😊😊 That would be embarrassing tho.😄😄🙂
The intro is so fun live. never change it lol. The differences in cadence, the facial expressions, the number of years changing. I listened to one of your podcasts expecting yall to say 12 and it said 9...I was pleasantly shocked lol.
This is such a powerful 😢 podcast. I cried listening to how Yvette connect with the Lord and just seeing how Glenn’s love for Yvette allowed him to go through a process he didn’t even agree with. Powerful message about how Hod is ever present and it’s ok to loss to win at the end
This was great. Thank you.....Glenn's story at the end though 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Glenn...I'm so sorry the bathroom incident happened. Please always remember...it's 'ur home2...it is...
I love that Uriah is a theologian
They way Yvette just talked about God was always there, but our noise made his voice unheard! Ugh I’m bawling like a dang cow right now! So so true. When I lost my stepson I raised from 8 to 18, a day and a half after my husband lost his leg I felt so so lost. I was broken broken!!!! Never have I felt more alone and trying to not act broken for my little boys plus I felt I couldn’t be as sad as my husband. But this message hit me hard today. I’ve felt defeated for a long time. This really helped.
Wheeew, sometimes it’s hard to hear how rough Glenn talks/recount events with Yvette. I feel the love & commitment for their family but I wouldn’t discount how your delivery impacts her & put her in the position to be a diffuser in these convos often.
Yeah keep the intro live !!!
Giving myself permission for certain things is hard and seems like there is not time for that but I SEE the benefit in making time. THANK YOU Yvette for sharing ! ❤
My first time listening. This was dope!!
Thanks for checking us out!
The amount of emotion that you have and we can hear in your voice is amazing, thank you are even sharing. While difficult I’m so happy you got to experience this Yvette. Glenn what’s your plan for your healing? If there is one that you feel comfortable to share.
When Yvette was talking about the deer, the scripture reference is Psalms 42:1
It's so wonderful to watch your growth but also Glen's. I didn't watch too many of the previous ones, but he seems so much more patient, cognizant of trying to not cut you off, and able to describe how he was feeling in the moment without reliving it on the screen. This was also HILARIOUS!
This is such a relevant topic... marriage requires a great deal of "self-work" in order to build/maintain unity with your spouse (something we can easily overlook). Furthermore, the heart/mind are intangible and perhaps require even MORE attention and care than physical health alone (although the two are very much intertwined). My wife and I have been in counseling recently and The Lord has really shown us and helped us a lot through it. Doing the "deep work" can be uncomfortable, but it pays HUGE dividends in the long run. (Psalm 139:23-24)... SO appreciative of you all for sharing your journey with us... and big props to Yvette for choosing to take a social media hiatus for the moment 👊 (... sometimes it's what you gotta do! 😊).
Much love to you both!
Love this episode!
Thanks for the chat about the Starbucks medicine ball. Not only was I able to try it, now I can make it. Just in time for my current illness. 🤧
I’m interested to know if how you Beleaf you’ve done since the retreat? If you feel relieved or elevated in the stress you were dealing with? Have you been able to grieve and what was your process like?
Glad Yvette is feeling better those colds be tryna take you out feel like, but WONT HE DO it!!!
Yes!!! Just got over mine
This was great. I started therapy!
Yassss! Congratulations! Please give yourself grace on your therapy journey. Xo!
I love that about Riah (spelling? Sorry, I'm new here)! We should always challenge what others say/do when it comes to the Word of The Most High - His Word is our witness.
Good for him!!
This is EVERYTHING !!! Thank you for your continuous obedience and vulnerability. This episode gives permission and sends a resounding call for many to DROP EVERYTHING and DO THE WORK.
This is what love looks like. The way you all sacrafice and give so purly of yourselves (in a raw emotionally sensative yet logical goal oriented communicative way) is unequivically a reflection of Abba Yah’s pressence in your hearts, marriage, family and home. Y’all paint a beautiful picture of “trying” by simply “doing” the best you can. And it’s worth something... it’s worth everything for a community of people who haven’t been given an example of conflict resolution, a place to go in with their feelings and so much more. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you heavenly Father for this example. 🙏🏿
My prayer is that no matter how pressed one may be in the process of life and circumstances that they may lean in to allow the pressure to refine them.
This made my day!
- Sarah
As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God.
Psalms 42:1 NIV
This was so awesome! Thank you.
I enjoy your podcast so much!!!
I heard NIGHT OFF and..... LISTEN its all I needed to hear. REPLICATING....THE END.
Thank you Sis!
I love yall 🤗🤗
All I can say is I'm Soo encouraged to spend more time with God. I'm single and live alone so there's no excuse. But even my life is uncertain. Kudos Yvette.
I LOOOOVEEE the intro ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾
I'm going through a transition and this was right on time. Thank you 💕
Checking in from the DMV.
Love the podcast and I just have to say I love the live recording of the intro! Beautiful voices 💕
I love the Intro ❤ thank for sharing
Wow I enjoyed listening to you guys 🙏🏽👋🏽
i agree keep singing the intro song, i be singing with yall.
I lovvveeeee the intro
I enjoy the intro ! Such a vibe . It’s chocolate baby story time 😊❤
This was so good for me. Does Yvette have any tools people can do at home if they can’t do an intensive just yet?
I love watching the live intro
Best episode ever! We were so intense then Gwen tells his HMAY story🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love it!!!
The intro gotta be live fr ❤
Dope intro
Sister Yvette, I am PROFOUNDLY grateful to you for this episode. I highly revere the way you guarded what you needed to while laying out a roadmap and a personal account of what this time was like for you. Hearing you mention little Yvette, I also understand better the concept of the wounded, childhood self who is waiting to be seen and spoken to about certain things. I get that. I also am having a lightbulb moment with you referring through this to the walls, not for guarding yourself but just to be able to plain operate/function. Yes.
I am blessed in my heart to know that you have made it through and are growing and thriving. The habits you are working to break, even when you do it then immediately realize it, is so HUGE! I can relate to that kind of work. I'm so happy for you! (And I will be circling over to the homeschool vid, for sure!)
Brother Beleaf, your body language in this video was very reflective of your words and what you weren't saying with them. It was easy to see you still reliving it a little while Yvette was mainly retelling. Hope if you need to do any follow-up sessions about any lingering feelings that you do. That was a lot on you, too. I hear that. I also really appreciate you speaking about how the man who FaceTimed and you told you Yvette had been operating on a far less degree than her 100%-that part gives me more to consider in myself.
Delayed grief. Woo, yes. I'm still waiting to grieve properly on some major losses due to lots of ongoing factors.
I am also curious on what you have done with Yvette's "requests/demands". Her going to this thing, to an outsider, was her "doing" and she started the ball rolling. Was that hard to recognize? I am curious, without asking too much, what this part has been like-the responsive work on your end.
Just a little side thought: Sister Yvette, the therapist not wanting you in hymns and the Word in weekends/just "in the presence"? Struck me like maybe he might have wanted a little "The Shack" happening where the Trinity appears to you in the flesh... Kind of. Seems more to me that *God* *put* that hymnal there *for* *you* via the person who left it. I've been doing deep work with God on His timing and it has also involved a random hymnal where I spent a whole day (nearly) letting my kids hang at their grandparents' while I sang, processed, journaled, and went through a lot. God knew He had a higher plan than the therapist for that weekend and that's ok. I'm a huge proponent for "Jesus+Therapy" but I always bear in mind that Jesus trumps the best of intentions in the best of us, at the end of the day.
Had to come here because Spotify was bugging and repeating episode 125 in this space. So glad I was able to get my Thursday HMAY fix!
Sorry about that. It's fixed now. 🤦🏾♀
I came across this video on my timeline, and decided to watch it because the topic is very true to how I’ve been feeling. Never saw any of your videos before…and I really appreciated this and you all’s ability to be transparent! Thank you! I’ve been thinking about going on a retreat like this and your story definitely gave me permission to really look into it !
As the Deer: Song by The Maranatha! Singers. Classic.
The last part of this episode had me cracking up 😂😂😂😂😂
I literally fell because of it 😹😹
@@ItsEverythingEuodia Oh noooo🤣
@@nefertitinelson8374 It’s all good I didn’t get injured 😹😹
Thank God 😌
I am thankful to God for you'll. I've always observed so many parallels with your marriage and my own. When Glen speaks I feel like it gives insight into how my husband could be feeling. I don't look forward to meet any celebrity or CZcamsrs really, but you'll I would like for us to meet you'll and converse out something. God bless you'll.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 the best how married are you story Glen 💩🤣
What an amazing experience to be in presence of the Lord! To just rest in him! Sometimes we forget that God will NEVER leave us but we leave him! He is always waiting to hear from us 🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Glenn’s story, literally made my WHOLE night! Lawd, not mid wipe 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love you guys and your chocolate babies. 💖💖
WAYMENT! I cried like a baby during Yvette’s story! I need this too! I am really trying to my best as a mom and with a STBX husband still living with me like a fourth child! But when Glenn said I didn’t know if you were sleeping in a cave or would come back Amish I could’ve fell out! I needed that laugh.
I’m in the same situation 😩 like how is it that I still have to raise this man 🤦🏾♀️+ my children and myself 😣 sending hugs && prayers of strength to you 🫂
What is STBX?
@@EvolvingMama_ Thanks sis sending it right back this soon shall pass 🙏🏽
@@Chin715 Soon to be ex
Wo, I so understand. I should have gone into therapy, but I feel like most of my good years are behind me, so why bother.
That how married are you answer from Glenn was EVERYTHING! I am ' dedding wid laff!' 🤣🤣🤣🤣👍
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From what I'm hearing Yvette has a lot of built up displace issues of things she did not sign up for. Life in general will do that because we all are face with situations we must deal with. Marriage and children will force some unknown decision making. Take the breaks but be wise or cautious about them. Some things will not go or come as planned.
Incorrect. The issues are stemming from childhood. She mentions it multiple times in this podcast
@@BeleafInFatherhood Again, I say in life. Meaning it can come from anywhere. Nice hearing from you. Oh, make sure the kids are learning a foreign language of their choice.
@@gailjohnson8315 Wrong and strong lol
@@Chin715 Good morning and nice hearing from you. Just calling it the way I see it. Be safe
@@Chin715 Remember, God put trials and tribulations in our paths of life to test us to see how we will respond. Remember this is life and not heaven.
17:09 I feel this 😭 I’ve been a functioning addict (nothing hardcore) for half my life (15 yrs). I yearn for the chance to take at least a week or two off to focus on my sobriety and mental health. I have a therapist and have been able to wean myself to only partake on the weekends but I feel so powerless. And the withdrawal symptoms and stress makes me a irritable mom🥺😭 I feel like I’ve given it all to God but those moments where I’m weak I fumble , every time. 😮💨 although I feel like I’ve processed the death of my daughter in the most efficient way; the feelings were filtered through smoking/drinking. Now I’m overwhelmed with the full sensation of her loss and how it affects her sisters. I just be like I can not do this. Why would God take my daughter and expect me to stay sober through it 😒😅 thank you for this 🙌🏾
43:02 I need to just repeat this daily. I never thought I would be strong enough to live without my daughter but that was the only thing I knew for sure and what has Kept me this long. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I keep falling in the trap that I can do it on my own …but I don’t have to and I’m not 🥺
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I pray you get the opportunity *soon* to get those two weeks just to focus on your sobriety and mental health. For what it's worth, I'll be keeping you in my prayers -- really and truly. Know that there is someone out there (in Jamaica) remembering you before the Lord. I hope to see you again in the comments *soon* sharing that you were able to get the time away and renewal you needed.
@@keilah4039 😭😭 it is truly appreciated !!! Thank you 🫂🥺
@@EvolvingMama_ ❤❤❤
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What did Glen do to do deep work with all he was going through? How did y’all get to a place of peace?
I haven't done my deep dive yet. But still looking for the right therapist
Yvette forgetting her parts in the intro 🤦♀️🤣
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Aww so basically she faces her shadow self ??
Hey I think y’all accidentally uploaded the wrong podcast to Spotify- it’s playing 125 instead of 132 😬
Yes. We caught it. Thank you!
I like when y’all mess up the intro
lol
To be fair you should’ve locked the door😂😂
What did u guys mean by her being jealous ⁉️
I think they mean Jealous of death like his sister is at peace now and she wants to be at peace too, but that's just my interpretation.
Is she still a fan? 😅
I’m glad that she did what she needed to do for her. Telling her about her son’s statement felt a little like a guilt trip.
Die for your Wife like Jesus for his Bride ! Thats why christian marriage dont are healthy.... Christian Men want that Wife submit without him die for her. Thats not scripsure based and leads to exhausted wife and children that dont want follow Christ because of bad role model and injustice at home !
Be Bless Brothers and Sisters !