When You Feel Alone After Heartbreak (3 Secrets To Moving On)... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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When you get your heartbroken, who do you turn to for advice?
Family? Friends? Trawling around Reddit forums to see what other fellow sufferers have to say about your pain?
All of this may help. Maybe.
It struck me recently how we’re never really taught how to move on from the agony of losing someone we love. And if we’re not careful, following the behavior of the people around us can make us feel even worse.
So… let’s pause. Take a breath. Get our s**t together again.
It’s nearly 2019. Maybe you’re missing someone right now as the holidays roll around.
But now is not the time to mourn. Now is the time to truly begin your healing and put yourself back together before next year begins.
Here’s what you need to know to finally move on…
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I remember the joke: "there's plenty of fish in the sea but our eyes are only on that one particular emotionally distant salmon with commitment issue" 🥺😂😭
Awww this is real cute!
😂😭 there's truth to that
So true yet difficult to understand
@@nibeditaful Let him go girl... you deserve better 💕
@@nibeditaful U deserve better,I can feel Ur pain, but it's not worthy...Let him go
“You start demanding more and that shows how little they were willing to give” wow that hit home.
Yes. In my case it was giving him more attention and company that came from a place of kindness and love. He said "you're giving too much". It was natural for me but it's clear to me that he wasn't willing to give it back. It has been hard to accept that.
Same here...it just hit me too..I can look back and see what happened
Same. I'm going through a break up and his reason is that he doesn't love me anymore and just doesn't want to be in a relationship..
I think his feeling of not wanting to be in a relationship started when I began to ask for more and he knew how little he could ever give me
@@ranahendy6398 true...this happens
@@kedarchitrakathi2669 but it's even harder to move on cause nothing was going wrong there was no signs or anything we were good and just suddenly now I have to deal with all the leftover feelings and accepting the fact that everything we planned or lived is over
“Letting go of the dreams we had together that will never see the light of day”
shit got me crying
chelsey sellona maybe just me had the dreams .. and now i lost every faith in my dreams in evertyhing. Heartbreaks sucks. Hope is gone.
It hurts so bad, your plans and future gone just like that.
True. Every word.
"The relationship needed to go wrong for you to fulfill your full potential" This got me breaking down but at the same time feeling strong
Fml same 🎯
'You don't always know the real reason why they broke up with you, they give you the most convenient reason, they don't give you the full picture' ❤
Agree with u :)
This hit me so much because now I could connect the dots on how it was convenient for him to break up and catch me off guard
I spent the last two weeks pouring over Ted-Talks, break-up forums, podcasts, and talking to therapists. And this very specific line was the first time I ever even considered that the answer given was just a convenient truth and not the full picture. Mind blowing.
99% of the advice out there says 'don't look for the answer, because you won't get it.' But no one has ever said that the answer they did give you isn't the whole picture. I've found myself hung up on those few little reasons as if they were 100% the issue. But it's not. I'm glad I found this video.
There's only one reason. They don't love you anymore. But that's there problem not yours. Doesn't mean your not Special. Move on!!
I know why my beautiful little lady broke up with me, we tried to keep our relationship going throughout the coronavirus pandemic then on top her elderly parent became poorly, but now the pandemic is now easing and her dad is becoming well again, we’ve been talking for 3 weeks and all is going great
What hurts more is when they don’t care and just don’t want you anymore..
True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost. Do you need your ex back if yes I know a powerful man that can help you get your ex back he helped me too immediately without stress and delay
Link up or Chat him on WhatApp
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If you still love you ex and want to keep him or her, I can show you the part to restore your relationship
+1 (505) 378-0160 📨📨
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My girl was so heartless about it. That’s what got me. I’m a man so my feelings don’t matter bc i’m not even suppose to show my weaknesses in her eyes and that made me soft I guess.
We broke up last night, the pain is unbearable.
We broke up last week. We will get through it
I know the feels... met my partner online and she came to America to visit. Best month of my life. She asked me to go to Europe with her for 2 weeks and I did. She dumped me the first day there. That was the hardest 12 hour flight back alone. I’m still heart broken 2 months later and have not contacted her in a week. It’s hard, but we have to let go of the what if’s and just enjoy it happened. Better to have loved and lost then not to have
Aicha Ajana are you ok now?
Aicha Ajana it’s been almost 3 months and I still miss him so much :(
Do you need help to get your Ex back????
Hey. If you are going through heartbreak, I want you to know you are not alone. And I also want you to know, as you take time alone to heal, you will become stronger, and many more great things are in store for you in your life. Namaste.
So true!! I hear you
I really hope I'll get through this
True. Thank you needed to hear this
Thank u
Namaste
He said there's 7 billion people in the world, and I'm still in love with a guy who's already moved on 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Edit (14.04.2020): 😭 I just read all your comments. I hope you all are in better places now. I'm doing so much better than I was a year ago. ❤ for those who haven't healed yet, hang in there, you will be okay 🥺 sending you so much love❤❤
Sumii same ..
Same
Same
Same😰😭🤭💔
I think the problem is we cant meet people easily if I could meet another girls easy I woulnt cry for days after she left me. No options means depression
I've been crying every night for almost 3 weeks and I need something to make me feel better, thank you dude 😭😭😭💓
Currently crying
@@reneeleighkaraoke so am I, number 2 made me cry so bad )));
Perfect timing 😌❤💙
Oh... same. Live in Hungary, where is 3 am, couldn't sleep because of my feelings for someone aaaand tadaaam... I' ve seen this video, and I am crying already... 😥
karinda karinda I wish I could be your momma, your a good person.. god loves you Don’t waste your life, be happy with the attributes god gave you. ❤️❤️❤️I’m smiling for u. You will have a great life darling ❤️❤️
I asked for more in my relationship (spending more time together) and it was too much for him to give 😢 he then decided that he couldn’t fulfill what I was asking for and broke up with me. I’m heartbroken about that because I don’t believe that I was asking for too much. In my head I’ve played over and over again how I could have been more accommodating but I felt I was the only one bending in the relationship . This video made me realize that as much as it hurts to not have him in my life, that I’m better off without him. If he wasn’t willing to give me something as simple as more time then I would be in for a lot more heartbreak and misery staying in the situation. Time heals all wounds and in time I know I will be fine and with someone whose time I won’t need to beg for. Keep your head up everyone. There’s true love out there for all of us if we want it ❤️
I feel you :'(
thank you
Exactly the same thing happend to me 1 month ago ....hope ur doing much btr tho ...i am still tryin to cope with it being that he is still talking to me
Exactly the same thing happened to me. I was the only one making accommodations, he wouldn’t make a single decision based on me. After months of feeling awful I asked him to please just spend some more time with me because I felt insecure and unloved and used. I was made to feel guilty and wrong for asking it, I was torn between regretting it because of the tension and clear resentment he had of me asking, and the feeling that I was justified and was allowed to ask my partner to actually act like my partner. It’s so hard when I’m by myself, but I know with help it will eventually be okay.
Do you need help????
Forgiving ourselves is a hard lesson to learn. We can do it. Some of us permitted and tolerated things way too long. Forgive yourself. Do self care. Make small steps forward.
Lisa Sunshine,you are absolutely beautiful 🌺🌷🥀
Bless you.
Everyone just needs a Matthew Hussey in their life ❤️
Jo Jo ii always wonder if he is single,
If he only knows how to give advice and not be that advice etc.........😫❤️
Jo Jo couldn’t agree more than this 😭😭😭😭
Agreeeeed!
@@nekaneeks haha He is in a relastionship w Camila Cabello :(
YES!!!
Hmmmm....it's been 10 weeks since my ex broke up with me. It hurt soo much at first....but now i realize & am finding out that i wasn't meant to be with him. I am good & okay with it. Better to know this now....than later down the road when more time, energy & headache was invested into something that was never going to go anywhere. All i can say to anyone who watched this...is...
It gets better each & every day...slowly but surely!! Be strong & true to yourself!!
Charlene Bernard Your comment means a lot to me - I’ve literally just broken up with a guy and even though I know he’s not right for me I still do the dumb thinking about the good times. What helps is that slowly but surely I will get through this and over it. Thank you xxx
Yasmin Webb if you need someone to talk to don’t hesitate to message me 😊
Sophie xxx Thank you so much that is so kind xxx
Sophie xxx I really need someone to talk to , broken hearts are hurtful
Daniel Kwaku no worries, here if you need to talk, or let me know a way I can get in contact with you :)
If people could just be honest with each other we wouldn't need the unnecessary drama in our lives you know who you want and who you don't now just be honest and go in that direction find the target and aim for it
I can say for certain, honesty, even when paired with expertise in relationship psychology, isn't always enough. It also takes both individuals loving themselves enough to try.
You speak the truth and not carry deceitful plans nor greed for EXTORTION...
Yes and don't forget there's a need for novelty in loving someonr and being courted.
moonucky hellen my girlfriend broke up with me because i wasn’t honest with her about my past i know i fucked up and i broke her trust, i blame myself everyday because i fell in love with her and i don’t think i’ll be able to move on from her💔😔
You're right. She broke up cuz she couldn't be honest with me like I was. Painfull now three weeks. I'm struggling in ordrer to move on. Courage
I slept 3-5 days straight didn’t even go outside my house i let my heart felt all the pain it’s my closure since he never given me the closure . Then I told myself to be STRONG because there are still many people in this world who love me unconditionally (my family and my friends ) .
I started practicing “Self Love”
eat healthy, exercise running outside being in nature , do Yoga and watching funny movies that makes me smile and listening to my favorite songs . I can finally over him , Matthews is right we have not lost the love of our life since that person decided not to be with us . Note : it is Ok if we still cry sometimes do not deny our feelings let it feel it then keep moving forward.❤️
@Desy Yo. If you still love you ex and want to keep him or her, I can show you the part to restore your relationship
+1 (505) 378-0160 📨📨
Inbox me on WhatsApp now
How long did it take you?
@@nar1708 6-8 month
@@desyyo987 thank you for your comment, it gave me hope. Good luck xx
You are a blessing
this comment section is helping just as much as the video , everyone is so supportive ♥️
1.) Dont assume that the relationship would have been perfect - if you would only have done things differently
2.) What if that relationship needed to go wrong for you to fulfill your full potential?
3.) There isn’t one person who is solely capable of fulfilling the role of ”The One"
Lina Karlsson,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are with a good man!!
It’s really hard when you go through a breakup and realistically, it takes time to move on. Do remember to think positive and that everything happens for a reason. Better days are coming.
A True Love Official I literally see you in every break up vids 😂
Are you single?
Its amazing how you get thru it, years later you will laugh about it. Now I write love songs. Glad something good came out of it. CZcams channel Enrique Martinez.
As a man at the age of 46, sadly this is not my first heartbreak. I’m at the beginning of this process. The pain is excruciating, let me assure every woman who reads this, men are not immune to the pain of heartbreak and the feeling of hopelessness and self loathing that comes with it.
I get it and I’m sorry for those PEOPLE that have to navigate through this. It’s foggy and dark and ultimately you do it alone. (Hopefully with the help of friends and family)
As hard as it is, fight on, it will subside in time and in the meantime be kind to yourself. Much love
I wish I could look as if I'm handling it as well as a guy would though, I feel like a zombie & my ex looks like nothing happened.
Miranda 0022 gender has nothing to do with it. The way it effects you is based on who you are inside and how much you loved and believed in your partner. I’m sorry you feel the way you do. It’s awful and feels like it will go on forever. However it won’t, you will heal. Tomorrow is a new day and who knows what awaits you. Hugs to you miss!
@@NoBody-ht1oh Are you better now?
Felipe Capela not really mate
@@NoBody-ht1oh I'm so sorry. The same thing happened to me. It's been two months too.
In my case, a non-reciprocal relationship.
But we'll get out of this!
it's been 7 weeks since my ex dumped me and I can't stop crying. When I think I'm finally getting over it, well it's getting worse. I'll keep watching your videos, thank you Matthew
Im still crying a year later!!
@@happythoughts505 be strong :( I think I'll still be crying in a year too..
I hope you arent still crying in a year Marina, i wish you much love & happiness, try to be strong, everybody tells you that i know & you think you will never get over him & you may not, but the pain will slowly subside bit by bit, everybody is different & so is their recovery, i hope you move past it sooner than me.
Hugs to you 😚😚
@@happythoughts505 ohh thank you so much, you're so cute😍I hope I'll be fine soon and i hope you're fine too xx
@@marinagarin631 how are you now ?
I can let go of him easily but the hard thing for me is the memories 😩😭
MIN JEON and then when you go to your camera roll and look at all the great times you captured on camera
I just hid all the pics of both of us, deleted social media, and boxed everything that reminded me of him. The memories are just too painful. I know time will heal everything, but for now I don't want anything to remind me of him. My brain does an enough awful job at bringing all the memories all the time. I don't need anything else to feel even worse.
Don't live your life in a memory. 🙅
I always blame myself after the break up its so hard to accept the fact that the person you Love suddenly left you all alone..but I have no choice is to endure the pain.thanks for this uplifting message and advice for a heartbroken like me..more power to your channel..
Honestly, going through a breakup is like losing a loved one who passes. I cant control losing someone to death. But I can prevent going through heartbreak by not getting into these temporary relationships. I dont have time, and neither does my family or friends to watch me go through breakup after breakup. I'm tired of it. I really thought this was the one. I've lost all trust in relationships.
I am single ❤❤
I’m single with baggage ... two kids
Missy D ..... I am really sorry to hear that. I couldn’t imagine going through that. I did finally meet someone not long after I wrote the original message. I wasnt looking , it just happened. We are a family and we have had our ups and downs. But we both want to spend our lives together. We are expecting a son in December. It gets better. With faith it really does.
@@sarahjdw3285
Thank you so much for your time..........that alone was a gift. God bless you, my friend!
@@sarahjdw3285 you deserve better ❤️🙏🤙
Currently crying. I know I'll not ever be in another relationship again. I'm too damaged to be close to anyone again.
Renee Leigh right now it might seemed hard but just wait until time pass. No matter how painful it is no matter how hard it is just keep moving on with life, meet new people, experience new things, and at one point, when u realise how precious yourself are and how beautiful this world is, you will be free and be on a whole new level. And this is something that you must go through in order to be a better person, for yourself, and for ur future partner. Just don’t give up and have hope, make good friends and give yourself power from all kind of sources! Xx
Renee Leigh sometimes it takes long and might seemed impossible, but YOU WILL BE OK.
Same
Don't lose hope, just give yourself some time and care!
Please don’t think that. Hugs!!!
I was heartbroken. Then I got heartbroken again. My heart couldn't carry both of them. I feel like I can finally breathe again. I feel free.
I like that
❤️
August Maybe twice I could handle. Time after time I ca I. Done. Burnt out.
Stay strong ,,,
The same here. I'm just tired with the last one tha I had no option but to bet her not to leave me
Can’t stop crying, I miss him 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Don't be
I'm going through the toughest break-up of my life right now and your videos have really helped me, but nothing helps getting over the pain which is the worst part. They say time heals all wounds, but time seems to go slower now.
I know exactly how you feel. Time seems to go by so slowly, which sucks cause everyone keeps telling me to just give it time. It's only been 5 days and it feels like forever.
I'm going through it right now too. It's been two weeks since the break up and I can't get over her, I'm hurting way bad and missing her like crazy.
How are you doing now, 4 months later?
I feel exactly how you feel ,,, be strong ,,,....
Hi steven how are u feeling now about it all?
He's not even worth missing. He was horrible. He cheated, he left me to be with other people while I was pregnant, he still disrespects me. I have no regrets leaving or staying away from him. I'm past the sad lonely phase, now I'm angry. I'm angry and bitter. And I don't know how to stop. It's ruining it for new relationships.
It's okay to be angry, chances are likely you'll get over this as well. Once you've done that, I think you truly moved on :)
I know it's not easy, but kust keep saying the bastards aten't worth a loosing genuine relationship while they go on like they nothing wrong!
Don't get upset...it happens...he doesn't worth u...so don't think about that person...god will punish him. Okk...be happy always.
Thank you all for replying with positivity and Alida I will look into that. I'm so sorry that happened to you 😔😢
Hey Matt, one of your male viewers here. This video couldn't have come at a more perfect time in my life. There was this girl that I liked way too much and I was initially devastated when she found someone else. But I have really been reflecting through the pain and found some amazing insights. One, I had found patterns in the type of girls who are able to completely hold my heart hostage (some helpful things to look for in others vs. some maladaptive traits that steal my happiness that I would need to be cognizant of and avoid for future relationships). And two, I realized that I was chasing this relationship for the wrong reason: because I was lonely and didn't have a great social support network (I recently moved to a new city and didn't really know anyone). I'm slowly trying to pick up the pieces and do what I need to do to connect with others in a genuine way. Although I'm still hurting right now, I feel like I'll be a better, more secure version of myself when I get through this. Cheers for the wonderful insights, and hope everyone has a fantastic holiday season!
Have a great holiday, good to hear a genuine comment from a man here ☺️
@@hexadecimal5236 omg stay off this channel because I think people are here to actually learn not only about themselves and how to be better but also how to be better in relationships. Having a few girls on the go and treating any HUMAN BEING the way you do, isn't cool. If any woman has a tantrum and you feel the need to say "byeee" as you say, maybe You should be more introspective that you're getting with girls who are dramatic. At least the OP was introspective and looked at how and why he felt what he did.
@Johnny Krasinkiewicz - I agree with Rose at one thing, don't make a woman the sole focus of your life. You should not care about a girl this much. Stay alone and just go for sex friends if you're lonely; chase money and power, women are not important.
thanks for the insights that you shared, they gave me food for thought.
Guys??? Anyone intresting to join a group?? I mean, group for people like us. In this kind of situation😂😂😂 maybe this is sounds silly but i think only people who has been through this kind of situation that really understand other who struggle the same thing. What you guys think??
I’ve watched at least two hundred of these type videos since my wife of fifteen years and four kids together blindsided me by saying she wants a divorce and this video has been so far the greatest one that has genuinely made me feel better and able to accept that it wasn’t all my fault like she said and I can stop beating myself up so bad. Thank you so much Matthew!
Yeah breakups suck especially when it’s a been a long relationship. Those good memories come back, pictures come back. Overthinking is the worst of them all. You just…I mean I have to just let it go.
You no idea Matthew how much of a difference your advices make in my life. You are amazing. Love you X
Idk how many times I've seen this video. Since day 1 after breaking up with that guy. It's been a month and still watching coz I'm still hurting. I was the one who broke up with him but it's the hardest thing and most painful for me because I still really like him and we had so much connection and chemistry but it didn't feel right anymore. He was investing less. I was getting bored. It's true, having chemistry is not enough. I miss him still but it's getting better. And I have to thank @matthewhussey for all his videos. Helps a lot. They are my therapy. And when I feel lo ely and feel the urge of texting him, I watch this videos instead. It helps. I hope someone that's crying now find this helpful. It's killing u now emotionally and mentally, even draining u physically. U go through the worse before it gets better, but it will. Goodluck.
We broke up 1 year ago, and still, here I am crying my eyes out because I just feel like I am home when I am around her...
He mentioned everything I'm going through . . . and the solutions
What a motivational guy
I been a widow for 6 years and holiday time it's painful, I would like to think some day it would be easier. ❤
Livia A stay strong x
I love u really i like u i am single ❤❤😍😍
The reason they want to break up with us because they don't want to be with us anymore, period.
No excuses, especially you are the one who wants commitment and always make efforts.
Find another one who can values you..
I've never been this broken in my life. I'm trying all sorts of ways to feel less sunken, angry and anxious.
this happened to me - you start demanding more and that shows how little he was willing to give” ..
im alone for 9 years,,
working far from family
celebrating xmas,b-dy by myself
wish next year god change it!
and give some luck to my lovelife.
May God keeps u happy
I am single ❤❤
Brother, thank you for the video. Its been weeks i haven't slept or eaten properly. I am skipping work and confined myself indoors. After watching your video, i feel much better.
Rana Ahmed I am there now...can’t sleep, or eat...did you get better??
I haven't sleep slept peacefully from months but hopefully will come out of guilt and blaming myself for break up...this is gonna happen either way if u are good or bad..other person found out his convenient way to get out of the relationship
I’ve been in two huge heartbreaks my ex husband after our divorce and after my divorce I’ve dated a guy for 8 years , also did not work out. Now I got to a piont that people come in and out of your life. Nobody belongs to nobody for the rest of our lives. I’ve learned not to get attached to nobody not even our kids belongs to us cuz they get up and leave the nest, they belong to the world like birds with wings. It’s painful but am training myself NOT to attached yourself to NOBODY. We are born alone and die alone. We you get attached , you will only get pain, suffering, headaches and heartbreaks. Learn to be alone.
That's it.Enjoy your time on earth and realize that everyone is free...
My ex boyfriend was toxic & had mental illness bipolar depression he ended up committing suicide I have spent the last 1 1/2 years sad & depressed & blaming myself. I’m finally getting to a better place ( with no help from this Covid - but it has allowed me to sit with my feelings & process this tragedy . This video has helped me think differently about the whole situation- he wasn’t the right person for me & going through this journey is making me a better person 😘
Victoria Webster,you are too precious 🌹🌷🌷🌺🌹 to be with such man!
Victoria Webster,I think you deserve a good man
Thank you so much, Matthew! 2018 was the most difficult year of my entire life. A divorce is truly one of the most difficult things a person can go through. I lost 40lbs, moved to a different city 130mi away from where I was living with my ex husband, started a new job, met new people....but sometimes I feel totally alone in my pain, stuck in the past, unable to move on, emotionally. I needed this video. Thank you so so much!
😭😭😭 I cried during this video because loneliness sometimes it’s scary. And sometimes a long term relationship that’s going wrong is hard to let go not because your in love but because his not the person u thought was the one . It’s hard when u fall in love not with the person but been in a relationship and that’s exactly how I feel .
How are you now?
Man, this is definitely one of the best inspirational coaching sessions on CZcams that I think I have ever watched. You put the focus on forgiving yourself and healing. Not blaming yourself. All the negative activity that makes you feel worse after a break up. I have broken up with girls and still felt this way, wether I regretted it or just felt shitty in general bc I knew I wasn’t happy. I have also been dumped and felt horrible, but wrenching heart stabbing pain for months. There are so many of us out there that have experienced this. Thank you for taking time to make this video man.
So much hurt to the point i cant cry anymore...but i will keep walking away from him...just one step at a time..
First, and... thank you Matthew. Your timing remains impeccable. 😉
Matthew i have a question what to do when you girlfriend turns u off ? W've been together for 3years but we did not hav an intimacy she doesn't want something to happen
@@bassisterv she said she doesn't do something she is afraid of doing sex but abvious sex isn't what i m target with her but a minimun intemacy
Guys??? Anyone intresting to join a group?? I mean, group for people like us. In this kind of situation😂😂😂 maybe this is sounds silly but i think only people who has been through this kind of situation that really understand other who struggle the same thing. What you guys think??
Truly, I came across this video at the right moment
Viccy Elvizza i'd love to!
It hurts so bad 7 years together condo together, engaged, now he decides to focus on himself. Im not ready to let go
Crystal M, you deserve a better man!
Thank you Matthew. I feel sad every day. I have felt so alone. But watching this has made me realize that I am not alone. And although heartbreak is never something I would wish upon someone else, just to know that it is a human thing to do, that has given me the initial strength to accept my grief and move on.
Why we never learn ? The most painful thing in the world is when your heart aches. When somebody says , that he doesn't want you in his life . Although you have given everything you've got in the relationship. I feel devastated, just ashes within me...
Love this perspective! I've been through this pain and have come out a brand new me! The pain doesn't last forever.
Have a warm and wonderful holiday Matthew! Love and peace 💗😇
Getting out of an engagement and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. Truly feel helpless
🌷❤❤😍
Sarah Drasiewski,you got a pretty smile ☺️
I am sorry for everyone who is grieving. Mornings are the hardest, but we all will get through this and someday you will wake up with the brightest smile on your face!❤️ She was my muse and I would do anything for her, even if it means letting go😣
Thank you. This is what I’ve been struggling with.
Tears of relief.
Thank you so much for sharing these truths.
Thank you Mathew .. honestly I need this . The timing is right
I was living with guilt and thought i was responsible for every thing but now i am clear thank you
My boyfriend broke up with me on our anniversary, we hung out that day like usual. But later he texted me that we were just friends and I've been blaming myself for our break up. Thank you for this video
6 years and he didnt even mention our supposed anniversary. I have to walk away because I want to be in love with someome who is as excited about an anniversary with me as I want to be with them. Someone who enjoys and loves my presence and wants nothing less than sharing life in every moment together. To say I'm not heartbroken would be a lie. But I would rathrr not waste more years with someone who will never even try to love me in the way I deserve. Someday maybe someone will love me like I love them but I'm not sure if I can open up again. Isolation does fucked up shit to me
Once I woke up and 5 months after breakup I found myself longing for him. I have nothing to regret, it was kind of toxic and he didn't show that he cared about me in any way, but I strangely miss him (some good moments we shared, that made me fall in love with him). Yeah, human psyche is weird.
It's soooo complicated 😭
Good God, I miss him no longer.
@@zielona_trawa6501 how did u get over it 😖
@@honorworks6 I just realised that I am much happier without him. He was acting in such a obnoxious way, that at some point I couldn't find any positive quality that in the beginning made me fall for him. I had to stop trying to save him. Your ex is your ex for some reason.
@@zielona_trawa6501 thanks for that really needed someone to talk to but that shits hard 😅
“You know what that’s a good thing”☺️ love yourself keep trying. I do this everyday I leave myself love notes everytime I feel lonely it helps to move on. Breakups are hard but I don’t regret a thing☺️
Raiza Garcia,you deserve better!
Pushing myself to heal every day. Thank you, Matthew.
I had to do the breaking up... she couldnt stop hanging out with and talking to all her exes and guys she likes. Still hurt me more than it hurt her. She's moved on completely and I'm now seeing a therapist so I try and get some sleep. Thank you for giving a bit of hope to me.
Letting go of someone who said he fell out of love. Painful part is i still love him so much. Life is so unfair
They always come back within a few weeks and when your doing better, take it from experience 😂 and by then you don’t want them
Impeccable timing Matt - my boyfriend just dropped me off at the airport for me to catch a flight home for Christmas and broke up with me at the gate 30 seconds before I got on the plane saying it was "getting to be too much and he needed space" because we argued the night before (I didnt think the argument was a a make or break and he was supposed to be joining me for New Years before we travelled back together but isn't coming now). I have spent the past 24 hours blaming myself and not knowing how to fix this - so this video was just perfect. Thank you - and any other tips from viewers on what to do when someone asks for space/time would be much appreciated.
And he just dumped me via text message :( I am so sad
Uhhhh... that is sad. :( Hold on girl, sure you get another, but better!
Going through something similar. It really sucks, especially when you didn't expect him to give up. Sending you lots of love my dear.
That was real childish and pathetic for him to do that to you no matter what happened, karma will follow people that do things like this
If they ask for space..,give it. Give them the gift of missing you
Couldnt have asked for better timing to see this video. Everything you have said Mathew is exactly what goes on in my head but when you say it it puts everything into perspective and its so much more encouraging. I have been at this stage of forgive and reframe for most of this year. I know these things dont happen over night and everyone is different with how long these things take. But this video has reminded me that i am doing okay and iv just got to have a little faith that this circle im going in might not last forever. If other people can do it then so can i. Thank you very much for your inspiring videos they have helped me so much this year you wont believe! I dont know what i would have done if i hadn't seen your stuff to help me through this year and im so glad i have so i know im not the only person in this world going through this as well, i feel like im actually heard and understood with what you say. You've made me understand that im not alone, im just on my own journey.
it's the 7th month and i am finally ready for this video.
My ex totally blamed me for the breakup. It led me to go to a psychologist and need medication. Found out months later he actually went back to his ex and it was all hidden from me. It was all him and not me. They broke up months later. Glad it ended i saw him for who he really is
I know your content is more dedicated towards women but you have no idea how much your words help me to calm me down. Thank you so so much Matthew!
Thank you Matthew for your videos. After a break up I am in tears almost every day. Having panic attacks, when in life usually always I control. Your videos help me to stay sane. Thanks
This is the most loving kind and sensible helpful suggestion I have heard over the past 2 years... so painful. Thankyou for opening my eyes x
I’d love advice on how to keep a terrible year in perspective and to mentally move on from it in the new year. Please!
You Tuber I had a breakdown last year and hit rock bottom. What helped me was journelling and as part of that a gratitude journal and doing for others even if it's something as small as getting a colleague a cheeky coffee or a bar of chocolate because they are having a bad day.
It takes time. Be in the moment and focus on you and your healing. Spend time doing things you love or try something new
Thank you so much for making this video! Everything you said I could relate, I asked myself those "What if.." questions for a long time and I just come to realize there's nothing much I could have done to save my relationship. Why put in the time and effort if the person you're with isn't willing to do the same?
Thank you for caring about the heartbroken. The hurt is immense regardless of how old or young we are .Sometimes we are in such despair that we cannot think clearly. That is why your words are so important .
I can’t stop watching this video 😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you Matthew. You were sent just to encourage some of us who’re finding it hard to to strong both in our love life and every day life 😊
Thank you Matthew, I really needed to hear this. It's so hard at any age and I'm in my fifties, when you open your heart and are vulnerable again and someone breaks your heart,
Helen Herrera,you are too precious 🌹 🌹🌺🌺 to be treated that way,you deserve better ❤️🙏🤙
I really needed this. I can't stop crying, Even at random moments around others I start crying or thinking back to how it used to be. He never even said anything he just stopped talking to me and I have no idea why things were getting better, i supported him, and we had a fun conversation then disappeared when I needed him the most. I think back and I would have given him so much more, but he was toxic and abusive. I want to move on but it's so painful. Years of my life feels like a waste.
Sarah Cherry i feel u sarah 😔
It really feels so good to listen to you. It feels like somebody sharing your pain with
Thank you! My partner, now an ex, ended our relationship recently. I’m still hurting but in the process of moving on. Your video has helped solidify my resolve. I hope for the best for everyone here!
This is so good. Thank you Matthew. I would honestly love to see more content on being strong while dating for mature age groups who come w families and a past. Divorce and children. All that mess. It’s a war zone out there. It’s tougher after 40. I need help!
I definitely needed this....... I’ve been in that self loathing cycle. I do need to forgive myself and move on ♥️
Elsa Ruiz yeah, things happen even with or without us doing anything
How you forgive yourself? I can t stop blaming me ...
Forgive and Reframe, thanks, i love when matthew gives us simple yet complicated tips on how to become better versions of ourselves.
Thank you so much. This video is in my watch list for so long and watch it. I have been feeling low recently. Feelings of regret and self-blame. This video now helped me to stay focus on my recovery.
Thanks. I’m a guy and looking at these comments on how men in womans’ lives are disappointments kills me inside. I’ve done everything I could for a relationship and I wasn’t good enough for someone. I feel like a complete failure. I have thought of every possible angle I might have messed up. Though through all of the pain, I have learned so much. My new years resolution is actually going to be forgiveness to myself. I’ll do what I can! 👍🏻
Women are hypergamous by nature. Thus, the more men attempt to satisfy a women, it illustrates that he is equal and not above her in the social ladder. If a man treats a woman poorly, it demonstrates he is higher than her in the social ladder and she have an increase in attraction for him.
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czcams.com/video/LMGK7GVrrl4/video.html (in this last video, the women discuss how they prefer the thug/bad boy/jerk etc)
I suggest you red pill yourself. The book Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi is a great read, he also has numerous videos.
@Alida Green Negative. MGTOW comes from the legal and social system (provided one understands the culture in the states). Realsexism.com is a great website to browse through. MGTOW is no different than when women absolved themselves of their traditional roles. Now, numerous men do the same and we get shamed for it. Besides, women are strong, independent, and dont need no man, thus a women should not care if men "go their own way" :)
Alida Green actually, ive found it excruciatingly hard for guys to find relationships. Yes, the victim mentality goes for mgtow and feminism extremes, but the effort to get a woman is just not looking like our best interest anymore.
@Alida Green Indeed, there are bad eggs that spoil the bunch. But, as for me, I have four separate businesses. One main business and three side ones. I give back to my community constantly. However, when I see a society where: men have no reproductive rights and get forced into parenthood everyday while women have adoption/ abortion/ safe haven law, child support money is based on how much a man makes(33% of pay) and not how much it costs to raise a child AND the money is not accounted for/no receipts or invoices, men have to register for the draft in order to vote (bascially be willing to die) meanwhile women can vote without no such obligation, women serve roughly 60% less jail time than men for comparable crimes, women win child custody battles 85% of the time, men are seen as disposable while women are the protected sex especially with the phrases; women and children first, ladies first, and the question... if a man and woman were caught in a burning building and only one could be saved who would they chose??? Men get destroyed in divorce courts regularly, alimony payments in which men pay the majority of because "entitled to the lifestyle", paternity fraud is alive and well as it the "equitable father's act" in which is a man is "seen as a father figure" to non biological kids he could get pinned for child support, false accusations of rape occur, socially speaking people laugh when men get phycially harmed as I will leave videos about men who get genitally mutilated.... That plus ALL of that legal system jargon is why I am MGTOW, it has nothing to do with "bitterness" simply observations. I will provide references.
czcams.com/video/_udSRofySus/video.html (child support and accountability of the money)
czcams.com/video/nrvDhSB7GHk/video.html (the ladies and audience of The View iew laugh at castrated man)
czcams.com/video/WF_wwIjBxNM/video.html (Lorena Bobbit is cheered on the Steve Harvey show)
czcams.com/video/8IYh2tFZxb0/video.html (Dr. Warren Farrel former memeber of NOW/National Organization of Women discusses male disposability)
czcams.com/video/UCUSmJurqrU/video.html (False rape accusation)
czcams.com/video/BJJ5Z_5lllw/video.html (paternity fraud)
Again... MGTOW is not derived from bitterness. Thanks for your time.
@@gregsayshello9576 I disagree about the "victim mentality goes for mgtow" I just replied to Alida, in which my references and statement might be of interest to you. MGTOW is based on observations, not a victim mentality.
Eye opener that happened to me... I started demanding more!!! And he stopped his promises... it showed how little he was willing to give!!! Wow
I well 😍❤💑💑
Carol PenGra,you deserve a better man!
This just got me out of a very bad vicious circle of self hate. Thank you for posting this, really.
I never thought I would praise the recommendations one day lol
Wow this video really came when I needed it... just had a dream about him last night and woke up heartbroken...
My last boyfriend abused me. Mentally verbally and emotionally and then it started physically. I never blamed myself for how my ex-boyfriend treated me. That was his choice to treat me that way. He had the problem not me. I'm glad I'm out of that relationship but it doesn't mean that in the beginning after our breakup I didn't cry my eyes out because I did. It's been 7years now and I haven't even been on a date. I like being single because I can do whatever I want to and I don't have to answer to anybody but I also miss being with a man.
Stay single. You are broken and inclined to torture any man who comes near you
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Its women who chose the bad boy/jerk/thug, etc... even the women in this video admit to this concept. czcams.com/video/LMGK7GVrrl4/video.html
@@mgtowarena9636 I didn't choose the bad boy excuse me. He wasn't anything like that when I met him and I worked with him for one whole year before we started dating. He was sweet as can be. But then he changed and it was a slow process. I never let the physical abuse get anywhere near to the point like some women do. That I would never allow and I got OUT!! SO DON'T DARE SAY THAT I CHOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT! DON'T ASSUME!!
@@JCFrigid What the hell is this " stay single you'll probably only torture the man your with". You are a FUCKING ASSHOLE! Without a picture I don't know if your a man or woman. Shut up because you have no Idea what you're talking about!
I play this video every time I feel I´m sliding back into the guilt-shame-loathing trip... Makes me feel a tiny bit better and hopeful
Of all the breakup videos I've seen... This one is the best.
The most practical and useful. Thank you.
Yes I’m a guy and I watch this videos bc it helps me as well!! I got screwed by my ex and it’s been 9 months and let me tell you it hasn’t been easy! But I know time will help me heal
🖤thank you so much for this video, your genuine empathy...and the millions of other things that make you who you are ! 🖤
I really needed to hear this . Much love to you !
I like u 🌷💑😍❤❤
Thank you Matthew! You don’t know how much better it makes me feel after hearing your advice. I thought I wasted a whole year going back and forth with my ex but now I see it so clear that it was not a waste but a lesson. I created so much anxiety in me, thinking what I could’ve done differently to save our relationship and now I know that I need to forgive myself, forgive him and move on. 💕 love your channel
We broke up last night... Its hard to fight the feelings and forget her... But i tried my best to feel happy and move on.. Please pray for me guys....
Lamzamlal Vaiphei you can get through this :( sending lots of love and strength your way
CT-8903 💛💛 sending lots of love. You WILL get through this. If you need anything, I’m here for you.
It's been 7 years since she broke up with me. Now she already married and have 2 beautiful kids. I know I should be happy for her, but here I am, still unhappy and still the same person from 7 years ago.
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damn, i really needed this peptalk. im at day 2 of the heartbreak and i feel so lost and helpless, this helped me so much at this point, i know better times are there to come but its so shit to be in it now. eventhough i was the one that broke up because rationally i knew we arent ment to be. it was something i had to do, for myself. i wish i could just fast forward 3 weeks. i just have to sit the pain out.
@@RANDAILE I'm doing much better now, thanks! I'm at the point i go out again and really enjoy it.
It's ok to cry though, I cried my eyes out too the first two weeks, you need to embrace all the emotions you have so your mind can get over the heartbreak. Hope you are feeling a little bit better now?
i really love the way you speak about such subject, it makes feel enlightened, its like we are really free to make any mistakes so that in the future we can make a better decision, its like learning through experiences
It’s incredible how his words have the power to change your inner self! Thanks Matt
Thank you mathew,what you said just gave me a whole new perspective,its time for me to stop being hard on myself. #forgiveandreframe#
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