How To Move On After A Break Up!
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- čas přidán 15. 03. 2015
- How to move on after a breakup! Is the topic of this friendly discussion in regards to things we need to make ourselves aware of in order to move on from the break up easier and sooner than later. The two videos that you want to watch after or before watching this video: • How To Move On And Bui...
• After A Break Up What ...
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I stopped following all these “get your ex back” channels and only watch Mehran from now on. He’s the only one that gives you a no bullshit approach to getting what’s most important back.... YOURSELF!
Delighted you enjoy the videos and find the channel constructive and helpful to you.
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She doesn't care. I am keeping it alive in my mind. She has moved on. I must do so too. I am worthy.
Thank you, sir.
Some of us want to go back into our broken relationship.
Some of us even beg.
Some take to drinking, drugs, suicide...
Some jump right into a new relationship...
Some decide to give it time...
Some decide to move on...
About moving on: One has to make sure we move on in the right direction, come out a better self, a wiser self, a stronger self...
I watched a few of this man's videos a couple of years ago, after a break up and, I am so much better now that, she, the woman who cheated on me and dumped me, has tried to get me to go back to her but, I will not, simply because I have moved on. I know who she is, I know how she is and, I have no feelings towards her, no bad feelings, no good feelings. She is simply a woman that once was in my life. All I can say now is "I owe a great deal of my present self to Doctor Mehran Dadbeh".
Thank you for the kind words oooC. I appreciate it and delighted that you are strong and happy. Just remember that I am not a psychologist or doctor of any kind. But I appreciate the kindness. :)
Thanks for this comment
I cried so much listening to this because it slaps the reality in your face
glad you found the video helpful Aida.
Wow! Strong statement exactly, " Life doesn't give a sh$t what your going through"!!!
Therese Meggitt Glad the videos are helpful to you Meggitt.
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Be good to yourself always. Mehran
What I like about your advice is that you approach this whole life business realistically , you do not assume that you have some secret that we have to find to be enlightened. Although I suspect your practical advice comes from a deeper well.
It's as if you did all the meditation for us and now you give us the abridged version. Love it !
Sir, you are without a doubt the most helpful to anyone who grasps your knowledge and holds on to it! I replay so much of your willingness to give! Thank you so much for sharing!
+Isaac Flowers Thank you for the kind words dear. Share the videos you like on your social media if you will so others will get to know about it and it would be appreciated if you also post my site on your social media so the site will get known as well, they could have a sample chapter of each book to read when they visit the site. www.mindthatseekstruth.com with thanks, be good to yourself, keep moving forward, Mehran :)
I think the best parts of your videos is that you still make me laugh. Even in pain.
Great work.
alamaja1 Lol . I am glad that they have been helpful dear . :)
I've been watching your videos since lastnight and you are motivating me to stay true to myself and stay in touch with reality. Thank You so much.
Just recently, the person whom I had been involved with for just over a year, told me that she no longer had romantic feelings(physical attraction still present however) towards me but for someone else starting in the last 2 months. We both stepped into our fling with no idea of what we wanted out it. We became best-friends indeed, then lovers after. No expectations, we just knew that at that point in time, we were crazy about one another, and that was the force driving our unofficial relationship. Not to mention, she doesn't want a serious relationship...she is free-spirited. The idea of her possibly dropping the "single" act for this other person has me doubting myself and asking "What about me isn''t enough for you?". Lastnight I stayed up until 3am just asking her dozens of questions(especially some that I'm not entitled asking in terms of her new love interest) in search of closure and a sense of understanding. She cried because she felt bad about how she went about the whole situation, seeing how much it was hurting me that she just couldn't bring herself to express her feelings upfront. She dreads hurting people.
Honestly, I've been so frustrated with her for only "hinting" towards her wanting to date other people as well as the sudden distant behavior, not reciprocating. And I've been frustrated with myself for being in denial and trying to be optimistic in the face of red flags (ex. distance, texting whomever much more than usual, hinting at not wanting to be committed only when I questioned her). I always thought that loving someone was a "work in progress". I'm aware of when the honeymoon phase wears off, and I'm always willing fight to keep my love alive. I've never been the one to entertain the idea of being with someone else, I pretty much just remind myself "Nope, that leads to affairs. I value what I have here". I understand that not one single person is at fault. I like to believe that there is constant change due to "natural forces" and that she just adapted in whichever way she felt would add value to her life.
Nonetheless, she is an amazing friend. We share great moments, which is why it is hard for me to cut her loose completely(NC)...and plus we dorm together anyway.
She apologized to me multiple times and advised that I learn to love myself. That I should have more respect for myself rather than trying to stick around with someone who is no longer making it their duty to fulfill my needs. She's right, I realized that I depended on her for my happiness and expected too much of her. Since I literally share a suite with her, there is no NO Contact rule. I just have to ride it out until the semester is done. During that time, I'll be on the road to discover how to be happy with my own company and accept that a partner is more complementary than someone who completes a chunk of me. I have to take responsibility for my well being and good shall follow...naturally.
+Ashley Canty Look up on the list of videos available on my channel as all these questions have been addressed in friendly discussions. Enjoy and know that this too will pass and it is normal what you are going through and there is not a thing wrong with you due to her inters in some one else or lack of continued romantic interest in you. This is not a reflexion on you but on her as she is unable to find what brings her happiness and she thinks by changing mate this may accrue. The happiness that she is looking for is not where she is searching for it and neither is yours in her or any one else so relax and enjoy getting to know where happiness resides then look for a girl friend ! :) For example these ones are discussions to watch .
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Please let me know where you are watching the videos from and what age category are you in. Please share the videos you like along with my site adress www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media so others will get to know about my work and get a chance to read a sample chapter of my books and go from there. Be good to your self :) With thanks, Mehran
Favored it!! Thank you, you helped me realize how I should deal with my heart and my life! That I should focus on life, and accept that this happened such as many other things will happen. Again, thank you very much! Your work is just amazing.
mister mehran you really helped me go through every hard and painfull time in my life . i thank u for your hard work and your wonderfull talk , it has effected me positively . thank you again very much
Mehran is to psychology who Bill Gates is to computers! I have studied psychology as a physician for decades and I have never heard a master to look at the mind in such ease and from so many powerful angles in such ways that make the problems very manageable for his audience.
Thank you for the kind words Daniel. I am delighted that you find the videos interesting. Would invite you to share the videos that you like on your social media and do visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and enjoy the sample video of a seminar I did on "The End of Fear " at Capilano university a few months back as I think you may find it new in it's content and approach and enjoy it. With happy wishes, Mehran
I am so grateful for you making these videos. You have helped me tremendously. Thank you so much.
And I can't say how much I love your talk .YOU ARE AMAZING
I found this video to be empowering! It helped to shift my perspective. I love the analogy with the pebbles on the beach, and that we can "create" this special relationship again in the future. Thank you , thank you.
OHHH Mehran !! Each an every on of your videos helped me in deferent way but this is one of your bestest video for me ,that helped me to wake up after my problem and see everything how it is . I fallen in love to your videos . I cant stop saying thank you cause my whole world changed after I find you. You are like a treasure for me that I will never forget your contribution in my life. I love watching your videos and I don't miss even one.
Just gave you your 1000th WELL DESERVED like for this video! Thank you Mehran for your sound, practical advice for getting through my heartbreak and regret and working to begin the journey of rebuilding my life!
ur videos are gr8!
when i feel anxiety i jst play ur videos and it helps me calm down. thanku!
Hi Sir Mehran,
I just broke up with my ex earlier this month. The first and second week, especially, I was in really great pain. So much tears, sleepless nights & negative thoughts. The 7 years we had was amazing and I thought she was my world. When dreams collapsed, I was completely lost and lost my will to live. For me I couldn't find anyone better. I also have sort of guilt for not being able to protect the relationship. I blamed myself for not trying hard and be the best for her. But, thank you for your video. I feel much relieved now. Yeah, I am scared to face the world and even to venture into a new relationship but I am posotive that life will turn good for me...
Now that what I like to hear. The whole thing is part of the experience of life and certainly life will be great for you and have no doubt about that. The world you had made for yourself through that relationship was made by you and you are the main ingredient for that life and you can sure make another one and even a better one as you are the creator of it all! :) Go and enjoy every moment of your life as no one is a god and no one is the main ingredients of your happiness but you / your thoughts. So build a new and move on from the relationship that for one reason or another is no longer the way you wish it to be. :) Be good to yourself always. Mehran :)
Mehran Dadbeh...tqvm
Maximillian del Rosario how’s life been going for you since the break up? Hopefully well for you.
Great video, it's hard to let go off the
past because of the wounds we carry.
wow, I missed class and work today because I felt like just doing nothing :( but you are totally right life keeps going .thanks good advice!
Thank you again for this! I appreciate your knowledge and willingness to share in order to heal those with troubled situations.
You are welcomed Carlo.
I love it how you smile when you mention the energy of the universe. It's like you are radiating that energy. I love how you spend so much time to help people of our likes in the situation that doesn't have much help available. You are like a friend to many of us broken souls. When the realisation hits that the person you thought cared about you the most leaves you in the dumps, one is shattered, but then finding people like you who spend their valuable time and effort in making thoughts and ideas permeable to our impervious mindset really helps get back hope. I hope I find happiness in myself. I wish you all the best of the world. And a big Thank You for all that you do. May God(if you believe in one) be with you.
Shyamu Singh Thank you Shyamu. I am delighted that the videos are helpful to you. I am sure you will be happy and will find this happiness in its right place ( within you ) and you will be able to generate your happiness independent of the role of others in your life. Be good to yourself always and thank you for the kind words. Mehran
Great video again, thank you so much 😊
I've been going through a difficult time and your videos are really helpful and sensible. Keep up the good work, Sir. And thank you!
You are very welcomed Era. I am glad that the videos are helpful to you.
I moved on but i still watch your videos ! I like your logical thinking and i'm applying what you says about breakups on all my relationships (with friends, strangers etc ...)
Glad the videos are helpful to you Prekas.
It took 2 months and 10 days fro me to find your contribution. Thank you for sharing this frely on CZcams. I am working on watching all of them , as I need to learn from your wise perspective on break up matters. I am in mid 40s, watching in New Zealand, but am from California, USA.
You are very welcomed, delighted that the videos are helpful to you Carolyn. What a beautiful age you are in. The whole life is ahead of you. I remember mine, that was an amazing time of life as it is every day of it :) Remember today is the first day of the rest of your life!. So don't waste it on living in your memories as you are alive and the memories are all non existent and dead. Build new and live your life every day of it with appreciating small things which is the building blocks of anything big! :) Please share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you could so others will also get to know about my work and could read sample chapters of my books and watch sample video of my recently done seminar at Capilano university titled "The End Of Fear " and most find it interestingly new and most probably the first time ever this subject is presented in this way. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
P.S. You can also like my Facebook page " Mind That Seeks Truth " and stay updated with interesting stuff I post.
This man rocks!!
wow I missed class and work because I felt so bad, but you are so right life keeps going, thank you great advice
you are simply the best!!
You help me so much, Mr DAdbeh! Love from Brazil
You are welcomed dear. I am delighted thatvthe videos have been helpful to you. You can also visot www.breakupclub.ca and share stories with other people around the world and get their opinion, make opinion on theirs and supportveach other. You can like my face book page " mind that seeks truth " as I will anounce when my books will be inprint in January ...and visit www.mindthatseekstruth.com to view sample chapter and table of contents of the books. Be good to yourself. Mehran. :)
Loved the video ❤
This "needing someone to approve us" really got to me. I think the times I felt most pain when relationships fell apart was when I felt rejected by the person and felt like I wasn't good enough. That it was a matter of me not being good enough or mattering enough to that person. It was even more painful when I watched them moving on so soon with someone else. Because that was like a proof to me that I wasn't good enough but someone else was and was even better than me. So when does the pain of "missing that person for who they really are" ends and pain of "I'm not good enough" begins? They need to be dealt separately I think. Isn't it that many times a broken heart is really a "broken validation"? You make many valid points.
I am glad you find them helpful. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Thank you. I'm feeling better while I watch your videos. Norway and 26 years old.
I admire your videos it has helped me a lot. Keep them coming! maybe you should do a episode on how to deal with your ex moving on with the girl/guy he cheated on you with.
Chanel number5 glad you enjoy the videos. similar to what you are sugesting is already on the channel. hope you will search for it. keyword would be "betrayed" and is the title for the other one is " is the one my ex with now better than me? are your thoughts real?
It was awesome :) hahah Its was my F**king mind LOL i really appreciate your help there! :P
You’re getting me through the freshness of my breakup. She’s not with me. She’s with someone else. She’s not my responsibility. It’s pain af to say but true and present.
good 😊
ur discussn r based on both psychology nd scientific reality.its truly da real approach to peoples problems.nyc job sir.keep it up.God bless u.
I am glad you find them helpful Toufigue. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
P.S.
How to join the live talks:
You can join my live talks on Saturdays (At 11.30 AM Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone.) on Fb Page:
facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/
or on Sundays ( Same time ) on Fb Pagefacebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/
This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk:
LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
Sunday 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic),
12.30 after midnight (India) Right here on this link: facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/
czcams.com/users/MD007ish
www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
I was going through a very bad phase and found your videos here. I must say you changed my thinking about relationships and for now I'm fine. I'll be great in the coming days and will deal with it. However, my case is a little bit different than others maybe. I hope you could solve it. Love from India, amazing videos. You are really helping a lot of people :)
Delighted to hear that you are strong again and see clear to enjoy your life Lakshay. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Thanks for letting me know from which country you are watching the videos, please also let me know to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Mehran Dadbeh I'm 21. Way to go and i think that i would be able to clear out my mind, stay focused and maybe love what i do. Work is my juice nowadays. Will surely share a channel with this kinda awesome content. :)
I was going through a bad break up, but after watching 4 videos of yours I so feel renewed... Sir your videos are so helpful... thank you so much your wise words healed my soul and gave me hope... Thank You so Much
Wise words ❤️
You are welcomed Alda, I am glad you find them helpful. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
your Videos are absolutely the best help i have ever recieved, post break up.
your help and videos means the World to me
You are welcomed Peter. I am delighted that you feel the videos are helpful to you and see clear that life has lot more to offer than one relationship. :) Please make sure to share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others will get to know about the help that is available. I also have a live talk on Sundays 10.00 AM pacific time ( west coast Canada time ) on a FB page called " Amazing things in the world “ ( here is the link : facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ ), and usually I answer questions at the end of the 10-15 minute talk, you are welcomed to join us there. If you visit my FB page “ Mind That Seeks Truth ( Author ), you will get all the announcements for the live talks...Also please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. Be good to yourself always. with thanks, Mehran
I like that you don't rely on the No Contact Rule. You aim to guide your audience down a path that helps them to live up to their potential and accept the hard truth, not just cutting off contact until feelings fade. I'm wondering, do you have any extra advise for someone in my shoes? I share a dorm suite with "ex" and I told her that I wish to remain good friends despite our differences. She, too, feels the same.
Dear Ashley, just noticed your comment. I am sorry as this one might have simply slipped through the cracks and I did not see it till today! :) If your concern is still in your way, then let me know and I will respond. Otherwise I think after two years it might no longer be a concern or you have found the way to deal with it by now! :)
thank you again I love your speech it is was really good help for me
You are welcomed.Aziz. Have a wonderful week dear. Be good to yourself always. Mehran :)
Hello sir, I must say I've seen some of your videos and they're very encouraging. However, I'm still battling with my most recent break-up (almost 4 months since). I was very controlling and insecure in my previous relationship, and I think that's what 'shook her core' like you said in another video. The problem is I know it was my fault, I know I messed up, but knowing that makes me hurt more because I feel like I killed something that meant the world to me (my relationship). I know if I would of been more secure in my own skin, she would probably be with me still, and I know that was the problem because it was what annoyed her the most. Everyday I wake up with this overwhelming sense of guilt of the love that I let go. She didn't leave me for anyone else, at least not to my knowledge, but the break up hurt the both of us and we haven't spoken since. I'm having a really difficult time moving on, the hope of her coming back is still my head, and trust me, I've tried my best to alleviate the effects of my toxic thoughts. Any advice you can share?
How are you now sir? Im in the exact same situation as yours, 3 years go. Could you please respond how u are doing?
@@Optitius Kazushi-san, the fact that hasn't responded means he is fine as you will be too soon my friend. Time heals all.
I watch this video 5 times I love it thank U thank U I realy love it it make me move on in life Thank U thank U
I had to come to the reality of my situation and realize that I have to much life to live and happiness to give then to be miserable and unhappy
Your the best!
this stuff helps
I have tried talking to my family and getting their support but they just get annoyed and ignore me whenever I am depressed. Your videos have helped me a lot, they have been the only words of wisdom I have ever received. If I had a father I would want him to tell me these things.
+Edw Life Thank you dear. You will be fine I am certain of this. Your family probably knows that you will be fine and that is why they do not spend too much time on it. Just get to know new friends and be active in positive fronts, attend to your day to day stuff and responsibilities and be patient. In time things will always change as your life is not condensed to a girl or one relationship dear. You are not alone, we all have had such experiences and we all came out of it just fine and you will too. :) Let me know how old you are and from where you are watching the videos. With kind regards, Mehran :)
+Mehran Dadbeh I am 19 from Los Angeles Ca, I am feeling much better and I have been feeling a lot better and I have been considering joining the army, it has been something I have thought about for a very long time and now seems like a good time
+Edw Life Do not make such serious decisions when you have just broken up and depressed. This is not a time to make such decisions. when you feel happy and have a new girlfriend then you think about serious things.
Thank you, I will wait a while.
Sir the thing that I'm struggling with is that I was lucky to get this girl in the first place. Now I'm getting girls who aren't as good as her, she had looks plus she had a good heart but I'm getting a kind hearted girl who is fat or a good looking girl who has too much attitude so that's why I miss her because she was the total package.
Henry, you make her seem as a total package as you know you deserve a total package, but if she truly was a total package then she would be with you! Since she is not( for any reason whatsoever) then this means that it is not compatible and then how could a non-compatible woman be the total package? Think deep and move on, a total package in your mind is an idea but a real-life needs a real harmony where the couple stay together and then that harmony is a total package. Watch my video: czcams.com/video/-5jV5BROLSI/video.html
I hope it will help you to see more clearly.
Hope you have subscribed and share the videos you like so we could reach more people and help more people around the world for a happier and more balanced life. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
It's been six months since my ex left me, he's with someone else and I've been stuck in my head blaming my not being able to move on because I see him everyday. Your point on "the reflection of an event on calm water" resonated with me. I still find it very difficult to get over this breakup but it's helpful to hear the analogy - i'm looking for the reflection of the stone because i know where it was thrown. It's all over, i need to let go and stop thinking about it.
Candice B tell me about it .. I try so hard but I see my ex everyday and cannot seem to let it go
Iron Rule of Tomassi #7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Thank you !!
You are welcomed Christopher.
I really appriaciate your videos :-) thank you so much :-)
You ar welcomed dear. Please tell me from which country you are watching the videos and what age group you are in. You could share the videos you like and my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others will get to know about my work as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran :)
tnx
Danke!
bitte schon
thanks a lot everything is so true and I am going to get back my order I had 6 months ago !
+Charlotte Soares Good that's what I like to hear. Be good to yourself and enjoy every minute of your life dear. Mehran
you are simply the bes!!
romario jelinski thank you romario. glad you enjoy the videos and find them helpful. :)
Man youre open my mind&thank you!!
wow your amazing 👏👏
You remind me of my grandfather he was a lovely man.
Thank you :)
i love your videos sir
Thank you, glad you enjoy them.
Thank u so much!! i have my exam in less than 12 hrs and i wasnt able to concentrate on my studies.. watching ur video helped me gain a little confidence that things will be better if we set our mind! thank u so much :)
Focus on the exam as there will be time to be unfocused later on after the exam but must not allow break up to destroy your chances to advance in life. The break up will eventualy be forgotten but if you allow your opportunities like exams to be affected because of the break up then you have allowed the break up to interfere into your life and chances to succeed and that will be felt even after the break up is forgotten. So focus on yr studies ànd after exàm if you want sit down ànd be sad if you wanted but not now. :) You will be perfectly fine and happy no matter how you feel now. So just be patient and attend to you duties and responsibilities. Please tell me from where you are watching the videos ànd what àge category you are in. Thanks , Mehran
I'm 20yr old , from India. I have recently had a break up from a serious relationship of 4 and a half years.. since he was cheating on me.. i saw ur videos they are really helpful.. thank u sir :) u r marvellous, and may god bless u :)
If he was cheating on you then even worse , Why would you even consider missing some one who was cheating on you. Move on and find some one who would be loyal to you. This relationship was an experience for you to chose better and chose wiser in the future. Enjoy your life and do not stay in sadness as life is passing and such things is not worth staying sad for more than a couple of week and as soon as you realize that nothing of this sort worth staying sad then move on and enjoy life as this that bothers you is no longer in existence so it should not be of any consequence as it is gone and no longer exists and now that you know the facts you must be happy and sure that it was not up to your standards and it is now free and happy to move on and find some one worthy of your attention. Be good to yourself always. :)
A part of me knows that it is not worth it, the worst is he is'nt sorry of wat he did, he has'nt asked a sorry yet. It is me who is still wants to stay in touch. I decided we should be friends. He agreed that too. But is'nt behaving as one. He still replies late and partly ignores me too. Should i stop talking to him?completely?
That would be a sessile respond. Free yourself from whomever is not respectful or worthy of your friendship. Do not run after people and do find a relationship which is equally engaging and positive in the interactions.
I have to man up and deal with life thanks !
I actually feel better....I have been upset after quitting my job and breaking up with my fiancé for months..
I am glad you find them helpful Marcella. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
P.S.
How to join the live talks:
You can join my live talks on Saturdays (At 11.30 AM Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone.) on Fb Page:
facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/
or on Sundays ( Same time ) on Fb Pagefacebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/
This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk:
LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
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I think the hardest part is letting go of what you think is so special, in reality like you said, there gone and could be with someone else which is so disrespectful in my mind. Epically after 3 years of being together, it just trips me out on how she can just let me go and act like I'm not that big of a deal. It makes me wonder what the hell is wrong with me and makes me wonder if she cheated on me behind my back. I think the not knowing of why she broke up with me is what is really messing with my head. Any advice?
@100610908105913955335 Who cares why, the reality is that you do not want ever to be with some one who does not want to be with you as no one who does not want to be with you or is committed to you deserves to be your choice. So who cares why she left or did this or that, the fact and the important thing is that you no longer trust or desire her as once you did as she is no longer the girl you once knew and loved because of how she was as she is no longer who she was or as she was whom you liked. So You no longer want her any ways. :) She can be with whomever she wants as non of them are you and that she does not deserve to be with you and deserves what she is or will be with. You deserve better , some one loyal who values you as she should and could be expected, if you do not value yourself , then no one else will do either. So no need to think of her or whys or who she is with or not as non of them have anything to do with who you are, your character, how good you are and your class, worth or value. What she did , does or will do, how she is or will be has no reflection and is no reflection on you or about you. You are you and independent to her thinkings, actions, behaviour, or choices. Always remember that. Go on and find what you can trust to build something with and if they do not deserve it then let them go and look for another till the right woman presents herself. life is bigger than one relationship or one girl. lets do not condense this amazing life filled with opportunity and possibilities to one girl . Who is she, how can she represent the whole of possibilities and what life has to offer ? Then simply relax and see the world, life as huge as it is with all it's possibilities and enjoy with lots of hopes and happiness of all wonderful things that life has in store for you and will surface at the right time. Expect that better life and people who will be in your life and await you. She is of no consequence in the big picture of life so do not treat her as if she is more than some girl who has no magical or special abilities to make the world better or as if she can cure a common cold. She is not a deciding factor in your happiness unless you give her such illusory powers which is then fooling yourself as in the reality of the world she is inconsequential in your life and your world. She was an experience of your age and that is it . lets now move on with bigger and better things in mind as life has lot more to offer and all will unfold itself and all that awaits you as the time advances.
@@MehranDadbehadd in there she’s not yours it’s just your turn .
Sir, I am devastated in such a way i cant actually describe in few words. However, i have decided to let go everything and become a power so that i can also protect others at the same time. Tear will come to the eye lid but I will force it to back where it came from.I want to make videos like you, although i dont have any educational background in this field but i believe i have to do it. Could you please let me know if it is possible or not...need some suggestion.
Just saw your comment. Of course it is possible, why not? just say what you feel has helped you and that makes good sense and share what you feel could be of use to others and see how it goes. You may or may not wish to continue after a video or two or a few but at least then you know if it can work for you and useful to you and to the others or not. :)
Hi sir . I Urgently need your advice ?
My girlfriend and I have been living together for four years . We were two young lovers in a foreign country (she was 19 and I was 23 when we met ). I was gonna move to her country and propose to her in June 20 , 2020 ( the day we met). she went back to her country for work and we have been in long distance relationship since August 2019 . Unfortunately the covid 19 travel restrictions made my plans to go to her country impossible. She was laid off from her work, and got broke , she got mad that I didn’t send her celebration gifts or pocket money , I was also depressed and forgot about gifts whatsoever and I was saving money for bigger things ( I am graduate student in a foreign country and apart time teacher). At the beginning of April she dumped me , she met a guy older than her about 10-15 years , I saw their pics on Instagram . Even though we still chat sometimes I think she has already moved on .Being dumped during pandemic like this has been extremely hard for me . I stuck a lone now in my apartment due to lockdown. Soon i need to sit for an English test and prepare for admission documents for doctoral studies . I wanna focus on my plans but I can’t now , I thought she was the love of my life and I wanted to marry her. She was my first serious girlfriend . That’s why it’s so hard for me now to move on . Every time I am thinking maybe she will come back to me . Any help please ? Thank you !
Focus on your life and she is no longer important regardless of how important she used to be. She used to be different and so she was important but now she is no longer the same so she has lost her importance but your life is still and will always be important so do not sacrifice your future , english exam, doctorate degree... for someone who has now proven could not be relied on and is actually small minded ( gift and nonsense are no reason to break up if one is intelligent and is a woman to build a life with). Take a break from being sad or thinking about her until the exam is done then you can sit down and cry for 100 days 24 /7! :) but now the important thing is the exam and your path to a bright future with a woman who can berreliable and with good head on her shoulders and not this one who has no proper judgement and perspective on life and the challenges. Let her go and you prepare for continue and accomplish yourself and your career and get ready for a real woman you will meet when you are ready and as things change back to normal in the world. You will meet someone who will suit you properly when the time comes. Now just focus on your exams and nothing else. watch these videos and get serious with your life.
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Mind That Seeks Truth! Thank you very much sir ! I read your message 6 times so far , every each word goes straight to my heart . One thing thing is that it takes two hands to clap . Of course there are mistakes from my side too , I was quit controlling and jealous boyfriend at the beginning but I was very young, before we used to apologize to each other and work out our issues . It’s just this time she gave up on us . I was really shocked and devastated , I even lost 12 kg since April ( on the positive side it’s good because I was fat lol ) . I remember at the end of 2018 when she was diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis at a young age, she was so depressed and hopeless . I was there for here , I helped her emotionally and cared for her. I didn’t leave her side no matter what! Looking back now I realized maybe I cared too much . Or maybe she is the dependent-type of girlfriend . Maybe she needs constant financial help and support from her partner. Anyway I agree with u sir, I need to get back to reality and focus on myself , as time and life responsibility won’t wait for no one ( happy or heartbroken ). In the future , i don’t want to waste my time on someone and have another breakup , therefore I have got this question: How to know if your partner is reliable ? How long does it really take to figure this out ? ....This looks silly like i used to fantasize how our children (my ex and I ) would look like ? I even thought about their names lool . Anyway I promise will focus on my career now , after that I wouldn’t rush into anything but I hope I have a happy family in my early 30s. Once again thank you for replying me promptly!!!
Helpful when you don't mean to be, at the fifteen minute mark when you realized your error I burst into laughing after days of feeling down
LOL, Ya I just looked at it again ...it was funny :) Just imagine how I felt when I noticed I am repeating myself! :)
Glad you feeling better dear . Be good to yourself and you be sure that you will be fine, be patient this wave will also break and calm will present itself! Please let me know from where you are watching the videos and which age category you are in. Thanks, Mehran
Mehran Dadbeh Hey, I really do appreciate the videos and response :) I'm 18, from the UK. Split up with my partner a week or two ago, I tried contacting her today but it made it muccch much worse
+|RA|Brits| ah ouch:) well move on dear it's not the end of the world and she is just a human and not any God or end all be all.....so just don't sweat it too much if it's not working then each go and find another possibility and life goes on with you being more experienced...every time you get more information and familiar with this relationship thing and that is like anything else , we get experienced and .ore clear how things best flows....get busy with life and find new good friends. you will definitely be fine dear. we all went through similar stuff at one time or another and we all got over it fine. :)
I wonder if the same feelings apply to people who lose their spouse.
hi sir, im on my 30s we broke up 2 weeks ago..she initiated the break up,nway im a male, we've been for 7 years...and im still insanely inlove with her..im so down right now..need some advise from you sir...please please please
I hear you Junior, but stop making a god out of her, no one is a god. You are in love with the feeling of being in love with some one and what you desire is not her, is to fulfill your desire of being loved and loving a woman. So get a hold of yourself and see the truth of what you are feeling and that is not necessarily what and who she is rather is what she represents which is a pathway to fulfilment of your desire for intimacy and love! :) Think about it.
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Sir your vedios are helping me a lot n i m watching regularlyBut there is still feeling a pain As we were for 6 years she made thousands of promises like u r soulmatePlz never leave me i will kill myself N after she left me Those words hits in my mind Don't know how to overcome from it
I have been thinking for 45 days to get her back but now I can't because she treated me very bad and she let her ex boyfriend to sleep and maybe f*** her after all I did for her, she can easily betray me. Today at this moment I decide to let her go and I will find a better one I always thought I should have stoped with her before she did. This is the problem of the break up. First to break up has power. The one broken has all the burden.
Keep watching the videos your answers and points to ponder are all available to you on this channel with over 1500 videos on the topic. You will be perfectly fine. Just watch and ponder and focus on your life and build your life move on and enjoy what nature will present to you and how every day unfolds new opportunities as life is not summed up in one relationship or one woman.
@@MehranDadbeh Thank you so much for your kind answer, it really touches me you took time to write it. Wamest regards.
@@komecon7975 you are welcomed, I always respond to comments from my subscribers. Don't forget my Live talks on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays at 12 noon Vancouver time. and click on the bell so you will be notified when I am live to ask your questions and participate.
Thank you... How can i share my words or mail you sir?
Thank you sir..
Ojala hablaras español bien o yo un ingles perfecto, me encantan tus videos. Mi novia de 3 años con la que ya tenia planes de casarme y hasta los nombres de nuestros futuros hijos, un dia me llama y me dice q ya no me ama ni quiere estar conmigo, y que ya habla con alguien mas. me reemplazo asi :(
Ya yo acepte que no va a volver. Lo que me duele son las memorias, y los recuerdos. Y cada vez q me la imagino siendo enamorada por alguien mas. Please Help.
+Tidybc Hello dear, I used google translator to read your message. :) I wish I could speak Spanish to make a video in spanish for our spanish speaking friends. I have chosen a number of videos which I hope will be of help to you dear. Remember life is far bigger than one woman or one relationship and there are millions of good women who are warm, loyal and lovely and will make a man happy and non of those women are the ones who leave us , they are the one who love us and stay with us and not jump around from one branch to the next like a sparrow. :) So be happy and celebrate that you found out who she was and you did not marry her and now you have the opportunity to find a reliable woman true to her promise, words, intention and commitments. You will be fine, I am certain of it for we all have gone through such things and we all after a certain time became perfectly happy and enjoyed our lives more than before :) Be good to your self and be patient. Socialize with good and positive people, find new friends and do your day to day duties and responsibilities and in time you will be very happy and you will meet the woman who is waiting for you to meet her and in time you will and nature will present her to you. Be patient and enjoy life every moment. :)
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+Mehran Dadbeh thanks for your help. Do you think that time will help me? The only thing that really hurts me is when i think about her being loved by someone else after everything we been through.
This the nature of some people, men or women some people are simply disloyal and all they think is where they can get their psychological short comings filled. That has nothing to do with you this is their problems. Don't worry about her seeing some one else or having sex with some one else your life is not summed up in her body, so go and find yourself some one nice and build a relationship with her and in time you will forget all about her as there are sooooo many wonderful women in this world and you will find some one very nice and you will wonder why did you ever wasted your time with this one ! :) so do not worry, in time you do not care about this relationship or memory of it any more. And instead of thinking that " oh she is sleeping with some one else ....think that how lucky you are that you are not with some one who can behave in this way and break her commitment and ....you should focus on your fortune of finding how she is before marriage and not after , so focus on your luck and with some one who can do something like this then you do not care if she sleeps with another man. You should be thinking that you do not want a woman like this and that so you can not care if she sleeps with another one because you do not want a woman who is not reliable so it does not matter to you if she sleeps with another one or not because you have decided now that you do not want her as she is not right for you and you do not want her quality, You do not want her, you are the boss in this relationship and you decided that she is not the quality of a woman that you find it deserving of you , so whatever she does , does not matter to you. This is your decision. Go find a nice girl for your self and do not look back , you can be happy with another girl which you will find in time. :)
ok so i am screaming help here... . i move in with a friend due to the fact i was homeless at that moment he offer to help me we never dated prior to that or anything he ask for a chance to be with me and i did . . long story short i end up pregnant we got married is been yrs ive been by his side without "spark" ive learn to love him as a person as a friend someone who has been good to me yet i cant seem to love him like he wants me to. however 5 yrs later ive met someone and i am now with that "spark" in my heart. me n this new person has never had sex or kissed nothing just talk and open up to past n current life situations. i ve caught feelings for this person so i pushed him away now is been 3 months i dnt talk and im suffering i need to get over this n get back to my normal family life and thats it i need help 😢😢😢 my heart hurts
I may respond in more detail later on Annabel as I have a full day today and time is not available to be more elaborate right now. however this is my short respond for now. Make sure to stick to your decision and be aware that new does snot necessarily means better , it is just new and that seems as if it is special but it is only one angle and most often an illusion of "better" you have created in your mind with no actuality to it, and is not the whole of how life would actually be with the new. Most often when people have had a chance to spend enough time with the new and see same challenges of a normal life as they had and experienced with their old regular life, they realize that there is nothing special about the new as when it gets down to day to day challenges it may actually be not even near as good, secure and certain as what was and how it was with the life they had before the new came along and it then would be too late to get back all the good that was already yours and the new actually ruined the good! :)
@@MehranDadbeh but here she says that the person she has been with i.e. her husband....she never felt any sparks for him ever. Now, this new person that she has met, she is feeling that spark with him.... she is clicking with him the way she wants to, or always wanted to. Isn't this a deeper issue about basic needs, wants and expectations? She is clearly not happy with her husband. I personally feel...she should sit with her husband and figure out if she really wants to be with him in first place!
@@rajsigadhvigadhvi7464 if we want to run after a desire when we are comfortable then there would be no stability or reliability and just momentary pleasure and illusory satisfactions while it will always prove that what we changed everything for and uprooted the stability of our life thinking that the unknown or the new is better is actually was not worth the destruction of what was good in our life and we just went after a desire fir new which will prove not to be any heavens or much better or different in the long run after the initial novelty and that short lived novelty cost the destruction of our stable, reliable foundation and order in life.
my ex kept talking to me after 1 year of the breakup ;he kept texting me and flirting and sometimes dirty talk and I would ask him to stop but he didn't and he kept reaching out and I kinda give him a chance to talk and we texted daily for hours and most of our conversations were flirtatious and nice and he was always the first and all of the sudden he tells me that he has a girl that loves him and shit I thought at the beginning that he was joking and stuff cuz he was spendin too much time textin me ;but than I realized that it is real and I removed him from all the social media cause I was so mad and I felt like I was played cüz after he told me about his relationship I got mad and argued him and he told me how happy he is with her and how humbled she is and than I asked him why u were flirting an with me and left me with hope he was like ppl bang in my country without feelings or hope so he denied all that time he wasted texting me daily !!! i ist dont understand
This is what some men and women do when they are of the kind of living beings who live on using other people's energy and offer nothing. These are called "dementors" ( as in Harry potter's movies) who are just trying to destroy and consume and waste energy of others as they themselves have no positive purpose in life and have not yet and will most likely never find the meaning of life and why they are doing what they are doing other than consuming, using and not having any capabilities or decency or understanding of life and people who share this earth who trying to learn and experience this journey. So don't try to find out why as there is no reason for it other than the fact that this is the nature of some people as they are simply users and are very limited in intelligence, constructive feelings and harmony with positive energy of life. Move on and don't pay attention to these devious paths.
Mehran Dadbeh thanks a lot even tho I don't know u I appreciate the fact u replied to me yesterday I saw him with the new girl they seemed happy ;were at the same uni ;; but seriously I feel I wasted my time over a player and a person that doesn't deserve me :/ hopefully I will get over it
That is for certain dear, you will get over it. Everybody always does. Visit my FB page facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ and see the Free Webinar post or Schedule for Live talks on my FB Page. It should say 10.30 AM Pacific, which is 1.30 PM Atlantic and I think it will be 12 midnight India time on this coming Saturday. Where are you watching the videos from?
Mehran Dadbeh am in Turkey I will visit ur Facebook page ; am really depressed of what happened to me :/
You will be fine, bring your questions to the FB live talk on Saturday 10.30 AM Vancouver time and I will address it along with other people's questions which will all be an excellent support for people with such questions and other relationship/ breakup related matters.
Did you have a video on how not to think of her and her new bf? Because this is the difficult part. It's always there in my mind. I don't want to think of it. I don't want to think of her anymore. I'm tired.
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WHAT ABOUT WHEN THERE IS KIDS INVOLVED?
There are couple of old videos I made a few years ago, perhaps you can take a look at them and see if they have anything to offer. Mostly for boys benefit but I am sure it can be of use for either partners. The lighting is not good and it was a few years back, hope they will be of some help :) Here they are :
1-- Divorce and psychology of how to deal well with divorce Pt 1• Interactions
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2- Divorce and psychology of how to deal well with divorce Part 2 • Children
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wow, I missed class and work today because I felt like just doing nothing :( but you are totally right life keeps going .thanks good advice!
wow, I missed class and work today because I felt like just doing nothing :( but you are totally right life keeps going .thanks good advice!