Why You Think The One Your Ex Is With Is Better Than You?
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- čas přidán 1. 05. 2016
- "Is The One Your Ex Is with now, Better Than You? Are Your Thoughts Real?" Is a friendly discussion on if my thinking is that "because my ex is now with someone else, therefore, that guy/girl is better than me", is correct or not and why.
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have to be honest i was really really bad when i got left by my ex after a 5 year relationship, and found out she found someone else, I was depressed and torn apart for the best part of 15 months and it took me that long to get over it.... your videos genuinely helped me get over it and finally begin to have a happy life again without her and move on so i cant thank you enough :)
You are welcomed "tobylee", I am delighted that the videos have been helpful to you. Be good to yourself always.
how are you doing now?
A lot of people just wanted something new not better because they often don't know what better is .
wise
well said
Had private coaching with Mehran,
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He is brilliant, understanding and very helpful.
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Thank you for your positivity and support! My ex and I broke up twice and its twice the pain. It's been 5 months and I still get thoughts about memories, I avoid places and I get scared to go to the airport because that's how we met up all the time. I also get scared and sad that he will be all intimate and he will want all the future plans we planned with someone else. I feel like I wasn't enough for him to stay and he got tired with distance. And since I suffer with depression and anxiety disorder. He wasn't mature enough to help and he was emotionally immature and he didnt have such good details to make me feel special. He hurted me many times. But my mind only wants to remember places we met, good times, intimacy, and places I'm my house when we met and we were together. It really sucked because we both still had love for eachother but he made it clear and he kept telling me to find other guys and to move on from him. We tried to be friends. Didnt work since we both still loved eachother but he became so mean and cold again. I sent him a letter exposing all my feelings and anger and thoughts and I exposed his wrong doings to me. But he called me a "disgusting human being". I texted him to apologize and I assumed things were better. But then I felt bad because I thought after that drama. He hated me and that he didn't love me anymore which bothered me. I have a hard time living knowing someone hates me or that they dont like me. Then he called me "accidentally" at 11:30 after 2 months and he kept saying that it was an accident. But remember. Were long distance. ( MD and FL). So I'm most likely the only number he has that starts with 240- and not 786-. Was it an accident? We catched up and he started to text me all the things that happened. I felt like we could have talked for hours but he just stopped because he didnt want to lead it to another relationship. He doesn't want a relationship with anybody right now but I'm afraid he will find someone who is closer and that he will forget about me. He blocked me in social media which helps but it's just too much emotional wounds. This video helps but my mind doesn't want to let go. Thanks. I hope you can respond!
Thnk u for sharing your wisdom sir Mehran. Greetings from Philippines
i cme to watch ur video because i like the way u enjoy ur every single sip of tea ..and ur appreciation for that cup of tea..its really great skill to appreciate those small thngs which makes us happy fr a moment.....
Mehran, I had a breakup that really hurt me and I was left so she could go be with someone else, on the first night it happened I had terrible awful thoughts and I found your videos, it is now over a month since it happened and I have some awesome days where I'm starting to love life again and find joy in everyone and the positive people around me, but I do often get these sad upset thoughts and I do think about her so much, about how she left me for him, with that said, I watched your other videos, and I have to keep thinking about the times I am happy, because as you say, it's like catching a cold, it can keep coming back often and often, time and time again, but I know, I can get rid of it, mehran you are a very very inspiring and lovely man! I never ever thought I could feel better, I wanted to die, But you are so calm and relaxed and it's a blessing you take the time out of your day to share your wisdom with people like me and so many others.Thankyou
+jack “badnoll31” horsley I am delighted that you feel strong and happy again. In time you will never ever even remember these experiences as the waves of the ocean of life will cover it all and resolve it in it's waters and none will be left other than when you command to recall for your entertainment and nothing else. :) Please make sure you like the videos ( thumbs up ) and share the ones you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others get to visit my site and enjoy and benefit from my work as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
I'm just like you, going on two months. The first month was devastating for me. Keep your head up
@jack"badnoll31", the same thing happened to me last month. How are you holding up now?
What amazing insight! You're so helpful. Thank you ~
You are welcomed Carla. Again please share what you like on your social media if you will :)
Fantastic as per usual! Fortunately I'm feeling great at the moment but before your videos have really helped me through tough times. Thanks for the time and effort you spend on the channel!
+Will Brennan Hello Will, You are welcomed dear. I am delighted that you enjoy the videos and feel better and stronger. Please make sure you like ( thumbs up ) the videos you enjoy and share the ones you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others get to visit my site and enjoy and benefit from my work, sample chapters of the books, e- books, sample video of live seminars.... as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran P.S please let me know what age category you are in and from where are you watching the videos.
Mehran Dadbeh Again thank-you for making them! I'll be sure to spread the word. On the last question, I'm 19 years old and I'm watching the video in the UK.
Thank you for this. Needed to hear it.
You are welcomed dear. :) Glad the videos are helpful to you. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Wow! I'm so thankful! Your channel r so different than the others here in CZcams, I'm so satisfied by this video and so excited to hear more
Glad the videos are helpful to you. We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by CZcams) when I go live!
@@MehranDadbeh that's great, i hope i can be there on time! Well I'm from Saudi arabia, 25 old + i already did that, thank u ;)
i needed this!!!
im experiencing this at this moment,eventhough my ex keep hiding that she has another guy..mans instinct is always right..weve been together for 7 yrs,and she left me after i found out that shes cheating on me.
me vs me really deep, this help me understand the reason on how this battle is so hard and my behavior is so weird, Thanks Doc
+Oz0 Good , glad you enjoy the videos dear. Make sure you share the ones you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others get to know my work as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
your videos are really helpful Sir...helped me a lot....i liked specially the one in which you explained that We are the creator...after watching your videos i started thinking about the other side(good side)..really motivational....Thank you..:)
Brajesh Singh you are welcomed Brajesh. I am glad that the videos are helpful to you.
I love how u put things and thoughts into different perspective of relationships it's guiness but can you tell me the name of the video you talked about girls being shiny pebbles, I wanna watch it again tys so much it's a blessing finding your videos!!
Only if you promise to share it on your social media! :)
Here is what you are looking for : czcams.com/video/guMDhsmVNHA/video.html
Glad you are enjoying the videos. Mehran
wow thank you :) help a lot
+Ghost You are welcomed dear. Make sure you like the video and share the ones you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others get to visit my site and enjoy and benefit from my work as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
I really enjoy your videos. Would I right be right in thinking that you are familiar with Krishnamurti? A lot of shared ways of thinking :)
Mr.Jiddu Krishnamurti has had a profound effect on my continued understanding of the human psyche, and without studying his work for thousands of hours and many many years I could not get the fragments I needed to understand and be able to help understanding such topics
@@MehranDadbeh I am in exactly the same boat as you :) A profound effect is exactly how I would describe it on me also; almost earth shattering. A lot of hard truths, but truths nonetheless.
Hi Mehran. First of all thank you for all your work and dedication in helping people. I have one question, regarding what you said at the end of this video: the thought that his new gf is better has no reality, why do we believe it? But what about if he told, before leaving the relationship, "you are not what I expected, I will leave, I want to find something better, I deserve it, I am a free man". Hurt like hell when it was said, and now 1 month after the breakup he is with another girl (don't know how she looks like or how is she like, never saw her), but what he told me for sure before leaving was: I go back to this girl, we used to be together at some point in life, now I will be with her.
Are my thoughts of her being better legit?
Thank you and any reply would be much appreciated :) Love you all!
Hello Loana, thank you for your kind words and you are welcomed !:)
Now in respond to your very easy question I say : who died and put yr ex in charge of making opinions about you and your qualities? who said tbat whatever bul shit this guy says would have any weight to it or any acceptability? who gives a damn about what he says about you and who made him any credible authority in passing judgement on people and in this case on you. the answere is : nobody, his words does not worth a broken straw in dirt. you somehow think because the guy has left then that makes him better than you and hence entitle to have à opinion about you or the word he uttered could have any vàlue to it. no his opinion is not vàlid and you have been conditioned to believe such crap. obviously it is yr luck that some one who is so unappreciative of you and has such low self steam that hopes by saying negative and disrespectful words he can feel valuable has left your life so you can now be free ànd find and chose better :) live your life and do not listen to people who àre unable to keep a relationship and instead try to make it look like as if it is some one els's fault for his own selfishness and short coming. Be good to yourself always and stop paying attention to such people and the negative words coming out of their mouth. Mehran :)
Thank you, Mehran for your fast reply. My low self esteem (I am introvert and shy) might have been a cause for attracting a man like him (mirroring) but I am working on accepting and validating myself without outside need, and you actually saved my life in the last month, by watching your videos and doing my stepper routine every morning I feel better and better :) I've sent you an email last week about the e-books, I want to buy them. Do they come in .pdf format?
Yes Loana, they do come in pdf. I think you get 3 versions in a package and one of the 3 is pdf.
My ex cheated I know I don't want her I don't want to even spend life with her or talk to her but I can't control my self from msging her and talk to her why is that me knowing she's not the one, not the right person to be with me knowing I can be happy without her why is that I can't stop thinking about her and keep msging and giving her signs that I'm desperate?
Hi man, i am currently feeling what you are feeling. Its been 2 month and i’m still thinking about her. I am sure you are over her, just wanna know how long does it take for you to move on completely.
Dear Mehran, im also very thankfull for ur help. Can i ask u a question. These things this wisdom which u have comes also from ur experiences, right? So tell me in what age or what ever happened to u where u finaly realised that U are good enough? Thanks for ur respons. Greetings from Lia from Slovakia 😍🙏💚
Lol, no Amelia, not everything one says, analyses or discusses is from personal experience but they are from research and then analyzing the movement of the mind inwardly and apply the research to the topic and see how the mind would or could move. It mostly about understanding the movement of the fragments of the psyche and if every one would be able to do this inwardly then there would be no need for me and that freedom that I am hoping to introduce to people would be realized and my mission is accomplished! :) I generally had this type of mind which went deep into discovery of roots and reasons... so I could use it to educate myself through research and years of attention to the movements of the mind, thoughts, our psyche.
My partner of 8 years left me for a younger person. Well, good luck that new person.
my problem is that my ex wants to remain best friends with me after she ended the relationship. we get on very well as friends, but I still feel attraction to her. I've told her I can't talk to her for a few weeks to "get over her" and she's very hurt. Should I just move on, or is it possible to be close friends with an ex? We were good friends before the relationship also.
+ItsOttis It is hard to tell, usually best is to move on and in a good while, like a few months or a year or so you may have no romantic feelings towards her any more and be comfortable to be friends. But for now perhaps best to go on your separate ways as it is still too fresh...
Nice video. Well my ex boyfriend said she was better cuz she has her own business & I just have a job. She doesn't have kids but I do.
lol then if that is his measuring unit for what people's value and credentials are then you are better off not to listen to such opinions and build a happy life for yourself with some one who can see the value in you and not basing it on such nonesense. Be good to yourself always. :)
Some people are just more compatible with another.
My dear love gat married a simple nice girl with no skill at all even she do not now how to love a man ok see you in heaven .....
I broke up with someone because she wasn't for me..wasn't good enough for me. Now the same has happened to me; i wasn't good enough.. So I guess it's true because the first girl wasn't good enough for me. It really hurts
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