Apologizing to My Husband for the First Time!
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2020
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, we discuss Yvette's nipples (lol), things we wish the church would be more transparent about and communication.
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I’m 19 and single and a young man and I watch EVERY episodeeee
Were here for it!
Nice boss! Good to see you in these comment streets. Ha
The church failed to teach Christian men GAME!!!! Please brothers don't come up to me telling me you had a dream that I was your wife and we're getting married next week?!?!? I'll rebuke you with a swiftness 😂😂😂
IF THIS AINT THE TRUTH😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
big FACTS
😂😂😂😂
sooo true 🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha
A married husband that listens every week. Proud of y'all.
Aye yo, I see you bro. What up
Yvette is growing and getting more comfortable and we love to see it! Also, stop coming for us, Glen! We love you lol
Yo Glen we here! The men are watching fam!
We just be quiet. haha
Glen, you're missing some of Yvette’s love cues. You need to lean into her need for touch. You shut her down when she asks you for contact. It's not just a physical need; it's also an emotional need. Incidentally, you mentioned that Anaya needs a lot of affection as well. The more you touch Yvette in the day helps to prepare her for later, you dig.
The church is generally focused on telling women what to do to get/keep a husband but it has failed to tell men how to get/ keep a wife. It sounds like the first caller feels that she has to always be ready when her husband is ready and she's feeling pressured to always be ready. That's a conversation that has to be had
WE LOVED THE EDUCATIONAL BABT STORY TIME
absolutely!
Yesss
Men are definitely hanging with you Glen! Learning, growing and being inspired to be more faithful/loving husbands and fathers thanks to you two
Breast feeding while black was a whole experience...you have to advocate for yourself on so many levels. My husband also missed the boobs...it was a whole thing
Be open with the baby info and the female info. This is SOOOOOOOO important for people to understand the changes of the body and the baby with breastfeeding, birth, encapsulation, all the things. Best part!
Glen kept it a straight buck out here. "I'm not thirsty" lol
🤣🤣🤣 ok TMI but my husband tries to “roll over” after he just came from pooping! 🤣🤣 I’m like “ get that hot pocket away from me”
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This conversation is hilarious! Imma have to make my husband watch this
What in the nipplegate is going on??!🤣 Either way I am here for it..... this episode was a hoot.... that point Glenn made about shutting down your significant other's point of view is equivalent to saying that their point is not valuable is a whole Word. Their process should be more important than our own 'comfortability'.
You guys I laughed so much with you during this episode. 1. The placenta convo was actually interesting and good to know. 2. I know these topics are generally for couples and such but I find so much value in using a lot of your teachings in life in general. It’s so good to hear different perspectives. Thank you for always bringing it. ~ Blessings Always ~
My guy really looks like T-pain!
Glen going in for the kill from the off 😂😆
I just had to come here on the podcast to comment about the dope music on the latest Beleaf in Fatherhood video! “Becoming Life Partners”
Saaaame
1. Yvette, my daughter is 3yrs old, 4yrs in November, and she still rubs my breast and asks if she can suck for a little bit. Sometimes I'm tempted... 1x I did let her though 🙈... I have zero milk of course
2. I appreciate you'll sharing. I have been able to see myself through Yvette and my hubby through Glen. This helped me to become more graceful towards my hubby and work on myself. Thanks Team Henry!
For the second dilemma of the young lady in college, I don't think that she is devaluing her boyfriend's attempt to communicate whatever issues they're having. On the contrary, I believe that her reaching out shows that she does care and is aware of their issues and she wants to work on that part of their relationship. I also think that she may fear that their arguments might put an end to their relationship, instead of bringing a positive progression. So I think that she should open up to him about her communication issues and start learning about better ways to communicate during an argument,disagreement etc. or in general :)
I agree with you. Sometimes you need to walk away from an argument in order to collect your thoughts. Speaking when the situation is fresh can lead to lashing out.
I think devaluing is more of a possible consequence of shutting down the communication. I think its clear that she values the relationship mentally speaking, as she thinks he is the one. But sometimes we do things with unintended consequences. Actions will speak more loudly than your thoughts or intentions.
It is important to understand how the recipient receives your actions and not just move with good intentions (if you intend to build a long lasting relationship).
Because here I hear that Glen considered it that Yvette did not value that he preferred going through the drawn out process of the whys and the hows, even if the end result may not change. That is how he felt heard. And that may very well be what her boyfriend may be receiving from her shutting down heated convos. She needs to ask him. Definitely a yes to your suggestion about opening up and finding a communication style that works for them both.
Yeah I think it's what she is communicating to him when she does it. I think that's what they are trying to get across.
Y'all is matching and SUPER KAYUTE with y'all hats, black glasses and black & white t-shirts...TEAM SLAY!!! The church doesn't talk about building wealth because you can't do that with all the tithing that always ends up being more than 10% after all the extra offerings, building funds, pastor's birthday, first lady's birthday, the church anniversary, the "if you want an above and beyond blessing, give an above and beyond offering" and so on. Building wealth can't co-exist with all-lat. Also, the wedding party doesn't hate you, Glenn. We love you both equally.
Whewww!
Welllllll.............
Here homie! Married, saved, listen all the time.
I (Angela) have been on both sides of the conversation issue. I used to have a victim mindset, but I was the one being hurt when I wasn't heard. My husband spent years learning that shutting down conversations, or shutting himself down if he couldn't shut down the conversation, was absolutely sending the message that what I had to say wasn't important. Glen is dead on in saying she isn't valuing his process. It doesn't mean she doesn't want to value his process, but logic says if you value it then you hold space for it. But, on the flip side, now that I've healed up from some past wounds I do find myself not always holding space for my husband's process because I just want to get stuff done😅 ...never said I was perfect🤷🏾♀️
Just used a communication technique with my spouse that I learned from yall and it was received beautifully!!! Thank you! He appreciated that I was respecting his thought process and role as the head of the household!❤❤
Shoot, im curious about what it was. ha.
Please talk about the church not addressing mental health as much.
We definitely in here, that’s a fact!!! Lol
Love the convo! For the second young woman in college: I think there is a strong fear of confrontation (leading to harsh consequences). If we redefine confrontation, debate, and argument and take the yelling out of it - we find there is no reason to be afraid (unless the person will insult you without yelling) . Confrontation can be done safely.... tell someone how you like to be confronted in a way that wont trigger your defenses i.e. please write your feedback in a letter, or only tell me in a place that I can walk away from you if need be (not a car or closed area), please tell me in a calm environment, in person etc.
I'm here for this 👍🏿. Yvette I feel you on the breastfeeding thing but I'm ready to be done and my son is not. And my slow husband thought that cause our son is breastfeeding less, that my milk had dried up......then I squirted my hubs in the face 🤣🤣🤣. Growing up my church didn't talk about anything except the building fund, homecoming, church programs, and tithes, oh and the pastor's love offering.
Beleaf is actually hilarious bro😂😂..
Yes please a chocolate baby episode.
I'm here for a chocolate baby episode ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Hey Glenn, I be watching. Really enjoy the podcast.
We be out'chea *new orleans accent*
A groomsman here just leaving a comment to show Beleaf some support. We be watching, we just don’t comment. You know how men are. I appreciate you both and what you are doing with the platform you have been given. Much love.
22 and a guy. Just got out of a really toxic relationship. Started really losing faith in the whole marriage thing...even value in myself at some point (Still working and building on myself). But seeing how you interact and set an example of what a happy marriage looks like really inspires me to be hopeful for the future. Mentorship truly is so important. I'm so happy i discovered this channel.
I was totally on that baby weaning and placenta encapsulating thing Ivette! 😂 Come on Glen, let us live! 😂 love, love the realness of the podcast! 💞
I see so much growth from Yvette! I am inspired to be better.
As I listen to you two speak, I feel like the Universe is preparing me for my husband.
I am grateful!
Glen, we (the wedding party) love and appreciate you!
😂😂😂🤣🤣 Y'all be cracking me up today. At this point nothing is TMI for me with both of you. Thank you for sharing. Glenn stop hating on the wedding party. We love you.
Yvette ❤️❤️❤️
I listened to Yvette’s laugh so many times, it brought so much joy 😂
Yooooo this episode was hilarious! Missed y’all, glad to see you back
You guys are hilarious. When Glenn said " Like sometimes I just be wanting nipples and I'm not thirsty" I laughed so hard. Love you guys. I always enjoy your podcast.
I misinterpreted the intro so bad. I thought it was Glen asking if the twins are his again.
He was lol
I know right! I thought he was too. Lol
@@NigeriaSimone 😂ok I'm glad that I wasn't the only one thinking that then.
Me too.
I am a married husband that is an avid listener and you guys help me expand my thinking more and more not only as a husband but as a father.
THINGS THEY DONT TELL YOU IN CHURCH: how valuable being singlehood can be.
how to navigate marriage and parenthood after the i do's
Yo Glen! We are here as the men... keep representing and we got you!! Mad love bruv..
You guys are so good. I’m dealing with victim mentality and scarcity mindset 😅😂 but doing the work can really change things - the more we are able to spot our defence mechanisms the more we are able to change what the default reaction is in ourselves. So much growth in both of you. ❤️👏❤️
I liked you talking about breastfeeding in the beginning! I’m still nursing my 1 year old and I know I’m going to be so sad when I stop. Do you talk about more stuff like this on Yvette Unplugged?
Around 29:00 - Communication
So I do remember early on when I first got hip to BIF that I thought Glen was overly exhaustive in his communication style.
I find that male extroverts (which I thought he was way back then) can be really chatty and just HAVE TO TALK.
My friend described it as....needing to chat and not being able to is like being stuck on a hot tin roof.
And as an introvert....I needed time and his wife was an introvert and I have heard the Mrs and you talk a few times about her needing time to process as well.
I didn’t know nursing was a thing either growing up. And people criticized me so badly about nursing. I cannot understand why people prefer artificial milk. I am thankful that it’s available to supplement and help if there are major difficulties nursing. But the stigma that comes with choosing to nurse is unreal-from my experience in my minority-working class-rural community.
This is such a delightful listen!
Omg thank you for keeping ALL OF THIS!
The whole speaking from region of concern made so much sense! Thanks 😊
Thankfully my Leaders are very open and transparent when it comes to sex, money and all things that they weren’t taught coming up! As far as money He really pushes us to make wealth, build businesses and things like that! I’m very fortunate!
Catching up on the episodes... thanks for being transparent and the examples that you are!
This episode was awesome! Thank you for being transparent! And being a great example! Love to see you guys laugh!
YES YVETTE here for ALL OF THE INFORMATION YES YES YES
Loved the episode. Thanks for sharing. It was on time for me. Checking myself and making some adjustments. Hey hey hey
Love you guysss 💙💙 you put a smile on my face 😁 I pray I can connect to my husband like this 💙😩
I absolutely LOVE y’all. Hands down favorite people on CZcams!!!
I’m here for it. I’m curious about marriage in 1st year, like the embarrassing stuff. The differences in dating vs living with them
The opening is hilarious! 😂 I laughed throughout this episode! Kudos to Yvette for apologizing! 👏👏
Love your work man. Im a father of 3 and have been married for a year. Its always great to hear your tips and to see the transparency. Thanks for all you do
Yoooooo I'm yvette!!!!!! Thank you so much for your transparency i see your growth girl cause I struggle with this myself... a reflection of so many marriage communication processes
Thank you for this I’ve been agonizing about being ghosted by a guy I was talking to. He reached out recently and even though I wanted so badly to reconnect he wasn’t willing to participate in how I “processed” building a friendship again. Which is tackle all things uncomfortable head on until there’s no tension. This is important because my anxiety will play tricks on me if we don’t confront and smooth the issues. In the end, I lashed out because I too have a victim mentality and struggle with conflict resolutions when I feel wronged. Anywho! He left again and I was spiraling because I needed to go through the process but instead I was left with my own thoughts AGAIN. Thank you giving me the wording and being a representation of what healthy communication and resolution looks like.
I thoroughly enjoyed this. I knew about the podcast but never listened because I'm not married. My bad!! Learned so much and subscribed.
May GOD continue to bless you guys.
Aye we out here bro!! Men out here listening and what not
We here Glen ✊!
As a member of the wedding I love you Glen. Everything you say is valuable 👏🏾....or straight jokes😅
Whats going on guys I really appreciate the channel me and my wife just started listening to you guy we just got married October 20th this year and I gotta say your videos be giving us life. Keep doing ya things guys
Yessss we love this podcast!!!! Thank you
woo! Glens advice saying that girl is telling her man that his process is wrong hit home! i needed that.
We appreciate you both Yvette and yes you definitely Glen. I'm here for you both as a couple.im here for the connection that you have as a married couple. Man....I'm here for you both. Most def!!!!
Ok, last comment (promise!) you two are my husband and I but opposite! I am Glen and my husband is Yvette! Victim and Scaredist! Geez! So much packed into one video! This one was great!
This is beautiful period. Thanks for sharing part yourselves with the world 🤍
I love watching y’all vibe during the intro!
Glen, Sir...good job in the advice for the second caller, that was some good advice.
Thank you for really sharing your personal information love you guys
Awww Glen's heart melt when he talk about his daughter❤...I'm the same way too with the extra ice in the cup, its like you only want a certain amount of ice and water ratio
Thank you for being real. I just came across the channel and I like the episode I watch. I had to just subscribe
Thank you so much for your honesty. Many people unfortunately in the "church context" are not honest about the good, bad and ugly of marriage including sex.
I'm not married at the moment but I love you all's vlog. I love the intro and I definitely love the dancing at the end, especially @Glenn doing his halleluYah turn.
This is so normal, y'all! I went through breastfeeding withdrawals too. 😫
I love u guys, both...love the way u process n communicate
I'm here for that whole breastfeeding convo. Momma of 4 nursed all 4 and I am nursing the last one and I'm loving this ❤️
Y'all are hilarious 🤣 I hear you, Yvette!
Omgeezy!!!!! THANK YOU YVETTE. This is such a real thing with Breast feeding. Breast feed all three of my kids...Thank you for bringing light to this 😄😄😄😄😄👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Husband and Father here supporting the men in the comment section. I’ve been a fan since Dream Junkies. Wife and I have enjoyed the BIF channel and HMAY podcast over the years.
#futurepatreonsupporter
This episode was hilarious!!! I can totally relate Yvette which is why I'm still breastfeeding my two year old🤷🏾♀️
Ugh Yvette, I felt your cbst today! ♥️
It is very hard for me to process in the moment! Or at all sometimes.. I think it is a great asset to be able to process quickly and get to the root of issues or just process how we feel or our response.
I love you guys sooo much! 😂an thank you for your transparency 💯
I love how natural she is 😭😭😩
Idk if I’m about that breastfeeding life. I too never saw someone I knew breastfeeding. You’re not alone Yvette.
I love the intro...y'all got it going on.. I've been subscribed never really listened...I know this channel from your main channel... Dope INCREDIBLE
No I definitely understood whole heartedly what she was saying about nursing.
thanks for the education!
Lol. Love you guys. We don’t hate you, Glen! 😂 I’m usually #teamglen 👏🏽👏🏽 But I love how y’all talked through this 🎉👏🏽❤️
That Chocolate Babies Storytime intro is life!! 😊😊🔥🔥❤️❤️
It wasn’t until I saw the video that I knew you all sang the intro everytime! 🤩 I assumed it was pre-recorded.
I be ALL up in these videos Glen! and the Patreon! i just dont be talkin lol
The communication chat is a classic example of wanting the other person to treat you how you treat them on both sides.
But that defensiveness is uhh, yeah sis. :)
As a man im proud to say my wife and I are regular listeners of the show.
I so relate with the communication part.