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That moment you wake up and sing in your head “every Tuesday and Thursday SHAWWWWWTY” to remember if HMAY dropped a new episode or not lol 😂 great episode as always fam.
I feel like I have ZERO business here as an unmarried woman, however I find myself encouraged by you guys all the time.
Took the words right out of my mouth
Same! 🙋🏻♀️
I really like how the podcast is syncing with beleaf in fatherhood, it’s a cool little season :)
Me too! This is wonderful!!!!
@@vizhsifumar9288 nnnnn
I really hope Glen knows how much This podcast means to unmarried men for waiting on their wives and to become fathers. The embettermeng of a man is with God first and family second. I'm virtually in tears writing and watching this.
LOVE!!! I’m here for you!
What a beautiful thing to share, Jarrel! God first, always!
Purpose. This show is so much more than it is! Thanks for sharing Jarrel
“This is free, so just say thank you” 😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾 I was like I’m not mad at that, not even a little bit, thank y’all for the hard work you two put in
Lol i totally agree! Cause one day this might not be free.
"Man you need to lower your expectations for me, alright men you got five minutes what you gonna do? What you want? the sky's the limit you wasted 2 minutes telling me the rules now..." the best!! Thank you both so much!
Funny and real...
I agree with Glen. We don't want her to internally accept that.
It's ok to correct the verbiage. If it needs tweaking. However ignoring the trigger is irresponsible. Listening to that voice that's saying say something to ignore will cause additional problems...in little to any circumstances is allowing hitting a thing allowed.
Maybe have a set girls day, and have like a countdown to let her know
“hey I'm looking forward to spending time with you and haven't forgotten you" but I should preface by saying I'm 22 and have no idea what I'm talking about lool. Praying for yall, this season will indeed pass! ❤️🙏🏿 And you'll be wiser for it
I'm a mom of ONE daughter and I analyze everything just like Glen. Watching the last few episodes of Beleaf in Fatherhood, I felt seen. It's hard as a parent in this time not to second guess ourselves. We have so much info at our fingertips and we are trying to avoid inflicting the childhood traumas we endured or witnessed but we'll never be perfect. Some days, it's okay to be satisfied with keeping everyone fed, clothed, healthy and alive! You can't go deep every single day!
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Well you can but you will drive and your kiddos crazy 🤪 and that's not living!
Premenstrual syndrome - you hit the nail on the head Glen. Yeah a week before even, I be like alerting hubby these days . Have found he is more aware of my emotions even and most importantly I can try to calm myself, not allow it to get the better of me and also we kind a like are aware of emotional triggers . Yeah . Its gets alot. I feel you Yvette. Much love to ya about you too Glen.
My hubby kicked our baby out of our bed at 4 months. I was I mad 😂 but it was actually the right choice for her and for us.
Oh wow. I am pretty shocked that someone would say that Beleaf is too uptight or thinking too much about how Anaya allows Uzi to hit her. I definitely think that kids are smart, but it's also important to teach kids when they are young (even Uzzi).
Agree 👍🏽
I love me some Theo! He is mos def friend of God 🙌🏽
Y’all @beleaf be allowing Holy Spirit to speak through him 👏🏿👏🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I agree with you Glen...you need to train Uzi now...to be gentle with his sister...
yes. Don’t protect your daughter but rather train your son too
It’s amazing see you all navigate being parents of four. I must add that it has confirmed for me that I’m stopping with my two 😂
I love Riah’s stories so much 😅🤣
You guys totally did respond by making the last Beleaf in Fatherhood video around Anaya. The video was greatly done.
Ya'll Are My Favorite CZcamsrs. Keep doing a great job with your family.
Theo should get more praise....he is the oldest and he should get more one on one time with both parents because him carries alot as the oldest child....and he kept the towel because it was male shivery in which he has been blessed with so young
😂Glens mood cracks me up
PS - Beleaf, dawg, this is the groom party giving you props and supporting you for getting PMS right 😂 we docs out here
Yvette you are so cute and soft. I love your temperament :)
When you said Anaya was your friend... highlight of my day!!
Also I have to say, you knowing that you're somewhat a people pleaser is more than half your problem solved. Most pp's are aloof of about their condition.
Your awareness of it and gentle effort day by day is exactly what would create a lasting change. I applaud you for holding up your boundaries against those tiny humans you love so much, and being kind with yourself when you fall.
There's also the aspect of accepting yourself for who you are and putting yourself first, so you don't constantly feel used or emotionally exhausted by friends and family.
What I've realised is that it's good and actually necessary to extend ourselves for our loved ones especially when it comes naturally to you. However, people will love and RESPECT us more when we hold true to our boundaries. It's so natural for us to lowkey take advantage of those who love us. So doing right by you in my opinion is paramount.
I've personally felt somewhat shameful when i didn't hold up my boundaries.. and that shame was transformed into resentment toward who I thought I was 'protecting' by relaxing them. It never worked and I always felt last in my life.
One thing I know is that It's totally a process and you're well on your way. don't give up!
with 💗from 🇨🇦
😂 Uriah play fights like he's Broly.
I absolutely love how Glen is affirming Yvette!❤❤ and Glen don't feel attacked we want longer episodes of BiF, we simply adore your family and can't get enough of the chocolate babies. I haven't complained about it personally but I'm always sad when I realize I'm nearing the end. Lol love the new format and editing and music but I'd be grateful for the days of old as well with your cell phone lol.. love you guys, great episode! ❤
Hey Yvette! You have mom guilt! I have DAUGHTER GUILT. I’m 22 and am pretty independent, so every time I leave the house I feel guilty for leaving my mom at home. So just know it goes both ways at some point lol.
Daughter/children guilt is so real!! 😭 I had to take it up with the lord cause it's really not sustainable
I have terrible daughter guilt. I try to make my mom happy. I know she's not and her kids are her only joy, so I try my best. Whenever I travel away from her, I feel terrible because I know she misses me.
Yes Grace Glen.
.......oh my g! . I laughed hard as I was typing as Glen began to defend himself at that point . Love you guys alot. Transparency here is Beautiful. What I'm here for........
a few things-
i’ll be 30 this year, without any children, but I disagree with the 63 year old woman lol I think it makes perfect sense to be aware of the fact that Aniyah allowing the physicality of her brothers to equate to love could translate to her allowing it from other people, and wanting to make sure that it doesn’t become a thing later in her her life. i think it’s important to make sure your children don’t become susceptible to any form of abuse later on in their lives.
i love love loveeeee how in-tune you both are with your kids and how you’re regularly checking in to see if you’re doing a good job as individual parents and as a unit.
Theo is special for sure! he’s a sensitive person and his emotional intelligence is really high, and I love that about him. So many boys are raised to be rough and tough and pretty lacking in emotional tact, so it’s really great to see how you all nurture that in him. he’s suchhhh a great big brother too and I just love to see all of it. One of my favorite Black families to watch & Im so happy to have been an internet aunty/cousin to y’all for a few years now 😁💕
I cry like a BIG BABY 5-7 days b4 the “Lady in Red” arrives 😩🥺
This is gonna be good!!
P.S. I just wanted to say that the new video format and editing for the Beleaf In Fatherhood Season is absolutely beautiful and just really refreshing!! The mixing of all the music is just, Ahh! Love you guys!!😁🤩
This is dope man. I'm a single father that has left the dating scene for some time now, but I love to see positive images of black men along with keeping the black family together and strong. I been rocking with you from the beginning. Great content my brother! I hope to rap with you in person some day. We need more of the positive images out there of us. Peace to you and the fam! ✊
Glen, that was the sweetest thing and so right on time when you told your wife that she's doing it right!! I can see why she started to cry. It means so much to her and touched her heart especially with her expressing that she needs to spend more one-on-one time with Anaya and feeling mom guilt in general. Also because she knows when you say something that you're being sincere and not just telling her what she wants to hear. What a powerful affirmation! I'm truly glad I got to see that beautiful moment. So there's your grace LOL.
And Yvette, you also deserve Grace so plz remember that you wouldn't feel guilt if you didn't love so deeply... no such thing as a perfect parent so when your heart hurts for your kids just know it's because you realize where you're falling short and are trying to make it
right💕💗💕 Just keep trying but don't let the guilt overwhelm you. It's a natural part of being a parent who cares.
Also Glen, I agree with you 100% about setting boundaries for Uzi and Anaya as far as hitting and being hit. I believe it needs to start as early as possible while they are both learning almost everything from the family. I was the same way raising my daughter and two sons and my boys never got physical with their sister. I'm not blaming my parents but it was definitely not that way with my two brothers and myself. Those were different times when you were left at home or in the car without your parents a lot and stuff went down that they never even knew about. I always wanted to make sure that didn't happen with my kids because of my experience and for the reason you stated. I'm sure you won't read this 2 years later, but there it is. Great podcast... always love the chocolate baby stories!!
I'm enjoying the "♡Good Father episodes♡" the last one about Anaya .....wow.....it warmed my heart as I reminisced about my childhood .....watching my mama as she was a seamstress, having memories. I loved how present Yvette you were allowed Anaya in.....great content. I enjoy the videography, intro, imagery. It's beautiful. I as a 43 yr old mom of 4 young ladies want to love life present and find many challenges that present themselves. Being ministered to by Yvette ,,,,,,,,,what a wow!. Yes I agree we learn from each other as husband and wife too as GOD guides us to seing and being our best selves ...
Glen was funny in this one haha. My heart 💔 when Yvette cried . You got this mama! & God’s got your whole family guys! His love is big enough for all y’all, he can heal any wound & fill any void that’s lacking. Take courage & remember to lead them to the Lord’s gigantic love. I was born in a big family , & yea pros and cons...but knowing I had God listening to me and accessible to me all the time was key looking back. Just words of encouragement I ain’t got no kids lol
Yes, it’s normal. Yvette I be irritated and crying all the time before my period with the thunderstorm cramps (you know the ones that come before the period signaling that some blood is coming) lol!!!!
I don’t ever watch a full podcast BUT these podcasts are hands down my favorite. I’m hooked now!!! 🥺🙌🏾💛
Y'ALL!!!!! I. LOVE. YOU.!!! I love you so much that I'm too caught up to even properly articulate it! You're such a valuable resource - in EVERY intentional thing you do on ALL your platforms. Man!! I wish you every success God has in store. Oh how I wish you'd been around when I was raising my kids. Peace and Blessings!❤
The Intro never gets old!
Glen, when l was growing up my younger brother, who is two years younger than me would hit me or verbally assault me and my mother did little or nothing to stop it. When l turned 15 and he was 13 l could no longer beat him up and he knew it, so he intimidated me. I didn't tell my mother about some of the incidents because l loved him and didn't want him to get in trouble. We have since mended are relationship but that experience wounded me. Your daughter is blessed to have you!!!!! Please continue to tell her that, LOVE DOESN'T HURT!!!!!!!
Glen has a great point abt that hitting. It's your intuition. Listen to it.
Instead of lotion, try sweet almond oil. It tends to absorb in my skin better and it leaves my skin soft.
I feel like you guys are just levelling up more and more. Continue to be blessed and thank you for blessing others in what you do.......
Glenn, "he going to hear one day!"
Funny 😁
You are glowing and looking beautiful Mom
This content is free... I thank you both and appreciate you sharing your life, family and insight. Viewers wanting more just shows that your doing this thing well. Love you guys!
Yo, just seeing the growth and development over the years is amazing to me. I remember back when it was just yall, Riah, and Theo. I remember when yall car got stolen lol Beleaf made a whole vlog about it but look at God because yall got another car soon after. Lol I'm so happy to have been on this journey with yall over the years and to see how far you've come. As a now married person and soon to be mom you guys are so encouraging and make me so happy.
I miss the 2 from this week.
I hope you are all doing well!!!! Y'all really busy but don't overkill. Love you tons ❣️
I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability with raising your children. Always great content 👌🏾🔥 I know its your real life and its beautiful seeing the growth of the children. Keep praying over them they arr your inheritance. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Your intentions are so good, no one's a perfect perfect parent, but you're working on perfecting parenting so the outcome can only be good. Its sort of like you shoot for the moon and if you fail you still land among the stars. Your intentionally parenting , and having discussions with your kids, and doing your best... thats like 99.9% of the job description
Beleaf I watch you where your daughter is concerned and my heart goes out to you. I pray that as she grows that she'll become the Daddy's Gurl that I think you earn for and that I was with my Dad before he transitioned to his next assignment. Give her time, right now she needs her Mom so that she can learn all the girly things. I think I was about 5 when I became my Dad's shadow. I think I became such a Daddy's Gurl that it tarnished me and my Mom's relationship (even to today). Keep being present and er'thang will fall into place as they are meant to be. Ooh and I got my yellow 'Love Thy Neighbor' t-shirt, 'Love is Magnetic' magnet and all my 'Chocolate Family' stickers and THANK YA!!! I love ER'THANG!!! 💋💯💖
I stumbled upon this podcast, and OMG...this resonates with my relationship with my daughter so much. I needed this today! The fact that we care and feel we need to do more is proof we are doing a good job with our daughters.
Yes Glenn, we did catch Yvette saying "the family business." We see the growth 😅💪🏾
I loved listening this. my middle son is also called Uriah and he’s 6yrs old. what’s even more crazy is they sound like they have exactly the same character. 😆
Yes I'm the middle child with only older & younger brothers I hated growing up but 17 or 18 I started to appreciate it now being 30 I truly Looooove my brother's lol😍🥰. Yes, just going to her room talk playing house is such great moments she will remember. Always have you some me time everyday even if its moments. I love you yall channels
I saw the podcast on my feed clicked and loved it! Watched this one and love it. Can I say I love you all already. Y’all are so real and it’s refreshing! And I just want to say that’s to Mrs. Melanin for the transparency because the mommy guilt be so real and it’s good to see you working through it. It’s helps me too!
.. I was intentional with my boys about hitting their sister... lesson for both the boys and the only girl.. Uzzi will learn he still being trained to family rules.. I love you guys.. BTW my love thy neighbor sweatshirt was hit ! ❤️
I loved you two sewing together!!
Thank you so much for the content you put out!!!!
me and my 8 yo nephew do “cheeky” where we put our cheeks on each other and just love one another 😭😭
Thank you guys for everything that you do! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
i swear lol. i started crying right on queue with Yvette. I have two girls and I never know if i'm doing it right
Awwwwwwwhn but why is this so cute 🥰 she
Why yall roasting my son?! Lmaoo poor Riyah
Glen and Yvette you are doing a great job. Your content is amazing, love you guys!
Been following you guys for a little while. Why haven’t I told y’all how much I like and love y’all?????? Keep it going!!!! Btw, I’m a whole grown-probably old enough to be y’all mom- woman!!!!!!!!
Super mom to the rescue
I really love you guys as a whole. It’s amazing to see how God is blessing your household ❤️
That is great that your company is maturing.
I love this podcast! You two are so real and transparent. So many people and families are being helped because you all share your lives, and experiences. God bless your family!
The last B.I.F ep. brought so much black girl joy. I used to watch my mom sew and crotchet, she would show me and include me just like Yvette did. Gave me all the childhood feels. You're doing so great Yvette!! And Glenn!! Lol
New to the channel. Saw you guys on Black Love. Your authenticity is refreshing.
Its always a season. So so true Glen.....remembering this in the time is hard though.......
Thanks Yevette for encouraging me to twist my hair from the last video. Lol you're hair looks great.
I agree with Glen about the last video explication.
I am in the comment section just to say I have received my package today I am so excited everything is so beautiful I love my black love take sticker OMG I’m putting it on the back of my phone THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU 😊
I just wanna confess that I play the intro song about three times before getting into the episode.
My PMS begins about 6 to 7 days out almost always.
You guys... this is me during this vid 🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭😭🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭 y’all playin with my emotions! Love you. Period. You both are getting it right. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
mom guilt is so real, that confirming word that you’re doing well when you feel you’re missing the mark is everything , I get it Yvette🖤
thank you! 💛
I love your podcast... especially your into song 😂🙌🏿
I so relate to Mrs. Melanin and the Mom Guilt. The children all wanting a piece of you in different ways and trying to accommodate them all. And my husband is like Beleaf...5 minutes and he reminds them of his limits. And they are satisfied with that. We expect too much from ourselves as Moms.
Glen & Yvette. Please know that you are doing the right thing. I wish I would have had the wisdom to study my children when they were younger; I wish my parents would have studied me. Those children are so blessed to have you as parents. Thanks for sharing your lives with us. Blessings.
Just watched the BIF episode with Anaya making the head wrap and cried the whole time. She looked so happy y’all. Yvette you’re doing amazing don’t beat yourself up about it. And beleaf I understand what you’re saying about Anaya and Uziah for sure
Could you briefly (or elaborate 😅) on how you guys went about hiring nannies? I’ve just had my Mexican-chocolate baby #5 🥰 and need advice on how to go about this! Thanks! Also, on the mom guilt things. (It’s so real) what I do now is I assign a day for each of my kids so I can spend some intentional quality time with them. Sometimes it’s just, “oh I have to go the store” I can’t take all of them but I’ll let the kid whose day it is. It’s helped with the bickering and attention that they need.
It is normal 🥴 pms
The mom guilt and heavy responsibility is so real, trying to give myself some grace 💛
I love y'all ❤
Hello Guys, i juste watch Hallease video and then discover your channel, and choose to start with this video ( because mum of girls).
I really love your chemistry and i am very glad and thankful to watch you. Keep up the good work,
Thank you @hallease and than you Yvette and Glenn
I understand Yvette's pain. Being pregnant with a second child made me very introspective. How am I going to be a mom to the new baby, as well as my now oldest. Now that I am a mother of three-- 2 girls/1 boy, its difficult navigating all these relationships! My boy is my baby (he's 4, so not a baby baby) and the girls want the baby treatment that he gets. The other day while out and observing my oldest, my husband and I came to the realization that she's just an 8 year kid. Buuuuut, because we are both the eldest children among our siblings, we've placed these high expectations on her because she's the oldest. And the middle is hard because she used to be the baby (there's only 1.5 years difference between she and her brother). She wants baby treatment and big girl treatment. I find that I'm better at providing experiences, but providing quality time, I'm not the greatest with.
I am Yvette.. Yvette is me.. tears start flowing for no reason😭😭😭. I check my cycle app💡💡💡 period due in 5-7 days... PMS.... annnoooyyyiiinnnggg.. total emotional ,moody, negative hot mess😒
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Maybe you can make vision boards. One of Yvette's goals might be to improve self care. I was just watching another podcast talk about that which inspired me to make one.
I love the intro music!
Yes belief! And my Queen is competitive too
As the oldest I have a pull to take care of everyone too and be a good example...lol I feel your pain Theo!
My 6 year old daughter asks for love & affection from me all the time. She tells me she needs to hear that I Iove her. It really gets me because I didn't grow up like that so I actually need the reminder to show & verbalize love. Just implying it is not enough.
i love y’all
I'm with you Glen as a psychiatrist I'm triggered with Anyiah's statement as well. I tried to let it ride but i feel that. You will raise her right but man!! That statement reminds me so of women that use that line. Go with your gut. Raise your daughter. That's your girl!! Love ya'll!!
#LoveFromNewOrleans First!
Hello guys, my name is Jacklyn and I have been following you all with admiration from the beginning. Congratulations on everything you have accomplished! I am finally catching up on all the podcast episodes and just finished watching the "We are debt-free" episode.
Yvette, if you do not mind saying, what program was it you were in that gave you extra money each year? I am an educator too and would love the information.
For me it’s like 2 weeks before lol crying over things that don’t even make sense 😂😂
Glen be putting people in their place🗣