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I want so bad to tell my story but its too much to write here. I'm in the withdrawal stages and it has been brutal, degrading and profoundly heartbreaking to the point of physical illness.

I feel the need to share my experience here. I don't know if it will help anyone, myself included, but here we go: I was ghosted on Newyear's eve several years ago. I had been seeing a woman for 5 years. We had separate living spaces but we essentially lived together, we just hopped between hers, or mine. My sister had picked me up to carpool going skiing. The plan was for my partner to pick me up at my sister's because it was closer to the party we were attending for NYE. My sister went off to a different party around 9, and I spoke with my girlfriend who said she was in the car headed my way. She said I'll see you in 20 minutes, and ended the call with "I love you." This year I had that wound re-opened. Up until then I had been very close friends with a woman for about 2 years, we worked together so we weren't technically dating, yet we usually hung out after work, just the two of us and we seemed to have a very deep connection. That all faded when she started seeing someone. I felt that I would just write her off as someone who was no longer interested in having a close friendship with a guy under the circumstances. The only thing is that she had said some things about being heavily depressed when we did exchange the odd message. I sent a mutual friend a heads up saying, I didn't want to abandon a friend if they were going through a rough time, and what I figured the situation was. I planned to move on and let her live her life, knowing that I had done what I could to support her. She caught word of things and demanded an explanation from me the day before NYE. I was frank, and explained the experience I had years before on NYE as well as a friend who had ended her life unexpectedly after communication broke down between us. She said she wanted to understand and support me. Her last message was for me not to worry about the way I phrase things, that there was room for understanding. I found out she blocked my number when I tried to say "happy new years" the next day. To answer the questions you probably have; yes. I've confirmed that neither of these women died. Honestly, I don't know how anyone can recover from something like that. Up until each moment that happened they both told me they loved me, in their words, in decisions they made, and the clearly well thought-out gifts I received for birthdays and what not. I'm a little concerned that that last experience really broke me. When could I ever feel safe in a relationship, or friendship? I was so positive that those women were GOOD people. They were both always so compassionate to others and patient. Yet capable of immense cruelty with no stated reason, or signal that it was coming.

Thank you so much for your great advice 🙏🏼👍❤️

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Handsome. Do you know your MBTI type?😊

How do we just let go of a relationship that when it's so good but when it's bad it's so bad..

Great talk! Very high quality info here, you make VERY good points.. thank you so much for the advice! I will be looking into more of your videos!!

My bf and I don't want kids, and he's had a vasectomy, but he is such a good uncle and cat dad, and hes so kind, I would trust him with my imaginary children more than I'd trust myself.

Oooo sir, I needed this. Thank you.

Profound wisdom in this advice.

Thank You Matthew

I was in a 1 month relationship and for some reason I feel the world is ending.

Yeah I was very stuck in a story. I’ve broken away from it a few months ago.

This also applies to friendships

Thank you for your message Matthew! It comes in at 😊the right time I need to hear it!

Asked a girl out today but got declided as she is already commited to someone. Aside from her being mature and telling me straight, I am also happy that it no longer hurts or makes me sad so I too agree “happy enough” is a great way of putting it

So true! ❤❤❤

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Totally 💯. Why keep the person that you’re not happy with..It was hard letting him go but I’m also happier without him. In fact, I am so much in peace without him. I’m trying to give way or space that is truly belong to my life ❤…and the only way to achieve it is to let go of things or people that is not good for you in the long run…

Don’t waste time in dead end relationships of any kind. People who are aimless at 25 won’t have direction at 35 either.

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Started your book today!

Thank you. 🙏

Amen!

or just make it easy and wait for marriage

happy enough. that’s beautiful and profoundly true.

“Don’t have any hopes” this is the part women need to start to practice. Be ok with not having hope with this person, you can have hope somewhere else. Ensure you get someone who adores you. You deserve that.

They have strange behavior,one day me , next day somebody else ,how can a girl live ?

Who is he talking about😅

This is low key the worst advise I’ve ever heard. He said her being a vegetarian still bothers him. So there for your still not 100% on the same page as your partner. A feature about her brings up uncomfortable feelings. And that’s just about food bro. Imagine religion. Worst advise I’ve ever heard , how do your side children ? Do you go to church or temple ? Like dig in a bit instead of talking so slow about nothing

I know couples who hooked up on the second date and are still married 20 years later. And I know folks who waited 4 months to hop into bed and then afterwards, got ghosted. There's no guarantee that the "right" behavior will pay off or the "wrong" behavior will end in failure. I'm convinced it's just dumb luck.

There is absolutely a big difference between instincts and intuition. I trust my intuition. But I won;t let my instincts govern over anything.

I believe that’s true❤❤❤

When getting out of something that isnt good for you, but you were very attached, it can be so hard to not go back. I parted ways with someone 4 months ago, and I haven't gone a week without having the urge to contact them again. But I do thoroughly believe in the idea that that space is necessary.

I took too many steps. Lost her.

not worth it....the worst trash women - want bme and a million dollars

Matt, I stopped listening to other relationship gurus because their advice was too general. Yours is the only one that made me pay attention. Keep doing what you do! You're helping a lot of people 🤍

This man strikes me as a dangerous guru.

So much bullshit. Men want relationships with girls that are hotter, more beautiful than them. That’s it. It’s very simple. This is all blabla to avoid this simple point.

I thought he was Daniel Radcliffe at first

That doesn't solve the problem of insecurity though. You can't just distract yourself when you've identified where you feel bad about yourself. Confronting your insecurities and feeling whole within yourself would give you no reason to be jealous.

Feel like I have to put this on repeat for a while 🔁 😄

Absolutely

Such a great advice!👏

How do u show that it’s not just a given tho

Agreed 💯👍💯👍💯👍💯👍 Thanks 🙏

I have been grieving a 6.5 year relationship for over two years now. I am doing way better than I was when the breakup first happened, but sometimes I look back on that time and that connection and it still hurts. I thought he was the one and that he would build a home and family with me. After so many years and no effort to move things toward family and marriage on his side it was too little too late. I am not as emotionally destabilized and getting lost in those sad thoughts but I still have to remind myself why he wasn’t the right one.

So i'm late but if seomeone wants to help: my obsession is over a singer. It's been going for years and I know it's ridiculous. But after so much idealization they seem to be the best possible partner in my mind and no matter how much i try to move on and stop the idealization, I can't leave it behind.

I think it is you made a name for yourself this way and talking about it became easy. But deepdown you just want someone to love you. And we both know / suspect this isn't the place to look for it.