The Church Gets this Wrong!!!
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- čas přidán 28. 09. 2020
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, Glen gets up on his soap box and he doesn't disappoint! 😬
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That moment when Glen knew Yvette wasn’t going to make it through reading the letter and stepped up to assist. Glen acknowledged the struggle that was taking place in Yvette and provided a solution, even though he doesn’t like reading out loud and the words are small on the screen ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
And that’s just how married they are 🥺 warmed my lil heart! ❤️
That should be Glen’s “I’m So Married…” on the next episode/one of these episodes.❤❤
"Your pain is not yours" Preach Glen!!!! We as the body of Christ have to be more vulnerable and transparent in order to help the next generation and even those before us see that its possible to love others as Christ loves us and that can take us to different dimensions we have never seen.
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I’m with Glen. The reason I struggle with going to church is because I don’t feel like it’s only for “future me”.
I feel like my testimony is only valued when it’s in past tense. But when I share what I’m going through right now, I’m not worthy. I’m grateful that my faith reminds me that ‘he thought I was worth saving, keeping, dying for, so I could be free so I could be whole so I can tell everyone I know.’
Because I absolutely think this is what church looks like in the future: transparency! The failures, the processing, the figuring out, the remembering to lean on God when we take on too much. Y’all got me crying and playing Anthony Brown in the middle of the podcast 😭😭😭. Gone head and finish talking Glen.
wow, this comment is really profound.
@@morgankendall thank you 🙏🏾 coming back to rewatch because this episode touched me so
This comment is everything to me!
I will say the most precious gem I found out of this entire episode goes to Glenn at 41:50 ! He knows his bae! The way his eyes remained on Yvette when he heard what she was reading just shows he loves his woman. It didn't seem like he was trying to "catch her" in a low moment but rather concerned in knowing what his wife's concerns are. And he came right on to the rescue without her having to ask. So sweet! Love yall 🙌🙌🖤
Gosh, when Yvette started crying that set me off. God bless the woman that wrote that email xx
SAME!!
And the quotable of the week
"There is a lack of Transparency when it comes to flawedness"
I agree we have to do a better job a showing our lives, like the scriptures showed the stories of past lives!
I can't say it enough how much I appreciate you both for your transparency on this platform, as well as your other platforms.
Totally agree!!!!
I agree!! I hate it when y’all mute the mic😄😄 I’ll like noooooo tell us THOSE THINGS!!! WE ARE IN THE WEDDING PARTY! We got y’all! Yvette is always the super cautious one about transparency but I think it’s her protective mechanism. I just wish she would let Glenn loose!!
That intro bumps lol! Just came from your Brother's channel where he be dropping 🔥🔥🔥
Who's your brother? I want to follow them too?
Stephanie Bullock Anthony O’Neal (has a wealth building channel) is Yvette’s brother
@@Mrg524 thank you!!👌🏾👍🏾
Stephanie Bullock you’re welcome!! ❤️
@@Mrg524 really?? Wow who knew. Today years old when I found out they were related!
You guys have great voices for podcast/radio shows. So relaxing haha
I'm only 16 minutes in, BUT Bro. Glen is going off!!!!! This is such a necessary conversation. When Glen was talking, I immediately thought of Luke 5:32, when Jesus says He didn't come for those who think they have it all together, but rather He came for those who know they are in need of a Savior. I think once people really start to allow this idea to permeate their heart there will be so many more conversations like this that will bring healing in the church. I love you guys so much and appreciate what you guys are doing through your transparency.
Yoooo. That last one had me shead some tears. N im a grown man. Probably because of Yvette. I can only imagine the amount of comfort that letter brought to yall.
Awwwww
Why is Evette crying? Why am I crying? Someone please answer.
Same 😩 and I only have 2 boys right now
Sis...if he’s not including you in his future plans, he doesn’t see you in his future. Tell him peace out!
People NEED to talk about kids, roles, money, values. And early. Why waste feelings on a person that you end up not agreeing with on those things. I feel like feelings about kids, money, and roles are usually set if you feel like your ideals are non-negotiable. You can't make someone who doesn't want kids to want them. Some feel like they should have strict gender roles, others are more flexible. But mess up, fall in love, get married and say "we'll figure that out" is stupid. My husband and I talked about kids in the first month. I needed to know his feelings without having feelings for him. Turns out we were on the same page, he wasn't spooked by the convo, and boom we married now. Be clear, but communicate non-negotiables EARLY. PERIODT
Thank you for discussing the issue of divorce in the church. I agree that there are some hard discussions that need to be had as well as loving practical ways to deal with the issues of life from a Biblical foundation. Glen and Yvette you two are so awesome. Keep dropping the great content. Peace and blessings 🙏🏾
I didn't know Evette could sing. She has a really nice voice.
If you didn't know it before, you know it now....Glen know his wife. Watch when Yvette was reading that last letter and just before Yvette's "break" Glen shot 2 looks, Yvette confirmed the emotions, Glen took over and Yvette allowed her emotions to flow!!! Love to you all
More people in the church will begin to share when the church becomes a safe space. Everyone feels like they have to posture (lie) to stay in the good graces of fellow parishioners and leadership. I’m a second generation minister.
I rarely comment, but I must say Glen, I’ve been on your soapbox many times. I’m a person who is genuine and I don’t mean that to toot my own horn, but I’m up at church, crying talking about how I’m beefing with my husband and everyone seems sympathetic.
But then the same people who “walked with me” turned around and are getting divorced. So now everybody wants to tell me how terrible their spouses are, when (and maybe I’m taking it the wrong way) I was made to feel like they don’t have big problems in their marriages. Well, when I was crying and letting you into my hurt, I feel like THAT was the time to say “yeah man, we be beefing too” not “your husband really should be more like MY husband” and I wasn’t even talking separation or divorce or anything like that, it was just a tough season for me and My husband because we had COMPLETELY different visions for our family.
Well, come to find out people’s husbands are alcoholics, addicted to pornography, gamblers. And everybody finna divorce. And I’m like... and you suggested my husband should put on a show more like yours??? I just don’t get it. I didn’t want my husband to pretend to agree with me in front of everyone, I wanted us to learn to communicate. And I now see why they were not able to be at all helpful to us in our situation.
God is faithful though, and He got us through that season. And it was a HARD 2 years for us. Nevertheless we stuck by each other struggled to find an ACTUAL Christian therapist. Cuz y’all, “Christian” therapists be outchea telling people to separate! That’s for another day though.
But why the phoniness? Why not just say yup, I keep catching him watching porn, he keep spending all our money, that boy be DRANKIN’! Not in a way that is bashing, but I’m a way that says, I, too am I’m crisis and need community and accountability and MANY MANY MANY prayers.
I feel like they didn’t bring it to the light, until it was too late. There was too much bitterness and resentment.
I am encouraged and challenged to not be bitter by that, but to continue to be straight forward about my situation. And allow God to intervene.
All that to say.... you ain’t saying nothing but a word, Glenn 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
It's a vicious cycle. No one is talking so why should I be the first? That's their mindset. So even when you're crying out they do not join you in expressing their pain because they still think things are worse than what you're saying and you're also putting up a front and only letting out a "proper" amount of pain. They hide theirs even more. Since they're judging you, they're scared to be judged by you. It's a mess...
People on church like to put on airs unfortunately, just remember everybody has gone thru something no matter how much they put their marriage and spouse on a pedestal
Talk on the issue Glenn👏🏾 "your pain becomes someone else's freedom" The conversation has to happen. I am a single mother of a 16 year old and had never felt more "Scarlett Lettered" then when I was in the evangelical church space. Deciding to deconstruct my thinking of myself and reconstructing it with God's Word alone has been work but the freedom feels so fulfilling. This was so good you two!
Glen was preach preaching on this episode! I sincerely feel like our millennial generation is ready to (respectfully) do things different and shift us forward in really living Christ-like in a way the church hasn't done yet. We are about transparency and not neglecting anybody's story/journey. We respect our parents, church leaders, etc, but there are some things we choose to call out, won't settle for, won't just accept without us getting to the bottom of it, and have to be authentic about. That's growth and every preceding generation should be growing or we'll remain stagnant.
Why was I crying at the last letter with Yvette like Anaya is my child?! 😭😭
Me too 😭😭❤️❤️
TheRachthegreat me too🧐
Amen! Praying for Judah every day! Thank you for remembering him 💕
Regarding Divorce....I often post messages on my facebook asking people how they are doing with marriage. You see people smiling on social media all the way to divorce court.
Agreed @ transparency.
Glen; you might have another "side hustle" or a career change as a Christian counselor or something as the REAL situations (LGBTQ+ issues; race relations; money; etc etc) are convos that are needed and NECESSARY in our churches! BIG TIME! This silence that is happening regarding these subjects does not dismiss the fact that they exist.
Oh, and yeah the stuff WE go through is absolutely for someone else. Look at our example, JESUS! He is the one who went through the "stuff" but ALL for us! This is how His work continues. We go through stuff for our fellow man. Someone out there is in need of our story and we of theirs.
Man, the way he loves you and is in tune to your emotions. I had to watch that "ok, I got you" moment about 30x ❤️.
As an only girl with 3 brothers raising another only girl with 2 brothers, I also cried through that last letter! Gosh. So much truth! Gotta remember to give our girls grace ❤️
Lol my daughter is one of those kids who is always roasting people. She keeps it too real 😂
Glen 👏👏👏👏 I fully agree. Many people in the church lowkey despise being transparent because they fear being looked down by other people in the church community when it can help others.
The letter about Princess Anaya broke me too! ❤ I love you all Henry Family.
Yvette you are on the right track. People are aware of interracial relationships but very few are aware of the challenges that may come up between couples of different cultures. My parents come from different nationalities. I have seen their challenges because of that.
Glen and Evette it is called Mentoring and it's a dying art that needs to be brought back to life, it is should in us to share to help others going through something similar.
I have watched almost all of the How married are you videos and this one is probably by far my most favorite. My husband and I are a young married Christian couple and y’all got me thinking about being vulnerable about our relationship online. We have so many gems to share and we’re in this thang till the wheels fall off. Then we getting out to push that thang... Y’all stay tuned!
The email about your daughter is everything. That was very precious. I grew up as the only girl with 2 brothers. I was motherly too to my younger brother. I thought I knew everything about boys until I had one. 😂 😂 😂
I played with my dolls and cooked dinner while my brothers played GI Joe and were fighting but they’d(GI Joes) come home to eat after fighting. That was our compromise. Kinda. 😂 Memories
And I wrestled too. Just a part of being with brothers.
LOL "let's talk with our eyes" love you guys 😂
I'm not even all the way through but YOU BETTER PREACH GLEN HENRY 🙌🏽
That is why I feel like churches should be small and megachurches were never in the will of God. How do you get vulnerable with hundreds of people? How do you get deep and personal with thousands of people? How do you share and open up about your struggle when the meeting is being recorded and posted for the world to see? The world does not let us grow and mature and better ourselves. They prey on our mistakes and brokenness in order to "cancel" us in the future. Yes in order to really counsel someone, the counselor needs to get vulnerable and open up and talk about their own struggles. Their pain had a purpose, to uplift someone else who's younger and less experienced. But we won't get to that point until the church is a place that is welcoming and not judgy.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼How about “church” as we know it today was never the will of God. It just doesn’t align with the Bible.
I agree
I love how both of you started smiling when the voicemail started even thought the irritation was evident. Its encouraging to know you both really care about this platform so engaging with the wedding party has the ability to lift your spirits even if only for a bit. 😍 Love you guys
Yet another great episode. The letter about Anyia had me crying as well. And the caller about divorce is accurate. We sit in the church and act like we love and accept everyone but then can’t even co-parent the kids that they made together...Praying for the release of pain!
You guys can prioritize and chip away at it together. Yvette even when you have 30 minutes go thru the garage and mark things you are willing to throw out. Then Glen can remove it and do the same. Set a reasonable goal for getting there
There is so much power in transparency and not just being honest.
I agree with Beleaf. I didn’t know what I was missing until I found my current church. My Pastor addresses all the issues. At first it was uncomfortable, but now I know that “the church” is missing something. We need more than the churches charisma to be whole.
BELLLEEEEAAAFF A whole word was just spoken !!!
Love what you guys are doing! If he wants you to help him clean the garage, then that’s the thing that is pressing him. We need to understand what it means to be their help and not having our own agenda. Our kingdom design is laid out in Genesis 2, before satan brought sin to us. It’s a virtue for a man to ask for help. #oneflesh #kingdombusiness #godlyseedsought #lovetransparency
Glen I love that you took over that last segment. Even before the tears started flowing you sensed that Yvette was getting emotional. Kudos to the both of you. Looking forward to hearing more Thursday
@BeleafMel you began talking about 16 minutes in and you gave a word! Thank you!
I love Glen's view on how the church treats divorce. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Beautiful beautiful episode 💓
I loved this talk so much!!
Thank you guys for attacking the cringiest topics and giving us the real and the raw 😩 I’m over the prosperity gospel interfering with how we as a body do life how with each other. This is effective!
Preach it Glen!! U spitting bars. This is so true
This was so good and super helpful. I never verbalized my current relationship with the church but this is exactly it.
love you both so much... thank you for sharing your lives. 💕
Less than 20 minutes in and Glen has dropped 2 major wisdom bombs!..... myyyy goodness!
God is doing a mighty work through yall! May God's glory continue to flow through yall! Yvette, you are a wonderful woman of God! Together, yall.... speechless!!!
My solution to cleaning is always throwing things away. I'm not sure why, but I just feel better when I get rid of things. It's just that after I finish I miss the things I threw away.
Praying for your week!🙏🏾
Wow! Yal are such an amazing blessing to my family. Thank you for sharing yourselves each week
Glen is preaching when he was talking about that recruitment of church thing! Yes! Our pain is someone else’s freedom! I love it! 🏆
I always watch the ads for you guys, love love LOVE this family, thank you for sharing.
Full on breakdown over that last letter too 😩😭❤️ Anaya is such a blessing and you are wonderful parents 💕💕💕
👍 yeeeaaahhh. Good stuff Glen. I love your thoughts on sharing the truth in the church.
This was such a good episode...
Church transparency is necessary for Christian growth. So glad you touched on that...can we get a full episode on that topic?? Lol
I agree with the documentation!! Sometimes it’s done through art as well; transcending pain or suffering (which shape us and teach us and help us grow!) through art, music, writing.... whatever it is. It also comes back to vulnerability too doesn’t it? We can be a ripple in the ocean ... we do what we do without seeing how far it ripples out into the community, into the world.
Praying for Judah too, the strength of prayer is so powerful ❤️✨❤️
Sending love to you guys as always xx
15:00 SOOOOOOOOOOO Good & so true! I agree wholeheartedly. I need to call or write in after this 🤯 Beleaf, incredibly encouraging 🙌🏾 Thank you 🤝🏾
The ending was so sweet 💕😭🙏🏾
This episode's chocolate baby stories are 😍😍😍 and funny😅😅. God bless the Henry family, praying for you❤.
Praying for you... You are a wonderful pair. Make a list and prioritize. If you plan you'll have a better chance of getting it done.
28:00 there are some legit huuuuuge cultural differences I’d say especially in some tribes in Africa. especially in tribes that are primarily patriarchal. I grew up in one and it’s a huge part of why I chose to get married in a completely different culture. Not that it’s horrible; it just can take a lot from someone. It did for me.
Your pain are your pearls...gem💎💎
Go ahead Yvette and Glen....be the church!
Belief GO HARD! Flat out!
bruuuuuuuh, the gems that you are dropping about the Church! I've been saying these things for years...
Yessss! To all Glen is saying about lay of transparency in marriage among our community. I also experienced friends and family that “suddenly” got divorced. Marriage is hard and I look at this podcast and others like it to see couples showing the good and the bad - and most importantly how to develop through it all. Let’s keep it transparent amongst close friends and/ or family so we can learn and grow together as a community ❤️🖤
So precious 💛
I didn’t quite hear 👂 the quote from your dad. I Love quotes and would Love if you could share it again.
Glen is preaching tuhday!!!
Listen Glen!!! Preach to the Saints!!!
“yeah I live it” I felt that😂
Bro!! Thats why we dont have many real friends because we ask the tough questions and want to have the deep convos and MOST people arent ready or willing to be in community like that. I mean we can laugh and have a good time too but we will share those though opinions and you might be told that your wrong as well or that youre the problem.
I swear if I ever met these two, I guarantee they’d love me! We’d be best friends! ❤️🤪
Oh man.... when y’all brought up Judah, I broke down all over again but y’all are so right that his journey is going to be an input for someone else’s salvation.
Don't let your pain be pointless!
I feel like I should call you guys Mr. and Mrs with that being said Mr. Glenn was preaching. You just said EXACTLY what I’ve been saying and God has been confirming.
Big love ♥️
That selfish tip was faxxxxx lol
I agree there's degrees to selfishness but when it negatively Impacts another person then its really bad. For example have a roommate that doesn't want to split the bill or pay at all.
I loved the message w/ the three brothers! Im also the only girl and have three brothers. Anaya is and will be awesome😭❤️
"There's something valuable about your pain."
Yes! 🙂
Yvette: I want 2 examples
Why did this remind me of when I was back in school 😂
Brooo 😂😂😂
Yvette: “How was I selfish?”
Is not wanting to have children selfish? Asking for a friend lol I enjoyed this convo, but I found it interesting that was an example Glen used for selfish.
I don’t think that it is so much as a selfish thing but the selfish part is not telling that to a person in the beginning and maybe bringing it up later or maybe getting in relationship with a person that you KNOW wants kids and you know you don’t!
someone can have kids and be extremely selfish. and vice versa. having kids doesn’t make someone less selfish, but how they care for their children does...
I think he probably meant people who don’t want kids are more set in their ways and probably aren’t willing to change their lifestyle for kids. so he probably just meant they’re selfish in a way where they’re not willing to adjust and they like doing what they want when they want to do it 🤷🏾♀️
You guys should watch "The Home Edit" on Netflix!!! They have a really good system for organizing!!!
Call The Home Edit for your office. Is anybody else in the Wedding Party watching that on Netflix? Guilty pleasure lol!
16:45
Oh yeah
I been said @beleaf should be a pastor and not what people are accustomed to. #NoChurchbuilingNeeded
#5 in line 😁🙏🏾
New Subscriber!!!!!!!
Bigger house on the way
Wow! This conversation about the ex “friend” is not sure if I’ve met a man that accepts that type of corrections. Manhood seems to be built on undying loyalty and no accountability. The ex friend said you betrayed me. To not have the guy code was betrayal to him. Man! All this time I think I thought the guy code was what most men lived by. When he said we never really were friends booom!
Glenn called my Sis Recycled. 🤣🤣🤣 we finna fight on site bro!! 😅😅😅