"I Wouldn't Go Younger Than 18..."

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  • čas přidán 14. 05. 2024
  • I just can't imagine saying this with your whole chest. Legal? Sure. Weird and predtory? Also sure.
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  • @Emilio1985
    @Emilio1985 Před 2 měsíci +2303

    Really fucked up to consider that a lot of adults are not abusing children simply because it is illegal and not because it's a fucked up thing to want to do.

    • @CalinJohnson-jh7oh
      @CalinJohnson-jh7oh Před 2 měsíci +1

      (1) (121st like) fr

    • @jasoneves140
      @jasoneves140 Před měsícem

      MURICA. you have an entire political party supporting and fighting to marry children. Are you really that surprised?

    • @SWOONYMOONY
      @SWOONYMOONY Před měsícem +74

      Thats with a lot of things such as murder and SA too imagine how many lives the law potentially saved by scaring people into doing the right thing

    • @SWOONYMOONY
      @SWOONYMOONY Před měsícem +26

      Its still sad to think about tho

    • @yigit-nh2vn
      @yigit-nh2vn Před měsícem +32

      I have seen people that say they were abused even though it's illegal in their state. Sad fact? IT'S legal in mine.

  • @anniejuan1817
    @anniejuan1817 Před 2 měsíci +3100

    That "smile" wasn't, um, joyful. That was predatory.

    • @phastinemoon
      @phastinemoon Před 2 měsíci +202

      It reminded me of that picture of a chimp smiling at the camera, and how chimpanzees smile as an act of aggression…

    • @jeromewesselman4653
      @jeromewesselman4653 Před 2 měsíci +16

      Actually, most non-predatory animals have sideways facing eyes. Predators generally have eyes facing forward for better depth perception. From this standpoint, humans might be classed as a naturally predatory species.

    • @frostprism7267
      @frostprism7267 Před 2 měsíci +72

      @@jeromewesselman4653please don’t try to defend that man’s age preferences 😭

    • @EaglesQuestions
      @EaglesQuestions Před 2 měsíci +30

      ​@@jeromewesselman4653
      😐

    • @jeromewesselman4653
      @jeromewesselman4653 Před 2 měsíci

      @frostprism7267 I was actually studying predatory human female behavior when I ran across that particularly interesting hypothesis. But of course we can easily observe how the man's eyes are oriented forward like a bear's, or lion's, or owl's, or indeed countless other predators' eyes. So are yours 😟

  • @jacquelinewright868
    @jacquelinewright868 Před 2 měsíci +3070

    He DEFINITELY knows more about the age of consent in countrys than consent its self........

    • @Nerobyrne
      @Nerobyrne Před 2 měsíci +114

      oooh that's the BEST way to put it.
      I'm stealing that ^^

    • @aprilk569
      @aprilk569 Před 2 měsíci +49

      Oh daaaaang 👀 THIS 👏

    • @1ListerofSmeg
      @1ListerofSmeg Před 2 měsíci +53

      This perfect comment will NEVER have an adequate amount of thumbs up.

    • @lisarice4402
      @lisarice4402 Před 2 měsíci +53

      Sounds like a predator to me.

    • @user-sy2jy1si8f
      @user-sy2jy1si8f Před 2 měsíci +3

      ​@@lisarice4402 If all his interactions with women are consensual then how he's a predator?

  • @nakes9193
    @nakes9193 Před 2 měsíci +3310

    Ok now we know why he is still single.

    • @jacquelinewright868
      @jacquelinewright868 Před 2 měsíci +189

      Yeah his future vic- I mean girl friend is still getting conceived

    • @Dyejob01
      @Dyejob01 Před 2 měsíci +45

      So gross!!!!

    • @vangu2918
      @vangu2918 Před 2 měsíci +15

      Yes!

    • @shadowoflugia
      @shadowoflugia Před 2 měsíci +62

      Because it’s literally ILLEGAL for him to date a 12-year-old girl.

    • @Laura-it2zb
      @Laura-it2zb Před 2 měsíci +65

      ​@@shadowoflugiaThere are those pushing for legalizing marriage to 12 year olds. I can't find the words to express my disgust.

  • @sheilaross1449
    @sheilaross1449 Před 2 měsíci +4394

    Many years ago, Dan Savage asked readers to contribute words of wisdom they wish they could have given their younger selves. I will never forget the words of one woman: "If a grown man is interested in you as a teenager it is not because you are hot shit. It is because women his age are avoiding him - and with good reason."

  • @AllTheHappySquirrels
    @AllTheHappySquirrels Před 2 měsíci +1572

    It's giving _Tell me you don't see women as people, without telling me you don't see women as people._

    • @E-magineMySurprise
      @E-magineMySurprise Před 2 měsíci +103

      Maybe doesn't see women at all, he just sees GIRLS.

    • @kathydurow6814
      @kathydurow6814 Před 2 měsíci

      And that he was talking about HIS seggsual attraction, not the woman's (probably doesn't care).

    • @sonofhibbs4425
      @sonofhibbs4425 Před 2 měsíci +37

      @@E-magineMySurprise this guy just sees himself.

    • @KweenOfKonfusion
      @KweenOfKonfusion Před 2 měsíci +8

      how, how did you do the italics? i wanna be able to do italics :(

    • @AllTheHappySquirrels
      @AllTheHappySquirrels Před 2 měsíci +17

      @@KweenOfKonfusion just use the _ at the beginning and end where you want italics.

  • @howgroovyisthat3160
    @howgroovyisthat3160 Před 2 měsíci +1602

    The first time I was blatantly hit on by a grown man, I was 12 walking home from school. Some guy in a bit truck late 30s hollered something at me while driving by. I kept walking . He made a u turn on a busy street to slow down by me and say "did you hear me? I said you were hot!" He then asked which was I was going, I pointed ahead, lying, and he tore off again. I ran to the nearest store, less than half a mile from my home, but I was so scared. I called my best friend and her dad drove me home, and that's why I had a cell phone earlier than my older brother (by 4 years).

    • @valenciaforshee
      @valenciaforshee Před 2 měsíci +287

      I wore a uniform and started getting hit on about the same age. No way i looked over 18🤬Then I've gaslit myself, saying I was over developed at 12😢even as I was typing 🤯Some men are just terrible. But the saddest thing of all is to blame a young girl and just give the grown man an exception because testosterone

    • @LilFeralGangrel
      @LilFeralGangrel Před 2 měsíci +231

      @@valenciaforshee I got curious and talked to a bunch of women and as far as I know all the women I asked said the cat calling started before puberty or when it was starting. And on average cat calling goes down the older girls get and peters off by the time they are in their mid to late 20s.
      it's very much on purpose. The thing too is that it's always older men too. I dunno I grew up socialized as a boy, and the boys I was around didn't do that, but men? in their late 20s and in their 30s? yeah they're going to sexually harass children. So revolting.

    • @Fates1Embrace
      @Fates1Embrace Před 2 měsíci +101

      I was 14, people did think I looked about college age, I had a few people who would never do anything horrible say so, I was tall for my age & pretty much done developing.
      (No excuse)
      It was summer so I was wearing shorts & a cami vest, I was walking my dog in my village. These construction workers cat called me, but I continued on my walk.
      They were still there when I came back from the walk, I’d already decided to take another way home & I’m glad I did, because all of them started driving after me in their work vehicles, still calling out. They were driving slowly so I know they were following me.
      Luckily there was a cul-de-sac in the village that I cut through to get home, so I managed to lose them.
      I’m pretty good at staying calm in the moment, but I didn’t feel comfortable going out until after 5pm, because that’s usually when construction workers are gone.
      I was right about that so I was able to continue walking my dog in the summer, just later on in the evening.

    • @alyssaoconnor
      @alyssaoconnor Před 2 měsíci +100

      I’m 5’2 and have always looked younger (I was still being asked for ID into my late 20’s) I had more catcalling, inappropriate hugs etc from the age of 12 than my average sized friends. I don’t think that “looking older” applies to these types of people its just an excuse.

    • @RutabegaNG
      @RutabegaNG Před 2 měsíci +47

      No such thing as cell phones when I was 9, 10, 11, 12 years old. I hadn't even hit puberty yet.
      Best, of course, would be for none of us to ever have to go through that, but I am glad that generations after me have at least one more layer of safety.
      Doesn't keep it from being an emotionally scarring experience, unfortunately.

  • @IamGundam3
    @IamGundam3 Před 2 měsíci +809

    The smile as he said "sexual attraction" has me wondering how low he'd really go. 😰

    • @AleTitan
      @AleTitan Před 2 měsíci +44

      He gives Ian Watkins vibes (aka literally right out of the womb, "old enough to breathe, old enough to")

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 Před 2 měsíci +80

      Seriously. If this wasn’t a recorded conversation, I’m sure he’d have an even more disgusting answer.

    • @RevShifty
      @RevShifty Před 2 měsíci +37

      You know it's a lot lower than 18.

    • @bizygirl1
      @bizygirl1 Před 2 měsíci +46

      As low as he could get away with

    • @IamGundam3
      @IamGundam3 Před 2 měsíci +18

      @@bizygirl1 I don't doubt that

  • @RedXiongmao
    @RedXiongmao Před 2 měsíci +609

    Shout-out to the interviewer every 10 seconds giving him a "maybe think about what you're say- oh in that case, here's another shovel"

    • @mariannaortiz2426
      @mariannaortiz2426 Před měsícem +102

      The intervewer must have been so uncomfortable. Imagine someone you're talking to is saying something so fucked up and even when they hear the words come out of their mouth, they see nothing wrong with it.

    • @no.6377
      @no.6377 Před měsícem +27

      Nah the interviewer is actually a creep, too.He thrives off weird redpill,women shaming content. It's kinda annoying that I'm always seeing him on my timeline cuz the creators I watch make reaction to his BS😂

  • @annataymond9529
    @annataymond9529 Před 2 měsíci +1374

    Someone in their 40s should not view high schools as potential sources of partners.

    • @KFontLab
      @KFontLab Před měsícem +23

      Right!

    • @Crimson_Thug
      @Crimson_Thug Před měsícem +9

      Now tell that to the hs girls and let's see what they say.

    • @kp361
      @kp361 Před měsícem

      @@Crimson_Thug ? 18 year olds aren't trying to fuck men in their 40s. At 18, an 'older man' is 21.

    • @annataymond9529
      @annataymond9529 Před měsícem

      @@Crimson_Thug I don’t expect them to understand, their brains aren’t fully developed and they’re all hormonal and stuff. I think MANY high school girls do get it, but they’re less likely to properly understand. If you’re in your 40s you probably do understand and just don’t care enough. Or worse, you’re into it.

    • @_blank-_
      @_blank-_ Před měsícem

      I wish a dilf would destroy me 😫

  • @SheilaR.08
    @SheilaR.08 Před 2 měsíci +1475

    Dude, no high school girl is anxious to turn 18 so you can be her - barf - "daddy " 🤢🤢🤢

    • @TheKrispyfort
      @TheKrispyfort Před 2 měsíci +58

      According to my 17yo offspring, the "Mommy/Daddy" thing is becoming normalised online as just another acceptable flavour.
      As is kissing cousins and para-incst, supposedly.
      Predators are now grooming in bulk

    • @Mira-gu6we
      @Mira-gu6we Před 2 měsíci

      Im really grateful at 18, i was disgusted by older dudes. My shalllow self so them as old and ugly. Thank God.

    • @Mira-gu6we
      @Mira-gu6we Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@TheKrispyfort its the effects of corn. Brainwashing the youth

    • @Slayy05a
      @Slayy05a Před 2 měsíci +99

      @@TheKrispyfort
      As an 18 year old, most of these Mommy/daddy things online are exclusively an online thing, and mos of them are satirical. No one actually uses those seriously, if u do ur weird. As for kissing cousins and para-incst. Absolutely frkn not, what part of the internet is your offspring on?

    • @scobeymeister1
      @scobeymeister1 Před 2 měsíci

      Unfortunately, some of them are. Self-grooming is absolutely a thing, though I can't speak to how common it is. Kat Blaque recently made a video touching on her experiences with it on her 2nd channel. Look for her response to @ ThatAngryAsian

  • @oliviacalderone1119
    @oliviacalderone1119 Před 2 měsíci +1938

    At 18 I was absolutely thrilled to have caught the eye of an older man. When I hit that age I looked at 18 year olds and audibly gagged at the thought of touching them in any way, shape, or form. As a child it felt like I was being respected and looked at as an adult. As an adult it feels predatory and just icky.

    • @tarvoc746
      @tarvoc746 Před 2 měsíci

      Or in other words, most men are awful irrespective of their age.

    • @MsTemptation
      @MsTemptation Před 2 měsíci

      So you were just as icky for wanting a man old enough to be your father touching you inappropriately.
      I hated being hit on by older men because that was just too gross even for my 18 year old self.
      I wasn’t looking for a daddy because I already had one.

    • @slbarbieri1725
      @slbarbieri1725 Před 2 měsíci

      Wish my 24 y.o. did that. She wouldn't be living with a 60 year old who groomed her at 16

    • @Slw1111
      @Slw1111 Před 2 měsíci +220

      Exactly. And I would just add that it doesn't feel predatory, it IS predatory.

    • @judipierry549
      @judipierry549 Před 2 měsíci +100

      At 18 the thought of dating my Dad was just gross.

  • @kristinbryant6669
    @kristinbryant6669 Před 2 měsíci +495

    Eww!! Not many of us want our own "daddy" . We are looking for a partner.

    • @TheKrispyfort
      @TheKrispyfort Před 2 měsíci +67

      Typically, we don't want to be "Mommy" neither

    • @johnlennon6790
      @johnlennon6790 Před měsícem +2

      But some do, not many, but some. Fetlife has hundreds of thousands of them. Not sure what the problem is. This is consensual, and 18 year olds are not children...they are adults...so what is the problem?

    • @vqbl795
      @vqbl795 Před měsícem +30

      ​@@johnlennon6790legally an adult, but biologically and psychologically still a child. On a normal basis, humans don't fully develop all their body parts and their brains until they reach their twenties. The word 'teen' is there on eighTEEN for a reason, and if you want a serious relationship, that tends to bring a one-sided power dynamics with someone who is barely an adult if the older partner is abusive or has the mind of a predator...
      A few months ago, that girl probably had to ask her teachers for permission if she could take a bathroom break in the middle of a high school lecture. Now she's out in the adult world making a lot of what she thinks are permanent decisions with men who are most likely gonna treat her like a temporary experience... Same thing with grown women picking men under 21. It says more about the older person who tries to justify their choices according to the law than the younger person being pulled into the relationship.

    • @johnlennon6790
      @johnlennon6790 Před měsícem

      @@vqbl795 lol TEEN is part of the word because how numbers work. You're argument is that 18 is not a biological and psychological adult...so why is 18 legal age of adulthood? Your issue is the age we choose to label someone as an adult.
      I disagree, I think 18 is plenty adult enough to enter into lifetime marriages, 30+ year mortgage contracts, and have intimate relations with old disgusting men.
      Again, peruse fetlife and realize the plurality of deviance we indulge in as a species. Age play is quite common. And no one cells a cougar a predator for the exact same fetish as the guy in this vid.

    • @juliaboskamp9666
      @juliaboskamp9666 Před 15 dny

      Those men usaly want a replacement mommy, so think women want a replacement daddy.

  • @aandyy4791
    @aandyy4791 Před 2 měsíci +1056

    My brother was nearly arrested for statutory for having a “relationship” with a 13 year old when he was 35… When I was going off on him for why tf would he ever do something like that, his excuse was he “thought she was 18.” Which only made me yell at him even LOUDER, because *I* was 28 at the time, and I told him that I wouldn’t even be fucking around with an 18 year old- so why tf was he, in his 30s, doing some dumb shit like that? I told him if he ever did something like that again, he’d have a lot more than just the law to worry about, because I’d rip it off with my bare hands.

    • @leavemealone802
      @leavemealone802 Před 2 měsíci

      Jesus... what a gross man

    • @grmpEqweer
      @grmpEqweer Před 2 měsíci

      I like you. You have your head on straight.

    • @TheKrispyfort
      @TheKrispyfort Před 2 měsíci +331

      See, this is actually having your brother's best interests in heart.
      Not justifying, excusing, nor covering it up.
      It means so much to CSA survivors that there are siblings like you out there, holding family members accountable.
      thank you thank you thank you

    • @mischarowe
      @mischarowe Před 2 měsíci +96

      Yes. You are awesome. 💯

    • @NuitAsdf
      @NuitAsdf Před 2 měsíci +80

      Thank you so much for doing the right thing!

  • @Moon_Thief_420
    @Moon_Thief_420 Před 2 měsíci +522

    Yikes. I'm 43 too, and that dude is a giant walking red flag. ⛳
    Those answers tell me that he thinks dating someone our age would be no different than if he dated an octogenarian. 🙄

    • @teddyjlockwood
      @teddyjlockwood Před 2 měsíci +46

      I'm 20, and I probably wouldn't date an 18 year old. The difference in life experience and maturity is already too much for me

    • @nickorange4881
      @nickorange4881 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Octogenarians?an 80 year old?

    • @DeathnoteBB
      @DeathnoteBB Před 2 měsíci

      @@nickorange4881Yes

    • @cornwallismorgan874
      @cornwallismorgan874 Před 2 měsíci +41

      I appreciate your use of this particular flag emoji, as it implies you're viewing the red flag from a safe distance.

    • @Shawn-zt3gv
      @Shawn-zt3gv Před měsícem +1

      ​@@teddyjlockwoodlol yea right

  • @beeziebubs2756
    @beeziebubs2756 Před 2 měsíci +306

    The fact that this jersey shore reject was more focused on the legality of dating an 18yo and *nothing else* is a big red flag that says he shouldn’t be anywhere within 100ft of a high school.

  • @stolenrelic
    @stolenrelic Před 2 měsíci +406

    Why do I get the feeling that he's a man child who would make his girlfriend do all the chores despite wanting someone to call him "Daddy"?

    • @notbot2648
      @notbot2648 Před 2 měsíci +30

      You say that like it's unusual for a father not to lift a finger in the household.

    • @jelatinosa
      @jelatinosa Před 2 měsíci +29

      ​@@notbot2648right! My father expected his daughters to serve him his food when he got home from work, the food he expected my mother to make him daily. He would have us tend his wounds like he was a baby. My mother would make us clean the whole house with her on Saturdays, while he mowed the lawn and then went fishing or whatever he wanted. Our chores took way longer to finish than his one chore.

    • @notbot2648
      @notbot2648 Před 2 měsíci +39

      @@jelatinosa I legit knew a man (the father of a friend I had growing up) who said "slaves aren't bought, they're born" thinking he was the funniest man alive. He did not one bit of work around the house. His wife and children did all the yard work. His wife also worked full time, mind you, so there wasn't even the "oh well if she's a stay at home Mom she should do the housework" excuse (which is bull crap anyway). Easily one of the most useless men I've ever met. He taught his son to be the exact same way, but thankfully he's been single his whole life so he can't subject another woman to that garbage.

    • @jelatinosa
      @jelatinosa Před 2 měsíci +12

      @@notbot2648 yep, my mom was also not a stay at home mom. She worked her whole life. She took us to school, went to work, picked us up, went home to cook, and then went to school herself for a while.

    • @Kelli-ru7yy
      @Kelli-ru7yy Před 2 měsíci +14

      I feel sick reading this comment because I just got out of this situation and can't believe I duped myself at age 20. Abusive man children are a problem.

  • @pridefall3304
    @pridefall3304 Před 2 měsíci +260

    He will go as low as he possibly can to ensure he gets someone too young and inexperienced to know what he is. These type of men know it's a lot harder to pull the wool over the eyes of a 30 yo

    • @Sirzhukov
      @Sirzhukov Před 22 dny +1

      Why would a man even want a 30 yo? It's way harder to pull younger women btw, you just not into dating, so won't know.

    • @fart63
      @fart63 Před 18 dny

      @@Sirzhukovhow the fuck can you say “why would men ever want a 30 year old”? You do know the majority of men date people the same age as them? Do you seriously think you’re the normal one for wanting to date people still going through puberty?

    • @justarandomperson2786
      @justarandomperson2786 Před 9 dny +2

      ​@@Sirzhukovexcuse you?

    • @tothebeyond6318
      @tothebeyond6318 Před 7 dny +2

      ​@@Sirzhukov30 y'o is a reasonable age to be married.

  • @strawberryfox8819
    @strawberryfox8819 Před 2 měsíci +447

    You just know this type of guy thinks women are only with you for money. And call her a gold digger.
    I don't get their logic of "man must provide for woman" but a woman participating in that is automatically a gold digger?

    • @wjm1319
      @wjm1319 Před 2 měsíci

      And he also thinks her only value is her willingness to open her legs for him.

    • @Hello-hello-hello456
      @Hello-hello-hello456 Před 2 měsíci +100

      Sexists need no logic to hate, believe me

    • @MichaelDeHaven
      @MichaelDeHaven Před 2 měsíci +70

      They only employ logic to benefit themselves, never to critique themselves.

    • @grmpEqweer
      @grmpEqweer Před 2 měsíci +50

      Heads they win, tails you lose. The whole point of double-binds is actually control.

    • @timeittakestoletgo1687
      @timeittakestoletgo1687 Před 2 měsíci +8

      👏

  • @sixoftwelve6363
    @sixoftwelve6363 Před 2 měsíci +131

    His response was literally just “because that’s how old they need to be so I won’t get arrested”
    And that creepy smile at the end. I’d be staying the heck away from this guy 😬

  • @silentisland7633
    @silentisland7633 Před 2 měsíci +150

    I was 18, met a 31 year old, we started dating and married 2 years later. Took me 15 years but I finally got out of that fucking miserable ass marriage. Liar, cheater, and worse. 0/10 do not recommend

    • @LalaDepala_00
      @LalaDepala_00 Před měsícem +20

      I was 21 and got caught up with a 32 year old. Now 10 years later I see how that damaged me. And men think it's a win. Leaving a trail of broken women.

    • @Shawn-zt3gv
      @Shawn-zt3gv Před měsícem +3

      And whose fault is it you did that?

    • @elliotholm4874
      @elliotholm4874 Před měsícem +26

      ​​@@Shawn-zt3gvWhy was this necessary? I don't understand people who are needlessly cruel. Not to mention that it's entirely irrelevant.

    • @Shawn-zt3gv
      @Shawn-zt3gv Před měsícem +3

      @elliotholm4874 it's not cruel she's trying not to accept any of the blame when she clearly should. She chose this guy and let him get away with this behavior for 15 years now she's playing the victim.

    • @solareclipse6098
      @solareclipse6098 Před měsícem +20

      ​@@Shawn-zt3gvrage bait

  • @alarcon99
    @alarcon99 Před 2 měsíci +255

    The saddest part is that the girls who would be interested in that guy (edited to add: no girls should be interested in this guy) are the girls who should be as far away from him as possible. (Ie, body issues obsession, being made worse by body shaming etc)

    • @DaughterofDiogenes
      @DaughterofDiogenes Před 2 měsíci +19

      I know exactly what you mean. However in my experience there are two types of 18-20 year old women who would be with someone like that. The type you mention with security issues and women who are looking for a sugar daddy. And the sugar babies don’t care that he’s gross af as long as he pays those bills.

    • @denisenova7494
      @denisenova7494 Před měsícem +5

      No kink shaming. Well, I'm only ten years younger than him and might be "too old" for him idk and I'm not into him in particular but I'm certainly into guys like this: Older men who like younger girls, huge age gaps, men who proritize sexual attraction. It's my type. Nothing wrong with it if both are consenting adults. Nothing wrong with having low self-esteem and liking men with high self-esteem/big Ego either. I've never been in a toxic relationship so far.

  • @erykaton170
    @erykaton170 Před 2 měsíci +95

    When I was 16, I began a relationship with a 25 year old man that lasted 3 years. Where I grew up, it wasn't unusual. I knew lots of high school girls dating men in their 20's, some dating men in their 30's and one girl dating a gray haired man in his 40's (that one did raise red flags, but they snuck around, which is exceedingly difficult in a small town). Now at 51, looking back, I am really understanding the ways that messed me up and caused many of my difficulties in subsequent relationships. After listening to a news story recently, I made a comment to my 27 year old son, that when I was 16 my boyfriend was 25. I was slightly amused, yet pleased, by the look of disgust on his face. He would be reluctant to date anyone under the age of 23. The idea of dating a child, to him, is appalling.
    Looking back now, I wonder why we weren't protected more from all of these men clearly, romantically and physically involved with children.

    • @prestonbosch-black4343
      @prestonbosch-black4343 Před 11 dny +4

      Yeah, especially since "men are natural protectors". /s
      I'm not saying men can't be protectors, I like to think I can fill that role, but to say it's natural rather than cultivated and practiced, that it requires no courage or character but it's just genetics...uh, what? What are we protecting women from in the hypotheticals we use, wild hyenas? The idea that when I stand up for a woman she's still looking at two men and fifty percent of them want to attack her means that it ain't just instinct.
      To be a protector, you must protect.

    • @erykaton170
      @erykaton170 Před 10 dny

      @@prestonbosch-black4343 Well said.
      I've never felt physically threatened by a man. I'm over 6ft tall and was a champion athlete, so unlike most women, I haven't felt physically vulnerable with regards to my safety, since i was a young teen. But the number of men, even those who were supposed to be "trustworthy", who have gotten "handsy", without permission or even an inkling of interest shown from me, is discouraging. Two were my teachers, one from middle school, (he tried it when I was 16), the other was a high school gym teacher and coach who waited until just after I turned 18 and graduated. Then there was my much older cousin's much older (than her) live in boyfriend, who also waited until I was 18. They owned properties and multiple businesses together, and I had known him since I was 10, but he still felt he had the right to touch me, kiss me,and grind on me, the day after Christmas, when all the rest of the family went shopping. There was a stranger at a concert, feeling brazen enough to grab me, and not let go, until his buddies told him to cut it out.
      What it boils down to is that some men believe that they have a right to a woman's body, whether she is interested or not. What irritates me, is I feel like I need to defend teenage me, even now, by saying I didn't dress provocatively, or flirt. That somehow I still think I must have been responsible for what they did.
      Thanks for being one of the good guys. I feel like things have improved since I was going through this stuff, and maybe the younger generations are more aware of, and respectful of, bodily autonomy, and age appropriate boundaries.

  • @carolynpantlin7626
    @carolynpantlin7626 Před 2 měsíci +100

    To be fair I think the interviewer was spot on in his technique- exposed a sleezebag

  • @wjm1319
    @wjm1319 Před 2 měsíci +139

    You only showed clips of him and yet I still feel like I need to go take a shower after having seen even that much of him...

    • @Lilzki
      @Lilzki Před 2 měsíci +3

      Same 🤣

    • @shilpavijay7490
      @shilpavijay7490 Před měsícem

      Same. I am burning with fever here, yet I wanted to take a bath, because I could feel that crawly feeling on my skin. Especially that .... 'smile', if I could call that.

  • @belias360
    @belias360 Před 2 měsíci +1680

    And this is why when given the choice, women would take their chances with a bear.

    • @TheKrispyfort
      @TheKrispyfort Před 2 měsíci +64

      Glad I'm not the only one to want to have made this comment
      Glad I didn't have to
      👍👍👍👍👍👍

    • @TheKrispyfort
      @TheKrispyfort Před 2 měsíci +70

      Have you seen the Stanzi Potenza CZcams Short regarding this?
      Awesome skit

    • @belias360
      @belias360 Před 2 měsíci +25

      I've been subbed to her for months 😆

    • @CodeNinj
      @CodeNinj Před 2 měsíci +85

      Amongst many other valid reasons, bears don't smile like that 😬

    • @lokicooper4690
      @lokicooper4690 Před 2 měsíci +27

      Absofuckinglutely. Bring on the bears.

  • @toniacollinske2518
    @toniacollinske2518 Před 2 měsíci +68

    At 17, my teacher groomed me. He was 35, married but separated. We went public when i turned 18. No one said a thing. He was the asst football coach with a winning team in a small rural town.

    • @Nakia11798
      @Nakia11798 Před 2 měsíci +28

      It's unfortunately a common reality. Had a girl in my school who dated a teacher 3 years right after she turned 18. She was definitely groomed, man was in his 50's by then.

    • @stolenrelic
      @stolenrelic Před 2 měsíci +24

      I was groomed when I was 14, preyed on for the next several years, and gaslit into thinking was my fault. It's so insidious. Took me years to realize it wasn't my fault and he was not just revolting but an actual criminal for what he'd done.

  • @NA-ud6qm
    @NA-ud6qm Před 2 měsíci +1123

    "When your answer has NOTHING to do with what you have in COMMON with the person, INSTEAD has 100% on why it is LEGAL... Then that is a problem."
    Hit the fucking nail on the damn head. Great statement!

    • @JeantheSecond-ip7qm
      @JeantheSecond-ip7qm Před 2 měsíci

      Then the guy went on to say he only needed to have sexual attraction in common with her. Just get a blow up doll.

    • @coolbreeze5683
      @coolbreeze5683 Před 2 měsíci +42

      Exactly! Sounds like he's more interested in trying to get away with something than spending time with someone who is a match for him.
      And yes, his smile is definitely haunting

    • @beeziebubs2756
      @beeziebubs2756 Před 2 měsíci +28

      @@coolbreeze5683I mean, there’s a reason why he’s single at 43, and I’m certain it has everything to do with his _award winning_ personality and ideas about relationships. It was already enough of a red flag that his only standard for a relationship was being sexually attracted to them, but the fact that he went on a whole rant about why it’s legal and why she’s now an adult was just 🤢

    • @aaronpolichar7936
      @aaronpolichar7936 Před 2 měsíci +2

      The question was about age though.

    • @coolbreeze5683
      @coolbreeze5683 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@aaronpolichar7936 the interviewer also asked what he'd have in common with an 18 year old. He said s** attraction with a creepy smile. That says it all. He implied he could only have that type of attraction to girls in that age group. Some girls who are 18 look like they're 14 or 15. If an old guy finds the look of a young girl s-attractive, they have mental problems.

  • @vee1267
    @vee1267 Před 2 měsíci +217

    I don’t get how so many dudes can be like this. I’m a woman who just turned 30 and the thought of dating anyone younger than 24/25 feels way too weird!

    • @oxoniumgirl
      @oxoniumgirl Před 2 měsíci +38

      I think it's because the only thing they require or look for in a person is sexual attraction. I think that's the whole root of the problem here, aside from the obvious normalization of predatory thinking that makes them think it's okay just because it's legal. I think they just can't fathom what else a man would date a woman for or what else a person could require from a prospective partner. As a 38y/o woman I run into guys like this all the time, and not only in dating environments - they approach me constantly while I'm just running errands. They think that the only thing we care about is money and if they have enough money then they expect that there's no reason we could justifiably turn them down. It's disgusting and so frustrating. Some of them know women my age will turn them down but they can't understand why we do, they just know that when we get old enough we stop giving them a chance, and their reaction is to start trying to date younger women intentionally to catch them "before they learn to reject" men like them.

    • @user-sy2jy1si8f
      @user-sy2jy1si8f Před 2 měsíci

      It's because you're a woman and he's a man.
      Women like mature men, men like young women.

    • @limeylemon1685
      @limeylemon1685 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@oxoniumgirland those same men are the ones who think women above 30 are just bitches that won't give a "good guy" like them a chance. Makes me sick.

    • @RevShifty
      @RevShifty Před 2 měsíci +14

      A ten year age difference (I'm about the same are as the guy in the video) is about my absolute limit. And even that's pushing it. You start losing cultural connections and touchstones after that, and that counts for a whole lot for me, personally.

    • @Kelli-ru7yy
      @Kelli-ru7yy Před 2 měsíci +11

      ​@@RevShiftyCultural connection is a big deal I've noticed. My boyfriend and I are the same age and I think it's great for relationships. We enjoy each other's cultural references all the time.
      To be honest, I think 10 years is too far. I think finding someone of the same age is best. Especially if you're both matured.
      The dude in the video is just looking for people to use and abuse. Not a relationship.

  • @strawberrysangria1474
    @strawberrysangria1474 Před 2 měsíci +164

    He doesn't get that legality isn't the issue. There are plenty of laws that allow you to be predatory. We wouldn't have billionaires milking every penny from the system if there weren't loopholes, or stalkers following you in public places. That doesn't mean it's okay. He knows why he's specifically looking for younger women. Inexperience.

    • @tarvoc746
      @tarvoc746 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Billionaires don't exist because of loopholes. Securing capitalist exploitation isn't an accidental feature of our political and legal system, it's very much its intended purpose. We live in a capitalist society, not in a society that produces capitalists by accident.

    • @strawberrysangria1474
      @strawberrysangria1474 Před 2 měsíci +9

      @@tarvoc746 That's what I mean. There are loopholes in place for them to get away with securing far too much money for themselves while their employees survive off scraps. It's immoral, but legal.

    • @tarvoc746
      @tarvoc746 Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@strawberrysangria1474 It's not just loopholes. It's the letter of the law itself that allows for this.

    • @Thecodytree
      @Thecodytree Před 2 měsíci

      @@strawberrysangria1474loopholes implies it wasn’t the intention. in this case, it is.

    • @strawberrysangria1474
      @strawberrysangria1474 Před 2 měsíci +5

      @@Thecodytree Not really. The definition for loophole is "an ambiguity or inadequacy in the law or a set of rules". You can intentionally or unintentionally leave a loophole.

  • @ThePurpleCheeseMan
    @ThePurpleCheeseMan Před 2 měsíci +195

    That guy was painful to watch. Great commentary though! My parents had a 10 year age gap between them and it was such a mess. My dad took advantage of my mom in so many cruel ways that she didn't understand simply because she had less life experience than him and accepted his behavior as normal. Again there ARE exceptions where age gaps work out alright, and I'm happy for them. But someone is not a perfect fit for you simply because you're both adults who can legally consent.

    • @lysanamcmillan7972
      @lysanamcmillan7972 Před 2 měsíci +11

      And diving for the first man to say "I love you" can be that huge mistake within the age gaps. My mother only married eight years her senior, but he was the first man she ever dated. I'm fairly sure she wanted out of the house because her father was such a craven little twit he called his own son an ethnic slur. The age gap for my grandparents? 14 years. It may've been 1930s America, but that's a LOT. One of my sisters repeated her grandmother's choices straight out of high school for reasons much like her mother's may have been. Mom and my sister both divorced because they could. Before that? Bad. Sometimes disgustingly so. I won't talk details.

    • @sararatliff7707
      @sararatliff7707 Před 2 měsíci

      @@lysanamcmillan7972 The power imbalance is what these men like. They get off on knowing that a young girl/hardly woman would not have the life experience to know that he's full of shit and intentionally hurting her.

    • @ArtisticGamer14
      @ArtisticGamer14 Před měsícem +4

      Here's an example of a 10 year age gap that worked well. My sister, at the age of 33, married her husband, who was 43 at the time. The older you are when you start dating, the less weird the age gaps will look. A 60 year old dating a 75 year old looks way better than A 20 year old and a 35 year old. I think once one passes the age of 30, any amount of decades older doesn't look as bad.

    • @simplystreeptacular
      @simplystreeptacular Před měsícem +2

      I'd be fine dating someone ten years my senior, but I'm in my 30s with an established career and years under my belt living on my own. Things would have been very, very different a decade ago. Life experience matters.

    • @prestonbosch-black4343
      @prestonbosch-black4343 Před 11 dny +1

      And sometimes "works out all right" means "looks all right til it doesn't" with those age gap marriages. My parents knew two sets where the gap was around 20 years. One woman ended up leaving her husband when he was 78 because she was tired of no sex and no travel, no hiking or being active, and having to help him with everything. In the other case, the man was younger and a bunch of affairs with women his own age came out when his wife died--turns out she'd known, but because she depended on him for health care and housing she'd just vented to her diary. The guy also didn't tell the kids because he knew they'd side with her. Now they don't talk to him.

  • @besskaterinsky3
    @besskaterinsky3 Před 2 měsíci +90

    I'm 42, and have nephews who are 18. That is gross 🤢🤢🤢

    • @ejenglin
      @ejenglin Před 2 měsíci +5

      Same. Dude is gross.

    • @prestonbosch-black4343
      @prestonbosch-black4343 Před 11 dny +1

      I became a godfather and was looking at my goddaughter when she was fourteen and talking about dating. It went from intellectual to *visceral* how absolutely not okay or normal it was to be attracted to a teenager as an adult. It's as weird as being into another species.

  • @stephquest315
    @stephquest315 Před 2 měsíci +54

    The creepiest this about men like this is that they absolutely love the idea of a young woman being completely dependent on them. The whole Daddy thing, i provide for her, i defend, her, i buy everything for her. Also many of these guys want virgins because you could "mold them" to be the "perfect" partner.
    As an adult ya know you do you, no shame. But when you're still a teenager it is predatory.
    Relationships are full of downtime doing nothing but eating, sleeping, shiting and talking. For a healthy relationship you need a person you can talk and relate to.
    I don't want to demonize age gaps because you know life happens and you get exceptions but men like this are just predatory. Not "oh we got to know eachother and fell in love"
    The first thing he mentioned was sexual attraction and thats his first priority always. He could've said 20 or 25 but no. A woman who has established herself is to much hassle for men like this creep.
    As an adult it blows my mind at why you would want a high school kid...they are weird moody babies! What do you talk about! A real adult relationship is like 5% sex and the rest is dedicated on survival! "Ah she dosent have to do anything but depend on me so we have way more time for sex!"
    These guys do not care what you actually want because you don't need to make decisions "Daddys got it"
    Gross

    • @bizygirl1
      @bizygirl1 Před 2 měsíci +9

      You’re not supposed to want anything. They don’t care about your wants or needs. You’re a tool for them

  • @YouLikeKrabbyPattiesDontYou
    @YouLikeKrabbyPattiesDontYou Před 2 měsíci +122

    i dont believe he'd not go lower than 18.

    • @thiacari
      @thiacari Před 2 měsíci +1

      He ADMITS to going youngest 18

    • @user-le1rm5dt4j
      @user-le1rm5dt4j Před měsícem +2

      ​@@thiacari only because he'd be arrested if he went lower

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Před 12 dny

      If 16 was legal age, that would be his lowest age

  • @xXOFrannieOXx
    @xXOFrannieOXx Před 2 měsíci +82

    Creepy is an understatement.

  • @NeversurrenderMM66
    @NeversurrenderMM66 Před 2 měsíci +57

    I went on one date, one, with a 42 year old man that told me that he would be happy to date me, for now, but he's really looking for one of those hot, nubile co-eds (we live in a college town). Yes, he actually used the word nubile. He thought he could attract and keep an 18/19 year old young woman. I asked him if he was a millionaire and he answered "no". I then pointed out that he wasn't gorgeous or built like a Greek god, he wasn't wealthy, and he definitely didn't have a sparkling witty personality. What made him think a "hot, nubile co-ed" would even look at him twice? 18 years later and I still never got an answer. Not that I kept in touch with that creep.

    • @stolenrelic
      @stolenrelic Před 2 měsíci

      They try to go to places girls are drunk and then try to assault them.

    • @janel.8921
      @janel.8921 Před 2 měsíci +15

      Nubile sounds as bad as “ripe and fertile.” That politician was talking about 16 year old girls being allowed to get married.

  • @RamenNoodle1985
    @RamenNoodle1985 Před 2 měsíci +68

    I saw a thread (on reddit I think?) about a 38yo guy who's friends were all 20-25yo guys.
    My dude, that's, not the flex you think it is.

    • @ForExample2023
      @ForExample2023 Před měsícem +9

      Well, they're just friends...

    • @bettybunbun9664
      @bettybunbun9664 Před měsícem +8

      Whats wrong with having friends of different ages?

    • @suspiciousplatypusmoth
      @suspiciousplatypusmoth Před měsícem +2

      Bro if I ever talked to a guy who told me his friends are exclusively people who are damn near two decades younger than him, I’m handing his immature ass a pacifier and booking it while he’s distracted- ain’t no way you out there only relating to people half your age without some form of maturity issue💀

    • @exosproudmamabear558
      @exosproudmamabear558 Před měsícem

      ​@@bettybunbun9664Nothing but if all of your friends are 10 years younger than you maybe it measn your brain is 10 years immature than your biological age

  • @the_nikster1
    @the_nikster1 Před 2 měsíci +26

    that smile sent a chill down my spine...😬

  • @CrimsonNemesis
    @CrimsonNemesis Před 2 měsíci +220

    The implication being that he LEGALLY can't date younger than 18🤨
    Yeah, at 18, you are an adult, but I feel that there is still a lot of growing and learning to achieve before you're ready to date in general. Let alone with an age gap so wide, dude is clearly going to use the experience he has to take advantage.

    • @teddyjlockwood
      @teddyjlockwood Před 2 měsíci +16

      You can't even rent a car until you're 25.
      Also, as 20 year old, I probably wouldn't date an 18 year old. The difference in life experience and maturity is already too much for me

    • @CrimsonNemesis
      @CrimsonNemesis Před 2 měsíci +18

      @@teddyjlockwood fr. It is ALL about sex to that guy, he obviously doesn't see them as people.

    • @cats333tube
      @cats333tube Před 2 měsíci +12

      The reason why 17-18 yr olds can serve in the military is because they are easier to train. Our brains don’t finish developing until we are at least 22.
      So dating an 18 yr old would make it easier to train one to call you “daddy.”

    • @janel.8921
      @janel.8921 Před 2 měsíci

      @@cats333tubeThere’s a website named Biblical Gender Roles. It had an article entitled “How to Groom Your Young Christian Wife.”

    • @riverstein7251
      @riverstein7251 Před 2 měsíci +5

      I couldn’t even date 18 year olds when I was 20 because of how startlingly naive and childish many of them were. Like…even when I matched with one because of how much we had in common, the immaturity was too much, I could just sense that they would rely on me like they would rely on a parent.

  • @underthedice1231
    @underthedice1231 Před 2 měsíci +66

    The interviewer went from great follow up questions to down down the shitty pit.

  • @flaming9
    @flaming9 Před 2 měsíci +33

    That smile made me PUKE

  • @kalim9853
    @kalim9853 Před 2 měsíci +34

    That is disturbing on so many levels

  • @brackalack1
    @brackalack1 Před 2 měsíci +44

    CREEEEEEPY. And yeah we've most of us dated these guys and eventually realised why it's a bad idea. Power, finances and life experience is way out of balance. And he knows it. Creeeeeeepy.

  • @jadesidhe2634
    @jadesidhe2634 Před 2 měsíci +30

    Im 44. My wife is 18 months, MONTHS, younger than i am. We've been together since 2003. I have a hard time relating to 30 year olds socially. Theres very little in common. An 18 year old is younger than most adult children of people my age. If your spouse is the same age or younger than your kids then no one your own age is willing to deal with your nonsense.

    • @E-magineMySurprise
      @E-magineMySurprise Před 2 měsíci +5

      Im 44 and my husband is 2.5 years older and we have a 19 yo daughter. The thought of someone I went to school with being attracted to my daughter or one of her friends is disgusting. (Nothing against any guys I went to school with)

    • @user-kn3or7wp6b
      @user-kn3or7wp6b Před měsícem

      A lot of people don’t even have kids now days

  • @Romanticoutlaw
    @Romanticoutlaw Před 2 měsíci +102

    the kinda man who makes a bear look appealing

  • @Thefoxthatbecameawolf
    @Thefoxthatbecameawolf Před 2 měsíci +19

    It's honestly terrifying and worth analysing the amount of men who are attracted to children

    • @Josh-sz8ip
      @Josh-sz8ip Před měsícem

      The pedosexual movement is left wing

    • @juuggoslovenka
      @juuggoslovenka Před měsícem

      i guess not children technically, but teenagers in high school definitely

  • @Nerobyrne
    @Nerobyrne Před 2 měsíci +188

    I'm 35 and I wouldn't date anyone younger than 25.
    And even then, that's the absolute minimum.
    I'd wonder wth she's doing with me. Like, can't she get someone younger?
    I also noticed this really interesting thing, that the older I get, the less attractive younger women become.
    Which I suppose is how it should to be ^.^

    • @tatiblack6087
      @tatiblack6087 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Damn, guess I gotta wait 3 years ❤

    • @funnykitsune
      @funnykitsune Před 2 měsíci

      I'm a 28 yo woman and I teach high school. How grown adults find teenagers romantically appealing is beyond me. HAVE YOU HEARD THEM TALK, GOOD SIR?! Their brains aren't fully developed yet AND IT SHOWS!
      Sorry, rant over.

    • @strawberryfox8819
      @strawberryfox8819 Před 2 měsíci +28

      I feel the same. I'm 21, would not date anyone under 20 because the maturity gap during these years is just too much for me. And I just don't find those people attractive either.

    • @shadowoflugia
      @shadowoflugia Před 2 měsíci +17

      I have a rule for myself as a 33-year-old female that I won’t accept a date from someone born in the 70s or earlier (meaning they’d have to be at MOST 10 years older than me) OR less than 5 years younger than me, meaning anyone less than 28, 29 once I hit 34 later this year. Because I’m in grad school and being around kids who are almost young enough to be my children. 😭

    • @unicorn73212
      @unicorn73212 Před 2 měsíci

      Yeah it's gross I found a video like this the other day that said men's night clubs get shut down a lot so why should women have women's only night clubs? Why can't we have men's only gyms?
      The answer is because they lie a lot about women that's why there strip clubs get shut down a lot they think 18-23 is a woman.
      They should be over 24 to be a strip dancer because a lot of these men are disgusting they want you to be really young so it's easier to manipulate the situation and get her knocked up.
      It's a baby version of a woman the gentleman clubs is still in business too I actually thought about applying at there bar to serve drinks but they only want to hire 18-23 year olds and the cougars bars you have to be over 40 I'm 38 why does two years make such a difference? Why not 35 and up? I thought this was considered old?

  • @hyperslash2144
    @hyperslash2144 Před 2 měsíci +224

    I'm a 27 year old male, to me 18 is still a child and the lowest i would go is 23, since that when i was their age they would be 19, big age gaps are creepy, also I went through cancer when I was younger so I don't mentally feel my age since I didn't had a chance to develop like most people mentally and feel about 18 shall we say but I know that a gap like that just isn't right

    • @MichaelDeHaven
      @MichaelDeHaven Před 2 měsíci +23

      I'm in my 50s now. But I was dumber than a box of rocks in my late teens and early twenties. 😂 Large gaps are weird, no matter the gender, IMO.

    • @MR-or6yv
      @MR-or6yv Před 2 měsíci +23

      It's not just the gap it is the developmental difference. 10 years isn't a big deal between a 45 and a 55 year old. Between a 15 year old and a 25 year old it is. A girl in her late teens and early 20s vs. a man in his 40s????!!! (Insert primal screaming.)

    • @Rosemary46840
      @Rosemary46840 Před 2 měsíci +4

      I think a large age gap is fine after a certain age but the wanting barely legal is the creepy part

    • @jamessmith4287
      @jamessmith4287 Před 2 měsíci +1

      You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults 18 and 19 still jumping inside a bounce house sometimes is okay too

    • @hyperslash2144
      @hyperslash2144 Před 2 měsíci +7

      @@jamessmith4287 what does this even mean?

  • @shandean8352
    @shandean8352 Před 2 měsíci +42

    I’m friends with a a 50 year old man that graduated a year before me and a 49 year old man that was in my graduation class. Yes, we all went to high school together. I’ve recently spoken to both, separately, about what dating age is appropriate to them. Both said they would feel weird if the age of the woman was under 38 years old. They ain’t perfect. The former is stubborn and assholish. The latter has been known to go into depressive states and ghost girlfriends, withdrawing and playing video games. I’ve told both of them that the bar is so low for guys that I’ve found myself thinking how grateful I am that I can take a nap in their rooms on their beds and know I’m safe. They were like, that’s all it takes to be seen as a decent human being? For guys, yes, and many of them don’t get a checkmark by that basic standard

    • @RevShifty
      @RevShifty Před měsícem +3

      I literally get extra attention from some women just because I try to be a good person (who only surround himself with other good people), and because I enjoy cooking and baking. That's it. And most women don't even really seem to care about the cooking or baking all that much. They might enjoy talking about it with me occasionally, maybe make an occasional comment how unusual that had been to them to come across, but then never actually expect much.
      I often joke that the bar for men is so low that even if they only ever climb up over it for themselves, they're still going to get extra attention for it. But I only joke like that with women (or in groups where the manosphere nonsense is already immediately looked down on), because I'm trying to convey that I hope they would expect more from someone they're spending all that time with. Like, a relationship is best when two people can help bring the best it of each other IMO. And by setting the bar that low, damn near anyone could climb up over it, even if only for a little while at least, and help waste a whole lot of their time.
      And I don't make that joke with just other men, because I know most of them likely won't even try, and probably still blame women for it anyway. I also know the person I see might be very different from what they show a woman they're interested in, because I'll absolutely start breaking parts of them if they start talking sideways about certain things. And the ones who do try might only be trying to look good just long enough to trick someone. So it's just a pretty terrible situation all the way around.
      Like, I want to be a decent human being. I really hate that that actually seems pretty rare.

    • @miracle-pi5ws
      @miracle-pi5ws Před měsícem

      @@RevShiftybeing a decent human being isn’t fun

  • @PatGilliland
    @PatGilliland Před 2 měsíci +38

    Dear Lord - what _was_ that?

    • @Nerobyrne
      @Nerobyrne Před 2 měsíci +11

      a chomo we haven't caught yet

  • @leruetheday377
    @leruetheday377 Před 2 měsíci +20

    I'm 24, about to be 25, and I'm a little concerned about dating anybody younger than 21 because of the experience gap

    • @hyperslash2144
      @hyperslash2144 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Haven't seen anyone else with a take like this, I'm 27 and the youngest I would go would go is 23, since when I was 13 they would at least be an adult, to me if your partner was under 18 when you were there age is when it gets creepy

    • @ForExample2023
      @ForExample2023 Před měsícem +1

      @@hyperslash2144 what if someone is 18.5 and their partner is 17.5?

    • @xylophone_888
      @xylophone_888 Před měsícem +2

      ​@@hyperslash2144 so a 40 year old can't date a 50 year old?

  • @MatthewMe
    @MatthewMe Před 2 měsíci +11

    The question given to him was "what was the youngest girl you'd date?". The question he interpreted in his head was "how young of a sexual object am I ok admitting I'd have sex with". That's the issue right there. He wasn't thinking about a romantic relationship, a companion, a friend, a confidant, someone to build even a part of his life with. He was thinking about who it was ok to admit to conquering and keep as a trophy.

  • @missinterpretation4984
    @missinterpretation4984 Před 2 měsíci +14

    It’s so gross how they insist 18 is an adult… it’s like how the more bold ones say we’re mature the instant we start puberty. Growing up is a process. You gain more privileges and also more insight and ability to navigate life with time and age. An 18 year old is vulnerable to someone more than twice their age. So it might be lEgAl but it’s not ethical, it’s not fair, it’s not good.

  • @witchy90210
    @witchy90210 Před 2 měsíci +25

    Well... she cant smoke until shes 21 now in the US sir..... and im using sir in the most condescending way possible, and I dont use sir in normal context unless im being condescending. that word is reserved for special ocassions.

    • @Nakia11798
      @Nakia11798 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Honestly age of consent needs sub-rules or something.

    • @witchy90210
      @witchy90210 Před 2 měsíci +5

      @@Nakia11798 An extra layer of consent. I like invited a much much older man to my place once and it did not end well cuz someone 40 years older knows a lot more, and now I have PTSD.

  • @BinturongGirl
    @BinturongGirl Před 2 měsíci +13

    I'm 40, and I get uncomfortable when anyone under 30 comes up on my potential matches. 18? Hell no.

  • @tweetscotchy1093
    @tweetscotchy1093 Před 2 měsíci +37

    Lol…. She may be too mature for him..

  • @katherinemcintosh7247
    @katherinemcintosh7247 Před 2 měsíci +25

    Dude needs to check out “The Wedding Singer.”
    Robbie: That's it, man, starting right now, me and you are going to be free and happy the rest of our lives!
    Sammy: I'm not happy. I'm miserable.
    Robbie: Wha - what?
    Sammy: See... I grew up idolizing guys like Fonzie and Vinnie Barbarino because they got a lot of chicks. You know what happened to Fonzie and Vinnie Barbarino?
    Robbie: Yeah, I read that Fonzie wants to be a director and Barbarino, I think... the mechanical bull movie? I didn't see it yet.
    Sammy: Their shows got canceled. Because no one wants to see a fifty-year-old guy hitting on chicks.

  • @roku3216
    @roku3216 Před 2 měsíci +34

    "She's barely legal" is all he really needed to say in order to answer his honest truth.

  • @Iflie
    @Iflie Před 2 měsíci +34

    I don't understand how this works in many men. I'm female, you grow up and the age of the boys or men you like rose with it. Why do the guys end up just lusting after anything female, even girls who are not even an adult. I just see guys of like 21 as also a child/teen etc like sure you can look pretty but in a awe what a cute picture kind of way. The age will keep rising the older I get I'm sure.

    • @lysanamcmillan7972
      @lysanamcmillan7972 Před 2 měsíci +6

      I'm 56. I can't bring myself to try dating anyone under 35. 40 might be pushing it. I sense the distance. I know the experience levels. And their looks can be "wait, are you even fully cooked yet" moments in my head.

    • @Iflie
      @Iflie Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@lysanamcmillan7972 My brain seems to think a lot of men in their twenties are still students and not yet "man'. I do like boyish looking men but you are absolutely right with the "not done cooking yet" haha

    • @tamararoberson8060
      @tamararoberson8060 Před 2 měsíci

      These kinds of men do not even see women as people. So age is irrelevant to them.

    • @LC-sc3en
      @LC-sc3en Před 2 měsíci +4

      I could get somehow ending up remaining sexually attracted to young adults in addition to people your own age. I cannot understand ever wanting to actually hook up or date them. The first due to the ick and morality factor in age gap despite sexual attraction. The dating thing being once they open their mouths they would likely kill the attraction as you realize the gap in experience and maturity.
      Like when you try to date someone your own age and turns out they never grew past being a frat boy despite being at least 10 years since. Annoying having to be a baby sitter or a parent is the least attractive thing.

    • @Iflie
      @Iflie Před 2 měsíci

      @@LC-sc3en I think these guys really think a 13 year old is female enough to be sexually attracted to. And that they'd sleep with them if given the chance to get away with it. That mental maturity being lacking is actually a pro in their book instead of a negative. Same reason 50 year old men go after 18 year olds on dating sites, because that's as young as they can legally get away with. They like young and dumb.
      Instead of it being a turn off and creating a protective instinct it makes them easier prey. Way too many men like that out there. They are making laws about kids being able yo get married in the U.S.

  • @DivineDissident
    @DivineDissident Před 2 měsíci +10

    He should have asked how old would you date? Its not unusual for guys like this to be LOOKING to date 18-25 year olds.

  • @SaucySprout
    @SaucySprout Před 2 měsíci +7

    First time I was cat-called I was 10. A man old enough to be my grandpa commented on what a "lovely budding bosom I had and touched my lower back as he walked past. We were at a church function. I remember going from bored but content to feeling ashamed about my body and confused in a matter of seconds.

  • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
    @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Před 2 měsíci +153

    If a 43yo had commonality with an 18yo, that’s a huge problem.
    Edit: For those of you who are struggling to understand…. I’m not saying it’s an impossibility. I’m saying if you’re the oldest in the decades gap relationship and you use the commonalities as a justification to pursue someone you have a clear advantage over, THATS A HUGE PROBLEM. You’re already showing the abuse in power by using the advantage to get someone you want that you know you should be leaving alone. So you can stop commenting how it’s possible and actually grasp the point of my statement.

    • @michaelk.jensen1611
      @michaelk.jensen1611 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Why?

    • @michaelk.jensen1611
      @michaelk.jensen1611 Před 2 měsíci +6

      You can have commonality on many levels.
      And you can fall in love.
      You can also be interested in people that doesn't have obvious commonalities.
      I feel you prejudge both the 18 years old.
      I fell in love with a 19 year old woman at 39.
      Our personality mixed fine even if we had different hobbies and interests
      Also tried to stay away for more than a year. But it wouldn't let go.
      We had a relationship for 7 years.
      Doing all kinds of things together and apart.
      And the age difference did have some issues.
      Though mostly by other people .

    • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
      @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Před 2 měsíci

      @@michaelk.jensen1611… something is wrong with you. I would say seek help but im afraid you will weaponize therapy against young women, Michael K Jensen. So imma just say, if the woman is more than 3 years younger than you, stay away from her.

    • @rainbeauxunicorn5237
      @rainbeauxunicorn5237 Před 2 měsíci +21

      @@michaelk.jensen1611… I’m prejudice?!?
      🙄 Couldn’t be that I have lived experience. Yes, prejudice sounds, right.

    • @scobeymeister1
      @scobeymeister1 Před 2 měsíci +21

      The thing is. I do have a lot in common with an 18 year old (I'm 29). One of my good friends is 18 because we have a lot of common interests. But I also know that there's a huge power imbalance with that kind of age gap, so that doesn't matter! It's my responsibility as the older person to make sure there are healthy boundaries - and to know that dating them is predatory regardless! The fact this guy doesn't seem to get that is really scary.

  • @dragonfly._.doodles
    @dragonfly._.doodles Před 2 měsíci +23

    Excuse me as I vomit-

  • @theresadutcher4750
    @theresadutcher4750 Před 2 měsíci +11

    results of a pretty big study in Australia... 'Around one in six (15.1%) Australian men reports sexual feelings towards children. Around one in ten (9.4%) Australian men has sexually offended against children. Would have sexual contact with a child between 12 to 14 years if no one would find out (5.7%); Would have sexual contact with a child between 10 to 12 years if no one would find out (4.6%); Would have sexual contact with a child younger than 10 years if no one would find out (4.0%); The lowest age they typically find attractive is under 18 years (5.7%). In total, almost one in five (19.6%) Australian men in the study have sexual feelings for children and/or have sexually offended against children.' (Salter, Identifying and understanding child sexual offending behaviours and attiudes among Australian men, 2023) (Study defines children as under 18.)

    • @elizabethbennet2486
      @elizabethbennet2486 Před 2 měsíci +3

      what the actual fuck

    • @ForExample2023
      @ForExample2023 Před měsícem

      you mean the HIGHEST age they typically find attractive is (under) 18.

    • @theresadutcher4750
      @theresadutcher4750 Před měsícem

      @@ForExample2023 not what the study asked therefore not supported by data.

    • @ForExample2023
      @ForExample2023 Před měsícem

      @@theresadutcher4750 [?] I dont understand yr comment

    • @theresadutcher4750
      @theresadutcher4750 Před měsícem

      @@ForExample2023 I was quoting from the study. They asked questions in specific ways and changing the phrasing can lead to a misinterpretation of data. That group of people is usually attracted to minors but they might also be attracted to adults sometimes. So it is not valid to assume that under-age is the highest age they are attracted to. Asking about the lowest age they are usually attracted to is a different kind of data than asking about the highest age.

  • @IONAPINKMOXIE
    @IONAPINKMOXIE Před 2 měsíci +13

    I separated from my husband in January. I'm 52, he's 54. I've been thinking about what might happen IF I decide to start dating again and the age range I might be suited for. I can't imagine going any lower than 45.

  • @EaglesQuestions
    @EaglesQuestions Před 2 měsíci +7

    Imagine going to a wedding where the only person too young to drink is the bride.

  • @ThePsychicClarinetist
    @ThePsychicClarinetist Před 2 měsíci +11

    People like the interviewed man in the stitched video are why we choose the bear. 😒

  • @Knightess
    @Knightess Před 2 měsíci +9

    If you were an 18 year old girl lost in the woods with a bear and this guy...

  • @serenity1378
    @serenity1378 Před 2 měsíci +8

    I'm 33. I have friends who are 18/19, and we get flirty and that. The thing we have in common is shared trauma and being minorities in a world that wants us over.
    And even with all that in common they'll still every once in a while say something that makes me realize "Oh they are fundamentally less mature than me because they haven't had time to gather the same number of years of experience, they have things to learn that I already know, we would not work if we actually took the flirting seriously."
    I can't imagine being a cis man dating a cis woman with that much of an age gap and ever thinking that would actually work. If I, as the emotionally stunted traumatized forever-child queer girl struggles to relate to other emotionally stunted traumatized forever-children queer people who are that much physically younger than me, there's no way John McPrivilege is able to handle that relationship safely and healthily for the younger person.
    Legal? Yes.
    ALWAYS creepy to have that age gap? No, definitely not the older you both get.
    RED FLAG?! Absolutely!

  • @nac.mac.feegle
    @nac.mac.feegle Před 2 měsíci +479

    Bear. Definitely the bear.

    • @Magmanic
      @Magmanic Před měsícem +6

      Single forever. Definitely single forever.

    • @goodmorning2386
      @goodmorning2386 Před měsícem +20

      I’ll take 20 bears

    • @ForExample2023
      @ForExample2023 Před měsícem +6

      @@goodmorning2386 don't forget the dinosaur

    • @Shawn-zt3gv
      @Shawn-zt3gv Před měsícem +1

      Honestly no guys care.

    • @vqbl795
      @vqbl795 Před měsícem

      ​@@Shawn-zt3gv There's a surprising number of them who care. The same ones that lurk in women-oriented channels and react over very specific things that have nothing to do with them. Even seen comments of them going "Ooh, that's why y'all going to die single" like the women who stated it even care who they are. Or if not that, then somebody from the bunch will try to do the "math" on why men should be better than bears. The funnier thing is, these men actually care *so much* that they psychologically try to compete with the _imaginary bears_ 😂

  • @stacyh8056
    @stacyh8056 Před 2 měsíci +9

    Ew. If my face gets stuck like this I am sending him the bill.

    • @sunsetanimator4187
      @sunsetanimator4187 Před 15 dny +1

      Omg ❤ I am using this, so true though, anyone my age is probably planning to rip money out of him though, none of them would love him :)

  • @gellisbarber1786
    @gellisbarber1786 Před 2 měsíci +16

    1:34 This face will live rent free in my head for the rest of my life.

  • @Eliketi
    @Eliketi Před 2 měsíci +5

    When I was 19 I had a 38yo man try and chat me up online. I pointed out that I was 19 and that he should probably look at women closer to his age, and he said "I know you're 19. I prefer younger women because I find that women my age tend to have too much baggage". I told him I wasn't interested cause he was too old, but years later I now see his words for what they really are. Whenever I hear a guy say "older women" have too much "baggage", it's really code for "women my age see through my BS and put me in my place". It's funny how older men talk about only women having baggage as if they themselves are somehow exempt when they're the same age?? It's hilarious! Any middle-aged guy actively looking to date young girls, you can bet your bottom dollar he has loads of baggage, otherwise why's he so interested in them?

  • @ShannonGarcia-zs6yd
    @ShannonGarcia-zs6yd Před 2 měsíci +6

    That creepy smile? Full gum and teeth barred like that? That's an aggressive, predator smile. If you see a man smile like that, RUN.

  • @FireSilver25
    @FireSilver25 Před 26 dny +6

    Yet if an 18 year old girl wanted to get sterilized, run for office, speak up in a meeting (or even attend a meeting), borrow his car, have an opinion, debate politics, or have ideas of her own these creeps would lose their minds! “She’s not mature enough!”
    Grown men have been perving on me since I was 12. I used to love hearing, “You’re so mature for your age!”
    When I was 19 a 49 year old creep latched onto me and love bombed, negged, and manipulated me for YEARS. And the people around me thought he was doing me some big favor! Even my parents! And if my now 48 year old self met him and his gross cronies back then I’d be horrified at how they lived and avoid them like the plague! There’s something deeply wrong when anyone over 30 targets anyone under 25 IMO. 25 is the soonest one’s brain is fully developed.
    At least this creep got outed.

    • @GiggleStin
      @GiggleStin Před 26 dny

      Just say you’re mad that you’re no longer sexually valued by men

    • @Marcus.kc273
      @Marcus.kc273 Před 2 dny

      @@GiggleStinok I think it’s time for a hard drive check

  • @raveneskridge3143
    @raveneskridge3143 Před 2 měsíci +9

    i know this isn't the point but i have to say it, in the states 18 is not old enough to buy/smoke cigarettes legally.

    • @tamararoberson8060
      @tamararoberson8060 Před 2 měsíci

      It was 18 for the longest time. They only increased it to 21 in 2020.

  • @cwalker6911
    @cwalker6911 Před 2 měsíci +16

    This was wow. Love your commentary

  • @MrVrugdush
    @MrVrugdush Před 2 měsíci +8

    And this is why women choose the bear.

  • @ariadnavezuvian8458
    @ariadnavezuvian8458 Před 2 měsíci +7

    Dude could tell something like "Oh yeah, we perhaps would not have much in common but this the jam! I love to learn about new stuff" or even: "You would be surprised how much we have in common. Generational gap isn't that strong like we used to think".
    But he sounds like he just likes to duck young meat and actually prefers even younger but it's risky.

  • @Jamie-813
    @Jamie-813 Před 2 měsíci +9

    Honestly, he just sounds like a broken man who can't emotionally handle a mature woman his own age. That's called emotional immaturity folks and is something that can be worked on with a therapist.

  • @topperharley2593
    @topperharley2593 Před 2 měsíci +7

    That's gross. He's gross. They're gross.

  • @aellalee4767
    @aellalee4767 Před 2 měsíci +4

    I remember being 14 and being made fun of for being a virgin.
    Some girls were bragging about the 20 to 30yr old men they were dating.
    I told them they'd look back and feel very different. They laughed at me and told me I was just immature. 😐

  • @Axqu7227
    @Axqu7227 Před 2 měsíci +19

    My husband is 10 years older than me but the difference is that we met when I was 24 and had some actual life experience to speak of. The older the younger of the pair is when they first meet, the less the age gap matters. A 30yo and a 50yo is odd, but the 30yo is a full grown adult with their own life experience

    • @Nakia11798
      @Nakia11798 Před 2 měsíci +5

      10 years is fine when you're 24. Dude is talking a whole 25 year gap. She could straight be his daughter, plus she's barely an adult 🤢

  • @jenelle5331
    @jenelle5331 Před měsícem +5

    There's always a few 18 year old in the comments frustrated at feeling infantalized, and I get it. I promise, men like that guy are interested in women as young as legally possible because they're bad at both sex and relationships and they think of you're young enough they can get away with that because you won't know better.
    That's the appeal for them.
    And in a lot of ways, they're right. It takes time and experience to recognize some shit before it gets it's claws sunk into you.
    You're not a kid. You're just way to good for a man chasing young women (or a woman chasing young men, or any very large age gap). Most of us know because we've been through it.

  • @TempesteORileyTempe
    @TempesteORileyTempe Před 2 měsíci +28

    My grandparents had a 13 yr age diff, but my grandmother was 27 when they met! Not 18. She had a degree, lived on her own, worked, etc (even back then, lol). I don't have an issue with age gap, unless it is like this guy where it is predatory and the younger is obviously to inexperienced in life to make real decisions about the relationship. 🚩🚫

  • @electron-Volt
    @electron-Volt Před 2 měsíci +9

    a bear would never

  • @HellsArchangel
    @HellsArchangel Před 2 měsíci +5

    I’m 23 and I wouldn’t even date an 18 year old. Not because of the legality, but because I don’t get along with or have much of anything in common (generally) with someone 5 years younger than me. I have one or two friends at around 18-19 and I don’t really see them much. Age gaps may be negligible when you’re older, but when you’re younger it makes all the difference. I am not anywhere near the same person I was two years ago, let alone five years ago.

  • @quinnholleman1547
    @quinnholleman1547 Před 2 měsíci +74

    This is disgusting. It doesn't matter what is "legal", 18-year olds aren't mature and are still developing mentally and sometimes physically and are in many ways more similar to children than adults. He could have a child older than 18 and he doesn't care. If you have the idea that if it's legal it's ok, you're not mature, you're not an adult, you're a grown-up child who only understands basic cause-and-effect and never advanced to morality and ethics. Thank goodness this guy is single because he should not be allowed to have and raise children.

    • @LilFeralGangrel
      @LilFeralGangrel Před 2 měsíci +12

      nah the issue is lack of experience, people at that age straight up don't know what warning signs look like which is why he's going after 18 year old girls. he wants to take advantage of their naivete.

    • @quinnholleman1547
      @quinnholleman1547 Před 2 měsíci +6

      @@LilFeralGangrel That's part of my point. They don't have the life experience or mental development to recognize danger

    • @aaronpolichar7936
      @aaronpolichar7936 Před 2 měsíci +1

      So, does that mean that 18-year-olds shouldn't date younger adults either, given their lack of development and maturity?

    • @quinnholleman1547
      @quinnholleman1547 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@aaronpolichar7936 No, that wasn't my point. If they're at similar developmental levels, that's fine and can be healthy by helping them gain that life experience and maturity and understanding what they want out of a relationship. Heck, my grandparents got married when my grandmother was 16 and my grandfather was 18 and they absolutely loved each other and had a great marriage for nearly 62 years until my grandfather passed away.

    • @aaronpolichar7936
      @aaronpolichar7936 Před 2 měsíci

      @@quinnholleman1547 I guess I don't understand why it's okay for a young person to have a relationship with someone of a similar age but not someone older. I mean, for most people, it probably wouldn't work out well, but people are individuals with individual circumstances. And if the older person is immature for their age, how is that necessarily worse than a mature young person? I suppose, in the long term, it might not work out. But not everyone is looking for a relationship to last the rest of their life.

  • @michalovesanime
    @michalovesanime Před 2 měsíci +7

    at 18 she cant rent a car or drink strong alcohol either, so he wont be able to take her to a lot of clubs..🙃 Gross... Just gross..
    A lot of men ( and women honestly, everyone can get it) have this mindset. The amount of grown men who hit on me became lower and lower the more adult I became. I still get attention but nowhere near how bad it was between 12 and 19... That says a lot..and Ive heard similar stories from other women

    • @jamessmith4287
      @jamessmith4287 Před 2 měsíci +1

      You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults 18 and 19 still jumping inside a bounce house sometimes is okay too ..

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 Před 12 dny

      He would lie about her age

  • @ob2kenobi388
    @ob2kenobi388 Před měsícem +3

    That's like asking someone "What would you do for $100?" and they say "Well I wouldn't murder someone!"

  • @briana14333
    @briana14333 Před 2 měsíci +6

    I really wish I hadn’t seen that “smile.”

  • @jesswhycamarz
    @jesswhycamarz Před 22 dny +4

    Age-gap relationships create kids who become adults who don't see the problem with age-gap relationships. My old coworker was 20 and I was 33. She romanticized her parent's relationship, in which her 17-year-old mother was courted by her then 45-year-old father, who'd been dead for many years. It wasn't enjoyable to hear about and only worsened when she detailed their relationship. Anyway, I was complaining about the dating pool on the apps and she asked me what my age range was set to. I said ages 30-40 and she said "You should lower it to 19 or 20!" It took everything in me to contain the rage I felt from what seemed like encouragement to be a predator. Thinking about the damage she might cause as she continues into adulthood gives me the chills. Sure, giant age gaps can "work" for some couples, but don't forget that we don't know what the younger partner has accepted as the norm because they are in relationships with people who could easily manipulate them. If a person is under 25, leave them alone. Let their brains develop. Allow them to become fully formed individuals before you come in to mold them. ugh.

  • @Oncehermes
    @Oncehermes Před 2 měsíci +3

    People in their 40's trying to date literal teenagers will never not be creepy to me no matter how legal it is.
    I just don't understand why anyone above the age of 30 needs to be fuckin around with highschoolers.

  • @nightowl9236
    @nightowl9236 Před 2 měsíci +3

    The number of men that'd defend every Leonardo DiCaprio meme like a maniac, regurgitation the same "what's the problem, it's legal, every man wants it, he can actually get it, she's an adult, sure she had something to gain from him" is saddening to say the least.

  • @danifalko8656
    @danifalko8656 Před 2 měsíci +8

    so gross. Like. I cannot cringe more.

  • @minimomma1
    @minimomma1 Před 2 měsíci +10

    Thanks. I usually love your videos but I hate that you reminded me of these creeps.

  • @MsGenXodus
    @MsGenXodus Před 2 měsíci +3

    No way he’s dated a college student at his age. Dude has no idea what the reality of dating a woman 20 years younger is like.
    Guaranteed he would regret it. She might have a youthful body but he doesn’t. He’s going to need to retire just to have enough energy to keep up with her!

  • @pinkpunther
    @pinkpunther Před 2 měsíci +7

    I don't know about other parts of the country, but where I'm from you have to be 21 to buy tobacco products

    • @tamararoberson8060
      @tamararoberson8060 Před 2 měsíci +2

      It used to be 18 in the US but they changed it federally to 21 in 2020. This could be old or he might not know they increased it.

  • @magic13christispage
    @magic13christispage Před měsícem

    Thank you for this video, especially in such times. Take care.

  • @mkay0630
    @mkay0630 Před 2 měsíci +4

    "The only thing worse than your answer was your smile." You verbalized everything I was feeling after this grown man said he'd get with a girl either still in highschool or just graduated.