How Me and My Wife Met... (It's Not What You Think)
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People ask me a lot, “How did you meet your wife?”
Well, it wasn’t just one decision. It was actually a few simple steps that even an introvert like me could use to be in exactly the right place to meet Audrey when I did.
I believe anyone can apply this advice in their dating lives to find love. So if you want to maximize your chances of meeting (and attracting) someone amazing, the 3 practical steps I mention in this video could lead you to your person . . . possibly without you ever having to swipe right!
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1:00 - 1:51 - Why We Keep Going Back to the Wrong People
1:51 - 3:48 - “Fusing With Other Atoms”
3:48 - 5:11 - Step #1: Eye Contact
5:11 - 6:14 - Step #2: Get Proximity
6:14 - 7:33 - Step #3: Say Something
7:33 - 8:46 - Becoming an Approachable Person
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1. Get out of the house
2. Eye contact
3. Proximity
4. Say something
5. Have the mindset of being open to love rather than the fear of rejection
Yikes! What a gross misunderstanding of mirroring a man or letting a man lead concept. Healthy people don’t need to be so rigid. That comes from fear. There is a big difference between saying hi, and saying hi and throwing yourself at someone. It’s like you did not watch the video.
This comment doesn’t seem to reflect the comment before it. This person was just summarizing the video very concisely, not saying that anyone needed to throw themselves at someone?
be famous with proper account
Fear of rejection is soooo something I’ll never understand!!! You could miss some amazing opportunities !!! Wake up America!
this nails it perfectly Mariam!
We seriously need to hear from Audrey about what she was thinking at that moment went she approached Mathew. I would appreciate her take on this. She won a gem of a man, so she must have some great advice for us!
Yes! And she’s a gem too!
Yes!
Definitely! If she shares any advice I’ll follow it as the ultimate truth. She surely knows more than many female dating coaches out there
No doubt at all... Would be nice to read or hear that story ❤ 🎉
I LOVE her takes and the way she discusses this topic. Would run to watch it
Summary:
1. Go out more: increase your possibility to collide more.
(2-4) be approachable, make people braver around you 👇🏽
2. When you like someone, be inviting: eye contact, not only one, multiple times. Don’t be creepy though 👀.
3. Get closer.
4. Say something,,, anything, to show you’re open to talk.
Tip: what can go wrong? cold moment, awkward silence, rejection…. So what 😂
On the other hand, you might actually ⚡️
Thank you.
Hmmmm
"I have to live in such a way that makes people around me brave." This is such a beautiful statement that can be applied to any person or encounter in our lives.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Probably should've put a ring on it instead of lolligagging for 5 yrs
@pauline how much her services cost?
sounds like Audrey was the brave one all round! 😂😂
again it's been a few years and this is the surface just like when he scammed thousands of women
Hardly brave when she probably already knew he is a millionaire
SMILE. If you see someone without one, give them one of yours. A smile says a thousands words.
Great advice!😃
This is a cute saying
Audrey is such a boss. She led this entire encounter!
I have been rejected so many times over the past 14 years of being single.
But I am still putting myself out there.
My respect to you!!!! I admire your attitude
Right on. Keep going! Been there, too, and it WILL happen, friend.🙌
This definitely meant for me... Cause I'm still waiting for the love of my life to break into my home as much as I stay in😅
Same hahah this year I must go out more! We can do it 😅
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😂😂😂
I felt this 😂
I’m laughing so hard because I have said this exact quote before as a comment on some other video out there on CZcams. 🤣
I wanted to say thank you Matthew! I've read your book and listened to your content for several years, practicing being open to conversations and making myself easy to talk to (not natural for an introvert but I intentionally learned!). I'd given up on modern dating, but kept practicing in public with no goals except warm curiosity to make friends and have interesting interactions with strangers. A few months ago I was at the car dealership getting work done on my car when another customer came and sat a few seats away. I struck up a casual conversation. We talked easily an hour and by the time his car was fixed I'd slid him my phone number. Texting turned into meeting up as friends, a few months passed and we both admitted we liked each other. We've been dating steadily almost a year now. So thank you, because of practicing being open for anything I met my first ever boyfriend - at age 39. You really never know when the right atoms will bump into each other!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I've yet to have a boyfriend (33 yrs old), because of social anxiety and isolation. I'm not bad looking at all, just in bad circumstances. Your story gave me hope that it could still happen, I just need to put myself out there and work on being more approachable and warm to others.
@calmandcozy OMG! Such a cute story. And yes, you were brave, which worked out wonderfully for you! Love your story and wishing you lots of good luck and great vibes for your relationship. 🙏🙂💕
Ever since I got to know you, I feel that your wife is the luckiest person in the world!
You did a super great job, thanks a lot for sharing! 👍😄👏
I love hearing “my wife” 😍🥰😍🥰 sooooo happy for you!
It’s so wild we have to be taught basic social skills again due to the phones and technology of the world, it’s like we forgot ! You have helped me so much throughout the years, Matt. Thank you ! I’m appreciative for the grounding simplicity you bring in your messages.
Profoundly simple. Easy? Maybe not the easiest, but certainly achievable, realistic, and wholesome.
Wholesome!
I doubt you’ll see this.
But I found this video so valuable.
I’m halfway through watching your suggested video and I want to thank you for your empathy and kindness in the way you talk. Honestly. You’ve quelled so much fear in me just by what you’ve said that I feel calm for the first time in years. Thank you Matthew.
You are a gem.
Thank you.
Matthew Hussey got married?!! Where have I been? So glad you found your person! Seems like I went thru your journey, beginning of COVID, etc, and this fellow Gemini was grateful for the company, but my heart ached for both of us. Doing so much better also! Cheers! 🧡
Wonderful love story! I’ve ditched the dating apps in 2024. Focusing on projects instead of endless disappointments and distractions. I want to meet someone the old fashioned way like you and Audrey did. Thank you for sharing and I will use your advice. Be brave woman and don’t hold back on approaching someone we are interested in! If anything it will build confidence and flatter nice men.
Absolutely 💯 percent! 😁👍
👏
Wait… she did everything!
Looks like it paid off, eh?! 💍😍
She chose him. Confident people finding magic. Classic!
Oh but he was *there* 😏😆
Seriously tho, that is half of the battle, just showing up.
Also, i think these two were made for each other and would have met some where or some other time if it weren't for this one! I mean, they are in the same industry, probably have a number of friends in common and wide social networks, and are in the same town. It just happened to be that night, and that boxing match that brought them together...😜But it's still a good story 🥰
Completely, she did everything!!! 😮
@michaelaskarbova223 but then they talked for 8 hours! Not anyone can do that with anyone.
You were always approachable in your podcasts. Compassionate and kind. Now, since getting married, you exude an expansiveness that invites us in even more and that is lovely! Thank you and thank you, Audrey!!
I was wondering how you met, and thought I had missed the story! So glad you two met- it multiplies the quotient of wonderful people ❤
awww 😍 i love hearing how people meet each other. it's like an episode of ted moseby talking about meeting the mother 😄 lol Matthew i just have to say... i have followed this channel on and off for YEEEARS. and i have always liked your stuff and your advice have been great and all.. but, since you've met Audrey, the change in you, and therefore also your advice and how you go about things, it is felt. you are calmer, answer differently, focus on other things, and it is just lovely to watch... and to grow with this channel. i found you when i was in my early twenties, and now i am 32. so to bear witness to how you have changed, is just awesome to see and i just wanted to tell you that. 🌺
Yes, I agree! I’m 34 and discovered him in 2016 I think. I also like that him ending up with Audrey validates so many things that he always said - that a woman showing up as authentic and kind is more important than so many other superficial things. I feel like I relate to Audrey somewhat. Matthew didn’t end up marrying some flashy celebrity like he dated for a while, he values true connection, and that’s what he preaches.
I agree with your observation how Matthew positively has changed ever since he met Audrey. So beautiful to witness.
Thanks Matthew, six months into a great relationship, I feel I learned a lot from you that helped me get here
Matthew this is my favourite video of yours 💛 love this. Also just for meeting new friends and business partners, amazing
I'm married but have been wanting to make more friends for years and I find that the main reason it's so hard is that everyone is looking down on their phones at any event or in any situation. I see the opportunities to strike up a conversation all the time via things in common, giving a compliment, etc but it's so much more difficult when no one will look up from their phones. I still think being on my phone in public is rude and never developed the habit but I also am low-tech in my personal life. I'll just have to keep looking, keep leaving the house and keep trying! 💛
Thanks for sharing, Matt. I'm interested in hearing more about how said before that you were broken when you met Audrey. I think it would help a lot of us who think that we have to be fully healed, full of joy and on a higher vibration in order to find love again.
Great video! Being near someone and even a simple “Hello” can lead to a great conversation with the right person.
I'm so happy for you, Matthew! You're like my brother that I've never met! Such a cool story. Many blessings.
Yes, meeting people the old-fashioned way is fun.
I am smiling so much, picturing in my mind‘s eyes (yes, I have more than one eye in my mind. What ya going to do about it?😜), beautiful, feminine, gentle Audrey, approaching Mr Hussey. So much courage and confidence all in one.
I’m a fan of Audrey, too! Learning from her. She’s beautiful, feminine, gentle and strong! All in one 🙃
I wonder if she knew who he was! That would change the context😅
I met a guy two years ago on Hinge. My HR Director told me to ask him for coffee the first week we matched. He said yes. It didn't work out for romance, but he is one of my closest friends. We go out to eat. We go to the movies. We text almost every day. I went to Montréal & got him a gift. He gave me candles from a product shoot (he's a photographer). Be brave. Take a leap. It may or may not work out, but at least you tried
Update us in 1 yr, bet you’re married…
@@mamaknow8056, I'll definitely come back here in a year with any update... relationship or not!
@@mamaknow8056, I'll definitely come back in a year and update... relationship or not!
Getting a friend out of it is pretty neat though! I don’t see that as a loss.
, yup, it's not a loss at all. It's a great gain. Who can't use more friends!
Amazing! Happy for you both! Thanks for sharing! Very helpful! 😊
So happy for you and the missus! 🎉🎉🎉 I have to say my dating training wheels are still on but I missed an opportunity to say hi and I regret this so much. I was standing outside a hotel looking at the map on my phone. I had been sick for a couple of days and was still sniffy, not feeling too human. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed an attractive gentlemen locking up his bike. My glance gave me enough info that he was visually my type, and he was smiling at me. In my SHOCK, I gave him a wispy smile and went on my way. I still think about this missed moment. I could have been brave enough to say “hi”, “gorgeous morning”….not expecting much more, but at least to respond to his smile. He deserved that. Such a simple moment that remains with me. Could have, should have, didn’t. I sabotaged myself! learning, trying to be more open.
Girl.... If he was looking at you and he was handsome, there will be others....... I've been married for over 2 decades and I get really nervous without my wedding ring on. I'm naturally introverted so I don't deal well with having to reject people. It seems like it's feast or famine to me. Get out there!!!!!
I have to say I have a number of these moments and I don't know what's wrong with me. It usually occurs to me later on that that person was interested in me.
Beloved, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could’ve very well waved or spoke to you as well and that is the frustrating reality is that the good guys are excessively shy 🙈 which I guess is a good thing. Just keep that moment in your back pocket and next time have a business card on hand to give to the next handsome Prince that comes around 😍
Great advice! Wish I’d seen this many years ago! Enjoyed hearing about how you and your wife met.💐
Great advice!! Love that you are still making these videos. So impactfull ❤️
Done! Grabbed your book! Cant wait!
So happy for you Matthew and congratulations. You deserve the happiness of marriage for everything that you've done for so many people.
“I say Yes to leaving the house” 😂😂😂 Dying!! Seriously though thank you Matthew for always posting lots of content consistently. You don’t stop trying to deliver us knowledge all the time 🙏
Thank you for the validation on this. I’ve been following your stuff for years and have watched the evolution of it as well. And ultimately this reminded me that we BOTH have to be brave and each person being brave enough to take a step forward is huge.
I am so happy for you! You've found the love that you wish we find one day! 💚
As a Gen X-er I refuse to go on any dating app, even though I have been single for many years.
I'd rather be single than torture myself looking for someone digitally in desperation.
Agree 💯 percent!! 👏👏
@@PawcassoStudiozThanx!
Same. That comment about people looking at their phones really resonated. I see this everywhere - while i am *not* looking at my phone! It's so anti-social. I am so glad as a fellow GenXer that i grew up without this tech and learned to develop social skills, including the ability to talk to strangers, make eye contact, help people feel comfortable around me, and all these other things Matthew mentioned.
I am "still" single, but it's by choice. I've never had a problem with meeting people, and i've never been on a dating app! Mostly i use these 'skills' (aka being human) in networking or work situations. It generally makes the world a better place when we are able to connect with each other - romantically or otherwise.
There are a lot of lonely people out there and sometimes you can really be an asset in the world by just making a passing comment in the supermarket, or the bus stop, you know...
This was honestly so insightful and helpful. Thank you, Matthew
Yep, selflessness and being of service to others (in a way that then also helps your own self indirectly as a side effect) is key. Be the inviter and take that initiative, regardless of the outcome. Help others being brave instead of just thinking only about you being brave... great way to approach it. As it takes the unnecessary pressure (and narcissism) off of you. When you're being generous and truthful in your offers in service, people want your attention more and want to play with you, give you opportunities, etc. It expands your life, not just in developing an intimate relationship/marriage.
I've arrived at the conclusion that it's the momentum. A lot of times one of the partners is not in their "right" time and after that "failed" relationship he/her finds the "right" person and commites. THAT'S ALL.
Hi Matthew 😊
I keep missing the atoms
I say yes and go out!
Most people are already with someone!
Still being hopeful 🤞🙏
I’m watching this sitting outside a coffee shop 😂
Time to put phone down !
Even if people are in a couple, you can still talk to them. Not flirt with them, but you can still talk to people. They might know someone.
Love will find you 😊
@@kristalynncreates I am talkative and do talk to most people
You never know they may know someone that’s also looking!
Yeeeaaa it was time😂
All really fantastic advice, Matthew... Bravo!!
👏👏👏
Aww Mathiew you are so sweet and I was so happy to hear that you find this incredible woman. I'm so happy you guys are helping so many others out there.
This is also great advice for forming more friendships and community too, not just dating.❤
Thank you to share your story with Audrey & you😇The animate scene is so cute🥰I never been a fan of dating app... I feel like 007 being on a mission to find Love 🤣 It's been 8 years I am single and I am 30 and I want to find love naturally in a very simple way 😇 And I can't be more excited when the day will come 😃 Take care and can't wait to read your book 😊
Stop waiting!
🙂
I became very reliant on dating apps. I met 2 of my ex’s on them. I felt comfortable on dating apps because I was able to find people who have things in common with me and I felt more confident. But now I want to try something different and meet someone in the real world. I have had opportunities where someone would make the contact with me but that’s as far as it would go 🤣 mainly because I’d feel too nervous to approach them.
Aww! Thank you for sharing. I hope to find someone like that myself someday. ❤
Congratulations Matt!
Love you and Audrey! Thank you for this video 🙏🏼🙏🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Your eyes are so full of love when you look at or talk about your wife❤
I am literally home and in my blankets now. But I've been thinking of a list of new activities and events I can start going to, for this exact reason
Aww, I love this! Great story and good job Audrey giving the green light! You both have some bravery in you🚦❤💍
That’s awesome! That’s how I met my boyfriend! I put myself out there out of my comfort zone! It worked! Amen 🙏 ❤good luck 🍀 everyone
Where did you guys meet?
Tbh it is not so much about fearing rejection it rather is about the fear what people closeby are thinking when you start talking to a person on the bus all of the sudden for instance
I loved these tips. Total gamechangers.
So glad you have someone Matthew. I began to worry about you. Yes I’m a Mom 😮 very happy for you both.
So Audrey did practically the most effort 😅
Looks like it paid off, eh?? 💍😁
Whos audrey
@@theempire00 his wife ☺️
Sounds like my life when I see what I wanted lol 😅
It is so inspiring to listen to the excitement in your voice. ☺️🇨🇦
👍
Love you Broo 🤟🏻 Thanks, God made you a blessing because when ever I'm not thinking rationally I came to you and you fix me, I wish that I have this power to heal someone it's a Superpower ❣️
Great vid! Very insightful and explainable. How misconstrued it can be for us gentlemen to mistake a glance as a flirtation, a green light or not. "Bravery."
Give us credit where credit is due. For "approaching," heck women can do it too! His wife approached him! Not the other way around geez lol
One other thing I think is tremendously important: working on yourself and becoming the person you want to attract. Just showing up and following these steps won't produce the results you want unless you have a pretty clear idea of who you are and who you are trying to become - living by that, and only then will the chemistry be there when following these steps. Otherwise, you may find yourself having lots of conversations, but not a lot of chemistry. It's something I've been working on lately - being clear on my values and what I want to be doing with my life, and then knowing it'll inevitably lead me to collide with another person who is holding the other half of my brain.
Love how you narrated the whole interactions ❤
I think about it as atoms colliding too! 🥰♥️
Thank you for this like always !💖💝
This is the BEST advice ever 💘🙏🏽
Looking forward to this vid. Lol. I hope we learn a bit more about Audry as well. I've wondered what did she do before joining you in your business.
man if I could meet someone like matthew id be the luckiest woman in the world!
Audrey's got game 😂❤
She’s such a queen
....and the ring!
Very simple and very understandable. No games. But at the end, I feel that it happens when it has to. Like you were meant to meet your wife and she was meant to meet you that night, and that was why you said yes to go out and so did she. It all happens when the time is right and when the time is right, one also makes the steps right to meet their partner.
💯 so true
Totally agree. Gods timing
Audrey is very attractive, grounded...would be hard not to be attracted!! All the best to both of you❤
Thank you Matt ❤
What an announcement!!! Congratulations Matthew 🎉🎉🎉
I always believed in love and I know love will find me 🌺💐🌸
I love this story.You both deserve true love.I think your well matched.❤️
Matthew, I'm curious if you met your wife before the quarantine?
Because clearly the world has changed.
The values of people and social media has played a big role in why there is such a declination on the dating scene, let alone monogamy.
I also want to ask you, are you willing to do any videos about we women who are over 50 years old?
That's the market you'll make the most money in guiding us because we're the ones nobody ever talks about.
Nah he always does
Luv the animations 🥰🖤♥️
So true, I’m kinda of shy in the first place one eye contact then I’ll be shy to look back again, maybe I should be more brave 😅
Yes you should!
"I have burnout from being on the apps" 😂
Matthew always throws humour in there
so true... thanks!
How many chances are there to go to party and meet a handsome intelligent and available man like Matthew? The answer is : None. That is like winning the lottery.
Pretty much! But as scripture states: *"With God ALL things are possible!"* We gotta have Hope, right?? 🙏❤️✝️
Join clubs of things you're interested in. Be a joiner. The gym has cute guys there all the time. You're overthinking this. I see guys just as cute all day long while I walk my dog. NOT SINGLE!!!
All you need is one
@@Cocoisagordonsetter You are lucky.
@@marinakio3471 Get outside! Something good will happen.
Thanks for sharing!
You inspired me so much with this video! I’m shy to make eye contact and sometimes think it’s attractive to act like you didn’t like someone bcs I thought it’s gonna make you look easy or desperate so I don’t even smile or look at them! Specially when he is handsome I don’t want him to think that I’m only into his looks or i’m easy like women he might saw who follow him just because he’s handsome … that was a stupid Idea and I think I have to show that I’m actually sweet and approachable!
THANK YOU SO MUCH 🥺🤍🤍🤍🤍
Hey Matthew, I've been following your content for some time now, and you've been an immense inspiration & help.
I've been out of the dating game for well over 2 years now, and just yesterday I've begun talking with a girl. And while asking about her family, she stated that her father died in service.
Now in such situations, I never know how to correctly respond (over chats) to such situations, and always end up with the standard "I'm sorry to hear that"
Is there an alternate or better way by which I can show my compassion or extend my sympathy towards her, without sounding like I'm pitying her? Because this is often misinterpreted by a lot of people as they don't want sympathy in such cases.
I know this is not relevant to this video, but I'd be really thankful if you could help me out here
This is so sweet! 🥰
oh how I love you Matthew.
Thank you!!!!!
I gotta work on this. I’ve always got the “you’re not approachable and intimidating” lolol
women... this man gets it!
I didn't even know you got married Matthew! Congratulations 🎉 I guess I'm late to the game in knowing.😂
When you mentioned in your last livestream that Audrey opened the convo by asking about the boxing match. . . I totally thought you were at a live boxing match 😂
Great advice. I, too, met my husband at a party I was thiiiiiiis close to declining the invitation for. And I was 16 so thank goodness my parents were also out of town because they wouldn't have let me go. 😂
Congratulations Sir‼️ Blessings to you and your wife‼️ 🎉🥳🎉May the good Lord bless your union mightily! You are very sincere & I appreciate you for this. You were born to do this, I can tell!! Keep up the great work and I can't wait to see my adorable babies 🤐🤐🤐....
Wow congratulations, did not realise you were married. So happy for you.🎉🎊🥂🥳🍾
Aaahh I can't belive he's married now!! I haven't been following him for the last 4 years, but before that I was so hooked on MH videos ahahha. 😅
When you look beautiful like Audrey it is easier to confidently approach to someone you like because the probabilitues to ve rejected are low but I've been rejected many times I don't want to feel that again it feels ashamed of myself
I was thinking the same thing
This is eye opening. Ive been frustrated for awhile now with the fact that I only seem to attract those I am not attracted to. Despite being an attractive women, men that I find attractive never approach me. After seeing this video, I realize I tend to do all these things with men Im not attracted to, because im not intimidated by them. Vs the men I am interested in, I act pretty cold and standoffish towards them.
This was very simple and helpful. I want to understand more, particularly about your perspective. What was going through your mind when you saw Audrey? Why didn't you approach her and talk to her? Did you take the initiative for courting her? Did you ask her for her phone number? I'm very happy for both of you. The answers to those questions would help us to understand what might be going through the mind of the man. A real life situation that had a positive result. Thank you for sharing all of this. Many blessings from Florida
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