Why Break Up Hurts So Much ? Why Do We Believe She Was The Best?
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- Why break up hurts so much? Why do we believe She was the best? Was she ? is the topic of this friendly discussion on why we become so devastated after a break-up. Why is it that we feel so sad and depressed and what is the reality and actuality of the situation.WWW.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
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I wonder if this man realises how incredible he is broken hearts are not restricted to youth and his words take us all from despair to understanding why we feel as we do and how to correct our thoughts. Thank you Sir.
+stan carter My pleasure Stan, thank you for the kind words. Wishing you health and happiness dear. :)
Yes,i totaly agree.
Brilliant.
6 years later this video was shared it is still so applicable now. Thank you Sir
So true. Society tries to condition us to believe we're not complete without a relationship when that's not true. We're complete whether we're with a partner or not. Just because you had a break-up, doesn't mean your life will end.
Mr.Dadbeh, I truly wonder, do YOU realize what you're giving to the world? The simplicity of how you break down this nonsense called LOVE is amazing!! So glad i found your page sir. Thank you!
Thank you for the kind words dear :) I am glad you find them helpful. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
So true!! The best available online!!
She was not best for me, and i have started believing that whatever happens, happens for good reason..
yes, it's another stage of life. I went through a break up, now I m enjoying my single life. I hope anyone who is in breaking up situation can lessen their heart broken when watching your videos. 😍
I am in that stage as well, although it's been four months. Whenever she contacted me I would give her dry replies and never asked her anything, so eventually she went as far as getting mad at me and deleting me for friends on Facebook for awhile. It surprised me that she was so emotional about my short responses which means I still had some sort of control over her and that's weird given she was the one to dump me and she was the one in control during our relationship. Anyway, her birthday is coming in three weeks and that will probably be the last time we contact each other, because I can't ignore that or pretend that I forgot about her day, I want to remain true to myself and not lie or pretend.
Glad that the videos are helpful to you Eastern pearl, I am sorry I just saw your message now and I can't figure out how I missed responding to these two comments on this page until now! :) Hope you are well and enjoying life every day. :)
I guess my biggest struggle is that he gave me the whole responsibility for the breakup.. So I'm not only sad, but also guilty. I feel like maybe I could've avoided it. But then again there were many trust issues, poor communication, aggression from his side (punshing walls, breaking things).. I tried to explain to him that without his support I can't trust him especially after he hasn't been honest about things. He would get mad and slowly give me less and less of love and affection.. So, of course, I got more insecure. It was a vicious cycle. But I don't feel it's fair to tell me I've ruined everything. I just hope I'll meet somebody who won't break my trust one day.
Oh, and it's tough to imagine that he's having a great life and is feeling better without me.
Thank you so much for your videos, they help so much.
I had the same situation with my girlfriend. First she became cold and angry, then I started doubting myself and started doing stupid things, which would only push her away even farther... And now I can't even get back to my normal life with exercises, jogging and reading - I am simply not in the mood.
I'm sorry to hear that. I completely understand. Maybe Mehran has some advice for us :)
CupNoodleKitty same condition here
You are a great man... You helped me cope with pain. Thank you... a million times.
+iSellPizza You are welcomed dear. I am delighted that the videos have been and are helpful. :) Be good to yourself. :)
You can always visit my face book page : mind that seeks truth " and also visit www.breakupclub.ca and share stories and see opinion of others from around the world on your stories and give opinion on their situations and support each other.
Every precious thing on the internet has less subscribers and viewers. I wonder why..
Yes, it is rather puzzling! :)
just wanted to say thanks. I think these videos are aimed more towards younger people, but I'm 43 and my ex left me after 6 years ("I love you, but I'm not in love with you"). These videos have helped me enormously!!!
I am glad you find them helpful Chris. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
My ex girlfriend told me the same thing after six years. She was developing an online relationship with a married man, while I was at work. I am 42 now, and have been trying to overcome my broken heart for nearly 12 years. It's good to know that I am not alone, even though it feels that I am. Thank you, and best of luck.
@@austinp.5024 I hope you're doing well now.
@@austinp.5024 how are you now?
how are you now?
I looked up vids regarding breakup and ran across your channel. Thank you for your work, and going out of your way to teach others how to cope with these feelings. I want to say it is your words that helped me bridge gaps, and understand what it was that I was dealing with. I survived the hardest part of the break up, and find myself well and striving. For those wondering what its like to overcome the heartbreak; it is bitter sweet and will make you a stronger individual. Again, thank you sir for providing the right bridges, and logic to all these broken hearts.
Oooo. such a wonderful speech. Great to hear that
amazing truth great stuff thanks for easing the pain and suffering i thought i had
Great content!! Really!!! :)
You rock Mehran!. I watch you from Argentina, and you've helped me or better said you are helping me overcome a breakup.
Thank you for the kind words Jose, I am sorry I only got to see your message now( two years after you sent it! :) I am delighted that the channel has been helpful to you and I hope you are well and enjoying life and building your life better and better. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
It's wonderful and very rational, thanks for sharing all this beautiful and rational logic.
Brilliant. Thank you
great content as usuel
you are a generous, clever man. bless you!
Thank you.
You are great!!! Thank you so much.
+David Stapp You are welcomed dear, be good to yourself.
Very wise words my friend, thank you!
I am glad you find them helpful Eddie. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Your videos are really helping me during a break up. Thanks for the wisdom shared. I hope you keep making these type of videos and more :)
I am glad you are enjoying the channel and finding the videos helpful Kev.
There are over 1,500 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :) The secret to manage a break-up and to be able to move on to a happy life is to understand how you are put together and why you feel, act and react the way you do in life. Such knowledge is provided on this channel through numerous discussions ( in videos ), or when live streaming and exploring people's questions and concerns after a breakup, from around the world. You will be perfectly fine once you get to know yourself a lot better! :) Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell so you will be notified when I go live. Below is my standard E-mail respond which contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on CZcams and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages.
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You are a wonderful man!! Thank you. The best videos ever!!
Glad you enjoy the channel.
That last bit is gold
Very good advice. Thanks
You are welcomed teeahtate. Hope you remembered to like the video! :)
The only thing that truly helped is if you find a girl that is actually better than your ex. If you find a girl that is not as good as your ex then you still miss your ex.
good one
you made me laugh and taken the pain away magic
+mohammad hussain Once in a while I watch these videos myself so I remember what I have said in them :) and I was just watching this same one as you were. I too was laughing at some of it's contents and I am glad that it has been helpful to you. :) I wish you well and it is time for me to sleep now as I am too sleepy to do any more work. Let me know where are you watching the videos from and what age category are you in?
greeting from morocco
yes true thank you moch
You are welcomed Aziz.
wow , halfway through the video , already starting to feel better.
Well this is what I have been hearing from subscribers and I am delighted to be part of the balance you all are striving for. Hope you have subscribed and liked the video you liked! :)
I am glad you find them helpful Grizzly! :) . You will be fine, there are over 900 videos on my channel here and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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I asked you a question in your last video but u didn't reply :(
but thanks for videos they do help
+Super digital quality Re-send it dear, I must have not seen it or missed seeing it among all e-mails.....
Is there something wrong with your camera? it looks like some buffering or is that just me? anyways you're doing a great job mate could you maybe have time to ask a question or to just listen to my story I really hope you can help me she broke up 1 day ago
+Wouter van Scheijen More than happy to help dear, however I stopped writing responses as it has become all day writing. However such situations need to be discussed verbally, needs exchange of words, real time discussion to figure things out. I am no longer in charge of Skype appointments and the automatic system does that as scheduling has been more than what I can manage manually/ personaly. Please go to www.mindthatseekstruth.com and book an appointment and we will discuss it together and see it through.
+Mehran Dadbeh sorry I dont have that kind of money im 16 years old so my income is not that big but can I maybe send you an e-mail just an quick response would make my day if watched your videos before my girlfriend broke up 1 day ago and we broke up before (half a year ago) and your videos really helped me, you would make my day
+Wouter van Scheijen Sure dear go ahead and send it to me. I will read it. For support you can also try registering on www.breakupclub.ca and share your story if you like and get other people's opinion and make opinion on other people's situations and perhaps find support from other people around the world who may be going through similar break ups or challenging time. :)
Sir plz help me out...biggest prblm im facing is me n ma ex belong to d same class in collage..she ll be vry happy alwys smiling with her frnds n well dressed wen ever I see hr enjoying I literally feel vry low...i cnt stop thinking abt her..wen evr I see hr pics in social media I feel vry low by seeng hr smiling pics ...i knw tat I shud nt see hr pic Bt I can't control myself..im daily dying in ma clz by her smile..she doesn't care about me she's happy wit her life nw..
+Vetri siddhath Her smile means nothing, you are the one who will build a good life for you and your future wife and you do not need anything from her. Smile or her looks or body or memories all are of no use if she is not loyal or interested to be with you. Go find some one who deserves you and appreciates you. There are many women with smile and good looks but that does not mean they are suitable for you. Every one can smile and wear nice dress , clothes and look happy but that is just a day or moments of their lives, what they think, plan for life , how they treat you and what are they capable of adding or bringing to the table ( the relationship ) is the question to ask. There are so many people who look good and if that was enough then every one would buy a poster of a pretty woman and be happy in their life! :) good look, nice smile or looking happy is all bull shit if it is not for you and if it does not accompany good behaviour, loyalty and commitment. Woman by nature look nice but what does that mean in regards to their behaviour, mentality and reality of their existence. You are in control of your life and you need a girlfriend who offers lot more than just a nice smile or good looks . Think about it and go and find new friends and find some one who would deserve you and brings more than just momentary picture of happy life and brings actual happiness to you with her mentality, behaviour and attention otherwise they are not the right girlfriend. It is all in your mind, you have made yourself believe that she is so wonderful....and you think she is all that, but in fact it is just a product of your mind and brief , so just reverse it and say I don't get fooled by a smile or nice dress or stuff like that, I expect loyalty, attention, mentality and behaviour that would bring happiness to me, so simply convince yourself otherwise and believe that she is no good for you and a girl who is not with you does not deserve to be with you or take your attention. Only the girls who want to be with you deserve to be with you and then you will decided if you want to be with them or not. Respect yourself and be good to yourself, find other friend who deserve to be friend with you dear. :)
Death feels better than this heartbreak and pain. Im so lonely. She left me.
Get back on the horse cowboy, it is not end of the world. Watch the videos and move on as you have roll in this life and that was not limited to a relationship there are bigger duties and expectations of you and you need to respect yourself and respect why you are here and go on to bigger and better things and build a new relationship and then again a new one if this new one did not work and then another if that did not work as these are just part of the experiences of the journey of life and not the entirety of this journey!
how are you now?
What if you think she was the best because you know you screwed up and you were the toxic one in the relationship and you just want one more chance to prove to her you can be the right man? :(
Let go and think of it as if it was a game " a soccer game", it is played it is finished and we go on preparing for the next opportunities. Just move on as you do not have to prove if you are the right man based on being her man or someone's man! You build yourself regardless of who will be your girlfriend. You prove to yourself not anyone els who and what you are through accomplishments and achieving your positive goals and how you affect the society or the communities you live in... Now that the relationship is broken up and she has moved on, you respect that and also respect yourself and you need not her or anyone to be the man that you can be. Move on and live your life happy and strong, become a better version of yourself always! Be good to yourself always.
Will u answer me please. Well was in love from 16yrs to 26yrs and ditched my man when hus parents asked him to marry. I was feeling insecure of his small lies, his body building craze and all that. He was forced into an arranged marriage by his parents and got divorced. All these while, past 4 yrs his fb pages just were targeted at me how he is missing me. I married later and applied for divorce on grounds of domestic violence. Now I get to know he is just married again. I congratulated himout of blue. (I blocked him everywhere possible) he is just telling me how he missed me, that's not a lie, i know through the fb and his posts. Now, he proposes me to be his second wife. I don't want to create such disrespect to my family. What to do.. I know i messed up my life.. But want to straighten it Though.. Any advice
I do not see a question here dear. Come to my livestreams and ask your question and I will address it. We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us and ask your question. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by CZcams) when I go live!
4:02 he made me want to be a better person. I dont wana meet anyone. I do wana sit and cry. It hasnt helped me but it hasnt caused me more stress than meeting someone else and doing it all over again -_- NEVER AGAIN!
Thank you for your videos. I know you are giving advice that makes sense. and I appreciate it. THANk YOU
It’s been a year since my long term relationship breakup. A hell of a roller coaster. I can’t believe how long it’s been and I survived. It still feels a little empty but I’m getting to know myself more and I can’t imagine another relationship anymore. Why did I do that to myself
@@janeswurld how are you now?