Single People Won't Listen To Us ft. Anthony O'Neal
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Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!
I'm single and I don't miss an episode! You can catch me harmonizing with Yvette on the intro🤣🙌🏾
Okay!
I was single 2 years ago and I still watch it til this day ! Now I'm using info to annoy my bf 😂
Facts !!
Married couples bring a lot of value to singles, you look to where you’re trying to go!
I disagree, only because being married doesn’t solidify you as valuable for information.
There are a lot of toxic “Married” folks out here. Y’all take titles & put too much emphasis on them making as if that automatically changed how a person thinks.
Titles will always be just that , it doesn’t mean that the person is qualified to give advice. He has spoken on this topic before & tried to paint all singles with the broad paint brush as if single people are just out here doing any & everything.
There are married couples that are still childish & so immature things. Just like there is mature single people out here that are responsible & learn things that married people today still hasn’t learned.
Y’all need to stop trying to paint singles as these lost souls walking around with no guidance. It just goes to show how closed minded y’all are when it comes to learning life lessons.
Your life doesn’t start when you’re officially married, it starts the day you came out the womb. You should always be in a constant state of growth throughout your life. It has nothing to do with getting married.
Just because it took y’all years to learn certain lessons, don’t mean we’re all like that. Some of us are already learning the sh’t that married folks still struggle with & I feel like that’s something y’all don’t like to admit when it comes to this topic because you want to make yourself seem superior to a different group of people when facts are facts.
We all can learn from one another, married folks can learn from singles & singles can learn from married folks. Stop acting like married folks have the key to success because it’ll never be facts. I truly dislike when y’all try to separate the two & try to make one group above the next, nobody is above anyone. We all have room to grow rather your single or not.
@@theplug3102 I can appreciate your stance because it’s true however, I don’t feel like it totally apply to this particular platform. The overall marriage platform, maybe.
These people have been doing marriage on public display. The good, bad, and the ugly. They’ve showcased how many different situations effect the individual from a woman and man’s point of view from communication, to parenting, from finances, to careers, hope and dreams. You name it! They’ve always remained faithful to their original intentions & I believe out of that gained a heart for those that desire to be married & want to share the cheat code.
It’s up to you to take the tip, training, & wisdom. They were married young, we’re marrying later. There’s a gift and curse to both but overall singleness is a gift. At the end of the day it’s not a battle between the single and married folks it’s about being your best self so every relationship you’re involved in reaps the benefit of a WHOLE you.
So many people look to other for fulfillment & these people are showing us in real life that only God can fulfill you & he uses people & relationships to help us develop into that best version of ourselves.
@@Theeloveproject That’s the point though, see how you kept reverting back to “What they’ve shown y’all” indeed some of y’all are learning from this married couple, but my point is there are “Some of us, including me” that has already had the wisdom of the things they talk about while being single & in a relationship before. The point I’m making is simply that “Marriage” doesn’t give you an upper hand on giving advice. People love to take titles & drag it to make it seem as if they’re advice would be more trustworthy over someone who doesn’t technically have a “Title” which will never be facts.
This will always be a problem though, because people are so use to taking advice from others who are protected behind a title instead of seeking that throughout your own life & finding the lessons that you needed to learn for yourself.
Marriage doesn’t mean it stops or start there, it just simply means your doing life with a person that will reflect the things you probably didn’t see about yourself & vice versa. While there are people like “ Me” who already work on those things, not all of us have to be “Married” to step into our best selves.
We are reflections of each other, these type of things will naturally show as you experience different things in life with different individuals. Then there are people like me who don’t have to experience things with different ppl in order to learn the things I need to learn, I was already born with the wisdom to understand it & that’s where my frustration lies.
When I hear “Married” folks try to talk down on single people based on their own life experiences when that isn’t a valid argument to make being that everyone experiences life differently. You can’t put what you’ve done as a single person on others & think we all move that way.
I understand that it takes “Most” of you learn things but some of us it doesn’t take long to learn & identify things and already be on the journey to step in the best version of ourselves. I’m already on that journey as a single, healthy, happy, & intellectual individual. It didn’t take me to get “ Married” to get there. You should already be on the way there.
In conclusion, I appreciate you’re feedback because I was not expecting a positive response being that most ppl these day’s don’t know how to have a conversation anymore so thank you for communicating with me without feelings being the overall response lol.
I wish nothing but love, peace, & wealth your way sister. ♥️✨
@@theplug3102 it’s all love, having different point of view doesn’t devalue either of our take. I respect your thought.
After your last comment it seems more like a “eat the meat spit out the bones” situation. If it doesn’t apply then you let it fly. I honestly don’t disagree with you I just think you’re giving a broad response to a direct conversation.
If as a single person you have all or most of these skills, characteristics, & qualities in place already, that great! You’re ahead of the game! The truth is most don’t for various reasons & the proof is in the divorce rate & unhealthy marriages. As you mentioned many marriages are toxic, those toxic marriages are built off of toxic individuals.
It’s up to the person to choose whom to listen to. I’ve never felt like my married friends devalued my opinion, expression or experience as a single. In the same regard I valued theirs. What it all boils down to is the action & based on the display of love, transparency, & wisdom THIS couple share about marriage, I think the singles DESIRING a lifelong, Godly, healthy marriage should listen. Thank you for this conversation, for the respect & the ability to express yourself clearly. Be blessed Sir!
THIS!! If I could like this 1000 times I would. For me, I’m looking to be married not stay single so the season I’m in currently is gleaning from married or beaver couples, and the knowledge is invaluable
I'm 51, single, never been married and I have no biological children, but here I am every Tuesday and Thursday waiting to hear, see, cry, laugh, celebrate, and get educated. It's the transparency for me. I am proud to be a part of the wedding party, and I can't forget those chocolate babies😍.
Could you kindly feature Joe Lee of Mazelee? His wife is usually more vocal than himself so we don't get to hear much from him but it would be great to hear him discussing about marriage and fatherhood in a blended family, which is a dominant feature of American households today.
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Loved the conversation. Thanks for being so honest and candid, because marriage IS WORK, and like AO said, some of our elders failed us by not being transparent about the ups and downs.
Did anyone else get super teary when all the chocolate babies came on 🥹 what a beautiful family ❤
Seeing all the chocolate babies almost had me start tearing up! My cheeks started hurting from how hard I was smiling!
I Sooooo LOVED the ENDING!! A true testament to how married you are and the LOVE you have for family!!
These conversations are needed. One thing where some married couples go wrong is the "presentation" of the image that they are "better" than those that are single (knowing that they have issues themselves). A lack of humility and transparency is definitely needed from married couples and open dialogue is vital for the next generations. We can enjoy each season in our lives whether single or married. Both are a blessing from God.
I had noooo clue Anthony is Yvette’s brother. That’s so cool lol
Thank you for this podcast!! I'm 25, single and want to be married so I love listening to a married Black family perspective!
There’s a BIG difference between people who marry young and people who marry older because you’re in a completely different stage in life and have way different experiences in their 20’s. I think that’s where it becomes murky. People don’t really know what it’s like to be single for a LONG time over people who are not. That’s all
Yesss! You said it well!
This is gooood! especially the part about growing someone into you. Who you marry is NOT who you end up with, you have to see someone's growth through to the end.
I’m like 30 episodes in and I keep finding out new stuff about you guys. I love watching and AO and Eric Thomas.
As a single person I appreciated this conversation! I think married people and single folks should have them more. One follow-up question I’d love to see you guys get into is knowing when that person is worth your time and investment (in regard to not being equally matched at that time). 💛
That’s a great question. Great great question. For me, I think it depends on whether the other person is just as dedicated to “doing the work”, learning and growing together. If that person does not want to do that, it’s probably best to walk away and give them their space and move on with your life if you could.
This is my current situation, 2 months after being married, he wants a divorce over a minor disagreement that we are not the main characters of.
@@veronica112234 Thank you for responding! Sending all the love and support for your current situation!
I’m 29, single, and I absolutely love watching your videos🤗 I love all the advise y’all give and especially love when the kids sneak in to interrupt every once in awhile 😂 keep sharing those gems you have. We need them!
I soooo wanna go back to when my kids were young....cherish EVERY crazy, unplanned moment!!!!
So I'm a married mom of eight with one on the way, and I still like to listen to you both. Tarik and I have been married for almost 14 years now, and I still wake up some days wondering- how have we made it this far. What you find out as you get older is that you don't know everything. People have to be willing to listen and be open to change. You can't do one without the other. Sometimes when you have things that you're going through and you share it on your podcast, I want to reach out with advice of my own. Other times, you're a blessing because you give me a reminder that nothing in marriage is automatic. It's all work. You're not always going to love the work, but if you love each other enough- you'll get it done anyway. And you'll be glad to come out on the other side of it stronger, healthier, with that much more experience to fall back on in the future if needed. My brother is a preacher, and I used to always tell him that no matter how much more of the Bible he knew- at that time as a single man with no kids, there wasn't any counseling that I was going to trust from him about my marriage nor about raising my kids. I don't think he understood until he did get married and now he has four beautiful children. Continue being a blessing! This comment got way longer than it was supposed to be. LOL!
Love this!!! Thank you for sharing this story! I had only one child! ❤☺️💞
Excellent content!!!❤💞🙏Love it! So pure, humbling, authentic, valuable and honest. Real life family gems!!
Loved this conversation. As a single listener, I value the wisdom that y’all are imparting into me. Keep speaking to us singles 😉!
I don’t know if I’ll ever be married because I’m not sure anymore that it’s what God wants for me, and maybe deep down it’s not what I want. I’m 30, and of course, very single…ZERO prospects type of single. I used to pray so hard for a husband, and for God to help me to become a wife…and it has never happened. I’m just over it now, but I enjoy watching your videos because they help me to consider things from different perspectives as I navigate the different types of relationships in my life…so thank you for speaking life into singles…even the ones with no hope for marriage. 💜
As a single, you two are always sharing wisdom- even unintentionally at times. Thank you.🙏🏾
I’m a single person who was drawn to your platform by way of Beleaf of Fatherhood. It was refreshing to me to see the authenticity of your family, how you all navigate day to day struggles without the social media air which led me to your podcast. For me it’s more about representation and you all have been that for me. I’ve sent your content to a lot of my single friends because you can’t be what you don’t see.
I love your content and I am much older (a divorced grandmother), but I love to learn more about what to pass on to the younger singles in my world. Also, clapped when Glen reached up and smoothed Yvette's braid down. Lol. I was just transfixed by it. He is so married! I love that.
Loved the episode. Coming for middle-aged single person. I can chew the hay and spit the sticks. Keep sowing in the lives of others.
Welcome black
I loved this point about mutual peace. I feel I hear a lot of men say that they want to come home to peace, when the truth is women want that just as much. I think the kind of peace we’re looking for may be different based on an amalgamation of things but ultimately peace, rest and comfort are what people seek in general to feel able to be vulnerable in relationships.
I also really like what Glenn said about you both being in a season where relief may look different. I presume you’re comparing this to how it will be when your kids are all older and more self sufficient. I love seeing how you both seem to be intentional about putting in the work now so that when you become empty nesters, prayerfully your alone time together will be that much more enjoyable. Also I think that points to a reason to have many married friends at different stages of marriage to glean insight. This has been a good episode! Thank you for sharing!
I listened as a married woman, then divorced and single and now remarried. I appreciate your message and ministry. Choose not well or poor, as we all have strong and weak areas which can confuse these. Do however choose carefully. For your own health and sanity, choose carefully.
Family, The Most Important thing about Life!!!
As a single member of the wedding party, I love to listen to y'all's podcast and all the things! So valuable. PS- I don't know how I missed the email list sign up
Oh gosh. Half way through right now and you’re so right, 6 years married, with small kids now and my husband when he comes home is presence and help until he knocks out. 😅 And I want to just say this - this is why I think it’s so important to wait a while before having kids so you can develop that relationship of mutual vulnerability AND strength for each other because it serves us well in the busy season with kids. I totally get what AO is saying and the good news is you can have both. In my therapy journey I asked my husband to name the value I bring to the table and the most prominent thing was what he said while we were dating - that with me he can just *breathe*. Be himself. He feels safe and comfortable and loved (and I do too) With a good person who’s willing to grow with you, you can both be strong and vulnerable. Relief for your spouse and comforted by your spouse. I love hearing y’all’s perspectives keep it coming!!
Love my family!
You have a beautiful family Anthony!
I’ve been rocking with y’all since the blue and yellow interview. Love that y’all stuck in there!!!
Much needed convo! And could that ending have been any better?!❤😂😂
You make a decision, and then you make that decision right. 🎯😮💨🔥
I'm not a Christian, and I enjoy the podcast.
I’m single with no kids and I love to watch you guys so keep up the great work. You guys are appreciated. ❤
After 20 years with my husband...I can say that there will be things that will work each other's nerves no matter who you choose. Part of accepting the other person is accepting that there will be things that you don't like, but no matter what you choose to love each other and be there through it all. It is a choice.
Every marriage has good and challenging seasons. In the challenging times, I am certain it is God that got us through. We both had to trust God when we did not see the light at the end of the tunnel. God used those challenging times to shape us into being better for each other.
Enjoyed this !! And also Riah looks just like his Uncle! 😂
ohhhh, i didn't know he was your brother!! i've been married 16 years (or it will be in May) and i've listened and watched his videos . God bless yalls families! Your children really brightens my days.
I ONLY listen to married couples, because it's what I aspire to be! I want to understand my future husband, and learn to be a Great Wife!
You add so much value to my life! That's why I was sad but also understanding when you guys took that long break. I mean we weren't sure if you guys would come back at all. I'm glad you are back!
People are triggered because they know they should be doing something different and they felt called out about it! Keep telling Your Truth about Marriage! 💚💚💚💚
Thank you so much; this single person here appreciates all that is shared on this platform. What I wouldn’t give to hear my family say, “we are patient with you.” The stress of always having to listen to the why aren’t you married question, coupled with how I feel about it, is sometimes overwhelming. So again, thank you for giving me hope!
AO summed up the answer to the first question very well. If your end goal is marriage take advice from those who are married.
@20:54 So beautifully insightful and inspirational
Omgoodness!!! It's the kids for me 😉💕
I would love to hear Pastor Micheal and Dr. Anita Phillips !
The ending radiated so much joy 💖✨️
I love watching Glen & Yvette just vibe out .❤ Thank you both for your transparency and being that Chocolate Proof for all the real Chocolate Families out here living it up🤎🙏🏾
Soooooooo many gems (💎) here!!! I am definitely going to sign up for the emails.
New subscriber!🎉 Loved the conversation & vibe!
Ima pretend that the last part was for me too. " you are right where God has ordered your steps to be (*insert chyo SELF*) This was a great discussion! Thanks yall!
I love and appreciate this podcast. Thanks so much y’all for the insight
I love you guys❤️ You inspire me that marriage is beautiful and still works.
Aww I love when the kids came in!!! Uriah is off the chain!!
We do need y'all
I love love the kids' feature 😍😍😍
As a single don’t listen to these people we want to hear from someone who has successfully made it through 🤣🤣🤣
Also Yvette Uriah looks like your brother!!
Thank you guys for your great content
Preach AO!!
Go head Yvette with the vocals its chocolate babies story time 🎉🎉🎉 😍
Great episode! As a single person, I value marry people advice if they are sane 😂😂😂😂 My married friends also ask me for advice. I think if your able to give sound advice, nothing wrong with it! Theo looks a lot like his uncle! 🖤🖤🖤
This was SOOOO needed! As a divorced mom I often struggle in the single landscape when I hear some of the expectations of long-term relationships. Having been married, I'm acutely aware of the many sacrifices and concessions that two individuals need to make in order to come together and thrive. But that commitment mindset often comes off as selling oneself short. The truth about what it takes to make a marriage last can be unsettling to many. 🤷🏾♀️
Some people dont want to be used .
😂😂😂😂 the ending with a lot but it was great to see lol I loved it
I make a clear distinction between relationship advice and dating advice. I will happily listen to healthy married couples talk about how to maintain longevity in relationships. However, I personally don’t find it useful to hear people who have been out of the dating game longer than five years try to give me advice on navigating the dating world. Specifically, meeting men/women, dealing with loneliness, navigating life changes/transitions on your own, etc. If you got married young then you pretty much always had a partner to go through the challenges of life with. Those of us who are still single, didn’t get that experience, and I would prefer to hear from someone else who gets it.
Yvette so happy you are feeling better.
Your honesty is helpful Beleaf your channel has strengthened my faith and My walk with God Yvette HMAY is fantastic. Keep speaking the truth God bless you guys
This was so good, we need a part 2 eventually!
Your brother is an awesome person.
I love y’all intro ❤❤❤
Yes keep teaching! Keep moving forward! Yes as a single woman I learn by watching and listening! 🖤 😊🤗🥰
I’m 33 and as single as a dollar bill and I’ve been a part of the wedding party since the beginning. I’m here for the advice!
I love your emails!
Great conversation. Loved it!
Im all ears ❤
I loved you all’s podcast and AO channel also, I genuinely wish that AO could meet my sister. From the outside looking in they have the same beliefs and principles that I admire in both of them.
I just love this family!!!
Yay!!!! Super awesome, it’s always great to have him on with his family!!!
Very nice!!
I loved this
Beautiful
Sending a ton of good energy to the Henry Family 🙏🏾💚
🙋🏾♀️ dedicated single listener here
I’ve been listening to y’all since 2020 and I haven’t lost any knowledge or experience. I think if anything I’ve learned and grown a lot and I’m getting closer to what I want thanks to the content that y’all put out
Another great podcast
It’s the ending for me!!! Love those beautiful babies 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Love this episode
This was good!! We appreciate the knowledge.
This was really good.
The chocolate babies are sooooooooo cute! 😍 I love them!🥰
Thank you for this discussion! I love your experienced-based advice and can’t wait to sign up for the emails! ❤
The intro was very good guys🎉
I love you both and the kids so much.
Wonderful Podcast!!
As a single lady, you all platform has been a blessing for me ! I thoroughly enjoy the newsletter that is sent out and I read it too ! Y'all definitely have valuable insight that singles can benefit from. Keep doing you all thing ! More guest is a plus as well.
Yep smiling as usual 😊😊😊😊😊😊!!
😮❤❤❤man I just so happened to click on this, it was delightfully weighty.
I hope to never get tired of people being authentic and speak on realities. We as people need to speak in what it is and also on what we would like it to be. It would also help in sharing what our process is in getting there. How I got all that from just a podcast is dope. This quality.
I am not married and I would like to be but I also want to prepare for the realness.
14:26 the conversation of coming home being work for Glen is some ish people don’t talk about!!
19:33 the perspective. You make a decision and make the decision right! Thats a word!! Choosing to make it right!
I am unmarried and in my late 40s. I watch every show. Keep sharing. Love it
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Beautiful engagement with Bro Anthony...💯 blessed.
K. FORD - Vet your brother is very intelligent, I pray that God keeps blessing him over and over. You are very special because you were made by God.
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