Feeling lonely... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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I know what it’s like.
You walk out of work, realize you don’t have plans this evening, and make your way home through the evening traffic.
Turning the lights on, you throw your bag on the table and start to make dinner.
You scroll through your phone, looking at other people’s lives on Instagram, wondering why every day feels the same while everyone else is out on crazy, exciting adventures with the people they love.
This is the epidemic of the 21st century: loneliness.
I’ve felt it too.
But I’ve realized over the years that there are ways to break free of this and feel empowered and connected again.
If you’re not sure where to turn right now, make sure you watch this message...
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I've been single for 7 years. I found companionship with a group of friends that were single at the same time. One by one however they all found new partners and I find myself once again alone. So this week I asked the universe for love and abundance. This morning my little nephew came over and now is staying for the next 2 weeks. Haha. Funny how it works
trademark27 aw that's so nice. ❤️❤️
trademark27 be more specific with your prayers next time
trademark27 💝nephews are awesome
trademark27 it's just the beginning!!
I’ve been lonely for 23 years 🌚💔
My relationship just ended. It was my first relationship. We weren't right for each other, but he was still my person. My person that I talked to everyday. That I vented to when I was mad. That I texted when I saw something funny.
He blocked me on everything saying that he needed to forget about me. I went searching for comfort from someone, anyone, but no one showed up for me. I don't have any family I can go to and my friends were all too busy with their own lives.
I know my value and I know I matter. But what if your loneliness is from realizing that no one showed up for you when you needed them most. I mourn that realization more than the loss of my relationship.
Neely Fortune I feel you so hard
Neely Fortune same here. Maybe just stay strong.I know u can do it. it's just matter of time
Currently going through this and I feel so lost
Neely Fortune have hope, you will find a relationship like that or better, go out without fear and find your friend .. sometimes it can be our boyfriends or just a female friend.. best wishes learn to be happy with just you.. that’s really hard to do I’m trying to learn that.. but learn from your mistake and find that special friend you need..
Neely Fortune how are you now?
You helped me stop crying
I actually started crying.. but in a good way!
@@salomethesmall8431 me tooo
Yo same
😢
I feel lonely when I see couples no matter the age, holding hands...
Try living in Korea... it's the land of couples here. Like KILL ME seriously😭
Yeah same here
Me too😔
heyy i get that , my mother is single and i dee it in her eyes ... ur not alone darling ! life is meant to be enjoyed in any which way ! txt me ok
Yeah the same mate I hate seeing over couples holding hands and I just hate it it's makes us sad
Loneliness has become an epidemic in our society... with all this technology that could bring us together, more people feel lonely than ever before.
Never been truer
Very true, like I could swipe on 100 girls and nothing would happen but if I talk to 100 girls in real life I might not get a single date out of it but I'd probably feel better about myself for trying 🤔😁
We live in an inversion... "social media" man sue feel isolated. Likely by design.
Technology, specifically social media, did the complete opposite, it tore us all apart, and created and showed us a real disconnect among all people. Social Media has devalued real-life real human-to-human interactions and emotions and connections.
I've always feel that I don't belong anywhere. 😞
same
Find people who will tolerate your quirkiness. But be also understanding and patient with them.
I had to learn this lesson, because I'm high IQ, and literally don't belong anywhere in surrounding society.
ask me about that....
be the change you wanna see in the world. I like your name. That's a beautiful quote which is very true. I try to follow it and remind myself of it constantly. Be the change ...
just dont give up !!! if you think this way that mind's you are something amazing but you just did not find who to make it or you are just losing time in something else that does not suit you.
You will find because you are someone special some where !
It take me 15 years to find just dont give up and dont be afraid just do it any thing do it and learn from peaple who make their life amazing exemple in youtube :"Denzel Washington's Top 10 Rules For Success" by Evan Carmichael channel
I hope I could help you god bless you
Never compare your life to others. Only competition is when you look into a mirror. Get better each day.
makes sense
As a divorced woman & mother of 3 lovely daughters who are all grown up & living their own lives now, I have found myself more lonelier than ever😢 I come home to an empty house with no one to greet me at the door or give a hug or a simple hello.
I've tried online dating, but all I've found is very unstable & shallow men with nothing to offer in a relationship.
Your videos Matt really give me some hope & make me feel somewhat better. It's hard to believe that in a world of 7 billion people & 7 continents I am single!
Same as me
+Annabelle Lee I know this can sound silly, but if u don´t have a pet, get yourself one. Maybe a dog. I can promise you they will greet you when u get home, and they are better than many humans!
Yes...i m having 2 cats,i love dog so much but cant have it cos leave in apartment,pet is not allowed :)
Annabelle Lee maybe you need to go out more and beeing with you all the time. 😊💖
First off, the number of well off, good looking guys in this world is super small and every women is after this same small pool of men. Secondly lets ask ourselves this. If a man had enough wealth and good looks to attract me "Annabelle", why they hell would he be with me, when he has both the wealth and looks to get better? Secondly saying your divorced!?! While men like matt wont tell you this because you'll get offended. Most sane guys look at divorced as say welp either (A) she sucks at picking good people and has crap judgment, which will affect other things meaning she will pull me down with her. Or (B) he was a good decent guy and she's such a crap wife she couldn't bother to do her role and keep him or drove him off. Also as a side then you have to worry about the ex in the shadows, and the kids will never show you respect as a parent they may tolerate you at best. And then if things fall apart everyone will just take her side, and if she stops loving me then I'm just stuck supporting her spending money on her dealing with her kids getting nothing in return. Plus he knows you can just divorce him and take his crap. All his hard earned things can just be taken by a bitter person like you with no warning and no recourse. No sane man with an IQ of at least 105 would even go for that deal, that is you. Hell you probibly don't believe me, or it's to harsh to accept but those are just some of the real reasons why.
Wow Matthew...
I was feeling so alone right now in a coffeshop a SATURDAY NIGHT
( downtown Montréal )
where everybody is partying and everyone is with someone and you know... having a good time.
AND i'm there trying to study
And I was FEELING SO ALONE 😳wondering why I can find a good man in my life or have more friends to hangout with.
And... At this specific moment..
YOUR VIDEO' NOTIFICATION JUST POP UP THOUGH MY PHONE
writing : Feeling Alone?
Honestly this end part make me have tears in my eyes
I think i'm matter and I don't need someone to be with me and feel complete and happy.
I will watching this again and again when ï will feel alone
THANKS YOU SO MUCH!!!! MATTHEW ❤❤❤❤🎀
ALL YOUR WORDS THAT YOU're saying had matter you are amazing!!! Xooxoxxo
I love you thanks
Jenzy2017 sending you hugs. Stay hopeful. You're not alone.........I feel your pain💚
Charlie Foxtrot awwww❤ thanks you so much!!! Big hug!!! Xoxox
Jenzy2017 Better days will come, enjoy the solitude :) im doing the same!
A. B. Thanks you !
we are together in this ❤🎀 we got the be strong oxoxox
Matthew truly makes an impact on the world. It's a beautiful thing.
#virtualhugforeveryonewhoneedsandwantsit
Elisha Romitman thank you
Elisha Romitman I see you!! Virtual hug right back at you, girl 🤗 #mytribe #youarenotalone
Elisha Romitman thanks 🙏
YES! Thank you! 💁 Hugging you back!
Hus for you too
Literally made me cry. I used to be a strong and confident person, but over the past year I just feel worthless. I feel like I don't matter to anyone. I'm only close to 2 members of my family whom I might get to see once a year. I have no friends or significant other. I fell like I don't even matter at work because every month my team gets a review from our clients and they're mentioned all the time by name for how great they are, and I've never once been mentioned in over a year. Thank you for speaking kindly to people who you don't even know.
I feel the same
I hope 5 years later you're doing better.
30 years old, single for almost 8 years now. Honestly....these past few months have culminated into the first period of my life where I truly believe I’m suffering from loneliness. I feel like there’s something wrong with me. Like I’ve been living my life all wrong.
Care for a chat?
If I had to write something here, it would have been this..
Wow, you just described what happened to me in life. I'm 39 years old now. I feel you and relate.
Same. I really relate and connect to what you’ve said. We can be each others friends.
This is how I feel! Loneliness is at a point now that it hurts my heart. I am becoming more and more sad everyday. I don’t care about Facebook people going to beaches and stuff I just want someone to come home to. Just share the normal things in life. Going to bed with a huge and a kiss. Next morning making breakfast for someone
I have a sign right On the wall in front of my bed that says ''GOOD MORNING! You are the love of your life''.
Aw that's so cute !
BAglamdoll love that!
Love it!!!
BAglamdoll you ROCK.. love that idea.. thanx for sharing 💝
I wish Matthrew could give me a hug
May Sal same
Lol I was just thinking that too. We're all in this together!
Seriously! 😄
Trump is Daddy
Pants. Keep your pants on
May Sal I will probably die if that happens XD
“Understanding that we are enough on our own” ♥️
I cut out all the people that are toxic to me in one way or another and ended up alone - as much as I am grateful for it, I do miss having people to speak to... it does feel like everyone is having fun while I'm alone or working on myself. Xx
What’s happened since ? :)
I’m living the same situation now..
I cut everyone also. Just my daughter, sisters and mother in my life. Coworkers dont count...
Dude, hit me right where I live.
Just crawled out of a brutal divorce, and the lonliness is deafening and crushing.
So after another week of feeling like I barely survived, this pops up.
You made my day, my man, if not my week or who knows, perhaps an even longer lastning impression.
Which ever it may be, I thank you all from the bottom of my battered heart.
Bro 2 bro ;)
sending you love xoxox
Much love and blessings to you!
Good luck there and hang in! :-)
You are going to be ok...xoxo HUGSSSSS
Hugs. What's your real name
Something that helps me out when I'm lonely is to get out of the house, engage with strangers, and turn my mind to thinking about how they're feeling, and trying to encourage them. I ALWAYS feel better after doing that. That, and iced espresso.
Great video!
Being a single mother and struggling with loneliness , your video bought so much of courage .
Hang in there. You are worth it. You are beautiful. You matter to people. Many of us are lonely. But we can enjoy little things in our day
I had a brain aneurysm two years ago. I've never felt so alone, scared and terrified. I was.single, career driven and in my 40s. All my girlfriend's were married with kids and despite supporting them, never heard from them unless they wanted something. I pulled myself up, back together and take t day by day, but it does get lonely. God ad faith have really helped. Thank you for this message
Wow this came at an oddly perfect time in my life. Another eye-opening video as always.
Courtney Fleischman ughh I feel exactly the same.. he seems to always get me in tears.. he’s amazing.. best wishes to you..
Courtney Fleischman same here 😢😢
Matthew, you're right about loneliness. And there's actually been studies that show that spending time on Facebook can actually cause people to feel depressed because we're comparing our life to their life - or as you would say, the party going on "out there". Thanks for spot on video.
I'm going to start listening to this everyday until I believe it and am able to bring my own party everyday. Thank you Matthew
Me too
I don't believe I've ever commented on a CZcams Video in my life, but Matthew I sincerely want you to know that you have given me comfort and strength in my litteral darkest moments. I was significantly physically injured as the result of domestic assault when I broke up with someone who wasn't right for me. Discovering your videos gave me the confidence to break up with him and be strong on my own. I've grown in ways I never thought possible and I'm ready for real unconditional messy love. Words can not express my gratitude adequately. You are probably the most reliable source of available reassurance in my life. You have absolutely no idea how much of a positive impact you have on thousands of strangers.
For all the lonely people out there: Invest in yourself! That breeds confidence and loneliness is often a sign of insecurity. You feel unheard. You feel unworthy.
If you start investing in yourself in the form of working out, eating healthy or choosing a new hobby that can give you the feeling of personal growth, not only will you probably meet new people but you'll feel more confident.
So get these running shoes on or take those singing lessons or do that cooking class. It'll be worth it!
Love, J.
Those ideas are bandaids. Humans are pack animals and are not ment to be alone
I do all those things. Yet there are plenty of times that I feel.alonw
@Linda Tallon , you’re right! And the Lord said, “ It is no good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him. Book of Genesis 2:18.
This literally brought tears to my eyes. Loneliness crushes people... including myself. The feeling of isolation, etc. This really hits home. I would never want to feel this way, but there is comfort is knowing you are not alone. Thank you for this.
I'm going through a very hard time in my life, a really sad breakup and just finding this video made me feel a lot better. I needed to hear these words, even if you don't know me, hearing that I matter is important. I keep forgetting my own value, my own happiness getting lost in trying to make everyone else happy. If you ever read this comment, Thank You! Keep doing the work that you're doing because your videos have a huge impact on people, especially on those who are feeling extremely vulnerable and fragile right now, like me.
I am single for a long time. I am on my own but I don't have a lonely life. I have friends, I travel, I dance, I work, I have 3 cats. I am not afraid of being with myself. Sometimes I feel lonely but life is much more then find the "one"! What it is the "one"? Who is the "one"? Don't know. What I know is that I am grateful for being healthy and enjoy life! But thank you for your videos Matthew. I am always learning :)
Being "lonely" and being "alone" is not the same thing. You don't have to feel lonely while being alone. You can feel "painfully lonely" while being in company. It's not just an outside situation that makes a person lonely. I like to think that this gives us more power to fight our feeling of loneliness...
Thank you so much for this Video, Matthew.
I'm 16. I know there's less than a percent chance that Mathew, you will see this, or that anyone will give a damn. But the part you said about loneliness tying into worthlessness hit me hard, as in being run over by a million ton trucks hard. A lot of the time I feel like everyone would be so much happier if I was gone, a large part of the reason being that I don't have an impact on anyone's life. Words that I live by, are "leave a person better than you found them". I know what it's like to hit rock bottom and feel like nothing, and have no one to help. I never want anyone to feel like that. But damn it hurts a lot that I'm not enough to anyone less than half the time. The part you said about worthlessness, I feel worthless ever day of my life. And that comment helped me a little. So thank you
I really, really hope that you feel better soon and can see your worth! It's hard, being 16 but it will get better, I promise! And don't even think that people would be happier with you gone, I swear that everyone who know you would be devastated
+Megan Goosen lots of hugs. Your age is a very complicated one, but I promise you that the older u get, the less you care about other people´s opinions and yours matter the most. Learn to love yourself above anything else, cause you are the only one that will be with you till the end. Love
Megan Goosen .. dear Megan too young, pls go out do things you’ve never done.. love all but most of all love yourself like Matt said believe it or not you matter.. way to much to be honest... ppl read this and it does touches their heart it did to me.. I know the feeling been living 45 still single no kids.. but guess what I still matter and so do you.. do happy things for you and help and love ppl along the way.. best wishes sweet.. 🌸
I hope you know you are not worthless. Sending love your way ❤
Megan Goosen please don't feel worthless your comment was beautiful and feeling bad is part of being human. Embrace the feeling, appreciate what it is showing you and decide what you believe! 💕
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this right now.
I’ve been feeling lonely lately, anyone feeling the same?
I’ve had countless short 1 year relationships with girls but I they never end up working out. I love my alone time but I also want to find the right girl and settle down. I’m tired of the one night stands and the shitty situation ships. Been feeling super lonely lately.
Thank you for this video, I was just in need of a little talk that I never get from anyone. I have felt unworthy and my words not mattered. Only this year that I have come to understand that I need to change how I went about things and always go along with the wave for the sake of pleasing others wasn't the best choice.
Exo I grew old waiting 4 u to slay me You are not unworthy.
Marilyn Pérez thank you! I just wish that everyone in this world were to be able to watch Matt's videos and specially this one to develop a sense of character.
I am painfully lonely 😞
lorraine2136 :') Aw....
yes same here :-/
Don't! Loneliness should be temporary. This will be better. 😄
That's why I love watching Matthew's channel because of his wisdom and the relevant information that can help us overcome this kind of feelings.
I'm crying rivers right now, you spoke deep to me and I so needed this in this very moment. As I sat crying to myself and praying to god my notification buzzed for your video. THANK YOU Matthew! You've touched and help so many! Like you said I am enough. ❤️
I've begun distancing myself from most of my longtime friends and my family. I don't know why. I suppose I don't feel connected to them anymore. I feel like I want to go away and find a new life somewhere. I think I have always felt this way. I have always both wanted to be with my true love and be totally alone.
You spoke how I feel
I've been single for almost five years now. It's been so hard for me. It's hard because I live with my friend and her boyfriend. My friends are spending time with their partner and it makes me feel even more alone. I know I need to change my way of thinking and honestly, I don't know-how. I also in the dating world and it's frustrating because I am running into the wrong guys or I meet a guy that I have an interest in but he is not available. I had to make the decision to reject this guy because I knew it wasn't going to go anywhere. Every time I do this, I feel this pain, sadness. I don't want to be with someone because I am lonely, I want to be with someone because the feelings are mutual. I sm not looking for someone to complete me, I want him to compliment me.
It's not bad to be lonely. I think being lonely is less painful than having your heart broken or getting hurt.
Very true great perspective. The highs can be equally as high when you’re single as when you’re in a relationship. But the lows of being heartbroken are much lower than the faint pain of being lonely (after you’ve worked on yourself and become independent)
Yeah true it’s peaceful and quiet when your on your own you come home to yourself and no one is here to greet you.
As much as relationships are hard work I do want to be in a relationship again. I just don’t want be single for the rest of my life
I don't know.
Just so tired of it, i wish I can just detach from wanting to give love and to want love
I
have found so much comfort in Matthews videos. They always validate my feelings, make me feel heard and comfort me when I dont have anyone who can in my life right now.
Feeling lonely when I was home with my family.. Feeling alone when I moved from my country to another country, in college, at work and with all my relationships. That feeling never left me. And now I'm alone but its ok with me after all these years.
I guess I always struggle to be in love with someone that will accept me the way I'm. Avoiding the feeling to be rejected.
My dad was the one I was loved by. He always tell me how much he loves me. At the age of 12 my dad got married with another woman, since that time I spent my time alone knowing there is a rejection coming from my 👪. I had the feeling that I'm a adopted child but I couldn't find out. My marriage was another story of been alone and rejected. Matthew.. My loneliness doesn't bother me any more. Finding love has been tough for me. Thanks again for couching me during this time when I needed a friend to talk to.
My problem is my family or I can say my patents who adopted me. They don't like to see me happy with the guy that I WANT. I don't know what that means. I couldn't understand my mom and my dad who keep rejecting the man that I wanted for myself.
Ok. I cried. This video really struck a nerve. I did not expect this. Thank you I guess.
Same
Matthew I was crying deeply from my heart which you touched so lovingly and tender , tears are still streaming down my face even now. I am a loner and have been for many years so for you to reach out so lovingly, tenderly and transparently means the world to me. You are such a beautiful beautiful soul and man and deserve the very best that life and love can bring you. Much love Marina
Some people ask why I haven't remarried or started dating again, but I am just enjoying the time with my daughter and living life. If for some reason someone is put in my path someday great, amazing...but for now I am really happy. I am discovering the world by myself and learning my strengths and weaknesses and how to rely on myself. Being in an abusive relationship for ten years, I must learn to love me now. My daughter and I had a Disney marathon and I had such joy laughing with her. I love you, yes you. You matter and are so loved.
It took me 3 years to understand, that I am enough to myself and in fact I still learn of being enough to myself till today. As you said, we have to remember this SO IMPORTANT lesson day by day. What I've learned of that lesson is, to inspire others to do the same but even more important: to love myself! I got introduced by myself to my identity, my passion, my mistakes, my ugly and my beautiful sides and I can accept the ugly one and love the beautiful one! What a great gift of life!
*too busy staring at Matt.... * (video ends)...
Me: What were you saying? Lol 😂
Hi Vlogs I keep repeating to understand better but that sweatter and his eyes are not helping! 😂😂😂😂
Join the club!
He probably gets double the views because of this! Once to gaze, once to actually listen.
Hi Vlogs every time I see a comment like this I wonder if Matthew takes it as a compliment. Maybe a comment on the actual content of the video would be more positive to his day? Just a well meaning thought x
Ilhaam lol I wonder if he even has time to read these comments
Hi Mathew, I am from Egypt - that's halfway across the world to you: ). If you do see this, I just genuinely want you to know that I was feeling very lonely, and watching this was a kind pat on the back and a bit of a warm hug to my heart. Thank you for truly making one more person feel less lonely.
I am so overwhelmed I am tearing a little, out of happiness indeed. Cheers to you my friend. Please do not stop these longer videos that address these inevitable human feelings, whether for men or women :)
Thank you, Matthew. Your comments about fear and vulnerability really hit home.
I always feel that no matter how much work I put In, people still don't like me or they don't warm to me. I find it so hard to make friends and my teenage years was painful with loneliness, to the point where my sister would invite me with her friends from pity. I still struggle with loneliness and still feel that I haven't found proper connections and still, at the age of 27, struggle making friends and fitting in.
This video was so reassuring and made me cry. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Matthew for this video, it’s true especially for those who binges in social media every now and then. Will eventually feel lonely 😩 which sometimes dangerously lead to depression at a point.
Salute to the assurance and advice given 🙏🏻
I love this man for what he does...
I'm alone since 14 years single mother invested in my single daughter now even she doesn't care about me ... whenever I feel alone I listen Matthew Hussey makes me positive and strong .
I am binge watching Matthew Hussey's videos and I'm loving it!! He gives such genuine, kind-hearted and loving advice to his listeners. A truly awesome mind, it's helping me a lot to deal with overcoming feelings of lack and loneliness and to get over a difficult situation
You are the kindest youtuber I have watched other than my bookish favourite ones.
I'm 25, to think I should be at a club. I'm actually stuck my room or go to a park entire weekend until I go to work Monday morning. I've always felt worthless especially when know one has willing to give me a chance to get to know me.. I'm always lonely, I now put a smile on so friends and family would stop asking me what's wrong.
Wow! Thank you for this incredible message. I’ve felt loneliness most my life and never thought about how my actions could effect others. This is just beautiful to hear, on what started out as a lonely night. 💖
Matthew Hussey has had a significant impact on my life. Watching his videos has improved every aspect of my life. And it feels so good to be able to come back whenever I need it. Don’t give up guys.
The only structured way to attack loneliness is to go out beyond your own self-serving ways and help somebody else
This message is everything EVERYTHING ♡ honestly it was exactly what I needed
The message "you matter", brought tears to me. Keep doing what your doing...you certainly have a gift. 🤗 You're helping so many people.
Matthew, thank you for all the times that you open up and show us that you are affected by the same struggles that affect us. It helps so much!
I love you, i think you're amazing, you've helped me and my best friend and i hope you know that you are inspiring and helping ppl. You have definitely impacted me in a positive way. Keep doing what you're doing from that beautiful mind and heart of yours to help others. If you ever think you're not enough, know that this stranger of me to you thinks that you are more than enough of your own. ❤
Wow he is spot on about why we are lonely and why I come to this channel, I like listening to the way he express his ideas. I found the best way to temper loneliness is loving your own company. It's work in progress, as I still sometime yearn for someone who can understand the way I think. I've come to accept this loneliness I feel at times, it's been an impetus of change.
You made me cry... your words are touching every lonely soul, because you speak from a such a deep understanding how it feels to be lonely. Keep doing your work! It really does make a difference.
Thank you ! Taking personal responsibility to make connections is really the key to getting out of the loneliness but not always easy to do! I always feel like I’m begging for attention or begging for relationships when other people get that easily and abundantly . I do feel a bit like the kid that doesn’t get invited to the party but really want to be there. I know Im needed and important but that almost seems more like a burden sometimes than a blessing because I don’t get a lot of acknowledgment for the contribution I make in my work or family.
I have never felt so lonely in my entire until now, all my friends are in relationships and dont go out anymore and very rarely even talk to me anymore, I feel abandoned and worthless since I cant find a nice guy myself its making me feel even worse and depressing me now :(
Idk why I posted this in a CZcams comment nobody cares hahaha ;~;
I feel the same way. :-(
I encourage you to be your best self. Instead of looking for a man, look for opportunities to do things you enjoy and where you.might make new friends with people who have interests in common with you. Its only by being as YOU as you can be that you'll meet people who may develop into GOOD romantic partners.
From a guys perspective I'll tell you why, many of us have tried in the past you lot just burn us, use us, and abuse us. Then throw us away and more and more are catching on, in the same circles I follow we find more men every day find solace and acceptance as a group learning while we are alone many other men know the pain we've gone through and have yet to face. And we learn from each other the truth and as a collective what women are really like, NOT WHAT THEY SAY. We learn that women only go after guys who have money looks and status, and in the end they don't care about us, only what they can get out of us. Modern women are not worth the effort and are to much of a risk. Modern women are so passive when it comes to relationships, yet aggressive in so many other things. They complain when men approach them they complain when men don't approach them, they complain when males jump through hoop after hoop wasting time money and energy, wanted to get intimate with them and then they complain when men start wising up they are just being used and walk away for relationships in general. And they wonder why they keep meeting crappy guys? Crappy guys are the ones who get what they want! You use all the men who aren't "good enough" for favors companionship, for you, and all sorts of things but they never get the affection in return, no women ever loves them in return so they go and find better uses for there time, and more and more just leave and go play games or work more, or work out more, or just look at porn, hang out with guy friends who don't use them so much, enjoy nature. Whatever anything is a better use for their time at that point. And even attractive guys who could have a pick from any number of women see how, unfair the family court system is and how women will just take his kids and money and run away with them while the guns of the state garnish his wages and do as the women demands. All she has to do is lie and say he's abusive or any number of things and his life is just ruined. So now the smart well off men and average men are all leaving more and more. And even if they date they aren't stupid enough to get married in such a unfair system. So who is left they players and bad boys who don't care at all. There are only three types of guys, gay guys, guys who want sex and care about the women, and guys who want sex and don't care about the women. Have fun with the guys who are left.
I care about your :)
NecromorphQueen yes we do care. That's the beauty of this channel I think ask a viewer of Matthew we care about each other and the greater humanity. Lots of love from France 💕
Just catching up on this. I love the idea that we have our own community here. We are a tribe - and we are creating our "family" here which gives us belonging and context and support. I had a dating relationship turn into companionship - and it's been lovely. It's not a hookup - thanks to you, Matthew - I value myself more than that - but the friendship/companionship - it's still beautiful and rewarding in its own way. Thanks for creating some virtual tribe for me/for us!
Thanks Matt!
I love the way you describe the party within us that we bring to a situation rather than pursuing something outside of us... I grew up as an only child and spent a lot of time on my own. I often felt left out but there were also times when I realised how much freedom being on my own gave me and how social independence made me feel so empowered. I am recently married and love having the companionship of my husband but I still treasure time on my own. It's important to have your own party with yourself!
Really perfect timing. Currently staying at home instead of going to a party. I was feeling really lonely eating ramen and trying to tackle these papers that I have to write. This video really helped me. I actually made someone's day better on Twitter so that was nice. As always, great stuff. I love the positive note you ended on.
It's like you take my thoughts and put them into words!
Chelsea Van Steyn 👏🏼😂😍
I always feel alone .I live with family .They see me everyday but not even they understand me .How can I expect friends ,strangers to do it ?? Music helps
Mykael_91 Let me tell you, many many times family don't understand and you find friends that totally get you, people that have the same interests. Do not get discouraged.
The way you talk, goes right through my heart and I seriously believe every single word that you say. I truly love you and what you do.
Thank you so much for this! It came at exactly the time I needed it. I feel an overwhelming sense of loneliness but it's really good and inspiring to see someone who seems to genuinely care so few real people left in the world, seeing this brings hope that there are more out there.
thank you so much for posting this video. I really needed and it couldn't be uploaded at any better time. so thank you again for being great
I love being alone, but I am never lonely. Alone-ness and loneliness are very different things.
Yes, yes, yes!
I had a family member tell me she didn't want me to "be alone," but she meant as in being lonely. People think I'm lonely because I'm single, or alone, and it's aggravating.
wow how u do that?
I used to be that way too and I still am to a certain degree but humans still have some need of social interaction and when you're completely cut off from the world and your friends reject you, it gets really hard. Everybody has a borderline.
SCD Observer solitude is a better word .
SCD Observer Good for you.
Saying that my actions matter to a stranger is profound and so helpful to me in my own life now. Your reminder that having a good companion is valuable in life. Thanks so much.
Thank you Matthew for your work. I've been listening to you for the last week or so and after being lonely and depressed you help me keep realistic goals in finding my way back to a healthier social life.
Last week I spoke to a friend about how many people love Friday after work where I go get my kid and head home feeling very FOMO. I actually like work better because I'm valued and heard the most there rather than at home. Here's to making it a little better everyday.
Matt i know you may not read this comment but i just want to say thank you, for everything. I've recently gone through a painful breakup and for several months i've always woken up crying. This is really hard but what i do afterwards is watch your videos even though i've watched them countless times already. You are such an inspiration and i know one day i'll get over this pain. Thank you and ill never forget you in my future.
Lyn did you go to VR?
I have a crush on Jameson 😂 I like my men mysterious
Velma Queen I laughed to hard on this comment.
I don't think I could have come across something so perfect for this moment in my life. Seriously having one of the hardest mornings after hearing that someone I loved is having a child with another. I've always wanted a family but I havn't found the right person. I was feeling painfully alone when this video popped up on my fb feed. Thank you for sharing this message Matthew! You've really helped make someone's day shine a little brighter.
Revisiting this video, just the way he recommends at the end. This man has changed my life. Thank you, Matthew. Bless you.
Today I felt so lonely that I told myself I should get a boyfriend, but afer watching this video I realized that it's not what I need. I need to go out there and live a great life, that will make people want to be a part of. It might take a while to get out of my comfort zone but I will get there. Thanks Matt
Matt THANK YOU for making this video! Changed my day so amazingly and put a smile on my face :)
Lore Guerrero I wish all your days became more happier :)
Dear Matthew,
since more than 3 years I am watching your videos and I feel joy when I see you spreading your messages and going on with that mission and growing and reaching so many woman. I never intended to comment on your content. I simply watch it. But that‘s not the whole truth. I don’t just watch you being great in every topic you talk about to be entertained. Actually I really swallow your advices deeply and transform them into my every day thoughts. Although it actually doesn’t help to find a partner so far, I feel like a better person, just by internalising your words. Whenever I feel lonely and helpless because I failed again and again, I watch you talking in a rational and at the same time spiritual way. You became an important friend. Sometimes you are the reason, why I can get out of bed and give it another try. You are a gift. I believe there is more than my case, when you are to be honest a life safer. I can cry for hours, be close to end everything - but when I watch you performing I feel comfort, connection and hope. I want to get the life I want not just because I want to make myself happy. I want to say, you were right and you would be the one who helped me getting there. Even if it’ll never work for me, I enjoyed the journey. Thank you for being there. Thank you for not stopping being you.
Watching this video 6 years later again! Life can get really hard sometimes, really grateful for people like you Matthew. You have no idea how many lives you have saved. You saved me!❤❤❤
Needed this today. You're amazing!
Currently sitting in my car bawling my eyes out 😭! Thank you for this Matt. Came at just the right time ❤️
I'm crying because I really needed to hear the message you're passing along here. Thank-you!
Just came back from Starbucks since my friend had to go home. I sat down on my sofa and opened CZcams then this video popped up.
I was feeling so lonely home just by myself on a Saturday night.
Really sad and lonely.
Almost panicked.
I have to watch your video again and again which would help me calm down a bit.
😊 thank you, Matthew for creating this video at such a perfect timing.
Here because I'm mourning the end of a 2 year relationship. It also happened to be an 18 year friendship. Sucks. So. Bad.
Missing you Alic. Been a little over a month since we split.
Hope you're OK sky xxx
People who try to sell something usually don't sound sincere in why. When you talk about your retreat, I don't feel like you're trying to sell something. I can feel and know that you actually care about me and others. Thank you!
April Bennion 😕
You help to validate people’s feelings and that’s huge. My feelings are real but what’s causing them may not be. Validation is so helpful
Matthew, ur a parent, a brother, a true friend, I can't Thank you enough but I'm so humbled. God bless you with all the desires of your heart. Hugs.
Whoever gets to marry Matthew Hussey is a lucky woman 😳
I don’t agree. He would analyse and make a big deal over everything. Whoever marries him will have it difficult.
To everyone reading this, if we all feel alone we also have that in common!
Thank you for this Matthew🙏🏻,this video might save lives! Really important!
1 question, have you seen the documentary The mask you live in? (It's on Netflix). It would be really interesting hearing what you think of it!
Mathew is so beautiful. Everytime he opens his mouth, it feels like I am surrounded by a warm hug. He is so full of love.
To me this just feels like the best video you ever made. Thank you for the emotional support you provided.
I felt very lonely being in a relationship , feeling misunderstood all the time. After divorce I started a Full of life , I have many friends, I am really chasing my dreams, I am creating space for others, to feel better in life, thru art. I have relationships but I am trying to have better one than before, cause I felt like in a prison. But the one thing I can see now. I like to be with my thoughts and all by myself. I feel good with this space. Loneliness is really about the feeling not the circumstances. And awareness leads to better understanding.
and yes I already have the feeling that u are my bossom friend..love you,respect you..see yaa!
You have saved my life today after feeling low this NYD! NYE went out alone by Choice as a single mom of 6 months after 10 year relationship with a narcissist! When I’m up for a night out I won’t let going alone stop me- however the lack of sleep alcohol etc made me feel low this new morning but I talked it out and found your videos in a search on loneliness as I walked it off round the lakes and feel so much better reclaiming my worth! Worth and loneliness are definitely connected. Bless you - also this year I’m gonna keep smiling at others so I can make a difference in someone’s day x
The ending of this brought me to tears, beautifully said Matthew