When Your Ex Is Going Out With Some One Else!
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- čas přidán 27. 12. 2015
- Your Ex Is Going Out With Some One Else After The Break-Up! How To Cope With It,, is A friendly discussion about why you may find it difficult to think of or knowing your ex is sleeping with someone else or going out with others.... or see her photo on social media with other guys........
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This literally just happened to me this Christmas by my fiance of 4 years. He told he he kissed another girl and wants to date her instead of me. We broke up yesterday. This really helps me feel more in control of my feelings.
Chelsea Hogg that's horrible..
May I ask...how are you doing now after 6 yrs of your break up? How did things work out? It's always interesting to know things happen and tend to work out for the better
Thank you mehran, Im so fortunate to have found your page
After my girl and I broke up, I would talk to my "friend" who I confided in about what happened and he would listen and grant me helpful wisdom or just listen. I come to find out he has been dating her behind my back all this time....I never felt a betrayal like this.
ostkuk1 Don't expect such loyalty so you wont be so disapointed. move on from both of them and find positive and trustable friends. Guys always welcome opportunities from girls but it is the girl who decides to allow them to approach or not so dont be too critical of your friend as it is more the girl's responsibility and not just your frien's while his action is not condoned either!
ostkuk1 damn that's fucked up...i would definitely resort to violence
I think guys especially have a hard time dealing with the image or reality of their ex with someone else. I think it may be due to the fact we guys are very protective in our nature and when you are protective over something or someone and now the fact that that thing or someone is in the hands of another the protective instinct kicks in, even though we know they are no longer with us and have the freedom to do whatever they wish. I dont know, what are your thoughts Mr Mehran?
We are programmed for procreation, and that plus what you said does play a strong part in this. By the way Aleksandar did you receive my e-mail in regards to your appointment schedule? Sent you my Skype and need you to send and Skype invite and choose the time options as I mentioned in my e-mail sent to you yesterday. Talk to you soon, Mehran
+Mehran Dadbeh yep i replied this morning let me know if you didnt receive it
yap , it had gone to Junk mail. Got it now. :) and responded. please respond to md007@gmail.com so it would come to my cell phone directly and not miss it as I did. Thanks, Mehran
Brilliant again Mehran... so cool that you take your own time to post these extremely insightful, helpful videos.
Thank you.
+David Hart My Pleasure David. I know every one needs to hear it and sometimes it is needed to bring the angles into the open and dissect them and help understand that it has no teeth! :) Knowledge helps to be clear and be free and not care what needs not cared about and give it no importance or value when it has no importance or any value! :) Things look different when we look at them from different angles and in these cases we always are looking at the issues when we are too close to them so our eyes can not focus and see it as it really is or we are looking at them with a wrong lens and think everything is bigger than it actually is! :)
Very clear about how we posit and credential our Significant Other. The image that is painted onto the emotional canvas is usually a creation of our thoughts. The metaphor you used showing how if she wasn't gold at the onset of your relationship- in the other relationship she would also be the same quality.However it might work for the next person- Now this doesn't mean that it is your fault it just means that your intuition which was blinded by your unawareness/lack of information of differences between pleasure love and unconditional love wasn't there. Too often we get debilitated by the acute pain that is left onto us by either overlapping, transitioning, manipulation, or even rushing relationships. Its neither parties fault. It is just a mismatch i am starting to think. Another good point is that we shouldn't care that they are with someone else because the coping is again a way in which we default to historically emotionally charged defaults. we don't know why we do what we do and in the end if we just listened carefully for the flags we wouldn't be in this situation. Thanks for all your information. It refreshing to see this. I would love to see what your take is on "Female Narcissist" and "red flag ignoring"
man you are awesome smart keep doing that im impressed how thid opened my eyes in so many things
Yeah. This man is so clever.
I am so thankful I found your videos. It has been hard to accept the situation I am in but this has helped me a lot. My fiance of 10 years left me fir a very good mutual friend. She was suppose to marry us and instead he confessed to me they have been cheating together for a while. It hit my confidence and self worth hard knowing she was 9 years younger then him and they both lied to me on multiple occasions. They were dating when we are together but announced last week that they were officially together but I just don't see how it will work out, knowing him and what his needs are. I have never been with another person as we started dating when I was 16 and he was 21. It was hard for me to accept this and remembering all the things that he said, the memories we shared, and the intimate moments we had. However, your video have helped me focus on letting go and accepting that he wasn't what I believed him to be or expected him to be. Everyone told me I should be angry and I had all right to be angry but I couldn't bring myself to hate him, even after the cheating. I feel like going down that path would make it harder for me to move on and accept that he was not my Gold. Thank you for your words it helped me a lot.
Nifftieness I hear you dear and understand how you must be feeling. but I guess you were to come to notice this was not what you had envisioned or expected. Usualy when it takes longer than 4 years or 5 years courtship or a serious relationship and still not advanced to any more formal commitment then unless there is an understanding, then it can not be considered as the two are eachother's fiance. So this perhaps gives you the clarity you need to seriously move on. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Thank you again sir. Can't express how much your videos help me.
You are very welcomed dear. You are of much higher quality and worth than you have given yourself credit and I am delighted that you are beginning to see clear that not every one is suitable for you just because you think they are!
I can feel the good intentions you have in every word you say, I'm in a very tough situation right now, I need to forget about somebody but I see her every week at work so, as you can imagine, trying to erase something from my mind that was a very happy experience and having it in my face all the time is making it a lot harder, by watching your videos I can have another perspective that is much more useful, thank you for the help you want to provide to all of us that are in pain, we need more people like you...Blessings.
Thank you for the kind words Yue. I am glad you find them helpful. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
hi mehran, im travelling through almost every advice, perspective and videos again through this break up!!!
supports my way og thinking and feeling very much.
This has much more valuable that one could buy ever in a shop or whatever.
Deep Deep Thank you.. Again!!
Tim :)
You are always welcomed dear Tim, you know that you will be ok so enjoy the pain while it lasts! :) You have been here before as we all have and you know that it will all be fine again just like a scratch which will disappear in time and heals perfectly but it just may take a bit of time and in the mean time it might sting a little but we are men, we can take it. :)
@@MehranDadbeh Right :) could be true, now im still riding on the waves up and down hehehe. yes i try to enjoy the brain circus xD thank you mehran!!!
wish you something :)
13:10 nails it on the head
You’re in love with your thoughts.
I know this fully yet the pain exists. But i have no regret since
I know more than half of what i was in “love with”. Wasn’t really her.
Just a projection i made in my head.
Honestly i know this but it hasn’t really sunk in yet. Which is odd. But when it does sink in i think totally healing will begin.
You are on your way to recovery Robot. I am glad you find them helpful . Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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Thanks You for taking the time, your videos are great and very helpful to use in need
You are welcomed. I am glad you find them helpful. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Do you offer personal service and or advice. Acourse I'd sign or or pay? Can I find it on fb page if so?
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Hey Mahran,
I love your videos, I've watched all of them since my break up last February. I have a question (well somewhat of a suggestion), can you make a video on what avenues people should take if they're ready to date again? Like what can one do to get back out there and start looking for a new partner? People are always telling me, "Jon, you should start dating again". However, I don't know how to start since I don't have a strong social circle. Any suggestions?
Thanks,
Jon
Oh my goodness!! You are hilarious!
Best advice👍👍
Wow this made me feel much better thank you
I am glad you find them helpful Chlla. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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Thank you !!
pls make more sir mehran its help a lot your video helps many people who have a rough time and suffer sadness
I am glad the videos are helpful to you Adamjay.
Mehran Dadbeh pls make more about this topic and pls sir it helps me your advice can heal may heart that suffers a lot today how can i be ok again sir
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Hello sir, first of all I would like to thank you for the great work that you have been doing. This video was helpful for me but still I would like to ask something about it. As you said in the end, the person who has left you maybe had no good quality so let the bad qualities go. OK I understood but what if that that person had good qualities in him/her but somehow left cuz it was not working out whatever the reason maybe.. How to cope up with that?
This is good.
Your videos are a lot of fun Mister! Thanks for the important insights!
Thank you Bootes, glad you enjoy the videos and find them helpful. We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by CZcams) when I go live!
@@MehranDadbeh Much appreciated Doctor! I'm a 30 yo male from Morocco. I really appreciate your ability to share your knowledge and wisdom and deliver it in a benevolent humorous manner! I'll be sure to join the livestream next week! And I already subbed and enabled notifications on my two accounts!
Have a nice day, sir!
@@bootesvoid1275 My pleasure Bootes, but before anything said I like to bring your attention to that I am not a doctor, I am not a psychologist or psychotherapists and I do not have any medical credentials. The books I have written on the psychology or the movements of the psyche after a break up or the book on the thoughts and where they come from, consciousness and the relationship between thoughts and consciousness, fear, desire, ego, order , psychological security needs and where the mind finds its security and the general understanding of the movements of the psyche ( Me, My Psyche & I), is based on my life long research, experiences and the work of the scholars of 100s of years ago combined with work of the researchers in neuroscience and have been able to deliver such complex topics in a manner that every one can understand and identify with but I am not a doctor dear. I look forward to have you join the live talks and explore questions from people all around the world ( while hardly many people find my channel! :)
@@MehranDadbeh Thanks for the disclaimer, It is always a good thing to recall to the subscribers. Sorry, I addressed to you as a Doctor (Which you could have been, given the bright mind you've been blessed with!), I just seen someone using it in the comments. Thankfully, I am reasonable enough to take the info as general wisdom and not as a medical opinion. Still, I try to pay great attention to people's opinions & experiences. Often, we can find wisdom in their words. I'll be sure to check your book which seems very interesting & I'll gladly interact with you and fellow subscribers in your next livestream! Thank you!
@@bootesvoid1275 Much appreciate it. :)
"if she wasn't gold for you, she can't be gold for someone else either.." This is sooo true. People can't be bad lovers one day then magically be good lovers the next day. Our relationship with ourselves determine what kind of partners we'll have. I fell for a woman who turned out to be indecisive about whether she liked me or not, had insecurities, wasn't honest, list goes on. I got so fed up with her, we just ended the friendship. She said she didn't trust me and married another guy. Years later, she messaged me again. She told me she didn't trust me so why would she chase a guy she doesn't trust? It doesn't make sense. I also suspected her relationship wasn't working out well. She mentioned how her man was jealous and controlling of her.
I am glad you are enjoying the channel and finding the videos helpful Isaiah.
There are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
The secret to manage a break-up and to be able to move on to a happy life is to understand how you are put together and why you feel, act and react the way you do in life.
Such knowledge is provided on this channel through numerous discussions ( in videos ), or when live streaming and exploring people's questions and concerns after a breakup, from around the world.
You will be perfectly fine once you get to know yourself a lot better! :)
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I really enjoyed your channel. Your videos helped me alot with my recent break up. Very insightful and soothing.
Been meaning to comment on your past few videos but didn't get a chance to. But man these videos are getting better and better, great questions, great bites of knowledge. You're doing a good job! :)
Sir, first of all a very big thank you. Though I do not have many hard feelings about my break up but I do have this anxiety. I was really involved with the person and kind of meant a lot to me and it hurts to not have the love that u give valued specially the thought 'what did'nt i do that his next partner would' but my doubt is a little different. My father have not stayed with me for the most part of my life due to a transferable job. I do not have a brother or any men near me to whom I would associate what I wanted from my partner and as far as I know my ex was not very close to his parents too. I always thought that I would always get what I never got from him and it simply shattered me after he left. I do not feel bad now as now I know he was just not the right person but I do not know what to expect now. deep down inside i am waiting to feel completed. I would love it if you would help me out as this has been a huge part in my life.
Dear Odyssey, the best way I can help is through my videos, there are over 200 videos at this point which addresses such challenging times. I am certain that if you watch the relevant videos to your situation things will be more clear for you and easier to manage. If you find it necessary to have a one on one Skype consultation with me, that can also be possible but that needs to be done through my site where you can chose a suitable package if you go to my site ww.mindthatseekstruth.com I am sure however that the videos should be sufficient and help you move on and enjoy your life every day dear. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
you got to the point!!!! Question: You yourself being aware of this, can you cope with it and does understanding alone liberates you from jealousy, feeling devalued etc. ???
You also need to realize and deeply consider and focus on the fact that your ex is just a human being and nothing more and why you seem sensitive about it all is because of your desire and not something so special about her on her own. It is your desire that gives her value and importance otherwise how can the entirety of one's life be summed up in between the legs of a woman? It is all about your ego, desire and thoughts that makes you feel the way you do and not the actuality or the level of her intelligence, magic or any other thing about her at all as what she offers is available and if not more and better in many other women around the world but you just have not met them and thinking that this is the only one that can make you feel in that certain way. Watch one of my videos about how desire is born and see why it is that you feel the way you do about her and go from there. If you needed to talk to me one on one, you can go onto my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and book a Skype consultation and we will explore it further. That is what I do with people who need it all around the world on daily basis. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
You are next to God .. PRANAAM from Kolkata, India ..!!
I am glad you find them helpful, Sayantan. You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
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i love you! your words soothes me. thanks a lot mr dadbeh. my ex dumped and told me he wont be in a relationship for a long time cuz he thinks being in a relationship takes so much of his time, he wants to be with his family and he said being in a relationship too much work for him and 2 weeks later he is with a new girl.m
Hello Pamela, I am glad that the videos are helpful to you and you are enjoying them. I am sure you will be fine, watch the videos and understand them and become stronger than ever. :) One must think in this way as I write here "Whomever is not with me has lost a big chance" and that is how you must believe and think. You have not lost anything as why would any one think having lost some one if that some one is not choosing to be in our life? This means that you should not want some one who does not want to be wanted by you as that is not what you are looking for. Soon I will have a video on the topic of rejection as I want every one to understand what it is and why it feels how it feels and should we feel as it makes us feel. When we understand what is involved in how we feel after a so called rejection then we will never feel that way again! :) So stay tuned for that and also watch my live talk on Sunday mornings 8.30 AM Pacific time ( West Coast time ) on FB page "Amazing things in the world" ( facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ ). Also visit my FB page " Mind That Seeks Truth " as there I will have announcements on what I am doing...... Socialize with good and positive people, attend to your duties and responsibilities, make new friends and exercise at your fitness level and eat good and simple food and drink good water...before you know it it is all forgotten and you have made new plans for your day to day goals and enjoyments. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
He was giving you a bunch of bs.
wow... that helped me... kheili mamnoon agha doctor you just fixed my broken heart
I am glad you find them helpful Mandana. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
By the way Mandana, my education is not in medicine, so I am not a doctor! :)
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That's a good ending
Everyone's GOOD just you need to find a suitable match..😂😂😂
It was awesome
id write on EACH video how MAGNIFICENT You are!And so funny hahah :) Positive.Wow! Im so inspired cant stop watching videos
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i already have shared i love you man,youre a real psychologist.KEEP ON :))))))))) - Maya!
Thank you Maya. :)
you are a special man ...
I haven't heard from my ex in almost a year. We broke up in February and she completely cut me off. I don't know if she's dating someone else, and I don't want to know. The biggest thing that hurt me is she's probably been with a couple of guys by now and I haven't been with anyone. The fact she's been having sex with other guys and I can't find anyone, completely eats away at me. It makes me want to kill myself sometimes. Even after a year I feel awful about it and I don't know what i'm going to do. :'(
+Mehran Dadbeh Thank you sir
+Jonathan Perez So Jon, have you found someone yet?
+Jonathan Perez Maybe you're just emitting bitterness, frustration and desperation. Those three "ingredients" will definitely scare women off. I came out of a 5 year long relationship a week ago. Now I'm back to square one in my life. Although I don't have plans on getting a new girlfriend asap, but I'm not going to let the past come back and haunt me, ever. One failure is enough. Learn from your mistakes.
GymChess Maybe you're right. But wow, I'm sorry to hear that. You seem to be handling pretty well better than I ever did.
+Jonathan Perez Well, let's just say that it hasn't been easy, and it ISN'T easy. But what can I do... I tried to talk some sense into her but she refused. I can't force anyone to be with me if she doesn't want to give it a chance. We came to a point, a crisis, and she gave in without a fight in my opinion. We could've tried anything but it takes two to tango. It comes and goes in waves almost. I have things in my life that I need to sort out anyway. And that's where my focus should be. Yes, I miss her and what we had, but what can I say...
Thank u very much sir u really thought me a reason now i realise who i am .I was facing terrible breakup with ex the fart was that she is moving on with a guy but felt that am not man eneagh but after listing to ur lecture i got my self back to move on .thnx
I am glad you find them helpful . Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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I will do that sir
Break-Ups, Unlock Your Mind Mehran Dadbeh .Am watching from europe .spain
Wise words. Let her have him, I know what she's got...
This is my fifth time watching this video today. I was really heartbroken that my girl cheated with her childhood buddy n left me but now i m understanding the reality. I should not worry for something which is not for me. Thank you so much sir. Your videoes really help me everyday.
You are welcomed. Your name seems to be of Persian descent are you watching the videos from Iran? If so Are we accessible in Iran so easily?
@@MehranDadbeh Sir I am from Bangladesh
😳WOW!!! HOW "PROFOUND"!😗
Glad you enjoyed it Marva. Hope you have subscribed and plan on joining in my live talks on CZcams ( I will have one today around 12.30 Vancouver time). Here is some more info about the channel and what it offers:
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Such knowledge is provided on this channel through numerous discussions ( in videos ), or when live streaming and exploring people's questions and concerns after a breakup, from around the world.
You will be perfectly fine once you get to know yourself a lot better! :)
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My understanding is that I made a mistake about believing who I thought she was. I just don't know why I have been so blind to not realize the obvious things that were going on between she and me.
Nice talk sir. Your talks clear my mind and keeps it straight.
I am glad you find them helpful . Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
Sunday 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic),
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I broke up with her while on Paroxetine. Year and a half later and after coming off the medication, I discover that I still love her dearly. She has been with another man for a year now. I don't even know... I don't even know what I feel. It's a rollercoaster of guilt, regret, broken heart, terrible feelings about myself (how could I have done this to her?) and imagining her with another man, where I am the bad ex who left her and he is the one she is telling all of this to. How do I behave? Help? Please?
U broken with her for what reason?.If she cheated u.then don't regret yr decision.
I wish one day I overcome my problem hocd , and come here with a relationship problem , I miss my those days when I had such problem when this problem weren't there
You will, you are not the only one who had to deal with this kind of thing and wont be the first one who will manage it and regains his balance through knowledge about the behaviour of the psyche and get free from such matters as knowledge will set you free from nonsense and supposedly mystery of the psyche.
6 week after separation, limited contact, I phone her, a guy answers her cell. I want her comfort or my moms.
hello sir i appreciate your kind work it helped me a lot from last 6 month she brokeup with me and married someone else makes me insecurestil i linger wants to talk with her i miss her as my day starts a lot but eventually as my busy day ends i wont remember her so how to cope up from this phonemena and another point of view now i don't feel woman attractive feels like misogynist how to overcome from it
Vijay Singh Don't worry thing will change and you will not feel this way eventualy. remember she does not represent all women so do not judge women all in the same way you judge her. See then as individuals and so many good women out there. Live yr life do your things and things will change automaticaly. be patient. women are not all the same. Be good to yourself always. Mehran :)
but what if she leaves and is actually better with somebody else.What if she just loves the new guy more and makes it work?
+Loch121 That is ok too, either way she was not suitable and did not meet your standards and criteria. :)
And you go and make it work with someone else. :)
Amazing video. I agree with everything you say, except what if she had\has a lot of the attributes I am looking for in a woman, but it was mostly MY fault for neglecting her, not appreciating all the nice things she did for me, and caused her to leave me?
If that is true then remember it for the next relationship and modify your interaction so it will not cause such outcomes.
@@MehranDadbeh What if I can't seem to move on even after 6 months? I want to make it up to her for my actions
@@tidalwave_music I do not know any of the particulars of the relationship and do not know how old you are and how long was the relationship so I trust you are of legal age and you feel that there were short comings on your part and you feel you wish to remedy your treatment of her. In that case you can chose to write her a letter express your regrets and apologize for your behaviour or shortcomings (per your judgements) and ask her if you could do anything for her as per her preference and choices to make it up to her so you can be at peace with yourself and wish her well in her journey and you can also get back on your personal journey as well.
3 years v wer together. i left her 4 months ago for both of us to make good careers. she found a friend of mine and now dating him. i m left alone. she cheated on me. v were not in relationship bt she told me she'll wait. i m broke.
+kartik puri Get your good career and find a woman whom you like and you will be fine. As simple as that, nothing happened, find another woman and build a relationship with her. Everything will be fine. If she was for you , she would have waited. Now that she has not then she is not the best candidate for you so move on and find some one who wants to be with you and only with you. You will be fine :)
+Mehran Dadbeh thanku sir.
@Mehran Its been 4+ months of break up, on no contact since then, i dont want her back but i still cares for her a lot i dont want any random guy to flirt or to miss use her or to take advantage of her, its hurting me it makes me cry.. i want her to be safe i do want her to be happy with her potential partner but i want that guy should be genuine and should love her not lust her.. i am so depressed
Chill and relax now. Nothing is wrong and she will take care of herself more than you can imagine. Relax. When I have a live talk join in and bring up this topic. Do not be depressed everything is and will continue to be ok.
Thank you Sir Mehran but i have deleted my FB account and other social sites account as, but would appreciate if you will give a detail tip over it, please and thanks from the heart of India, Rohan Chauhan from Mumbai.
Rohan get your face book back when you are ready again but do not check her face book page out.....Move on and have respect for yourself, you will meet other girls and you must not worry about protecting her as you are not her dad and she had her chance and somehow it was not working and you or her broke up and that is fine and that is that. Move on and worry about building your own life now. She is no longer included in your life. If you attend one of my live talks and I will post it on my face book page when I will have it, then remind me and I will discuss it further. Here i s the link:
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Pleas like the page so you will see the post when I place it. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Break-Ups, Unlock Your Mind Mehran Dadbeh well Mehran i will and will make it large,, Thank you so much
Break-Ups, Unlock Your Mind Mehran Dadbeh Sir could you please discuss about this point when you go live.
I know this works with short term relationships but what about those long term ones? More than 8 years and have children together.. how do you work on the thought that they gave up and left you after so many years of attachment, bonding and years together
That is on them! No need to question unreliability of others. The point is that you did not break up the family and that is all that matters. You can not control or be responsible for other people’s lack of values or proper morality and or any short comings. Why would you ever want to continue with weak minded and unreliable gf or wife? Why if you can not count on them then they better go on their way and you be on yours and build another relationship and do not see her as the memories you have with her as those memories are not her now and who she is now is the person who left and no longer should be able to enjoy the same image she once had as the reality is that she has changed and if she has changed then you do not want her as that is not the qualified character to be in your story and you need to let her go and find a more suitable actor for this role in your journey of life.
@@MehranDadbeh yes, that’s how I have been treating this entire ordeal. And I move forwards with my life building it together with my children,
What I find really disheartening is that it was a reasonably decent relationship. And the last few months was when things only really got very bad to the point of me not wanting to fight for the marriage anymore..
Little did I know that she was planning her exit strategy for a few months maybe even a year already. Including finding a job, a new partner and more.. she blindsided me, and stepped out of the family that we were building together for her own selfish reasons.
Anyways, the marriage is over and I’m ready to let go of any thoughts of reconciliation. It’s the lingering thoughts of “what ifs” that sometimes get to me, but then I remind myself I had no say in the matter nor any power to reconcile with someone who doesn’t see it that way.
Anyways, I have lost nothing of value and while I suffered a bruised ego, life has only got better and better as I’m reminded of who I was before meeting my ex spouse. I love and enjoy the company of myself , and in time, I will find another person to enjoy it with me.. thanks for these videos, it has been really helpful in finally cementing my mindset of letting go and moving on.
Also, with children I can’t completely move on from my ex. She and I have a good understanding on how we want to raise our children, and that I’ve been granted the sole decision maker and sole custody without any fight on her behalf. Also with children, Im in frequent contact (only about the kids or important decisions I’m making for the family) and we have a working relationship there.
I think she admires and respects me as a father to the children. At least our interactions are no longer toxic, emotionally driven and full of bitterness or anger.. I’ve said my peace on the matter (cheating) and she responded with hers ( blame me and the kids for causing anxiety in her).
Anyways, it is a learning experience and I hope my next chapter in life will be full of happiness, love and joy. Especially with my kids.
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2:57 I didn't know milk bottles had other purposes...
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I recently broke up with my physically and emotionally abusive girlfriend, who is pregnant with my child. Less than a week after we broke up she was with another guy. It's destroying me inside to think that she could do that while carrying my baby.
+josephrl82 Yes dear I hear you loud and clear. It is not easy to deal with this, but it is not impossible either and that is what needs to be focused on. Through legal ways , communication, bringing to her attention the love and care for the child which is the most important thing may help her to mind her behaviour and think about the child. Hope her family, and logic will be meaningful to her and helpful to make things work between the both of you at least as far as observing what is in the best interest of the child.
She had him waiting in line before the breakup. Some people can be so cruel. I hope you are in a better place now. Never beg anyone to accept your gifts. Did you ever press charges on her for abusing you?
I broke up... he finds new girlfriend quickly... I feel sad everyday....
Wei Wei Barbie me 2. My ex girlfriend finds someone else quickly too
He probably had her lined up before the breakup.
oaklandsoldier my ex girlfriend found a guy few days after she dumped me . This means they were already flirting and seeing each other while she was with me . It’s shit feeling to know this . Fucked up reality really
@@YahyeMohamed true she already had him lined up. That's awful.
What about if she left me because i wasn’t good enough
U r good enough but she failed to recognize..
so if she is a better fit with somebody else that means she may be better with a new guy and it feels like I was the problem.
+Loch121 No this is not what it means. This is like to say if a bolt and nut do not work together well, do not fit into each other, then the bolt is the problem because the nut fits another bolt or the problem is the nut because the bolt can fit another nut.....You are looking at it as if it is your fault that she is with some one else! All it is is that the two of you do not fit and it is no ones fault. Evry one tries to find fault in the other to describe the reason for the break up but unless one is abusive or on drugs or alcoholic or involved in other serious negative life styles, then there is no one's fault and it is just that they do not fit and each need to find another fitting individual to make a relationship to work and last. You will be fine dear just keep building your life and socialize with positive people and find new friends and attend to your daily duties and responsibilities and in time other more fitting opportunities will present themselves. :)
+Mehran Dadbeh Thanks for the reply.I felt it could have worked,but she wouldn't let it.She got disrespectful and I left and she got pregnant like 2 months later and is moving in a house with him after we were together 8 yrs.She was mad I didnt have the money I used to and I'm an indie musician who worked hard our whole relationship,but didn't progress financially as much as her.I feel like because he may have the things I lacked at the time,maybe they will work,plus she's having a baby and it's like a decade together meant nothing.
+Loch121 Then you are lucky to find out her level of loyalty to the history of the relationship and better not to be with such partner than end up having a baby then she still leave to another because of more money or other material things. So celebrate and be happy , thank your stars as you lucked out ! :)
+Mehran Dadbeh I guess you're right I just can't understand why she would do this after all the yrs and the closeness we had.She was ny best friend at some point and now she's just gone.
+Loch121 Yes she is gone but that is what was supposed to happen as now you are free and can find a better fit. Don't ask why she did such a thing.... They say a spider and a man were friends, best of friends for many many years and one day the spider stings the best friend ( the man ) and while the man was facing death due to the venom of the spider, he ( the man ) asked : but why did you do that we were best of friends, Spider responded: But that is my nature ! So there is no place to ask why some people do certain things....as there are no good answers ! :) I hope you get the message and be happy and enjoy every moment of your life positively and allow life to unfold and present other more suitable opportunities to you even though you might not see the blessing that you have received now at the moment :)
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even if you give all tht psychological security to ur man and support him thru thick n thin (even though he doesnt do the same) they still end up cheating on u with someone who doesn't even give a shit..lol !
That is certainly true about both men and women, but that does not describe the whole and both sides have experienced such behaviours but non represent all the wonderful women and good men that are out there and are faithful to each other with love and respect. Don't let one or two or even more idiots with such shortcomings of their own define you or your idea of a good relationship, love and partnership in harmony. Just move on as this obviously did not deserve you and you need to only accept what is suitable to you and your standards. What others do and how they behave is not any reflection on you, your worth or value and it is only a reflection on themselves, their value, worth, manners, the shortcomings in their roots and characters.
+Mehran Dadbeh that's true Sir but its really hard to digest at times especially when u can be everything tht a person needs and still get played..
and yes thanks a ton for replying..ur videos r greattttt and really helpful!! do u Deal with topics related to emotional abuse in relationships as well ?
Thank you for kind words dear. In regards to relationship abuse , well if I know the specifics then one can possibly discuss the topic's direction and share and opinion. :) But it will be a long paragraph and I had good amour of writing today already ! :)
Mom abandoned me. Maybe that’s my problem
Sometimes mom or dad abanding, sometimes, girlfriends abandon the boyfriend...but not everyone is like the ones who may have abandoned you. So why do you want to perceive everyone rather than seeing them with the eye of the now and not the eye of the past (perceiving them)? You may have bought an egg or milk that was spoiled, does that mean now every egg or milk you want to buy or eat or see is also spoiled? no, every one may have similarities with other stuff with which you did not have a good experience but that does not mean that they are the same or the experience with them will be the same as the ones that disappointed you.
Thanks for these videos. They help many ppl I believe