17 Pieces of Texting Advice That Lead to Commitment
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When you’re texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you’re in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations . . .
Today’s video is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 17 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection.
Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation!
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0:00 - 0:24 - Craving Conversation
0:24 - 1:00 - Adorably Demanding
1:00 - 2:09 - Playing Games About When to Text Back
2:09 - 3:40 - Only Sticking to Text Communication
3:40 - 4:19 - Being One-Note
4:19 - 5:21 - Talking About Everything Except Yourself
5:21 - 9:00 - Being Too Passive
9:00 - 11:48 - Case Study: Creating a Deeper Connection
11:48 - 12:26 - Add a Human Detail
12:26 - 13:19 - Shorten the Timeframe
13:19 - 13:54 - Create a Shared Reference
13:54 - 14:19 - Use a Pattern Break
14:19 - 15:18 - The Intrigue Compliment
15:18 - 16:35 - The Accelerator Text
16:35 - 20:15 - Case Study: Don’t Do All the Work
20:15 - 23:03 - Equal Investment
23:03 - 24:56 - Creating Momentum
Why do we need to play all these strategic games? Why can't we all just be transparent about our feelings & desires and just enjoy each other's company? Dating/relationships have become exhausting 😕
bc men like games. they love sports and video games. play w them or be lonely :)
@abag55 What?! No we don't! I thought women were the ones who liked these!
And fake.
Because guys are generally stupid and only understand game-playing.
Dating is a way to improve ourselves.
"Respond to your reality, not to his reasons." The best advice for those low-investment time-wasting guys. SO GOOD!!
You don't need to be like that!
I'm watching this not because I'm into texting or online dating, I'm here because I'm trying to decipher what a woman was thinking when she texted.
Women don't like investing in men either. I take care of myself so I must be shallow and like to sleep with lots of bimbos right?😂
And for low investment time wasting gals
There are nice guys, like me, who deal with interim the ladies too.
Texting is generally where it fails even when the dates are going well😅.
I’m starting to elevate to phone calls as it’s more intimate and vulnerable it’s better quality of communication. Texting ruins building a real connection
Agreed. Texting is great to start a convo to a call.
@@LanaClarkLC yes for these purposes
Good point and glad it’s working out for you. I will bear it in mind and try and be brave in the future
Exactly. You can’t build a real connection via text in my opinion. I can see using it some of the time but phone calls, voice clips and video chat should be used to bridge the gap in between in person dates.
Calls or even video calls are definitely are better than texting but yes these are fillers and just check-in’s. You should be meeting up for dates/activities in public places not their home.
Because the call/text becomes emotional less boring after a while if ur not spending time together . That’s a common failure in the connection not progressing.
The conversation with the woman trying to set up a date and the guy replying days later with an old man emoji has lived rent free in my head for years.
Years??
@@vipmonicake I just checked, and that video originally came out six years ago.
Okay, so saying it lives rent free in my head might be overkill, but I have definitely thought of it from time to time. She was so straightforward in her interest, I hope she found someone who was willing to act the same way towards her.
Yes👏It made SUCH an impression on me that the gpa emoji always reminds me of that.
Sick of these games. Dating in 2024 is awful.
It's OK to stop playing, I think.. but may take a lot of understanding both sides and finding a person with similar values.
If he is not genuine it won’t matter how good you are at texting or anything else
Also valid for her
@@esteban489 The difference though is that generally Men get punished for being genuine or showing vulnerability. Women don't and are in fact ENCOURAGED to become adept at such things.
@@danzilthard.7248 you are out of touch, men use that agasint women to get sex out of them
@@danzilthard.7248exactly!
@@danzilthard.7248Dan is correct. Trying to open up will undoubtedly lead to a woman leaving because now, he's unstable with his feelings.. Then, that happens over and over and over.. so instead of getting practice to become better, we are rejected. That's how I've been trained and I wanted to believe 2 people could help make life better for each other. I still want to believe it but the reality is currently saying otherwise. I will only be of value when I am healed, have enough emotional strength to internalize everything, and can provide financially. As a man, wanting to be kind, nice, helpful, compassionate, etc doesn't get a guy anywhere with men or women. Men have incentive to be jerks, it's fucked up.
When a woman gets emotional or is struggling, 5 dudes wanna save her. A girl I was dating needed to move a travel trailer that was stuck in the mud. 3 other guys and I were there to help this woman who "doesn't need a man".. Who finally got her out? A man whom provided for his wife who had a jeep with a winch.. there are exceptions, no doubt but more often than not..
I'd pay to see 3-5 women rush in to help a guy out with something just to repair myself 😂
The funniest thing about my situation is that when I started seeing the guy I am now seeing, he was actually the one that said I hate texting, it's so impersonal. Can we talk? And I was the one like ugh I hate talking on the phone. But now we talk on the phone constantly and I've grown to love talking to him instead of texting😂
Single life is so peacefull. Never give up on freedom and being independent.❤
I agree
Same, im not against a relationship but im also not looking for one and im not gonna play all these stupid games. Ive been alone my whole life im used to it
Aye! Aye!
Okay, but how do you get laid?
I am ready to communicate authentically. I am ready to go all in. I am willing to risk getting my heart broken in order to feel that much love again.
Watch his/her pattern. Energy does not lie. Most importantly be content by yourself because the people that belongs in your life will stay.
The last sentence is plain silly. If a woman puts up barriers, and makes it difficult for no reason, he will disappear whether he belongs in your life or not. Bad advice.
@@marks2997 You misunderstood what she was saying.
That’s a lot of work. Texting has messed up relationships. It was so much easier in 1998.
we have too many options now!
AMEN!!!!!!!!!! I remember when people would just call and say hey let's hang out. then they'd just see you. damn cell phones have made things such a mess.
It was easy in 2013 and precovid
Meanwhile in 1998: Letters are messing dating.
E-mail and phone calls. Service members could still stay unnoticed via email and phone calls. Oh and today EVERYBODY is famous online, not for any talent, just for selfies. Crazy world we live in.
Thank you, I really needed this, I was stuck in a texting phase where it started to look like we were calculating who's turn is it to text back, truth is in the beginning I was playing hard to get, but when I started to open up he started to text like a granpa so It's getting boring and I gave him a lot of chances to ask me out (note i was the first one to ask him out), I sincerely am too old to play games, so i might as well move on to the next person!
You act like you are a prize. Why this entitled mindset of 'giving a man chances'? Where does this stem from? How about stop acting so delusional and just ask someone out from the start if you are into him instead of 'waiting' for some nonsense reason you've been thought. You are not special.
On the same boat
what does texting like a grandpa mean?😂
U asked him out and he didn't say yes?
Lesson learned! Next time don't player hard to get. (Instead be mindful and observant of redflags as the defence, not being straight up confusing)
I used to watch your videos from the comfort of no love interest, no texting or flirting going on. Currently I‘m dating someone and now this is so much more relevant but also kind of annoying because I‘m actually being confronted with everything that I‘m not doing yet or that I could improove😭very helpful thoo, glad I discovered you when I was like 16😂😂😂
I honestly am so happy I found this channel. Just wish more women knew about it. This content is exactly what I want out of my partners but many people don’t know how to communicate properly. I even take some of this advice for my own sake. Thank you Matthew
I like to let her talk about herself 70 - 80% of the time, and let her ask about me so she feels listened to. Which is an element that is generally missing from later stages of relationships.
The one I recently started talking to has proper blown me away with how much she wants to know about me to the point where it's naturally almost 50-50.
This is why Matthew is the best! His advice worked to ignite my floundering relationship. It's been 15 months and it has continued to get better, more meaningful as time passed. And, I had made some big mistakes that I needed to rectify. It's working out beautifully.
Gotta appreciate the creative part of this video. It’s very well done! Thank you a lot for all the effort, you’re amazing!❤
When the dating world needed him the most he appeared
😆❤
When the student is ready
Yea I just started talking to someone like a actual respectable man & wow the dynamic of how he is , it’s so great I’m really enjoying my text , phone convos before bed haha I was in a toxic relationship so I feel I didn’t know this even existed 😅 a real man with morals and respect , he definitely is chasing n doesn’t care he is , he’s someone that goes for what he wants n he knows what he wants . It’s great
Ommmgggg. I just applied one of his texting tips and it worked 🙃 Me and this guy’s conversation has been dry until now. 🙌🏾
Apply these tips when you’re interacting with friends and family first, so that it becomes YOUR way of communication. Then it will come natural to interact like that with a special one.
I've recently gotten back on a dating app, after a couple years off. This video came at the perfect time because sometimes I have no idea how to respond in a way that gets their attention. This is VERY helpful
You Matthew are a true blessing for the society. We need more people like you. So simple and natural, but effective and useful advices and tactics. Spreading positivity truly. Great 👍😊
The editing is superb wow! You’ve really up your game these days. I’ve been married but somehow this got suggested to me. I have bought your previous program about texting. It works and it was more fun for myself too. When you’re taking texting lightly and allow yourself for honesty, flirting and being a bit more assertive, it get things going and you can filter the men to the most potential.
If someone said im craving our conversation I would honestly feel like they pulled that out of a dating book or had AI write it. It doesnt sound like a human being talking..
Matthew is literally a genius - I'm so glad I found this channel :)
HEY MATTHEW!!! I have been following you since like 2012 somewhere, I never met a single man with the STANDARD U SET FOR ME!!!! I THINK I'M GONNA DIE ALONE LOL 🤣🤣🤣 honestly, I never stopped following u it gives me a single satisfaction that i am at least not in a abusive relationship and never settling low!!!!
i am so fed up with trying
Please send him texts that go with your personality. He is dating you, not a dating coach.
You can't build an entire relationship through texts, it's a bridge of communication/stay in touch with your love one and depending the type of situation texts work. Is important to identify if is long distance relationship or your traveling and can't see them, communication via texts is fine. In all situations real interest you make the time for it, including phone calls, videocalls or even see them in person.
Also is very important to know the other person in how they communicate and express themselves.
Thank you so much. I really needed this a lot. I'm really into this guy who lives on the opposite side of the world. Texting is all we are doing.
Oki,I'm turning 22 this 19th of November..& I just confessed my feelings to my long term crush who got out of a very toxic relationship at the beginning of this year.
Told him to take his time and not communicate with me until he has a decision about me in his mind. Also told him
'i know what you are capable of and you wont waste my time'
After taking a few days,
He reached me today.
I hope this video will help me.
I love all your videos.💚💚💚
Omg I’m so happy for you dear , happy birthday in a advance 🤭🎉❤
@@user-fv1ek9mg5q heyy thank you so much dear😊
good luck and happy early birthday! ❤
@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool thank you dear✨💚
Well ---- what happened???
Love and appreciate your commitment to your content and videos, Matthew!
This sounds like so much when I don’t have any energy left for dating 🙂
Then stop
This is a good dating advice site at least 50% because Matthew is so adorable and on point that I forget about the guy I was texting ☺
So many good points, and these can be applied to any kind of relationship.
I agree. In and out of text conversations 👌
Hi Matthew,
Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge about texting. You are a truly great coach.
Thank you for doing such a wonderful job to help women who need the help！
This is an amazing class, thank you teacher Matthew I learned a lot with you and this video!
Really good advice and I’m happy to learn that it’s aligned with what I started doing when I got back into dating recently.
Paying attention to the investment the other person is making and being ready to let go when it’s not working is such a power. And also gives us the time that we can spend on the ones where the investment is mutual😌
Brilliant advice, thankyou so much x
This was great!! Thank you so much!!
sadly I think I going to be single again after like a century. this is the best ,it brings you up to speed on now days dating. No dating for a while maybe never but I do enjoy watching your advise all the time thank you.
What an incredible content. Love it ! Thank you 👏 ❤
This video is a masterful combination of all of your fun longtime inside gags... We've got monkey and the lip synchronization. The Twilight phone... Love it!
I love that I found this channel. ❤ Wish I found this earlier but what happened happened. 😊
I tried the send a flirty voice message to mix up just sending text (in my sexy sultry voice 💅🏽) and it worked. He liked hearing me and replied back sooner and we've been both sending texts all day 😜🎉
this is such a great video, so informative and helpful!
I LOVE your humor!!!
I'm glad you're here doing this, Matthew. I can avoid everybody who follows your advice.
As always Matthew knows what’s up when it comes to texting.
This was informative and good.
As a dominant woman that usually does the chasing, the advice on not compensating over the lack of interest and laziness of the other person is really good. It's incredible how the things switch when you start tuning into their same level of energy.
Very useful to avoid man-childs and people looking for a mom instead of an equal partner.
Great content! Thank you so much, Matthew!
Good clip, one of your better clips lately
haha i love your content man .. i really get information from you getting a quality life .. specially when it comes to social tools and messaging ..
This is honestly super valuable for someone who doesn't know how to text
I have really enjoyed this. It's informative and educative
This was really good Mathew. I'm an older man and do text but have been out of the dating world for a few years now. Trying to fix me from a cheating wife before dating. Text is used as an ice breaker and a little teasing but your right it has to lead to a goal if you want it to. I'm an outgoing person and don't have trouble talking to women really but I am rusty on my game of funny banter and teasing with flirting. This gave me some ideas so thank!! I do best face to face but text is a good way to find out if she is even interested and if so I'm going for it even if it's just a coffee.
The Twilight Phone is such a classic now 😂
🤣
Hahaha absolutely loved the Twilight Phone segment. Had me cracking up throughout 😂
Love the message exchange at the end! So funny ;) thanks for sharing this!
I remember the days when it was either a phone call on the landline or from the stinky phone box outside the pub or a postcard! People wrote to each other using pen and paper. I still have all my love letters and they are treasured. 😂
I truly appreciate ur advice, thank you.
dude this is gold content
I had no idea how helpful this would be
Amazing advice❤ thank you matt
Amazing advice...you are the best
This was such a funny and informative video to watch with the examples but also with Monkey and the Twilight Phone 😂😂
My best coach for the previous 7 years
Have you watched this guy and stayed single for 7 years?
Great texting tips! Thank you!
An ad for St. Jude's hospital came up with this video. It's the first time I see them mention HTRT. It's heart breaking to want to know how a child with that is doing yet needing to keep your distance from a family friend that no longer communicates with you. The father is the best friend of an ex who at times was abusive. A 12 year relationship that was never right, never whole. Now I'm repeating similar mistakes with a new 1 year relationship that feels even more empty, even though the first 3 months were on fire. Never felt more passionate, then after those 3 months it all came crashing down when I did. I fell at his place and slammed my head against the wall. (Fell when getting up, my leg was numb and gave out) He didn't react well (he thought I was in denial from a possible MS diagnosis) and never took me to the hospital. Yet I still stayed for a year after that. In every instance the night ends with him spooning his dog. Even the night I fell. It actually gets worse after that.
granpa emoji suspense is my absolute fav !
Crazy thing is i usually do text like this. Im very emotionally involved to show vulnerability, but my reason is to see if they are receptive. My trouble is, finding guys im interested in to be receptive. I delete more than anyone worth investing time in.
This is really good!
Great tips. I hate the texting rut.
I do many of these things naturally, I am just naturally interesting
HAHAHHA omg the scenes with the person shooting from the bush crack me up so bad 😂😂😂
Great advice! ❤
just be yourself, think, feel and don’t depend on anyone.
great advice ❤
I love Monkey!!! He gives awesome advice!
This should be taught in middle school. Thank you!
Thank you so much!
I was talking to this guy on the dating sight for a couple of weeks. Today we finally met. But we didn’t really talked about ourselves instead all about his friend, his job etc. After he took me home and told me he’s gonna take me to a hockey games next time . and I got a message from him saying ,He enjoyed meeting with me. Lol
So great, so great, thank you! :)
Good tips thanks for sharing
Thank you very much!
I met a what I thought was a great guy on Tinder who was really into me. Like telling me he thinks about me all the time. Then I created a fake profile on Tinder and he starts talking to the fake profile. Why? Why did he pretend to be very into me (constant compliments, photos letting me know about his day, saying he is getting distracted thinking about me) then talk to other women and organise to meet up. Matthew, please make a video about this!!!!
You don't know this bloke ... it's not against the law to be chatting to more than one person in fact its a great idea while you're getting to know people so you don't invest in someone you don't even know... why would you be testing someone you don't know ? Or even do know ?
Keeping his options open or
not ready to settle down.
It's calling Trying to be a Player...
Bad sign that you are doing a fake profile. That is a bad start. The first secret from him…or you will tell him that you are spying on him? He will run away…I would do the same.
Pretty helpful!!🎉
Wow
I enjoyed this
Very helpful thanx
Really impressed with the nerf head shots and his lack of wincing lmaooo
Why do I always fall for guys who are not responding to me Matthew? I'm in a same situation as you described - texting back and forth, not inviting me out, he knows I like him, he said he likes me, messages are fun but that's it. We are in our 40s!! I give him hints I'd like to have a man like him (in case he is shy) when he reveals something nice about his personality. But when I do it, he doesn't reply for week even tho I see him online....
I go on other dates too, don't wait for him but - how to date when around 40? It's sooo hard.
So why aren't you straight forward confronting him, in a polite, respectful but curious way (cause ya Wanne know/NEED more clarity goddang!)
With this situation that's been going on for some time, I guess 🙄
You know how I feel about you. I've literally said it even! I am interested in you in a romantic, serious way.
Are you interested in me that way?
Cause I need more clarity from you.
And see what he responds 🤷
It's as simple as that, brave, beautiful, strong woman that you are, that should be no effort 😏😉
Don't stay afraid of the answer...
To avoid discussing important issues with someone.
It IS something that NEEDS to be done, otherwise it wouldn't bother you 😕...
You deserve to know so ya can finally let go of that hovering fear that's always there! Keeping your mouth shut 😔
Even if your worst fear, rejection by him, comes true....
How unfortunately and disappointing it wil be ...
You no longer live in fear! 🤗
Truth comes out, one way or another, sooner or later,
Why prolonge your path of agony for peed sake?!
Don't punish yourself that EXTRA , when you're already having it emotionally very hard...
Stop te confusion
And put an immediate hold 🛑 on letting your insecurity be fed, my love.
❤❤❤
You ARE brave
You WILL get through this
Emotions pass... 😇
Not one stays long and always.
You are worth it!
Remember that ❤
How olds he?
Thank you for this jift
Because Matthew gets it, I bet Audrey didn't have to do this much work.😩 A lot of these men simply don't. You as a woman will put all this work (and yes, this is WORK) into trying to concoct "excitement" with your text messages only for him to still ghost and move on to the next. Then, he returns 2 weeks to a month later asking, "how've you been?"... What a joke!🙄🙄
I have been talking to someone for 2 months or so. Now talk on the phone every night, trying to balance texts and calls and it's not always easy.
Sometimes she will not respond all day at all, she sees them. We talk on the phone every night, maybe she likes to be more direct.
Cant let your thoughts get hold of you overthink it.
We wanna meet, we feel a connection and communication is good so far. We also know each others intentions and are exclusive. When I text her, I will send pics i take or things im doing. I try to mix it up, but now we talk on the phone lots may not need to text as much.
I am sure many in the comments been though this. Now the next step is meeting face to face, someone I was talking to never met so im a little anxious the same may happen here.
I definitely text a lot and we were texting for about 2 weeks and I sent him a text like finalize our date or we'll end up meeting in 02/2026.
He picked me up and we had our first date together.
Unfortunately with #1 I do have to delay message back sometimes because I am in the unique situation where I always have immediate access to my phone. I work for myself. If I text back immediately every single time, especially if I am just starting to get to know someone, I'll look desperate or eager. I vary texting back either immediately or wait as long as 3 or 4 hours. I also try to keep the momentum going if I respond immediately and he answers back right away too. I'll continue to answer back and forth right away to keep up the live conversation.
Totally cracked me up dude 🤣, I'm that guy cooking the soup.
I wish texting wasnt a thing. I miss actually talking. Before smart phones. Now we have to try to guess what they meant by their texts and what tone they are speaking in. All made dating harder.
I agree, for me woman I have interest in speak on the phone and like everyday. Texting is not the best way, like you send a text hours go by and you wonder why aren't they responding or whatever. But maybe she prefers me on the phone, for me a message here or there helps me a bit.
Thanks for the video!❤❤
Though it's late lol