He's NOT Romantic Enough!
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, we offer our input to a woman who is trying to get it across to her hubby that she wants more romance in their relationship, we discuss boundaries in a dating relationship and we offer ways to prepare for sex in marriage while remaining abstinent before marriage. We also formally introduce our HMAY Patreon. The first episode is uploaded, in which we respond to a listener question asking what we would do if we were in Dwayne Wade's situation regarding his son desiring to be seen as female.
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Beleaf getting triggered with the 9 years comment is hilarious 😂
The intro is my jam every time.
Eschelle Bitting FACTS!!!
Mine too!
🥰 Yvette! You're sounding more and more confident while singing and I'm here for it! Yassss!
I am a single woman without kids right now but I thoroughly enjoy these vids and use them as future references and motivation for my future life. The chocolate babies make my heart smiiiiile:)
Thank you for your amazing content !!!
Much love from TORONTO
Same here.
Me too ! I feel like im learning for my future family
As an atheist, the idea of saving sex for marriage never seemed worthwhile to me. Like Yvette said, your whole life you think of sex as something to avoid, but then once you’re married, you have a green light? I personally don’t buy it. To hear how sheltered Yvette grew up makes me feel some type of way, because it’s a shame, but it’s also very innocent and maybe that’s how it should be? I think that saving yourself for your husband or wife is a beautiful and honorable thing, but I resent the shame that any religion puts on those who are young and don’t necessarily have the advanced reasoning and willpower of grown adults who fully understand the consequences of their actions (sexual or otherwise). Still, I love hearing stories that are different from mine, and I enjoy this channel despite my not being Black, Christian, married, or a parent!
My husband and I did not kiss for 2 years and 3 months while we were "dating" because I didn't either one of us to be tempted. It was the best decision for us. Salvation and keeping our relationship pure in the sight of God was important to us. We didn't spend much time alone because we just didn't want temptation to present itself. Our first everything happened on our wedding day
K Jay that’s beautiful!!
@@wshelby83 God is a keeper
Just because you face a fear one time doesnt mean you wont face it again, word. Yvette your observation with Anaya was a great spiritual parallel too!
Good stuff yall!
Yall remind me so much of my hubby and I 🤗😍 And yall ain't stating nothing but facts on the married with kids thing!
Sometimes I tell my hubby "I like when you do this or that", and that helps!
My husband and I don’t celebrate holidays, but we do celebrate birthdays. We’re not big on exchanging gifts, and for our anniversary instead of buying a gift for each other we go shopping for something we both like. HomeGoods is our shizz!! Removing the expectation of gifts makes celebrating each other much less stressful. I understand that this isn’t the solution for everyone, but clearly stating your expectations is HUGE in a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with saying, “Hey babe, I’d really appreciate some flowers this Friday.” Or “How about we go for a jog together.” Turning strong emotions into casual conversation helps your partner not get so defensive.
When is glen coming bk to the comments section? 🤔 i want to talk to him about getting triggered so easily 😊
Akilah Roper was just thinking the same thing!
Lol
hahahahahahaha
Yeah it might be something that stems from childhood, the way he was raised or maybe with his siblings.
Glen is good at translating a statement into the same statement but a new meaning. Yvette I see your growth . I enjoy listening to your point of view and your evolution of comfort .
Yvette’s grin telling the Londoners “I’ll come. Bring me 😁” I love you guys. Oh my goodness the way Glen got triggered 🤣🤣.
Y’all so married y’all coordinating outfits...✨💗
Glen was ready to FIREEEEEE on poor Yvette.
The lady who inquired about date night. I wonder if her love language is quality time and act of service and she just feels like since her husband is not planning the dates he doesn't care. I agree with Glen too on she should change how she communicates it ...
...lol...Glen, we can be superWOMEN, but sometimes we like to be taken care of...I used to take care of EVERYTHING...and it came natural until this day I just wanted to see someone besides me doing something...DAMN! SOMEBODY HELP WITH SOMETHING! God damn it! ...lol...lol...
HOBBY! MONEY I FEEL YOU TO THE HIGHEST POWER
@@christinaetienne9484 guuuuurrrrl!😂
HOBBY! MONEY thats my life in a nut shell.. everybody is blind no one can help or thinks about things until u get to it. “Talking bout I was just about to do that”...”boy if u don’t”
@@christinaetienne9484 lol gurrrlll yes!!!
I feel like Glen was on edge this episode 😂
You don’t know. That was very candid and transparent. I totally agree, nothing before marriage. I will say it🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️. Courtship is key. Lust is subtle and you don’t want that to walk with u into your marriage
Transformation church series called relationship goals does a great job of exploring the scope of sex and how God intended it
I wouldn't set the bar that high either 🤣. Glen kills me 🤣🤣
She should check out the love hour series on sex and sexuality. She’s responsible for her own body bc when you don’t know you tend to give your rights over subconsciously to another human being. The intimacy firm on ig is also a good resource
Glen was so triggered.
😭😂
I love your intro song
Yes! As a long time single I'm ready for this book!👍🏾👏🏾
Yvette is spittin some flame starting from @16:00
Great episode
What a beautiful & complex opening question about respecting gender identity for kids. Thank you so much for running it. I haven't been to your patreon yet so I don't know your answer yet I appreciate you all being able & willing to address concerns. Also, not all believers receive or hear from God the same way, our relationships with God are personal.
Look at y'all encouraging second chances & saving relationships. #mentorship #discipleship #morethanyouknow
I grew up around very stoic grandfathers & a mostly absentee father. Romance isn't something I witnessed directly as a child. My maternal grandparents did little things to remember their relationship & connection. They also celebrated over 40 years together before my granddad passed away. They dressed alike sometimes & went on trips together regularly. They read the newspaper & did the crossword together every morning with their coffee for instance. One of the things I've done as I leveled up in my personal growth over the past six-eight months is address my own appetites. Either I accept the type of man & lifestyle (entrepreneurship, creative) I'm attracted to & focus on growth in the most urgent places, or find another type of man altogether. I also understand that my own approach to romance was barely existent. Two of my love languages are gifts & acts of appreciation for instance, but did I communicate this to him? Yes & no. Yes, I gave him little gifts from the beginning, no, I never planned a party for him for instance or did major public acts of service (although scouting a music business networking group for him may count). But our relationship didn't warrant that when we were younger & God is asking something else entirely of us now. So now, I pick my battles. I celebrate myself without guilt as often as I want or need. I celebrate him with acts of service (privately [more on that some other time]) & when we are ready to do more, there is a foundation for more. I'd rather heal the basics than argue about certain things. When God picked him, He also picked me. I'm also working on letting our partnership be what it is rather than comparing it to my grandparents because everything wasn't perfect there, but yes, this is what I can handle at the moment. #pickingmybattles
Hey! I totally agree with the discussion of sex from a biblical perspective.
I think in my mind, the word sex in it self always con notates fear and I think one of the reasons why is because of light that is shed on it by not only the church but everyone else.
And how do I speak about sex in a way where I'm educated and not just reiterating the stereo typical comments that are made about it and surrounding the it.
As for that part about every time you carry a woman out she wants to spend money...lol...DUDE! I agree with you! ...lol...lol...this is where you do like my mother did...stop to the store before you get home...get 5lbs. of wings, a bag of potatoes, bottle of mayo, the herbs, some limes...call on the way home and tell her...we cooking tonight for the picnic tomorrow...fry the chicken before you leave so it's fresh...
💡41:59 YES 👍🏽👍🏽📝📒
Lol, that's true you'll tell him one thing. He'll do it and Ill feel like I had to tell you . Lol
hold on....did Glen say...I just don't like to travel? That's an exclusive club he's in
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...LOL...LOL...Glen is in his feelings...he got triggered...lol...lol...
Just thought of this! You do HMAY and KevOnStage does Dear Kev...would love to see you guys come together and answer letters together!
They did one episode back in the day.
I want to see Glen on Righteous & Ratchet! 😄
@@kandijones1421 yeah I watched, that was the love hour and then kev/liz were their first guest. I want them to review letters, not topics again
I still think that self expression is a sin. What you are doing is teaching yourself to please yourself without a partner. And what would be the purpose of having a partner if I can do it myself. Kissing and making out before sex has been lost. I read that kissing is the prelude. It does something within the body. Make out session before hand. And that is all that I will say without getting rated X.