When You Run Into Your Ex!
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- čas přidán 22. 06. 2015
- "When you run into your ex! Effects of perceiving how your girlfriend was on you after the breakup. Why are we shocked of her behaviour after the break up" Is a friendly discussion on how we can deal better with after the breakup feelings and the after break up events and happenings as they come up, surface or come to our attention.
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Your insight and wisdom is beyond my comprehension. I have never heard anything else online remotely similar to what you have to say. It’s like you’ve had infinite experiences about everything you speak about and every time I listen to your talks it completely blows my mind how incredibly accurate you are
Thank you Stephane, I am glad that you enjoy the content. I wonder if you are the Stephan, the young man I met in the gym or just happened to have the same name. Have a good day, and hope you continue enjoying the channel. Mehran
This one really hit home for me, thank you so much for putting across such complex points in a concise and eloquent manner. I've known about mindfulness techniques for a long time but this was a great example of their practical and situational application. Humor always helps too. Thanks again for helping with this issue, it can seem so overwhelming at times but I'm getting through it. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for making these videos for us! You've helped me so much.
Thank you Mehran Dadbeh, i recently broke up with my girlfriend and your knowledge was very helpful to me.
Have a nice day.
Thank you ! I am finally making sense of it all
Thank you for your kind advice.
I can't tell you how much I am grateful for finding your videos online :) A lot of what you say resonates with me and is helping me get through a rough patch in my life, but I feel as though I need specific advice. I have been for the last few months in a complicated relationship that the other person was adamant that we were not boyfriend/girlfriend but merely very close friends. Throughout the time with her I have always struggled to come to terms with this yet continued to keep things going, as neither of us was willing to say goodbye, we both become easily attached. With in the last couple of weeks however she has taken an interest in wanting to meet a good friend of mine who I used to have a massive crush on but turned out to be a lesbian anyway when my girlfriend(to be honest I can't think of a better word to describe her as that was how she and I acted to all intents and purposes), who is bisexual found her on tinder. So they have seen each other a few times now within the last week and are apparently getting along very well. Me ex has said that she still wants to be best friends but wants to pursue a relationship with this other friend of mine. I can't help but feel very conflicted about what to do. Do I cut her out completely and risk losing two good friends in the process? How do I come to terms with the fact that these two women who I love now potentially want to be with each other on the level of intimacy that I have wanted but can't have with either of them now?
Ayrton Foote Hello Ayrton, thank you for your e-mail. So you are saying that you are hungry and are watching others eat and you are wondering if you should still sit there , watch them eat or should you go to a nice restaurant where they serve the food you want and are willing to share it with you and eat ? It all boils down to this one sentence above. I don't like to hang around and watch people eat while I can go some where where I can find the food I like, and enjoy myself at the table and not sit outside while people eat the food I may enjoy but are not offering me a chair at their table. So why would you hang around that table dear ? what friendship, what best friend, do you need them for their brain, advise on your day to day life ? What do they do for you with this so called best friend friendship? if there is some serious benefit to this friendship , ok stay friend with them but if you just have the hots for them and they don't give you sum and you end up like a dog with his tong out, then I don't think you should hang around and should have respect for yourself and go find yourself a suitable woman friend and have a normal friendship and see where it leads to . :) Just get busy with your own life and if they call for an event or get together for some event or outing from time to time then as a friend you may decide to join them if you have the time otherwise don't stand on the side line like the kid who want to be picket for the team and play but they don't chose him, so the heck with it, just move on dear. :)
Thank you so very much for your reply, it means a great deal to me, your thoughts and insights are helping me to deal with these emotions as well as helping me have a better understanding of why I feel this certain way. I wish you all the best and hope to meet you in person one day. Thank you very much you beautiful human being. :)
Perfect timing Mehran. This is exactly the situation I am going through right now and it has been playing on my mind. Your wisdom and humour has been a great help. Thank you and best wishes to you.
You are very welcomed :) Glad the videos are helpful to you. We have live streams on Saturdays at 1 and then again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join and ask a question or two if you like.
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hows it going Mehran! .. its been awhile since I've commented on here although I've always been watching.. I'm pretty much over my Ex now.. after 7 years of being in a relationship with her.. I am finally not caring about her or thinking about her at all about 6 months later. You did truly help me out of that rut I was in.. I just wanted to thank you again and I will definitely always keep watching you because sometimes things make me think of her like tonight.. The 4th of July.. kind of like what you said about the cherry.. well this day, The 4th Of July, reminds me of her and some of the time we spent together. but none the less thanks again and I enjoyed this video.. it was a really good example of the way people perceive things and such.. thanks! keep doing what you're doing there's no doubt you're gonna be a big help to many many people. talk to you soon!
MON3YonPC You are so welcomed dear. I am happy that you are stronger and dear on what needs to be done and continuing your journey with new vision and more clear vision and wiser and happier. This makes me happy as well.
Watch for my site to be launched and the books ( all 3 of them ) and Skype consultation....will be offered on it. New steps I am taking to help friends around the world and it is getting far bigger than I foresaw ! :)
Mehran Dadbeh You know I will mehran! I'd definitely check out one of your books you're a very insightful guy!
This was by far the real thing that I needed to hear to get up off my ass grow 😯some balls😯and move on ....upward onward here I come back to the real me again.... Thank you thank you thank you for putting it so eloquently and frankly
i'm from sri lanka love your videos. you have helped me a lot. keep making videos. i watch them every day. nice to see you like ceylon tea,
Of course, Ceylan tea is great :) Glad you enjoy the content Sharry. Please don't forget to promote the videos/ channel when you can! We need the exposure so I can reach and help more people as we are not so easily found on YouTUbe!
I love your videos sir, such wisdom and strength. You're one of my favourite youtubers, I can never get sick of watching your videos. It's been 6 months, of hell. My first love left me and said we will get back again. I honestly don't see a purpose of living anymore she was my only happiness in here and I can't cope without her.. im scared of the future and scared without her, even worse I plan on going university and she will be there and I don't know how I'll react if I see her with someone else. I was wondering if you could make a video about first love and how to get over them and how to let go most of all. Thank you sir :)
Sorry she said we wont get back together* the damn auto correct haha.
Muamel Karbouli Muamel, please stop diminishing the whole purpose of life and the meaning of life and what we are all here on this earth for by such talk of not wanting to live or can't cope without her..... she is not the purpose of you being born, her being with you or not is not the purpose of your life or the reason you have been chosen to be born. Please do not underestimate the importance of you and the importance of your life and your future contribution to the life as we know it on this earth. Please do not condense the whole experience of our lives to one relationship or to one 18 year old or 20 year old girl! life has lot to offer and in abundance. Just do your day to day duties and responsibilities and and socialize with positive people , engage in positive activities and be patient and give it time and you will see that you will be just fine and will lead a healthy and happy life. Every one has gone through such things and they all have come out of it perfectly fine and eventually enjoyed a very happy and strong and satisfied life and you will too, I am certain of this. How do you know what the future has in store for you? Watch these : czcams.com/video/TPMSr5k-xjE/video.html
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So just relax and socialize and enjoy every moment of life and your luck to be born and been given this mission of being in this world and contributing to how we all as a species should learn, experience, grow and develop into. We all need each other and no one is more important that the other unless they are being harmful to themselves or others, so stop talking as if your life is less important than any one else on this earth. Respect your life , the gift of life and be good to yourself, develop yourself and be prepared for the girl that at the right time will present herself to you. :)
Thank you so much sir, I love your videos. I cannot stop watching them. 100% I've probably seen the links that lead to the video lol haha :) I appreciate it a lot sir :)
Muamel Karbouli LOL. ok good keep watching dear . Just believe me when I am telling you, it will all eventually be ok, it will be just fine and eventually when you get your head in the right place ! :) or when you see another woman that you will find interesting , you will not even remember this one so easily . So just hang in there like the rest of us who went through the same stuff , but at the end we all came out of it just fine and enjoyed a lovely , happy life and wondered why, what and how in the world did we ever feel like the way we did for the girl . :)) in time you will not even remember why you felt the way you did and will call yourself silly:) believe it every one after getting over what ever it is they go through, they just wonder why did they ever felt that way for that girl.:) so enjoy and know that everything will be just great. Be good to yourself dear, you will be fine. I am certain of that.
I hope so sir I really do. Just don't know how I will react when I see her if I attend university... even worse if I see her with someone else. But I guess experience is the best teacher. I would really love a video on the first love Mr Dadbeh, I am sure the rest of the audience will also be thankful for it haha. :)
Woow...I have been stuck in my mind not being able to move on from my previous relationship..thank you so much mi mind has been unlocked
Glad to hear this. Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell to be notified for the live talks I have on the weekends.( free to ask your questions).
haha I asked for a jealousy themed video and this turned out to be it :)
Ceylon Tea😍. I am from Sri Lanka ,feel proud 🙂
Hello Sir Mehran Dadbeh how are you doing ? hope you're doing well :) you cannot imagine how your videos affect my daily life after a brokeup that comes totally from my ex she changed a lot suddenly everything between us has just vanished in the blink of an eye.. however sir i still think of her badly baadly even she starts a new job in an other city and starts to create a new relationships sometimes i call her she answers like nothing happens i heard her speaking with some guys and laughing and joking while i keep listening to her , she tells me to forget about any thing we spent together .. Dear Mehran i came to you as my idol as one of my parent as a wise because i trust you i swear god i believe in any single word you said.. i want you to help me get over this misery yes it's a misery i live within now :( because i'm a guy who loves and sacrifies his soul to the girl i love and want you to help me please .. your answer will be very much appreciated Sir Mehran .
Vârÿnn ràmpage how are you doing now???
Ohhh Ceylon tea. It is my country Sri Lanka 😍😍😍. I watch your videos and now feel better and better. This is my advice for tea, put some piece of ginger to it. More delicious 😋
Thank you, Will try it Ajith :)
Thanks!
I am glad you are enjoying the channel Emanuel,
There are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
The secret to manage a break-up and to be able to move on to a happy life is to understand how you are put together and why you feel, act and react the way you do in life.
Such knowledge is provided on this channel through numerous discussions ( in videos ), or when live streaming and exploring people's questions and concerns after a breakup, from around the world.
You will be perfectly fine once you get to know yourself a lot better! :)
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Hello Mr. Dadbeh,
Your videos are very inspiring. Recently I have been wanting to ask my cooworker out.i've known her for about 5 months. I think she might like me too. She always teases me or pokes me from time to time and I always make her laugh. But i dont know how to let her know my true intentions. Do you have any advice you could give me? I really want to date her. Thank you for your and I hope all is well
Shane Walsh Well in such circumstances I prefer if the lady makes a very clear signal for you to invite her on a date. In office environments usually things may develop between co-workers of opposite sex but it may also become awkward if and when things don't go well as hoped for and they end up breaking up their relationship. Therefore it is always best if you get a clear signal to ask her out or simply let her initiate the interest to go out. If they clearly express their interest in you for a date then there usually will be no doubt about the consent for such inner office date and it will never end up being considered as uncomfortable for the lady. Let her make this decision so she will not feel uncomfortable and her space would not be violated. It is very important for all specially women to feel comfortable when they work in an office / place of work and not feel as if they are being checked out or looked at, they should not be considered in any different way other than a co-worker. Bottom line is that in an office situations, even though you are the man, let the ladies initiate any possible relationship out of respect for their comfort and so they would be feeling safe and relaxed about being free to express themselves to their colleagues and not be misunderstood and end up uncomfortable. Remember right now you go to work and enjoy your work and have a simple "colleague " relationship with others, if you start dating a lady colleague then if things do not go right and do not become permanent ( which in most cases it will not become permanent as there will always be a division between people), then the whole work environment becomes rather an uncomfortable and wired place ...so perhaps best to find your girlfriend from out side of the office and keep this one a date fee office for your own sake and hers and the work ! :) So unless she feels very comfortable and expresses her interest clearly for you to ask her on a date, I would refrain from such invitations for the reasons mentioned above. ! :)
sir actually ma biggest problem is me n ma ex. belong to d same class in collage ...daily im suffrng coz shez vry happy witout me ..i daily see her ,shez vry happy dng her stuffs regularly n shez vry happy...she created a bad impression on me in ma class... bt i cnt b happy...wen ever i see hr smilng r i see her pics im feelng really very low...im suffring alot coz of tiz...im loosing ma conifidence...im tryng nt to see her pics bt i cant control myself...plz give ur advice...
I'm going through a very heartbreak stage. It is not a usual one. I was betrayed. My four years relationship boyfriend out of the blue just stopped talking to or I would say ghosted me on this New Year. I tried asking him what is it but didn't get any reply I thought he need space. Today he got married which I was not even aware of. out of the blue day before yesterday he just texted that he is getting married. I didn't know how to react so I did not say anything. but it is breaking my heart and making me crazy. I keep asking myself what have I done to deserve such disrespect. Please help me out if you can. It was still ok if he had told me he is breaking up with me. I would not have been this paranoid. What is that you can suggest so that I do not cry it out because I don't want to be a weak one. Even my previous relationship ended in a similar way. I was in a 4 year relationship then my ex got married without even breaking up with me. I told me a month after his wedding. I almost died then due to this betrayal. Same this repeated again. It is making me mad as if heart will burn. Please say something soothing that would console me. I don't want any kind of motivational talk or anything. Please help I badly need it.
Come to my live stream Anuesha and pose your situation/ question and I will discuss it. (today in 1 hour from now, Saturdays 1 PM Pacific north west time, West coast of North America TimeZone).
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My ex lives down the street from me literally 6 houses down and it’s hard for me to know that his new gf is there I don’t even want to go on a run anymore afraid I’ll see them and I hate sun bathing in my front yard because he has to pass by my house to go to the local grocery store . I feel so depressed I hate it I feel like I should move but that’s not going to happen right now
Hello Neslihan, let me know which country you are watching the videos from and how old you are. Don't forget to join us at the weekly live stream (free) on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and ask your questions and concerns, situations after break up, or just listen / watch the answer to other people's questions from around the world.
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doc i see her everyday :( it hurts me a lot .... what should i do ??
Decide not to want her, decide that she is not the right girl for you and that your thought made her seem as if she is the best for you but that is your desire through your thoughts thinking this but in reality she is not. if she was she would be with you and since she is not with you then she is not the right girl. your hormons are making your desiring her seem that she is the best but there are millions of other girls whom when you get to know them you will think they are even so much better than her....its all in your mind not that she is any god! :) as long as you know that it is your thoughts that make you feel this way then you kow it is thoughts and toughts can be ignored or changed. You are reacting to your thoughts so change your thoughts and your desires will not become so strong to make you think you love her or you cant live without her........