an ex-homeschoolers guide to Tangled
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- čas přidán 14. 02. 2024
- The audio is a little better this time but I recorded this in the middle of January and it was cold so you can hear my ancient gas heater in the background, sorry. Other than that, I hope you enjoy this little window into my life because I think it's all you guys will get, and along the way, maybe you'll learn something new about your favorite Disney movie.
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This video was incredibly sweet. It reminds me of how I was treated by my parents. They never let me learn how to function in the world. Even outright telling me I'd never be able to make it on my own. So when they died, I was without people there to keep me from experiencing the world. It's true I have a little help. But except needing someone to drive me to the store for groceries, I'm able to take care of myself. When I want to go to the mall, I learned how to take the bus. I pay my own bills. I take care of my own money. I take care of my house. It's sad that it took that to happen before I could prove to at least myself that I am able to make it in the world. But at least I was able to prove it.
Thank you! It can feel weird finding connection in something like a movie but honestly that’s what entertainment is for no matter what it looks like
I notice that a ton of people who had helicopter parents seem to identify with Rapunzel from Tangled (I know not all homeschool parents are helicopter parents and vise versa, but they do tend to have a strong correlation).
The media doesn't seem to understand what it actually means to be or be raised by a helicopter parent, and I see the term overused by people who haven't actually experienced it or talked to someone who has. They think simply being around your child or setting reasonable curfews is "helicopter parenting", but like when people say "lol I'm so depressed!" it gets overused and the severity of the abuse gets watered down, because it gets mixed up with parents who are just moderately protective, when overused by kids with normal parents who are upset by rules and parents who are normal but think what they're doing is "too much" because their standards for how close or strict they should be to their child are lower. Actual helicopter parenting, whether the parents have good or bad intentions, looks a lot more like how Mother Gothel raised Rapunzel. It unintentionally became the most accurate portrayal of it, with some exaggerations and minus the magic.
The lack of boundaries, little autonomy, little exposure to the "real world", isolation, the sheltering, the ulterior motives to hide something or control their kids disguised as them "just being scared for their child", etc. These type of parents disguise their need for control over their children as "concern for safety", but they know better.
What scares me is when these types of parents decide to homeschool. When kids who grow up these types of parents go to school, it's often the closest thing they have to being exposed to the real world, and it's their only sanctuary from their parents and place they get to meet their friends.
Homeschooling can be great when they parents are good people, but unfortunately, homeschool appeals to a lot of not so good people who could use this right to homeschool as an opportunity to hide their abuse or indoctrination or to give their children even less autonomy and independence than they already do, or both, often times.
Thank you man, i hadnt thought of this movie in forever but its very true. I was only homeschooled for a few years, and had the benefit of having co-op twice a week. Its incredibly isolating and hard to overcome lack of knowledge. This came to me at the right time as im finally leaving and setting off on my own. Its terrifying but comforting knowing things will happen and things will be okay. This analysis resonates deeply, i more of us can find this gem.
I love this video so much. I watched tangled today and bawled my eyes out at many parts, then of course went to youtube to try and find the answer to my feelings. And luckily, the algorithm pointed me your way. Tangled came out when I was 7, the same year and time my mom and I got involved in a very traditional and religious church. That was also around the time I was pulled out of public school and started homeschooling. Rapunzel was the first disney princess I really connected with (on a deeper level than liking aurora cause she was pink, anyway) and the story was there for me right at a time when my life was /really/ starting to get more isolated. I watched this movie over and over, had a very well-loved rapunzel doll, imagined being trapped in my own tower and bravely escaping. Like you say in the video, it wasn't all bad, and I have a lot of good memories and experiences from that part of my life--and I think a lot of it did help me become who i am today. But getting to choose my own life in my teenagehood and college was SO freeing, knowing there was more out there than what I had been taught and told. All of this to say, SAME, man, and it's so gratifying to see someone out there with a similar experience/relationship to this movie as me. So thank you for making this video! Here's to escaping the tower.
this makes me so happy, thank you for sharing your story! I was a little worried making this, I was like "how many people is this even going to reach/ effect in a positive manner?" but i realised even if it's only a select few people it'll still be worth it. Thank you for watching too ♥
I first compared myself to Rapunzel before I was ten years old, and long after that throughout the remainder of my time being homseschooled. I never imagined someone would have drawn the same parallel. Thank you for this beautiful video, and thank you for helping me feel a little more seen.
I’m sorry to hear about people who had a hard time homeschooling. Public school was bad for me so I asked my mom to homeschool me and I loved it. Transitioning into college was easy and I also loved being in college. It does suck when your teacher - parent or not - doesn’t prepare you the way you need to be.
I know a few people in the same situation, and even ones similar to mine that still loved homeschool, it's a complex thing that effects people differently. College however is an amazing unifier and place to build yourself, that experience seems much more universal for people who experience it.
@@bryjarvello5140Quasimodo and rapunzel are homeschool kids representation.
*Pascal politely helping Mother Gothel to exit the tower.
If you say so 👀 ✍️
Beautiful video. Reminds me of my homeschooled friends who were abused and didn't even know it 😭 like yes public school kids are abused too but in my experience they sit around talking about it in the gym or cafeteria and can figure out something is up... the homeschool kids often either aren't exposed to others or if so it's other isolated kids who don't know any better.
It's also concerning when these isolated homeschoolers are sent to tiny faith based or online colleges and don't get to experience "the world" through college.😢
The people who made our faith-based curriculum had a college but it was out of state and cost too much to attend so I was lucky in that regard. It really can be a tough situation for people but I always have hope in the fact that it’s nearly impossible to go through life without some exposure to the outside world that opens possibilities to new ideas.
I was homeschooled preschool through high school graduation. While my parents weren't to the level of yours, (nor our denomination for that matter), my parents definitely qualified as helicopter parents, especially when compared to the other parents from our church at the time, who let their children do things that everyone else basically did. Fast forward to my second half at college, and I get involved with a group of friends. A lot of them were homeschooled with the same curriculum I had at some point. Not only that, but it's like we're cut from the same cloth- if said cloth is being neurodivergent nerds who make bad jokes at the worst times lol. I feel like our shared experiences make us super close as a result, and really willing to be emotionally open. Your video reminded me a lot of us- we're finding our own way together.
You explained this all so beautifully! I hope this reaches the right audience, cuz it really touched me. I related to so much you said and I did not expect all that!
Hey! This was a great video, excellent quality, content, and thoughts. Liked and subscribed :)
Thank you so much I’m hyped to make more ♥️
Rapunzel and Quasimodo are total homeschooled kids
Deeply eloquent in your achingly sincere speech. I grew in Canada's "garden variety" United Church but link in life & work with fundamentalists. Like moth and flame for me; attracted and put off both.
thank you for making this
You’re welcome
Underrated
Agree
Good video.
Great. Now I feel like recommending Son of Rambow.
LMAO